Jesse James: I think I wanted to get caught


Nightline is releasing segments of their Jesse James interview in drips and drabs and they’re surely getting plenty of press for it. On Friday we saw a preview of widdle Jessie admitting he cheated, then crying and walking off set. Today we’re hearing more from the 41 year-old motorcycle mogul, including the tidbit that he feels that he was self sabotaging his great life by banging strippers (not his exact terminology) and that he still loves and cares about the wife he so publicly wronged, Sandra Bullock.

Jesse James says he knew Sandra Bullock would catch him cheating sooner or later – and that he wanted to be caught, because deceiving her sickened him.

“When I was doing it, you know, one, I knew it was horrible, it made me feel horrible,” James tells ABC’s Nightline in an interview airing Tuesday. “And two, I knew I would get caught eventually, and I think I wanted to get caught. … It was me trying to self-sabotage my life.”

Asked why he’d hurt someone who was – and he says still is – the most important person in his life, James is at a loss for words. “It’s hard for me to talk about, a little bit, because I still really love her and care about her,” he says.

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But the West Coast Choppers owner, 41, is under no illusions about the level of that hurt. “I’ve spent my whole life with the kids and with her trying to … protect her from everything, but the most hurt she’s ever been caused is by the person that wanted to protect her,” he says.

In an earlier promo for the show, James admits: “I took a pretty amazing life and marriage … and threw it away.”

Allegations of James’s infidelity emerged shortly after Bullock, 45, won an Oscar for her leading role in The Blind Side in March.

In the Nightline interview, James will also address whether Bullock knew anything about his affairs, what he really went to rehab for, and what role – if any – will he play in the life of Bullock’s adopted son, Louis.

[From People]

I asked my friend Eyes for Lies to view this video and comment on it. She runs the blog Eyes for Lies and is a certified truth expert like the experts portrayed on Lie to Me. She wrote “I get the distinct feeling watching that interview that he wanted out of the marriage in the worst way and he sabotaged it on purpose! He admits to wanting to get caught. Did he love himself more than Sandra? The evidence seems to say so.” A lot of men do that and don’t have the balls to admit the truth even after they’re caught. Instead they beg their wives to take them back and then blame them for not giving them a chance when they’re the ones who ruined their marriages in the first place.

This is somewhat prejudiced of me, but James’ California drawl makes him sound a bit dull. On someone else I would interpret it as laid back, but he seems slow to me and I find his voice annoying. He’s all “I hurt her,” “I think I wanted to get caught,” but all I hear is a guy who is going through the motions. Maybe he’s all broken up about it, but I just get the impression that he’s proud of what he did. I could be wrong, but it’s like he’s bragging that he took down America’s Sweetheart and not like he’s apologizing. The good news is that Nightline’s Vicki Mabrey says that the divorce is 100% moving forward. She adds that James told her the public was harder on him than Sandy [has been], though. Poor, misunderstood Jesse.

Update: I worded that second to last paragraph vaguely, and a lot of you are commenting that Jesse is surprised that the public was harder on him than they were on Sandra. I’m sorry for writing it that way, I meant that “James told [interviewer Vicki Mabrey] that the public was harder on him than Sandra has been.” Meaning that Sandra didn’t give him as much grief for cheating on her as we did.

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  1. Praise St. Angie! says:

    Hey, Celebitchy…what does your Eyes for Lies friend have to say about Ms. Lohan’s interview where she denies everything and wonders why she needs rehab?

    did she see it and/or say anything about it? inquiring minds want to know!!!

  2. Abby says:

    He is SO not remorseful. Sickening.

  3. gg says:

    I really, really hate his poindexter voice too. yicccchhhhh …

  4. Maritza says:

    He’s trying to win public sympathy by saying yes I did wrong. It’s hurting him more where it hurts the most… in his pocket. Jessie should date women his own kind like the ones from LA Ink or the porn stars he is used to. I hope Sandra finds a good man who will love her and her son above anything else.

