Now that engaged Claire Danes is about to have a marriage of her own, she’s no longer okay with cheating and infidelities. Several years ago Danes was considered the cause behind Billy Crudup’s leaving Mary Louise Parker – then seven months pregnant at the time – for Danes. The pair moved in together, but the old saying about “once a cheater, always a cheater” proved true: she cheated on Crudup with Hugh Dancy, who she met while filming “Evening.” Now she and Dancy are engaged, and suddenly Claire’s had a change of heart on the whole cheating issue.
CLAIRE Danes, who was famously blamed for breaking up ex-boyfriend Billy Crudup’s relationship with a pregnant Mary-Louise Parker, has subsequently given a lot of thought to the subject of monogamy. “I was talking to my friend about [whether it] is feasible, is it realistic?” Danes muses in September’s BlackBook, adding, “I resolved that there isn’t really a better model. We just can’t shake monogamy. It definitely demands a kind of rigor and discipline and selflessness. But it’s also fun.” Danes is now engaged to Brit actor Hugh Dancy.
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Waste. Of. Time. I have a hard time believing that Claire is capable of the selflessness she mentioned. It’s hard to champion a woman who cheats with a guy who has a seven-months pregnant girlfriend. People will make all sorts of arguments about “Oh, their relationship must have already been broken if he cheated,” and “he’s just as responsible as she is,” yada yada. All true. So she bears some of the blame.
I always felt so badly for Mary Louise Parker, who by all accounts was very gracious about the whole thing, especially considering she and Billy had been together for seven years. Claire had been with singer Ben Lee for about the same length of time. It seems like she can be faithful, but only for relatively short periods. Of course now her whole opinion’s changed. Perhaps as Claire gets older she realizes what goes around comes around, and that’s got to be frightening for her. But really, what a terrible quote to give. She’s just asking to open herself up to all kinds of scrutiny and claims of hypocrisy.
Here are Claire Danes and Hugh Dancy at the American Ballet Spring Gala in New York City on May 18th. Images thanks to WENN.com and Images thanks to Fame Pictures .
Who exactly was she cheating on when she was with Billy Crudup? I realize it is a total bitch move to sleep with someone else’s boyfriend, but HE was cheating – not her.
Team Mary Louise forever! To this day I still boycott all Billy Crudup and Claire Danes movies.
Well Colleen, she knowingly slept with another woman’s boyfriend. Just because she was not cheating on a man she was dating, doesn’t mean she was innocent. If you are a decent human being you do not interfere in that relationship or you tell the man to get his life straight AND then you might consider a relationship with him.
It will all come back to the little twit.
Mary Louise Parker ended up doing just fine without the Crud.
alaskaJoey- LOL…Me too!!!!
Lol AlaskaJoey (& I), I’ve been living by the same boycott 🙂
I LOVE Mary Louise – she’s so much more talented and interesting than Crudup or Danes. Ugh..cretins..
I hope she starts sweating bullets when his shoots “run late”!!
Mary Louise got someone better though! She got to (and perhaps still gets to) NAIL Jeffrey Dean Morgan. I’m sure a few JDM orgasms made it all better.
so wait…MLP’s ex and current were in Watchmen?
wonder if that was uncomfortable for them at all…
yeah, major upgrade for MLP.
True story: Claire Danes gave me a dirty look through a restaurant window. And then I chased her boyfriend down the street.
Hugh Dancy is just like a cool cat. A little stuffy and British but generally cool and talented and smart and kinda pretty and rarely in good movies, so I want to like Claire and hope she’ll be good to him, but she always says something stupid, sanctimonious and… I don’t know. GOOPy. (She gained no fans when she sort of bad-mouthed the Philippines all those years ago.)
And @Colleen, if Claire did sleep with Crudup while he was still taken, it’s every bit as much her fault as it was his when he cheated on Parker, unless she somehow didn’t know they were together.
Oh Claire did have a boyfriend at the time some Aussie singer, I think they met (Billy and Claire) when doing a play.
And for all those well he must have not been happy to leave people
Most mature people do not use the next person as a crutch to get out of a relationship/marriage if they are so unhappy with their partner/wife or husband you leave without the help of another person.
