Drew Barrymore covers the February issue of Marie Claire to promote nothing at all. I shouldn’t say that! How terrible. I can’t figure out what she’s promoting here. Drew does have another movie with Adam Sandler coming up (Blended), but it won’t be out until May. The film’s trailer looks gross and will probably destroy all of your good feelings about The Wedding Singer and 50 First Dates. That’s something to look forward to.
As far as this photoshoot goes, Drew looks really good. The cover shot is weird and reminds me of something Allure would print, but the rest of it is both funky and sophisticated. Maybe Drew was enjoying her early pregnancy glow for these photos. Whatever the case, it works. The interview takes place in a book store and begins with Drew enthusiastically exclaiming, “I found the pr0n section!” You know Drew gets excited about everything (even dining rooms). She does claim to not want to talk about sex anymore. She also further elaborates upon making people angry by saying women can’t have it all. Here are some excerpts:
She cooks now: “I looooooove cookbooks. I cook a lot when I’m pregnant. When I got pregnant the first time, I couldn’t even boil water. Now I can make the most spectactular slow-roasted pork tacos you will ever have, an incredible verde sauce with ancho chilies — so f—ing good. A Greek yogurt pie with lemon zest and pepper filling on a gingersnap crust with black seedless grape compote. Amazing!”
On her childhood: “When I was a kid, everything was so unplanned, my parents were so erratic, and my world was so inconsistent. I was 14 when I moved into my own apartment. I was so scared. I didn’t know anything. I didn’t know you had to throw food out when it rotted in the fridge. I was convinced someone was going to crawl through my window. I would go to the laundromat and sit there reading Anne Sexton, Sylvia Plath.”
Why she has a makeup line: “With films, I tried to please men and women, and this is much more about the woman, which is nice. What’s gonna make her happy? What’s gonna give her a little giggle?”
Her own makeup: “I do my makeup in the rearview mirror most of the time.”
Her inner circle: “I hated growing up alone. I hated it. I don’t f— anyone over. My friends are the loves of my life.”
On her mom, Jade: “Ugh, I mean, my relationship wiht my mom is complicated that … I’ve always been empathetic toward my mom, and I was even more so when I had a kid and we had a really amazing conversation about it. However, it hasn’t enabled me to lessen the distance. It’s the hardest subject in my life. I’ve never just been angry with her. I’ve alwys felt guilt and empathy and utter sensitivity. But we can’t really be be in each other’s lives at this point.
Her husband’s family: “I didn’t think I would ever get to experience that. This is so safe and positive and healthy because they have their values intact. It was huge for me. And that’s what I want in my family.”
She’s no Miley: “I’m so weary of the modern world. I’m not really of this era, so I’m struggling with that. I don’t want to talk about sex anymore. I used to be so open. But now people are like, ‘Let’s explore our sexuality!’ And I’m like, ‘Let’s not!’ I’m such a prude these days. God, I’m so boring now.”
On her ‘not having it all’ statements: “I understand if someone might be like, ‘What f—ing sexist crap are you pulling?’ or ‘What era are you talking about?’ But the sentiment is not that you can’t have it all, but that you can’t do it all. Maybe I shouldn’t say that nobody can. I know I can’t. It’s just not possible. You don’t get to do everything all at once and all the time. Life doesn’t work that way. I’m definitely going to be 5 to 10 pounds overweight. I’ll be thrilled if my husband is pleased with me that day, if mykid feels like she came first, and if I accomplished something at my job. Then I can hit the sack.”
: “My body is never going to be all that and a bag of chips. I will never be that woman who gets up at 5am to exercise. I’d rather curl up with my husband and my dogs.”
[From Marie Claire]
Eh. Drew is kind of vapid but so harmless. It’s funny that she used to be even wilder than Miley Cyrus (anyone remember Drew’s Playboy shoot?), but now she sounds so worn out on the subject of sex. It must be noted that Drew recently gushed over Will Kopelmen’s speech at their wedding, saying she was “super turned on” by his words. Still I get it. Drew is grown up now, and Miley makes us all feel like screaming, “Get off my lawn!”
I do take issue with Drew putting on makeup in her rearview mirror while driving. That’s one of the most irritating things I see on the road. So dangerous.
Photos courtesy of Marie Claire
I’m about as feminist as they come, and I have no problem with saying that women can’t “have it all”. Because neither can men. We all get the same 24 hours in a day and we all get to prioritize and divide our time accordingly. In fact, I think we should hit back at this pressure to try to accomplish something that no human could ever do without time travel.
The problem really, I think, is that women are still judged for whichever they chose to prioritize on any given day in a way that men aren’t. If a man misses his kid’s recital because of work, no one bats an eyelid; if a woman does, she’s judged for putting her career first. If a man leaves work early to take care of a sick kid, he’s admired for being such a great dad; if a woman does, she’s judged for not being fully commited to the job. And that’s before even getting in to taking time for a social life or hobbies!
So I say let’s cut this myth of having it all down. Or invent time travel. One or the other.
Your second paragraph is spot on.
