Tori Spelling is a homewrecker. Just thought I’d get that out there, because I have been accused of bias about some of my favorite homewrecking girls. Tori “stole” Dean McDermott from his wife, son and newly adopted daughter back in 2006. Tori “stole” him even though Dean is an adult man, not a tube of lipstick. It is all Tori’s fault. Meh. What I really think is that people fall in and out of love, that sh-t gets complicated, and that you should try to be as honest as possible.
CB and MSat have different views on this– they think both Tori and Dean are selfish asses, which is totally legit. I get why some people hate them. I’m just saying this – I watch their show sometimes, and I think they’re in love. I think it’s for real. Whether or not Dean has ulterior motives for being with Tori (money, fame and horses), I think he and Tori handled the “homewrecking” the right way – namely, they met, fell in love, and immediately split from their respective spouses, instead of dragging it out for months and lying to everybody.
Dean’s ex-wife Mary Jo Eustace obviously has a different view about the situation. She’s written a new book detailing her side of the story, Divorce Sucks: What to do when irreconcilable differences, lawyer fees, and your ex’s Hollywood wife make you miserable. Gatecrasher has an excerpt from the book, in which Mary Jo details how the producers of Dean and Tori’s reality show wanted Mary Jo to make an “appearance”.
Tori Spelling should thank her lucky stars — her hubby’s ex passed up the chance to turn “Tori and Dean” into “Three’s Company.”
In her book “Divorce Sucks,” Dean McDermott’s ex-wife, Mary Jo Eustace, reveals that a producer approached her to appear on the reality show — and cause as much controversy as she could.
The Canadian TV chef couldn’t be blamed for wanting to stir things up: Her then-husband had an affair with the “90210” actress, then divorced her and married Spelling in 2006.
In the tome — due Oct. 19 from Adams Media — the abandoned Eustace says she considered hitting the small screen to portray herself as a broken woman and gain public sympathy. She even toyed with how she would fit into the show: She could move in next door and make Dean’s life a living hell. Or, she could take the “organic” route, as producers suggested, and “casually” confront Tori — for two to three hours.
Eustace did end up meeting with the reality show’s honchos, but decided that — although appreciative of the chance to air her dirty laundry — she’d leave that to Tori and Dean, thanks. Instead, she took on a different role: Protective mama. Eustace says that, at the very same meeting where she declined the TV offer, she threatened producers that if her son Jack ever appeared on the program again, there’d be trouble.
“I said, ‘If I ever again see my son with a black X across his face on the show without my permission, we’ll be having a whole different type of conversation,'” she writes. She got her wish: Jack has not appeared on the show since.
“I have managed to keep my son off the reality show and cast him in his very own and wonderfully private life,” says Eustace, who’s mostly glad she helped Jack avoid the pitfalls of child stardom. “I mean, seriously — remember the ‘Diff’rent Strokes’ kids? Enough said.”
[From Gatecrasher]
Mary Jo sounds very mature, although I still think she has an axe to grind if she’s writing a book discussing all of this crap. But the producers sound like idiots. I thought Tori and Dean were producers on the show too? Yeah, they are. At some point, the manufactured drama has to end, for the love of all that is holy. What would happen if Mary Jo actually made an “appearance” on Tori and Dean’s show? Would the world end? Not really. They would probably sit down and talk about their bullsh-t like adults. Scandal!
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott are shown out on 9/19/09 and 9/21/09. Credit; Fame Pictures
On air? Because that’s where the best place to handle that kind of thing is. lol
Who cares either way. She’s written a book, hasn’t she? That isn’t exactly taking the high road all the way to the end of the street now, is it?
I agree, people fall in and out of love all the time. It happened with the Pitt/Jolie/Aniston trianle, LeAnn and Eddie, Tori and Dean and many other celebs and thousands of other non celeb’s every single day.
In life, people and relationships change. People grow up in relationships, goals and things in common change and it doesn’t make anyone a bad person when they give a relationship all they can and it just doesn’t work anymore. Is it better to stay and be miserable, making everyone involved miserable too, or is it better to move on, and let everyone be happy?
