The latest news in the soap opera of Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott’s marriage arrives with a decent pedigree. To briefly recap: Dean got in big trouble last December for allegedly cheating with a Canadian random named Emily Handjob Goodhand. The tabloids had a field day, but the general consensus is that Tori knew about Dean’s cheating for years. Dean and Tori weren’t seen together for weeks and then emerged for couple’s therapy. Then Dean entered rehab for his sex addiction while Star said he was cheating with dudes too. I’m not sure how much I believe at this point, but you knew that already.
Now People (via Radar Online) has talked to a source close to Tori, who says Dean is a very demanding husband in the bedroom. He basically wants it all the time, and Tori tried to be a good sport for years. I can’t blame her for not wanting to jump Dean’s bones all the time when they have four kids, you know? Details, please:
Tori Spelling “will never trust” husband Dean McDermott again, an insider said, noting that the couple’s sex life struggles – despite Tori’s best efforts to keep things spicy in the bedroom – are at the crux of issues plaguing them.
McDermott, 47, “has always been keen on having a very active and imaginative sex life,” a friend of the couple told People magazine, adding that Tori has “always made their sex life one of her top priorities.”
The problem, according to a source, is that the 40-year-old Spelling having four children “so quickly was life-changing,” and “it took a toll on her both physically and mentally,” letting some things – such as the sex life – fall by the wayside, perhaps.
“It’s always been important to her to keep her husband happy, even when it’s hard for her because she’s been sick or pregnant,” the source told the magazine. “So the fact that after all that, he cheated on her so publicly, is devastating.”
As for Tori’s current attitude about things, an insider said that while the TV princess “said she would never split up her family,” another source said that things are so bad, that just might happen.
“She just doesn’t know what she’s going to do,” the source said. “She could start with him; she could take it slow – the biggest fear was that he would cheat on her. She will never trust him again.”
An insider close to the Hollywood couple says that while Dean will “do everything in his power to bring her back,” his current rehab stint “is like providing first aid to a gushing wound.
“It’s going to stop the bleeding right now, but it’s going to take a long time to heal, and there are scars that will never go away. But it’s probably the only thing that can help them move forward as a couple.”
[From Radar Online]
Oh girl. I feel like a broken record, but I find it hard to believe that Tori seriously expected fidelity from Dean when he cheated on his first wife with her. Plus Tori cheated on her then-husband too! Tori will probably stay with Dean, and then he will cheat again. The saddest part in this entire affair is that Tori and Dean made four kids who will surely suffer for daddy’s misdeeds.
Here’s a cute photo from Tori’s Instagram. Little Hattie’s got personality.
Photos courtesy of Pacific Coast News & Tori & Dean on Instagram
How can something so cute come from those two!!
Nice thing to say from someone calling themselves crab.
Biotch!
Sex addiction and treatment for it is a bunch of bull. It boils down to utter selfishness. Guess rehab somehow makes it all better.
Judge much? I see you’ve never had to deal with an addiction, or any form of mental illness.
RJ – I’ve dealt with addiction and mental illness, both personally and with multiple members of my immediate family. And I call major bullshit on sex addiction – it’s selfishness, plain and simple. Possibly caused by a personality disorder such as sociopathy or narcissistic personality disorder, but here’s the kicker – ***Personality disorders are not mental illness*** So what else ya got in your big bag of misplaced empathy?
@Wik — I hesitated to say anything because I do agree for the most part. But I’m very curious about why you think personality disorders — which, quite frankly, they both might have — aren’t mental illnesses.
Is it because of the DSM-5 revisions that place boundaries between personality disorders and other disorders? Because the “other” in that sentence pretty clearly means that personality disorders are, indeed, among the entirety of all psychological disorders. They’re simply broadening their axes.
But I’ve seen the effects of too many genuine personality disorders. And perpetuating the notion that it isn’t “real” — that certain ones, like borderline personality disorder, are just euphemisms for toxic personalities — can be very, very harmful. Can you imagine suffering from something that’s completely out of your control, yet being judged as “not actually unwell”? These stigmas have to stop.
