Spamming Baby Borrowers show slammed by child welfare group


About three months ago we received so much comment spam for the now-failed E! reality shows “Pop Fiction” that I was compelled to write a story about it. In that case the spam was coming from a public relations firm that thought that a good way to generate interest in their client’s shows was to make obnoxious comments full of grammatical errors and spelling mistakes on celebrity blogs. (Neither the public relations firm or E! responded to our multiple requests for comment.)

People for “Baby Borrowers” left over five spam comments here. They were under different names and all from the same IP address, which was easily traced to NBC Universal. The comments weren’t that obnoxious and there weren’t that many of them so I just sent a warning message to the person’s listed e-mail and asked them to cut it out. We got a few more but not many, and they were on the “always send to moderation” list at that point. NBC is a big advertiser of ours, which also influenced my decision not to call them on it.

Here are the two samples I saved:

Baby Riot: What is Baby Borrowers? When is it on?
From Jamie Lynn Spears has a baby girl, Maddie Briann (update), 2008/06/24 at 5:45 PM

Left of Center: Baby Borrowers should be on every teen’s viewing list!
Baby Borrowers should be on every teen’s viewing list!
From Jamie Lynn Spears has a baby girl, Maddie Briann (update), 2008/06/23 at 10:17 PM

Given that people for this show spammed the blog, which creates unnecessary cleanup and generally just pisses me off, I’m more apt to report a negative story about it. A child welfare group says new reality show Baby Borrowers is unnecessarily stressful for babies. Infants as young as six months are separated from their parents for long stretches at a time and presumably overnight in order to teach teens that gee, it’s hard to raise a child. Sounds like a fun concept except maybe they should go easy on the babies and only start with a few hours here and there and give them a warming up period to get to know the teens. But no, they have to stay with strangers for long periods of time or else it won’t make for good television:

The show installs five young volunteer couples in different houses in Boise, Idaho, where they’re stuck minding an infant, from six months to a year old, who’s been dropped off at their door. Three days later, the couple swaps a baby for a toddler. They soon swap the toddler for a teen and then have to take care of a senior citizen.

NBC.com describes the show: “When a real baby appears . . . the nervous, fumbling teens are in for three long, arduous days that make chilling out a distant memory. They must stick to rigid routines, handle the feeding chores, diaper duty and crying jags.”

But nonprofit group Zero to Three claims it’s a horrible idea and is now protesting the show, which premiered last week.

“We’re concerned about the fact that these babies are being separated from their parents and placed with strangers,” the group’s spokesperson, Tom Salyers, told Page Six. “A large body of research says the attachments that are formed between the people who care for them are very important.

“On the first episode, the babies were separated for about 12 hours and were clearly in distress. Typically they will cry and cling and search for their parents, which they were doing. They should be with someone they’ve had the opportunity to get to know.”

NBC has provided 24-hour nanny supervision for the families, and the babies’ real parents are stationed next door with a video monitor. They are able to intervene and help out at any time.

An NBC rep said: “The producers of the show took all the necessary precautions to ensure the safety and welfare of the children participating in the series. The environment was carefully controlled, and the children were properly cared for at all times.”

[From The NY Post]

It’s unclear from that story whether the babies stay with the teens for three full days with just small breaks seeing their parents or whether they stay 12 hours one day, 12 hours another day, etc. This group isn’t saying that babies shouldn’t be cared by people other than their parents, just that it’s important they get to know the people who care for them and have a long term relationship with them if possible. Of course babies are going to be upset when they go to a new daycare or get a new babysitter but you want to make the transition easy for them and not stress them out just to get a good scene.

I am lucky enough to work from home and was able to spend the first year with my son, with help from babysitters and neighbors, but now he goes to daycare. He’s been to two different daycares as we recently moved and both recommend a warming-up period for younger kids where you only leave them an hour or two the first day and gradually go away for longer periods of time until they’re used to the place and the new people.

It seems like with small infants they should have their well being in mind and to have given them time to get used to the new people. That would cost time and money, though, and these shows are all about exploiting even small babies for good television. It’s a decent concept, but since they spammed us and are separating infants from their parents in order to create a TV show, I can’t say I hope it’s a big success. The pictures sure are cute and harmless-looking, though, but it’s not like they’re going to put up photos of crying babies on their website. Damn I fell for that spam, didn’t I? NBC pays us, I should have left it up.

Here’s a clip. I wouldn’t want these idiots caring for my kid.

Thanks to NBC for these photos.

