US Magazine has a new article on the sidebar this week letting us know about the state of Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner’s relationship, because we really needed another update after the sidebar on the cover of People last week. Every day I wonder how they’re doing, if they’re still a couple, if Ben is off cavorting with random women on yachts in Canada or both because you know those two things are not mutually exclusive. Jen knows it too on some level, but she may have stuffed it deep down where she keeps her knowledge of fashionable shoes because US is reporting the divorce is now off.
In fact, talk of divorce has ceased altogether, sources reveal in the new issue of Us Weekly.
“Jen mentioned that the divorce was going through very soon, and then a few weeks ago, things changed,” says a source close to Garner. “It does not seem to be moving in that direction.”
The Justice League actor, 43, and actress, 44, are cohabiting in their $17.5 million, five-bedroom mansion, albeit in separate bedrooms. Garner revealed in the March issue of Vanity Fair that she sleeps with their oldest daughter, Violet; Affleck bunks in the guest room, according to a close source.
“Jen seems to still be in love with Ben but doesn’t allow her mind to go there,” says the Garner pal. “She just focuses on the kids.”
The man down the hall is also having trouble letting go. “If it was up to Ben,” adds a second insider, “they would be together. He feels like he can’t live without Jen.”
Still, an Affleck source insists lawyers are hammering out the details of their divorce privately. “They were never in a rush to file. This was always the plan…
“They want their kids’ lives to go on as uninterrupted as possible,” says a source.
Some people will say US is making this up, but this is consistent with People’s report last week, and as I usually mention, US had Garner’s side of the divorce along with exclusive details from their relationship and breakup vacation, where Garner figured out Affleck was sleeping with their kids’ nanny. (I would like to get an update from Ouzounian, but I bet she signed an ironclad NDA.) So Affleck wanted to get back with Garner and she’s letting him stick around until the next time he publicly embarrasses her. Maybe she figures if he keeps him on notice he’ll be faithful, at least by outside appearances.
photos credit: WENN and FameFlynet. Garner is shown int he striped shirt outside church Sunday, which she attended with Affleck’s mom
I wonder how she would spin this? her main fanbase will take her less seriously in terms of being the super mom married to an A-Lister. there have been some mildly talented actresses who made a career out of marrying or dating terrible douchebags and then playing the victim for public sympathy but Garner wouldnt get too far if she now takes Ben back. it could even lead to people looking at her love life prior to Ben and it does not look like she is that much different from Ben. just a lot more composed in public and more discreet.
The photos of her in the striped shirt are her walking into church, so I’m guessing it’d be a forgiveness through religious revelation type thing.
ETA: I’m not saying it’s fake, BTW. I think it’s possible that’s how she really will see it.
Also, I think it’s really interesting that this story ends with Affleck’s sources saying the divorce is still moving forward. If he truly wanted to stay married and it was her that was unsure, why has his side been so adamant that the divorce IS happening?
I agree Ben’s side is always being adamant about the divorce happening. I caught that too. It’s always Jennifer Garner’s side pushing for them to get back together and she uses her kids as an excuse to be around him all the time because she doesn’t want to go through with it. Ben was adamant about releasing to the press news of their divorce filing but Jennifer dragged her feet. His side has already confirmed that Jennifer would stay in the relationship no matter what. I believe Ben is playing nice and going along with it to avoid upsetting her and taking more of his money. Either way he is going to have to have a huge payout amount. I call BS on the whole Ben can’t see himself without Jennifer. There has not been one public display of affection and he has not been wearing his wedding ring if he truly wanted to get back with Jennifer. She really needs to move on and focus on her career. Even if they don’t go through with it now sooner or later they will be at this place again when the children are older. Jennifer G is just not the love of Ben’s life it’s so obvious to anyone but her.
I could see Ben and his camp adamantly sticking to the divorce story if that’s what Jen says she wants. A bit of “I’m respecting your wishes” ammo but really just waiting it out hoping she’ll change her mind, but until she says so, he’d stick to the story.
Or, maybe, she isn’t thinking about her career, right now…maybe she is thinking that she loves Ben and wants to keep her family together. Maybe, right now, her “fanbase” isn’t her focus…maybe she is trying to figure out what the best thing is for her and her kids…I’m not saying she should stay with Ben or divorce him, not my concern, but I truly don’t believe that JG is sitting at home making life altering decisions for her and her children on how she can “spin” this…
I’m with you MrsBPitt. These people are human and divorce sucks, especially with little kids, so I imagine that is her top priority at this time, not her fan base.
I agree.
I also agree.