I think what WIK is trying to say is that a personality disorder is an overused term used to describe people who have a shitty personality or are basically not nice people. They don’t necessarily have any psychological problems they are just unpleasant & have toxic personalities.
Honestly I doubt he has sex addiction it sounds like he has wandering dong syndrome and apparently had it when he first hooked up with Tori since they were both married when they got together.
So agree.
You got it, starrywonder. They were both cheaters back then, and I think Dean may have been the major reason for Tori’s estrangement from her parents and brother. So, their relationship was doomed from the get-go.
Becky for the most part you’re right.
When a celeb claims sex addiction it’s usually a load of bs. It’s just the easy way. Rarely do I believe it is a true addiction to sex. I think he’s simply a cheater too who got caught (again) and took the easiest path to public redemption like so many before him..
Exactly. It’s just a way for him to avoid accountability. And now it’s her fault for “not keeping him happy.” Spare me.
Yeah, he’s a cheater.
Agreed. Sex addiction has become the go to phrase for men who can’t keep it in their pants. Which makes other addictions look trivial as well. Unfortunate.
I agree, so hate on me, but sex addiction is bull crap in my book.
It’s amazing how many celebrities suffer from “sex addiction” (aka got caught cheating) and “exhaustion” (aka drugs).
I’m sure it was a struggle for him to have sex with her. I’m amazed he was able to do it four times.
My thoughts exactly!
Eh. He’s no prize either.
He looks like a creepy, skeezy, greasy version of Stephen King
This. What else can you say with people like them. Big squirmy, germy gross mess. I like a clean man.
OMG Virgilia, he totally does! What has been seen cannot be unseen …
What an awful, wicked, nasty thing to say! Commenting on somebody’s looks like that is completely unacceptable when by all accounts, Tori is a down to earth, kind girl who loves her kids very much.
I’m sure you must feel like a hero, sitting anonymously behind your keyboard like that, knowing nobody can judge you so harshly. You should be ashamed of yourself.
Come now, the site is Cele-BITCHY, you must expect some nasty jibes. Tori is no saint. I agree she seems sweet and this is a sad story but no need to take swipes at the anonymous keyboardists.
Well yes normally I would agree but the level of vitriol levelled at this poor woman is out of proportion to anything she has done.
It is of Rimes proportions except that Rimes is genuinely a homewrecking, malicious, toxic piece of work who deserves all the criticism she gets.
Tori is a plain girl – not her fault – born into the madness that is Hollyweird and yet she seems particularly levelhaeded, nice and a great mum to boot.
To tear someone down for their looks like that when they are in fact a fairly decent person, seems disgracefully nasty, even for gossip blog forum standards.
Rant over.
clearly they’ve had sex four times. isn’t that enough?
This is going to sound cynical as hell, but considering this is in People Magazine I’m really starting to wonder if this whole thing was made “public” so they could get some interest in their reality type of show stuff.
Cynical, or realistic? Sigh. I think that everything that most celebs so is calculated and manufactured, especially those who are working the reality show angle. Reality shows based on peoples’ everyday lives are the worst thing to happen to television (I exempt the cooking and home shows because they’re just a snapshot).
As in, the “happy family” angle is too boring and doesn’t get enough buzz, so throw the Canadian to the wolves?
Cheaters will always cheat, forever and ever. Don’t buy the “it was a one time thing. A slip. I was drunk. I have a problem.” Cheaters will cheat again sooner or later because it’s very easy to fall into temptation. They have that propensity to fall for other people and not care about their partner. Some people would never ever do that no matter how big the temptation, it will never happen. Others can’t resist. Plain and simple. If you’re with a notorious cheater or you’ve been cheated on and you stay, know that this person was 100% aware of how this revelation would make you feel, and how much he/she still wanted to risk everything for that person. Don’t be those people that willingly blind themselves to the truth and stay expecting something very different from that person who delivered the opposite. Makes no sense. Only fools trust a person whose word has been proven to not be good. Sooner or later they’ll do it again.
Also, scientists and psychologists don’t really believe 100% in sex addiction. I’ve read stories everywhere on how so many experts are not exactly convinced. Google that stuf.
