Michelle Williams and Jason Segel are no more! Sad. They had been dating for a year – almost exactly. Jason was/is tight with Michelle’s BFF Busy Phillips, and Busy introduced them last year during the awards season, when Michelle was up for an Oscar for My Week With Marilyn. Once they got together, they seemed incredibly tight, with Jason coming to Brooklyn often to see Michelle and spend time with Matilda, and Michelle and Mattie going to LA to spend time with Jason. There were even widespread reports of an engagement, and I genuinely thought it would happen for them. Alas…
Michelle Williams and Jason Segel are back on the market. The Oz the Great and Powerful actress, 32, and the How I Met Your Mother star, 33, quietly ended their romance earlier this month, sources tell Us Weekly.
Though the two seemed happy together as recently as January, when they were photographed on vacation in Cancun with Williams’ BFF Busy Philipps, an insider tells Us that their romance couldn’t survive the long distance. (Williams lives in New York with daughter Matilda, 7, while Segel is based in Los Angeles, where his CBS sitcom is filmed.)
Us Weekly broke the news of the couple’s undercover romance in March 2012. In June, a source told Us that Williams and Segel were “totally in love. Jason is obsessed with Michelle.” He had also taken a liking to his girlfriend’s daughter (with her late ex, Heath Ledger). “He’s been doing all sorts of ‘dad stuff’ with her, like drawing and playing music,” the insider said.
The stars kept a relatively low profile throughout their relationship, rarely acknowledging the romance in public. Segel spoke vaguely about Williams last April, telling Extra, “I think we would just very much like to be happy. That’s all I’m going to say about it.”
Yeah, one of the biggest reasons why I though Michelle and Jason would last the test of time is because she seemed okay with Jason spending a lot of time with Matilda, and he seemed to enjoy the idea of being Matilda’s step-dad. I would love to know what really happened, because I’m not sure if I’m buying the whole “different cities” excuse.
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
Blindgossip says it’s because he wanted to adopt Matilda, which, if true, makes me judge Michelle a little.
You judge her because presumably she wouldn’t let him? Not sure I’m following.
Yes. I think that there’s something odd if she is willing to consider marrying him, let him have parental access to the daughter but refuse to be willing to consider making that permenant for the child. If she doesn’t think him a fit parent than she shouldn’t be allowing him to play daddy to her child. If she does think him father material, she should allow their relationship to grow independent of her romance. It doesn’t seem very fair to the child to allow him halfway into the family.
I think the situation has got to be more complicated than that. There may be a lot of emotional baggage tied in to adoption issues. I could see having a hard time allowing someone new, no matter how fit a parent they may be, to adopt my daughter if the father was dead. It may not be logical or accurate, but the heart may still see it as replacing or erasing Heath.
EDIT: and now I see mom2two already said all of this! oops.
Adoption severs all legal ties with the biological father though, doesn’t it? So I’d never let any partner adopt my son either, because he has a father. That would be so even if my husband died. A step parent can be a huge and important influence, but they don’t replace a child’s parent.
Yeah I read the blind too. If true it makes me think very highly of him that he wanted to be the little girls dad. It shows a maturity in him and that he is serious about being a part of both their lives.
Ew no. That means that if they broke up, he would have custody rights. I don’t think so. The prospect would probably make Michelle re-evaluate how much she trusted him.
I saw that and if it’s true: I give Jason a lot of props for wanting to be a father to Matilda. But I understand where Michelle is coming from. If Jason was pushing for parental rights for her, in some way it kind of negates her real father, Heath. Almost like he never existed (which I am sure is not what Jason intended but that’s how she may have felt or how his family might feel). Heath’s family is still in Matilda’s life. It’s a tricky situation. And I could see why it would be a deal breaker for her. God forbid, if something happened to my husband and I remarried and my new husband was pushing for parental rights for my kids…one hand I would be happy that he loved them so much but on the other, I would feel like it’s disrespectful to my husband and his family-who would be still involved in the children’s life.
I really do not think it had anything to do with how fit she felt he was to be a parent. If she felt he couldn’t handle it, I don’t think they would have been together for a year and he wouldn’t have been around the little girl so much.
