Oddly enough, Christina Aguilera has given an exclusive statement to Redbook about how she is doing post-split. Given Radar’s wonky reporting on her situation, you’d think that maybe Christina would have taken some time out to either defend or criticize her estranged husband, or perhaps clarify whether or not she regularly trolled for girly strange, but NO. Instead, we get Xtina: Emotional victim. By the way, these photos are from October 14, a few days after the alleged “split lip” incident – Christina looks fine, right?
Christina Aguilera, on coping with the split: “It’s not easy, and there have been a lot of tears and sadness,” she said.
“It’s impossible to redefine yourself and your life overnight. Thankfully, I have my mom and a small group of close friends who are there for me 24/7 and whom I can trust and depend on. On days when it feels impossible to even get out of bed, much less function as a mother, their support and encouragement have kept me moving forward.”
[From Redbook]
Now, maybe Xtina really is distraught. Maybe she’s really going through a hard time and I should just be quiet. But this whole thing reads to me like Christina knows the tabloid stories aren’t making her look like a “victim” so she just thought she’d emphasize it. I also think the stories are probably true – that she was having affairs during her marriage, and that she’s now attached to Sam Ronson’s Vadge of Doom.
Header pic courtesy of WENN.
Kaiser, since I have read your posts on Domestic Violence in other topics I trust that you agree that IF there was any violence in the home it doesn’t matter whether or not Xtina was cheating, and she would have no reason to defend him.
I am reserving judgment until more info comes out.
Until we find out any specifics, I am going to say this: There have been MILLIONS of women who have gotten a divorce, had to get out of bed and be amazing mothers to more than just 1 child. MILLIONS. Women with wayyyy less money, no nannies, no assistants, no personal chef’s ect. Women with no one to help them. Women whose husbands took everything but the kids, and ran off with the babysitter. So, really, I have no sympathy for her. She has everything in the world, and I don’t want to hear her b*tch*ng. She is NOT the definition of a single mom. And until I hear confirmation otherwise, she is NOT a victim.
LOL No body really pays her much attention. I mean she is talented but there is something off about her that makes her no media darling. I hardly doubt anyone really cares why her marriage fell apart and no one actually thinks the sweet looking guy she married, who I would be all over in a heartbeat if I ever meet him, did anything to sully the relationship.
I do understand her sadness at being divorced. I wouldn’t want it and I wouldn’t want it with a child so young. I wouldn’t wanna be a single mom period.
Hmmmmm. My take: regardless of whether she was running around with randoms and regardless of whether she “fell down” and messed up her face and regardless of whether she blames him for the tepid reception her last album received and regardless of whether the “spark” died and they woke up just buddies……..it’s STILL hard to go through a breakup, and when it’s the father of your baby, that much harder. So she’s probably telling the truth, whether it feels like spin or not…..even if she was the one that wanted this, makes sense she’ll have days when jumping out of bed and playing mom feel pretty hard.
but the sam ronson thing? sheesh……show me the good that can come from that……
Notice when she mentioned that there have been a lot of tears and sadness she wasn’t making a direct reference to herself. Her husband probably still doesn’t know what hit him and as he doesn’t merit tabloid coverage we’ll probably never know how he’s coping.
min – Yeah, I think the “split lip” story is bullshit. I’m almost positive that Jordan isn’t a wife-beater, but as you said, if Christina was abused, there is no justification.
I think she’s just trying to look like the victim because she was fucking around, though.
and that she’s now attached to Sam Ronson’s Vadge of Doom ~ HAHAHAHAHAHA Kaiser! Still laughing… thanks for being hysterical!!!
@samigirl … DAMN RIGHT .
She is a total hack!
I agree that she should take responsibility for whatever she might have done in her marriage. But that’s separate from her duties as a mother. I think we should support her because being divorced and raising a child by yourself is hard no matter how much you earn. Calling her a cheater and a b_tch only promotes a double standard towards women.
Oh come on. None of us know what her husband is like. I’m reserving judgment until the whole story comes out.
This just confirms for me that the “abuse” story is fake. That and the pics. I hope Jordan sues her for slander if he can. He should not have to live with that.
@Azreen: nothing is done yet. Maybe she won’t get custody. And divorce doesn’t mean the kid will never see dad again or that he won’t be involved. I don’t think there is a double standard anywhere. We call guys cheaters and douches for being bad husbands all the time. And I mean, all the time.
Yeah, she’s a “victim” – a fashion victim!