My read, too. If the jury of experts is still out, I’m not one to run with it.
I’m w/ you. So easy and convenient to label it as something beyond one’s control to absolve one’s self of personal responsibility/morality/loyalty…and on and on.
I don’t agree with that. Sometimes people do only cheat once and never again. I’ve seen it happen a lot (I also have a very personal experience that I won’t share), and I think people can change if they truly want to for themselves.
I don’t think that “once a cheater, always a cheater” rule is set in stone, either. I think if I get with a cheater then the odds that he’ll cheat will be higher than if I get with someone who has never cheated, but that’s about it. I just don’t think there are any hard and fast rules about humans, and I don’t believe it’s possible to really, truly know anyone besides myself. I can make good guesses, and I can have faith- but that’s not the same as knowing for sure.
Also…. whether or not personality disorders are considered to be mental illnesses is sort of up for debate. They are listed in the ICD-10, though… so if that’s the measuring stick- and it is- and personality disorders are listed in there with diagnosis criteria -and they are- then I’m not comfortable saying they aren’t mental illnesses. Usually PDs occur with other types of metal illness- you know, comorbidity. It’s hard to separate them from the other conditions with which they occur. Just putting that out there. If anyone cares, here’s a link to a 2002 British Journal of Psychiatry article about this very subject: http://bjp.rcpsych.org/content/180/2/110.full
@cletus
ICD-10 is largely for medical coding (read: billing) purposes.
I don’t agree. I cheated on my husband and it was the worst mistake I ever made. EVER. Nothing could persuade me to do it again. I hurt my husband, the man I love, more than anyone has ever hurt him. I risked my marriage and my family, for a brief, stupid fling. Almost losing him was horrendous and I have spent years earning back his trust. People learn from mistakes. I’m not saying Tori and Dean are the same sort of scenario, but you shouldn’t lump everyone together.
@MC — while I should probably reserve my sympathy for people who are cheated *on*, I do want to say how courageous you are for posting about your experience. People have such kneejerk, guttural reactions to cheaters that I’m impressed by how you put yourself out there.
I’m not married, but I was also unfaithful to someone I love, and I think about it every single day. I deserve that pain — I don’t feel sorry for myself — but you’re right; sometimes you just KNOW that you’ll never do it again. My particular “fling” was during the untreated, un-medicated throes of a manic episode, which is the only reason I was forgiven. But while I disassociated so entirely that I still don’t have any first-person memories of it, I refuse to forgive myself or dismiss my behavior as “symptomatic”. Because that leaves a window open, and if I’m ever that sick again, my mangled brain signals will tell me it’s okay, that I’ll be forgiven again, that it doesn’t “mean anything”. It means a lot. It’s not okay, and I’m not that person, and I will NEVER do it again.
So yeah, “once a cheater, always a cheater” really stings. But I deserve that sting, I guess.
I had the same experience as MC, only it was five months before my wedding. I am incredibly, unbelievably grateful that my husband (well, fiancé at the time) was able to forgive me. Even the idea of hurting him again like that is enough to make me cry. And in the years we’ve been married, we’ve grown so much closer– I truly do hope that there’s hope & redemption for cheaters, because I’ve found an incredibly kind & forgiving partner, and I respect him & me (& our relationship) too much to ever jeopardize it again.
You had the courage to realize your mistake and your husband had the forgiveness, compassion and great love to take you back. Dean and Tori on the other hand, so like alot of people,run off with the person they cheated with thinking that they will live happily ever after. They didn’t even bother to figure out what mistakes they made or why they cheated in the 1st place. HENCE the baggage is still there and history repeats itself–as with so many people who think they can run away from their problems and issue by grabbing a new mate.
Serious question though to the people who have strayed from their relationship (and not in a judgy manner): why? If you’ve discussed having an open relationship, that’s one thing. But how can you profess love someone and then do something so hurtful, probably *knowing* that it’s hurtful to them? Is it an “in the moment” thing? Self-esteem-“I feel valued”? If you don’t want to be there/aren’t attracted to them as much anymore (and there’s not extenuating circumstances like abuse preventing you from leaving) then why stay? Why not just offer a clean break?