Even though, at this point, the whole adoption story is complete speculation, I still completely agree with your comment. If Jason had adopted Matilda, wouldn’t that mean that Matilda’s last name would be changed to Segal? Pretty sure Michelle would never do that. If anything, I think that this may just be another case of not being able to fill Heath’s shoes. But, who knows…
I don’t know, I think I have to respectfully disagree. Heath is gone, it seems like she’d be better off with an adoptive living father rather than cling to the ghost of a departed biological one. I’d think no one is going to let her forget Heath or make her think Jason is replacing him.
The (very) few people I know in this situation have handled it sensitively, knowing what a delicate balance it is between remembering and moving forward. I don’t think his adopting her would in any way take away her connection to Heath.
This! If God forbid anything ever happened to my husband, I wouldn’t let anyone else adopt our children either.
Sad. If this is the case, then they are both acting like mature, responsible people who are putting, what they each feel, are Matilda’s best interests before their own. How ironic that being thoughtful and caring keeps a great couple apart, while selfish, immature people get together for all the wrong reasons!
That was my thought too – if true, it’s sweet he wanted to, but would probably be hurtful to Heath’s family.
I agree. Adoption is not just enhanced step-parenting, it is one of the most sacred legal contracts that our society has. More sacred than marriage.I know that they are an adorable couple and we all really wanted this to happen, but one year of dating is early days to consider a step of such magnitude.
If Michelle didn’t want Jason to adopt Matilda, that means she didn’t consider the relationship a longlasting one. For such an issue to arise at this point, if true, is a much clearer indication of how much faith she had in it. Ie very little. Which is wierd considering how much access she gave Jason to Matilda. Frankly that is what is shocking about this story. You don’t introduce someone to your child, have them form a bond, and then yank them apart. Does the break up mean Jason/Matilda won’t see each other any more? That is cruel, especially to the child. That poor child is going to be subjected to a series of mummy’s BFs……
@LAK…I don’t see how it shows her lack of faith in the relationship. They’d only been together a year. I think that’s too soon to be seriously discussing my boyfriend’s adoption of my child. And there’s so much more to consider than that. What of the father’s family? It’s a huge decision that requires a lot of thought, and a few more years of being together to even be on the table as an option. IMO.
My brother married a woman with 3 children whose husband passed away. He did not adopt them. They kept their father’s last name, and were told about him. They thought of my brother as their father, but he did not want to take the place of their biological father. It is one thing if a father takes off and isn’t a father to his children, it is another if he passes away. I understand where Michelle is coming from. Heath will always be her father. Jason would also have been a father to her if they had married. Just not through adoption.
Yes, this. Adoption replaces the bio parent with another. Step-parenting adds someone. If my husband died I would be delighted if a lovely man wanted to help raise my child with me, but I wouldn’t allow his tie with his father to be cut – and what a slap in the face for my in-laws, who would have lost a son, and could never begin to move on with that loss.
I’m kind of surprised at the reactions a few people have towards him adopting Matilda. As a child my father remarried after my mother’s death and we were fortunate that our new mom wanted to adopt and raise us as her own, however we still always had lots of contact with my maternal grandparents (and new maternal grandparents as well). It wasn’t as if our mother was forgotten at all, she was still a part of our lives although not with us anymore and I consider us so lucky that another wonderful woman wanted to be part of our lives (along with all the cousins and aunts and uncles she brought into our world). Why would anyone want to deprive their child of those relationships? It doesn’t have to be either or. In my case it was both, and my siblings and I are better for it.
I think it’s just a personal choice. I don’t think the piece of paper even matters. It’s how you feel in your heart. My brother, although not their father through adoption, still left them everything when he passed away, for they were his kids.
I’m sorry about your mom. I’m happy that you your dad married another great mom. And thank you for giving me another viewpoint.
Elle Kaye, thank you for such a nice response. Your brother sounds like he was a wonderful guy. I apologise if my response sounded like it was directed to you. You’re right it is a personal choice and just a piece of paper. I was actually responding to a few comments up where a few people had mentioned it would feel disloyal or disrespectful to the parent who passed away if they allowed someone else to adopt their child. I get that feeling, but just wanted to share my experience. I think these kind of adoptions can be wonderful, and don’t need to mean the new parent is replacing the person who dies.
It sounds like your brother was a very thoughtful, loving guy and those 3 kids were lucky to have him in their life. And like you said, he was a father to them, with or without a piece of paper.