Woo. I take a lot of issue with the opening paragraph. “Danes was considered the cause behind Billy Crudup’s leaving Mary Louise Parker” –Really. How is a person a cause? How is a person a cause for another person’s actions? Billy is a man, can’t he decide for his own penis what it does? And AGAIN: you don’t have an affair unless something is wrong already. Not necessarily anyone’s fault, but he was unhappy and HE made a choice to do something nasty to another person.
“but the old saying about “once a cheater, always a cheater” proved true: she cheated on Crudup with Hugh Dancy” — I get what you’re saying, that Claire is a bad, bad person with a black little heart who will never do good. I don’t agree with it, but I understand that you feel this way because she had a relationship with a ‘taken’ man. Is that cheating, though? I thought cheaters were people who were committed to someone else and then cuckolded them. Who was Claire committed to at that time?
I’ve noticed lately that people don’t want to let anything go, ever. Every single one of you has done something that hurt someone else at least once in your life. You still think you are a decent human being, though. Why are we so inclined to expect celebrities to be perfect? Why are we so mad, and so unforgiving, when they prove to be human?
Are you exactly the same person you were 5 years ago? Have you not learned anything about yourself in that time? I’m the same age as Claire, and I know I’m not the same person I was when I was 25. You can’t even imagine that maybe she’s grown up a little, learned the error of her ways?
she looks cold and snooty in a Gwyneth Paltrow way.
She was dating Ben Lee when she cheated with Billy Crudup. They are both super gross and I hope Hugh Dancy cheats on her with a much younger version.
cheating, cheating, cheating. You really love the subject, don’t you? Because women who sleep with married men are the worst, and “cheated” women are the best, and you are always taking the victim’s side, maybe because you see yourself like a victim? Why are women so fucking insecure?
sigh. she wasn’t MARRIED to ben lee or billy crudup. she met someone else and she moved on with them. so what? and she didn’t CAUSE the breakup of billy and mary louise; billy did. sure, what she did isn’t very supportive of her fellow womankind, but she didn’t ruin their relationship.
She may not have ‘cheated’ on anyone or technically bear the blame for breaking up MLP and Cruddup but it says something about your character that you would begin a relationship with a man that you knew was in a relationship and about to have a child with that person. It says something significant about your character.
I agree it was a long time ago and all the parties concerned have moved on, but she really should know she will open herself up to scrutiny by broaching the subject (although that said she is probably getting asked about marriage all the time now that she is engaged.)
I liked her so much on MSCL but have to be honest I think her acting skills haven’t progressed very much. I did kind of look poorly on her at the time – I remember seeing Billy Crudup and Mary Louise on Broadway in Bus Stop, where they met, always liked them together, think a lot of people did hence the continued venom towards Claire. Unfortunately her career just hasn’t mustered anything good enough to blot out her past personal transgressions imo. I really liked Hugh Dancy in Shopaholic, he was a quirky and good choice for the part I thought – not really like the character in the book at all but anyway!
i agree she’s not woman of the year.
Oh my another blame the other woman story – how original
All I have to say on the matter is that MLP sure has had herself some fiiiiiiine gentleman friends.
beware all married/comitted women here…go check on your partners, they might be checking porn all day long( which eventually will lead to worse) whilst you seat on your ass discussing such profound moral matters regarding a subject/person/relationship that has aboslutely nothing to do with you.
Oh and one other thing – wtf is up with the head of the dude behind her.
Is that like, a hairdont or more of a case of ‘When plugs go wrong’?
Hey Firestarter – Judge much? I KNOW what she did was wrong, but SHE was not cheating on HER significant other. I was commenting on the way it was written. By the way – F You.
she wasn’t just casually dating Ben Lee when she got together with Billy Crudup, they had been together for around 6 years
Anyone remember that a bit before the whole Billy Crudup/MLP scandal, she was doing an interview where she was asked about the Aniston/Pitt/Jolie triangle and she said something like “There’s a little bit of Jennifer Aniston in all of us”?
Now, I don’t think there’s any point in judging celebrities on their personal lives, unless they’re constantly trying to draw attention to themselves. The only truth we can all be sure of is that no one knows what goes on behind closed doors and real life is not always a black and white situation.
However, Claire should know better then to say things that would bring attention to more unsavory aspects of her public “record”. I do agree with Annie UhOh, she does sound “GOOPy”. If she were more popular, there’d be more of an uproar about her sometimes pretentious attitude.