I can’t say what my reaction would be if my spouse cheated–we’ve been together almost half our lives and we’re 28 so I’m multiple relationship ignorant–but even during our stressful moments about money, school, familial race relations, and medical problems, I’ve never thought about it. It doesn’t make me better or worse either, I just have trouble understanding it considering I’ve watched the carnage that it always enviably leaves behind.
MonicaQ, this is my issue with cheating.
I had what could be termed an “emotional” cheating experience with a coworker. We never touched each other and it never got physical-just emails and what have you. I liked him even though I love my husband, and I’ve come to terms with that part of it-we’re all human of course.
But all I did for the two years that this happened was agonize and beat myself up about how much it would hurt my husband if we were to let it get physical and if I were to “actually” cheat. I knew EXACTLY HOW MUCH damage I would be doing to both of our lives and I knew EXACTLY HOW MUCH he would have been hurt by it. Eventually, I broke off contact with the coworker, and he is now married.
This is why I don’t understand people who cheat. I am sitting here and admitting that I considered it myself, so I’m not above anyone, but when people use the defense of “I didn’t realize how much it would hurt the other person,” or “I didn’t realize the effects of what I was doing,” it makes me go a big rubbery one. Like I said, I was very precisely aware of all of the possible outcomes and I never once doubted that if I “actually” cheated that my husband would be devastated.
It’s pretty basic to me. EVERYONE KNOWS THAT CHEATING HURTS THE OTHER PERSON. EVERYONE. There is no grey area for cheating.
I can only speak to why for myself. I also want to note that I never slept with the other person, but other things happened. It was a horrible year for me. I was dealing with depression (it’s been something I’ve battled since puberty), my brother tried to commit suicide twice and my life felt like it was falling apart and out of control. Via Facebook, back into my life comes an old friend. We’d both had serious crushes on each other in the past, but had never both been single at same time. Innocent chats, turned to flirting, turned to more. Worst year of my life.
It’s not a decision I would make now, or ever again. It was a MASSIVE mistake. Even when I was doing it, I still loved my husband and never wanted to be without him. If it makes no sense to you, I’m not surprised. It makes no sense to me. Suffice it to say, I’m with a wonderful man who was able to, over time, forgive me and move forward. We went to counseling and I listened to every single thing he had to say to me, bad or good. I’ve beat myself up plenty and it’s deserved. I will never forget how much he cried and suffered. It’s my own burden to bear, that I brought on myself.
I don’t usually tell my story. NO ONE in our families knows or our friends. Only my best friend. I’m telling it here to show that some people make mistakes and learn from them.
never mind. 🙂
Not always, it depends on what’s going on with the person. Sometimes it is, a mistake. I have a family member who cheated once, and felt the guilt and paid for it, for years. It’s rare–but not impossible. I think the majority of the time, yes, cheaters don’t just cheat ONCE. I have a second cousin who cheats on all of his SOs, with his future SOs. His current wife dated him for 8/10 years that they were together, and is now shocked and shaken that GASP! my cousin wants to go out to clubs and meet and sleep with other women–which is what he was doing when they got together. In Dean’s case–yes. I call bs on a sex addiction. Russell Brand had a sex addiction—Dean just had a ‘I don’t want to keep it in my pants’ issue that was entirely of his own making.
@Virgilia, this is exactly how my ex was. We were together for a decade and I found out he cheated the week of our 10yr anniversary. He hadn’t wanted to be with me for a while, possibly years, but he didn’t want to be single so he faked it until he found some new bimbo and then ended it. He moved her shit in the day I moved out. Some people are just cowards who feel a “need” to be with someone so they pull that crap because it benefits them.
Ha, my ex did this too except he had also gotten his bimbo pregnant.
Geez–I’m glad you got rid of that douche, or that douche is out of your house, so you can move on. My mom has always told me that she used to tell all of her boyfriends this—if you don’t want me anymore, just tell me, and I will gladly move my shit out of the house, etc.
