Jennifer Lawrence covers the June issue of Marie Claire. Did you notice that JLaw was missing from this year’s Met Gala festivities? She was on the list to attend and wear Dior couture. Then I saw a series of tweet-rumors that said JLaw was running late. Those rumors turned into a filming schedule that prevented her from attending. She’s currently finishing Mockingjay in Paris, and I’ve included set photos from yesterday.
My guess? Filming really did run long, and JLaw had a legitimate excuse to not cross the Atlantic Ocean for one event. I also suspect that she didn’t mind skipping the event just like Oscar season. Dior couldn’t have been happy since they recently renewed her contract for $15-20 million. She’ll make up for it with the upcoming X-Men premieres.
Jennifer covers a lot of ground with this interview. She’s not just talking about food! The topic comes up only once in these excerpts. Subjects of discussion include her struggles with fame, her latest Oscar fall, panic attacks, and friendship:
On her long-distance relationship with Nick Hoult: “When we’re busy, we agree to mutually ignore each other. Not completely, but neither of us gets mad when the other doesn’t text back or call. Life’s super-busy. Obviously you know what they’re doing, and you trust them. We’re so young that it would almost be like if we lived in the same city, what would happen? We’d be living together. At least this way he’s in the same boat as I am: We can go out and have our own lives and know that we have each other.”
On that conspiracy theory about tripping at the Oscars to appear authentic: “I’m trying to do the right thing, waving to fans, trying to be nice, and there’s a traffic cone. The second I hit it, I was laughing, but on the inside I was like, ‘You’re f—ed. They’re totally going to think this is an act…’ But trust me if I was going to plan it, I would have done it at the Golden Globes or the SAGs. I would have never done it at two Oscars in a row. I watch Homeland — I’m craftier than that!”
She’s changed by fame “I’m a lot more closed off and frankly probably rude. I mean, I’m from Kentucky. I used to be very personable and make eye contact and smile at people, and now all I do is look down. When I’m at dinner and one person after another keeps interrupting to take pictures, it’s like, ‘I can’t live like this.'”
On suffering from abdominal pains and panic attacks during the press tour for Catching Fire: “I was so freaked out, I called my publicist crying. I had to cancel Chelsea Handler. I was terrified to get on a plane to New York because I was convinced I had an ulcer that was bleeding. I went to the hospital. There was a bit of blood in my stomach, but they said it was nothing to worry about. I was like, ‘Really? Because I’m pretty worried!'”
On her candor: “I’m not like, ‘I’m a rebel; I’m out of control.’ I just don’t think about things before I say or do them.”
On friendship: “I don’t trust a girl who doesn’t have any girlfriends. I have really close girlfriends, but they are guys like me — girls who eat and don’t know anything about fashion.”
On rumors that she’s jealous of Kristen Stewart, Nick’s Equals co-star: “There was something in a magazine, and I was like, ‘Oh, my God, that’s hilarious,’ because Kristen and I are friends. I actually texted her a picture of it and was like, ‘Just so you know, this is absolutely true.'”
On being up against Lupita Nyong’o for Supporting Actress: “I was very happy. I voted for Lupita. It’s beautiful when you watch something good happen to somebody when it’s well deserved.”
[From Marie Claire]
I love what she says about the importance of girlfriends. JLaw grew up with brothers and gets along very well with her male co-stars, but you can’t beat a good cry on the shoulder of your best female friends. I also have no problem believing that Jennifer doesn’t feel threatened at all about Nick co-starring with Kristen Stewart. There were trampire stories in the tabloids, but that was creative fanfiction.
Photos courtesy of Marie Claire & WENN
“I don’t trust a girl who doesn’t have any girlfriends.”
Ok, you could be going somewhere interesting….
” I have really close girlfriends, but they are guys like me — girls who eat and don’t know anything about fashion.”
Nope, stop. Stop it right now. Don’t even try that.
She lost me at that one too. We’ve been all over Garfield for saying sewing is feminine, yet she is saying a very similar thing.
The likability train sailed a long time ago with this one.
I have very good male and female friends, but my closest friends have always been women. But that’s me. Just because someone doesn’t act like me, doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them.
And what did they do to her on the cover? She’s a good looking woman, but she looks bad on the cover.
I forgot about Andrew Garfield and thought you were calling Jennifer Lawrence “Garfield” like the cartoon cat. lol, it’s actually a pretty good nickname for her.
Yeah… I fell off on that, too. Actually the entire sentiment I find old and weird – we hear this from loads of celebs and then their girlfriend is Chelsea Handler. I’d trust someone with only male friends long before I’d trust a woman with awful female friends.
Completely and utterly agree with you GiGi (Great name by the way! :)).
+111111
I think the sentiment was of the more elaborate type. For me, I don’t trust women who don’t have female friends, IF their reason is that women are catty/dramatic/back-stabby. If you simply aren’t around a lot of women, that just circumstance. I worked on a military base in New Mexico for a year, and I would go weeks without seeing another woman. But if all your female friends are horrid, the problem is likely you (the general you, not you specifically GiGi).
Yeah, said a girl who has just renewed her multimillion Dior contract for 3 more years.
I had the exact same reaction. I was nodding along and happy there was a female celebrity extolling the virtue of female friendships (unlike ShaySunVadge “I don’t believe in feminism because I like men”) and then she hits us with: I like my female friends because they are “guys like me.”
No. There is nothing inherently male about knowing nothing about fashion, or for goodness sakes: liking to eat. Actually last I checked, all humans like to eat, you know, cuz we need food to survive and all that.
I hate it when I hear a woman talk about being a guy as if that is inherently a good thing or as if being a guy is constituted by a set of predefined traits. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a woman or a girl. There is absolutely nothing wrong with conforming to traits/habits that are (erroneously considered by the ignorant) to be feminine.
Why the hell is it so GD difficult for some of these starlets to understand that concept???
THIS. THIS A MILLION TIMES…
Well said Latisse
i think she is just insinuating that she is a tomboy.
Did you miss the part where she said she doesn’t think? Like why would you not think before you speak? Especially considering the dumb shit she said in the past that people find ‘cute’ and ‘harmless’. It wouldn’t hurt to think once in a while. People who don’t think, don’t learn. And she clearly doesn’t despite being an intelligent woman.
And Tompler is 100% right. She can talk about eating and not caring about fame and fashion, it doesn’t matter when you sign a contract for a fashion brand. She’s participating in a culture RIFE with eating disorders and shallowness for no reason. At least own up to what you stand for instead of judging others.
I rather be friends with a girl who watches her weight and loves fashion because she would be true to herself. J-Law seems the kind of girl who acts like she’s above it but does the same things like the girl she judges. Nothing more annoying than that.
Every time some starlet talks about friends it’s either ” I don’t trust women without girlfriends” or it’s “I only have male friends because women are so much drama and only talk about fashion and periods”. Why can’t there be a middle ground?
There are so many people in Hollywood who aren’t particularly bright.
Couldn’t agree more with both of you.
They sound as bright as everyone else. As in not very.
They sound as bright as everyone else. As in not very.
We’re all different, so what if I have female friends who like fashion? And female friends who don’t? And neither are particularly “girly”. It’s such a weird thing to say.
I’m a girl who doesn’t have alot of female friends… it’s not because I alienate them by trying to steal their boyfriends or something (what?)… it’s just a different style of communication. The ones I do have are very close friends, and we talk about make-up and fashion, as well as society, culture and life in general.
Everyone is different, and you can be friends with different people without making a judgement. I’m a bit of a tomboy, and one of my closest friends likes glitter and unicorns. And what, Jennifer?
Ugh, I don’t even know if I made sense, but she really annoys me with her labelling.
As a 40 something woman I count myself lucky to have made some lifelong friends, both male and female. And they are all different! I value each of them for their unique traits. It’s silly to think you can have only one type of friend. That’s not a very rich existence.
Your comment = sanity. Sigh, hopefully JL will grow out of it. I’d internalized a lot of misogyny growing up and in my 20s said awful things like that to distance myself from my own femininity. I did eventually see the light, fortunately. I still love “boy” things as well as “girl” things but no longer proclaim one better than the other for fear someone will realize I’m one of those second-class citizens.
Um, am I the only one who read that “guys” as gender-neutral?
I’d agree that it’s off if she really is associating “good” things with boys and “bad” things with girls.
But the word “guys” is, to me, largely non-gendered. The way my friends and I use it, it just means “people”. I can easily imagine a clichéd girly-girl (maybe Taylor Swift?), saying “my girlfriends are guys like me, they enjoy fashion and working out”. So, I’m giving Jennifer the benefit of the doubt on this one.
No you weren’t, don’t worry. I use the term guys for my girls. And we like to eat and don’t know a thing about fashion. I don’t call them guys because we like to do those things. Talk about nit picking.
Wow, if she felt threatened by that no talent Hack, Kristen Stewart, I would lose all respect for her. If my man left me for her, I’d wish them both good luck, then laugh.
Balls
I was gonna say the same
Yeah, I believe that Stewart might be jealous of Lawrence, but not the other way around. Of course, it’s also easy to be nice when you’re winning.