Adoptive parent is a MUCH stronger role than Step-parent. Legally, if they broke up he could fight for custody /visitation rights of Matilda. I feel for Jason (though this is all speculation and an academic argument) but, if I was Michele there is no way in HELL I would risk my full rights over my child. Especially, in the marriage climate that is Hollywood.
@Sala – thank goodness for your opinion.
I come from a culture where this sort of attitude is the norm rather than erasing one family because a new person had entered it or abandoning the old family because one had started a new one.
I read these stories everyday in the news, not just the attitudes on this board and it makes me sad. It’s the only thing that makes me regret my parents’ migration from Africa to Europe. Family western style is so alienating.
Ps: I have a death and a divorce in my family, and we are ALL still family. It’s not confusing, and I don’t think of my siblings with a different parent as my half siblings. Ditto the step siblings. We are all family. And we give as much respect to the step parents/family. Infact, there are no words for step-relations in the culture. If you introduced anyone as a step relation, everyone would assume they were hated. It’s an unforgivable insult.
APPLES-Agree 1000% with you. I was thinking the same thing that he could fight her for custody if they got divorced. No way would I let a man adopt my child after dating 1 year. Even if I loved him enough to marry him.
APPLES-Agree 1000% with you. I was thinking the same thing that he could fight her for custody if they got divorced. No way would I let a man adopt my child after dating 1 year. Even if I loved him enough to marry him.
I just wanted to say how lovely to hear of adults working together to do what was best for you. I’m sorry for your loss, and so glad you gained a wonderful additional member of your family, and the extended relations that came with her.
I do think perhaps a form of adoption after a death where you can add a parent without severing legal ties with the old one might be a good thing. It would more accurately reflect the setup.
I agree. My Dad is technically not my father, but I’m going to hyphenate when I marry to preserve the name he gave me. It is one of the greatest gifts I’ve ever been given.
Now that kind of bums me out. I could definitely see him wanting to adopt Matilda because he seemed way into Michelle and he’s getting to an age where he probably wants a family of his own. I really like him and I hope that this heartbreak doesn’t send him into a long bender.
I just read the In Style interview with Michelle yesterday. She was happy that everyone was giving her positive feedback about her relationship with Jason. She seemed genuinely happy. She even said as much. So sad, they were a cute couple.
I like him a lot more than I like her, but I’m sorry for both that it didn’t work out.
There was obviously a lot of history and emotional baggage at play, what with a child involved and Heath’s memory. It’s sad that it did not work, but I guess they’ll find happiness with someone else, someday.
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I still hope this isn’t true/that they get back together 🙁
she can do better
nope. she probably can’t considering that she picked a druggie ( a sexy great actor, but yet and still…) to be the father of her child.
More like HE could do better. I adore him. Ive never liked her. He is not her type and too good for her. Im glad they arent together anymore, I didnt like them as a couple at all.
What an inconsiderate thing to say. Heath wasn’t a druggie when they met. Not even after Matilda was born, but when she was already walking. All people, who knew his situation, even those who criticized him for leaving this world and his daughter in such a stupid way, admitted that his problems started not so long before his death. Terry Gilliam said Heath had an accident on set of some movie and got addicted to painkillers, but it was just before Michelle broke up with him (reportedly, that was the resason). He combined them with a prescription drug for insomnia and other medicine for pneumonia (also prescripted) and this combination killed him. Lindsay is a druggie since her teenage years and she is still alive (or Courtney Love), but Heath’s addiction killed him just after it started, before he turned into half a mess she is now.
Justyna, that is so sad. I’ve heard it’s quite easy for people with chronic insomnia, pain, etc. to become dependent on prescription meds without even realising it.
Michelle Williams once drove Heath Ledger to rehab (she talked about it in an interview), so he knew he had a problem. He was getting drugs from multiple doctors at once when he died. It’s legal-loophole Hollywood substance abuse. He was self-indulgent and irresponsible and there’s no way to dress that up, no matter how cute his hair was.
People die everyday in this country the way Heath did and many of them are not “druggies”. Even if people have drug problems that does not make it right to dismiss them as valueless. Heath’s death was a tragedy and an avoidable one. People need to wake up to the reality of prescription drug interactions and their dangers and stop assuming that drug deaths are due solely to a lack of moral fiber.
Awww…that’s too bad. I liked them together.
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Well… Didn’t see that one coming!
