Sandra Bullock sent a clear and silent message to the world earlier this week when she was photographed stepping out for a “hike,” her bare ring finger visible as she sipped a cup of coffee. That first photo was set up by the same non-paparazzi agency that helped Tiger Woods document his post scandal golf outing, Getty, and was reportedly worth upwards of $75,000. (Earlier reports had it priced at $60,000.) Popeater quotes a public relationship expert who thinks that of course it was staged but that it wasn’t a stunt and was more like a quiet way of telling everyone that she was doing ok.
Sandra is weighing her options but isn’t about to stick with Jesse, if reports are to be believed. According to sources quoted by Fox News, she’s planning to divorce him but is making sure that she does it in a way that is sensitive to his three children.
Now, a friend of Sandra and her cheating husband Jesse James tells Fox 411.com that the Oscar-winning actress has a “master plan” to end their six-year marriage.
“[The infidelity scandal has] broken her heart, and they will divorce,” the source told Fox411.com. “She is trying to pick her way through the mess and all the stress of knowing his three children will be hurt no matter what happens. The kids are what is holding her back from filing for the divorce immediately. It’s been tough and she wants to find a balance for them – they deserve some stability, even through the divorce.”
“With Jesse in rehab, she is trying to tread lightly. Sandra is doing this on her own timeline and refuses to budge or give in to people who say she should divorce him immediately,” the source explained. “Jesse and his children are her family and in some ways always will be. She is not ready to scrap it all as fast as possible. She’s taken some time off and plans to stay out of the spotlight. Sandra and Jesse will talk again, but divorce will happen. She has a master plan.”
The insider said Bullock has definitely come to grips with the fact that James was not the guy she thought he was.
“Sandra got to be with a side of Jesse that he rarely gave to anyone else and now she’s seeing what everyone else always saw,” the pal said. “They were truly from different worlds and Sandra sees that Jesse lived a double life with her. She’s so level-headed and grounded and that is what is getting her through this.”
[From Fox News]
It’s not easy to divorce someone you’ve spent years with and expected to spend the rest of your life with, no matter what they’ve done to you. Sometimes things that can seem clear cut to those on the outside can be cloudy with emotion and happy memories to those dealing with it. When you find out that your husband is not the person you thought he was it can take a long time to come to terms with how much different he really is. I guess I’m saying that I don’t blame Sandra for taking her time and not issuing a statement yet.
I don’t know why people expect a statement or a public appearrance when something bad happens to a celebrity. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that Sandra is hurt, angry embarressed, etc. She needs to focus on herself not complete strangers who just want to gossip about her.
I think she’s handling this in a very classy way. Good luck to her, this must be a very sad and difficult time.
Good for her. It’s nice to someone actually thinking about what’s best for the children involved instead of themselves for a change.
Sadly, after all this I want the kind of ending that goes.. “and they lived happily ever after”..but I know that’s wrong and just not going to happen. It’s a shame 🙁
She is a class act and I still feel so sad for her.
“Master plan” sounds so very dramatic for a situation where she simply is not running to the press to comment on every aspect of her personal life and posing for daily photo ops.
” It’s not easy to divorce someone you’ve spent years with and expected to spend the rest of your life with, no matter what they’ve done to you. Sometimes things that can seem clear cut to those on the outside can be cloudy with emotion and happy memories to those dealing with it. When you find out that your husband is not the person you thought he was it can take a long time to come to terms with how much different he really is. I guess I’m saying that I don’t blame Sandra for taking her time and not issuing a statement yet.”
Celebitchy, this is the the most honest and kindest and most truthful thing that has been written since this all started.
Thank you for that.
Thanks Just. Let’s just say I have some personal experience to draw on and I’ll leave it at that.
She doesn’t owe anyone a statement (even if we’re dying to know just what’s what). Just good she let us know in her way that she is (or seems) OK.
“It’s not easy to divorce someone you’ve spent years with and expected to spend the rest of your life with, no matter what they’ve done to you. Sometimes things that can seem clear cut to those on the outside can be cloudy with emotion and happy memories to those dealing with it. When you find out that your husband is not the person you thought he was it can take a long time to come to terms with how much different he really is”.Well said!!!