Thank you. I think the new chelsea handler-like sentiment about ‘not trusting women who don’t have girlfriends,’ is just oft repeated regurgitated meangirl b*t*chy pablum that requires not an ounce of original thought..or thought at all. There’s no deep thinking going on there, it’s just lazy. I think it’s a way for insecure types to try and faux normalize themselves and pretend their down to earth. A way to say, I don’t care if you don’t like me, I have my own cool meangirl friends. It’s their own popularity contest in their own little personal highschool, where they’re always the winner. Guess what ish? Women with close friends eff other women over every single day. Women with loads of bestie are bullying hateful meangirls quite often…the meangirls in The Meangirls movie had other meangirls as ‘friends.’ I’m finding that the she has no girlfriends card is the new bullying but what’s weird and bizarre is that grown azz d women are pulling this crap to feel superior. Bottomline. How do you get to determine the truth of someone else’s life that you don’t know? Maybe they have issues, maybe there loners, maybe they haven’t gotten close to people because they have a lot on their plate, maybe their family are their best friends and their life is full enough, maybe they live in a new town and have not gotten around to it, maybe they just don’t need the same affirmation that you do…doesn’t mean they hate women or hate men…maybe all of the women in town are racist hateful boomers who sleep with their married bosses and are the last person anyone would want to be ‘friends,’ with. No who has loads and loads of friends? Kristen stewart. You don’t hear her knocking people who don’t have close friends like she does nor do you hear her getting less hate from women because she does. She’s hated quite a bit. Bottomline: shut up Jennifer Lawrence and take your no chinned doppelganger shale ne Woodley the non feminist vag tanner with you. Lol
@WTFava: You nailed it! Completely agree with you. Great comment.
So what you’re saying is, women can only be threatened by other women at the top of their shared profession? Or, conversely, bad actresses are not a threat to other people’s relationships? Yeah, even if Stewart were keanu reeves, and I don’t think she is and neither do a lot of film critics, this is some bullshite. But keep grinding those teeth in jealous rage hon..she sure seems to get your goat. Lol
‘So what you’re saying is, women can only be threatened by other women at the top of their shared profession?’
Um kinda ? Should they be threatened by those beneath them? Would it make sense for 90’s Will Smith to have been threatened by Shemar Moore or Morris Chesnut ? Does it make sense for Beyonce to be threatened by Jhene Aiko ? Should Adele be threatened by Paloma Faith or Pixie Lott…Girl make some sense.
http://www.hollywoodreporter.com/gallery/jennifer-lawrence-scarlett-johansson-who-625805#12-amy-adams
Look at THR’s pecking order in hollywood (currently, Jennifer will get replaced eventually) and tell me who Jennifer needs to be jealous of career wise. I don’t even like her (or her annoying, childish fans) but her career is red hot right now.
‘But keep grinding those teeth in jealous rage hon..she sure seems to get your goat. ‘
You mean the way that Jennifer gets yours ? Please…All the essays you’ve written in this post, a Jennifer stan might say you’re grinding your teeth in a jealous rage yourself hun. And LOL at Kristen not being Keanu Reeves, that girl ain’t even Tommy Wiseau. The delusion.
Whether you like her or not, Kristen Stewart is on the same level as Lawrence in the Hollywood game, especially in young Hollywood. Stewart is as famous and in-demand as Lawrence. The only difference is Jennifer has an Oscar and a few other awards that should have gone to someone else that year, but I digress.
And you want to talk about talent? Please. There are other actresses in their 20s much less famous than Jennifer Lawrence who actually have range and don’t come off so monotone in every role. And I’ve seen enough of her movies to compare.
No way are they on the same level. Jlaw’s three oscar nominations by age 23 is a record. She has an oscar, 2 globes, a bafta, a sag, and more. What has kstew won?
In no way were her roles in Winter’s Bone, X-men, or American Hustle the same. She is really good actually.
@JessMa
Girl you’re wasting your time with these folks. It’s weird that I’m so not into Jennifer at all (she’s cool as a celebrity figure but I feel like she’s too much and the kind of person that you’d constantly roll your eyes at in real life.) but the hate (that was inevitable) is so ridiculous, it’s becoming funny.
Folks on the internet are really funny about fame and success and who deserves what. When JLaw was an underdog and unknown and only had Winter’s Bone to her name these same people wouldn’t shut up about how amazing she was, how she deserved all the awards, she was one of the best of her generation and all the other bull. People on the internet love nothing more than an underdog….that is, until the underdog actually gets all the success that they supposedly deserve. Then they become overrated and overexposed and too this and too that. It doesn’t only happen with actresses, it happens with actors, musicians, producers, everyone. Go into any Beyonce post and people love to bring up Janelle Monae (who I stan for) but let her get a bit of that Beyonce success and watch them turn on her like vultures. Not sure if you listen to R&B but people wouldn’t stop talking about how Frank Ocean was the future and deserved success, then he got all the critical acclaim and all those grammys and the same people decided that he was overrated and only liked because he came out as bisexual. The internet is just too funny man.
The underdog actresses at the moment (meaning the ones that you are allowed to like) are Elizabeth Olsen, Saorise Ronan (that girl has always been an underdog tbh, I want her to choose better movies because she’s amazing), Mia Wazikowska, Adele Exarchopoulos and some others. Wait until they get success…then tables will turn.
All this talk about ‘there are better actresses’ always makes me laugh because those same ‘better actresses’ then become ‘overrated actresses who don’t even deserve their awards’. The internet is predictable like that.
OOPS posted twice.
Love her! Also really like that long pink coat.
There needs to be a separate story on the pink coat, because it is everything!
I don’t trust women who don’t have female friends, either. I mean, I’ll make an exception for someone who doesn’t currently have any friends because she’s starting over in some way, but women who are only friends with men worry me. I’ve found that in most cases, they either have lots of stereotypes about what other women are like or they mistreat their female friends and can’t keep one for longer than a few months.
That being said, the nonsense about eating and not knowing about fashion is getting a bit old. The statement would have stood on its own. We get that you like to eat, Jen, and it’s a little disingenuous for someone who reps for Dior to label herself as anti-fashion.
I disagree. Other people are dressing her, and I think that is entirely different than being ‘into’ fashion and the latest trends, shoes, etc. It’s not something she actively cultivates or enjoys. I get what she was trying to say though, she made the eating and fashion comment to broadly stroke how she considers herself. I would paint my friends in a similar way, ie: ‘low key, will eat dessert’, opposed to ‘high maintenance, always in heels’.
It doesn’t matter if she’s into fashion or not. She’s being paid ludacris amounts of money to represent Dior, yet she’s trashing them and fashion every chance she gets.
You’re not into fashion? Fine, be like Adele and refuse to represent a fashion or makeup company. You can’t have your cake and eat it to.
I know I’ll be upsetting all the Angelina Jolie crazies here but I’d like to point out that she doesn’t seem to have any female friends either. That really says something about a person.
It says what? I fail to understand what not having friends of a certain gender says about a person. And most of my closest friends are women.
What does it say exactly? I am not loaded with female friends BUT the few women I DID trust and embrace as friends went on to steal from me, screw my boyfriend AND try to cause trouble with my family and me. So sorry if my preference for platonic friendships with men tells you something about me you do not like. Frankly, I do not like generalizations or ridiculous stereotypes.
Chill out
Both Brad and Angie have stated they have a small circle of friends.Personally I side eye anyone who spends all their holidays with friends rather than family i.e. brothers, niece, father, etc.
I’m not sure but I think she does have girlfriends. Her assistent attended family partys or stuff.
why *are* people so so crazy about angelina jolie to the point of almost believing she has no flaws and that *other person* she was years ago who did kooky stuff was someone else? It doesn’t encourage any kind of realistic view of how people are.
I agree on this about angelina jolie and the (virtually) no girlfriends. I know people are going to come out with names and how she keeps it all quiet but I’m pretty sure even she has admitted to this.
The notion or idea that Angelina has no female friends is inaccurate. But because Angelina doesn’t respond to gossip, tabloids or ugly jealous idiotic latenight cable talk bishes with horrible ratings trying to name drop her for press people think it’s true. Angelina gave two interview both from long ago, one in her early 20s where she said she didn’t have a lot of close friends and one around 2007 where someone asked her if she talks about the harrowing stuff she’s seen abroad when traveling for the un, she said she really just talks with brad and her family. These things are construed as her having no women friends and people not liking her and vice versa.
It’s fairly easy to see why this is done: because some women are hateful awful jealous creatures who love attacking their imagined rivals and frankly would be just the kind of people that Angelina and decent people everywhere should never want to be friends with.
I know for a fact Holly goline is one of her closest friends and assistants as Angelina and her then baby Maddox were in her wedding party and angie was maid of honor.
Eunice Cuthhart, is a professional stuntwoman who’s another longtime friend of Angie’s – her names been in the news a lot as news of the world hacked her phone back in 2006 to find out brangelina secrets. Seems angie called her talking about Brad and not ran a story. She’s also either pax or shiloh’s Godmother.
Actress Jillian Armandante is another close friend of Angie’s (Maddox godmother) and I believe theirs is the only true friendship that came out of girl interrupted despite there being a passel of girls in that film. Jillian and angie are godparents to each others kids and are often seen together at the kids birthdays.
Marianne pearl is a good friend of angelina also and her son adam visit the Jolie Pitts and vice versa.
That’s what I know as a layperson who can comprehend reading material, and I don’t even know the woman. I’m sure she counts many more people, including women, as friends and admirers both – as she sure gets nods in the industry for her accomplishments and character. She’s supported by actual peers. Katherine Bigelow nom’d her for jean herscholt oscar and she was nom’d for her Council on Foreign Relations membership.
From that standpoint I don’t know how awful nasty people like handler or her wack statements about women and their friendships are helping her or her newfound PR friends like aniston. They both make shite movies, handlers known as a boozing racist, who’ll be out of a job soon…and anuston will prob never have industry peer recognition for her work..aside from the peoples cheese awards or maybe a bought and paid for mtv dirtbag nod. They treated her as a joke in that last article in variety mag on over 40 actresses.
Angelina just got her second Oscar for humanitarianism from her peers and friends in the industry…that’s not even counting the countless other award nods and recent oscar nod in 2010.
So really how’s that ranting about lack of friends regarding women they don’t even know. ..helping anuston and Handler out? Lolol
Since Angelina is the foremost accomplished humanitarian in her industry and under 40, and since she’s a philanthropist that helps educate the underprivileged and save lives, what it would say about Angelina if it were true (and it’s not) for arguments sake, is that maybe if women stopped dishing dirty, attacking each other on the internet and making life out to be a competitive sport with each other in their stupid little fake friendships they just MIGHT make the world a better place, like she has.