Seriously, I don’t mean to make light of domestic violence, which is a deadly serious issue and affects women of all socioeconomic levels. In this case, nobody knows what happened. I agree with @mlm – reserving judgment. With Rihanna, there was no doubt whatsoever.
I agree that she was likely cheating. Her husband seemed like a nice, regular guy and if she’d wanted the quiet life of a wife and a mother, she could have had it.
Seems to be a new “fad” via Radar-female celebs are now claiming to be victims of abuse when they split from their partners. I think it’s outrageous and an insult to those male and female who have been abused.
Victim or not divorce sucks, whether you want one or not and it will suck the life out of everyone, cad and victim both, so the quote is understandable.
@ 2. Samigirl … chef’s ??? LOL 😛
is it just me? or does she look just like Snooki?
This allusion to abuse seems fishy to me.
If she was abused why would she agree to share joint custody of her son with her alleged abuser? Wouldn’t the abuse have been something she discussed with her lawyer and use as leverage for insisting on sole custody when she filed for divorce?
Also, the rest of her interview with Redbook was interesting:
” When asked about the details, rumors (of infidelity on both sides), and whether she and Jordan had tried couples therapy to resolve their issues, Christina answered, “Out of respect for my husband, I prefer to keep the specifics private. Right now, I’m just trying to figure out how to make it through each day.”
There’s more to this story than we know right now and I feel as though there’s going to be a lot of PR spin from Christina’s people to combat the ‘she’s a cheating lesbian’ rumors.
@kelley, Sorry, that pesky apostrophe has a tendency to sneak in random places 🙂
How is she making herself out to be the victim? She said she’s sad about the break up of her marriage. She probably is. They’ve been together nearly 7 years. I think it’s ridiculous people are making her out to be the villain in this marriage without acknowledging that it takes two to make or break a relationship.
Why is no one upset with Jordan over trashing Christina in Radar? Those stories making her out to be a whore and lesbian most likely came from his camp. Because I seriously doubt Christina leaked those stories about herself.
I hate there are stories like this being printed about both of them. They have a kid. One day he’ll be able to Google his parent’s divorce.
Kaiser thanks for the clarification. I am still reserving judgement but I do think some of the commentators should educate themselves on Domestic Violence. I will say again even if she was cheating that doesn’t mean he wasn’t violent. I am not accusing her husband per se but since I don’t know what happened I am not willing to blame either party yet.
Not to make light of domestic violence in anyway, and I truly hope she didn’t experience that, but god, she wears so much makeup that any wounds she had would be totally hidden by it. I think she uses one of those grout tools to put it on in the morning.
I do think she gets bitter about not getting the media attention like other pop stars. Remember when she and britney kissed madonna at the vma’s and only brit got the press for it? She even mentioned how she didn’t get any attention for it in interviews following the whole thing.
@ Xx: exactly. She does not imply any abuse – she’s talking about heartbreak and the massive shift of identity that occurs when you divorce. I find her comments honest and restrained. Moreover, her request for joint custody makes her seem like a reasonable person. Given that her husband works I also understand her unwillingness to pay spousal support. Seems like she’s handling her legal matters with maturity, and for that I congratulate her. I will not speculate on their marriage because I know all too well that is a foolish and cruel guessing game.
did i miss something? when did she imply domestic violence?
I don’t care either way. Her media manipulation is just the same (and as transparent) as Angelina Jolie’s, Jennifer Aniston’s, and Sandra Bullock’s. They’re all trying to manage the discourse, which I see as mostly benign, if not a little inane. This is how they live their lives. Do I weep for Christina Aguilera’s divorce? No, because millions of people are divorced and find a way to move on, positively. And maybe she will, too. I just don’t hold her at fault for doing this interview – she’s just doing what they all do, trying to manage what’s being said about her and by whom. “Meh.”
Umm… why do we all think her husband is so nice? just because he looks goofy and snagged a hot wife? please remember that he used to hang with Dallas Austin and his douchey gang until they got married…
No matter how much money of people working for you a break up is still hard, sure you have enough money but but your emotions are all over the place, i hate when people are like “oh try being broke blah blah blah” she worked hard for her money and deserves it it isn’t like she won the lottery and she probably is having a rough time.
p.s in the top pic her bottom lip looks a bit puffy in the middle, like it’s been split. And like somebody said in a previous post in a song “you lost me” from her last album she says “you couldn’t keep your hands to yourself”.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_QpdhEcmBo&ob=av2n
I think it’s all BS for publicity. She’s finally getting talked about again and no one has talked about her since she got married.
