Olivia Wilde covers the latest issue of The Edit, net-a-porter.com’s online magazine. She’s promoting her new HBO show Vinyl, which stars Bobby Cannavale. I’ll admit, I’ve never been a big Olivia Wilde fan – I don’t think much of her as an actress, and the whole married-to-a-prince-until-someone-better-comes-along thing rubbed me the wrong way. Currently, she’s with Jason Sudeikis and they have a nearly two-year-old son, Otis. And it wasn’t until just now, as I was reading this interview, that I realized that Jason and Olivia are not married. I thought they got married a while back? No, they didn’t, and they aren’t in a rush to marry now, according to Olivia. Some highlights from The Edit:

Her son Otis: “We’ll be playing and he’ll be fine, then the second he knows I’m leaving he’s screaming ‘Momma!’ as if I’m getting on the Titanic and will never come back. He is so dramatic. Maybe it’s because he’s the child of two actors.”

She’s not in a rush to marry Sudeikis: “We are seriously connected. Before you have a child, marriage is the ultimate commitment and promise to one another, and then once you have a child, it’s like, ‘Oh, we’re committed and promised already.’”

Being photographed breastfeeding: “In a way, it has allowed for a kind of comprehensive picture of what opinion is, what people love and hate… I didn’t know breastfeeding was controversial; the fact that [the media] are sexualizing it is shocking.”

She moved into producing with ‘Meadowland’: “Many people said, ‘Come to us when the project is real.’ I answered: ‘The project is real: we have a director, we have an actor, we have a script, it’s real.’ And they said, ‘No – when you get the guy attached.’ Like we were just girls with a little project.”

Sexism in Hollywood: “It’s institutional. It’s not conscious. People don’t realize what they’re saying, because you hear it from both men and women. But there’s this sense that a project is incomplete if there’s no male participation. People are now saying, ‘Listen, you need to hire women, specifically because they are women,’ and although that’s uncomfortable, it’s how things change. When I was younger, it felt like the main point was that [I was] one of the attractive actresses, and I felt totally minimized by it, as everyone does. But it’s worn off, in a good way; I’m happy to have grown out of the place where that is the main point made about me.”

She is everything: “The media always chooses one element of you to assign as your identity plaque: ‘She’s the mom, she’s political, she’s the one who is really pretty.’ But we are all of those things.”

[From The Edit]

Personally, I think Olivia happily played up her status as “The Hot One” for years and she even tried to morph it into The Hot One (With Brains and Fashion Girl Status!). I mean, she’s not a bad person or anything, but she’s benefited from a system that puts more of an emphasis on beauty rather than talent. The whole “I felt minimized by people talking about my amazing beauty” thing is very… Jessica Biel. As for what Olivia says about how studios are hiring women because that’s one of the big, sexy new causes/discussions… I sort of agree with her. It’s uncomfortable, but that is how changes are made.

Also, The Edit included one of the strangest details I’ve ever read in a celebrity profile: Olivia is “part-owner of a secret bar in Fairfax, LA.” Secret bar? Is that a thing? Like, a speakeasy?

Photos courtesy of The Edit.