Yesterday, we heard about Olivia Wilde’s public statements regarding her marriage to Tao Ruspoli at an event in NYC a few nights ago. The event was call “These Girls” and it was sponsored by Glamour Mag – it was a series of monologues about being a woman, sex, relationships, etc. Olivia took part, and during her monologue, she said about her marriage to Tao, “I felt like my vagina died. Turned off. Lights out . . . you can lie to your relatives at Christmas dinner and tell them everything on the home front is just peachy. But you cannot lie to your vagina.” During her monologue, she also said she and Jason Sudeikis “have sex like Kenyan marathon runners.”
After her monologue, she told Vulture – a gossip/entertainment column in New York Magazine – that “Sometimes your vagina dies. Then you know it’s time to go. There’s no reason to sacrifice your womanhood and femininity for some sort of weird feeling of responsibility to something that may not be right. I feel like far too many women do that. [Men] are not allowed to be the only ones thinking with their genitals.” Do you see what happened there? She gave a monologue at a womanity event, fair enough. After her monologue, she talked to a member of the press. I’m just being specific, because Olivia is trying to back-track on her comments after they caused so much controversy. She tweeted:
I get what she’s saying with the part about the monologues “were not meant for publication, and, in context, were a celebration of LOVE, girls, and honesty.” I truly understand, and I think it would be interesting to hear all of it in context. BUT!! She was still performing at a pub, in public, with people around. Can you still claim privacy if you’re performing this super-personal (and somewhat bitchy) monologue in front of an audience?
But that’s not even the worst part, in my opinion. The worst part is “Sneaky recorders are everywhere these days, but performance art doesn’t always translate accurately to tabloid interpretation.” Really? Dear Olivia Cockburn: YOU SPOKE TO A MEDIA OUTLET. Don’t claim that it’s a matter of “sneaky recorders” or that all of the comments Vulture used were straight from your monologue. You actually spoke to a press outlet, and they quoted you. If the quotes were inaccurate, that’s a separate issue. But she’s not saying the quotes weren’t accurate, just that they were “sneakily recorded”. When she was talking to a media outlet. UGH. Ol’ Cockburn strikes again.
PS… You know what makes it worse? Her parents are journalists. For real. Certainly they would have taught her that when she speaks to a media outlet, the media outlet will report what she said?!
Photos courtesy of WENN.
Shouldn’t kiss & tell, Olivia, especially to the media.
I didn’t comment on her remarks yesterday — too many had already said what I was thinking.
But her comments, whether they’re in context or not, were soooooooooo classless.
+1 on everything!
I was considering commenting too, but really – how much can be said about someone’s dead biscuit?
Ugh. Go sit in the corner, Olivia.
That’s right! A time out Olivia…think about what you’ve done!! Now sit in the corner for 10 minutes and reflect on what it means to be a LADY!
+2
Crass and rude. No need to share something that personal about your ex-husband to the public. Have some respect for someone you once loved. If he had went out in public saying his cock died while married to her, the backlash from women would have been four-fold.
Yup, I think it’s poor form for her to rag on her ex-husband.
Christ, the 70s were 40 years ago, and you yanks are still offended by the word vagina? Grow up.
Way to completely miss the point. First, this thread isn’t about her original comments, but about her claims of “being taken out of context”.
Second, I don’t think anyone here is offended by the word vagina (hence the amount of times it’s been mentioned by the posters on this very thread) but by her lack of respect for her ex-husband — who is, inevitably, going to be associated with her comments considering she was CLEARLY referring to her first marriage.
It’d have been just a case of TMI hadn’t she specified she was talking about her ex-husband, who wasn’t even there. Who, apparently, has never talked about their relationship in that way (so far).
haha, of course they were taken out of context, the words were simply stripped from her mouth. don’t you know she was mime’ing them and the translator got it all wrong.
she can’t get all butthurt cause most folks thought her comments were bitchy and inappropriate towards her ex-husband.
