Life & Style’s cover story this week is the pretty much the same damn thing that the tabloids have been saying for months – that Sandra Bullock is going to take Jesse James back, because of the children. Now that Jesse has won the right to take his daughter to Austin, Texas (where Sandra Bullock is staying now), everyone is all in a tizzy about Jesse and Sandra probably being back together:
Since the day Sandra Bullock left husband Jesse James, he has done everything he can to win her back. And now Life & Style can reveal that Jesse’s closer than ever to getting a second chance with Sandra.
“Her heart is open to him again,” an insider tells Life & Style. Sources confirm that Jesse and Sandra are talking — with the excuse that it’s for the sake of the children only.
It’s Sandra’s love for his 6-year-old daughter Sunny who she has been raising as her own child for the past five years — as well as for Jesse’s other children, Chandler and Jesse Jr. — that has finally allowed her to forgive their father.
“Sandra will never fully get over the way Jesse betrayed her,” the insider explains. “But he did give her the family she’s always wanted. And because of that, she’s able to forgive him.”
Jesse has gone as far as relocating his home and businesses to Austin, Texas, where Sandra spends much of her time living with adopted son Louis, 7 months. He recently splurged on a $2 million seven acre mansion that’s just 16 miles away and relocated his business from California to Texas. Jesse’s new workplace, the motorcycle store Austin Speed Shop, is just minutes away from Walton’s Fancy & Staple, a local store Sandra owns.
Even Janine Lindemulder, Sunny’s birth mother, admits that Jesse is desperate to win Sandra back. “He will do anything to get back in her good graces,” Janine tells Life & Style.
[From Life & Style]
I know CB usually covers these stories from the ongoing Sandra Bullock-Jesse James saga, and there’s a reason for that – she gives both Jesse and Sandra the benefit of the doubt, and she’s a lot nicer about this situation than I am. Now, I’m not such a horrible child-hating bitch that I don’t know that bringing children into a marriage changes the dynamics of the marriage, it changes the love you have for your partner, and it changes you as a person. I understand why Sandra is letting Jesse back into her life and into her heart – and I do think it’s mainly about being a step-mom to Sunny and Sandra’s dream of being a parent to baby Louis, with Jesse. All that being said – I’m just disappointed in Sandra. Does she think Jesse has changed? That know that there was a huge scandal, he just got it out of his system? Not so much – he’s still the same whiny, douchey little bitch. I’m not mad at Sandra, I don’t dislike her or anything, I’m just… sad and disappointed.
L&S cover courtesy of CoverAwards.
NOOOOOOOO!
I agree with you entirely (and I had a 20-year marriage to a secret manwhore too). Sandra Bullock can live her life anyway she sees fit. But I will NOT RESPECT her as a person if she takes this low-down scum sucking vampire of an ex-husband back because she is an enabler. I cannot see the health in that….for her, for him, for the CHILDREN. He is a disease that most likely will never be healed. Trust.
HAHAAA! I knew it!
Never believe Bullock “insiders” – they always turn out to be wrong, and she’s proven repeatedly that those she confides in don’t run to the tabloids.
I bet they’ll be friends for the sake of the kids, but I think their romantic relationship and marriage ship has sailed. He may be trying for it again, but I think she’s done. Too much betrayal.
@denise – me too. said so from the get go.
i hope when they remarry that Sandy will sell the rights of the pictures to People Magazine
I am not one to judge Sandra, it’s her life and when you love someone, you just can’t turn it off when you want to. But now we know that she knows how he is and is not naive about it. She loves him anyway, I guess she can’t help it. So she is willing to take the hard road and be with him anyway. But she should realize that she can’t ‘save him’ or change him. He has to want to do that himself.
The situation reminds me of a book I read called ‘Women Who Love Too Much’ about women who want to rescue and change a man. I related so much to that book- it changed my life.
I agree with lucy2, the insiders are never right. So in time we shall see what happens.
“But he did give her the family she’s always wanted. And because of that, she’s able to forgive him”
That sort of statement makes me want to VOMIT! As if women can only be fulfilled by some kids running around. As if there are no other standards than that…makes Sandra look like she’s a freaking co-dependent moron.