That said, Angelina counts Holly Goline, Eunice Cutthart, Jillian Armandante, and Marianne Pearl as her close friends (2 of them are her children’s godmothers), those are just the ones I know of. No one knew Angelina was so tight with George Lucas until her Herscholt Oscar…point: you don’t know her or any celeb that we’ll to try and assess her character because of what a boozing vile racist cable talk host who sleeps with married ceos to get jobs, says.
My advice would be to try and restrain yourself from bashing and slurring a woman’s character, especially one that helps so many in the world – when you know absolutely nothing of their lives.
It’s a vile, nasty thing to do, and speaks directly to the nasty b*c h y stereotype that some people claim as good reason not to befriend women.
Angelina’s probably the inspiration for Handler’s comments about ‘no girlfriends’. I think it’s all petty and too simplistic to base your opinion of a woman – specifically a woman – on her friends etc. Why not say you don’t trust anyone who doesn’t have real friends.
Anyway, Jolie said herself that she didn’t have many friends. What does this mean? Not much. She was an outsider growing up; her dad wouldn’t given her and her brother the same luxuries as the other kids who attended the same high school for rich kids. While she has done a great deal of great things, when I see her posing with orphans and visiting Bosnians and hanging out with William Hague, I can’t reconcile it with her left leg being the meme of the Oscars one year. She’s a myth-creation machine, and if no one saw it, it wouldn’t have considered to have happened. It’s like George Clooney. If no one was there to see it, it wouldn’t have happpened for them.
Eliza you just answered your own question. You just said all the female friends you’ve had have had done terrible things to you which is why you prefer male friends so you’re stereo-typing all women right there. I also believe that women that have only male friends just want a pat on the head from the guys. Get a clue ladies because Angelina Jolie isn’t perfect end of story.
Also not having friends of both gender if you proclaim yourself to be a feminist is hypocritical. You should have friends of both genders. Granted you might have more female friends than male but if you only exclusively hang out with one gender over another then that’s a problem. Also thanks for proving my point that all you crazy Angelina Jolie fans would get upset. I’m glad you all know her personally maybe you could apologize to her for me huh??
How do you know all these things about Angelina? It’s fascinating. And slitghtly terrifying.
Agree! Women who say they only have guys friends because other girls dont like them or because girls are drama hasn’t really looked that hard. Lots of ladies don’t partake in life drama and are easy breezy.
Way to make a broad generalization. Insecure?
I disagree.
I am sick and tired of this- My closest friend is a woman, but the rest are mostly men. Not because I ‘mistreated’ the female friends, but that is the bunch of people I happen to get on with- regardless of gender.
Any. Not only a few. Not only one. Any. And I threw in an exception for people who don’t have many friends at all.
If your closest friend is a woman, you’re not the person I’m talking about.
My best friend is a guy. It’s because I get along better with him than anyone else. I have more guy friends than girl friends just because those guy friends happen to be people I have stuff in common with. Why in the world should people be required to base their friendships off of gender? If a woman doesn’t have any close girl friends and meets a man who she laughs with, shares common interests and generally enjoys being around in a non-sexual way, is she supposed to say “no, sorry. I need to fill this empty friend slot with another woman”?
I also didn’t say anything overtly vile or nasty. I pointed out a fact that I believe to be true so put your pitchfork and torches away. I said a simple statement and all of you are being way more hateful than what I said in my original comment.
Are these Terry Richardson pics? Or has someone borrowed his aesthetic for Marie Claire?
ETA: It looks like the photo credit is for Jan Welters.
I don’t GET women who don’t have female friends. I don’t know where I’d be without my “Island Posse” – we’ve been through breakups, marriages, kids, deaths… They have always been around for me and I’ve always been around for them.
Women who are not friends with other women are usually drama-hungry sluts. OR they are shy.
Are you for real with your “drama hungry slut” comment?
Lol. Oooooookay then. Good to know I am a “drama- hungry slut”. Wow! * makes note to start enjoying drama AND start being a slut*
I’m sorry, what?!?
Shy. This, introverts do exist.
I was painfully shy and had girlfriends that were outgoing. It helped me be less awkward in social situations. Without them I would have had no social life whatsoever.
Drama hungry slut may be a bit much (and I am a irritated to see a grown woman labeling another a “slut@) but I see where she is going with that.
Many of those women are unable to cultivate authentic friendships – period.
They can get away with that with guys because they can play on the sexual dynamics. The guys will over look most things if they get to hang out with a female, even if there is no actual sex on offer. Its just plain simple manipulation to cover for some serious character inadequacies.
There may be other women with other issues. Like maybe self-hate. Some women go about ranting their internalised misogyny claiming that all the other women on the planet are jealous or malicious or dumb or boring, and that they are the one special snowflake who is none of those things.
Sorry I guess sarcasm really doesn’t come through in type. My comment was sarcasm.
@LadyJane: You are going to offend people with this statement (which I find funny and true), and women are not logical creatures and they will think you are talking about them personally and get very upset. Don’t you know you can’t say stuff like this on the internet? You can’t just say what you feel you silly thing. And no, sarcasm (this statement included) does not read well in type.
…and just because I don’t get it, doesn’t mean it’s wrong not to have female friends. We are friends with who we choose to be friends with, regardless of their gender. I just personally can’t imagine not having my group of friends. Of course, I also don’t get not having any male friends. I have several of those, too.
I was thinking that LadyJane was going with the sarcasm angle. Glad I was right.
@ladyjane
I am so glad for your second comment, I was getting the pitchfork ready!
I am shy and don’t have many female friends. The last few women I was friends with stabbed me in the back – who needs that? I’d rather have no friends.
AND not be labelled, thanks.
Yeah, sarcasm doesn’t usually translate well to print, lol
I’m a loner (INTP in the Myers-Briggs personality type spectrum). There are very few people I can really relate to, and the majority of the few happen to be male. It wasn’t planned that way.
Elizabeth Joyce, a character played by Naomi Watts in the movie Motherhood is is an intriguing character.
Fail proof.
Don’t trust women who don’t have any girlfriends, and
Don’t trust men who say all their exes were crazy.
Preach it.
Completely agree. I’ve been saying this for years. Women who only have male friends = RED FLAG. The only reason I cut Chelsea Handler some slack is because she has a lot of girlfriends and really promotes women on her show. There is a lot I don’t like about her but I admire her loyalty to women friends.
I’d still prefer a woman without female friends over Chelsea Handler.
this made me lol! I think Chelsea can be funny (as a writer anyway), but she seems like she would be such an annoying friend. All “Your ass looks huge in that – drink more vodka!”
One of my closest friends is a woman who had no female friends when I met her in college. She came from a small town, her best friend was a boy, and she just was way too blunt/no b.s. for most girls our age to handle. I didn’t get her to start with just because she didn’t fit the mold of what I was used to in my friendships. I didn’t know how to handle her, she wasn’t interested in most things I was used to with my friends. Gossip, binge eating, crying over boys lol. But once I got over myself I realized how incredibly awesome it was to have someone who would tell it to you straight in life, even if sometimes it’s not what you want to hear. Who is loyal and true long after the more superficially pleasing friends have faded out of your life. Which is why I can understand girls who prefer guy friends, because one of my best friends was one of those girls. To each their own.
My husbands ex IS crazy. He told me she was and she actually is. But then everyone has the capacity for occasional craziness, don’t you think? I’m PMS-ing and wanted to lay a beating on my computer today. Lol
My husband has a legit crazy ex too… But I think it’s “don’t trust a guy who says ALL his ex’s are crazy”. He speaks highly of his other ex’s.
I don’t distrust women who don’t have female friends. As stated before me there could be a number of reasons as to why. It may not necessarily have anything to do with their character. It could be as simple as maybe they like the company of men more than women. There’s nothing wrong with that.
I personally don’t trust who are all about being the “Queen B” in any group of females. To me that says they think they’re better than the others and in the end, those women are never *truly* about friendship.
As for the crazy exes thing- sometimes men are attracted to crazies, the drama and don’t even realize it. I liken it to some women falling in love with only a^holes.
So true. I completely agree. The comments regarding her statement are ridiculous. She made a valid point, but some people want to attack her for it.
I just dont like Jennifer anymore – its okay for her to thin-shame women and fat shame men constantly and now she is joining the Huvane mojo about females without female friends are not trustworthy.
I would rather have male friends that ever be friends with women like Jennifer, Chelsea Handler etc who judges and bitches about other women based on their friendships.
Just because you have several female friends it doesn’t make you trustworthy just the same way if you don’t have many female friends it doesn’t make you not trustworthy.
This. She sounds really insecure.
She could have this opinion based on past experiences.
Maya
jennifer has nothing to do with Handler and huvane. she is a big fan of angelina joli
I think Maya was maybe referencing how Handler once said she doesnt trust women who dont have female friends too? I dont think she was jumping to Jolie with her comment…
You made a huge mental leap because Angelina Jolie doesn’t have any female friends. Calm down.
Angelina Jolie appears to have female friends, just not a giant coven of them.
Angelina has plenty of close female friends. She just does NOT display them for your inspection … or use them for publicity.
My head is spinning from trying to figure out how you arrived at Jolie. Gossip is not rocket science, dont over think it
The world doesn’t consist of Chelsea Handlers you know. Friending a racist person, male or female, is disgusting. When someone makes that kind of statement they don’t try to say ‘Even bad women friends are better than good male friends’. She is basicly saying female friendship is important.
And That statement is why you don’t like her anymore? I find the stereotype she used for her women friends much more offensive.
@ Margo, Marnie & Omega: Where the hell am I mentioning Angelina Jolie? I wrote Chelsea Handler you automatically went to Angelina Jolie. Why is that? It seems to me you are the ones with the problem.