  5. gg says:

    He really doesn’t explain why he did it – but we all know it’s only because of his ego and the fact that he prefers skank tattooed strippers to a cleaner kind of woman. Maybe he was bored sexually. NO excuse, but he really hasn’t answered for himself.

    Also, Sandy has probably given him less grief than the public because she probably still loves him (and hates what he did a lot), and is just speechless because, hell, what do you say when somebody you’re supposedly so close to, that you cried onstage on numerous occasions thanking for their straight up love, would do such an opposite act of complete disregard.

    Answer: THA WEENIE MADE HIM DO IT. Just like Tiger.

  6. Joseph says:

    The guy got caught and NOW he wants to set the record straight. Funny.

  7. rkintn says:

    He’s still a douche. I think he’s trying to deflect some of the public hatred and he’s only making it worse. He needs to STFU and just move on.

  8. Visitor says:

    I don’t know. I do think that he is truly sorry. I like this better then someone cheating and pretending it never happened or that they are not sorry. Some men and women really struggle with being faithful – they should not marry but unfortunately they do. After all it is not like he committed murder or something. I do believe however that Jesse and Sandra adopted this child together and this child needs both of them in his life. The child does have a father and the two of them need to work this out. Children need the love and support of both parents. It really is wrong when something goes wrong in a marriage that suddenly one party decides that the child is no longer the other ones. If this had been a birth baby of both of them Jesse would get rights and it should be the same with an adopted baby.

  9. Pleister says:

    What a douchebag.
    He’ll be (or already is) very sorry he lost Sandra over this piece of shit he pulled with those other women.

  10. Sumodo1 says:

    If he were truly serious, he would have done this privately, as soon as he knew it was going to be leaked and would have made his pleas in private to Sandra.

    He’s cooked his own goose.

  11. dre says:

    Please God, make me as perfect as all these people that have responded or will be responding negative to Jesse James.
    YOU have taught me that none of us are perfect and we all deserve forgiveness and respect. What is life without second chances for those who ask for forgiveness?
    Shame on all of you. You dont know these people so stop acting as though you do. This is their life. All of you praising Sandra….maybe she doesnt want to get back together with him, but maybe it stil hurts her to read the things you all say about him.

  12. TG says:

    Kaiser – I think you are right on the money. He probably knew he was going to look bad preferring skanky women to Classy Sandy, but some men are just lower class like that and he should have just accepted it a long time ago. Sandy probably wishes this barnyard creature would just go away. Lucky Louis doesn’t have to look at this nasty excuse of a man as his father. That baby doesn’t know how lucky he managed to escape. Poor Sunny is tied to two losers for the next 12 years or so.

  13. Oenix says:

    He cheated again and again and again AND AGAIN because he wanted to get caught? AT the very best, this “revelation” says he is a ball-less COWARD who didn’t have the guts and courage to openly discuss his concerns with – chuckle – the person he loved the most. His kind of love Miss Bullock can do without!!! Keep moving Sandra, and don’t look back, you’re heading in the righ direction.

  14. gg says:

    Shame on you, dre, for shaming people on a gossip site. What are you doing here – does it make you feel superior shooting fish in a barrel?

    If you never learn what “bad behavior” is in a marriage, you will continue to get screwed around on. Do you condone people not learning their lesson when evil is present?

  15. Crash2GO2 says:

    I have not read a single post here that has anything to do with ‘his side of the story’. I’m simply not interested, and I can’t imagine why anyone else would be either.

  16. Si says:

    ok…i got to about a minute and a half in and had to sto[ it.
    I actually want to slap him!
    They shouldn’t have replayed all those moments she spoke about him at the start, its mean.
    I think she’d like to forget she ever said those things.

