These are some new photos of big bad Dean McDermott leaving an outpatient rehab center on Friday evening. We’ve heard for weeks about how Dean is desperately trying to keep his pants up to save his marriage to Tori Spelling. I’m still giving the side eye to this entire cheating scandal and Tori in general. This week’s issue of People says Dean is trying SO hard: “He’ll do anything in his power to won her back. Tori and the kids are his life.” People also adds that Tori is “somber” and “confused” and feels like she did everything she could to keep Dean happy, but he cheated anyway.
There’s also a big section in the magazine devoted to how Tori worked herself ragged to keep Dean happy in the bedroom. This isn’t new news. She famously got pregnant with their fourth child, Finn, one month after she gave birth to Hattie because (as People says) Tori “didn’t want him to think that the sex was going downhill.” The whole People story (which we also talked about last Friday) is obviously a plant from Team Tori. We’re supposed to feel bad for her even though she broke two marriages to get with Dean. Now he cheats on her all over the place (and with dudes too), but I don’t see it. Is Dean hot? Do women and men want to drop their drawers for him? How mysterious. Here’s the latest from Radar:
Tori Spelling’s love rat husband has made a senses shattering confession!
In rehab for the “mistakes” he has made and the “pain” he has caused his family, Dean McDermott has privately admitted to his devastated wife that he cheated with as many five in the last two years while married, RadarOnline.com has been told.
The 47-year-old father-of-five came clean during therapy and said most of the women he cheated on Spelling with were hook-ups whilst he was traveling, a source claimed. “He was forced to finally admit the truth to Tori,” the insider said.
“Making matters worse, Dean admitted to not always using protection during the encounters. It’s the ultimate betrayal for Tori and she probably won’t be able to ever forgive him for that. It’s one thing to cheat, but another to have unprotected sex,” claimed the source.
McDermott allegedly cheated on Spelling, 40, with a woman named Emily Goodhand, who claimed she had sex with the actor during a two-day romp at the Fairmont Royal York Hotel in Toronto, last December. Goodhand claimed McDermott told her he was in a “sexless marriage” with the ex-90210 actress.
As we first reported, the Spelling It Like It Is author complained to friends that her husband wanted to have sex with her on a daily basis, even after staying up all night with their newborn son.
“Dean wants sex from her 24/7,” a source previously revealed. “Their sex life when they first hooked up was wild and kinky. Of course, they didn’t have children and were very uninhibited.
“Dean would always throw it in Tori’s face that their sex life wasn’t as hot as it used to be. Well how could it be? They now have four children and Tori would stay up with Finn all night when he was fussy.
“The last thing Tori would want to do is have sex and yet Dean would be ready to go! He even accused Tori of paying more attention to their children!”
Admitting that he took “full responsibility for my actions,” McDermott voluntarily checked himself into a treatment center to “address some health and personal issues,” as RadarOnline.com was first to reveal.
However, despite the therapy, the reality star is allowed to leave to visit his and Spelling’s four children – Liam, 6, Stella, 5, Hattie, 2, and Finn, 15 months – at their house.
[From Radar Online]
If this story is true, then Dean deserves a huge serving of “bitch, please.” Of course sex is important to a marriage, but children should come first. Kids have a way of making sure they come first, and that’s just part of raising a family. Of course Tori and Dean obviously enjoyed a fruitful sex life if they’ve managed to procreate four times. Tori did have a very difficult fourth pregnancy, but I doubt she’s hung Dean out to dry in the aftermath. They were doing it a month after Tori gave birth to Hattie, so I don’t think one more child would stop their sex life in its tracks. As far as Dean wanting it 24/7, he should grow up.
Not that I totally believe this story. Tori is very media savvy. Even if she really wanted to divorce Dean, I think it’s more important to her to keep generating public interest in her brand.
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She got a real gem.
She got exactly what she bargained for. They were both married to other people when they took up with each other. When the mistress marries the man, she creates a job vacancy…
Exactly. What do you bet he was telling her how frigid his first wife was when they were cheating together? Marry a cheater who cares about nothing but sex and surprise! He cheats and cares about nothing but sex. Duh.
Yes. I remember reading something years ago in which Tori remarked the if she ever turned Dean down he got upset – worried thier sex life was ‘drying up’ like it did in his first marriage (fridid wife implied and blamed). At that point Tori was laughing at his whiny pressure, now not so much. His definition of sexless marriage sounds skewed and self-serving.
You are so right. I’m always surprised at that number of women who walk around saying, “He’d never do that to me”.