We all knew this would happen. I hope he learned his lesson. I guess they deserve each other.
#7 picopink: That book was given to me by my female boss and friend, and it really helped me to process what was going down in my own marriage, when it finally became known what my so-called charming and successful husband was up to……a good read for women who have been shafted by being trustful, even if they were not co-dependent.
If she does take him back, then it confirms that she has similar interests to him, ie she likes the Nazi hobby just like he does.
Jeez, Life and Style? I wouldn’t believe them it they told me it was Wednesday.
Who gives a sh*t what Janine Lindemulder has to say? She’s Jesse’s EX.
If this story is true, than Sandy has a dark side.
P.S. Jesse must have good pipe 😉
denise, yup sandy is dickmatized
@ Bite me
True that, sometimes good peen makes you do really stupid things.
How in the world are people so quick to believe ANYTHING a tabloid rag puts in print? It’s all rumors and conjecture at this point.
I completely agree with lucy2. In fact, I think I just read somewhere that the divorce filed in Texas was finalized very recently or was about to be. They are done as a couple. She didn’t get to where she is now by being an idiot.
Cannot be true. Cannot be true. Cannot be true.
…please don’t let this be true
I don’t think Sandra will take him back as anything other than a friend. She is way to smart for that. She knows who he is now and that she can never trust him. She also knows that taking him back will damage her image immensely and she is a smart businesswoman too.
Their divorce is final so Sandra made her feelings pretty clear.
I just have a really hard time believing this…
@denise and bite me
Well, they don’t call him vanilla gorilla for nothing, lol.
I don’t believe it. C’mon after the shock announcement of adopting baby Louis we all no that Sandra’s real ‘insiders’ don’t go blabbing to the press.
Her happiness is paramount. If that is her decision, I support her!!!
I still find it hard she didn’t know about some of this, or suspect. An affair is one thing, but an affair with someone like that?
Sandra has minders who carry the baby capsule. What does that say?
Plenty.
She is an amazing person. THATS what a real mother does. She doesn’t have to sleep with the guy. But she is looking out for the babies. God bless you sister.
I agree with lucy2. They are probably still friends but that is it.
If she IS getting back with him, GF has subterranean self-esteem.
I’m sorry, I just do not believe this story is true. Mainly because it starts with a typical shock value lead in title and then, as usual, fails to deliver. It says she is taking him back and then fills the article with conjecture from “insiders” instead of presenting facts.
I call bullshit.
What is a baby capsule?
Hasn’t anybody out there needed to live near the other parent in order that they can live in civillity and the children don’t suffer?
Huh?
(crickets)
Thought so. This is how it goes: he gets to pick them up, you get to pick them up. Recitals and sports, you both go. You are nice to each other in public. Holidays are easier, and when you have time for yourself, it isn’t as if you have to haul yourself across three time zones to see your kids.
And, that’s successful co-parenting, everybody. Our son is 25 and is as close to either of us and our relatives as if my husband and I’d never divorced.
(The End)
Gee,maybe she’s decided that he is an excellent BFF and horrible husband? Maybe, despite his betrayal, she still values the relationship but intends to change it to one where they co-parent and remain close?
Why is that “sad and disapointing”?
If this true then i have no more respect for Sandra. I believe Sandra must have a dark side that she hide very well. I believe she is taking him back. I think Sandra is spite fighting Jesse’s ex Janine. I feel so sorry for baby Louis to have to be any where near Jesse. That Nazi stuff is nothing to play with and it’s so sad the way Sandra can excuss it. Jesse is the scum of the earth but Sandra seem to like that.
Jesse is using his kids to get Sandra back. He is no more better for those kids than his ex Janine.
I am with @Anti-Icon and @Rose on this one, its gotta be Thursday somewhere on this planet.
Let me explain something I learned about myself when I left my cheating, lying, cheese-d!ck (ex) husband:
I was done. Whether I still loved him or not, whether we had 2 kids together, whether I hated that I ended up a single mother because of him; I. WAS. DONE. I refused to listen to his apologies, pleading, promises, because I knew he was full of it. I maintained a civil tongue in front of our kids, didn’t bad-mouth him in front of them, conversed with him when necessary, transported to or from for visits, shared dance recitals and graduations and holidays. But I never, EVER entertained the thought that he’d changed or we could ever be together again. That is over, never-to-be-seen-again, done.