I think that’s what she wants you to think, that her family is her priority and she doesn’t care about PR. It’s BS. The whole Vanity Fair article was entirely about PR. The fashion show that she attended a couple of weeks ago — PR. These stories that her team leaks purely so they can dispute them — PR. She is very conniving. She has used her Little Miss Family image for press for the last decade and she is still using it to this day. Why else has anyone had a reason to talk about her? Her Oscar-worthy choices in roles?
This completely, MrsBPitt.
Thank you for being a rational human being.
Yes. My question is who is this mythical “fanbase” that people talk about with Jen and other celebs? Or maybe it’s just me — I like some celebs, I’m not keen on others, I might go out of my way to see some performances and not others. But I’m not a card carrying fan of anyone and I suspect most other people aren’t either.
Wow, I wonder how all that ‘thinking’ got into exclusive reporting from People and Us magazines? They must be able to read her mind.
If she wants to keep it out of the press, it wouldn’t be in there every now and then. These ‘updates’ are ridiculous. Just decide and then put out a statement. When they separated for MONTHS and during the cheating scandal, it was clear they keep a lid on things until they figure it out but this appeals to the Minivan: making it work when you have kids. It’s exactly in line with Garner’s image. She’s always been a family person but also the perfect politician’s wife. Even Ben can appreciate her for that.
Don’t get me wrong, ain’t nothing wrong with controlling the narrative but something is amiss here. Conflicted reports from their camps (Ben wants to divorce but Jennifer’s camp says they’re getting back together?), the PR game Jennifer’s been playing (her public outings), her ‘coming out’ in VF (see Liza’s comment above). Like pick a damn narrative. Jennifer stays being one of the most successful Hollywood moms who are controlling bosses behind the scenes when it comes to profiting from this family image while helping their husbands reach the top. She’s the boss but she needs not to be so in love with Ben and allow him to take her spotlight again. Ben needs her more than she needs him.
@Artemis Eh, she needs him more IMHO. She has only stayed relevant as his wife and mother to his kids. It’s the only reason she’s relevant now, in fact. Ben still has a thriving, legitimate, big budget career. She doesn’t and hasn’t.
@Agrant:
Eh, let’s not forget how Ben ‘crawled’ his way back to the top after years of flops and making a fool of himself in public during the start of gossip blogs. There was no redemption without Jennifer. Part of him keeping his demons in check was because he had a family to support and Jennifer gave him plenty of space to rebuild his career + she was by his side when he was working hard to win that Oscar. The year before his win, he was already opening up more about how great Garner was and what a great mother etc. Then came all the PR with his children. Then he thanked her for working on their marriage. Nobody can deny that Dimples Garner with the Dimpled Kids were not a huge part of Ben winning over audiences again after his pre-2005 screw-ups.
Pffft. Stop being so reasonable. You’re making the rest of us look bad.
@Artemis lol his demons were NEVER in check. There have been rumors about their marriage and his infidelities etc for years and years. Jen just covered up for them and basically enabled him. Gee, give her a cookie. She has nothing to do with his talent as a writer-director and I believe that he would have had just as much success in that arena without her. In fact I think he’d be in a better place psychologically right now if he’d never got married or had kids. He is the type who should be a confirmed bachelor because he will never be a good partner to anyone — too selfish and narcissistic.
A sensible and very fair take on this, I think.
All this is a stall tactic to get more money out of Batfleck’s attorney’s in the divorce settlement, ie: “there will be no divorce, because I won’t sign and give you your freedom until you give me x-amount of dollars.”
Straight doormat.
If it’s true, it makes me sad. I think she deserves more than the doucheBat
Totally! How pathetic.
When she talks about him in interviews she seems to really love him. That can be very hard to let go of. Even if the person has treated you terribly.
She looks great! I wish I had her legs. He looks bloated and terrible. I think they’ll get back together, though. He is the love of her life, and he can’t get any better women than her anyway. But I do think he will continue to cheat on her because at the end of the day she bores him, just a little bit more discreet.
Yes he will cheat again and he will get sloppy and there will be another scandal. I predict it ending in divorce just not this time.
She does look great. Not just physically, but also like she feels great.
Between the moobs and the extra chin and the hideous green plastic looking jacket, he needs a makeover BAD.
Ben’s face looks like it’s sliding off of his head. Very weird. Jen’s face also is starting to look a little botox-y to me. Kinda looks like a Klingon in that top pic.
She really does.
I wish she would just stick to this look: sporty/athletic and stop trying to do the sporty-casual thing. That “in-between” style doesn’t look good on many people.
I for one, am happy she’s not doing the “huge heels for the pap stroll” that make it seem like all women should be in heels at all time like other celebs. Frankly, I hate that heels are needed to see “dressy” or “professional”. Why do women have to ruin their feet and lower backs for fashion?