Let’s not forget she did it to her husband at the time too. She’s got no room to talk.
Well, she’s not a “poor victim” either. She was married when she started a relationship with Dean and later, she made terrible tweets to Mary Jo. So yes, no sympathy to her.
Off to give my brain a shower. The headline was ample warning, but no, I had to keep reading….
lol, THIS
The pictures of him alone just make my skin crawl.
Uggggh! I know!! Dude looks like a friggin Cyclops.
LOL. So true.
I hate these stories about how the wife is frigid so *of course* the husband is cheating. Do I think lack of a sex life in a marriage is a big deal – yes. Do I think it excuses bad behaviour – absolutely not.
That being said, many women make the choice to put their children ahead of their marriage and it can be a fatal error to a couple. We’ve always tried to make our relationship central in the family, because without us as a happy couple, the family doesn’t exist in the same way. It doesn’t mean we love our kids less – we cherish them – but we acknowledge that our relationship comes first.
Tori is obvs spinning hard here – the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle. But wouldn’t she just love a “Single Tori, Struggling Mom of 4” reality show.
I was just thinking about this from the perspective of someone who has a toddler. The first few months after you have a baby are SO incredibly overwhelming and exhausting that OF COURSE you won’t have sex as much as you did before. Not to mention – breast feeding kills your sex drive almost completely, so sex basically becomes something that you have to put conscious effort into. Plus if you have several kids, like Tori, that cannot be easy on you physically or mentally. If this story is true, he’s even a bigger a$$ than he appears to be.
Ha, if paying more attention to my children than my husband is a “fatal error”, then he can kick rocks. I have actual children to worry about, so the big baby can find something online and take care of himself….I’m freaking busy.
Yeah sorry, baby first- if husband can’t control himself until I heal and get some sleep… Bye!! Don’t let the door hit you on the way out!
I have a 3 month old and a 3 year old, luckily we are both so tired this isn’t an issue!! Lol
LOL. I hear you! My daughter comes first and always will.
Maybe if HE was tired from working and taking care of children, instead of just being a lazy, spoiled brat, he’d be less interested in sex too. Doesn’t look like he misses many meals, does it?
I have two children under 5, and there have been nights where I’m feeling amorous and my husband is too worn out and stressed out to be into it. Other times it’s the opposite and I’m the one who’s falling asleep through dinner. But we make the time. Not every day, of course.
There is a very easy way to remind your partner how tiring children can be – leave him alone with the kids all day. Having time out yourself is good for you and gets him to remember they are his children too. You will find that he is the one wanting an early night, and not for sex but for sleep!
There’s a difference between making your relationship a solid foundation of your family and putting your children first. Should her child being fed come first? Yes. Should her child being dry come first? Yes. Should her child feeling comforted and safe come first? Yes. Should her getting some rest come first? Yes. Should her healing come first? Yes. Husbands should NEVER come before any of the aforementioned. If his sexual needs take priority over any of that, they shouldn’t be having children. If his issue is actually a mental problem (which I doubt), it’s on him, not her. I don’t think there’s any truth somewhere in the middle. He sounds like a first rate dbag and she’s a fame hungry has been who’ll use all this to her advantage.
My God…he is so repulsive….on every level.
+ 1
Agreed on him being repulsive.
On another note, I just don’t see him as some type of sex-crazed guy who has to have it all the time. He seems more like a whimpering puppy licking at your heels begging for attention. I guess he just annoyed me last year on that Celebrity Cook-off Show with Racheal Ray and Guy Fieri. He just seemed whiny.
Well if this is for press then she totally got me. I didn’t pay much attention to her before this whole cheating thing. But what did she think was gonna happen when she married a cheater?
More attention to the kids than me… Gee… What a bad woman that Tori is.
Exactly. What did he expect when they had 4 children? Of course the kids are going to come before sex. Yes, there does need to be a balance in relationships and of course we will never know the true story between these two, but this makes him sound more of douche.
I think everybody would avoid sex with him, he’s a pig (I know she’s far from perfect, I don’t like her but he’s really disgusting)
If this is just a ploy to bring publicity to themselves, then they are more horrible than I even thought. Their children will be old enough to read about daddy’s little adventures before long…and if its all true, they need to try and rein in all these stories about their sex life (of lack of) for the exact same reason….their children!!!!
Well…I wouldn’t fuck him either.
Hahahaha!!
ditto +1000
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Uh, helllllooooooo, kids SHOULD be more important than sex.