Also, lol at the woman in blue in the background in the first picture.
From what I can tell, so FAR, is that she likely got bored with stability and wants some excitement. It’s not logical that IF he were an abuser, that she would share joint custody. She would have to be insane. I am more ssad for her SON who will have to likely see his mother in pornographic posing with other women and will have to adjust to Mommy being away from Daddy and no longer having both to run to if he feels sad or hurts his knee.
Lastly, if her husband is a record exec, isn’t this kind of like picking a fight with someone who can make your career difficult, all the moreso since he is the one with the business connections?
“Seems to be a new “fad” via Radar-female celebs are now claiming to be victims of abuse when they split from their partners. I think it’s outrageous and an insult to those male and female who have been abused. ”
So I’ve noticed. Jessica did float abuse rumors and I am so enraged by that. My grandmother was abused and she divorced. These female celebs get more and more disgusting.
Pre-separation, she always sang hubby’s praises, how he had her back and to me in the pics he always looked so protective of her. Her son is lucky that her genes at least somewhat diluted her husband’s in terms of appearance.
I did not hear her say that she was a victim, the blogs are the ones saying that. Stop putting words in her mouth to try and make her look bad. She is handling this with grace and dignity, she is not accusing Jordan of anything! It is not our business and to speculate is just wrong. Give the girl a break she is going through a hard time without everyone jumping in with accusations that are completely unfounded!
Well, none of us knows what was happening in her marriage. In MY PERSONAL experience though, when I left my emotionally abusive husband, and had to share a tiny bedroom with my then 2 1/2 year old son, and we had nothing, I still felt nothing but RELIEF to be away from him.
But, to each his own.
waaaa waaaaa waaaaaa. It’s always difficult for a skeeze to come across as a victim.
Vadge of Doom!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
I believe any alleged lip injury was the unforch result of drunken partying. I blame everything on drunken partying. In fact, wish I was drunk and partying right now. (sigh)
Oh boo-hoo! This is nothing more than an “uh-oh, I need some sympathetic PR” I can’t believe so many of you are buying this pile- Christina is no shrinking violet, if she’d been abused, she would have bailed on her husband long ago, and had her lawyers figure out how to keep him from getting anywhere near her son- I think it’s pathetic that she’s allowing stories like this to be leaked.
@Oi
Again, when did she say that jordan abused her?? Oh that’s right she never did but let’s just keep that crap rolling and suggest he sue her for slander. Again slander for what???
So your attacking her for something she did not say or imply. That is just scary!
please stop mentioning sam ronson’s vadge, as it makes me queasy, and i am a lesbian and do not want to feel queasy at the mention of vadge. thx.
I never pay attention to what anyone says about the breakup of their marriage unless they’re a friend or relative, or unless they say VERY specific things, for the following reasons: People lie when they’re at fault – beating, cheating, etc.. People lie when they’re too embarrassed to say the truth or they don’t want their kids to hear anything negative about the ex-spouse; i.e. they’re taking the high road.
In other words, no one outside the marriage is entitled to an autopsy report on the death of a marriage, so however they want to address it if they address it at all is fine with me. It is truly nobody’s business except the spouses and kids if applicable.
oh is this the celebrity pumpkin patch?
this is probably the most attention the media has paid christina in a long time. she’s trying to extend it for as long as she can.
I’ve got 3 things to say:
First, no one, and I mean no one, knows what goes on in a marriage behind closed doors except for the 2 people involved. Yes, Bratman doesn’t “look like a wife-beater” but really, who does? You’d be surprised at all the “respectable” looking men who are wife beaters. And you’d be surprised at all the beautiful & smart women who fall victim to it. I’m reserving judgment on the DV issue until there is more, but if he did beat her, he can go eff himself.
Second, I think she is telling the truth, regardless of how much money & help she has or who was “at fault” in the split, a divorce is hard. No one marries thinking they will divorce & when it happens you can’t help feeling like you “failed” and sad about what went wrong, etc. So, I’m cutting her slack on that.
Third, WTF was she thinking wearing those sweats? She knows she will probably be photographed and she just looks awful!
I am not judging any of them either way, or suggesting anything because I haven’t got a clue about any of it. But I will say that the general idea that because someone appears quiet, nice and unassuming automatically means that they are incapable or unlikely to abuse is not necessarily true.
I know a couple men who were that way generally, but they had serious anger issues that they took out on their wives/girlfriends behind closed doors. NOT saying that this is the case with Xtina’s husband however.
There’s a lot about domestic violence we are yet to understand.