BS, She has no problem with the reporting of her comments, she takes issue with our collective reaction. She needs to grow up and shut up.
Exactly. But isn’t it always like this? They only backpedal after a negative public reaction, almost never because they came to their senses and realized they’ve been rude.
And they all come up with the same “taken out of contest/being misquoted” bullshit, avoiding (like the plague) what would be the most sensible, most effective approach for these situations: simply apologizing.
And how they are always trying to put the blame on the journalists(misquoted, put out of context). There weren´t any sneaky recorders, she was interviewed.
Plus as a celebrity in this day and age, you have to be aware, that your every move might be recorded with all the camera phones. When you make stupid statements in public, that someone happens to record, you don´t have to blame anyone but yourself, when it backfires. Might be a little bit out of context, but John Galliano tried to play the victim card, when his antisemitic bullshit was recorded; just because you were “sneakily recorded”, which wasn´t even the case with Cockburn, doesn´t make your statements any less bad.
She wasn’t interviewed, she gave monologue on stage.
@chickachikifikifiki she was interviewed after her monologue
I’ve never warmed up to her and now I know why.
+1
I’ve never found her talented, likeable or pretty either.
“Ol’ Cockburn” hahaha that will never get old
I still think this has been blown out of proportion.
What she said is, I wasn’t happy, which meant my sex drive disappeared completely. You can pretend to be happy at the dinner table, but you can’t pretend to want to jump someone’s bones when you’re unhappy enough to not feel that way physically anymore.
It’s similar to not wanting to sleep with your partner when you’re upset with them. You’re not feeling it, because you’re not happy.
Did she phrase it particularly well? No. But I really don’t think she’s trying to bag her ex husband and proclaim to the world that he was awful at sex. She’s merely trying to say, when you’re unhappy, your body responds, and you can’t will it into pretending everything’s fine.
You might be right and it sounds reasonable but it’s an interpretation of what she said. She might also simply have meant what many of us understood. And if we misunderstood, that could be rectified. But no.
The fact that she’s not clarifying anything but is instead trying to blame a journalist speaks volumes.
She’s not really helping herself with the 140 character defence, agreed.
I do see where she’s coming from in the sense that, if my reading of what she was trying to say is correct, she probably said more in context of the dying vagina comment that would have made it clear. If those supporting/mitigating bits aren’t reported, and you suddenly look like a right b*tch… Let’s just say I’d be a little frustrated too.
Perhaps even frustrated enough not to want Kenyan marathun runner sex 😉
I’ll say what I said yesterday. I’m not really disputing what she said. What I take issue with is the fact that she was pretty specific about WHO she was talking about and she said it in PUBLIC and later to the MEDIA.
There’s a way of communicating what she wanted to without specifically relating it to her ex-husband and her current BF. Why couldn’t she just speak in generalities without naming names?
I think the easiest way to decide whether she was acting in a respectful way is to ask yourself if it would bother you if an ex was speaking to a group of people about your sex life. Maybe it wouldn’t bother you and then I can understand why you would defend her.
For me personally, I would feel really embarassed and betrayed if my ex-husband said that his d*ck died during our 8-year marriage. I would not only be really hurt, but I would be pissed.
Oh absolutely, if your words are twisted and taken out of context, it’s annoying and frustrating. But why not explain then? I assume because nothing else she said that night would make it sound better. And she basically said it twice, once in her speech (where it could have been taken out of context) and then to the press. That’s where she loses me. She’s not new to this, she should know better if it wasn’t what she meant.
@OriginalKitten: The thought of a former boyfriend talking about our relationship like that makes me shudder. I agree that it’s not the point she was trying to make that is the problem but the way she did it.
I can’t see this as anything but an incredibly dumb and mean move, followed by some amateur backpedaling.
I posted as rochester below. CB, don’t ban me 🙂
I agree with you Monique.
People are making it a personal issue, as if she’s humiliating her ex.
I went to a play called ‘Vagina monologues’ and it was an artistic performance. Some of the text, you take it out of context, it makes the beautiful part crass.