@Claire
Exactly. I think it’s healthy for women to stop the myth that they should be able to be in two places at once. And men should be expected to pick up more of the slack on a regular basis, and that should be normal, not the exception. But we are still a long way from that. The first step might be to stop judging other women for their choices, because these choices have to be made. Each person has to make the best decision for them and their family.
Excellent point – people make needed choices and they may not be your choices.
Drew has been in the spotlight since she was what – three? So she probably does feel ancient in Hollywood years.
When I was pregnant with my first child, I had a networking lunch with an older woman who said something to me that sticks with me to this day: “You CAN have it all. Just not all at once.” I was complaining about my job and how I felt like I SHOULD be farther along in my career, etc. But that my current job was so flexible, decent money, and 5 minutes from home. Since then I’ve come to terms with the fact that this is my “baby job” (I’ve had another baby since then and they are currently 2 1/2 and 1) and that once they’re in school full time, I can refocus on my career if I want. I am 100% okay with that!
Thank you. I don’t have children, but I’m currently trying to get two different degrees and learn 3 languages, of course it’s not going great, your post gave me perspective.
My first child is 6 months old. My husband and I both have successful careers and work full time at high paying, high stress jobs.
I disagree that men will be seen as great dads if they leave work for childcare tasks. I think it is actually harder for my husband to leave work during the day, because people at his job barely register the fact that he has an infant at home because they didn’t see him walking around pregnant for nine months, and he didn’t take off three months for maternity leave. In fact, it is so difficult for him that I end up having to handle almost all of the daytime childcare issues (doctors appointments, sick days, daycare problems, etc.).
My point is that the lack of support for new dads in the workplace is just as damaging to women as it is to men, since wives end up picking up the slack for husbands. We need to change society’s perception of child care so that it becomes a gender neutral task.
I completely agree with you with regards to workplace support for paternal childcare (I live in Sweden where childcare is gender neutral, and it makes a HUGE, and fantastic, difference) but I think it’s a separate issue from women being judged whatever we do. To be fair it is in a large part *because* it is rare for a man to leave work for a childcare related reason, while they might face a practical obstacle as they don’t have any right to parental leave, they (in my experience) tend not to be judged and have their commitment to the job questioned.
Perfect and spot on!! Even my husband agrees that there is totally a double standard there.
wait… she’s pregnant again?
I like Drew–I don’t mind her gushing, so to speak. I saw this documentary about foster children a few months ago–she reminds me of the mom who was a former meth addict. She had 5 kids–but didn’t raise any of them for a good ten years, because she was too busy chasing her next fix. Well she finally got clean, got herself together, got married, got a job, and had all her kids with her–she was so excited. She was excited over the tiny little things—like eating dinner together, as a family, because she hadn’t been able to do that (through her own choices, she says) because of her addictions.
That’s kind of how I see Drew. She didn’t really have any parental guidance, from what I hear, got into drugs really early–she got married twice, right? And I know one was like a drunken Vegas hookup. I think now that she’s settled with someone nice and drug free, she’s so excited. I would be too. Maybe it’s just me–but if I was a famous whoever in Hollywood (if I ever made it in Hollyweird, I’d be a director/writer), I would be so paranoid about people that I meet. I wouldn’t ever go out or anything.
I think it’s a miracle that she she turned out pretty normal after the kind of childhood she had. Not many would have made it.
I dig Drew too. She had to do her ‘growing up’- mostly on her own, but w/everyone watching and commenting (the horror!)- I think she’s done a pretty good job. Always trying to make the world a more magical place.
Btw- I’d like to see that documentary you mentioned, Virgilia Coriolanus. Do you remember the name?
It’s called ‘First Circle’, directed by Heather Raye. I watched it on netflix.
What’s wrong with saying she’s promoting nothing? It’s true. Ever since she had her baby she’s only promoted her personal life (aka nothing) and it’s weird.
Personally I think she’s gunning to be a big lifestyle brand. She has taken baby steps with the makeup and the wine to feel out her niche and then she will go full on goop (except cheaper and less obnoxious). That’s what is up with all the domestic talk and self promotion. With Drew I don’t mind, I think it is a good next step for her.
I get not having it all. If some women want to try, have at it but I do get tired of feeling like I have to try to have it all. I’m not a modern woman or a good feminist if I don’t drive myself into the ground attempting to be everything to everyone? Bull. Sometimes it’s okay to focus on some things some of the time and other things at other times. I will support you ’til the cows come home if you want to do xyz but I think a true feminist will support you if you’ve had enough of that song and dance too.
Well, Drew, it happens to all of us…All of a sudden you go from running on people’s lawns to being the old crow who yells “get off my lawn”! I have always liked Drew…how sad was that part about being 14 and scared in her own apartment…she is someone who has overcome a bad childhood, addiction, and wild teen years, to run her own company, is married, children, etc. I respect that she doesn’t let her past dictate her present…
Love her, and yes it was sad to read that at 14 she was living alone. I didn’t even realize that was legal, she was still a child. Her mom always seemed like a flake, and sometimes you’re better off not having certain people in your life, even if they are family they can still be toxic to your life. And I agree with your comment about how she doesn’t let her past dictate her present. She’s been through a lot of rough patches in her life, but seems to have come out of all of it with her head on straight.