(BTW, this isn’t the same Mia who commented earlier.)
@samigirl: As the daughter of a single mother who had nothing and had to work crazy hours a week to keep a roof over our heads…I have to disagree with you. Being a good mother is a difficult task regardless of what your position in life is – regardless, even, of whether there’s a father around. It’s the role, the relationship with your child, that determines it.
Is she a rich woman? Undeniably. Does the money make all problems and pains of single motherhood go away? Financial woes, sure, but emotional pain over a family torn apart? Never.
I think your comment really lacked compassion – that she has no right to be upset that she’s going through a divorce because she’s rich! And that she can’t even call herself a single mother?? That’s…kind of ignorant, don’t you think?
@heathen: I ditto your first two points.
@Crash2G02 — what, you actually like those sweats? 🙂
UGGGHHHH………. Wouldnt touch Ronson’s vadge of doom with anything but clorox.. ewwwwwwwwww….
Well, anyway no matter what the story, once again, I feel sorry for the kid.
Some people will use any excuse to slam her because they simply don’t like her. It is beyond ridiculous to criticize her for a story that Radar ran about a trip to the hospital and to try to conflate that with her restrained statement about the demise of her marriage. She has been dogged in the press since the story of her marriage broke and she has remained above it all. She has the money and the connections and if she wanted to make him the bad guy (like Courtney Cox, did), she could have. It’s funny, this story is immediately dismissed but every stupid story that portrays her negatively is to be believed. mmkay.
i just cant get over how cute that kid is.
I feel for her and any other couple going through a divorce no matter what the cause.
You don’t get married thinking it’s temporary. That’s called dating. Marriage is for life-or at least that’s what you believe when you get married. Whether the “spark” died and you’re better off as friends, or there was cheating it’s not an easy thing to go through. And as a child of divorced parents, no matter how much money you are raised with, it’s is extremely difficult being shuffled back and forth between parents.
Lay off the attacks.
There is always two sides to the story, regardless of who is the one speaking out. This is what they are choosing, so if it is hard, she better try harder to get a grip so that little boy doesn’t suffer. I don’t feel sorry for anyone but the kid.
whatever she does, she needs to get rid of those tragic extensions. damn, they look freezer-burned
her son has the father’s chin. how, uh…fortunate. 🙁
Why are you all saying she’s doing this (nothing really since she isn’t the one spreading rumours) for atention?
The only time XTina wants attention is when she is promoting an album and the only thing she wants the attention to be on is the album.
She usually takes 4 years between an album and you never hear of her in that time because she is a private person, if she wanted attention she would be running her mouth of too magazines spilling the dirt… she is not.
She also said that she isn’t talking about the split “out of respect for my husband”.
Are the legs of celebrity children made of flour?
I think we all need to stop calling Christina’s penchant for bringing home random chicks “cheating” because by all accounts that I have seen, there was an agreement about this between Christina and Jordan; and it is well know that they had some kind of open marriage arrangement. It’s not cheating if it’s an open marriage. And a lot of people do have open marriages, so it’s not like some kind of deviant strange concept. If Jordan felt jealous or sad about it, it’s his problem for not bringing that up with Christina. It doesn’t make her a bad person.
I haven’t heard anything about a spit lip story, but I call BS and agree with most of the comments. Seems a bit fast to be doing interviews about her divorce, jeez..moving on..
Waaaaaaah the gajillionaire with the army of nannies, cleaners, stylists and so on is alone. Boo boo hoo!
Time to work on those saddlebags, Snooki lite.
What happened to her face? Even with her make-up on, she looks SO different. Her nose is pudgier…honestly, does anyone else notice how DIFFERENT she looks??
Interesting how quickly Christina got her skanky ass out there to clarify that there was NO domestic violence; I bet her husband “encouraged” her honesty via a nice letter from his attorney. I don’t know why there were so many posters today who were so quick to insist she was a battered woman- it was kind of insulting and pathetic actually.
She should forego makeup at all times. It is a VAST improvement. That’s the only positive thing I can think of to say.
I do find it suspect that the abuse insinuations leak after she’s being branded a cheater and Sam Ronson diddler.
Her lip does actually look puffy…. even for her.
LOL @ bizzy. And I hope you are referring to Bizzy from the Canada TV classic “Ready or Not.”
I agree that nowhere did she say he was abusive. I’m sure neither of them are perfect, and Christina is just trying to spin this into some good press, like any celebrity with a failed album would do.
Aw her little boy is so cute. Love his hair.
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