@Maybeiamcrazy: No – that statement is not what put me off her. Its the fact that she is okay with thin shaming women and fat shaming men that put me off her. As for Chelsea Handler – thank god that the world doesnt consist of the likes of her only. But I cannot help it – I hate people like her who attacks children.
Maya, Why? Just, why?
THIS, THIS and THIS!
I fail to see any reason why anyone can have trust issue with females who doesn’t have any girlfriends. And her explanation is really lame.
Love her! Also, the set and costumes for Mockingjay look AWESOME.
Another actress on the “I don’t trust a girl who doesn’t have any girlfriends” bandwagon. I don’t get that mentality. Some women just get along better with men. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them or they’re up to no good. Whenever a hear a woman say that I think she’s either paranoid or insecure.
Thank you!
+1
Exactly!!! Thank you.
Yes. Thanks. We’re friends with whomever we happen to be friends with, and when you’re an adult, making new friends becomes more complicated because that’s just how life is. I don’t have many female friends, but then I don’t have many friends in general. Not because I’m a horrible person, but because I’m just a loner. IT’S OK.
Seriously. It is a pointless, empty, and as far as I’m concerned, offensive sentiment. We all fear and label what we don’t understand.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE HER HAIR AND THOSE COLORS ON HER. (No, like seriously i need her hair and whatever that thing is she is wearing on the cover!!)
Calm down, Dear. *runs off to get QQ her desired stuff*
*cackles like a Witch*
I agree, this is much better than the Clintonesque styling from the Oscars, it’s young and it’s fun. And the colours are awesome too.
I know, I think she looks amazing here.
I would say on the whole I get along with men better than women, but having NO female friends would be a little weird. I’ve found all sorts of men and women that are untrustworthy. Along the way, you just notice patterns that are red flags.
I’m similar. Lots of male friends and a few female friends.
I don’t take offense to what she said because
1. She was referring to herself and that’s her opinion and maybe based on her personal experience.
2. She didn’t say she doesn’t trust a girl with more guy friends than girlfriends, or girl with only a couple of girlfriends. She seem to mean any at all.
But I understand that there is implied generalization in her statement and so she is open to criticism.
Lots of interesting comments on this thread, and I’ll add that while ive had/have profound friendships with both men and women, upon self-reflection I realized that over the years, I think i have unconsciously had different expectations of my male friends than female friends and so sometimes, have been more open to being let down by female friends.
As I woman I expect more support, understanding etc from other woman, and at the same time feel like I can’t bs my feelings to my girlfriends. I’m more vulnerable to my female friends. Which is great, but sometimes scary to me.
As such, I personally have found it sometimes “easier” to be with my male friends.
So it was less about my friends and more about me.
@MG – Interesting observations and I definitely need to give it some thought. I was raised with an older, Some in this situation seek out female friendship because they never had it and look for someone to fill in the sister role, I just ended up getting a long better with males.
In my experiences with women, I get sick of the cattiness and gossip. Sounds ironic on a celebrity gossip site, but I see this as harmless fun. I can’t stand anything vitriolic. The gossipy, catty, competitiveness of women is just exhausting after awhile. When I entered into the workforce after college this was the one thing that I was hoping would change, but it didn’t. Some women don’t get sick of talking about each other. Ugh! It’s frustrating.
@mia girl and HH, I feel the same way, about certain themes and aspects of my life, I find it much easier to talk to my male friends than to my female friends. Exactly because I see some, not all, of my female friends always talking about other people’s lives all the time. We go out for a cup of coffee or a drink and I hear the entire life oof everyone who lives in the town… I do have one girlfriend with whom I love chatting because we talk about politics, books, movies (we adore reading and watching movies and like the same type of books and movies), technology, work, our lives in general, but we never talk about other people and their lives, which is great… We learn from each other…
I also think that, maybe due to upbringing, some of my female friends tend to be very closed-minded in some aspects, whereas my male friends aren’t so judgemental if you make a mistake (we all make mistakes in life)… I feel like I can talk to my male friends about everything, but I mean everything, and with some of my female friends some themes are off limits… if I don’t want fingers pointing at me and judging me…
And no, I’m not talking about drama queens, nor being a drama queen, I’m talking about specific situations and conversations that made me realise I could never talk to them about those themes in particular…
Oh, before I actually forget, when I talk about friends I’m actually talking about close tight friends… that have been around since childhood… and those aren’t many.. love them to bits….
Then I have those friends (both female and male) that I hang out with because we work together…
I know a lot of people started to tire of her, but I still like her a lot and think she’s for real, not putting on an act. I like what she said about Lupita too. But it sounds like she needs a vacation soon, and some time away from all the fame stuff.
I do too. But funny how people perceive her or other celebritys totally different, right? I think she’s got a great publicist who’s well informed – she knew she would be slaughtered if she had won the Oscar against Lupita.
Yes, and she seems both insecure and pulled in every direction.
Notice how now she says she’ll stay in LA? Not what she said a few months ago. Still like her, but it’s like she’s caught between two worlds.
I don’t trust women who don’t like kittens ( or puppies) 🙂
YES!
YEA!!!!
If it wasn’t for my football team, I wouldn’t have any female friends just because of hobbies. So no, sorry, don’t care. I have my team, I have my husband and group of friends I’ve known since Middle School and all are guys with rotating g/fs (ranging in relationship lengths of a few weeks to multi-years) that I never have a problem with. So yeah.
Good for you! (Not sarcastic)
I don’t trust women who make sweeping generalizations about women.
Thank you.Also “I don’t trust a girl who doesn’t have any girlfriends” & “but they are guys like me”.She doesn’t think before she talks?I believe her.
The sweeping statement wasn’t wise. I have to wonder if she was talking about anyone in particular, but she was probably just being “nitro.”
Aha. I think you’ve got something there. I think all of Diaz’s quotes were about specific people, but she cloaked it under EVERYBODY.
i think she is not very bright or very articulate sadly
Boom! Thank you Kaiser.
I was inclined to give her a pass like I did with Cameron Diaz (at least until Cameron continued to vomit forth her wisdom) but I’m too tired of the constant judginess that seems inherent in these kind of statements to muster a defense.
This! Completely agree with you Kaiser.
iswydt, @Kaiser.
Everyone needs to generalise something. Personally, I don’t trust people who haven’t seen Star Wars (4,5,6), Back to the Future (1,2,3) or Indiana Jones (1,2,3) or Lord of the Rings (1,2,3).
You called it – though, it can be all to easy and almost seductive even, to get swept into the generalizations in heated conversation. Wise to take a moment to step away from generalizations because they are too easy.
Wow, some of these comments about women without female friends are really hurtful. I have a couple of female friends that I’m not super close with (who I would LOVE to become closer with), but the truth of the matter is that turning someone from an ancillary acquaintance into a best friend is HARD! It’s not like I can’t get along with women, it’s just so much more difficult to forge these relationships when you’re older. Women who have the same best friends from school are lucky, and I wish I coulda been so blessed. I am not a drama hungry slut, I’m just shy! Damn ladies…
Adrienne, I think you’re fine. I think what she meant was the kind of women who are “OH, I don’t have ANY female friends because women are sooooo dramatic” types.
You said you have some females you identify as friends, which is all she means. I know girls who don’t even have that – the kind that can’t even sit in a room and make small chat with another woman without being in a standoff.
I spend most of my time with men, but I have female friends who I chum around with, but I wouldn’t say I’m closer to them than ALL of my guy friends. I work in a male dominated field, so there’s just less women around. But the girls that I’m friends with are important to me.
If it doesn’t apply to you, you can choose not to be offended. Clearly, it’s not about you. There will always be exceptions. But what a lot of people have learned, from life experience, is that often there are some red flag reasons why a woman cannot get along with any other women.
Same here. i think and my (bf thinks too) that girls are SO difficult to communicate with before they decide whether they want to meet up with you or not you feel like a beggar.With guys its like this -beer?beer.ok.But then again,I am an only child and need a 100% relationship and if its hard for u do meet with me even though u live 20mins away then sorry but i wont waste my time…
I am exactly the same (really, all you said applies to me too lol)…. I feel very awkward trying to make a friendship happen with a girl, I always wonder if I come across weird or stalkerish or extremely uncool. With guys it’s just like you said – direct.
Although, I do find it easier to get along with women who are older than me, than those that are my age.
I’ll sit in The Shame Corner with you because I too have mostly male friends.
Why? Because I like visiting breweries, watching sports, playing sports, and genuinely enjoy the company of men. On the weekends I like DOING stuff, trying new things-for instance, last Sunday a male friend took me car racing. I would have gladly gone with a female friend, but none of my girlfriends are into that sh*t.
My female friends and I hang out and drink voddies and bitch about dudes, which is also awesome but in a different way. I can’t do that every weekend–too redundant.
Any chick that would judge me because I have mostly male friends is not someone who I have anything in common with and definitely not someone who’s opinion I care about.
Oh, and Jennifer Lawrence sounds like a complete moron.
Agreed
I like all of those things and I also like to go out and party with my girls. And I know other girls who would love to do all of those things too because they love life and don’t restrict themselves to the same routines. I’ve known one really posh uptight girl and with me she would just play basketball, go running and go for drinks in a stupid café. She would take me shopping.
Friends who would never try something new would simply not be my friends because they are boring people. That goes for men and women. I’ve dumped male friends because they are boring, playing videogames all weekend. Like bye…It’s a personality trait, not a gender trait.
See, I don’t mind having friends who don’t have the same interests as me and I don’t need friends who want to try new things.
Each of my friends, male of female, brings something wonderful and special to my life.
Also, most of my female friends are from college–art school actually. Most artists I know don’t GAF about sports. Again, fine by me. Much like my romantic relationships, with friendships I’m usually attracted to people who are different than me. I don’t have to share every single thing with every single friend.
I just enjoy having a diverse group of friends-the most important part is that each brings value to my life.