  17. TaylorB says:

    I suspect Sandra had a case of ‘the assholes’, many of us have suffered that ailment; we meet a ‘bad boy’ aka ‘asshole’ and think that our love can reform them… been there, done that, and in the end they usually remain assholes. I am non-violent in general, but that is one dude I would like to punch in the nuts.

  18. Whatever says:

    The public was harder on him than Sandy?? Of course we are because he is a lying cheating sack of crap and she is not. Duh, Jesse.

  19. Jeri says:

    On top of all the other crap, he has reduced her Oscar win to primarily a time line, as in: “she won the Oscar just before his cheating came out.”

    Way to reduce her career hi-point into a side issue of his cheating.

  20. onyx says:

    oh, I bet it felt so HORRIBLE when he banged all these skanks in his own home and bed. In fact, he is such a masochist that he needed to experience it over and over and over, to get the full effect.

  21. Team Bethenny says:

    His voice makes my knees slam shut.

  22. TG says:

    @dre – Parents don’t get second chances. He should have been thinking about how beneficial it is for Sunny and even his other daughter to have Sandy in their life. What a loser. Thank goodness baby Louis doesn’t have to put up with this loser for a father.

  23. womanfromthenorth says:

    Why do men think with their little heads? Really I want to know….

    This Man will get no love from me or the rest of the world(I hope). You suck Jesse, Tiger and the rest of you *ickheads.

    If anything your CHILDREN should be the only thing you think about! You suck as a Fathers as well as a Husbands.

  24. Deb says:

    “His voice makes my knees slam shut.”

    Ha Ha Ha….I love it!

  25. Kelaa Khaa says:

    I think JJ’s new nickname should be Mr. Dribbles.

  26. DD says:

    Your friend from eyes for lies sounds bang on. He doesn’t want to seem like a complete villain, so he is seeking sympathy by publicly proclaiming his love and newly found devotion to his wronged wife. He knows she could never take him back, but at least the public will think he tried to right his wrong and he will feel like less of a jerk.

  27. jc126 says:

    More like he was using her all the time for her higher star power and bigger wallet.
    I agree that SOME people “want to get caught” because they don’t have the nerve to leave, but I doubt this was the case here.

  28. Melinda says:

    Perfectly said TaylorB.

  29. Missfit says:

    Wow, he really needs to stop talking… and the skank he cheated with, they need to stop doing all this media crap, to TRY to make people feel sorry for them, cause it’s not gonna happen. If he really was remorseful, he’d lay low and try to talk to Sandra personally. Then again, she probably doesn’t want to hear it either, so…I can’t say I’d blame her, so he trys the interview crap route. I’m sure Sandra roles her eyes at this crap, because what she found out of how many times he cheated, with how many women, that’s enough as it is and speaks on it’s own. People or guys in his situation don’t change and the adopted baby won’t change his cheating ass either. He already has how many kids? Like two or three…so…if those kids haven’t changed him or his ways, then this new child will NOT change him and neither will anyone else change him for that matter. The reason he doesn’t deserve a second chance is because he’s done this shit before, being with Sandra and before that, and PLENTY of times…her taking him back will not change him for shit.

  30. PJ says:

    Celebitchy’s expert sounds right on the money. JJ might have wanted out of the marriage, and so he deliberately did something unforgivable. It’s almost like he regrets that Sandy got hurt, but not that they’re splitting up.

    We all assume that Sandy’s the most desirable woman on the planet, but he seems to prefer bad girls with lots of tattoos. As an egoist, maybe he was getting tired of going to award shows and hearing people sing her praises, while he sat on the sidelines as Mr. Bullock. But now he certainly has everyone’s attention, and he seems to like it.

    One thing is for sure, JJ is extremely self-centered. He’s quick to say that he hurt Sandra “more than she’s ever been hurt in her life,” and remind us that he’s not just the most hated man in America, but the most hated man in the world. It’s all about him!

  31. stanhope says:

    Douchebag is too good a term for him. Quite simply he’s a turd. I never thought much of Sandra Bullock but she didn’t deserve this. Let’s face it, he wanted to get caught, he wanted out, and Sandra was too nice a girl to do anal.