Sadly, women are attacked by their own sex, and if they are celebrities, God help them. For me the issue here is how a woman’s personal experience made in a specific context is exploited and commodified by the media.
@Original kitten To your question to me yesterday, I would answer that if my ex made such statement (that his dick died during our relationship) in a group discussing male sexuality, I would not take an offence because it reflects his sexuality rather than mine. Truth, however uncomfortable, needs to be shared if it benefits others. Now feel free to judge me.
@diana —
You have a point, however, this wasn’t shared with a “group”. This was shared with the world.
And how Olivia’s dead vagina helps the planet is beyond me, so yeah, I’ll judge.
@Diana-How does it benefit others? I ask that question genuinely. How does anything she said benefit women, period? Are women suddenly saying to themselves “you’re right, celebrity-lady, my vagina DID die!” ?? She’s not breaking new ground with anything she said here.
Again, I see NO reason why she couldn’t make the statements she made without exploiting the personal nature of her sex life with her ex-husband. In fact, she’s dated enough famous men that she could have phrased it as a generality and nobody would have known exactly who she’s talking about. Then the part where she talks about how amazing her sex life is with her new man?
Not seeing how this is beneficial in any way, except for Sudeikis who looks like a stud in comparison to her ex-husband.
Let’s face it-her “truth” benefits HER and benefits her new man. That’s all I see. Then again, I would never put an ex on blast in front of the world because any guy I had a relationship with is a man I still love and respect. If I didn’t feel like that, I never would have dated him, much less married him.
And please don’t play the misogyny card. I’m a female and a feminist and I don’t speak publicly about my sex life because I respect the sanctity of that connection with a loved one. This isn’t a male/female issue-it’s a HUMAN issue and it’s about respect, PERIOD. SHE is the one who is “commodifying” and exploiting her sex life. If she doesn’t want people to have an opinion about what she said, then she should STFU.
Yeah, I have to agree with TOKitten here. This has nothing to do with empowerment, it was personal information that wasn’t hers alone to share. Period. Talking about your feelings concerning sex in a general way is absolutely fine, I would even encourage it. I even agree with the larger point she was trying to make.
Maybe tomorrow her ex will come out and tell us that he’s fine with this and she asked him before she talked about their marriage. I highly doubt it though because THAT is certainly something she would have tweeted by now.
Again, it comes down to sharing something highly personal that wasn’t hers to share.
Exactly, littlemissnaughty-
+1 to women maintaining the freedom to have an open dialogue about sex.
-1 to women (AND men) discussing intimate details regarding an ex to a crowd of people.
@diana, the Vagina Monologues is a play. It was written by a playwright and performed by actors. It is NOT women talking about their own sex lives and making a very public statement about 3rd parties. That it talks about female sexuality in ways that are at times crass is not at all comparable to what Wilde did here.
eh, even reading the replies to diana, which were valid and well stated, I still agree with Diana. i think that she was doing an artistic performance and may have engaged in some hyperbole. And even if not, it is still her right to share to the world if she chooses too, the ones who judge included.
Of course. And these are thoughts to be shared with your girlfriends over a glass of wine. You do not get up on stage and proclaim them under the guise of art or entertainment or while you’re being interviewed.
Yeah. But its still incredibly rude to say so, especially in that way, to the public. No pass from me. Use the simple golden rule: if you wouldn’t like something like that said in regard to you, you shouldn’t say it, whether or not you directly name your ex. I’d be mortified.
Her vagina may not be dead now, but it’s certainly mortified by her comments, if it could talk, I want to believe something like this would come out: “Bitch, who told you that you could talk about me in public?”.
P.S.: I apologize if someone already said something similar (I didn’t read all the son the previous thread).
her vagina is probably thinking about what a vagina she is
Her vagina would at least woman up and apologize, like a classy vagina should.
Come on, people! Her vagina is innocent… the poor thing can’t help being attached to an ass!!!