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22 Responses to “Spamming Baby Borrowers show slammed by child welfare group”

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  1. Scott F. says:

    My wife was saying the other day they should just come out and call this show what it is, “Rent my baby.”

    Take a moment to really dwell on what’s going on here. A TV show pays you to hand your defenseless child over to people you’ve never met who by definition of the show have no idea how to take care of it- and the scary part is that they obviously got plenty of parents to go along with it.

    Sure, I bet there are professionals around to ‘help’ if they start tossing loose change at the kid’s soft spot – but they work for the show, and if the kid screaming in terror for hours on end will make good TV, they’ll sit by and do nothing.

    My daughter was more than a year old before she had her first overnight, with her grandmother, who she’d known all her life. She STILL freaked out being away from mommy and daddy for a whole day. I can imagine what being thrust into the arms of strangers while a bunch of people shove cameras and bright lights in your face is a very pleasant experience for the baby. Sickens me that people will literally pimp out their kids like this.

  2. Wil in Mpls says:

    Oh for Pete’s Sake! Are they so out of ideas in La La Land that they need to inflict mental trauma on babies to fill program time? Well .. I for one won’t be watching but I hardly watch network programming any more any way. But .. this kind of programming just validates that decision.

    Sorry to hear these jerks spammed you over this drivel as well. I think they probably know it is dog and were working to do what ever they could to get ratings .. not that that ever remotely excuses their attempts.

  3. devilgirl says:

    Reality television keeps finding lower levels to sink to. I can’t imagine this show would be the least bit entertaining or have any sort of serious educational value to it. I doubt seriously that it will “OPEN” the eyes of teens as to the difficulties one faces as a parent, hence the purpose and presence of the show is totally useless. Educate or entertain, it shows no potential for either. Pull the plug now!

  4. Mandy says:

    When I was in 7th grade, as part of our health class, we had to carry around these computerized dolls for 3 days. They’d cry at random intervals, including in the middle of the night, and you had to hold a key in their backs for 5-20 minutes until they stopped. Their heads also tilted back, so you had to be sure to support it as well. The keys were attached to hospital-type bracelets, so we couldn’t just hand the damn thing over to someone else, but luckily, I had skinny wrists and a cousin willing to do the project for me. Ha! But anyway, why not just use those instead of real babies?

  5. vdantev says:

    They did that to us too, Mandy- I just ripped the batteries out and took the ‘F’ for the lesson.

  6. kimmi says:

    I can forgive the corporate drones at NBC for coming up with this idea because I doubt any of them have children, feelings, or a sense of decency; but why would ANY parent do this to their baby?
    It is just unforgivable.

  7. Because I say So says:

    I am HORRIFIED that parents would be willing to go along with this. Do they care nothing for their kid? I suspect they think, “It’s only a few days and Johnny’s too young to remember anyway.” Once the attachment process is derailed, it’s gone forever. I hope those “experts” at NBC clearly told the parents that

  8. Mr.Stinkyfishface says:

    I actually watched this show, and its not like the babies are left fully alone. The parents are right across the street and can step in at any time they want. In fact two of the parents did step in and show the teens how to calm the baby down and comfort the baby and one of them even stepped in because she felt that the teen wasn’t feeding her baby enough. It didn’t seem at all like the parents were just bailing on their kids. As a professional in child care, I wasn’t thrilled with this show, however the children were NEVER in any serious harm, it was no more than basically leaving your child at a daycare/babysitter. They also had nannies that were in the room with the teens at all times in case of a TRUE emergency.

    I’m not a spam bot from NBC or where ever, I’m just a normal person. But honestly the show wasn’t THAT bad or THAT terrible for the kids. I do think that leaving an INFANT was a bad idea, but the toddlers and preteens and teens isn’t near as bad.

  9. oxa says:

    I warched about half of the show last week and I can tell u that i would not have let these kids look after my plants, let alone a kid.

  10. Diva says:

    At first I thought it would be a good show for my 15 year old to watch, but after seeing the promos, I decided it wouldn’t teach her any more than the shows I already watch of new parents learning to deal with their new babies.

  11. elisha says:

    I agree with Mr. Stinkyfish. The parents most likely volunteered their babies for free.

    It’s not like the producers kidnapped some defenseless kids.

    This post should’ve been called “YET ANOTHER NON-PROFIT GROUP TAKES A PAGE OUT OF PeTA’S BOOK, CLAIMING TO KNOW BEST & ACTING LIKE MEDIA WHORES BY ISSUING A PRESS RELEASE SCREAMING ‘LOOK AT US!'”