  32. bizzy says:

    GAH. if he wanted out of the marriage, he could have, y’know, communicated that to sandra by saying something like, “this isn’t working for me, i want out of this marriage”. instead of trying to semaphore the message to her with his d**k stuck up some girl tattooed to look like a kkk granny quilt.

  33. Aussie Mama says:

    I believe;
    1; She knew, or at least suspected.

    2; He wanted to be sprung. Self sabotage is something people unbeknowingly do, when they don’t feel they deserve to have what they have. Stems from very low self esteem.

    3; She will take him back. They will get back together and be better than ever. Don’t judge, when it happens, let them be. He will be the man of her dreams, the only way for that to happen, is for them to go through this, otherwise the deep issues would never have surfaced nor been resolved once and for all.

    Good people do bad things sometimes. That’s life people. Forgiveness is something only a big person can do.
    Goodluck to them both x

  34. Aussie Mama says:

    jc126; Jesse James is worth a hell of a lot more money than Sandra. It’s not about money, he had fame and chics and $$$ way before she came along.
    Also Sandra has said she feels very guilty. Goes to know none of us know shit. So leave them alone. If they do get back together, what a huge sacrifice for the kiddies, there would most certainly be no losers there.
    Just saying.

  35. Oh Boo-hoo. He’s just trying to revive his career; running around with skanks is proof he didn’t care about Sandra. I mean, Spike TV canceled his TV show. How dirty do you have to be when Spike cancels you?

  36. bellaluna says:

    Well, he did a bang-up job of choosing women he’d get caught with, so “spot on, Jesse,” I guess?

    He needs to STFU and disappear. And take his nasty skanks with him.

  37. Lauren says:

    I think Jesse is jealous of Sandy, and was tired of being Mr. Bullock…he can’t relate to a woman so successful & well-liked. Sandy was always praising him publicly to convince the world he was worthy of her. What a sad mess.

  38. Kimi says:

    What a weener! His voice is so chipmunk like. You cheated because you wanted to be bad, wannabee bad boy from the trailer park, everything was too good, so you rebelled against the person and people you loved the most. Its called ‘Peter Pan syndrome’, never want to grow up and most guys have it. When life is settled with a beautiful woman, excellent careers, beautiful possesions and lots of money, people arn’t satisfied, so they go out and do stupid things, to try to feel ‘alive’. Then when they get caught out there, they realise what they did and can’t even believe it themselves. Why don’t u go volunteer at a burns unit at a hospital or donate money to saving starving children around the world to feel ‘alive’ instead of trying to get ur penis wet!

  39. Jo says:

    Yes!! Everyone on here reflects my position !! Thank You !! You have all said it so well… I just want to add…He just wanted to get caught????? :Yeah right… I pray she moves on without this looser.. He is a complete narcisist.. and needs to just slink back in the hole he has always been in!! “Self Sabotage” horse shit!! He is using BS that he learned in what? 2 weeks in sex rehab? What inexcusable conduct.. it sickens me.. Sometime you can not heal the human heart and character flaws normally do not change at this age.. It’s about doing what is right no matter what!! It should be over…

  40. Confuzzle says:

    Sounds like someone needs the waaaaahmbulance

  41. canadianchick says:

    @bizzy bahahaha, witty comment, “kkk granny quilt*.

    He is totally the female version of Bombwhore McGonorrhea, a famewhore wannabe narcissist/racist. Sandy and Louis are lucky to be free of him. I feel sorry for Sunny and his other kids.

  42. Siren6 says:

    I… I… I… I… I…

    *I* am tired of hearing Jesse talk about himself, how hard it is for him, his impressively escalating status as most hated man in the universe… I… I… I. What he’s doing here is still all about him and and if I were Sandy this disgusting display of narcissism would just make it that much easier to walk away and not look back. I’m sure he’ll see it as a kindness he extended to her.