I also agree with Mrs. Darcy about her acting skills. I used to really like Danes back in the day, she seemed to have so much potential. While I still consider her a decent actress, her skills are still the same as they were ten or so years ago.
@Colleen- way to handle a disagreement on the internet by telling the person you disagee with to f-off! Classy, as I do not recall calling you any filthy names. Grow up and don’t take things so personally.
Have a super night.
Claire Danes and Hugh Dancy are my favorite celebrity couple. They are super cute together and I like that they are rarely seen out on the scene. I hope I get to see more of them on the red carpet together. I also hope that in the future Claire/Hugh articles and threads don’t focus so much on what happened between Crudup and Parker in the past. Please more Claire/Hugh stories in the future, but keep it positive.
You don’t have to be married to another person to be unfaithful! what’s wrong with you people.
If you are in a exclusive relationship ( like Claire was with that scary Australian Singer) and not to mention Billy with a baby on the way.. They both were unfaithful to their partners. The reason she is in hot water with this comment, why did she not come to this realization at the time that Billy the “douche” was courting her, I doubt that she did not know that Billy and MLP were expecting a child.
Or she is the one who came on to him, in any case it is wrong!!!
You’re all forgetting that he was about to be a father. MLP was seven months pregnant. There is no excuse in that situation. It IS black & white.
princess pea, I could not agree with you more.
CD always bugged the hell out of me. This only adds to it.
this is another diatribe that makes me love this site most for the postings: you people all get your panties in such a wad over this crap and become uncivil. curious: do you have opinions on the voting in afganistan today or the fact that the lockerbie bomber was freed and returned to libya to share his vast knowledge with up and coming terrorists? sheesh – i’d laugh if it weren’t so…sad. call me whateverthehell you like – i just hope a fraction of you also have opinions and debate over Stuff That Matters.
Karen:
The problem with your comment is that this is a GOSSIP SITE, if there was a post regarding voting in Afganistan or the Lebanese Bomber that is returning home to die, you betcha I will have a comment. I happen to know what is going on in the world, I speak 3 languages and I receive the Time Magazine and the New York Post, and I have CNN in the backround right now and I will be logging out to go to the Gym…. must I go on…
I like this site because there are allot of people that have great opinions and make me laugh.
You want to make it sound like we are morons with no life…. It’s just entertainment girl, that all.
Princess Pea: “I’ve noticed lately that people don’t want to let anything go, ever. Every single one of you has done something that hurt someone else at least once in your life. You still think you are a decent human being, though. Why are we so inclined to expect celebrities to be perfect? Why are we so mad, and so unforgiving, when they prove to be human?
Are you exactly the same person you were 5 years ago? Have you not learned anything about yourself in that time? I’m the same age as Claire, and I know I’m not the same person I was when I was 25. You can’t even imagine that maybe she’s grown up a little, learned the error of her ways?”
Damn well said, Princess Pea.
I definitely feel that way myself, in many ways like a totally different person over the passing years. (Many maaany years.) I have vastly different opinions and a much mellower general outlook etc, than the snarky bristling child I once was. 🙂
Nice post Princess Pea. People do change.
Years ago I briefly had a relationship with a married man. It wasn’t a good move for many reasons and I got badly hurt. He was very much the instigator for the relationship, although I also made the decision to participate and I own that. However I didn’t feel and don’t feel that it was me who betrayed his wife (who I didn’t know). I also know that he went on to have other extra-marital relationships after me and I probably wasn’t his first. His wife found out about us (after it had ended) – they stayed together.
I have now been married for 10 years, never been unfaithful and can’t imagine that I would be. I presume that my husband is also faithful, but if he wasn’t it would be HIM that I feel betrayed me, not whoever he had the affair with.
All I can say is, I didn’t make a good decision, but I learned from it (and most definitely paid the price too, but that’s another story). If I could go back, I would act differently.
Karen, aren’t you the pot calling the kettle black?
You’re on a gossip site, commenting about how other people who comment on this site should comment about “important” things happening in the world.
Hard to follow that logic. Yea, it’s not hypocritical at all…
Ditto Princess Pea!
@luna~ She isn’t Mrs. Darcy. At least not yet.
Karma’s a bitch and so is Claire. She’ll get hers…
I don’t care enough about their personal life to make the point to boycott their movies. I only care about their performances and if I just wasted my money on their movies.
