Yesterday was Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott’s wedding anniversary. They celebrated eight years of fakery wedded bliss. I don’t know whether they’re faking wedded bliss or the destruction of wedded bliss. I’m not saying that Dean wouldn’t cheat. He definitely would if he could. He was recently busted hitting on a mom from Liam’s school: “It got very awkward, as she never reciprocated any of Dean’s overtures.” (I refer you again to Jezebel’s detailed timeline of why Tori and Dean may have faked a cheating scandal.)
Lonely Dean ate lunch without Tori yesterday. Then he was papped buying jewelry and lingerie. For himself? Enjoy that mental picture.
I need to start being nice … right now. There’s something potentially serious happening with Tori. Remember how she was secretly hospitalized a few weeks ago? The hospital visit was filmed for True Tori. The given reason for the visit was Tori’s severe migraine headaches. The story has changed. A Tori source told the Mail that she has degenerated disks in her neck, which require spinal surgery. Tori refuses to have surgery because she’s worried it will push her marriage over the edge:
Tori Spelling has been told she needs to have major spinal surgery but she is stubbornly refusing to have the operation because she fears if she does, her life will spiral out of control more than it already has!
The 41-year-old actress has been suffering from a painful cervical spine condition and needs surgery, but she refuses to go under the knife, fearing that if she’s out of commission, her already troubled marriage to Dean McDermott, 47, will take an even bigger hit.
“Tori has two disintegrated discs in her neck that have been causing her extreme pain,” confides the source. “Although doctors are telling her she risks doing permanent damage if she doesn’t have the surgery, she feels she can’t put her family and her responsibilities on the back burner long enough to have the operation.”
Last month when Tori spent eight days in an LA hospital, her people said it was because of migraine headaches. And while it’s true she does suffer from debilitating headaches — it’s because of the diseased discs in her neck.
“The pain is so bad she has to take pain medication,” says the source. “But the longer she takes it, the more meds she has to consume in order to ease the pain. It’s a vicious circle.”
The source adds that Tori feels the weight of the world on her shoulders right now, and to take time off to have surgery, and recover – which could take weeks – means she won’t be able to attend to everything she currently has on her plate.
“Tori feels a lot of pressure to bring money in right now,’ says the source. “She and Dean have been struggling and she knows how important it is for her to keep doing her True Tori reality series, and the new Mystery Girls sitcom she and her old friend Jennie Garth are doing for ABC’s Family Channel.
“Tori believes ratings for her reality series would suffer if the story line is forced to center around her hospitalization and recovery, and she knows she has to keep working if the bills are going to get paid.”
Then of course, there’s the fact that she’s desperate to repair her troubled marriage. “Tori and Dean have been working hard on trying to put their marriage back on track after he admitted to cheating,” says the source. “She is still very much in love with her husband and is willing to do anything she can to put the pieces back together.
“She is afraid that if she spends a week in the hospital, leaving him home alone with the four kids, he won’t be able to handle it. She also knows that having the operation means she will have to be in bed recovering for a few weeks, putting even more stress and strain on the family and she’s just not willing to do that.”
Dean wants her to take care of herself, but Tori told him not to even bring it up again right now. He is worried about her and feels her painful condition complicates their relationship. But she is so afraid if she drops the ball on all she has to do right now, they will have no chance.
If what is going on the their reality show is any indication of Dean’s mental state, he is falling apart. Tori doesn’t want to add any stress to their lives. by taking herself out of commission, say the source.
[From Daily Mail]
If the disc degeneration story is true, then I do feel bad for Tori. Let’s get real though — she has nannies an an assistant. Taking care of herself by getting surgery wouldn’t mean leaving Dean to take care of all four kids by himself. I’m sure we’ll hear more about this in a future episode of True Tori.
We heard some rough words from Candy Spelling about her daughter yesterday. Candy now feels bad about Tori’s migraines: “You know, if I could take the hit for her. She’s my child — we’re not talking about some crazy reality star here. We’re talking about my little girl. So it’s really hard for me to have to watch her ever be in pain or ever hurt.” I guess Candy hasn’t heard about Tori’s spinal problems.
Here’s the new poster for Mystery Girls starring Tori and Jennie Garth. It looks cheesy, right?
Photos courtesy of Tori & Dean on Instagram & WENN
I know I’m alone in this sentiment but I have a huge soft spot for Tori.
Just because one grows up rich in money, doesn’t mean one grows up rich in love.
So many people think that rich people are immune from life’s problems but I believe it to be the opposite.