I don’t think it’s true. Isn’t that photo of them holding hands old, anyway?
@bellaluna – There is a reason why you are my favourite commenter!
I’m on Team Don’t Believe a Blooming Word Written in the Tabloids About Sandra & Jesse. Her friends and family are people who keep her business locked tight so if any of you believe the drivel in Life & Style, then I don’t know what else to say. They never blabbed about Louis and they are certainly not going to start revealing her life details now.
My guess is that Jesse likely wants her back but that is never going to happen. Just like how I still dream of marrying Gavin Rossdale, that’s not happening either. But I digress! Jesse has the means to move wherever he wants (and has the court’s permission to take his kids too). Sunny loves Sandy, Sandy loves Sunny so this is a great move for VG’s children. They may very well become civil or friendly even for the sake of the kids. But she is not taking him back…no way no how!!
Oh he is sure playing the abused child up. And Sandra is eating it up. He cry’s all about it. I can hear the interview now. She will be shoving this angle down on us. They both are going to use it for all it is worth. I say be proud in your dysfunction but don’t try to force us to be proud of you. He got caught. She feels shame. Cue Barbra Walters and a crying Sandra feeling all sorts of understanding and forgiveness for her abused husband. I also smell a liar about the childhood abuse. Imagine that a man who cheats with skanks also tells lies. Sandra wants to have a reason and he gave her one. It is very lame
@Kim
I had to Google it. Apparently it’s just another name for one of those combo car seat/carrier thingies.
kudos to bellaluna, karin and sandy. wise women.
@ karen –
Thank you! I agree – while JJ may want to get back together with SB, I don’t see that happening. Just because he may want a reconciliation doesn’t mean it’s going to happen! I’m on your team – even though S&L claims their info is from “sources” of SB’s, absolutely no one in her circle has uttered a word about her through all of this drama.
Those kids’ lives have been disrupted enough in their short existence. Anything their parents can do to surround them with love and stability should be done. Even his first ex-wife is moving to Texas. That speaks volumes to me.
Fugly – Thank you; it’s been hard-earned, but I wouldn’t change anything.
this makes me so sad 🙁
I’m still hoping it’s just for the kids & she hasn’t taken him back. She’s too smart (I hope).
I love how in all these interviews Jesse is like I wanna be with Sandra for my daughter “Sunny” she needs sandy in her life etc but he never once said that he wants to get back w/ sandy to help her raise Baby Louie! What a cad!!!
It’s her decision. If it’s true, I’ve lost respect for her only because she’s a hypocrite.
Her words:
“If I were Elin [Nordegren]…man, I would have hit a lot more than she did…I would have kept hitting!” said Sandra, referring to the speculation that Tiger’s wife went at him with a club on that fateful Thanksgiving night.
“You would still be swinging the golf club?” asked Niecy.
“Yeah, she stopped. She was respectable,” the actress added. “I’d get the baseball bat. I’d get everything out.”
Sure there’s forgiveness and all, but how do you continue to be “friends” with someone who didn’t prove themself to be a friend in the first place?
If he didn’t know the rules of honor and respect after 3 marriages, why would he change now? It wasn’t a mistake like, “Oh, I forgot to tell you I borrowed your car”, this was outright deception. And his crying, “I was abused” doesn’t fly either. He had two previous marriages to figure out the rules.
I feel bad that Sunny’s stuck in the middle, but if I were her (Sandra) I’d wash my hands of the whole clan. Call me heartless, that’s fine, but Jesse’s the one who truly deserves that label and if he has to deal with the suffering he’s caused, well… he made the bed, didn’t he?
I’m convinced he’s just a manipulative jerk who will do or say anything to get his way.
I thought Bullock had enough sense to see that, too.
Guess not.