Completely agree. It is really a ridiculous statement to made. I mean my bffs, those who I know since a child are both male and female, but that is just me. Many people have only male friends or female friends and it is ok. The important thing is what they bring to your life and if they support you. Not their sex.
I completely understand what you are saying, as I have said it myself as well. The older you get, the harder it is to make lasting, meaningful friendships. My opinion is that once you are in your late 20s, you are who you are going to be for the rest of your life (if that makes any kind of sense lol), and it is much harder to “adapt” to different people. You are who you are, and you want friends who fit into your life and lifestyle, similar interests, goals etc. That’s not to say you can’t make new friends as you get older, I have made plenty of acquaintances in the past few years (I’m 29), but I would say only one real FRIENDSHIP in the past 4 years (and ironically enough, it’s with a woman my husband was originally friends with – I stole her from him lol). I definitely appreciate my other close friendships very much.
I kinda agree with you on how you ‘are’ yourself in your late 20’s. Kinda. I’d argue it can be any time between late 20’s and late 30’s, because I’m early 30’s and I have no idea who I am. I’d say I’ve been in a pupal stage for the past 5 years and probably explains the complete lack of friends I have at the moment.
Many old friends I’ve grown out of (you know, when they start defining you and think…no, that’s not right, even though you’re not sure why), and I’m not fully formed yet to find new friends. That’s my explanation for how friendless I am at the moment.
I’m so sick of this “don’t trust women who don’t have girlfriends” sentiment. As someone who works in a field absolutely dominated by men it just makes sense to maintain friendships with people with whom I share common interests. My close friends happen to be men and I am open to having female friends but men have just been more inclusive and friendly. I don’t care about fashion or make-up, I prefer video games and watching hockey over reality tv – but that doesn’t mean I’m masculine or untrustworthy. I happen to quite enjoy trashy gossip, as I suppose only women should?
It’s an opinion of hers but I think it’s a pretty silly one, I trust people because they’ve proven themselves to be trustworthy not because they have a bunch of good gal pals, I think that if you walk around with this mindset then you’re robbing yourself of the chance to really connect with some truly amazing people.
Is having common interests really necessary for a friendship? There are 4 of us in my BFF group and there isn’t a shared interest among us. Maybe because we’ve known eachother since we were 5, I imagine it’s more difficult when you’re older.
I suppose to me it is. As a woman in her late 20’s, I don’t randomly meet a lot of women to strike up a friendship with. All of my female friends are friends through inheritance – they’re half of a couple that my husband and I hang out with. I’m not sure how I would forge a relationship with someone and really care about them if we had nothing to do together or say to one another.
I really dislike the notion that if you are a woman and have a majority of male friends you are not trusted by other women. I have few girlfriends and have always had closer, platonic relationships with men. Partly because I am not into the idea of marriage and kids, I do not like talking about a lot of things my girlfriend’s enjoy (the endless discussions of periods really bore me) chatting about and I just like the ease of my friendships with the men in my life. There seems to be no jealousy, competition or hysteria with men. I like that.
She said ANY girlfriends. You have a few. I have a mix of both male and female and I too don’t trust a girl who doesn’t have any girlfriends at all.
If you have girlfriends that our jealous and competitive against/with you, they’re the wrong friends then.
Men that only have female friends is a red flag too.
Thank you for your insight into my life! Lol.
Again, not what was said. It was “who doesn’t have ANY girlfriends”.
I work in the IT field. Men surround me. I will tell you, half of them are more moody and dramatic than the female friends I have. Even the trades guys I am friends with can be much cattier with each other than I am with any of my female friends.
Not every woman sits around talking about periods and marriage and babies. It’s a bit sweeping to assume that that’s why you can’t bond with women as closely.
“There seems to be no jealousy, competition or hysteria with men.” Where are these men you speak of? Because I see juuuuust as much with guys as I do with women. It’s just usually displayed and handled differently.
Not sure why you are taking such issue with MY OPINION. Plenty on this thread have disagreed with Lawrence’s comment yet here you are, bagging on me for my personal opinion and experience. You are the one assuming things when I am speaking about myself and not speaking about every other woman out there. Jeez!
No one is taking issue with you, so please try not to be so rude next time.
ahah so true Erinn, men can also be such whinny little b*tches, and when they are I find it way worse to endure… But I do see that in some kind of probabilistic terms they can be easier to deal, but just because it might be some self-fulfilling prophecy (that we probably expect less from men than we expect from women). I think anyway that any kind of general assumption is not nice. Any. Not all the girls want to talk about make-up and fashion and not all the guys are easy as a breeze. Plus, the friends you have also come from personal experiences, chance, luck…it’s hard to have good friends and blessed are those who can have a good number of them, whether men or women.
I think one of the funnier things in this thread is that those who are offended about this idea and the stereotype, are stereotyping the hell out of women and men in their defenses. “I don’t hang out with women because none like to do x,y,z.” “I hang out with men because they are simpler and like to do x,y,z.” Hilarious.
I don’t see the stereotypes that you’re getting mad about. All I see is people sharing their personal experiences, that’s all.
Who cares who other people are friends with? My best female friend says she doesn’t get why any woman would have a close friendship with a guy. She has all female friends. It’s all good. I’m not offended by her reaction because I’m secure with my relationships and I don’t need anyone’s approval of them.
*shrugs*
‘There seems to be no jealousy, competition or hysteria with men.’
I’m wondering if you’ve actually met any men before because this comment is hilarious.
I don’t trust women period therefore I don’t have a female friend but that is because of past experiences including within family.. I’m willing to give a female a chance but she has to earn that trust to get close to me (I’m tired of being the nice girl and get burned by women with their nonsense) .. I have male friends like no tomorrow.. they are my dogs and been by my side for life…
Fame has turned her in to an egomaniac
Was it fame? Or was she like this all along?
By the way i only have two close female friends the rest of my closest friends are men and am far from being a ho or untrustworthy
Reading comprehension she said ANY females friends ANY. I have only two girlfriends either which is fine
It’s still a stupid-ass thing to say. So if a woman only has two female friends–that’s all good, but if a woman has zero female friends then there’s automatically something wrong with her?
What if she lives in North Dakota where there’s 150 to100 male-to-female ratio? What if she’s a climatologist in the North Pole working on a team of all men?
The point is that it’s ignorant and judgmental to perpetuate a stereotype of women based on who their friends are, without knowing their backgrounds, circumstances and who they are as a person.
Ultimately, who gives a f*ck how many male/female friends a person has?
God, this is all so incredibly juvenile. Ugh.
@TOK Ugh can I hug you girl? I feel like this one thing alone is not enough for me to disqualify someone as a person I can trust, I need a little more than that. And furthermore, what if this person has been burnt by females before and you’re just perpetuating the argument in her mind that women aren’t kind to one another by keeping her at arms length?
And for those saying women are catty, gossipy, whatever, PEOPLE are catty, mean and disloyal, it’s not a gender-based thing. Just pick good and decent people to call your friends.
But whatever, everyone is free to live their life as they please, that’s just my opinion, I can see how a lot of people think this but there always exceptions to the rules, always.
I almost screamed “YES!” as I read your comment, Dani2.
*high fives*
Exactly, exactly, exactly.
Most of all, this:
“Just pick good and decent people to call your friends.”
Doesn’t matter if that person has a penis or a vagina, as long as they’re a good egg.
What I don’t get is admittedly a human with no friends, seems sad..it’s also highly unlikely as within ones lifetime relationships come and go so it’s perfectly normal to have had at least 1 friend at some point. My thing is…is this really a thing? The woman with no female friends ever in life? Because I don’t think it is. That being said..this is hyperbole on her part. She means hardly any. But the rationale is skimpy.
She’s using a rare instance or condition the woman friendless woman to make an untrustworthy pronouncement. It’s really about her: look at me I have loads of girlfriends and I love girls because girls make or break most actresses so please love me too and be my pal..though I’m blonde and sometimes act sexy..I’m really not. I’m no threat jealous hater ladies..love me please don’t hate me.
My sister only has gay friends. Maybe a few female friends but she’s not really that close with them to call them girlfriends. Not her choice though to solely hangout with the gays. In her field of work, she’s surrounded by gay men all the time. She’s far from being untrustworthy.
I have a couple girl friends but by far prefer going out with my guy friends. And not because I have stereotyped thoughts or mistreat my female friends…it’s quite the opposite. I’ve been backed stabbed a few times by female friends. Everything is more complicated with girls in general.
With guys it’s more simple, you meet up, they don’t care what your wearing , they go out to have fun, drink and laugh. The next day there’s no ” omg! did you see what she/ he did or say ??” …etc.
Heck, I don’t think guys have their own gossip site where they check out and comment on people like we do here!
One of the guy friends I have is the judgiest, bitchiest and most sensitive person I know. I love him to death, but he’s so much drama. Such behaviour isn’t gender exclusive.
I’m curious how old you are that you have more in common with men than women. I have a lot of male friends too and only a few close gfs but I sure as hell don’t like video games nor do I like reality TV. Are you suggesting all women enjoy reality TV? That’s a bit of a generalization too.
BTW, men love to gossip as much as women. Don’t kid yourselves ladies.
I wouldn’t be so sure of that. Men can be petty and real s**t stirrers as well. I had one friend in school who was very likeable on the surface but he was secretly playing mind games with people and subtly managed to turn people against each other. He got a real kick out of it. That kind of behaviour seems to go on with women more but it’s not absent where men are concerned either. And men can be sulky whiners too…there’s no shortage of them. Generally, there is less judging people on their appearance or gossiping but as someone with male and female friends, if a female starts gossiping, the men are just as into it.