No respect for her.
Every other week US Mag has something new about them, together, over, blah, blah. Fill those pages, US Mag.
I know I probably shouldn’t feel this way but this really makes me lose a lot of respect for Jennifer. He is f-ing awful!!!! Like what are his redeeming qualities besides fame and wealth???? He’s so disrespectful to their marriage, clearly has some sort of substance abuse issues, has a wandering eye, and sounds like he has consistently behaved in a similar manner in a lot of his previous relationships.
I know one thing though…I don’t think anyone wants to hear about this again when he bangs the kids teacher or the housekeeper or whoever in a year.
Guess the Ben source is just throwing in the “still moving ahead with the divorce” statement for good measure, in case things don’t work out? Funny, no denial from Gossip Cop either, though they’re usually so quick to shoot down the ROL stories.
This is not surprising me at all. She was never planning to divorce. She just needed to wait it out and punish him publicly. Although I still find it very hard to believe these two as anything more than co-parents anymore – don’t see a shred of romantic connection.
Neither one has really been going to Gossip Cop since that random story about Ben accusing Jen of leaking stuff about the divorce. I think Jen’s rep’s days of running to them to dispute everything are over. Jen is a horrible mother if that’s true that she was just doing this to punish him publicly. What a thing to put your kids through in the name of vengeance. I agree that I just don’t see anything romantic between them (I haven’t for a long time). I think this is just tabloid garbage per usual and next week they will proclaim the divorce is BACK ON! They are just filling pages to get clicks.
If this is true, this may be the wisest decision to take.
She chased, married, had 3 kids with a man that, by all accounts, never really loved her. She stuck through the cheating, the addictions. Getting divorce now would mean throwing it all away. And she endured public humiliation when word got out he banged their nanny. Maybe she is thinking the worst has passed so she might as well stick around for the best.
Of course, she probably gave up in the meantime on wishing for someone that respects and love her and she settled for this.
I think Ben genuinely loves her. It is just that he is an addict who has not really addressed his issues. Such people love, but have difficulty with stability, because an addict craves chaos. Deep down they do not believe they deserve it when things are going well and they self sabotage. Jen knows this (I believe) and because she loves Ben, and he has gone through cycles of soberness and stability, she is still has hope. Hope is a powerful thing.
@Crumpet…”hope is a powerful thing”….so true….
I have always thought that these two do love each other but just also happen to be damaged individuals.
I think people assume that he wants nothing to do with her just based on photos but we know now from the Depp/Heard situation that we project our assumptions onto photos. Ben always put out a too-cool-for-you vibe in his relationships, especially after the honey moon period.
He loved that she looked the other way while he did whatever he wanted, which included spending a lot of time away from home chasing his dreams, pushed her and the kids into the backseat, covered for him when he messed up and trotted the kids out for photo ops when he needed it. All without complaint and with a public happy face. THAT’S what he liked about her. They were always a mismatch. No man who cheats on his wife as much as he has had any respect for her or her well-being, or respect for his family, or is in love with his partner.
@Crumpet, you hit the nail on the head about addicts. They can’t fully love anyone while they are still in an addictive state–their addictions (note I use plural for Ben) are their true love. I really think Ben would benefit from serious therapy–but he have to want to do the work–not just phone it in. Too bad, I don’t think he has the discipline to do it and like everyone says this downward and spiral may well continue. There has always been a whiff of self-destructiveness with Ben Affleck, like he really doesn’t love himself. Wonder why.
ITA, Crumpet and Naya.
I agree with what both Crumpet and Mrs.B.Pitt said, and normally I believe in fighting for one’s marriage, but as I told a friend who was in a toxic telationship, “It shouldn’t be THIS hard..” Being heartlessly pragmatic, it’s easier to find another husband in your 30’s than when you’ve given it 2 decades of your life and gotten kicked in the teeth emotionally yet again. I don’t think he’ll ever be a great husband, and I wish she realized she deserves to be cherished. I’ll bet she’s taking care of others 24/7. But I wish her much happiness whatever she chooses!
Awful. I really can’t understand that logic and no matter what anyone says staying in a toxic marriage with a man who cheats and abuses substances is not good for the children. It only normalizes those behaviors and makes them drawn to repeat the same co dependent patterns.
ITA. I will never understand why women insist on making so many excuses for men. He cheats because he’s an addict, he can’t control himself or help it, blah blah. So ridiculous and is this 1955??
She should give up on dressing up day to day and just wear workout clothes. She looks fabulous in work out gear. That other pic, smh. Skirt and shirt ok, but those shoes need burned. Go flat or heel, not tho weird grandma half heel. And the wet hair in the bun doesnot work with everything else.