I would rather have my SO tell me that he doesn’t love me anymore, we’re not working out, etc–and actually MEAN IT (not just some bs so he can move another piece in)–and see if we can either FIX IT, or separate, amicably—I know that it would hurt either way, but I would rather have him be honest with me.
In my cousin’s case–I’m not sure if his wife knew, until the very end, because she was actually sweet and nice—but I do know that she filed for divorce and threw him out. And now he’s doing the same thing to the current wife–and she can’t even talk. She actually moved a street away from him, about a year into their relationship, so he could go and see her whenever.
You know what? I hate the ‘cheaters will always cheat’ thing.
I cheated once, many years ago, and haven’t done it since.
Sometimes, cheaters learn not to repeat their mistakes. We all (try to) learn (I hope).
By the way, McDermott seems like a waste of space, but that’s not my point…heehee!
I feel for the kids but I want Candy Spelling to go all Hollywood-wife on this situation.
His eyes are tiny and very close together. She looks like Smeagol. Their children will probably be stunning.
Haha! So glad you said this! I wince just looking at him. They both have… Unusual facial features.
Seriously what is he without Tori? A squinty cheater freeloader. Yuk.
Handjob—> lol.
As for Tori’s latest gossip…meh!!!! I wouldn’t even be surprise if it’s another way of her for getting a public attention.
I hope she finds the strength to leave him, I think he’s a real piece of crap. I’ve watched the shows and I believe he was sexually demanding and controlling in the bedroom( what a turn off) . Those kids are the true victim .
Her mother has always called him a golddigger and would welcome her and her kids back with open arms if she ditches his butt. Frankly any guy that walks out on his wife and their newly adopted child for another woman pretty much shows that he is not all about his wedding vows anyway (not that Tori is any better in that respect).
I think he thought he had hit the jackpot and was surprised to see that no money came their way and their craptastic reality shows were not doing it for them either. Combine that with the fallout from Tori’s last book he probably decided to start sniffing around to see what other woman he could con for her money and time. Ugh.
Do you read Lainey? She’s always loathed the two of them and compared him to Kevin Federline back in the day. I just went back and read her posts on them since they got together-and he really is just gross.
HappyMom yep I read Lainey religiously. She cracks me up and yeah she has loathed the crap out of the two of them for years. It seems like everyone forgets how they got together and why her mom really stopped talking to her (not to steal money but since she saw grifter all over Federline Jr.)
Yeah, I think that Dean has ALWAYS been a cheater, but with his acting career (they met on a movie set right?) level, he wasn’t ever going to really meet actresses that came from money like Tori—so I fully believe that he probably hit on her, they slept together, maybe she was dickmatized into thinking it was ‘true luuuurve’, and he was like SWEET! because she’s got money (or so he thought), and was all set to get his greasy paws on it, until Papa Spelling’s like hell to the no–no greasy, squinty thing with a wandering dong is getting his hands on MY money for laying on my daughter’s stomach–no sir. So when he dies, Tori gets squat, and Dean keeps getting Tori pregnant so when/if they divorce, he gets some form of child support.
And God–Dean can’t even say that he and Mary Jo were unofficially separated or anything like that (like Miranda and Orlando)–they were adopting a child together. Those adoption people go over your life like a fine tooth comb, and there are several home visits. That’s what makes it even more disgusting to me. They weren’t having problems and then Dean said screw it, I’m out—they were getting ready to add onto their family. Mary Jo’s lucky that his dumbass self didn’t mess up the adoption process…..
Virginia yep that is what makes me loathe his squinty eyes too. You don’t go through with an adoption and say hey babe I’m out. I got a meal ticket peace. He sucks.
So if he has been cheating for years, he surely cheated on her while she was pregnant, that too me is the ultimate scum move.
He probably used that as an excuse!
Love how he’s justifying his behavior by blaming HER. What a jack-a$$.
It’s typical. He’s certainly not going to take responsibility for it.
Dean’s looking really, really, rough these days not that I ever thought he looked good)….I’m wondering if he has other addictions besides sex….maybe alcohol…
I have a hard time feeling sorry for Tori since she knew he was married (with kids) when she started boning him. Now she wants us to feel bad for her and the kids? What am I missing? Is this revisionist hisTORI? That can be the title of her next book. B!tch please.