Why be surprised? She married him in the first place, I’m assuming a 30 something yr old woman knew a little about him before she did, and then stayed w/ him for yrs. I don’t think all of the events that occurred were a big surprise to her like everyone seems to believe. Plus, while she’s a very enjoyable actress, why does everyone assume she’s this goody goody? The media has made her out like this Madonna (not the singer) figure. Why? Because she got cheated on? That’s just dumb. Who knows what she’s really like?
She’ll never take him back. I think she can forgive/overlook the cheating in time, but she can’t erase the white racist/Nazi stuff. There is NO WAY she could ever satisfactorily explain to Louis when he is older why she has a man like that living in their home. So, no, I don’t see her ever taking him back.
I am 100% ok with her having him in her life so that she can maintain a relationship with Sunny. After all, the kid has had enough turmoil in her short life and kids (well, people in general) can take all the love and supportive guidance they can get.
That being said, she should never…EVER…bang him again. His own issues notwithstanding, there is a difference between forgiveness and being a doormat. He can NEVER un-do the damage he did by putting her health at risk with his unprotected infidelity. That makes it a million times worse, and shows that his issues/skeeziness completely overwhelm his ability to respect her as a person and her right to protect her body. I could see getting past some cheating, but there is no getting past the fact that he risked (or maybe even succeeded in) infecting her with STI’s and HIV. It’s like the difference between having an argument/saying something terrible and actually pointing a 6-shooter with one round in it at her, spinning it, and firing.
Bellaluna, I <3 you. You are what is right with the world.
Good for you! It is said that people regularly avoid pain more readily than they pursue happiness. The knowledge of certain discomfort (usually temporary) that will come with that break-up, divorce, resignation, etc is often sufficient to keep people in crappy situations. I am SO GLAD that you did not misguidedly sacrifice your sense of self and your rights to health (both physical and emotional) out of some abstract sense of obligation. You made the best of a bad situation, and your future (and that of your kids) will be better for it.
She will never have sex with him again. I just can’t believe this BS story. Sorry Kaiser
All he did was have sex with other women. Maybe she didn’t mind…open your minds a bit…
well said, Kaiser. me too.
Why in heavens she would do this? She is a beautiful successful woman in her own right..Cougar or not, she can have any man in the world who would adorn her, love her and the baby just the same.
I attribute a lot this right down to self-confidence. When it seems a lot of these women have it all, when they go home, take off the Jimmy Choo’s, Fendi/Prada and make-up, they have no self fullfillment. Why go through all of that trouble to get divorced and then get right back together again?
Was it for Baby Louie?…The adoption is not completely final I do not think and her allowing this man back into her life, when this situation could have cost her the Oscar and so much more…is just not worth the risk Ms. Bullock…”No Mam”!
Whoa, that is a totally serious looking weapon that Sandra Bullack is wielding and, to quote my grandma “has some serious bi@tch face” going on.
I think she is taking him back because she is gay and the marriage was a sham to help her adopt a child. She probably wants to adopt another one and being married helps greatly with adopting plus i think she legitimately loves Jesses kids. Just my opinion =)
They had an agreement and maybe he knows too much about her.
Nothing has come out about her private life, so he has taken all the fault.
If Sandy was off making movies most of the year, who was raising Sunny?
Jesse- You are not the most hated man in America anymore!
I don’t think I’d automatically chuck in my marriage over an infidelity, especially if he fessed up and told me why. I dont think it makes you more staunch or empowered to flick a person for something that trivial. They obviously have deeper feelings for each other and if they can overcome this shit, who are we to judge? Being an adult is about dealing with all the dirty, hidden shiz that goes on between two people and sucking it up for the sake of others sometimes. It would be different if SB was at this guys mercy financially or legally, but she’s obviously not.
It’s too hard in this world finding people you can tolerate 24-7, let alone have a decent, reciprocal relationship with for something like sex to eff it all up. And honestly, if you’re away from someone a lot, be an adult and accept the fact that people like to have sex and if you’re not there, it might happen with someone else. End of the world? The ultimate betrayal? Come on, if you’ve ever thought about it yourself, you’re just as guilty, so let’s climb down.
If people didn’t insist on childish things like perfect monogamy-as-dealbreaker-scenarios, we might be a little further along the road from destructive judeo-christian hypocrisy than we are now.