I have always adored her anyway. She is classy and has consistently shown herself as a role model to many women. Press must desists from dictating divorces for couples who are passing through some setbacks in their rlshp.
Hope Sinks
I really respect how she’s handling this, as Stephie said she doesn’t owe anyone anything, and she’s not caving in. I’m sure everyone is hounding her, but she’s doing this at her own pace. I think she’s a smart woman, and I think she’ll come out of this OK. I wish the best for her, and for the kids.
she’s so dignified, such a class act. i’m dying for a statement but at the same time i don’t expect that she’ll give one any time soon, or at all. as she used to say her marriage wasn’t for sale and i don’t think the divorce will be either.
I feel for Sandy, I really do, but I’m disturbed by the imagery of the “master plan”. It’s like we’re two seconds away from saying Sandra has a “Final Solution” that she will execute from “the Eagle’s Nest”.
My heart really broke for her when I read that she sent a letter to the court saying that she gave up on the idea of having her own bio children because of drama with Jesse’s kids. So sad. I hope she adopts on her own, if she still wants children.
Let that be a lesson to young women – DON’T give up on what YOU want most because of your guy. If he’s full of constant severe drama, or tries to talk you out of what you most deeply desire, he’s most likely not worth it. She’d have been better off single this whole time, or with someone else with whom she could’ve had kids.
In her interviews she appears strong, determined, knowlegeable about who she is and her place in the industry.
Getting a divorce is painful enough, and with children involved, you care for, it’s losing an entire family.
Her Master Plan? Mwah hah, mwah hah, hah hah hah HA! Ooops sorry, got carried away there for a second. ;p
Love Sandra and love that she gave us a sign that she does intend to divorce him. I wish her well.
Looking at his pics, now, it’s hard to miss that uneasy, haunted, hunted look in his eyes.
He must have known he couldn’t keep the truth hidden forever.
Jc126 you have a good point but maybe in the end the kids will be better off for having had Sandra in their lives as a good role model and will make better decisions in their lives because she took the time to care.
I really think maybe the “master plan” sinister-y nonsense is the tabloids’ way of getting back at Sandra for NOT releasing a statement or allowing them to hunt her down. Just my opinion, but it’s not like the paps have morals any higher than Jesse.
LOL!!!
“Master plan” is an interesting choice of words for a strategy for divorcing a member of the master race.
So which is it. One source has her “friends” saying she waiting to make sure things are solid enough legally so that he can’t discuss her or their marriage. Now it seems those same “friends” of hers are trying to clean that statement up by now saying she’s wanting to make sure the split is easy for his kids.
If these sources are really her friends then they need to just be silent because they are not doing her any favors.
You know, my ex-husband was a cheater dirtbag too and it took me about 8 months to file for a divorce. Why we would expect anyone, in any walk of life to feel differently about ending the most important relationship in their life is beyond me.
Sandra B and all others faced with the heart-ache will/should do what is best for them. What makes it a BAZILLION times worse for her than “us” is that it’s all for public consumption.
Poor woman.
this is so not like the Madonna,Guy Ritchie divorce.remember that one?
iiiiiiiichhhhhh!
lol I’m sure the words “master plan” did not come out of her mouth. That has tabloid written all over it. She has a plan and I am happy to see she is thinking about the kids before running to sign divorce papers.
I like how site owners (Celebitchy) step in and answer post or just to give their two cents. Would really like other sites to take notice. Thanks for taking the time to reply to another fan of your site.
Do it your way, Sandy!
why is it “great,” Sandra takes her time but when Elin does it people call her a gold digging tramp etc? I think they are BOTH handling themselves gracefully…
Off topic: I love Sandra, but I do NOT love that first dress. Horrible!!!
Love your insight at the end of the article, CB!
At least sh didn’t have kids with this douche. Can you imagine having to have that monkey face in your life for the next 20 years and knowing the father of your kids is a loser.
Too bad Jesse wasn’t putting his kids first. Just goes to show that step parents and others can be better than the bio parents.
I just feel so bad for her and the kids, it’s just so sad. My prayers go out to her.