I don’t generally like celebrity gossip because it’s nearly always superficial, vapid and overtly catty. While this site is occasionally all of those things, I think it has intelligent writers and commenters who use that celebrity gossip to explore human attitudes and issues in our society. Not the most hard pressing stuff but it’s intriguing all the same. I’m interested in the entertainment industry and while I generally don’t care about what someone is wearing or who they’re dating, I am interested in exploring the psychology behind these people because we see them on our screens and news sources all the time. I think there’s some really insightful opinions on this site in between the occasional “Her dress is ugly” and “I ship these two” (nothing wrong with that if you need to let out your excitement or let off some steam).
Was I the only one irked by her reason for falling? She was TRYING to be nice and that’s why she fell? Why does she have to have an excuse for falling everytime? She can call herself clumsy and end it there.
Sad to think that a young woman that just a few years ago who seemed fresh and non judgmental, is now coming out with the ‘ girls girls’ line of how they don’t trust other women depending on the gender of their friendships. It’s like they are still in high school.
These women always give me the vibe of ‘mean girls’ —— we will only like you if your like us.
Now that you say it, I agree.
Honest cyber moment.
I’m not a girls-girl
I have more male friends than female
I dont think or live like most females my age
If I could meet mature educated women not entirely interested in finding a man, marriage, babies, living in the suburbs, shopping or superficial beauty…I would have a gaggle of female BFF’s!
Do you live in a small town/city? If you do your solution might be a bigger city with a higher variety of women/people with careers…
I relocated to the south for work. Culture shock is an understatement.
‘I can’t live like this.’”
Unless the money and attention keeps rolling in, in which case I’ll continue to dry my crocodile tears with my dollar bills and flip the paparazzi off to make it seem like I still really don’t want the attention…
ugh.
lmao right? if you can’t live like that, then don’t. live like the rest of us!
That may sound like a stupid question, but why exactly are women without girlfriends considered untrustworthy? And untrustworthy regarding everything or a particular area? I really don’t quite understand. And I doubt she (and other celebrities I heard voice this opinion) would include casual acquaintances you are not particularly close to.
I for once would say that 98% of my good to very close friends are male, and that has been the case since I was a kid. I had female friends in the past, and I get along very well with other girls, as well as girlfriends/ female friends of my male friends. But I am not close to them at all.
Also on a side note: having no female friends now, am I cursed never to have any because I am now considered untrustworthy?
Sorry for the long comment.
I think some of it is what Meg said in her post. Part of it for some people(some, not all) is the idea that a heterosexual man and a heterosexual woman cannot be friends without one wanting more. In other words, the “When Harry Met Sally” theory. Because we(we as in straight people as a whole) are raised to see the opposite sex in eyes of being potential romantic/sexual partners. So even though there’s plenty of opposite sex friendships out there that disproves the “When Harry Met Sally” nonsense people still cling on to that idea today.
I remember back in high school, I had a male friend who I was very close to. Everyone kept saying that we should date. Which became annoying for the two of us, though we were friends right up until he graduated(he’s a year older). Time did cause the friendship to fade but I still liked having him as a friend.
It’s not that simple. It’s a simple phrase, but there’s a lot more behind it, as to why it became a ‘thing.’ When people are saying they don’t trust women without female friends, what they are talking about is the woman who can’t get along with any other women. At all. Always drama. Always issues. So why is that? Well, often that type of person will tell you that all women are petty, jealous, after your man, stupid, take things too seriously, backstabbing, etc. If this is their experience with ALL women, just like the guy who says ALL his exes are crazy, then what you usually come to find out is that this particular person has A LOT of issues with other people in general, doesn’t treat them well, probably actually has a lot of drama with all genders, acts like an a*hole to people and gets mad when everyone doesn’t just put up with their crap, etc., etc. If someone has issues with an entire gender, that’s a red flag.
One of the few people in this post that gets it. Love your comments x
Thanks for your replies, but if your interpretation is right, then the phrasing of this statement is misleading. There is a difference between not having girlfriends, and disliking women in general. Because not having girlfriends could also mean that no other women like “her” rather than her not liking other women.
It is so odd to me, that I keep hearing this statement so often recently, and I wonder if there is actually any logic behind it, or just a platitude people repeat without thinking about it.
@Folie: I have met enough women that are like this to feel there is merit to the phrase or lesson. Generally I’ve come across them as coworkers.
Probably because a girlfriend-less woman treats other women as competition. Or presumably they think engaging in girly stuff is shallow, corny and weak. I’ve met women who only want to hang out with guys b/c they think it would make them look tough and superior. Sadly, the guys just want to bone them not really befriend them.
There’s no rule without exceptions and I think she knows that. She probably said it based on her personal experience and majority. In my whole life I met a lot of women who only enjoyed male company and yes, they weren’t nice at all. So whenever I hear some girl/woman saying “she only gets along with men” my warning sign starts to blare, but it doesn’t mean I’ll just judge and walk away.
well said
As I said in a Gwyneth Paltrow thread a few weeks ago, the cliche of guy’s girl and girl’s girl is irritating because we women are supposed to LOVE one(girl’s/girl) and HATE the other(guy’s girl.) It just seems like it was designed to market and reinforce gender stereotypes that Jennifer clearly buys into. It’s also made to prey on whatever insecurities that women might have by automatically making women distrust any woman who’s not “Like Them.”
For the record, I’m a loner. I have few friends, male or female. So CBer’s feel free to hate me all you want. 😉
I really like you owning who you are Xantha!
I have had the privilege of a wide variety of friends of all stripes, social class, gender – you name it, and I’m telling you the ‘loners’ were some of the most loveable. Everyone has their preferences. C’est la vie.
You know what’s pissing me off about this whole post? I’m reading some of the comments and you folks realize men can be just as judg-y, bitchy, competitive as anyone else and applying these descriptions to just women ain’t even right. I work in an office full of men and you would not believe some of the sh-t that flies out of their mouths. They back-stab, they gossip, they’re just better at hiding it. If you want to be friends with only men, fine but f-ckin own it and don’t give these little bullsh-t quailifiers.
I make friends with people based on our common interests, not what may or may not be dangling between their legs.
THIS…sing it Sister!
I think Jennifer was wrong to generalize but the idea that men can’t be bitchy, gossipy and judgy is indeed laughable.
But your last statement sums it up the best. “I choose my friends based on who they are as a person not by what they have between the legs.” And that list for me has been pared down considerably over the years. Not all friendships stand the test of time.
“Not all friendships last the test of time.” You’re right, I Choose Me.
Whether you are a traveler or perhaps a former friend let you down, invariably some friendships don’t make it to the finish line. I treasure the good times for what they were and remember those friends at their best.
Unless of course they were toxic, but those ‘friends’ tended to weed themselves out pretty fast. (I was lucky that I only had one close friend betray me and that was as a very young teen.)
Blue marie, this is so true. The only lab I worked that had a lot of gossip and drama was composed of 75% male students. The lab was great, but there was drama it was so exhausting. They can be so needy for attention.
I was a die hard Jennifer Lawrence fan until the girlfriend comment. So, since I don’t have girlfriends, I’m not trustworthy? What a naive bitch comment. Seriously. What a high and mighty bitch mode she’s in.
She probably said it based on her personal experience and her owns insecurities. She might change her mind when she gets to know girls like you. I used to dislike my current bestfriends now i cant imagine my life without them.
I don’t think it’s fair to jump to conclusions because a woman has few female friends.
my mom used to tell me if i ever met a girl like that it was because she was a slut and that was why guys loved being around her.
I have very few female friends, since high school nearly 100% of the women i’ve met have screwed me over. my only female friends are from when i was in high school and we no longer live in the same city. Every female roommate i’ve ever had has stolen money from me, bad mouthed me to mutual acquaintances, they were passive aggressive yet insisted nothing was wrong-it was infuriating. So i started rooming with guys instead, and my mom screamed at me she was so upset. She assumed i was sleeping with them and that was why i roomed with them. Considering how little i dated it was completely unjustified for her to think i was sleeping with multiple guys at once. these sexist beliefs are screwed up.
most women i meet aren’t capable of truly being happy for another woman’s success, they see your success as their failure. You do something well, they feel threatened and put you down to feel better about themselves. then there’s the women i’ve met who are completely superficial-if you don’t look good on a certain day to them they’ll tell you to your face, you gain a few pounds they mock you for it, it’s not okay to be friends with them unless you look amazing all the time. they control you using superficial rules they’ve made up.
One thing I have found interesting is that women who truly have no female friends seem to, for some reason, often be concetrated near the “top” of their respective fields. In my own workplace, I constantly hear about the secretaries and staff talking about doing stuff with their girlfriends, but many of the female lawyers will cop to not really having girlfriends. Some of them have argued that this is because women seem to, largely, have a really negative view of high-ranking or “power” women at work. it’s often assumed that a woman who is very high-ranking must have slept her way there – or it’s presumed that she got there by stepping on a lot of others. I’m not sure how true it is, but it certainly backs up what I and others I know have observed. There is a deep, deep mistrust of ambitious women (among everyone, not just women). Especially those who tend to fall on the “curt” or “direct” side of things. Ambition is a very, very MALE thing now. There’s actual research out that suggests that the higher a woman ascends educationally or professionally, the number of female friends she has falls. That shocked me on some level, but it also conforms to what I see daily. But I’m not sure why it is. But I hate this argument because it seems to be really based in unfair assumptions about women when there might be other factors at play.
Yes, I can totally see that and relate.
I agree with this too.
I agree with all of this too.
But I do wonder why the “deep, deep mistrust of ambitious women (among everyone, not just women)” doesn’t keep men from being friends with these* women?
*Full disclosure, I’m one of them.
Whatever. I had plenty of female friends growing up and until HS. Then I mostly hung out with men. Some of my female friends were very insecure or gossiped a lot or expected everyone to come to them and were too lazy to go see me. The guys in my life were just easier to get along with and I always had a tom boy side that helped facilitate those relationships. The older I got, the less friends I had, period and my closest and only true friend right now just happens to be male. But that’s just MY story. I don’t judge other women for having more or less of a certain gender of friends. That’s just stereotyping.
me either.