  12. Leandra says:

    The parents surely were paid for this. What a horrible show. Those defenceless little babies being exploited like that for profit. I watched 10 minutes of it and it creeped me out so much, I changed the channel.

  13. Blackalicious says:

    Sounds like a terrible idea. And rather boring.

  14. Hollz says:

    I mentioned baby think it over on another post a few days ago( like what Mandy and Vdantev did)it is a much better idea, because the baby isn’t in harms way and isn’t being separated from it’s parents
    they are very life like as well!
    ( with us, if we ripped out the batteries we had to pay for the entire doll- something like 200 dollars. )

  15. Silly Lilly says:

    I am suprised at the backlash. The parents can intervene, take over, do whatever they need to. Lets face it in today’s working mom environment, arent most babies “away” from their parents 12 plus hours a day? I just cannot believe that they are separated from their parents for 3 full days. I don’t believe it.

    This is actually a British TV show adapted for America.

    Now, personally I think the entire concept is executed poorly. I do not think you need a live child however, the stakes are higher that way are they not? Most of these teens on this show were at risk for teen pregnancy as EACh expressed that they WANT a BABY.

    That is frightning. And while I don’t necessarily agree with the method I am also the first to say, I am not really sure how else to drive it home to teens what infants require and what WORKING and having a family is like.

    Not an NBC bot and certainly not a spammer but I think that the truth is, teens do not see the reality in what they want. And when they want something like a baby, they are really unaware of what it is they are talking about. At least this is making the attempt at SOMETHING.

  16. Ginny says:

    I have an issue with this show, and that is that they are marketing it as “teen parents”, but the people on the show are 18-20. Yes, 18 and 19 are still teens, but they are adults as well, and 20 isn’t a teenager anymore. There is nothing wrong with 18,19 and 20 year olds starting families if they are responsible and have a stable environment. It’s not like it’s a 15 or 16 year old, like Jamie Lynn, just throwing that out there as an example. Maybe 18 and 19 year olds aren’t ideal, but they’re certainly not children anymore. They can legally do anything but buy alcohol, so why is it shocking for them to be having kids?

    Sure, some people that age aren’t ready for it, and some 18 and 19 year olds are immature, but there are plenty of people only a couple of years older than that that aren’t all that responsible either.

    Anyway, that’s the end of my rant. I won’t watch the show, and it’s kind of lame they’ve been spamming the site.

  17. anon says:

    I actually know one of these moms on the show, who volunteered her 2 kids. She is perhaps an attention whore, but in actuality these parents were not paid a dime. Shocking, but true folks. I will add that I would NEVER subject my child to an “experiment” like this one, but the parents did not do it for financial gain. Don’t know WHY they did, though, other than the “thrill” of being on some lame-o reality show.

  18. Frenchie says:

    This is freaking stupid : You need to feel love for a baby in order to suffer his cries, stinky diapers, vomit etc. Should be the first lesson, true at any age.
    Then I think it’s terrible to use the babies like this, AND the teenagers as well. Are they going to feel confident after that experience. What is this show going to teach them and the teenagers viewers ? It’s a lame way to make fun of teenagers, who are usually clumsy, not mature and not confident in themself.

  19. Ponytail says:

    Frenchie, I disagree. I didn’t love most of the babies I babysat for. I changed their nappies, calmed them when they cried, checked the temperature of their milk etc because that’s what my job was.

    I agree the concept is weird, and I don’t understand why a parent would take part, but really, lots of babies are looked after by someone they didn’t get introduced to gently. The odd thing here is, as an earlier post said, the parents know from the outset that the borrowers are not experienced – why would you hand over your child to someone who is incompetent ?

  20. Shay says:

    I’m sure the kids are monitored (or atleast hope). One of the misconceptions young girls have is thinking baby sitting is like having a child 24/7. Maybe if some young girl is watching this show and realizing that it’s not what they thought they’ll use protection to avoid having one.

  21. gail says:

    The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry has called for NBC to pull this show from broadcast:)

  22. As a mother and now a grandma, I say child welfare should take those babies away from the real parents. If they are not moved emotionally at the sight and sound of seeing and hearing their baby crying hysterically. It leaves me to believe they are already emotionally DETACHED. How do I know, well for starters mommies have a commpassionate feeling inside of them that goes off when we hear any baby crying. Our mommy instinct is to comfort the crying baby. Something these parents obviously don’t have! And thats real scary. Its no wonder child welfare is after this program. I say check out the Parents who were willing to allow there precious little ones to cry hysterically. I will be calling NBC. Whats next????? See if we can handle caring for our elderly!!! We should all be afraid.