The National Enquirer is reporting in a cover story this week that Sandra Bullock is considering reconciling with her serial cheating estranged husband, Jesse James. The good news is that she’s already filed for divorce, but if the Enquirer’s report is accurate Sandra bought Jesse’s probably fake child abuse story and hollow apology on Nightline and is willing to give him another chance. If this is true, I wouldn’t be surprised and I wouldn’t bash her for it, either. Women often return to their cheating and/or abusive husbands hoping they’ll change and be an exception to the almost universal rule. They see the good parts of the men they loved and have a hard time coming to terms with the reality of what their men have done and who they really are.
Here’s what The Enquirer says about it:
“For now, she’s stalling on the divorce,” revealed on friend. “I think she has forgiven Jesse and she is missing the life they built together, particularly now that she has Louis.
“Sandra must be tired of carrying the burden of what happened and probably realizes that she could free herself by forgiving Jesse. I think holding on to the pain by not forgiving him was getting to be too much of a strain on her…”
New mom Sandra was “very moved” by [Jesse’s Nightline] interview, divulged a source. “Seeing him so earnest and vulnerable really touched her heart…”
“She’s wrestled with the idea that family life is never going to be as good if they aren’t together,” disclosed the source. “Sandra was incredibly upset that the plans she and Jesse made to raise Louis were turned upside down.
“The truth is she can’t stop thinking about a future when all of them could be one big happy family again.
“Sandra has put the divorce on hold for the time being, but Jesse knows she could have a change of heart and reverse her decision at any moment.”
[From The National Enquirer, print edition, June 28, 2010]
By keeping little Louis a secret for months in the midst of the biggest celebrity scandal this year, Sandra proved that the people in her inner circle aren’t selling her out to the tabloids. This article in The Enquirer could be based on information from Jesse’s ex wife, Janine Lindemulder, who routinely talks to the press and told both Radar Online and In Touch earlier this month that James was working to weasel his way back into Sandra’s heart. We can only hope that this story is either speculative or based on false information from Janine, who is trying to get to Jesse to keep the upper hand in their custody battle. Whatever Janine is doing, it’s not working. We heard last week that Jesse was on board with granting visitation rights for Janine for their six year-old daughter, Sunny. This week he’s claiming that she can’t be trusted alone with Sunny. TMZ reports that his lawyer will go to court today “armed with evidence that his ex-wife Janine Lindemulder is a hard-core drug addict and cannot be trusted with unmonitored visitation.” So is this payback for Janine talking to the press or does Jesse have a legitimate beef with her? She claims to be sober and says she hopes to gain 50/50 custody.
Oh FFS.
I personally believe the story, and not because the Enquirer said so but because the divorce is not final. If there was a prenup and Jesse was not trying to fight for changes to it the divorce would be a simple quick one and it would all be final now. I think that her lawyers could have probably sped this divorce through within a couple of months. The delay seems to be that she doesn’t really want it yet.
Also, if she was a single women on her own I would not be at all critical of her failure to finish this but she has a small child now. This guy obviously has some major issues. Its not just the cheating but his choice of women. Lets not forget that he didn’t just cheat on her with trash, he proudly married a porn star/drug addict and then after all that happened he went to court and asked for the drug addict to have visitation with his child even though she is obviously still exhibiting erratic behaviour.
She loves him that’s why it’s easier for her to forgive him. I hope he learned his lesson… he should know by now that any woman he tries to date would sell their story to the highest bidder. This time he better stay loyal to Sandra or else!
Forgiving someone is done ultimately for ourselves. Whether you look at it from a religious or humanist perspective. We forgive others because we need to release the hurt and anger in ourselves and move on with our lives.
Just because she has forgiven him doesn’t mean she is ready to take him back. But of course she may be weighing that possibility.
please do not get back together with this man….he has not changed, they do not change and the next time he does this to her (if they get back together) will be worse than this time around because she believed he would be different. HE HAS NOT CHANGED. People like Jesse James are master manipulators. I only hope that her good friends and family get her to see this because Sandra Bullock does deserve better. Sadly, she will probably go back because that is what happens when you love someone. We do not want to believe they are actually the person that they are, and that is the trap.
I don’t believe it, mainly because the people closest to her, those who would know, are NOT going to sell her out to the NE.
