Usher should just quit talking to the press. The 29 year-old singer often makes defensive, shrill statements about his misunderstood personal life that make him seem unbalanced, if not guilty of the very accusations he’s rallying against. In an interview with Vibe, he says he regrets some of the things he’s done in the public eye, including issuing that stupid “open letter” where he wrote in all caps that “I AM NOT BEING LED” by his new wife, Tameka Foster.
When talking about the criticism of his marriage, he went off on a rant. She seemed to claim that women are lesbians because there aren’t enough men to go around, particularly in the black community:
“Am I so much of a bad guy because I decided to get married? Am I so much of a bad guy [because once I got in the situation], I decided to stand for something, build a foundation, and think about my future?” he asked. “As a man, you would respect me for not turning my back on it. … It can never be bad to have a foundation as a man — a black man — in a time when women are dying for men. Women have started to become lovers of each other as a result of not having enough men. Are you not studying the stories? Wake up! Black love is a good thing.”
Maybe he meant that there are some women who are primarily straight who decide to turn to their girlfriends or something for lack of men. Surely he’s not saying that lesbianism is a result of a scarcity of opposite sex mates. Either way, it’s a stupid thing to say and Usher sounds like a fool. Look for an obnoxious and screeching statement from Usher claiming his statement was taken out of context, and that the journalist and the entire Internet is out to get him.
One more thing I got out of this is that he’s saying he deserves credit for sticking with Tameka and what he presumes to be his child. He said in an interview published last week that “It’s a conscious decision every day to love the person you’re with.” Usually when you’re happily married, especially in the beginning, you talk about how elated you are and how lucky you feel to be with that person, not how you should be applauded for even marrying them and sticking around. Usher did praise Tameka in the Vibe interview, though. He said “The swagger I possess now definitely comes from my wife. And my son completes me. He changes my perspective on what life is, and what matters.”
Usher said that Tameka is outspoken and that “If something doesn’t look right or she feels like it could look better, she’ll say something.” Unfortunately she can’t censor the idiotic things he says to the press, although maybe she also has 19th century notions of same sex relationships.
Usher is shown performing on Good Morning America on 5/30/08, thanks to WENN.
Just concentrate on making more derivative non-threatening hip-hop for the white kids to groove to and leave the real-life sociological issues to the adults.
USHER is a complete IDIOT ! Where did he pull that info out of?? HIS ASS !! Lesbians are lesbians because that is how they were born and love women. DUH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean there are women who decide to be with women later on in life but I am quite sure it has nothing to do with a man. You read any article and they say two women being together have the best relationships because they are so compatible. It sounds like Usher is a complete moron. He is so foolish and stupid. Not to mention UGLY as hell.. lol.. and his wife looks like a circus freak.
What a tool!! Although if he’s using himself as an example of what’s available, you could hardly blame some women for taking the sapphic route.
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Maybe women are more prone to becoming lesbians BECAUSE of men like Usher, lol. He makes lesbians such as myself glad we are the way we are. How stupid and cocky can some people be.
No Usher, lesbians are getting together because they are lesbians. It has nothing to do with a shortage of men. If it has anything to do with men, it’s due to the fact that men like Usher are out there making ridiculous statements on things that they obviously know nothing about.
I hate Usher. He’s so unnatractive with his beady little eyes, and his music sucks.
usher’s last album was full of hot club tracks. his latest album (made while in a relationship with tameka) is a little lame. he sounds really unhappy in all of his statements. his theory on lesbians is off, although he is right about the lack of good, committed men. marriage is a good and commendable thing, but i think that he got married to the wrong person. anyone who causes so much strife between you and your family probably isn’t the best partner one could choose in life. i think they’ll get divorced eventually, and she’ll take him to the cleaners in the divorce settlement.
Theres a shortage of men because Usher married one. OW! see what I did there?
HA!! seVen, you are my new hero. lol
What a jackass. But we all knew that before he made this particular comment. And on a far more important note, what’s up with his hairline?
He maybe didn’t think about what he said (or has been saying) before he said it aloud but he’s right about a few things. The fact he married a black woman (most black men in the business don’t,is commendable), is being a father other than in photo ops & is acknowledging there may be a problem in relationships (as screwy as his lesbian comment was- there are a few women that have chosen to experiment with women because of their lack of good experience with men- not all lesbians though- minus 1 point for generalizing)is slightly on the mark. There are way too many other things to do than talk about how much a tool Usher is…
Yes, I am a lesbian because there aren’t enough men. Exactly. Lol. He is such a loser.
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So gays get together because there aren’t enough women? See how stupid that sounds? Lesbians do not get together because there aren’t enough men, they get together because they are biologically inclined to do so, and heck with a man like you going around spouting nonsense they’re even more inclined! 😯
I would think that since Usher is gay, he would know that availability isn’t what the defining factor is. Moron.
Thank God there are people out there that do think Usher is ugly. The media made he out to be this sex icon, were in reality he is this completely UGLY guy with unattractive face features with just an OK body going for him. Also, he is a SH*THEAD who should shut his mouth.
So what Usher is saying that years of scienticfic research showing that being gay is in your DNA is wrong and it’s all because there are less men in the world? Gee usher, you’re SUCH a genius.*sarcasm* 🙄
What a dillweed.