  43. Feebee says:

    Firstly, what the hell’s up with his voice? I think he and Ryan Phillipe needs to swap voices.

    Secondly, he thinks the public’s been harder on him than Sandra… what planet is he on? Why would the public be harder on Sandra, the loving wife who got cheated on than the cheating husband who screwed a little troll?

  44. Diva says:

    His voice has always been “dumb kid” sounding. Well before Bullock came along we watched him on Monster Garage and I thought he was hot until he opened his mouth.

    Why do people keep spelling his name “Jessie” when the name Jesse James has been a part of history for, like, a century!!???!??! Sorry, just a pet peeve.

  45. Aspen says:

    He wanted to get caught? Um. If you have guilt about bad behavior…don’t wait until you get caught. Just…you know…STOP IT!!!

    God, what the hell is wrong with people and all their psycho-babble bullsh**?

    What an immature, unrepentant, self-centered douchebag.

  46. fuckingidiot says:

    Interesting perspective.. I just feel bad for her because it’s the worst feeling when you’re happy in a relationship and yet you’re not good enough (really just not the right person) for your partner. Horrible feeling of rejection, ugh.

  47. Wresa says:

    Wow, he seems really disingenuous. And I agree about the voice, it sounds like it belongs to a gymnast, not a big pig like him.

  48. gen says:

    After seeing him on the Apprentice I really really liked him. Now I just look at him as one more cheating douche in a long line of them. Too bad he ruined his life.

  49. Chico says:

    This guy is a poseur. I’m from SoCal and these guys are a dime a dozen. The wanna-be tough, biker guys who try to overcompensate. If you were really tough, you wouldn’t need to make a SHOW of being tough.

    I bet the real reason why he cheated on Sandra was they had a falling out. So, he decided to publically humiliate her because his big ego was hurt that she is and will always be better than him. The women he slept with were not classy, so he felt superior over them–something he could never feel with Sandra. Big egos need a stroking . . .

    The only question here is why did these two ever get together? I’m thinking she thought he was cool and interesting, while he thought she was unlike all the user skanks he’s dated and he could be famous by proxy. I feel sorry for her, but she should’ve known better than to date this one. Let’s all hope she’s learned something here 😉

  50. Ana says:

    He wanted it all-the beautiful, classy, smart, woman to have a family with and to take care of his children.

    AND the nasty skank wh0res to screw whenever he wanted.

    Sadly, a lot of guys are like that. I think he wanted out of the marriage and couldn’t be a man. Deep down he knew he didn’t deserve her. And he was right, she deserved better.

  51. teehee says:

    I like Eyes For Lies’ take ont his– very true and very common. People- not just men or husbands- often will not have the character to face their own truth and will construe events such that blame or shame falls on others somehow…. they hide form others, they hide from themselves. Even if ti isnt the best truth to face, at least handle it honestly and nobly, and act with others’ interest to the extent that you still can. Then you will still be respected by not just- or if not –others, but then at least by yourself.

  52. ViktoryGin says:

    @bizzy

    It should be that simple, right? Unfortunately, quite a few men legitimately don’t have the emotional and spiritual fortitude to be earnest about their feelings. So, they cowardly use manipulative means to wreck a situation, so that they don’t have to honestly confront their issues in an healthy manner. No disrespect to men, but I’ve seen it repeatedly.

    Okay, now that I’m over the initial anger of this situation, I’m going to drop the ball. I don’t think that he is a “bad” man. What he is is emotionally stunted, egocentric, addictive, damaged, and someone who ironically has issues with inadequacy. I think that in Sandra he saw a chance for growth and stability, a departure from the obviously lack of sustainability in his previous relationships and lifestyle. He doesn’t, however, possess the spiritual maturity to responsibly be in a relationship with some like Sandra, who is seemingly well-adjusted. In short, he saw an opportunity, took it, and fucked it up. Anyway, Just my opinion.