Like nycmom said, I hope she can forgive him for HERSELF, so she’s not holding that grudge forever, but that doesn’t mean she has to get back together with him. I honestly don’t know how she could, and seriously doubt that she ever will.
She filed 4/23, and there’s a minimum 60 day wait in TX, so it couldn’t possibly be finalized yet. Give it another week or two and let’s see what happens.
noooooooo sandy. stick a pen in your eye or something, it’ll be the same pain and you won’t catch an std from it.
I get a real “open marriage” feeling about these two. I think the problem arose when Boobslut McGee blabbed to the press, not the infidelity itself.
The headline we were dreading… it’s from the NE so it can be taken with a grain of salt, however they’ve been occasionally right before.
If she can live with it and the possibility of it happening again, it’s her decision and her life.
Well then, I have lost all respect for her if the story is true.
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
you can say you are sorry, but can’t take back an STD.
god no….this can’t be true
I hope this isn’t true. I have forgiven a man for cheating, but it is so difficult to move past the situation.. I just don’t see that working especially with the industry they’re in and stuff. They would have to leave hollywood and step away from all the craziness for a reconciliation to slightly become successful. Jesse didn’t cheat on her once, and he didn’t hide it — he was blatant and was with multiple partners.
I just don’t see this working out, but best of luck to her.
As Kaiser said, Sandy’s friends kept Louis a secret since her and Vanilla Gorilla received the call about Louis near Christmas. There’s no way that these same people would sell her out…I call bullsh*t.
However, I do give props to VG for wearing the most appropriate t-shirt ever. Only he doesn’t have any brains to do what he did to Sandy.
Ya, we did not see this coming. NOT!
Janine is just disgusting. Not because she was in porn, but because she just such a media whore who could care less about her own daughter.
Oh I hope that’s not true. There are better men out there!
This story is rubbish. Mark my words.
Ditto Melanie. Sandra definitely knew about his behaviour/racism&all..
Wake up! A cheating husband isn’t necessarily an abuser. And, there are COUNTLESS women who get back to their cheating husbands.
please say this isn’t so!!!
I hope you’re right Annie. IF this is true and she does get back with him, he will screw it up again. Abusers and cheaters always do.
“Loving” someone is not a reason to be with them if they are abusers or cheaters. I’ve seen good women do really stupid things just because they “love” their junkie, cheating, abusive ex. Women get sucked in every day because of this fallacy. You got to wise up and do what is best for YOU in the long run. YOU are the only one that can do this so don’t be led astray by manipulators.
If this is true and she forgives him, I’ll bet it has more to do with Jesse’s children, particularly Sunny that she wants back in her life. She was a stable role model for them and I bet they are missing each other like crazy.
I agree with Melanie. I sort of get that vibe, from the way this was handled on both sides; Sandra seeming so happy and controlled so quickly after the incident, him being all”damn-I-got-caught_sorry,babe” instead of “nooooo,my-life-is-over”…Don’t know, but I truly get that sensation: that Sandra knew and was ok with it. After all, she knew what he was like when she married him, I won’t buy that she is that kind of “I’msoinloveIallofasuddenbecomesillyandblind” girl.
Sandra please don’t do it. You’re a role model to so many young girls and young women. By going back to such an openly disrespectful, cheating, lieing jerk you’ll be telling all these girls/women, “This is what you can expect from men, even when your a gorgeous, talented and sweet movie star and you just have to accept it.” That isn’t the message she should be sending. She should be sending a message of strenghth, independance, courage and the ability to heal, move on and be better for it.
Maybe we should stop looking to celebs for role models and teach young girls to think for themselves? Or model themselves after less self-involved members of society? People who actually devote their lives to a worthy cause other than having their faces on a movie screen? While I like Sandy, it really makes me cringe when people call her a “role model.”
I think she is making a big mistake if she gets back together w/this tool. He’s a serial cheater, sleeping with multiple creepy women. That’s just asking for more heartache and an STD. If she hasn’t learned . . . well, it’s her life.
I can’t imagine that she would want her black baby (or any possible kids in the future)to be raised by a guy with neo-Nazi sympathies. Until I see solid evidence to the contrary, I won’t believe it.
Rosanna, if cheating isn’t a form of abuse (psychological at the very least) then I don’t know what is! Wake up, indeed!
Let’s see…last week Jesse agrees to multiple visits between Sunny and Janine.
This week – he’s taking Janine back to court claiming she’s unfit.