Really. How dare she pay attention to a screaming baby or a toddler about to fall down the stairs when her husband wants sex? And she calls herself a wife.
Oh I’m sorry, is that suppose to be a bad thing? F-cking loser!
Is it Horrible Men day? I need some Hiddles, stat.
I second the Hiddles request! Preferably wearing velvet or waffling earnestly about life and love…
I know. I feel gross on all levels.
Yuck! What a douchebag!
Oh and did she really stayed up all night taking care of her children? I think some nanny did, not Tori, but whatever.
Taking overshare to a whole new level
This woman was either dumb and marry a man, who cheated his first wife or it is just a publicity stunt
Ahhhhh hell, is that how marriage is supposed to be? I forgot I was supposed to ignore my children’s needs and drop panty every time hubs gets that gleam in his eye.
I wonder how he came up with the number 5. And what about the guys he supposedly hooked up with? Seriously skeevy. I feel bad for their children-but she knew what she was getting: a married guy with little kids who cheats.
That reminds me of an episode, in season 3, of Scandal. Kerry Washington’s character, Olivia, asks the President’s wife–Mellie–how many times did they (she and the President, Fitz) have sex i.e. what are they going to tell the press.
I’m cynical enough to believe that that’s what’s going on–this bs is coming from Tori. No way it was just 5 women—five times–he’s probably been double teaming her, since he double teamed his 1st wife.
Um, thats NORMAL. We can all be thankful our mothers cared more about us!! I sure hope there are more important priorities in peoples lives!
“We’re supposed to feel bad for her even though she broke two marriages to get with Dean”
I take umbrage with this part of the story. Shouldn’t he be held accountable for the downfall of his first marriage? I hate this ongoing narrative of the home wrecking woman and the poor dumb schmuck so easily lured away from his family.
I agree. They are both scumbag cheaters.
I also hate how only some celebrities are held accountable for adultery while others – “We don’t know that they cheated. It has been PROVEN they did not cheat”!
One of the celebrities who gets away with murder? Jerry Seinfeld met his wife before her first marriage, and they started hooking up when she returned from her honeymoon. No one ever knows this story.
I thought *everybody* knew that story.
The obvious example of your scenario would be PT/AJ.
I’m feeling pretty dumb. I’m assuming on AJ, but not sure of PT. I should have said, no one ever “speaks” this story.
Forgive my ignorance, but who are PT and AJ?
Yuck…he looks like he smells and needs a shower…who knows where he has been..Nasty!!
He is pretty skeezy looking.
There are 5 kids out there who have to hear this crap about their father. Just remember that, Tori, and don’t use this to generate interest. If Dean sucks, then he sucks, but there are kids who call him Daddy that have to know about this.
Yeah, and she was the one who complained about a mag having their pic on the cover with the word “divorce” on it. She was worried about her kids seeing it and being affected by it. Then she puts all this crap out there just to keep people’s interested in them. Sick!
Good Lord. There is so much wrong with this story, I don’t know where to begin. May this be a cautionary tale for any woman who thinks “he’ll be different for ME!!!”.
Leaving a wife while in the final stages of an adoption process says a lot. I realize two marriages ended when their whirlwind began, but how his first family was treated speaks volumes. Why is his current wife so surprised?
Mary Jo shows great restraint by not openly gloating. It’s just sad there are more kids involved.
I just can’t get over that part in the whole story. Especially as someone who does want to adopt–it’s not like you (a relatively fertile person) deciding to have a baby i.e. get pregnant. It takes a lot of time and effort, your life is gone over with a fine tooth comb, classes you have to take (depending on the state/country), tons of paperwork, many, many home visits, etc—and I’m sure that the minute they think there are cracks in a couple, they pounce on that, to make sure that it’s a stable environment for the child.
So it’s not like they were unofficially separated, or whatever bs line you can think of—there was absolutely no reason for Mary Jo to think that her husband wasn’t totally committed to her. No reason.
If I was Mary Jo, I would’ve put on my smuggest, bitch-iest face and said ‘no comment’ (and made sure they got it on tape).
And I don’t understand why Tori is surprised. I have a second cousin who is a serial cheater–his current wife was his girlfriend for 8/10 years that he was married to his first wife. They got married about a month after his divorce was final. For some reason, she thinks it’s odd that he’s always wanting to go out and meet other women—THE SAME THING THAT HE DID WHILE HE WAS DATING HER. That’s how they met. He had a wife at home, and he was out prowling for some strange, and she knew it, and didn’t care. In fact, a year into their relationship, she moved a street away from my cousin, so he could have easy access to her. And now she’s pissed off that he’s doing the same thing he’s always been doing.