How can someone consistently choose such ugly shoes?
So a Garner source is saying the divorce is off, but an Affleck source is saying lawyers are privately sorting out the details of the divorce. Makes no sense. One of them is lying.
With all the stuff they went through, their 2nd try at their marriage can’t be healthy, IMO.
I think personally Jen is trying hard as she can to hold onto that marriage. He schtupped the nanny specifically to send her a message that he wants out(he is also a pig and a creep). But she has still tried her best to ignore him.
He’s still to afraid to file for PR reasons but she won’t budge.
What a surprise.
Except the Affleck source says the divorce is still on. I think both have reasons for not wanting to pull the trigger (hers love and identity, his PR and family stability), but it will happen.
What changed is that he was on tv completely drunk a few weeks ago. He needs Jen to clean up all his messes.
Lainey did an article on Ben regarding his appearance on that sports show. She suggested his weirdness was due to prescription drugs, not booze.
Wow. Completely her prerogative to stay with her turd. But what a wonderful example she is for her children. Thankfully, I’ll never understand women who put up with this level of shit when they have the means to leave. I hope he’s worth it.
He Probably isn’t worth it.
In real life,
Things aren’t so black and white simpel as they look from the outside, sadly.
Lol at “she may have stuffed it deep down where she keeps her knowledge of fashionable shoes.” Ah, thanks. As for them not divorcing, it sounds like BS to me. But who knows.
That line was SO fantastic.
Nice work, C/B!
That is the best line ever. I didn’t know so many hideous shoes existed.
Her taste in shoes seems to be getting worse if that is possible. Just put a cute pair of flip flops on and call it a day.
I wish she had gone Liberty Ross on him. That would have been a strong move in the right direction for her, personally.
I do think they have an unhealthy codependency, but I also understand wanting it to work with the person you married and had three kids with. I’m not going to judge her for that.
But it would have been great to see her put her foot down, arranged a separation and swiftly moved forward with trying to stabilize her life without him living on her property/taking vacay together etc. it’s that slow extraction from something that was toxic that makes it never really end.
ITA but I don’t think Jen is made from the same stuff as Liberty Ross.
But yeah, definitely see codependence with these two.
I feel like we can all give objective advice when we are not personally involved. None of us know what we would actually do if it were us. We can sit here and pontificate about how she should run her life but we don’t know how she/they truly feels. I think it’s little harsh too to lose respect for somebody that stays with a cheating husband. I mean, it’s one aspect of a person. She appears to be a good mother and person…she seems sweet and funny. You can’t still respect her for that?
I agree, Huckle….I, personally, have known many friends and family that have forgiven a cheating partner. Sometimes, things worked out well, and other times, not so well. But, I would never say, I had lost respect for a woman that was trying to save her family from divorce. It is a very, difficult decision to make under any circumstances….
What i dislike Here is that they play with the medias and us .Why not just to be really private ?
According to some sources,they still live in the same home whereas some weeks ago,he moved in another home in the same street.
4/5 years ago after their official breakups,Schwarzenegger/Schriver or Russel Crowe and his wife are not divorced and I have no problem with that because their RP don’t talk to the medias.They stay private
I couldn’t agree more but let’s face it: people aren’t on a gossip site to give celebs the benefit of the doubt. People don’t want to humanize rich, famous actors because it’s more fun to think of them as the characters they play in the movies.
@dont kill me I’m French and Kitten- I’m probably too late to this conversation, but I am curious about what others think about which one drives the media stuff. The amount of over sharing and updates seem crazy to me, like a frenzy almost and I can’t figure it out. I know it’s normal to some degree to arrange photo ops, but they are the only A list celebrities I can think of who do it to the point that I (speaking for the public, if I may), wish I didn’t have to see them so much. I don’t care if they stay married and will it even be a headline if he cheats? That’s how tiresome it has become. And you can’t blame it all on Jen I wouldn’t think….Ben is able bodied. He’s going along (with the ad naseum photo ops, updates). I just don’t get it. It’s almost like they are addicted to updates at this point. Like, if they do this ONE last update, things will be great again. When they are back together it will be, this ONE last farmers market outing……
He looks like the Green Bloblin.
I think this is just the rags’ weekly spin on events. Nothing to see here. Another intern-invented story. I don’t for one second think that they are getting back together but this speculation will drag on until they file and/or start dating other people publicly. That said, if she does take him back, I don’t want to hear it when she cries about him cheating on her again (which he will in fact do) or humiliates her in yet another way (the Finding Your Roots thing was so creative, Ben). At that point she will deserve whatever he dishes out to her. These two were never going to grow old together in rocking chairs in West Virginia. If he leaves her now for some PYT or in 10 years, she’s going to find herself single one way or the other. May as well try to find Husband #3 while she still looks decent. Nobody is going to respect her if she stays.