I support anyone’s attempt to reconstruct an understanding (sans violence or abuse), especially if your dependents will benefit. If you decide to have kids, it’s about them, not you.
All those tattoos and muscles really make girls stupid eh?
This can’t be true.
picopink – I give that book to female friends of mine who keep making the same mistakes over and over. It’s an excellent book. Changed me many years ago and I am a better person for it.
Ladies, don’t be a Wendy. Avoid Peter Pan in his many guises.
If she gets back in a relationship with him, I’ll never watch another of her movies. That said, since they live and work in such close proximity, they could be shagging every night and no one would know about it anyway. If she does let him back into her life, she’s teaching those kids that you can do whatever you want to hurt your loved one and get away with it, which is disgusting. How about teaching them that you have limits, boundaries, morals, and strength instead?
It’s their life. You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. Judge yourself before judging others. Sandra is a very smart woman. I’m sure whatever decision will be right for her.
Kelly, he didn’t just have some fling that could possibly be worked out in couples therapy. Dude. For realz. He repeatedly cheated, banged a nazi, and pranced around in the paraphernalia. Like, eeuw okay? Yikes.
I love Sandy and just want her to be honestly happy. Wish her all the very best, whatever she decides.
Gail: I get that, but you know, it’s their shit, guys bang nasty hos all the time and hell, I’ve slept with guys Im not proud of either. We probably all have. Doesn’t make me or this guy Satan, or incapable of a decent relationship, it just makes him dumb.
Im also convinced we don’t have the full story on Miss B either. Can any of us say that we wouldn’t succumb, given her undoubted opportunities? She was smart and kept her mouth zipped, because, and Im just guessing here, but Im 100% certain that nobody’s 100% pure as the snow in this nasty little story.
As far as the Nazi stuff goes, I seriously doubt that silly cracker ho can even spell national socialist, let alone tell you what one really was. Having known biker arseholes like this, I can tell you that very few of them are dedicated to anything apart from beer, meth and inanimate objects; if they look or sound racist, it’s because they think they’re pissing you off. All I saw in those pics was just juvenile, wannabe rebel bullshit, not erm, you know, organized, motivated hatred. I dont really see them as a threat to the fabric of society; they’re too lazy and stupid.
I also really think the pics of JJ with the Nazi hat etc was more of a dumb joke than anything, but I seem to be in the minority.
Im just saying if they can work it out, it’s not because one’s holding a gun to the other’s head. So it could be ok.
She always struck me as a woman with no substance…and to use the children as an excuse to take this the jerk back….she could have had a relationship with the kids without having to debase herself again.
I take offense at that hatred directed at bikers. I was raised by one, thank you. I don’t know who you were hanging out with, but I knew good, hardworking people who took the time to be sweet to a little girl when they didn’t have to. And I didn’t say that anyone was pure as snow or whatever the hell. I said he slept around and played with nazi shit. Again, EEUW. I do not care what his intent was and I’m not a’feared for the fabric of blah blah blah, that kind of shit is simply NOT FUNNY OKAY? How the hell is she going to explain being with this fuckwit tosser in the first place to little Louis, much less if she took him back?
You’re right, it’s their shit. I am also right, it’s not just some infidelity.
Yeah, Kelly, I have to disagree. I am far from the “Judeo-Christian ideal”–I’m not saying that anyone who thinks about infidelity should consider him/herself a failure, nor do I think that every instance of infidelity is an automatic deal breaker. I am saying that there is definitely a difference between cheating and cheating repeatedly without protection and endangering your partner’s health.
Also, your point about tolerating someone 24/7 suggests that you advocate turning a blind eye to infidelity when your partner seems pretty cool in other ways. If it’s cool with you, fine, but lots of people don’t want to live that way. Also, if you’re cool with it, it’s not really cheating: it’s called an open relationship, and there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m not saying it’s wrong to have an “untraditional” relationship. I’m saying it’s wrong to screw around on your partner and not wrap it to boot.
I pray this isn’t true, so I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt…if it IS, my respect for her will disappear. She is SO much BETTER than this.