The same way Tori wanted to reconcile with her mother in her show, somethings are better done private. I would be piss of too , if the wife of my ex husband was always trying to impliyg that I was the bad person or that I did something horrible to my ex-husband
I think of both of them are homewreckers (tori&dean) they both have sex with each other less then 24 hour of meeting each other for the first time while they where both marry and Dean saying how much he loved and how his kids are his life , according to Tori’s book. Love at firts sight please save that bullshit story for your children.
I knew Tori and Dean were shady. At least one person had enough good judgement. I bet Tori and Dean were all for it. Imagine if all their kids got involved in that fiasco. What was Tori thinking? I understand if Dean was on board he seems creepy.
the ex needs to get over it already. isnt this the 2nd book she has written. move on and stfu. so dean didnt stay with u. sh!t happens. he meet tori and married her and has 2 beautiful kids. get over it mary jo. tori hasnt written books about it. u want privacy then stop writing about it. yes i know tori has written books but not about breaking up a marriage or anything liek that. MOVE ON or go into therapy mary jo. it happened years ago.
Maybe, like, so oh my god and like, stuff, learn how to SPELL? So, maybe, like you shouldn’t youknow be like the one to like tell people, especially decent, highly-educated ones how to like live their lives and youknow?
I get that people fall in and out of love and divorce, etc. etc. I don’t have a problem with that. What I think is absolutely disgusting is the way that McDermott totally abandonded his newly adopted daughter as if she didn’t count. I remember him crowing when his daughter was born about how he “always wanted a little girl.” Sickening.
Delivering sperm does not a father make.
The book is not about breaking up a marriage , her book is about how to survive a divorce ,and some top ten list of sign’s that your marriage is ending and things like that and she mention about how Tori said that when she went to visit her(mary) she had a sweatshir and a knife in her purse , mary said that Tori went in knee high boots and pig tails.
I understand while she is piss off , you adopt a girl with your husband and then he dumps you and basically forgets about the baby girl.
If you do not love someone do not adopt with that person.
The ex-wife forgot to mention that the daughter Dean was going to adopt was from an outside relationship SHE had while she was married to Dean. SHE was living with this dude and everything! I think there home was wrecked before Tori but whatev!
Tori and Dean could have shared this information years ago but decided not to for the kid’s sake. I’m not saying what they did was right but the ex-wife is not as innocent as everyone thinks she is.
If she’s accusing of other people making her life miserable, she’s hardly mature.
Shag love, whatever happened to good old fashioned commitment?
If the girl was her biological daughter she will not have to adopt the girl since she is already the legal parent of the child.
Why would she adopt her daught as a single parent if she was already the parent??
Unless she gave birth to the girl ,gave her up for adoption and then she and Dean decided to adopt her , Dean dumps her and she decides that she may finish the adoption since she is at it.
That is not how it works.
I HEARD that Dean had adopted the little girl SHE had from an outside relationship. I didn’t say that the ex-wife WASN’T the biological mother.
I’m glad his ex declined that offer. It shows she has moved on. Initially when I read this I thought “Why on Earth would she even write a book like that?” but then I realized maybe that is how she was able to move on.
I wish people were more considerate and mature when handling divorce and affairs. If you’re in a crappy marriage, seek conseling or get a damn divorce BEFORE you hook up with someone else. Is it THAT hard to do? I’ll never understand how people would rather sneak around as oppose to being honest first and NOT have to sneak around at all.
Good for her for not appearing on the show and for keeping her son off of it too (though I doubt he’d become a child star from occasionally being on his dad’s lame D-list reality show on basic cable!). But bad for her even considering it at ALL, and for keeping it all going by writing a book and being public about it. In a divorce with kids involved, I think people in the public eye should try to take the high road, keep their issues private, and don’t comment publicly on the other party because the kids will see it sooner or later.
C-DUB, you heard wrong. The baby was adopted. Period. Don’t know what the heck you’re talking about.
from dean’s wikipedia: “He and Eustace also adopted a daughter, Lola, in 2005, but McDermott has joint custody of his son only because Mary Jo finalized the adoption as a single parent after the separation. [2] “
Dont miss the utube of tori talking to a canadian audiance about Deans Ex… way tacky… google mary jo eustace and you can find it..