Virgilia, it boggles my mind that people like your cousin put up with this cr*p.
I believe there are people who make mistakes and learn from them.
But the behaviour your cousins husband showed towards his first wife for YEARS…there’s some people who deliberately enjoy hurting and humiliating others for their own pleasure.
I love their reality show TBH.
Me too. I genuinely felt that they loved each other and I want to believe this is some publicity hoax, but I’m not so sure it is. Not gonna lie, I was sad to read all the recent press.
What is TBH?
To Be Honest
To be honest abbreviated.
“To Be Honest”
My ex husband complained too that we did not have sex enough, so that is why in his mind he cheated with prostitutes….Men always find this excuse, to “legitimate” their actions.
How f*cked up is it that we are receiving direct quotes from his therapy sessions? I know we are to take all this reporting with a grain of salt but that totally creeps me out. Is NOTHING private anymore?
Tori, you married a cheater and you are a cheater. How did you think this would end? Only difference between you and LeAnn is that LeAnn has the money to pay Eddie’s side pieces to keep quiet so she can continue to pretend they are soooo happeeeeeee!
This makes me never want to get married. Ever.
Aww – don’t let it do that. Just don’t marry a douche and you’ll be fine!
Real men are not like this. I only have two babies…both by csection. And I had to have adequate time off from sex. Plus, I had no sex drive due to kmy post partum body and scars. Plus, I nursed all day, every day. Yet, my husband waited patiently and never tried to pressure me. Real men can control their sex drives. Do not let beady eyed, dough boys like Dean make you think all men are similar. Marriage in Hollywood have little merit.
If I had to do it all over again, I would have acquired a degree early on, gotten a decent paying career, got knocked up by the best breed stud I could find, and have kids on my own. A successful woman can always get good child care, yes it’s hard but possible. I’ve had the best lovers in my life being a single mom. I was involved in his formative years and brushed off my dim libido until my child was older. It’s so possible to be loved, but also independent of “marriage ownership”. Don’t’ get married! GEt a good paying career!!]
Don’t marry an a-hole. We had the fussiest baby ever and I was so constantly exhausted that we didn’t have sex with our first for months. Like, five or six months. I’m sure my husband just jerked off in the shower or when he was alone, like a real man. 🙂 Now our littles both go to bed and six and the rest of the evening is our time and things are great. No excuses for cheating.
She’s supposed to, you stupid ass. I would dump him so fast his head would spin.
His eyes are really close together.
A sign of deceitfulness. They teach you that in profiling. It’s a fact. Every single person I’ve known with close-set eyes has been a liar. And look at Casey Anthony. Scary. He’s a d-bag anyways.
The anatomical placement of your eyes on your face has nothing to do with your personality or deceitfulness. It’s not a fact.
It is, actually. They teach you in profiling, in the military, policing and special forces. It denotes deceitfulness.
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haha what?
Yeah and it doesn’t help that they’re attached to a gigantic head.
I didn’t really get my sexuality back until my son was 4/5. His dad was a douche about it too…it’s like, show some patience or get the F*cK out. I divorced him, and time and space showed me he was dysfunctional, and it’ wasn’t my “fault” for not “supplying him”.
She has, what, two kids under 5? Still, it’s not about his sexual chi, it’s about his narcissistic tendencies. King baby needs to step off. She’s successful, smart and hard working. I’m not as hateful of her as most of you on here because I read her books. She had this fantasy about a family life, and she’s really tried her best. Yeah the guy was a cheater, etc, but he duped her big time, as all men of his ilk tend to do. Aside from his emotional retardation, he is a hunky man, and obviously a good stud. Hopefully she can lose this useless piece of flesh (Dean), let her kids grow up and start having a steady love/ supportive partner when they are all sleeping through the night.
If they knew that Dean was a ‘sex addict’ *cough*, then why did Tori not use contraceptives to avoid getting pregnant again, which seems to result in having less sex with him? It’s like counteractive. It’s like she’s purposely sabotaging her efforts to keep Dean ‘satisfied’ because taking care of more children is what Dean is complaining about.
I wonder if Tori thought having more kids would make Dean be more loyal to her and/or if she thought it would be good for the reality show?
Anyways, I put some of the blame on Tori, because if she knew Dean was a ‘sex addict,’ then she should have insisted he get into therapy ASAP and not create more kids to complicate the situation. She also could have left him after the first or second kid. Every passing year, Tori kept digging herself deeper in this mess.