Tired of these endless nothing-new stories about these two. What about Casey Affleck’s ongoing divorce? Have they filed or ?
I think both are true actually. She wants to call it off and he doesn’t. Why wouldn’t he want a divorce? He’d just be paying her to raise the kids. Isn’t that basically what they do now anyway? Only he wouldn’t have to sneak around. BA wouldn’t lose anything with a divorce. I’ll bet she’ll always be around for “emotional support” anyway. She’s a total doormat.
I kinda think it’s the opposite. He wants out and the kind thing would be to let him out. But this is her revenge. SHE WILL NEVER LET HIM GO…Mwhaa-ha ha.
I honestly think that he tried desperately to sabotage his marriage by dating the nanny. He figured that Jen would leave him for sure after that and then he wouldn’t have to be the bad guy who left his wife. He didn’t count on the nanny’s instagrams leaking or all of the ugliness being out there and probably thought it would all stay under wraps like his other affairs. He sabotaged his other relationships with Paltrow and JLo by cheating, too. It’s what he does.
I don’t think this is really about Jennifer Garner at all. I think it is all about Ben Affleck. One recurring theme this entire year was that Ben was not doing well. Both sides were attributed to comments implying that Ben was struggling. It has also been strongly suggested that they are both still in counselling. He has been working non-stop since last fall and she worked all last summer. Maybe he is just not ready to handle a divorce at this time. I also thought the quotes from her father were revealing. So many of Gossip Cop’s denials have been carefully worded in the past couple of months. I am not a Ben Affleck fan but he has surprised me this year. He has stuck it out with his family. I believe he deeply cares about all of them – including Jen. I don’t think either one of them would put themselves through this much angst if there wasn’t a great deal of emotions still unresolved.
Also, IF this is true why is his team so hellbent on denying it? It would make their lives a lot easier if they admit they are back together, and then maybe do a staged pap stroll with pda or whatever to get the message across. Then tabloids will move on, ben & jen can resume their lives and all this speculation will stop. IF its true that is…..
Which is why I don’t think it is. I think what has been said all along, that they will put the kids first and co-parent regardless of what it looks like to others, is still true and they are mediating divorce details and will file when it is all settled. But that doesn’t sell mags or get clicks.
Bingo.
I seond that bingo.
Eh. It’s simple dysfunction. Yes, they have three kinds and that makes things harder. And yes, when you’re married for a long time, there are a lot of emotions that are hard to resolve. But by all accounts, she has been dealing with this for the last 10 years – it’s not a one-time mistake or obstacle to get past. Going back means going back to feeling a constant knot in her stomach all the time, and trust will be a problem for the rest of her life. I also think this is the part Ben likes – the challenge, the making it work, climbing back into good graces, etc. The real test will be reality – once they’re “officially” back together and she’s free to check up on him and make demands of him. I have no doubt he’ll play by the rules for a year, maybe even more, but I just don’t see them as people or their dynamic completely changing over the long term after so many years of dancing this dance.
I think it’s just really hard to know what’s going on here. So people and us, two somewhat respectable rags are going with the divorce is not happening so fast and they are trying to figure things out line. So there is a bit of consistent which follows the ET piece put out the week before people. So I think someone’s publicist (probably Jen’s) is dropping slow hints. It’s also interesting that this stuff is coming out while Ben is in London and they are not physically in the same town. Time is the only true test. When will he come back? Will we see more family shots (July 4 showed a happy normal looking family). I thin the three articles have really only explained why a year after an announcement there has been no filing and don’t expect one any time soon.
In other news – seems Jen will be in WV fundraising next week. By here was a spitting of her at universal studios yesterday. All is quiet in the Ben front
Yet, Ben’s camp continues to deny, as does E!
So bored with this saga. Neither is a good actor, both crave publicity and disgustingly use their family life for it. Divorce or stay together, just go away already. I would like an update on Casey’s divorce instead. He and Summer were together for 16 years, married for 10.
I have nothing to say about the divorce. I just want to ask Kaiser to use the pic of Ben Affleck in that ugly green jacket whenever she writes about him.
That green jacket needs to be burned. BURNED.
Separations don’t always lead to divorce, I am living proof of that……but these two are on and off like a switch, but it’s always some source or rag reporting it. It’s her life, but I would never allow him back after the nanny gate incident. Fortunately that’s not my decision to make.
