We’ve been looking for the scandal in Kelsey Grammer’s divorce and the worst we’ve heard up to now is that he didn’t call his kids on Father’s Day, which he denies and which isn’t that bad anyway. (The kids should call their dad if he’s away on Father’s Day.) While People Magazine insists this week that “no third party is involved,” Star has some good dirt about an (alleged) affair that Kelsey’s 41 year-old wife, Camille, had with a 20-something guy she met in Hawaii. To make matters worse, Camille has a taste for designer goods and refused to stop spending when times got tough and Kelsey’s TV career stalled.

When Kelsey Grammer left Los Angeles to star in La Cage Aux Folles on Broadway last spring, he didn’t leave his wife Camille Donatacci pining for him. According to a source close to the family, the former Playboy model – who filed for divorce on July 1 citing “irreconcilable differences” – was too busy having a torrid affair with a twentysomething hunk.

Camille, 41, fell hard for the hottie, whom she met when he was working in a restaurant near the Grammers’ Hawaiian home, claims the source. “She had the audacity to bring him to L.A. and sleep with him in their house there. She was caught in the act, and when Kelsey found out, he was beside himself!”

There were other problems in the nearly 13-year union, which produced a daughter, Mason, 8, and a son, Jude, 5, both born to a surrogate mother. Camille, who is seeking spousal support and primary physical custody of the kids, loved to drop loads of Kelsey’s money, a habit that continued unchecked even after his last TV show, Hank, was canceled in 2009 after five episodes. “With Camille, everything is Tiffany this or Gucci that. Kelsey asked her to slow down with the spending, but she wouldn’t listen,” says a source, noting that the 55-year-old actor, who suffered a heart attack in 2008, was also hit hard by the real estate crash.

“Kelsey isn’t broke, but he isn’t superwealthy anymore,” says another source. “I don’t think Camille liked their new, more budgeted lifestyle. They had been fighting a lot.”

[From Star Magazine, print edition, July 19, 2010]

Assuming this is true, it’s ripe that an older woman who can’t stop spending money would chose to cheat with a young guy who works at a restaurant. At least Kelsey can assume that Camille isn’t going to leave him for a broke waiter. Was she going to try and keep her fling secret?

The National Enquirer has a different account of the demise of Kelsey’s marriage, and they chalk it up to Kelsey’s work commitments and Camille’s ambition to become famous as part of the cast of the upcoming Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. They also put Kelsey’s fortune at $120 million! They quote a source who says “He was always hard at work on a new show or play, and she got wrapped up in her own life as a celebrity wife in California… He learned to keep his personal life quiet [after legal and addiction issues earlier in his career] And he feels that Camille’s ‘Real Housewives’ role couldn’t be more ill-timed and will be at his expense. He’s absolutely furious that the divorce is about to be played out on reality TV.” I doubt we’ll see much of this drama on Real Housewives, but it will surely increase ratings regardless. If Kelsey is furious, he isn’t showing it. His last blog entry on his divorce was very thoughtful and classy.