He probably is talking ina cultural/psychological sense akin to what he said in the sentences before that one. Like a “real” man who would treat women the way they wanted or needed to be treated, such that they wouldnt have to rely on a woman to know how to do it right. Thats my translation of it, anyway.
Okay, seVen…
greatest comment on a post ever..
he’s an idiot — didnt he used to date that chick from TLC (chili??) and say that he was a addicted to sex and it drove her away? So has she found comfort in the arms of T-Boz?
He seems incredibly narcassistic and it wouldnt surprise me if he thought that women would turn straight if they could only be with him…he seems that stupid…
I hate when people say things I think it just makes them sound so stupid when they speak … uh..such a completely ridiculous remark..
I’d like to know why everyone gets so upset when it is even suggested in any context that lesbianism/homosexuality is anything but a trait that you are born with. There has been quite a few that have said that there have been events and outside stimula that have influenced there choices and that originally it was not something that they would have been interested in. Now don’t go bashing me just because I ask this question. I am asking in a sincere quest to understand.
No takers?
wondering-
I think that if it is as you explained, a “choice”, one would be considered a bisexual rather than gay or lesbian. When you hear stories from someone who as a young child knew they had romantic feelings or were drawn to someone of the same sex, (when all you hear as a child is of male-female couples) I think it is pretty clear that there isn’t a lot of choice involved. Kids and teens want to be like everybody else-why would they choose something that would open them up to ridicule and possible persecution if it wasn’t something that was just them.
I don’t know if that helps-but that is kind of the way I see it.
Maybe choice is the wrong word. I’m saying that there exists the possibility that in some instances there may be outside influences on some peoples ultimate sexuality. And even that word “ultimate” is misleading because in said people those “choices” tend to be somewhat fluid. I just think we should take a more honest look at the whole situation and not simply rule a dissenting explanation out matter-of-factly just because it is not the accepted answer. In some people it may well be a part of you that you are born with. In others???????
not a fan anymore!!!! this guy is clueless and a moron
seVen, genius. Yeah, his ‘wife’ looks like a big tranny. This guy is getting nuttier by the week!
duhhhh!! wat a nonsense statement… lesbians get together because that is their nature, it has nothing t do with the shortage number of men… 😆
it’s actually a gender discrimination. it’s not his business by the way..HE SHOULD BE FOCUSING in making great songs not just telling nonsense stuff to the press…
Usher seems anti lesbianism in that quote, and that make him suspect, because as we all know…
We straight men like a little girl on girl action.
Wasn’t Usher going to get a DNA test orginally? I haven’t seen any pictures of his child but if it is a boy there is no way of telling who the father is in the pictures most likely. His wife takes up for all of the DNA in his son, causing no one to see any resemblance of Usher or the other guy.
I believe that Usher saying these things because he is trying to take the focus off of his marriage and his relationship with his mother. Atleast it is working just a little.
This marriage has messed him up, seriously. His ‘Confessions’ cd was pretty amazing and now his new cd is just lame. There are some good tracks on it but other than that it is a waste of money. I know more people who go on Limewire (myself included) to just download his songs that they like simply because his new stuff BLOWS.
Usher just needs to divorce his husband, get a DNA test to his son and go have sex with anyone he can. Maybe then his next CD will be better
Does that mean that men become homosexuals because there aren’t enough women??…that shit seriously makes no sense.
well, i have to agree with most of the posts on here about usher being a complete dingbat for his idiot comments. i dont know anything about the gay community in america or anywhere else, but i should imagine he has lost a lot of sales with that dumb statement. dont feel sorry for him, he lost his mojo a long time ago.!!lol!. tamika reminds me of a drag queen and i think chilli is laughing fit to bust at where he has ended up “retiring his mother to be a full time granny”(sacking her) and living with a she wolf.. someone stated that tamika will most probably take him to the cleaners.. i say good on her WHEN SHE DOES, . this is why it is important for blacks to take education a lot more seriously than they do in the west where they have the most opportunity but dont use it like they should.. am black and seeing ignorance being celebrated by so called celebs is just off putting to say the least.
Actually there is no scientific evidence that homosexuality is genetic. No study has ever claimed such a thing.
As a matter of fact here’s a link to one debunking the notion of a “gay gene” :
http://www.narth.com/docs/istheregene.html
However, Usher does sound like an idiot. The notion of “no good men” sounds like something that would come from a black woman, namely his wife. He has been letting her lead him by the nose as of lately. Also, the comment about her “always saying something” he made at one time shows she’s the typical gum popping, numerous children having, attitude bearing chickenhead that got some sucker to take care of her for life.
Most gay people are simply self centred and narssistic and want to shag themselves. This is not very satisfying so they move to the next best thing, someone from their sex. Ever noticed that most gay people, not all but most are angry bitter selfish swines? The few nice ones are darlings. Most are shit.
…Clare, you are SUCH an idiot. You should be ashamed of yourself. I don’t even believe that you truly think that. You are simply a douche hoping to stir people up.
My apologies to Celebitchy for breaking the courteous rule, hopefully she will recognise the validity of my anger.
And Wondering, of course being gay is not a CHOICE. I’m straight but I didn’t choose that, I just am.
If you think gay people choose to feel attracted to their own sex, then are you possibly choosing to feel attraction to the opposite? All that would imply is that you haven’t had any real feelings yet either way.
usher is a punk 👿
wow, he’s not selling the idea of ‘Men’ very well is he? Usher, if all guys were like you, you’d be right, we’d all turn gay.