The tabloids print such leading titles to these nonstop articles but you read a little closer and it’s nothing new, more stuff from dubious-sounding sources and more covering all possible bases so they can say they were “right” later. Okay, then. Well in my opinion nothing has changed whatsoever since the days that they stated their intent to divorce. Let’s not forget that these two were separated before anyone even knew about it and according to Garner that’s even when Ben’s relationship with the nanny started, as a separated man. I think last year’s formal announcement came after years of trying to work out their differences and possibly save their marriage so any possibility of reconciling was long gone at that point. I also think timing is an issue here and probably why they haven’t filed yet. Long professional commitments in foreign countries, lots of money and properties and custody of small kids… I’m not surprised that it’s taking awhile to sort it out. Ben seems to have taken the reception to BvS pretty hard and apparently the new movie that he has directed is not very good or up to his directing standards. Maybe he is delaying divorce things until he is in a stronger frame of mind to make decisions. Who knows. These two are not in love that is for sure. They have seemed like brother/sister to me for literal years. What a sad state. They did not even look happy at all on July 4th, he seems to be going through the motions. He did look happy though to be back in London. We get it Ben you like to be on your own.
Aw, common sense. I agree.
Jen, in her own, words, said in Vanity Fair back when she was interviewed she hadn’t been kissed in over eight months, and said she wasn’t a part of Ben filming his movie during last fall to winter, which felt odd for her, not being a part of his life when he was directing a movie. There’s been no new photos since then showing them as a couple back in love working on a marriage like McDreamy and his wife when they reconciled and were spotted together holding hands, etc.. Zero chemistry in photos with Ben and Jen.
It’s ovah. Nothing to see, but two people trying to co-parent kids they love dearly in the way they feel is best for them and, otherwise, probably living very separate lives. The rag mags and their covers will continue on, even after they divorce. That won’t stop them.
Maybe it is all Ben. Maybe he started freaking out last year when he realized just what he was doing to his kids and family. I think more in terms of what he needs from them and less what he does for them. So maybe he is putting that stuff out there about not wanting the divorce hoping to sway Jennifer and give her a PR pass to take him back. His team has to say they are moving forward, because I think they are. I also believe Jennifer when she says she wants to recapture the friendship they started with and the family vacations are for the kids. We only see a tip of the iceberg in his alleged addictions. Imagine what she knows. He is clearly under great stress and so I think she lets the comments go because of that. She is working on her own business, separate from him. I think that is very telling. And her body language each time they are popped together…she is not feeling it.
Diane, I agree with you. As I said earlier, this isn’t about her. I really believe he cares about his family – he has to be filled with remorse for what he has put them through. Ideally, he would disappear for a while and work on himself, unfortunately his crazy workload doesn’t allow that. I think the divorce will happen, but on his timetable. It probably doesn’t hurt anyone to put it hold – they aren’t even in the same country. It seems like Jennifer Garner wants to continue to be his friend. Hopefully, a great deal of the anger has dissipated.
Ben is only upset about the loss of his Family Man image that he spent years manipulating everyone into believing. But it was never real. He was always drinking and smoking and cheating and gambling behind the scenes, a lot of which leaked out over the years, but Garner was always there to cover up for him. That’s all she ever did for him, it was such a sham of a marriage. He was such a happy-looking person when he was promoting Argo and winning awards and trotting the kids out for the paps, because he had succeed in fooling everyone. For the rest of his career he’ll be known as the jerk who banged his kids’ nanny which is why he looks so miserable now. He’ll never win another Oscar, you watch. He almost has to divorce Garner and marry someone else because every time anyone sees him and Jen together it’s going to be nanny nanny nanny. If he wants everyone to forget his mistakes and value him in the industry again, he’s going to have to move on.
Bah humbug! Get rid of that giant cheesy tool, Jenn, that total mess of a “man”.
Somebody tell me that The Green Pleather Jacket is a costume. Please.
It would be a pity if she goes back to him. All the good will she garnered since then will decrease. It would look like she played the public and the people in the industry. Her credibility will go down and she will be seen as as manipulative fame hoe.
She has a film coming out in 3 weeks so if this is a publicity for that movie, she is disgusting to play this game.
I know people don’t like to think this, but maybe she actually loves him and wants to keep her family together.
Or maybe she won’t loose her credibility if she thinks she can use it to “show that you can make things work.”
She does have a movie coming out soon and if it’s not settled, I would think she would have to address it. Either by saying nothing has changed, still going with the original plan. Or there is a change, ie we are working on it and we don’t know where it’s going to land or yes we worked it out.
I saw an interview with Megan fox after her pregnancy became evident and she was unofficially back with BAG, and Jimmy Kimmel said to her ” your husband Brian Austen green”. And she said yes and moved on.