I kind of like “TORrid”!
His behavior is disgusting beginning with leaving his wife and child in the middle of another child being adopted.
I’d like to know how this affects his Food Network contract.
Has anyone seen his new show – Chopped Canada?
It’s awful…maybe his revolting personal life coupled with how awful the show is gets him fired.
Bedhead, you were supposed to phrase it in the form of a question or it doesn’t count.
Here’s your category:
“Things I don’t want to know about” for a 1000, Alex.
I still don’t know if this story is true or all made up.
Anyway it sucks for the children. About that, can I say little Hattie is the prettiest of Tori’s bunch? The others are super cute too but she’s a doll!
Gushing wound indeed.
I have compassion for Tori…as my ex husband cheated ( for years with prostitutes ) he claimed he had a sex addiction, so i tried to support him and it took me two years to understand that i was married to a covert narcissist. But I left two years ago and i can be happy again and do not have to second guess myself all the time!
Sorry you had to go through that Laura, I wish I had known about it sooner too. Finding out about narcissistic personality disorder and covert narcissists completely changed my life. “Personality disorders and how to spot them” should be a mandatory school subject – too many of us have wasted too many years on people who are genuinely incapable of empathy.
WORD.
You are so right…usually codependent and care takers are usually attracted to narcissists! If only i knew what i know now!
I just don’t feel bad for her. She cheated with him when he had a wife and kids. Now she knows what his ex-wife went through.
YES! I know people keep bringing up their unfaithful origins, but seriously… this is the right way to look at it. Now she knows how Mary Jo — a woman whose feelings she dismissed entirely when she decided to actively pursue Dean — felt during their “blissful” first days as a couple.
A neighbor was married to a man who wanted sex every night and she basically accomodated him for years and years. They got married in their early 40s. They were in their mid fifties. He still wanted sex every night and she was in menopause and was over sex every night. They went into therapy and he just refused to see there was a problem, that it was a chore to her and she wanted to have time to desire him, not know it was coming every single night. And she tried to explain in her fifties she just didn’t want to have sex every night. This was a great guy if you met him, but he was beyond selfish on this one subject. They had other issues with their adult children from previous marriages, but she divorced him mainly over this. But the one thing he never would have done is cheat and didn’t. So just because Dean has a high libido, that doesn’t give him the excuse to say I’m a sex addict and why I cheat. Blah, blah.
IKR? God blessed him with two working hands for a reason.
+1000000000000000000000000000
Your comment made me laugh…..
Okay, I LOL’d hard at this. So spot on, and funny! 😀
Awww. When the ex-Wife gets to smile and say see Bitch. You took a problem off my hands actually. You thought he was with you because of love and it was sex. Sex issue he clearly still has that Tori’s inherited. Lucky girl. Good luck with that.
I don’t necessarily agree with…once a cheater, always a cheater…..in my case, I stupidly cheated once. He couldn’t get over it and I was the wrongful party…he was the wronged…I still regret it , even though we’ve been divorced 15 years. And revenge sex? He didn’t do that ro me, but I doubt it’s a healthy thing…bottom line…we had a lousy sex life and I was bored, but it was srill my fault. It’s just not worth it…I hurt him too much. I had a friend whose husband cheated. They’ve stayed together for 30 years…so each case is different. It’s irresponsible and mean for Dean to make their sex life public and essentially blame her for his mess-up.
I definitely agree.
As I’ve said before, I’ve seen both types of cheating–one, where it truly was a mistake and the person felt guilt and shame, and still feels it to this day–two, where the person is just a cheater. Like the story I told above–about my second cousin–the screwed up thing was, when he divorced his wife, and got engaged to the mistress, we were having family parties at my grandma’s house, over the summer. He kept bringing this woman, and we all assumed it was his fiancee (we hadn’t met her before)–we didn’t meet the woman he is currently married to now until their WEDDING. We were all WHO IS THAT???? At the wedding. The wedding.