She seems like a sweet girl and I wish her all the best.
Maybe you are right, Snowpea. I don’t know her personally but I just get the feeling that she is very manipulative and is all about the $$$.
Tracy I agree with you. She may have grown up “poor in love” but she did inherit enough money and had enough notoriety that she could have afforded the best counseling money could buy to work through her issues. Instead she took the cheap, easy way out and now she’s paying for it. Or should I say her children are paying for it.
And with minimally invasive surgery available today, I would believe her neck issues could be solved and she’d be out of the hospital in a few days at most. I have buckets of sympathy for her children; very little for her.
That’s how I feel as well. And by all accounts, she was adored by her father. Her mother maybe not so much. But now, when I see “Tori is in pain” the first thing that pops into my mind is that they did a focus group on migraines and it didn’t generate enough sympathy, so they decided to ratchet it up to spinal surgery. “Poor Tori” just isn’t selling well anymore.
She’s not so sweet that she gives not two Fs about how this affects her children. Her life sucked, so she has to make sure it’s the same for kids who have no say in the matter?
Google the story of how Tori and Dean first got together, and I’d be surprised if you still had a soft spot for her. Tori cheated on her husband to be with Dean, and Dean himself was married with one young son and in the midst of adopting a baby girl when they hooked up. His poor wife Mary Jo not only got dumped, but had to worry about losing her daughter (she ended up adopting her on her own as Dean bailed).
Tori didn’t even have the guts to break the news to her husband herself; instead, she got a third-party to inform him that their marriage was over. Worst of all, Tori absolutely trashed Dean’s then-wife publicly, getting her kicked out of media events and pointing out at every opportunity how young and fertile she was (Mary Jo was in her 40s and had fertility issues — talk about kicking a woman while she’s down).
Also, Tori is fake through and through. She still spends money like crazy, all the while whining about how broke she is. The average person could’ve retired comfortably years ago on the money she’s frittered away in her lifetime.
I wouldn’t wish spinal issues on anyone, but I’m inclined to think she’s crying wolf once again. That said, I don’t doubt that Tori has eating issues that have lead to health problems.
I kind if feel like, given her past, these problems serve her right. It doesn’t evoke much sympathy from me that the cheater is now the cheated-upon.
That said, it is pretty she is in a marriage with a man who has kept her pregnant for six years who cannot handle caring for the children he has created with her, in order that she can take care of herself. It is pitiful that she is willing to sacrifice her health and comfort in order to please a man she cannot leave unattended. Those issues of self-esteem (or lack thereof) are obviously very deeply rooted.
Amen! I resent the comment in the article of them “struggling”. When my husband lost his job a couple of years ago we were struggling. Hard. Like coming to the end of our savings and about to lose the house hard. These people aren’t there. And we don’t live lavishly by any means. This is someone who was afforded every chance and squandered it. If she were smart she would have gone into producing like her dad because let’s face, she has a face for radio as the saying goes.
Her father adored her, and she had a very privileged upbringing. She was given a successful career. Most people would have counted themselves lucky and not gone on to complain about what poor little rich girls they are.
I am sure they’ve had money problems. Cocaine is very expensive.
A marriage that wouldn’t survive one partner having necessary spinal surgery is not a marriage worth keeping, IMO.
But mostly likely this isn’t true, or greatly exaggerated anyway.
That’s exactly what I thought! If she can’t even get the medical help she needs to relieve constant pain, than there is no “marriage” in her life at all!
How sad.
Exactly lucy2!
I´m just so sorry for her kids and that they have a mother who is setting a bad example about selfworth and healthy relationships.
My husband had that operation five years ago or so. Was out of the hospital in 3 days, not a week. And, there was certainly no week hospital stay beforehand. She is beginning to sound like Lindsay with these stories.
Yeah, I’m suspicious of her whole story. But even if she did have to be in for a week or whatever, he should simply handle it like an adult would. God forbid she got really sick, can you imagine?
I’ve had cervical spine surgery on two discs in my neck. It was an overnight hospital stay and three weeks with a neck brace on. Way over-exaggerating with the “whole week in the hospital”. I was in enough pain that I couldn’t get the surgery fast enough. If she really was hurting that much she would do it in a heartbeat.
I watched the show last night for the first time. Episode included visits to a therapist and crying and Dean having a mini breakdown. My take on this: it is entirely scripted – just like the Kardashian’s series. The cheating by Dean in Canada could be fabricated, the therapist could be an actress. Dean’s “reaction” by having a mini siezure is “good acting”. There was just too much publicity building up to the airing of this reality show. Also – their kitchen is a mess. Where are the assistants?