And now, this story? Methinks he could have created a situation that’s prime for drawing Sandy back into his web. Baby,look what happened…we need you now more than ever…
You gotta admit, not too much flies out here in gossip land about Sandy that’s completely untrue…June 23 should be interesting.
May her God be with her…and all involved in the situation
Celebs are the last people we should look to for role models. Their lives are so screwed up. Not to say we regular folks dont have our problems but by the sounds of it anyone who works in the entertainment industry has to be a total mess to be successful. Drug,alcohol and sexual addictions are a prerequisite. Multiple divorces,birth of twins,multple baby adoptions from other countries,cheating on your spouse and constant denial of plastic surgery,botox and fillers are a must. Need I go on?
I appreciate your not bashing Sandy if this N.E. story turns out to be true, CB. However, I see that several posters have no problem bashing Sandy if she doesn’t just erase JJ from her life licketty-split! To that I say: Things seem so obvious to outsiders looking in, but until you’ve experienced such a painful situation first-hand, you are absolutley incapable of understanding it.
Until the person you love and TRUST (more than anyone you’ve ever known before) has allegedly betrayed you in the most egregious manner — which leaves you thinking to yourself that this just can’t be, that there has to be a reasonable explanation for this, and that you know your husband/partner and he would never do anything like that, ever, etc. — until you’ve been through such an experience with the love of your life — you simply cannot fathom how anyone could forgive and reconcile with such a partner.
It is horrible, and I do NOT envy Sandy if she is, indeed, going through such a struggle. These women go through such excruciating pain, their world/their reality is turned upside down and inside out, they feel isolated and not only are fearing for their life but also for their sanity . . . then to be shunned by your friends and loved ones — the icing on the cake!!
Don’t be cruel people. Do NOT totally SHUN such people when they need you more than ever. Take care of yourself & set limits – yes – but let the person know that you are there for them in some capacity.
Proper forgiveness isn’t given for selfish reasons; it’s given out of love for someone else, not self-love. I have forgiven my husband for some hurtful things, and my forgiving him doesn’t mean they no longer hurt when I think of them. It means I love him, I know he loves me, and he is truly sorry.
IF this turns out to be true, I hope forgiveness isn’t given for selfish reasons.
EDIT: @ Alexa – Beautifully stated, and I agree with you wholeheartedly.
@skibunny. Yes, god forbid people adopt multiple kids from other countries, or have twins. That’s just so screwed up!
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Why are celebrities role models exactly? Stupid
Now if I it was me he cheated on with those skanks…oh hell no would I take him back. & it would have more to do with the women he chose over him cheating. Except for Sandra he seems to have thee worst taste in women.
don’t get caught up in the hype, the enquirer posted this story
Come on people! Its a Hollywood marriage.
Lord knows what Sandy had to do to make it to the top many many years ago.
The Hollywood Rule of Marriage is: Just don’t embarass me. Jesse did.
I’m ashamed of him for crying. He’s got a reputation he built on being a tough man’s man.
And he cries and says he was abused?
Bikers should be ashamed of him – I know I am.
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Yes, god forbid people adopt multiple kids from other countries, or have twins. That’s just so screwed up!
I’m being very cynical in my comment. I’m not suggesting adoption or having twins is screwed up. Perhaps I never made myself clear.
Whatever!
GTFOH.
of course she is going to take him back. i didn’t need the Enquirer to tell me this — it’s as obvious as Hitler’s mustache. she knows what she married and she is totally compatible with it. never mind her PR and public persona and conveniently adopted black child. people can be so gullible it’s frightening.
I have been through a situation like this and seen my friends go through situations like this and I still say, if you don’t do what’s most healthy for YOURSELF, nobody will, especially the perp/abuser/philanderer. You have a responsibility to not get sucked in again by LIES and manipulation. Including tears and promises. Cheaters make the whole drama a fine art and it’s based on lies (not to mention getting STDs from tattoed bootlickers). Gross.
“oohhhh but I LOVE him so I let him move back home” ? Is Bull$hit. It all explodes a short while after you let em back in.
So I’m counting this story as false until I see proof that Sandra is that dumb.
Good to hear. Marriage is for better and for worst. Hope it works out well.
If they get back together I believe it will be one of the strongest reconciled marriages that Hollywood will ever see..
I wish them both the best of luck!