Ew , Ew and Ew
He’s such an arrogant douche, but really who could possibly shocked? He abandoned his family, including a daughter whose adoption was not finalized, for a woman he’d known a couple of weeks. Tori had her therapist call and tell her then husband she was leaving him,because she was too selfish to do it herself. They are both selfish, attention seeking idiots. The fact that their marriage is imploding would seem like karma if there weren’t a gaggle of children involved. The kids are the only ones I feel for.
Eggs-actly.
Therapists will do that?! Holy hell.
“feels like she did everything she could to keep Dean happy, but he cheated anyway. ” Eh, I’m guessing his first wife thought the same thing.
Do feel bad for the kids though.
I wonder if he bullied her into having sex and that just makes me mad and sad at the same time. She probably just gave in and said – fine – and then she ended up pregnant with Finn. Dean’s attitude, appearance and whiney behavior are enough to turn the love meter way down. Tori deserves more and I forgive her for how the whole affair with Dean started. She has paid her dues and deserves to be happy with a real man.
I agree with the poster above who said he seems more like a whiner than a bully. Neither one is a good look.
Granted, he’s a creepy arsehole and taking care of kids come before his sexual appetite. But, how did these stories get released? Don’t either of these people have an ounce of dignity?
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Why all these stories in the hotseat? Is it to make the people feel sorry for Tori, because if it is then it’s lost on me. I will never feel sorry for either of these two douche bags. The stories of she can’t afford to get a divorce, does she really think people believe this garbage? Imo, they are both using this publicity for all it’s worth, to get paid. Mo, they won’t divorce, was it even in consideration to begin with? I’m very doubtful. These stories are being leaked from all angles. So who is behind this? Yes, I wonder, said no one ever. I have my suspicions.
I feel bad for the children having a__ h_les for parents. Tori, how does being cheated feel like? Nice isn’t it. Dean how does it feel lusting after pretty young, beautiful woman knowing they’d probably wouldn’t look twice at you if you weren’t famous for being married to the girl who was on 90210? For the people who pity Tori, how much did she take pity on his wife when they hooked up? Now can really feel the hurt and embarrassment of what his previous wife had to go through. Dean will always be a cheater.
Half truth, Half BS. people smell blood and the other are making shit up to sell papers.
I’d say 90% BS. The initial cheating story broke right after Tori announced that they were broke. And the whirlwind took off from there. Most chatter they’ve had in ages. Remember she has a new show coming out soon with Jennie Garth. Next will be a new book – Miss SPELLING or something about her mistakes or new single motherhood.
I never bought that he wanted so many kids back to back. If he wasn’t upfront with her – no one knows what they were like to each other but of course kids (4 kids!) would slow anyone down. He is exhibiting all signs of addict not that it excuses him but who cares more about an act more than kids you bring into the world. I don’t see this surviving because he will cheat again and unless she is ok with it she has to make a choice. In public he appeared to care for his kids imo and I’d like to think he wouldn’t day this ugh.
Whoa, that was odd where my comment ended up twilight zone lol
1. The marriage should always come first, children second.
2. Dean needs to learn to practice self-control.
He is such a loser
God help those kids when they get older and start googling this mess and reading all these articles.
Most men I have found crave attention and are like children, why many women should be very careful having children with this type of man or having a lot of children with them. They really feel their own needs should trump everyone else’s. That being said, I have seen married women after having kids cheat as well, so it can go both ways.
I am hyper sexual thanks to PCOS and thus, will not be having kids. I barely get sex enough as it is from my boyfriend 1-2 times a week if I am lucky, I’d die if kids made that number even lower.
Dean only got with Tori because he wanted her money and Hollywood connections. He’s a failed actor whose career was over by the time he met Tori. Tori was his last chance at fame and fortune. He’s not with her because he loves her. He totally played her. She was a fool for believing his lies and leaving her first husband, who seemed to be a genuinely nice guy who loved her. But Candy saw Dean for the gold-digger that he is, and she withheld the fortune from Tori.
He’s truly screwed. If Tori divorces him, he’ll only get half of what they’ve made since marrying, which is nothing compared to what Tori’s inheritance is, and he falls off the Hollywood radar forever. No one is interested in him without Tori. But if he stays, Candy will continue to withhold the cash. So either way, with or without Tori, he’s screwed.
But Tori? It’s in Tori’s best interest to ditch his ass. She gets rid of a loser cheating gold-digger and she finally gets the money she’s entitled to. It would piss Dean off to no end.