Great post princess pea! The truth is we don’t know them. We don’t know when Billy left Mary, what B/M/C are like, what Billy told Claire etc. Billy might’ve told her they broke up. Who knows? It’s amazing that people take some basic facts and then make nasty, judgment calls (whore, homewrecker, b*itch, lying cheater, etc) regarding someone they don’t know. Kinda scary
I love that dress!
I agree with princess pea. Very well said!
Not to get caught up in the fray of these posts… I’ve had my boyfriend “stolen” by a friend and it was one of the most painful experiences of my life. So I personally have no sympathy or tolerance for cheaters..
@ whatever: that aside though, these are famous people. There’s no way she wouldn’t be able to find out what his relationship status was if she wanted to. Both parties are wrong, but obviously the party in a relationship has the biggest responsibility…
shit happens though I suppose… whatya gonna do.
Princess Pea makes the sense. But I love to snark incessantly about these vapid people…such a dilemma.
As for Karen – duh…yeah…whatevs.
What goes around comes around. It sux being the one who’s being cheated on.
She should feel how that feels. Skank
Obviously you’re not only responsible for your own behavior but that of the other party involved, too. Go figure.
Zzz…
So glad MLP camer out on top!
Never was a CD fan and didn’t know who Billy was, but after that I boycotted Clare Danes too, it is easy to boycott her crap since she really wasn’t in much. Ugly flat chested #$^;*.
Hopefully her new man does not believe in monogomy and will leave her while she is preg, that is the biggest issue with me since I have been preg, to leave someone preg with your child during the 7th month is low. Pregnancy really messes with you, your hormones are a wreck.
I have never found it hard to be monogomous, I have been married for 15 yrs and have no urge or desire to get with any other man but my man.
princess pea, I don’t agree, yes she(flat chest) was the reason he left MJP.
MLP was 7 mos preg, fat, bloated miserable, and here is young not pregnant Claire, hey Billy want some of me???
Also not all men or woman cheat because there are problems in their relationships, some people esp men can not help them selves and are week and submit to lust. Many people cheat that still love their partners.
I think MJP and Billy were together for many yrs so to suddenly leave her for a bimbo in her 7th month of preg is disgusting.
Karen- While I appreciate what you have to say, take a look where you are, a GOSSIP site.
quote (n she looks cold and snooty in a Gwyneth Paltrow way.)
That’s ridiculous. The only thing she has in common with Paltrow is very fair skin and blond hair. How is it that having these 2 characteristics makes one “cold” and “snooty”?
On another note, it’s amazing, isn’t it, that in year 2009 women are still blamed for men’s behavior! Look at how much hatred Angelina Jolie got and gets for “stealing” Brad Pitt from insipid J Aniston. You’d think Brad Pitt was a 6 year old boy, not a grown man. To those of you who hate Claire Danes for what she did, how is it you don’t feel the same hatred for the guy? And it’s really women who do this, I guess because it’s so much more painful to admit the truth that the guy actually willingly left the woman you are identifying with.
Alaska J: Me too! Does dane/crud even have acting careers anymore..they ceased to exist for me long ago- I hope she gets preg and hugh dancy cheats and leaves her – then she will have the right to wonder if monogamy is really feasible and necessary- what a twit!
Ok. So Angelina Ho is a saint and there are reasons but Claire Danes is a flawed human being? Something’s wrong here. Any chick who needs a guy who’s already in a relatioship has serious self esteem problems.
And it doesn’t matter who it is: Cheetahs can’t change their spots.
Um, garbled name, we do despise the guy. He’s a piece of shit. But THIS little bit of “news” is about the girl who, by the way, is not looking so girlish anymore.
I do not identify with Mary Lousie Parker, nor have I ever been cheated on or left, to my knowledge.
But morally reprehensible behavior gets no defense from me.
The right thing in that situation would have been to not act on their feelings. I have been there.
A married man, also with a 7 month pregnant wife, fell for me and I eventually felt the same. How did we handle it? By avoiding eachother as much as possible. I eventually left my job for another one, in part to get away from him. We never acted on it. And I’m sure he has tried to work on his marriage. He’s still married. And I’m not a ho. End of story.
I’ll just hate her because she’s so ugly.