Christina Aguilera seems like someone who wouldn’t take crap from anyone, if you ask me. She has a history of violence in her childhood, but somehow I just can’t see anyone pushing her around as an adult. She’s aware of the cycle of violence, and wanted to be sure it wouldn’t continue with her new husband.
Aguilera grew up witnessing her now-estranged father Fausto emotionally and physically abusing her mother Shelly – and she was determined not to subject her children to the same heartache.
She tells Us Weekly magazine, “We had many conversations before, and I really ensured that I put myself in the position to marry someone who was not going to repeat the cycle of abuse with my child and what I had endured as a child.
“I knew that my husband is not the type to have violent tendencies, and he would never hurt me.”
This isn’t the first time that Christina has talked about her violent past, saying “People don’t know domestic abuse unless they’re in it. It’s not only physical abuse, but there’s damage inside – mental abuse. It’s a sad thing to go through and watch. They play with your mind and make you feel bad about yourself.”
It is so true that abuse is as much about the mind as it is about physical or verbal abuse, and it can be harder to leave than any person who hasn’t been in that situation an understand. While it might appear that Christina is in the position of power in her relationship (she has the most money, and a successful career) it isn’t just as simple as leaving. An abusive partner holds the emotional power despite these things.
In the same interview that Christina talked about her relationship with Bratman, she also talked about how she lost her pregnancy weight. Her regime involved 90-minute, 5-day-a-week workouts with a trainer, and no white bread.
Note by Celebitchy: Why does it seem like Aguilera brings up this subject every 3-4 months? Maybe interviewers constantly ask her about it, and it must have been tough to live through. You want to give her the benefit of the doubt where this difficult subject is involved, but seeing yet another story about it makes me wonder.
Christina Aguilera and Jordan Bratman are shown outside their NY hotel on 5/14/08 and at a Christian Dior Cruise show on 5/12/08, thanks to WENN.
I think it is very brave of Christina Aguilera to talk about it in such a public way and I admire her for being carefully and knowing what is good for her and that she (like any other person, especially the ones who have witnessed and experienced domestic violent) deserves to be treated very well.
The cycle of violence in some ones life might often enough tend to continue because he/she may feel that they do not deserve better so they get involved with damaging partners. This is also due to them being vulnerable emotionally and physically and so some people/partners might take advantage of that and use it to satisfy their own controlling egotistic ways.
However, people who have experienced domestic violence especially as children tend to handle their past differently such they are left, as I said before, mentally and physically vulnerable or that experience has made them stronger and would make sure that this would never be repeated in their relationship (like Christina Aguilera) or some would themselves turn violent due to their emotional demons.
The way Christina Aguilera handled her past with her present, is very sensible and I really hope she has a happy and very loved marriage. She also supports charities that are against domestic violents, so she is doing good work.
I’ve always wondered why a girl of Christina’s popularity and beauty would even get involved with a guy who wasn’t a rock star or some “model” type. Let’s face it… her hubby isn’t beautiful but now I understand the relationship and I give kudos to Christina for her intelligence, practical nature, and common sense. Some people with background’s similar to hers would merely turn destructive on themselves or present trashy behaviors to the public (hello Lindsay Lohan, Britney, Madonna, etc.), but she has chosen to take control of her life and not wallow in her past as an excuse for ridiculous behavior. Good for her.
I can actually relate to her now – I have made similar choices in my life and after 18 years of marriage… am happiest for it. I hope her happiness continues to endure as well.
I agree with Understand It Now: she has made a rock solid choice by marrying someone with values, not $ Value or Oscar value. It seems like a real relationship that has a chance of lasting the distance. Good luck to her.
It sounds like it’s something that is always at the forefront of her mind and that’s why it gets mentioned so often.
Bratman is in the music industry and is a producer. A very successful one. He actually has a great deal of money in his own right. Have you looked at her rings. (they are gorgeous)
Maybe she brings up the abuse so often to remind those going through it that it can happen to anyone. Using her celebrity to make people aware of the damage and danger of abuse. Trying to better the world in a small way.
Just a thought.
Ditto snappyfish
ditto snappyfish and bodhi. christina knows there are a lot of little girls out there who listen to her music who are in the same situation she was in. she’s talking survival to them. that they too can get through it and have a healthy loving relationship. kudos to her.
I don’t see anything suspicious about her repeating the story about her abusive parent in the media, CB. It’s good if she doesn’t avoid the subject with journalists. It doesn’t have to be brushed under the carpet just because we know about this already.
All the best for her marriage and child’s future.
X-tina marry a rock star or a MODEL?? Are you kidding me??? You think she would let somebody else have any attention? 😆 😆 😆
“Some people with background’s similar to hers would merely turn destructive on themselves or present trashy behaviors to the public”
lol, no, she never did anything like that! 😆 😆 😆 Didn’t even put out an album called ‘Dirty’ …
And marrying Pudgy McBeardo solved that because…
😆 at vdantev
(reportedly, at their wedding reception, he got up to speak, and ended it with, “… and thank god I have a big dick”.) heh, no kiddn!
I just wish she would somehow manage to match her foundation more closely. Joking. I think it’s one of the most important situations we can talk about – violence against women. My mom was beaten and my step mother was killed by her husband (not my dad). This issue gets a blip every now and then on the news but then it just fades away until the next wife/girl friend dies at the hands of the man she thinks loves her. Makes me mad that more isn’t done for these women. I live in BC and our provincial government is busy closing women’s shelters and other services for women all the while spending billions on the olympic games in 2010, it’s sickening.
So this is why she puts so much heart and soul in her music. She knocks me out when she sings. Ask yourself, where does all that come from? Our greatest artists were and are often in a lot of pain. It is one ingrediant that goes to make up a talent. It is an awful price to pay, and someone like Christina gets to triumph over it and that should happen to everyone who has the problem. I wish her all the best, one reason is because when she performs she gives me all her best.