Rumors have been swirling about Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert’s marriage for a while now. Just going from memory, the stories seemed to begin shortly after they got married, so they’ve been dealing with them for a while. The rumors are usually about Blake’s alleged wandering eye, Miranda’s mistrust of Blake, Miranda and Blake spending a lot of time apart, and Blake’s drinking. Some of it may even be true, although Blake and Miranda always deny it on Twitter and in their interviews. For what it’s worth, I think they do love each other a lot and I think they want to make their marriage work. I also think that Miranda is the reason Blake’s first marriage ended, and that fact haunts both of them. Anyway, Blake covers the new issue of People Mag and it really seems like he’s doing damage control, right?
It’s been two years since Miranda Lambert and Blake Shelton tied the knot, but it hasn’t always been total bliss for the couple.
In recent months, the country stars have been the subject of rumors about troubles in their relationship. Now, Shelton is opening up about their marriage – and he tells PEOPLE that there are no secrets between the two.
“[I tell Miranda], ‘I have nothing to hide from you,’ ” he says.
In fact, The Voice judge says one secret to making their marriage work is giving Lambert access to his phone – if she wants it. “That’s always been our policy: ‘Here’s my phone. Go through it,’ ” he says.
“That’s really the kind of trust we have,” Shelton continues. “There are no secrets. [I’ll say,] ‘Go dig through my drawers or my computer if you feel like you need to.’ And that’s been a really good thing, because I don’t want her to ever have any doubts.”
Even amid the rumors, Shelton and Lambert seem undaunted. Days before their May 14 anniversary, Shelton jetted to Bakersfield, Calif., for an unannounced performance at Lambert’s Pistol Annies show. And the two will appear together Wednesday night for the televised benefit Healing in the Heartland on NBC, which will raise money for victims of the tornado in Shelton’s homestate of Oklahoma.
For more on how Shelton and Lambert have kept their marriage strong, pick up a copy of this week’s PEOPLE, on newsstands nationwide Friday
It’s interesting that Blake talks about snooping because a lot of tabloids have claimed just that – that Miranda, the daughter of private investigators, questions her husband regularly and monitors his activities because she knows he’s a big flirt. And she knows he doesn’t take his vows seriously too, I guess. I don’t know… is this just the way modern marriage works now, that “trust” is letting your wife go through your phone and monitor your communications? Eh.
Photos courtesy of WENN, cover courtesy of People.
So he trusts her to look through his phone. Too bad she doesn’t trust him enough to not need to!
“Time apart, jealousy…baby plans”? One of these things is not like the other. If there are issues, I hope they work them out before having a baby.
Easy – he probably uses a burner for his hookups.
He’s a known cheater/player, she was stupid for marrying him. You trust someone or you don’t.
the fact that you feel you need to check your man’s phone isn’t a good sign.
That’s right!! If she feels the need to check his phone there is usually smoke where there is fire. Plus Miranda needs to wise up; I am sure Blake owns a second phone.
This! If he deliberately hands over his phone he owns probably a second one.
this made me lol. good point.
I was about to say, he probably has a pre-paid phone from CVS.
I think it’s less about modern marriage and more about that’s what he finds works for them. She has trust issues, he seems to know it and lets her see for herself that things are fine.
But I’m partial to sticking up for him just because I love The Voice.
I don’t think it’s because it’s a modern marriage, whatever that may entail.
I like him, too, even though I’ve never watched the Voice, so I’m hoping he’s doing what he can to qualm any fears she may have.
However, texts and phone calls can be erased from memory, so letting your spouse see your phone isn’t necessarily “open.”
The bit of private investigators makes me think of Veronica Mars and how snooping and mistrust is a hazard of the job. I snoop but behind my boyfriends back like a normal person. He doesn’t have a lock on his phone and would not freak if he saw me holding it but every once in a while when he’s in the shower. I snoop.
I don’t think snooping is normal or a sign of a healthy relationship.
You actually admitted this on a gossip thread? Fool. “Like a normal person behind my boyfriend’s back”? Good luck with that relationship.
Didn’t they get together when he was still married to somebody else? I think it’s less ‘there are no secrets’ and more ‘I don’t trust him to be alone.”
Well, having the need to snoop— is not such a good sign. It reflects insecurity in not only your partner but also yourself. However I am not one to tout blind faith; its not as ‘honorable’ as it seems, to be fooled- thre is a difference between trusting your partner and being an oblivious fool. Yet I prefer relationships where any “snooping” is not required because transparency and communication render it unnecessary
My sister goes through her husband’s phone, she has her FB password and her e-mail password. She deletes cute and “slutty looking women” from his FB friends list and if anyone dares to message him she writes them back reminding them that he’s married. She’s gotten into incredibly nasty e-mail fights with girls before. To be fair she did catch him nearly sexting some 20 year old once lmao. Like, their chat was building up some sexting and she went livid. And he lost his privacy.