What’s with all the Jennifer Lawrence hating? There seems to be a predictable pattern of a celebrity becoming highly esteemed, then receiving full-on backlash after awhile. The only exception to this seems to be for women who are overweight, older and/or unattractive e.g. Adele, Meryl Streep, etc. Yeah, I said it. Adele and Meryl say incredibly obnoxious things sometimes and no one blinks an eye because they, ahem, don’t feel threatening.
In any case, this is one article, edited, as ALL articles are. Maybe she’s trying to put the whole ‘pitting women against women’ i.e. supposed KStew jealousy to rest by pointing out that she values female friendship.
Jennifer is friends with Emma Stone and Taylor Swift, both who happen to be fashionable even in their downtime, and well, let’s face it, very thin (I doubt they nosh on burgers and fries on the regular, but who’s to know). So obviously Jennifer isn’t exclusively in to friendships with non-fashion loving/big appetite gals. I read this as her articulating that her personal world isn’t fashion-obsessed, rather she values people whose interests lie outside of the green smoothie and fashion-centric world of celebrity. Yeah sure, she’s a face of Dior. But KStew, Keira Knightly, Marion Cotillard and Mila Kunis are faces of major fashion houses…but these women are papped wearing some seriously dumpy clothes on the regular. I think it’s safe to assume they don’t care much for fashion. Does the fact that Jennifer reps Dior but still doesn’t necessarily prescribe to a high fashion lifestyle mean she’s a hypocrite? I don’t think so. A paycheck is a paycheck. If someone offered you $15 million to rep Dior, I get the feeling most probably would do it, wether they were super in to fashion or not.
And about her explaining her falling at the awards show, she’s obviously just concerned about how the public will view it. So she tries to over-explain. Again, understandable.
I don’t read Jennifer Lawrence as an egomaniacal hypocrite. I think she’s just a young woman who rose to fame extraordinarily fast, who’s seemingly struggling with it, and obviously cares about how the public view her. Which, from reading all your griping, she has grounds to care about. She knows people, you guys being proof, are whinging about her every move and comment.
I’m a still a big fan. Her talent has not faltered and she’s just as endearing to me as she was when it was popular to like her.
Agreed. She is really hated. People will rip her to shred for harmless comments. There is nothing wrong with her except her few flaws. we only like to build up woman and tear her down. Also i like how supportive she is to Lupita.
Thank you for saying everything I wanted to say and saying it better than I could have. I agree with everything you wrote Beatrice.
And I read the whole interview there is way more intresting/funny things in there then this.
She actually gets a pass much more than many many celebrities on this site. Andrew Garfield was torn to shreds for a similar comment. If Goop, or Kristen Stewart or xyz celebrity who is not so loved would say the same thing, she would be crucified. Jennifer gets a pass for a lot of the bad things she does.
Thank you. Everything you’ve said. I’m not a j law fan but I honestly do find her endearing. She rose to fame really fast and young at that. She may say things that are annoying but that’s just her. Insecurity or not, she’s 23 she will definitely grow up.
There is no evidence of any sort that Jennifer is friends with Taylor Swift or Emma Stone. The word “friend” is used so loosely in Hollywood. Just because they get along, doesn’t mean they’re friends.
She does get a pass on most of her eyebrow-raising actions and comments, which I honestly don’t understand.
Oh, , my best friend is a man (since 1999) we even were roommates (nothing sexual) and the majority of my friends are men (I met them around the same time at university), The women I know are only acquaintances.
I really want to know what that means about me
It doesn’t mean anything. I have a male friend that I am very close to. I have one female friend who I am not as close to but I enjoy her company.
It doesn’t mean I am a cheating slut because I have a male friend. it doesn’t mean that I hate my own gender because I have no close “girlfriends”. In fact I am pretty introverted and like a bunch of ME time.
:),
I hate that as a woman, you HAVE to have female friends. Otherwise you’re a jealous, backstabbing bitch. Who comes up with these rules? When has how many friends you have–male or female–become dependent on how good of a person you are? Why can’t you just make friends were you connect, and not worry about gender? I only have one friend–who happens to be female. What happens if we have a falling out? Does that mean I’m a bitch?
That’s what I’d like to know as well; who comes up with these rules?? And why do I have to abide by them? Oh, right I don’t have to. And I do not. Lot of my friends are dudes. My roommates (all 3 of them) are dudes. This is one of those things that I tell women like JLaw to kiss my pasty white arse. I’m fine with women unless you get your opinion of my based simply on the gender of my friends. That’s shallow and judgy and I don’t care to be around you.
I shy away from friendships with women is because men don’t seem to have rules like, “don’t trust a girl who doesn’t have any girlfriends.”
Also, backstabbing. Men are dicks in other ways, but the soul-crushing backstabbing I experienced with female friendships in my 20’s has really turned me off for a while.
I’m sure I’ll get over it. But it’s been tough to trust women again, even though I’ve met some nice ones (I think) since then. Don’t flame me, I’m just being honest.
She look so cute and fresh faced in these pics. I love them. The cover is a damn mess though. I always forget how young she is until I see pics like this. I’m not a fan at all (she seems like a handfull tbh) but she seems pretty aware of how tiring the public will become of her. I can’t believe there were rumors that she was jealous of Kristen. Like, she has the hottest career at the moment and is setting a new standard for female actresses. I don’t like her but she has no reason to be jealous of anything at the moment. She is the blue print. And of all people Kristen Stewart ?…let’s not with the delusions. That’s like Chris Evans being jealous of Josh Harnett. Girl, bye. Love what she said about Lupita. She better stan..
LOL. Look at all the offended ‘guys-girls’ in this post. Reading comprehension isn’t a strong point for a lot of people here huh ? If your comment starts with ‘I have a few female friends but most of my friends are male’ then she obviously wasn’t talking about you. She’s talking about girls who don’t have ANY girlfriends not one or two. Y’all love to stay mad, I swear…
Like, it’s only females who walk around talking about ‘I get on better with men’ as if it’s a badge of honour. Are there any men who love to walk around proudly proclaiming that they get on better with women ??
And honestly, reading this post I’m starting to wonder if any of you have any true male friends. All of this ‘they’re less jealous, envious, back-stabbing, bitchy, gossiping…is such a joke. Men are all those things, they’re just allowed to get away with it because we hold ourselves to a higher standard. Men will literally f*ck each other’s wives, kill each other then act like nothing happened the next day at the pub. If women dare say they don’t like each other’s outfits then suddenly the friendship ends because ‘we’re just sooo bitchy’. Please. (And btw if no men have have stabbed you in the back in your workplace it’s not because men respect you more than women do…it’s because you’re not competition to them.)
“Men will literally f*ck each other’s wives, kill each other then act like nothing happened the next day at the pub.”
Never the most effective technique to perpetuate a generalization in hopes of dispelling another generalization.
Anyway, why take it so personally?
People are just sharing THEIR experiences, not saying that there’s anything wrong with women who only have female friends, unlike J Law who is saying that women who have all male friends are automatically untrustworthy.
So if a woman says that she was violently abused by her mother and that’s why she doesn’t trust women, she’s immediately kicked out of the Sisterhood? Women don’t have an obligation to have female friends if it doesn’t work for them-that’s kind of a rule of feminism.
Look, people have different experiences with both genders-nothing wrong with that. It’s our personal interactions and day-to-day experiences that shape us. Sure, men can be as gossip-y as women (sometimes much worse IMO) but some women here may have never witnessed that kind of behavior from men, thus their perception is that men are not like that. Just because you and I have seen men act like that, does it automatically invalidate the perception of the woman who hasn’t seen it?
What I’m seeing here is that some women find a friendship that works for them and sometimes that friend happens to have a d*ck. I don’t get why it has to be an either/or thing and I don’t get why people are taking other’s choice of friends as an insult.
Love who you love y’all.
I also wanted to add that platonic friendships between men and women furthers equality-it opens up communication between the two genders and helps men to understand that women do not exist solely for romantic or sexual pleasure, we are true equals.
Conversely, friendships between women is important as well-it helps us form a community and find strength and support in each other.
But mainly just be friends with who you want to be friends with. Men are not “The Enemy” and women are not “The Enemy”. If possible, take each person as an individual, but ultimately it’s a personal choice who we decide to be friends with.
J Law’s statement was divisive as f*ck-all and pits women against each other.
Not cool.
I have to say her hair is fabulous here and I covet that outfit she has on.
Um. not sure why my comment posted here instead of a separate thread.
‘Never the most effective technique to perpetuate a generalization in hopes of dispelling another generalization.’
I wasn’t hoping to dispel generalisations in my comment so…
I’m really not taking it personally tbh. I just find it super funny that certain women (in general, not just in this post) will talk about how they don’t have female friends because the like ‘sports and beer and video games’ and women only talk about ‘periods and fashion and boys ewww’. It’s the classic ‘I’m not like the other girls, I’m a cool girl.’ Like I said, where are the men who only hang out with women because other men are ‘bitchy, envious, back-stabbing, catty, jealous…’ ?? I have many male friends and comment on a lot of hip-hop based forums (like thecoli.com which I mentioned above) and no matter how much they bitch about each other, there’s never any of this ‘that’s why most of my friends are female, they’re easier to hang out with’. Let’s not act like men are walking around calling themselves ‘girl’s guys’ and treating their mostly female friendship group as if it’s a badge of honour. Some men get quite suspicious of other men who only have female friends. Their usually presumed to be gay. It’s not right but let’s be real here…
I truly believe that we hold women to a higher standard when we’re friends with them (it’s kind of similar to how we’ll complain about a female boss being a bitch but say nothing about a male boss with the same attitude because it’s expected)
I mean, I pretty much agree with everything you said and I understand that as a women with mostly male friends it must be annoying for you to hear that women like you aren’t to be trusted. I don’t completely agree with Jennifer but i do get where she’s coming from. I’m black and if I meet other black folks that say things like ‘most of my friends are white because I only listen to indie music not hip-hop and I’m not ghetto and i like comic books and hate Tyler Perry’ they immediately get a side-eye from me because there are plenty of black folks who like the same thing.