C-DUB
Where did you get this info? It sounds like bullshit, it does not even make sense. The fact of the matter is how all this went down. How can you fall in love with someone you have bearly met? And abandon your family and wife? I’ll tell you how, it’s called selfishness and greed (Dean). It is well documented by psychologist that women who go for married men have low self esteem issues.
You can spin this anyway you want or make excuses for this two, but it is what it is. And anybody that excuses this type of behavior, well I question your values. I have been approached by flirty married men, and it’s very easy “just say no”. You can’t construct your happiness, with the misery of another.
Besides, Dean needs to be a man and get a real job!
He looks like a dog, always next to Tori wagging his tail. What a joke these two are.
Ex’s don’t have to “get over it” when kids are involved. This jackass abandoned his family, he shouldn’t have ANY rights. He should be sentenced to the hell he’s chosen, no looking back. People who condone homewrecking/ adultery have low self-esteem and have gotten off on playing the “other” man/woman. When it actually HAPPENS to them – cause let’s face it, cheetahs get off on the adrennaline and when it’s over they move on to get more – THEN it’s just wrong wrong wrong. Mary Jo Eustace’s been classy, funny and sane through it all. She’s awesome.
I’m only remembering this from about four years ago–my memory could be failing–, but Eustace’s daughter was born in China, no?
C-DUB, that’s not logical. If she had an affair, and there was a baby she would have been pregnant. With Lola. That’s simple biology. But you see, she wasn’t ever pregnant with Lola. Are you a friend of Tori’s or something? Got some dirt on Candy you want to share, too?
In the grand scheme of things, who cares? They are all -Z-List celebs, and they are ALL guilty of being attention whores. Until this relationship, who had ever really even heard of Canadian tv chef Eustace or Dean McDermott, z-list Canadian actor?
I second that Team Eustace!!!
I watched Mary Jo & Ken Kostick lots years ago when she first married douchebag. They’re not much on their own,but together they had a rockin’, funny, really good cooking show, way before Food Channel knock offs. Mary Jo’s always been a funny, off-beat, intelligent class act. I wouldn’t mind having her for a neighbour. Can’t say the same about Tori & Dean, in fact I’d probably move from the hood because of them.
‘Until this relationship, who had ever really even heard of Canadian tv chef Eustace or Dean McDermott, z-list Canadian actor?’
Canadians. Do we count?
you know Kaiser, your comment kinda reminded me of a talk show subject discussing the validity of marriage. Or relevance I should say. The guest speaker said the idea of monogamous relationships is ridiculous cause human beings are programmed for polygamous relationships. that is to say, we can only find desire in a partner for so long before we fall ‘out of love’ and into it with new partners. I dunno, maybe the guest speaker was jaded cause she was recently divorced….
Sorry Firestarter, I’m usually with you but um, I’m Canadian. So yeah. Like Jo Mama, I had heard of her. In fact, I could still sing you the “What’s for Dinner” theme song.
Sorry Canadians, I meant no disrespect to my friends North of the boarder. I guess I was just being a selfish American. Of course you guys count! : )
why did she need to meet with the producers at all? was she actually considering it? and if she was, what gives her the right to judge?
I’m with Wow on this one. You’re unhappy in your marriage? You don’t want to do the work required to make it better? Then get out. Don’t lie, sneak around, and screw other people while your spouse is waiting at home for you, and then have the nerve to act surprised when people hate your lying, cheating guts once you get caught. It’s scummy and wrong. There’s no excuse for it. That’s why both Tori and Dean are dil-holes.
Too bad Mary Jo doesn’t realize how much better off she is without Dean. I am Canadian and have seen him in some bit parts in Canadian TV shows from years ago when he first started out. He sucked as an actor and he looked EXTREMELY feminine. He is icky. Mary Jo can do better.
As a Canadian I’d like to set some facts straight. Mary Jo Eustace adopted a little girl…who was NOT her child biologically. End of freaking story. And guess what? Three years is not a particularly long time to ‘get over’ the end of your marriage. It took me five years to get over the demise of mine and it affected a lot of the decisions I made during that time. I’m remarried now and very happy but that was a very difficult time of my life. It takes however long it takes to move forward and at least MJE does it in a classy way. Good on her for the book, might make other women feel less alone! God knows I would have read it then and I still will now!
Yeah! What DrM said!
@ DrM
You couldn’t have said it better.