It’s just so pathetic, aggressive, insecure, desperate. You can monitor his KNOWN e-mail addresses all you want. Or his phone. If he’s going to cheat he is going to cheat. If you don’t trust him or can’t trust him that is just sad.
That sounds like a stressful life your sister leads. Not having that trust can’t make for a good marriage.
Still, have heard so often of guys starting ‘innocently’ on FB and letting it get out of hand. Sounds like your bro-in-law might fall into that category.
Problem is, you can’t really say something, or they will all accuse you of meddling.
a female friend of mine ended up having an affair with someone she met playing cafe world. i’m still shocked by it.
I just don’t have the time or energy for that. My BF and I have been together nearly a decade, and we don’t share email, FB, or Twitter accounts, we don’t know each other’s passwords to anything, and we have separate bank accounts. I don’t ever worry that he’s sneaking around because I trust him.
That sounds so tiring. I don’t even care about his phone but I won’t look at it. We know each other’s fb passwords but we use Google+ more often. Sometimes being fat and lazy has it’s perks.
You’ve talked about your sister’s relationship before, Annie and it seems like there are a lot of problems there.
“It’s just so pathetic, aggressive, insecure, desperate.”
And controlling.
I simply wouldn’t be in a relationship where I felt like I couldn’t trust the guy-too exhausting. Likewise, if a guy tried to control me like that I would be ghost. At some point you have to ask yourself what kind of a relationship you have and is it worth it if you have to drive yourself and your partner crazy like that.
Annie.. man that sounds like a part time job.
I know relationships are work. It just shouldn’t be that kind of work.
If I had to do all of that to be or stay with someone… I would have to leave or stop.
Annie.. man that sounds like a part time job.
I know relationships are work. It just shouldn’t be that kind of work.
If I had to do all of that to be or stay with someone… I would have to leave or stop.
He only has pics of driven over turtles anyway.
Turtle killer” Sneaky eyes “Shelton.
and she thinks that’s his ONLY phone??
he seems like a slickster
Seems like people who have to tout how great their marriage is (cough Leann cough) are just trying to cover for the opposite. How can a marriage that resulted from an affair ever be good? How can anyone trust someone who would do that? Maybe some people can but not me.
I don’t understand the point of snooping, especially snooping with permission. What’s the point? Anyone with a brain cell or two is going to delete everything or have a phone you don’t know exists eg. one that never comes home with them. Even if you go above and beyond and get software that pulls up deleted stuff, if your partner knows how to use google it’s likely they’re a step ahead as it’s so easy to find info on how to permanently delete everything.
If you do find something, surely the bigger problem is that you’ve been partnered up with someone who’s completely brain dead. I mean, what kind of fool can’t find the delete button when they know their other half could potentially access their phone/Facebook/email. That revelation would bother me more than any cheating.
You would be shocked (and/or depressed) at how dim some folks are about that. If people ~weren’t~ stupid, there would be a LOT fewer ‘oh GOD, how did those naked pictures I took of myself and store on my phone get out?’ hysterical fits from celebs (and non celebs). There are a lot of folks who seem to view technology as some kind of magic forcefield that, since they don’t personally understand how it works, that means NO ONE understands it.
That being said, while I know what password my husband uses for most things (and vice versa – we both pay different bills online and sometimes have to log onto the others computer or phone to deal with things for the other) I can honestly say in 10 years of being together, I’ve never felt the need or want to go looking for things. And I don’t have anything on any of my tech that would be an issue for HIM to see. Well, I’d get pissed if he snooped in, say, my Amazon order/cart near the holidays or his birthday. (But weirdly, we both blatantly snoop to find items the other might be secretly yearning for to surprise them with so it’s a fuzzy area) I get a serious case of the “GET AWAY” flails when I’m tackling a writing project & he doesn’t want me looking in his music folder when a bit of composition is giving him fits. But other then that… meh. So I have never understood folks who need/want to monitor every movement of their partner. At best seems sad & at worst seems abusive. If you can’t trust your partner – why in gods name would you stay with them? Why constantly make yourself and them miserable? Either trust or move on.
Is that really odd? Because I just finished saying all the above to a girlfriend on the phone and got yelled at for being both stupid and ‘deserving to be cheated on if I can’t understand it’ and I’ll admit I’m now rather… upset. As well as seriously confused. Am I really completely unaware of how most other women think?