This is a summer of reconciliations – BAG and Megan fox, Patrick Dempsey and his wife, who knows maybe Ben and Jen.
Agree. And the year of making lemonade out of infidelity. Beyoncé and Jay Z, Sharon and Ozzy, etc. – seems to be the new trend.
Things will never change between these two, because Ben will never change, and Jen will never be able to change him. What’s the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again, hoping for a different result every time you do it.
Kind of have to agree here, especially 10+ years in with the same patterns repeating themselves before they even got married and then ever since.
“but she may have stuffed it deep down where she keeps her knowledge of fashionable shoes” Too funny CB! She does look fantastic in that photo in her gym wear but holy right knee cap!
They are still sleeping together in the biblical sense. My head hurts with all of this. Just go away, continue to be together and ignore all his problems. We get it!!! You don’t want to leave him despite all the s$$$. Now please go away, we have to deal with Tiddles and KKwest.
Ja pregnancy and ba and jg divorce is similar. Lol it is a show that is being created and denied by their respective PR. She with her “he has to be the one to file” is ok with whatever his de·ci·sion he come up with? Lols and he has to feel safe for his image to let go as usual?lols tiresome and repetative.
I think It will just be nice if there is no pregnancy news for ja and no divorce talk for this two untill it is actual news.
why am I not surprised, she’s obsessed with him. dumped Michael Vartan as soon as she had the chance …got pregnant just to make sure she got him.
US Magazine? LOL
“Some people will say US is making this up, but this is consistent with People’s report…” THAT’S why I know US is making this up.
Jen’s face looks really “worked on” in that top pic. $10 says that Ben tags along to the charity thing in West Virginia this upcoming week. After he appeared DRUNK on tv, he needs the good press. One of the mags will be contacted to do a big story, too. Just continue to stroke that fire… don’t let Ben/Jen fool you. They unabashedly and shamelessly LOVE all of this press and attention that their divorce is getting them.
Yeah, will be shocked if he’s not at the fundraiser, and then he’ll have Comic Con.
DM has new pics of him at Heathrow. He is wearing makeup, smoking a cigarette and has actual breasts. He is a total mess. Ew. Lost me as a fan…
Wonder where Jen is, I haven’t seen her daily DM pics all week. Maybe Big Ben is coming back to the states for an “accidental” photo op this weekend with the family?
I noticed that more people in the DM comments (and elsewhere) seem to be calling her out for calling the paps all the time. I’m sure her people read stuff like that and probably adjusted accordingly. Or she got (more) bad work done and is hiding.
Jen was spotted at universal studios on Wednesday. There is a fan photo on Instagram. My guess is she is she is still in LA just enjoying summer break with her kids. Threre are picks of Ben in heathrow heading back to LA. So my guess is they will all be together till sat/Sunday when she heads to the starkey dinner in Minnesota and then the fundraiser later next week in WV.
If I’m a betting woman Ben does not go to WV for the fundraiser. If anything he will be at comic con in San Diego next week.
Does Jen have any film projects coming up?
The fundraiser is 7/19 I think, so he could easily go to that and then to Comic Con since it starts on 7/21. I’m sure we’re going to see lots more “happy family” pics over the next week, but I just can’t buy them as a couple anymore. Good co-parents yes, but couple? Aka–awkward.
@jojo I would be really surprised if he showed up at the WV fundraiser. I feel it is her turf, he is not advertised as coming there, and it’s probably his turn to be with the kids while she does this fundraising. As far as them being a couple who knows. Lots of normal (non holloywood couples ) are not all over each other in public especially after being together many years. If they decide to be together (or already decided), it will just take one or two planned pda sightings to make it look like it’s real. There really is no way to know unless they either personally confirm or deny. It will be interesting to see if it comes up in interviews when Jen promotes 9 lives next month.
Jen was seen early this morning at LAX. She is to be at a function in Minn/St Paul saturday
Ok – so I guess “no family time”. Wonder if ben’s mom is still in town. Are the LAX pics posted anywhere?
No pic just a Twitter someone saw her.
So he’ll have the kids over the weekend and while she’s off pretending to care about fundraising… Sounds like joint custody and coparenting. A few ppl here prob expected them to make WV a family event.
He could still show up in WV since it’s not until Tuesday. Whether or not Ben goes, I would still kind of think she’d take the kids to WV? Why not, right? They’d get to see family, grandparents, etc.
@jojo that is a a great article. Sheds new light onto the world of the rich and richer. I think Jen is a little young to be in that type of arrangement.
Just saw a posting that Jen will be touring WV damaged areas on Saturday, so looks like she may well have left this morning before Ben got back to town.