Doesn’t look like her “marriage” could get much worse.
Detectiving is hard?
Embarrassing!
That tagline makes me want to cry. Or logline. Whatever you call it – it. is. bad.
I’m pretty sure it’s supposed to be silly/jokey, from what I remember reading about the show. The premise actually sounded kind of cute, but I don’t really want to watch Tori in anything.
me neither. there have been reruns of the original 90210 and tori is just so bad. it´s embarrassing.
It’s not even a word! I bet teachers of America are cringing over that one.
Teacher here. I can only speak for myself, but yes. The movie “Clueless” has had such a far-reaching impact on the way people talk. If I hear “my bad,” one more time, I might have a seizure.
God YES. ‘Tee hee we wimminz don’t know how to THINK! We just solve crimes by tossing our hair and giggling!’
Ladies, we have a long way to go.
Yes! That’s exactly what I thought!
I thought it was sexist and insulting to women as well.
Surgery is no laughing matter, but that aside Dean will not be able to handle being alone and taking care of the children? Isn’t it known that Tori and Dean employ nannies to look after the children and they also have assistants on staff? Who took care of the children when she was last in the hospital and Dean was at her side for hours at a time?
Maybe she is really sick and need surgery, but Tori and Dean have lied so much in the past all for attention it is difficult to believe anything they say
Not only that, but screw him, these are his kids, he should be caring for them 24/7. If she needs surgery he needs to man up and take care of all his kids without her.
I feel like this is another episode in the pity party PR campaign.
Is it too cruel to tell her to get a backbone? Or to call her spineless?
Ahahahaha, I love it.
If I ever feared my husband would be pushed past the tipping point if I were to get necessary surgery, pretty sure I’d call it a day and go get my surgery.
Unless of course, this is all made up, and it’s a non-necessary procedure. Maybe she just wants to keep popping her pain killers. Who knows.
@Kiddo
You are totally right, actually. I have six disintegrated discs in the neck after a car accident and I am even moving out and into the new house at this moment. Yes, the headaches are so severe I can get blind and deaf sometimes, but doctors told me that surgery wouldn’t solve the problem.
Of course, she might have better surgeons at her disposal, wait… They didn’t even have money for a vasectomy lol
Try Tui na (Chinese therapeutic massage) and acupuncture. Tui na has a good success rate with disc problems of this nature. Your doctor is doing you a favor by not hustling you into the surgery room–my Tui na professor, who has been practicing for decades (and who taught in Beijing for years before coming to the U.S.) says that this surgery doesn’t help people with disc issues (I’m generalizing here for the sake of brevity) and leaves them in worse condition. The only way Tui na probably wouldn’t help would be if your degeneration is towards the anterior part, or the internal aspect, of the spine, Either way, acupuncture can help.
If you don’t mind saying where you are, I can ask on my acupuncture group FB page for a referral for you.
Good luck to you!
I’ve never had to have surgery but I have had a few spinal taps to relieve some of the pressure. Lucky for me though, the meds they give me now seems to keep most of the horrible ones to a minimum. (except period time, those are horrendous)
I’ve also heard that surgeries don’t really work.
@Frida_K
So nice of you to post a reply! 🙂 I had never heard of Tui Na and I will research it tonight! Yes, my doctor was thinking about ago-puncture as well. The surgery, very often, makes everything worse! Well I don’t mind to say that I am living in North England, so I guess you are from US…. Is anyone in your FB group from UK?
I have two discs with degeneration towards the spine, so agopuncture might be more suitable.
Thanks for posting this helpful information 🙂
@bluemarie
Concerning medication and painkillers, I was at the maximum dosage allowed and it did nothing, so the Dr. agreed to cut down the meds, they were quite useless anyway. Glad to hear they work for you! 🙂
@Hiddles forever
Let me post and ask the question because you just never know. This acupuncture group is really large so maybe I can find someone for you.
Tui Na might be able to help around the problem–in other words, if you have dysfunction in near areas, and areas that tend to be problematic and referred from the disc problem, this can be relieved with Tui Na.
Here are some things you could check at home:
If you look to the left and it hurts, press really hard (or get someone to do it) on the top/center of your left shoulder. Does anything change? Try it on the other side. What happens?