This is sad. I liked them together.
Why does US Weekly even report on this. Like everybody needs to know when they got together and now they broke up. Make a good movie, give an interesting performance – that’s all I want to know. Funny this happens just when Michelle is promoting her latest movie.
Um…you know US Weekly is a GOSSIP magazine, right? The only reason people purchase gossip magazines (or read Hollywood gossip blogs) is for gossip. You want non-gossip news? Read the trade mags.
You’re at the wrong website.
Your comment made me LOL. You do know you’re at Celebitchy and not CNN right??
HA! This made me laugh out loud.
They were a really cute couple, and I was rooting for them. Somehow, I’m not surprised though. From what I’ve heard (second-hand sources, so take from it what you will), Jason is a huge player who uses his status in Hollywood to make up for all the game he didn’t get in high school, LOL. I never saw him as the type to settle down, and although I was pleasantly surprised to see him bonding with Michelle’s daughter, somehow I didn’t see him as being ready for marriage and an in insta-family. Who really knows, though. Oh well!
Agree! The goofy-looking guys never get over making up for juvenile rejections. Perhaps even George Clooney and his 80s curly mullet.
For me, it always felt like he was into her because of Heath. Heath Ledger is a fanboy favorite, and a legend. He’s also a greasy playboy…I wonder if she started to hear about his past.
Or she discovered his Muppet room…
Oh this surprised me. If everything was as good as it appeared to be then it’s a shame for all 3 that it’s ended.
nooooooooooo I really liked them as an item :/
Oh no…Rachel McAdams & Michael Sheen split up too! What’s in the water?!
what? really? that makes me sadder than this split, they were so cute.
really? noooooooooo
I know! It was on US Weekly website. Doesn’t go into detail.
Not bying the excuse either. HIMYM isn’t taping 12 months a year so he’s got plenty of time to be in NY with her.
Might want to rethink calling her Mattie, that’s so crackie-esque 😉
I knew this wouldn’t work.I really like Michelle Williams and thinks she’s an amazing actress.But she has a really dark indie vibe to her that makes me think that only other dark, handsome,brooding indie actors like Heath Hedger are her type.I think she wanted to love a nice guy like Jason,who really got along with her daughter, but this woman likes her bad boys.It is not even her fault sometimes you can’t help what your type is.I have no doubt that she ended it.
I feel really lame for being sad about this. I don’t usually pay attention to blind items but there was one that was revealed to be them.
http://blindgossip.com/?p=46739
Oh man..I HATE blind items and make it a point to ignore them completely but I could totally see this one being true. So sad…
I liked them together but I am a HUGE Michelle Williams fan so I just hope she ends up with a good guy that treats her little girl as good as Jason appeared to.
Also, I think most people here that dislike her have probably never seen her in a movie before. People-please PLEASE watch Wendy & Lucy. This girl’s talent is undeniable.
I really like Michelle too and even though I’ve heard some unsavoury things about Jason’s dating past ( I can’t forgive anyone for banging the Crakken)I really liked them together.
Wendy and Lucy, I’ll look out for that, thanks for the recommendation. I’ve liked her since Dawson’s Creek, I was so happy that she became so successful, I felt like she earned/deserved it a lot more than Katie ‘hardly any range ‘ Holmes.
Another reason I thought this might last was because I assumed they’ve known each for a good few years through my imaginary BFF Busy Phillips, so I thought this could really work.
*sigh* at least we still have JJ an Diane Krugar.
I can’t watch Wendy & Lucy unless you tell me the dog does not die? I just can’t watch dog movies unless the dog lives in the end. No Older Yeller, Where the Red Fern Grows or Marlie & Me for me. It is just too heartbreaking.
@TG – Wendy & Lucy Spoiler! Spoiler! Spoiler!
I understand your feelings TG. I had to be sure about the ending before watching too because I cannot stand seeing animals dying. This is a sad movie but the dog doesn’t die.
I am in the minority then, I think she’s a decent actress and have enjoyed many of her performances (although I do think she’s a tiny bit overrated/samey, sorry), but I largely respect her film choices and think she’s probably very smart.