I do too have to wonder about the morals and values of some of the people who post how cute this couple is and how so much in love they seem.
I also wonder if this happened to their sister, brother, son or daughter would they still be hyping on the well they “the cheater” was not happy and the ow/om makes them happy.
Would you really stand there and say that to your love one? I doubt it unless you want a smack in the face.
Plus like I said before if you are so unhappy you don’t use another person as a crutch to get out of a relationship, it’s not healthy for one thing and not very mature.
Mary Jo was always HILARIOUS on her cooking show (and I am SO not a fan of cooking shows, but her show with Ken was great) so I would bet this book is largely a humourous take on everything. It would totally fit her style.
I just got Mary Jo’s book and can’t wait to read it. She looks AMAZING in the photo, much prettier than Tori could ever hope to be. The only question that remains is what Mary Jo, a pretty savvy chick, could have wanted with dumb, vain Dean. Yeah, I said it. Just look at his eyes. Nothing going on but vanity and stupidity. Maybe greed. Definitely a fame whore. You can have him, Tori.
Tori is a big old blamer, everyone’s to blame for her life and circumstances but her. You’re a mom sweetheart, grow up!
There is never a definite answer to complicated questions. There are so many factors to be considered. A friend of mine has been married to her husband for 16 years. They have five children together. Let me remind you, this woman is still fairly young. She is currently 34 years of age. She is very submissive, easy to mold, passive, very conservative, and domesticated. Her husband is very chauvinistic. He preyed on her traits, completely dominated her, and practically changed her entire identity. Now he has left her for another woman. The other woman is more liberated, sexual, carefree, and wears provocative clothing.
I think that men evolve over the years. It becomes impossible for their wives to evolve with them because women sometimes feel this need to become “someone else’ in order to pacify their spouses. These women no longer have self-identities. So there is nothing fueling the relationship. There is no diversity, variety, opinions, passion, mind blowing sex, make-up to break up sex, and etc. There is no change in routine, consistency and boredom are two factors that can kill a marriage!
My advice, ladies? It’s OK to be a little selfish. Don’t be too giving of yourselves in a relationship. Don’t lose you identity. Be true to who you are. Put your careers first (unlike Ms Mary Jo, who moved to CA to support her husband; and Mrs. Broderick, who held down two jobs and became a full time Mom while putting her husband through Law School). because in the long run, ‘self-preservation’ and ‘sanity’ are the only things that are going to propel a woman to move forward.
I think Tori Spelling is hideous looking and Dean McDermott only wanted to be with her for money and Hollywood status, you can tell he loves the reality show. How many people would really like TV cameras in their home 24 hours a day? only self serving idiots like Dean and Tori, and she is butt ugly and now she is like anorexic lately? and Deans plastic surgery on his eyes…whatever, I know relationships fail, etc, but this man adopted a baby girl one month before he slept with Tori Spelling. People like him should not be allowed to adopt children…what kind of a commitment did he make to that child?
Dean didn’t fall out of love. It’s called $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$.
It’s sad that his son Jack is losing out on a father now because of Dean’s own ego.
Dean is a LOSER father and Tori Spelling is a home wrecker.
I now feel sorry for their children because once a cheater always a cheater.
you ass holes grow up and leave tori & dean alone and you people act as if you guys know them and what happened beteen dean and now ex-wife marriage and tori spelling and please stop acting like you guys know them . I sick of you guys acting like you guys know them or what they have been through.
Word to DrM! Perfectly said.
Also, I’m wondering if the people who don’t understand why Mary Jo can’t just “get over it” have ever been married with children. It changes EVERYTHING, and unless you’ve been there, it’s impossible to comprehend that kind of betrayal and devastation. As parents, we want to protect our children from harm or heartache, and the pain we experience when we can’t is intense. In fact, it manifests itself physically — like a dull aching feeling (similar to the physical reaction we get when we gaze lovingly at them when they sleep, play, or just cuddle up in our arms). Mary Jo had to explain to her son why Daddy was suddenly gone, and on top of that, why he was married to some stranger. And as if that wasn’t hard enough, why his Dad is parading his new family in front of the cameras without shame or hesitation. So yeah, as far as I’m concerned, Tori and Dean can piss off.