JoJo someone posted a pic on FB from airport and she did not have the kids with her.
@Diane – Yes, but she’s going to Minnesota today. I meant that I would think she’d take the kids with her to WV, and that’s not until Tuesday. She could easily come back and get them in between, or Ben could fly to WV with them.
@jets I saw the x17 video and it is hilarious. There is also a video on that site of Jen a day or two ago where the pap is congratulating her on a reconciliation with Ben and how your fans are so happy. She zooms in the car and ignores it – it’s also funny. But there was one video from last week, I think on daily mail, that shows her and the nanny trying to get the bikes back on the bike rack after the Venice beach ride. It was hysterical because they are clearly struggling and at one point Jen turns to the video guy across the street and says “thanks for your help”. And he runs over to help them leaving the video rolling and says he did not want to intrude. It’s laughable because he is filming them – he is intruding😄
@jojo it is possible that Ben could take them to WV. I just don’t think that is happening. This trip for Jen is clearly a fundraising / goodwill trip. I’m sure she takes he children to WV to see her family at other times. She talks about it in interviews. Ben is home and he will be “watching” the kids.
Just saw the videos of Ben and Jen (separately) on x17. They both do look especially angry/perturbed. I’m making a big assumption here because I know that having these slimeballs in your face must be terrible, but Jen usually shoots them a smile or a wave, and Ben also tries to “act” happy sometimes when he’s on his own. I feel like if they were truly reconciling and happy about it, not that they’d acknowledge it but they’d be a little more pleasant and relaxed whereas they just look like they want to hide or strangle the paps. It reminds me of last year during the frenzy of media speculation right before they split, Jen was at LAX and acted very much this same way and snapped at one of the paps with, “Please do not talk to me!” Also wonder why we haven’t seen the daily DM stories of Jen going to the gym with her mgr Nicole lately.
Maybe Nicole is away. Anyway I think next week there will be good press for Jen with starkey in mn and also in WV. I think Ben will lay low with kiddies. My prediction is no family sightings next week.
DM and X17 had pics of Ben in LA this weekend, some picking up Violet and some at the airport. X17 reported he was seen at his lawyers’ office, ???maybe the divorce is really back on?? Also jetting out of LA this morning. Just for giggles, he had a dressing on his forearm some are speculating is a tattoo. Any guesses what it might be?
I also wonder if he came home to sign the divorce papers. I am sure his girlfriend does not appreciate all the stories of a possible reconciliation. US Weekly is reporting that she will be taking the kids to West Virginia for an extended visit. That would keep them out of the public eye when it is announced.
I knew she’d take the kids to WV. It only makes sense – to see their extended family while she’s there. Are we sure Ben didn’t fly to WV too? If he flew back to Heathrow, I’m guessing there would be pics of him arriving there. Where is the US Weekly story? I don’t see it anywhere. If they’re actually planning on filing, I’m guessing they wouldn’t want to advertise where they’ll be (WV)?
If he did go back to the UK, I’m finding the timing of all of these reconciliation rumors pretty strange. If anything, these two are being seen together less than ever before and seem like they’re living even more independently – aside for July 4, and that outing looked mainly kid-oriented. If you read the TMZ story from yesterday, that pretty much said that their situation (not filing) has nothing to do with reconciling, just co-parenting. Feel like TMZ typically gets their info from solid sources (?), but not sure…
@Jojo Do you not understand that tabloids make stuff up all the time to sell magazines and get clicks? There is nothing going on behind the scenes except interns pretending to be sources and inventing stories.
@okay then – I do understand that and was just saying that TMZ’s story seemed pretty reasonable, basically that they haven’t filed yet because they’re focused on co-parenting. Exactly what they said when they announced their split.
He flew all that way to visit his lawyers office? Dun dun dun…
US Weekly Magazine (hard copy) says “with Affleck wrapping Justice League in London, Garner will take their brood to her native West Virginia for an extended visit with her parents. ”
Another interesting quote “and when it comes to Affleck, Garner doesn’t know or care if Ben is seeing anyone. That’s not Jen’s business anymore”.
I would not be surprised if they file sooner than planned just to stop the crazy stories.
Wow, interesting comment considering US just published one of the stories that started this whole reconciliation frenzy.
It’s all really interesting. Also if Ben is back in UK and Jen is still running between MN and WV, who is with the kids? Nannies I guess.
It would be really interesting if Ben actually filed for divorce now after all this chatter about no divorce being filed and possible reconciliation.
She is pathetic. Called the paps to cover her event in Minnesota. Come on….
Given it was a red carpet event, I don’t think she had to call the paps to cover it.
Someone on the DM said Ben is with her in WV…