But I find the way she perpetuates the Heath’s widow mythology grating in the extreme. She’s promoting Oz in a magazine I was just reading and yet again she’s talking about it. I get that everyone asks her about it, but I respected her a lot more when she didn’t talk about it. It just seems like once that well opened up she couldn’t stop. I’m not heartless, of course I have sympathy for her loss and that of her child, but she should not be eulogizing/romanticizing a relationship that was long over when he died, they were both seeing other people and she was fighting his custody rights. If she’s going to talk about it she at least owes it to people to be honest. I know the response here is “do not speak ill of the dead”, but I do feel she has glorified and used his memory to promote herself.
SO it’s not black or white for me, I can enjoy an actor’s creative abilities while not always respecting or agreeing with their personal choices.
booooh, they were so cute together..
Im not a fan of her but good riddance he is a cheater. Next week look for a story in Star with his sidepiece.
He always seemed more into her. She seems like maybe she likes bad boys.
[Multiple flowery curse words here] and dangit dangit dangit. Poor him, poor her, poor kid, poor Michael and Rachel. Where’d all the happily ever afters go?
I don’t necessarily care about them as a couple that much but I can not for the life of me understand what’s so impossible about long-distance, especially when you’re THIS in love (apparently) and if it’s temporary? I mean, HIMYM isn’t gonna last much longer surely. And there are weekends and breaks… I just don’t get it. Then again, I’ve never tried it.
Long distance is HARD!!! IMO, it only really works for couples who have been together a long time and are extremely committed before the separation. The main problems with it is its so easy to have miscommunications and all the little doubts you have about the relationship are magnified 10 times more because you spend so much time thinking about the same things. It’s not for the faint of heart and it sucks!
I think it can be a good test for a relationship, to be honest. How much you think about the person when you’re apart, how easy or difficult it is to pick up where you left off when you are together, if you can resolve issues and keep the communication going under less than ideal circumstances, etc. That goes for friendships, too. I’ve had friends I’ve had limited contact with for periods of time but when we meet up again it’s like no time has passed. Those relationships are keepers. 🙂
Oh I agree Mercy! My bf and I spent about 9 months apart during my first year of college and it was tough but we never wavered. It definitely tests you and you learn pretty quickly if you have what it takes to endure the distance. Also one of my favorite friends lives far away and we can go months and months without talking and pick right back up again.
My bf & I live about 1300 miles apart. We’ve been doing this for about 2 1/2 years now. It sucks, but it’s doable… and we’re nowhere near as able to afford traveling to see each other as Williams & Segal are. It’s much easier now than it used to be, with Skype and online chat, at least.
Sads. 🙁 I’ve never heard he was a slimy cheating doucheknocker, but I am well aware Michelle has worn her Widow’s Mantilla for quite some time now. (Not judging, but at some point she’s either going to have to live with/raise Matilda alone or move forward.)
Maybe it also had something to do with him signing on for another season of HIMYM?…
I need to read better before posting. I agree, I think the signing on for another season of HIMYM and another year in LA either happened because he longer had a reason to move to NYC, or was maybe the final straw in the relationship.
Yeah, she has always clung to the “widow” status almost as strongly as Courtney Love. It would be beneficial for Matilda to have a living father figure in her life, so hopefully Michelle gets past this hang up with the right guy.
Agreed-O, especially since he was because he was rumored to be the soul hold out on another season. I love the show and Marshall is the perfect and ideal man (for me) but I could have done with ending it this season. AND even though it ended up being a bad translation I think there might have been some truth to when he told the foreign newspaper that he didn’t feel that doing another season was a good idea, perhaps he knew already that he was going to need to be in Brooklyn in order to make it work.
My thoughts exactly, I am genuinely bummed! I always thought he was a sweetie and I saw how devoted he appeared to be to Matilda, so I really thought he was the one who was going to bring Michelle out of her grief. Guess I was wrong 🙁
Kudos to her PR team for re-positioning her as the widow Ledger.
People really believe it now despite the fact that they had broken up and moved on with other people [both sides].
Courtney love IS the widow Cobain because he died in the relationship [whatever it’s state].
It’s so irritating that Michelle plays this card as though the gap and various partners after the relationship breakdown didn’t happen.
Yes, you are right. The widow card despite the split with Heath and 3 men after Heath’s death. It’s surreal!!
Where is all this stuff about him being a cheater coming from? Initially my sympathies go to him, just because I find her cold and calculating to the extreme and something about this always seemed off to me. She just always portrays herself as the grieving widow, even now while promoting OZ, I’m sick of it. I hate myself for loving her dress in the top pic though, gah. Hope he wasn’t too brokenhearted as I find him adorable, hope the greaseball rumours aren’t true.