Also: run your fingers up the back of your two muscles that run on each side of the spine. When you get to your skull, press. Does it hurt? Press on the inside side of the furrow and see what happens. Press on the outside, again, see what happens. Also, press on the bumpy bone right behind your earlobe where your head starts to turn into your neck. That is your SCM. See how things change then.
You may well have muscle dysfunction in other areas as a result of compensation for the pain of your disc. If you can relieve that, your life will probably be better.
A good Tui Na practitioner can really help you. I’m in my second year of TCM school and I love Tui Na. Needling is great too, and so are herbs, but the joy of bringing pain relief to a patient via Tui Na is beautiful. I truly love practicing Tui Na.
🙂
One more thing–where in Northern England? Would you be willing to travel a bit if the person is a bit far from you?
🙂
Does Tui Na help people who have had surgery but are still in pain? I have a relative who had fusion surgery in her neck, but she still struggles with pain.
@MP
Yes and no.
Often, the pain that is the inspiration for the surgery is not reparable via the surgery. Thus, a person gets the operation and still is in pain. Also, now that the spine is fused in a particular area, there is a new pain from that–either due to compensation or other issues.
The Tui Na can’t help the fused part BUT it can help with the original pain, compensatory action caused pain, and with the anxiety related to the pain. In addition, if you get someone who is really good, he or she can do wonders to strengthen/soothe areas that are still healthy so that the person’s quality of life is that much better.
In some states, Tui Na is not a legal practice unless it’s called Asian Bodywork. Some acupuncture schools don’t put a lot of emphasis on learning it, either. So if you don’t find Tui Na near you, try “Asian Bodywork” or look here:
http://www.aobta.org/about-asian-bodywork-therapy
There are several types of Asian bodywork therapies but what you want would be the Tui Na.
Good luck!
She doesn’t know how he’ll handle being home with his own kids? And there was no indication that he might be an ineffective moron before she had kids with him? Do people think this sounds cute and endearing?
She is a horrible human being. She is putting out PR that the children’s father is a slug. Must be nice for her kids at school, being the laughing stock, having these two ‘parents of the year’ spilling every dirty item, whether true or not. She is reaching Charlie Sheen territory.
I know. They both bug me. Did she play this spine angle before or is it because she’s heard that she’s not getting any sympathy after her mother’s words the other day?
I only read about her here and occasionally see some blurb on entertainment magazines shows where they preview that her story will be coming up, and then I swiftly change to something else.
I’ve always felt bad for this woman… she seemed… sad. There’s a thread of sadness to her and then she has gotten nothing but flak because she isn’t Hollywood pretty and came from money. It seems like she was born into this position in life that no one thinks she is good enough to fill. I’d be a mental case if I was her.
You know I’m watching this sh!t show. I can’t help it. But it’s just really, really bad and really, really contrived. To the point that I have no idea what is real and what isn’t. For example, in one clip, Dean states that their sex life wasn’t always great – stretching 2 weeks – a month between intimacy. Tori feels that’s sufficient. But instead of the therapist talking about how to resolve disparate libidos, she instead tells Dean that his idea of marital sex is a “fairytale” – um, WHAT? I’ve never heard of a therapist giving that kind of help. Don’t they usually try to resolve problems, not just piss on their patient’s feelings? (To be clear, so I don’t get yelled at – the state of their sex life in no way excuses his wanderings.)
IMO, the entire show is a sympathy vehicle for Tori. I don’t know the real truth – did Dean even cheat on Tori? Was he really “on drugs and alcohol” as is so often repeated on the show? Maybe… probably… but the way the entire thing is being couched for the show is just beyond weird.
I haven’t watched the show-but I can imagine a lot of it is contrived. That said-I really think there’s some truth to it-he cheated, she overspends. Even for sympathy or to get a show, I can’t imagine that anyone would let themselves get portrayed like this if it wasn’t true at all. They (including their poor kids) look miserable all the time now.
I said this exact thing on another thread. This entire show is a vehicle for Tori to attempt to gain some public sympathy. It’s not working.
The Deaner has the look of a hard partier. He looks older than his years (although 4 kids will do that to you also). His face looks red, puffy, and bloated. He’s overweight. He always looks like he’s getting no sleep (with 3 nannies, I doubt he’s getting up in the night with kids). Even if he is, I’m sure his wide-open work schedule would allow him to take naps.
I don’t hate her. Her life seems to be a huge mess right now, look how thin she is. I’m not defending her actions, but after she got that paycheck, this Dean person will still be there and that is not a good thing.
Oh please! She’s never met a surgery she didn’t want.