Just because they stayed together doesn’t mean he stopped cheating or they are happy. I know lots of unhappily married couples.
Oh, Tori, Tori, Tori…. How you got him is how you’ll lose him.
He didn’t cheat on her because of their “sex life struggles.” He cheated on her because he’s self-centered and selfish and refuses to accept that he cannot always have just what he wants, just when he wants it. Me, me, me. This idiot needs to learn to stop thinking about himself all the damn time and think of his wife. Learn what ‘delayed gratification’ means, cheater.
he cheated because he is a cheater. There is always a reason people do things. Not sure why people feel they need to dig so deep.
The only logical thing to do is have him castrated. Problem solved.
No sympathy for her from me. What goes around comes around. And BS on the sex addiction claim. All that is is an attempt to deflect responsibility from himself to an ‘illness’. I can’t help it, i’m sick. Balogna! What’s funny is Tori didn’t care about his “addiction” back in the day, but now that it’s negatively affecting her, she’s hurt. Like I said, no sympathy. Now you know how it feels. Aint Karma a biotch?!
It’s rare that it’s smooth sailing for people who don’t have the courage to face their real issues, but instead think they can run from one person to another. It’s very rare that sex itself is the real problem or that the new woman or man is more attractive then the former spouse. Deep insecurities often exist inside someone that cheats. Men have been trained to think that it’s weak to go to counseling or do any kind of seep examination of their character. It’s easier to use sex as a buffer to solve to try to solve their problems. People who have started their relationships through adultery may stay together, but the marriage or partnership is usually filled with alot of turmoil and distrust. I’ve seen that in my own family as well as in famous examples: Liz & Dick, Vivien Leigh and Larry Olivier, Hugh Hefner and all of his former wives–and lets not be so surprised if we hear reports of Brad and Angelina in the future. They may look great together and maybe Jen A. might not have been the right person for Brad, but something tells me that they’re pretty much all about appearances now.
While I agree that Dean is most likely a cheater there are some mental disorders where a person will act out sexually as a form of self harm and poor impulse control (like bipolar) so don’t be too quick to judge. BUT I’m not buying the sex addiction angle here.
It’s the first time I read about Dean doing dudes too but as a hot gay dude, it does not surprise me, you wouldn’t believe the amount of men out with their families who hit on me, undress me with their eyes and one of them even hit on me in front of his wife who if looks could kill…
What a PIG!
If this sex addiction is real *eye roll* then they knew about it for years and their only solution so far was for Tori to cater/enable his addiction and have more kids. Do you know how crazy this sounds? Substitute drug or alcohol for sex and who wouldn’t want to blame the enabler too? Both of them should just stay together. They’re nuts & nobody else should be stuck with crazy.
I know a couple whom everyone thinks is “perfect” whose wife cheats on her husband. Cheating happens more often than one would think and most people don’t want to admit that.
My bf cheated on me one time in a drunken fumble with an ex-gf and I picked him up from that party that night! I had a year long affair with a good friend of ours too, both things came out at the same time, we have forgiven each other. Once a cheater, always a cheater is BS. Women like me cheat because they are lacking something emotionally, attention, sex (mixed with love), etc. Men cheat sometimes because its offered to them (like my bf was offered). I wasn’t mad at him honestly. It happens. An emotional affair is far worse than a straight one-nighter.
Is Dean a sex addict? Russell Brand is but Dean? How about he has too many kids and his wife is never available/free to give any? I have seen this a lot when kids come along. Why people should think long and hard before kids, it is shocking how one’s lives change. Why I don’t want kids.
I really respect your honesty, Andrea. I think cheating is overly common, and like many things, can become a really bad habit (especially if picked up early in one’s dating life). I also agree that with enough personal determination and resolution, a person can change their behavior (and hopefully reduce their urges).
It doesn’t have to be called sex addiction, I agree. He’s just a horny bastard. It’s too bad there isn’t a good socially acceptable solution for two people why may still love each other but whose sex drives don’t match up at that point in their lives. Maybe they had a solution but she’s really mad about him getting caught. The damage to their family image is probably not good for earnings.