What do you mean by “Greaseball rumours”?
@mimi – uh, sorry should have said sleazeball maybe? I was referring to the numerous comments on this thread indicating he’s a player/cheater. Not saying I believe them, just that I hope they’re not true/have never heard this before.
Very sad. I suspect this is either caused by, or the reason for the unexpected HIMYM renewal for next year.
Not surprised at all of this breakup. They were the odd couple.
That’s sad, especially since he seemed to have a nice relationship with her daughter too.
I am indifferent about them as people, but as a couple it seemed like Jason was way more into her and being there for Matilda. I feel like Michelle just needed someone to fill the void, and after a while she got sick of him. I really hope that blind isn’t true. I understand about not wanting to forget her real father, but having her live life with a ghost dad, as opposed to a man who actually loves and cares and can physically be there for her is a little selfish. No one is saying you have to have one or the other.
I may be wrong about this, but didn’t Russell Brand once call Jason Segel “a falcon among pigeons” in terms of womanizing? I remember being shocked to hear that, because 1) it’s coming from Russell Brand, the king of the womanizers, and 2) Jason Segel seems so sweet. He made the MUPPETS for goodness sake! I was hoping Michelle would be the one to cure him of his errant ways, and who knows, maybe she did, or he did, or Russell Brand was just talking out his ass, but either way, I admit I was rooting for them.
Something like that! Even Leslie Mann said that Jason would never settle down.
Yep. I posted something similar earlier in this thread. Jason has quite the reputation as a player, so I was surprised to see him in a relationship with someone who has a child in the first place. I’m willing to bet she was ready to settle down and he wasn’t.
I think that Jason became a major player when he had his heart broken by his girlfriend in freaks and geeks(can’t remember her name right now.). He was very young and that was a long term relationship which ended by her dumping him. I think there were rumors that she even cheated on him. I think that whole incident made him extremely gun-shy about getting invested in relationships. Still I could see him settling down if he was really into the right girl.
This made me very sad yesterday as in when I saw the headline on Lainey’s feed I let out a very audible, “NOOOOOOOOOOO.”
I guess Lainey was right, we wanted it more than she did.
I always sensed that he was way more into her than her into him. Not surprised this didn’t last.
I wonder what really broke them up (and I am not buying only because he wanted to adopt her daughter bit or the different cities thing). They seemed so stable together. I am genuinely surprised.
I was rooting for them.
I thought that was wonderful that a nice and talented guy came along to care for both of them and was so great with the child and happily willing to step in as a father to her.
Too bad it didn’t work out, because that child needs a present father figure and stability and Michelle needs love like any other woman.
Aww, that sucks. I liked these two together :(.
Don’t like him but like her. So immnot really sad this is over. Matilda will be okay. If anything is said about Michelle, she’s a good mother who does out her daughters well being first. Jason just seems kinda sleazy. I just prolly hate his himym character too much and am projecting on to him.
I’m glad they broke up. I love her and have NEVER thought him good enough for her. Never could stand him and he is highly unattractive. Maybe it ended because she found out what everybody in the industry already knew about him.
I don’t particularly care for Michelle Williams on a personal level I mean I think she’s a talented actress but I found her interviews about how she hates the fame aspect etc to be BS to say the least. If you hate it so much then quit the business. Obviously she doesn’t hate it that much.
That being said this guy seems like the RL version of Nick Andropolis (his F&G character back) very clingy to the woman he’s with.
It sucks for her daughter but as far as their breakup? Better end it now before they went to the aisle.
What? HIMYM still hasn’t ended?? Pretty soon we’re not going to care who the mother is 🙂 Should have ended 2 seasons ago IMO.
Sorry I’m also over the PR positioning of Michelle as Widow Ledger. That relationship was well & truly over when Heath passed away. He died at MK Olsen’s apartment (what the heck?) and was apparently dating Gemma Ward at the time. He’d also been on with Helena Christiansen.
Three is a crowd, she just seems to carry a torch for Heath Ledger wherever she goes.
I don’t understand how this woman is changed: from indie to perfect bon ton lady. What is the true? So, is she searching for a indie man or for a bank clerk in suit and tie?