First of all is “Dectectiving” even a word? Doesn’t seem like it.
Secondly, I’m sure she has a nanny or even a friend who could lend a hand while she is recovering. And sorry, but if you think your marriage will fail because of a surgery, then your marriage is already failing.
I’ve had two spinal fusions, I wouldn’t wish that kind of pain on anyone.
If this story is true, she needs to take care of herself.
Meds only go so far.
A newflash to Tori- Dean already ruined your marriage. Have the surgery and quit being an idiot over a damn man.
My only references for neck surgery are my mother in law who has rods in her neck from a car accident and Peyton Manning and Brian Cox’s (American Football players) spinal fusions. All three were not doing their normal activities for months. I can’t speak to the last two but my mother in law kind of wishes she hadn’t had it done because of the nerve pain down the back of her leg now.
It takes recovery time and a helpful family to get through major surgery. My feeling is, Tori doesn’t have that so she ain’t doing it.
Back surgery is tricky, usually best avoided. My step-niece had back surgery and regrets it to this day but no one could talk her out of it when she had it done.
If she really was worried about her children, she’d have the surgery so she can be there for her kids w/o needing to be on pain meds. If their marriage can’t sustain an operation… It’s NOT a marriage!
I don’t feel sorry for her.. I need multiple operations but having bad lungs ( on oxygen since 1999) and over 100 operations minus many body parts.. I have to deal w/ a lot of pain & kidney failure daily… Enough Drs have agreed should I survive my next operation (slim odds), I would never come off of the respirator again. NOW that is a reason NOT to have surgery…. Not the BS she is selling. I don’t buy it.
I saw a clip yesterday where both laid out how they were afraid the other saw them… She was going on about something w/ a lump in her intestine ( he a small pen is)… I just thought oh geez… Both of you STFU , Grow up, and if you need money that bad to do this kind of show .. Get REAL Jobs!!!! If she got paid to have that kind of surgery.. Bet she’d do it in a heart beat.. BOTTOM Line w/ these two… Money & Camera time !!
I hope things begin to turn the corner for you, GreenEyes.
Thank you so very much Kiddo, I appreciate that more than you know.
@GreenEyes
Sending big hugs your way, just sorry it is just virtual! Xx
@Hiddles Forever – thank you very much. Virtual hugs are always accepted:)
I had cervical spine surgery last fall and for 6 weeks I was not allowed to life anything heavier than 2 pounds. That would be very difficult for a woman with 4 small children. Yes she has help, but her children will still be there pushing her to take care of them like always or hold them when they cry or fall down. There is still significant pain after surgery, but I no longer have to worry about losing the use of my arms, so I am grateful. Hopefully she will get surgery if she really needs it. I have chronic migraines as well, and the neck pain will not help those at all. If she is doing this for PR, I certainly hope she never has any real problems as no one will believe her.
She won’t be able to have sex. Dean’s dong will wander. Nothing personal against Tori, I really don’t care one way or the other. I do think she should divorce him. He’s not gonna change. I’d rather be alone than unhappy.
I hope she doesn’t get addicted to pain pills like Donna Martin did.
Anyone else think this may be a cover story to explain the gossip that Tori is addicted to pain killers? I’ve heard she uses them recreationally and that story was starting to get traction when these “migraine” and “back surgery” blurbs started appearing. Hmmm….
OK, I’m not watching this Tori and Dean show yet, but I would watch if she put the surgery and Mr. Mom shit on the show. I’m terrible like that.
Detectiving is hard???!?
No thanks, I’ll stick to Sherlock.
I’m pretty disgusted by both of these PARENTS. Self absorbed, self centered, vapid attention whores. I get really angry when I see kids in the middle of this kind of mix. And these morons spawned FOUR of them.
I would respect these people if they would get out of the spotlight, go to therapy (untelevised) and fall off the radar – go live a cabin where no one knows them and try to raise a happy healthy family.
Break whatever fucking cycle of sadness or anger you think your parents “did to you” and just move on like adults.
GRRR. It makes me angry when there are kids. Especially little ones.
I have incredible friends who would relish the chance to be parents to these children, but are unable to.
These witless fucks churn them out and turn them over to a nanny so they can piss on life with their worthless lives.
He’s the father of five, he has another child he jilted along with his first wife. What a Prince.
LOL, am I the only one who noticed they said “disintegrated discs”? LOL. DEGENERATED, you damn twat heads! disintegrated means gone – caput – dust, bitches! These “sources” are so smart. bahahahaha