Last week MSat reported a story from that National Enquirer that Paula Abdul, 46, was considering getting a restraining order against her ex, restaurant owner J.T. Torregiani, 33. Abdul and Torregiani broke up back in March but he still can’t let go. Torrigiani was sending her countless text messages and voice mails begging her to get back with him. What’s worse is that J.T. is said to be stalking Paula and to be randomly visiting her home and the restuarants and stores she visits, looking for her. He is even said to have once tried to kick down her door.
Paula eventually relented, though, and agreed to see the guy again. She’s saw him on an outing with other people, and has been talking to him and listening to his crazy pleas:
J.T. Torregiani has begged his way back into Paula’s heart after months of bombarding her with text messages and phone calls, to the point where she was ready to go to court to stop him, The Enquirer has learned exclusively.
Since Paula kicked him out of her house in March, J.T., 33, has showered the 46-year-old “American Idol” judge with nonstop apologies…
Paula recently agreed to a “group date” with J.T. and some pals at a movie near her hom inthe San Fernando Valley.
“Afterward, she and J.T. had a very nice conversation and began sorting through some of their issues,” said the source.
“He apologized profusely for the months he spent bombarding her with dozens of text messages and voice mails, but assured her he did it out of love and because he missed her so much.”
Paula hasn’t fully committed to taking him back yet, though.
[From The National Enquirer, print edition, August 25, 2008]
Many years ago I read an excellent self-protection book called The Gift of Fear
Paula made a huge mistake by letting this guy back into her life after he spent months bothering her. That’s crazy and shows that he’s not the type of person you want to deal with in any capacity. That kind of behavior calls for a restraining order and a bodyguard, not a friendly chat over coffee. Paula get your sh*t together and shut this guy out of your life! You can’t afford to let him see a crack of light through the door, he’s a nut job and you deserve better.
Paula Abdul and J.T. Torrigiani are shown at “the ‘Corteo’ Premiere held at the Cirque Du Soleil”
in LA on 8/23/07. Credit: Nikki Nelson/ WENN
Ain’t love grand. Why, Paula?? Although having said that, she IS kind of nuts herself so maybe they’ll cancel each other out?
Poor woman is soooo desperate.
Giving hope to stalkers everywhere. Hearing about “happy” endings like this is what makes people continue to do crap like stalking, adultry, etc. Everyone thinks that they will be the exception. Way to go Paula.
That guy has some scary eyes.
I read tht book and I hate it- I didnt like the rambling format it seemed disorganized. So, thanks for summing it up for me LOL
I LOVED that book and LOVE Gavin De Becker. I’ve re-read it probably ten or twelve times since I first got it and always find something new to think about.
You do have to trust your instincts, but I fear that Paula…due to drugs or a disease or whatever it is that makes her act so crazy….she can’t think clearly about this.
Some women think that I guy who stalks you does it out of love and because he cares so damn much. That is wrong of course but you can’t tell some people.
Agreed Gracie. A lot of guys who stalk do not do it for love. It is all ego – like how could they leave ME? Same reasoning behind why a guy will pummel someone who even looks at/tries to speak to their woman. It’s ego. Women can be flattered all they want but the men in question have a history of that usually- meaning they have done it with other women- and it has nothing to do with them being so special and the love of their life. Paula must be feeling lonely and vulnerable so that creates the perfect storm, so to speak.
Having once been the victim of a stalker for more than 2 years, I am appalled that she would even consider letting him back into her life. She is opening herself up for a lot of grief and pain. Stalking is no laughing matter, and it is not a sign of love. It is a sign of mental illness and the person being stalked can be in serious, serious danger. She needs to get away from him and have him arrested immediately. This is not something to play around with.
You are exactly right, Blackalicious. It is not flattering…it’s terrifying.
Id take one look at that guy’s eyes n run for the hills! *Shudders*
Is it me, or does she almost, ALMOST, look sober in that picture? I forgot what she looked like sober!
What’s wrong with me? The first thing I thought was how beautiful his eyes were! The hair ain’t bad either. Without getting into the stalking issue, I find the age gap a little puzzling. He’s THAT into a woman 13 years older than him? Damn! Don’t mean to trivialize the issue, but when is a gorgeous 33 year old going to start stalking me?????