Oh I think Olivia is the one who should apologize – after all, a dead vagina can tell no tales right? 😉
Well… appealing to the Minivans at the expense of the male fan base who put you forward… not a good idea.
Since I’m not a dude, this type of man-wilting is frowned upon, right?
This is random but I just do not like her.
Not random. Appropriate.
People are always misunderstanding the opinionated vagina.
Ain’t this the truth?! My vagina and I are at odds about the presidential election in the US right now and it’s getting pretty hostile in the house.
Jane! Jane! Jane!
Where are you?
Speaking of former relationships that have gone awry… may I see you in the attic for a moment, dear Rochy? I’d bring along a good excuse if I were you.
uber bitch
I don’t think I have ever seen her in a movie lol and yet she annoys me. I also don’t find her pretty, in these pics she looks like she has a serious case of the bobble head. lol
Sure they were! And even more so because the bitches out there did not feel empowered by her words.Ugh…I’d prefer that she stays to her words.If you had the balls once to utter them, then own them, stupid girl.
uhm then dont talk about it in public, sweetie. that was hard stuff, you really only should talk like that to your closest friends.
also lol “performance art”, leave the art to people with talent, olivia.
Oohhhh whatever CockBurn PussyWet whatever!!!
You showed that you were classless yesterday. And by not taking responsibility you are showing even more that you still are classless today. ta ta!
“Art”? Do I hear James Franco?
I can’t wait until January Jones publicly names Jason Sudeikis as her kid’s father. According to a recent BI, Jason has never bothered to tell Olivia that he’s the dad. Bwah.
Welcome to NBCs newest game show “Put the Dead Vagina in Context”
Now I’m thinking about her “undead” vagina making a guest appearance in The Walking Dead.
It can walk too?
I don’t know…but if it could, I think it’d run away from her “owner”.
That would be brilliant. If zombies had any brains*, dead vaginas would be their new go-to. Rick would scream “don’t fall for it, Glenn! It’s a trap!”
*btw, your boyfriend and I are taking Pithy Lessons together.
Actually her vagina is an artist and bff with James Franco´s vagina.
LMAO! I feel like I need to commemorate this comment strand with a screen shot. Effin hilarious 🙂
@ J.Eyre:
Don’t you dare!
Darling, please. You said I could look but not touch. Letter of the law, and all that. Besides, I have my hands full trying to keep Hiddleston off Twitter.
Did I? All right then.
http://images5.fanpop.com/image/photos/30700000/Benedict-Cumberbatch-Tom-Hiddleston-benedict-cumberbatch-30792759-960-1280.jpg
Do whatever you want with the one on the right. Touch the one on the left and you’ll lose a finger.
That was pretty dumb of her but it is nice to know that another lady considers bad sex reason enough to end a relationship. I feel like I’m the only one sometimes!
I think many/most women consider it a good reason, but they don’t admit it openly. Men are no different: can you imagine the average man staying with his partner when the *most* he can expect to get—if he’s lucky—is a semi? HAH… no.
I just cannot imagine that Jason Suduwhoever having marathon sex. He seems as exciting as watching paint dry.
lol!!!! omg you made my day 😀 thanks 😉
ROFL — people are staring at me because I started giggling and snorting as I read through the comments.
I dunno, I’m giving her a pass. If she was doing some monologue for a show, they there’s going to be dramatic license.
She’s been on The Daily Show a few times (my only exposure) and I thought she’s pretty funny a a good interview. Chrisopher Hitchens was her babysitter!
and…¿why is this girl famous for?
Out of context? Bulls*it.
She’s getting a lot of backlash from her “Jason CPR-d my vagina back to life” monologue, so now shes back peddling.
If I was the prince I would declare war on her vagina and release all the dirty details.
LOL — “Jason CPR’d my vagina back to life”
You know, if it were just the monologue at the event I actually wouldn’t think there was anything out of the ordinary about her comments- they weren’t particularly funny, but come on, how many people do stand up bashing previous relationships/sexual conquests? It may ALL be tasteless, but its also all run of the mill these days…I had the joy of watching an amateur guy at an open mike type night spend 15 minutes “joking” about his CURRENT wife and their sexless marriage.