You are not odd. You and your husband sound exactly like me and my husband in this. (Though with him it’s not music, it’s programming stuff.) Your girlfriend seems to have some serious trust and self-awareness issues.
Seriously. I’d be more upset that I was with a man dumb enough to be caught cheating than about the actual cheating. I’ve only ever been with men smart enough to hide their cheating if they ever cheated, so why worry?
Really, there’s no reason to worry anyway — it’s not something you can control. Someone wants to cheat, they’re gonna cheat. Snooping and controlling only drives people away.
This gives me the creepies. I feel like because it is a woman doing it, this doesn’t come across so badly. But honestly, if the situation was reversed and Miranda was discussing how Blake goes through her phone, shows up at her job, etc. routinely, would anybody else see that it comes across as sorta icky? And who believes that Blake only has one phone? He’s a wealthy man, he can afford two.
Shady. Just a matter of time.
‘Time apart, jealousy and baby plans’ that sounds like a winning combination.
‘There are no secrets.’
That’s right, your wife is well aware that you cheat. #ONCEACHEATERALWAYSACHEATER
I think once a cheater in that specific relationship always a cheater. A former player can settle down. But if that player ever gets a free pass from someone, they will violate that trust again.
Yes, a player, i.e., a single guy/girl that ordinarily gets a lot of random tail, then falls in love and becomes monogamous – sure, I can buy that.
I don’t think that’s fair or true: Everyone can make a mistake (and I’m not talking about those people who purposely cheat and don’t feel any bit of guilt towards their partner). But I also think that you can only forgive that particular mistake once (IF you can forgive it that is). In Blake and Miranda’s case, I hope they make it work: I like them together.
I’ve said this before but Miranda Lambert was far from the 1st person with whom Blake Shelton cheated on his 1st wife. Miranda just happens to be the 1st person with whom Blake cheated on his 1st wife with whom he also fell in love. Yes, there’s no doubt her relationship with Blake overlapped with his 1st marriage. Listen to Miranda’s song “More Like Her,” which documents a period where Blake was trying to work things out with his wife after his affair with Miranda had started.
Now, I don’t think Blake’s doing anything majorly shady behind Miranda’s back, though the Cady Groves story did give me some pause. I think the rumors of mistrust and Blake cheating are mostly tabloid retribution or maybe karmic retribution for the way they got together (nobody cared except for Nashville whisperers at the time, because they weren’t big then). They’ve been selling their marriage to the public for attention, and when you do that there’s bound to be backlash.
I am every bit as flirtatious and friendly as Blake Shelton. Before my marriage I cheated on every boyfriend I had.
Once I was committed in my heart, I learned that it was the crush, the chase and the build up that I was enjoying, and that to not cheat to not go there, to not cross that line is always a choice.
I am still a flirt, I am still an open person but I have never cheated on my husband. If I were famous, I’m sure the tabloids would assume and report otherwise.
Yep he’s cheating. He probably has two phones
They seem like they try so hard. I am not sure if I trust that what they present as how things actually are.
There is a problem if you are obsessively checking up on your partner. A little curiosity is nothing to be ashamed of though. “I trust you” doesnt mean “I wont look” it means “I dont have to.”
“Here’s my phone, go through it” is NOT trust.
Exactly.
How do people not understand this?
Respecting each other’s privacy and not being threatened by it is trust.
I just don’t understand how you form a lasting relationship without something so fundamental.
I snooped through my husbands phone once. He was being super secretive and protective about it, and I thought he was cheating. Nope. He had bookmarks alllll over his phone to the Tiffany’s website. Ruined my damn Christmas surprise.
This made me go awww.
Had a friend who was duped by this “openness” about email, password and phone access. He has another phone dumbass. Men to not like to let their wives/girlfriends deposit their nads into their pocketbooks. Especially if they think that they are Rico Suave. He has anoooother phone could be a hook for a song right?
I would never monitor my husband’s communications and he would never want to monitor mine. Doing that is a sign that the marriage is in serious, serious trouble.
Blake has a very swarmy look to him…grosses me out.
There is nothing romantic about them at all. I’m not sure what image they are trying for.
didn’t he cheat on his wife with this miranda woman?? if so miranda is a fool to think he won’t do it to her.
Tortoise killer.
She probably gets nervous every now and then since they both started having feelings for each other before he even left his wife!! Maybe she’s afraid it could happen to her, which it could but hopefully not! Who knows maybe the rolls will be turned and she end up falling in love with someone while their still married!