Like you said be friends with whoever you want, everyone’s circumstances are different.
This is sad. I really liked JLaw at one time. What an immature, unreasonable, old-fashioned, thing to say. Very silly. People who are constantly suspicious, judgmental and paranoid about other people are not trustworthy. Male or female. It’s so childish to say you have a gender preference when it comes to friendship. Ridiculous comments.
Agree with her on ‘not trusting women who have no female friends’.
I’ve always believed that you attract what you are – and this applies in every relationship.
I have never had bad or fake friends. Probably cos am a good person.Most of the time.
I see myself as a stereotypical ‘guy’, in the sense that I’ve got male and female pals.
But generally I only have very few who I call friends. This is because there are friends and then there are friends.
A good girlfriend is the best friend any girl or woman can have IMHO.
When I came back for my final year in the Uni after my 6months internship a few months ago, I was slimmer. I wasn’t aware of how much weight I lost cos it wasn’t intentional. My best friend- girl – was the only one then who was genuinely concerned but later found out it was misplaced as I was absolutely alright. Another girl pal of mine in my dept made me aware of the gossip about my weight. Some of which were cruel- speculations of me being sick,had a D&C or a very bad break-up. Granted most of these were said by girls but then my girl buddies always had my back.
All am trying to say is girls aren’t bad as friends as they are made out to be. Yes,we are complex beings,quite annoying,very critical and competitive. But these are some of the things that differentiate us from the male gender. And also why we are females – girls and women.
I’ve met a lot of looney tunes that had girlfriends.
It’s like that saying, “only real women have curves”.
It’s women alienating other women. Good for you.
I don’t care if a woman has only male friends or whatever.
The only thing that gets on my nerves is when someone says that women are too much drama or are too bitchy. You just haven’t found the right friends if that’s the case. Not every woman is full of drama and bitchy. I am. But not every one.
Good god people, chill. She says she doesn’t trust girls who don’t have any girlfriends, she doesn’t say that you or I shouldn’t. If you don’t have any girlfriends then you don’t, your choice. The only downside to that is that you’ll probably never be friends with Jennifer Lawrence 🙂
Thanks for the sanity Alex. She is not telling people how to pick friends. She is just stating her preferences in friends. Everyone has a right to pick their friends however they choose. Furthermore if you are a women that only chooses to have guy friends, you wouldn’t be friends with JLaw anyways because she is a woman.
Yes…we need some sanity on this board…STAT!. It’s a harmless quote blown waaay out of proportion by the same people who simply do not like Lawrence. The funny thing is, I’ve browsed around some other sites that posted the article (or portions of it) and it seems that no one else is taking issue with Lawrence regarding the “girlfriends” comment. Christ, not even Jezebel had a problem with it (LOL!). So, put it down to the same people, the same old shit.
Ye Jules LOL, why should we try to have a change of opinions about a quote that many disagree with LOL why to use our rationality to discuss something that might be hurtful for some people?
meh…I am actually a fan of Jennifer Lawrence and I guess it’s normal that some stuff in an interview comes out sounding (or being “quoted”) awkwardly and people should chill about the importance of it…Still, we have the capacity of criticising someone we like about something we don’t agree with…and what she said was unfortunate for many. I find it great that some intelligent people want to talk about it.
“I’m a lot more closed off and frankly probably rude. I mean, I’m from Kentucky. I used to be very personable and make eye contact and smile at people, and now all I do is look down. When I’m at dinner and one person after another keeps interrupting to take pictures, it’s like, ‘I can’t live like this.’”
I really like this quote from her. At least she’s honest about some things.
@Alex: Yup….I was just about to writethe same thing. I honestly found nothing to be offended about in the article. In fact, this is probably my favorite Jennifer Lawrence interview. I really like her….talented and honest. It seems that it’s the same people who write the same negative comments and they take up a lot of space…but it’s really the same few people every time. So, they may not like Lawrence but there are still many who do…they just aren’t here today (LOL!).
I have no issue with women who don’t have other female friends, some just don’t for whatever reason. It is those women who don’t and then throw out the ‘women are sooooo catty and b*tchy and omg soooooo much DRAMA and that’s why I hang out with men’ that I side eye. If someone feels the need to point out all the flaws like that in an entire gender I feel they are more than anything holding up a mirror to the sort of person they really are.
You better preach. It’s that Lily Allen Syndrome.
Maybe I these girls don’t have girl friends because every time they are meet a girl they like, that girl is too hung up on being judgmental about her lack of girl friends to give her a chance.
You work in Hollywood. You probably shouldn’t trust anyone.
Well Jen you wouldnt like me, lol.
I’m in my mid – late 20s and have struggled to make friends because I’m terribly shy, struggle to make small talk and have a low sense of confidence that stems from my own experiences and personal issues. I’m working on my confidence and social skills.
I’m the type of girl who likes to have a conversation about shallow stuff also, I enjoy conversations with substance, ones that are meaningful. I like to have a balance of both. Amongst my cousins (who are all younger than me, in their early twenties) I don’t really fit in with them so much as we are wired differently (except for one). My thoughts and opinions are the opposite to theirs and I like to challenge what is considered societal norms in a cultural sense.
I would like to have friends irrespective of gender, ones who like to talk about light stuff and enjoy deep, meaningful conversations at the same time. I do have acquaintances and few work colleagues whom I’m friendly with, talk to.
It’s really sad when people judge women who have no female friends without considering that there maybe underlying issues and experiences that mould their choices.
At the risk of sounding January Jonesy, I was mean-girled constantly in high school, I guess because I was pretty and weird-and I moved around several times during my primary education career. My parents were divorced and lived in different states too so I spent all my breaks and summers away. Not too conducive to building lasting friendships. I also delayed going to college and worked instead so I was out of synch with all the 20 year olds when I went back and never did the whole sorority thing. Now that I have finished school and am married, my former coworkers and I don’t keep in touch. I have literally one, maybe two girlfriends that I would trust with my life and the rest of them I wouldn’t trust with an unopened bottle of decent Pinot noir. I get along with women I just don’t care about building lots of friendships at this moment in my life since my husband and I moved a year ago. I have one girlfriend in this city. So there you go. It is just so stupid to judge someone by the number of friends they have or their genders. It’s such a dumbass high school misappropriation-that’s why it’s offensive. The comments piss me off more than what JEn said. Because as women I would like to think we are smarter than this, collectively. And everyone who is saying “you attract what you are.” That’s the dumbest ‘secret’ bullshit ever. There are opportunists and toxic people in the world who will latch onto people who are secure with themselves and try to siphon the sanity out of them, usually it’s unconscious on their part but… You learn to avoid them and cut them out of your life as you get older. That statement is seriously the same thought process as “she was asking for it because of what she was wearing”. Just so dumb. Cannot handle. It was a off hand comment in the first place but I just don’t think as a whole JLaw comes off well here. Anyways, not that the comment is really that big of a deal
But I can see why it would tick people off. Not her best interview but her hair does look amazing. She is still cute but I agree her likability is decreasing and going from this interview, that’s perfectly okay with her. I think the worst part is she is trying to come off as a low drama girls girl. Thus the irony of ppl talking about this so hard. I guess her honeymoon phase is over.
I totally agree. I also get tired of people who judge someone based on how many friends they have or what kind of friends they have. I’m also sick of the rule that a person “must” have lots of friends of the same gender, or they “must” have a best friend….or whatever.
“I just don’t think about things before I say or do them.”
THAT is by far the worst thing that she has ever said. There is a real problem with that statement, and with the fact that she thinks it’s totally okay to be this way. Her comment about judging girls who don’t have girl friends was stupid and offensive, but the level arrogance and self-entitlement it takes to be okay with not thinking about anything you say or do before saying or doing them is off the charts awful and offensive, not to mention immature for her age.
I’m the girliest of the girly-girls and all my female friends are all the girls that are friends with all the guys. I’m like their “token female friend” or something. hahahahaha
I like that JLaw mentions the importance of girlfriends. I’ve known girls who brag about not getting along with other women, saying that guys are so much better to have as your friends. That makes me wonder if these women also include themselves in the statement. Do they think that they too are bad friends just because they’re women? Or is it just everyone else of their gender? The whole thing is weird!
I also think that usually women who don’t have other women as their friends, because ALL WOMEN ARE DRAMA QUEENS, are in fact the biggest drama queens themselves. They will react extremely harsh on something someone said, cause dramas for barely nothing, and then blame it on the girls or women around them, wallowing in self-pity while doing so. I’ve seen this a lot of times. Girls who act unnecessarily rude about some minor “trespass” (such as not texting back within twenty minutes), then freak out when this person tells them not to be rude. Usually this freaking out thing comes down to yelling at the person for being a “coldhearted bitch” or a “drama queen”, then writing long angry posts in their blogs about how you just can’t be friends with other women because they are such and such. So when a woman actually says she likes hanging out with other women, it’s kinda awesome.
I don’t quite like how JLaw says that “they’re guys like me”, though. It’s sad that typical female interests such as fashion are often looked down on or put in contrast to typical male interests. Can’t a girl be girly and still awesome?
As for the:
“I’m not like, ‘I’m a rebel; I’m out of control.’ I just don’t think about things before I say or do them.”
I truly think she should. Thinking before you speak or act is wise, no matter if you’re JLaw or someone less famous. Miss Lawrence would need some media training for sure.
Her comment is not well thought-out.
People have the friends they want to have. If a woman likes having male friends, then that’s her own business. It doesn’t make her a bad person.
Many women don’t trust other women, have been backstabbed too many times, so they seek out male friends instead who won’t try to compete with them.