So I guess what I am saying is, her comments were unkind but sadly not uncommon so I am surprised this whole story has become so big.
I think you make a valid point about the content of many comedic routines but there’s a difference between the two (at least to me).
First of all, in the context of comedy, often the material that’s presented isn’t 100% true, meaning there’s a lot of artistic license/exaggeration infused into the routine for the sake of getting laughs. In other words, it’s not necessarily factual/truthful-it’s about being funny.
Secondly, often when a comedian is building something personal into a routine, it is discussed and cleared beforehand with the subject. In fact, I think most women/men that marry comedians know that their personal lives could become fodder for comedy.
It’s just so different than giving a serious monologue and including personal details. I don’t know what her and her ex had going on-maybe the relationship was awful (then why did she stick it out for 8 years?) but I still maintain that she should keep it behind closed doors. It’s just the right thing to do.
I feel like I’m harping on this so I’ll stop now and obviously, she didn’t murder anybody and shouldn’t be crucified as if she did. I just think she made a pretty big mistake and it makes me like her a hell of a lot less.
Yeah, you know, about 5 minutes ago when I was mentally going over how annoyed I was about that guy I saw I realized he might have been making it all up! He could have been single…which perhaps says something even sadder about some comedy acts (that people would fabricate stories bashing their partners because OMG SO FUNNY).
But yeah, about Olivia Wilde…I kind of assumed her story was meant to be lighthearted. If it was serious, I agree that that somehow makes it seem worse.
ITA about the default comedic material being “let’s bash someone I purportedly care about” and so rarely is it EVER funny. Just derivative and worse, mean-spirited.
Well, I don’t know about you-but I’m definitely too fragile to date a comedian 😉
Sorry, Livvy, you meant it. You just didn’t expect the backlash in Tao’s favor. Another FOS celeb. Look in the mirror – you ain’t all that.
The damage is done, Cockburn. Now you have to live with it. Own what you said. All this backpedaling and blaming the press is only making you look worse. I didn’t really have an opinion about you before, but now I know I don’t like you.
BURN YOU C*CK BURN!!!
Well… it had to come out that way too… Would be great for her c*ck monologue…
Dead Vagina Gold-digger Monologues by a skank. Doesn’t offend me. I can relate to what she is saying, and i am sure a lot of women are trapped in loveless-sexless marriages. That Prince dude looks Gay.
Arnold Skankonator offends me more than anyone. He can do whatever the hell he wants and shame his family.
Off topic but why are so many celebrities wearing ugly 80’s tiger-themed crap?? Large cat-themed apparel should die, not vaginas.
guys say this shit in forms all the time. good for her. its a subject many females would be uncomfortable about..
Let us just hope that she shuts up about this from here on out.
I think she miscalculated. If you notice we see more and more of women at her status Known but not really fascinating enough to get the public interest going. They are all saying stuff like this or TMI in interviews to get attention. I don’t know of anyone that is really interested in her relationship with Jason (?). They are not gossip bait. She is in that move Butter and they were trying to play up her girl/girl thing for people to want to see the movie. Well I don’t know the BO totals, but again when you have to promote a scene in a film then it loses it “get”. She wants attention. there are a lot of women in Hollywood that are on the same level as she. Not getting a boat load of attention so they spout this stuff off. By next week she will be where she was before.
So like celebrities to make such stupid statements then try to back peddle…
Sounds like someone’s trying to cover her ass….you shouldn’t talk shit about an ex, especially not an Italian prince! What if he has mob connections?? 😉
I honestly don’t see anything wrong in what she said.
When asked about her marriage to Tom Cruise, Mimi Rogers said ‘I got tired of living like a Nun.’ As far as I’m concerned, both women said basically the same thing: There wasn’t enough sex and/or not enough ‘good’ sex.