    @ dre,

    Why do feel the need to venture on here waving your moral staff at us obvious ethical “Philistines”? Because a celebrity gossip blog is the obvious stage for a lesson in etiquette :/ Consider the context. You chastise us, but it is YOUR arrogance that is showing. Perhaps your proseltyzing would be of better use elsewhere.

  53. Lilias says:

    I agree with most everyone else: he just wanted out of the marriage but wasn’t man enough to just say so. He is truly a pathetic boy.

    Diva: The “Jessie” thing bothers me too mostly because Jessie is traditionally a girl’s name, short for Jessica. And Jesse James is an extremely popular cultural figure.

    Another little thing that bugs me that I just have to get off my chest but has nothing to do with this post or any of the site’s writers: people who misspell words with the “ee” or “ea” sound in them.

    Peach spelled “peech”. Speech spelled “speach”. Heels spelled “heals” (when they mean shoes). Sleazy spelled “sleezy”. Repeal spelled “repeel”.

    It’s bizarre. People, if you can’t spell well (oh, rhyming) rely on your spellchecker. There is nothing quite worse than reading the correspondence of a supposedly intelligent colleague and come across “speach”.

  54. Jag says:

    Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you have to keep the loser around for kicks, and second chances are only for those who truly warrant them. He’s not sorry he hurt Sandra; he’s sorry that he got caught. Anyone that would endanger the life of their spouse by cheating, having unprotected sex with another person – or worse, many of them! – doesn’t warrant a second chance, IMO.

  55. Lilias says:

    Oh, and dre: You don’t have to be perfect to know that cheating on your spouse is dead wrong and to never do it yourself. I can judge people for doing it because I’ve never done it and never will.

  56. shelby says:

    hes an ugly creep anyway, what was she thinking ……. i know she loved him, but hell she can do better than that!

  57. Lita says:

    Indeed there is a time & place for being absolute, uncompromising and judgmental. It’s called a gossip blog ;o)

  58. crab says:

    @ Visitor, he did commit a murder! A murder of their marriage!

  59. oxa says:

    He is full of shit, he has spent his entire life doing what jesse wanted, 3 marriages, muliple mistress’s and sezual harrasment suits all show how much he protects his kids & those he loves.

  60. ogechi says:

    @visitor: Remain blessed. U spoke exactly what I keep on harping on.

    It is their marriage not ours, Yes Sandra is a Hollywood actress, SO? That does not give us the right to cry more than the bereaved. I always tell people to go home and amend their own loads of problems instead of disturbing themselves with others. I honestly cant fathom how people over-mind other people’s biz. REMOVE THE SPECK IN YOUR EYES BEFORE YOU REMOVE OTHERS.

  61. gg says:

    ViktoryGin, you are very astute and make very good sense. I agree.

    I also love Orwell. 🙂

  62. Jeri says:

    Lisa – You’re the spellchecker. Don’t need the computer one w/you around.

  63. Ruffian9 says:

    dre: stick with talking to God

  64. b626 says:

    Sandy was sure handy to have around when he was fighting that custody battle wasn’t she?
    Now she’s LONG gone and he’s going to have to go back to court against EX wife 2, again.
    You can bet I don’t wish him all the luck in the world on this one!!

  65. dora says:

    seriously now… he looks autistic/schizo/narcissistic… it’s like he is retarded in an evil sort of way… like a five year old in an adult body. creepy??! anyone here agree with me??

  66. Miss says:

    for all the people who want to comment on jesse james and say he’s an “unremorseful douchebag” i bet NONE of you have actually first hand witnessed being a kid of a father who cheated on their mother. he genuinely looks sorry and cut that he fucked up. sandra will be the one whos feeling the most hurt (and will be for a long time) but even the public is giving him a harder time than sandra is. and your friend for Eyes for Lies? certified truth expert? pfft.