Maybe she puts her make-up on in the car before driving? At least I hope so.
Why did they style photos (the series at the end) to make her appear absolutely toasted? Or was she?
Her childhood sounds heartbreaking. But she seems to have found a place with her mother that isn’t consumed by bitterness, as it could have been. That says a lot about her capacity to forgive and empathize.
Aren’t red lights there to slap on some lipstick and fluff your hair? I see nothing wrong at all with her comment about doing makeup in the rear view mirror. I hardly think she’s doing it while she’s on the freeway!
Our eyes are not exactly the same. One eye is bigger than the other, same with eyelids. It’s just the way it is, no big deal. Go look in the mirror.
Huh? on the eye thing. I think her eye symmetry looks fine. I thought they made her look like she was high in the bottom photos, or at least goofy.
Maybe she does it while her husband is driving? I will definitely just grab my eye makeup and do it in the car if my husband is going to be driving.
I don’t know if it’s Photoshop or what, but her eyes in the cover photo are totally different from each other! Look at the crease on the right eye vs left… Weird.
My eyes are like that naturally. They probably didn’t Photoshop it. Most people aren’t symmetrical.
— “My body is never going to be all that and a bag of chips. I will never be that woman who gets up at 5am to exercise. I’d rather curl up with my husband and my dogs.”
Not curling up with the kids?
HA! ME TOO!! Bring on my furry friends!
(Junior- go turn on the tv and grab a pop tart!)
Kids like to be busier than your furkids; your soft coated compainions are always down for a cuddle and sleeping during the day.
LOL. Yes, my dog and two cats are all sleeping around me right now. Makes me tired just looking at them, they look so cozy!
Lol. Her daughter is about one and a half. They aren’t much for sitting still or cuddling at that age, as Sloane Wyatt says.
I like that she’s speaking out against the societal pressure to be some kind of supermom if you want to both work and have kids. We’re often plagued with guilt that when we’re at work we’re not spending enough time with our kids, and vice versa — we can’t win. She’s like the anti- lifestyle guru, which is refreshing.
I know I’m hopelessly out of fashion, but I just hate nails that scream for attention like that. Your nails should look well groomed so that your hands look well groomed so that you look well groomed overall. They should not look like you are in kindergarten and were allowed to choose your own manicure. I’ll have blue with sparkles! No! Just stop it! There, I’ve said it. Go ahead and hate me.
THIS!!!
I hate those pointy claw like ones that are popular now. How do people in normal jobs (and I have seen them) get anything done??
Ha!
Right???
I personally hate the different colored ring finger look. And french pedicures. So tacky.
She reminds me of Stevie Nicks in the b/w photo.
I like Drew Barrymore. I’ve always liked her. Whenever I see her in interviews, I cannot help but think she is a truly genuinely kind person. She’s always been hippy-child, so her silly-ness doesn’t bother me in the least. I think she’s grownup a LOT though, and it shows in her choice of words (aka thoughts on Miley).
This is the first time I’ve ever seen her comment so directly on her mom. Amazing. I think the only other times I read about her mom (from her pov) was when Jade did playboy like 3 months after Drew (ewww) and before that when Drew’s book little Girl Lost came out (maybe 24 years ago?).
I’m so happy to hear that she has all the feelings: guilt empathy and self preservation. It’s refreshing that she can unapologetically vocalize her need for distance from such a toxic person (who she probably “wishes” weren’t and hadnt always been a toxic narcissistic mess).
On a side note: I met her about 8 years ago and she said “any friend of [mutual friend] is a friend of mine.” And smiled her sweet Drew smile. 🙂
I’ve been a fan of Drew my whole life- well since ET. I’m 2years younger than her. Love her.
Meh. I’m happy that she’s happy. I guess that’s all I have to say on that.
As for the rearview makeup thing…She didn’t say it was *while* driving. I often do the rearview makeup thing, too, but it’s usually sitting in the parking lot after I’ve arrived at my destination and before I go in…..
I’m the same way, don’t like to talk raunchy when it comes to sex. During is different, bc I’m a freak behind closed doors, but I get embarrassed talking about my own sexuality, and am always shocked at how much information people tell me about their own sex lives…I don’t need specifics, thank you please.
Ah, the Madonna/Whore complex made it into 2014. I don’t think this comment is anything to lose sleep over, though. Just her opinion.
The media is a fascinating creature isn’t it , allowing us to all actually watched Drew grow up just as if she were a neighbours child , I’m feeling so old , I remember when this picture of Drew and Princess Diana was taken at the premier of ET in London.
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Original Hippy Chick Forever.
she makes me smile.
Whatever that lipstick is, I want it. (And it’s not Flower Beauty Rosebud, because I own that and it does not look like that at all.). I wish they’d just be clear that they blended these two liners, this professional line lipstick, a slick of Rosebud, and then photoshop. It bugs, the small lying.
I still love Drew! She’s just so herself.