Diane Kruger, 34, is the cover girl for Glamour in a ridiculously unattractive tie die shirt and distressed denim jacket. They’re probably just trying to push an image that’s different from Kruger’s normal fashion-forward skinny glamor, but she just looks awkward to me in that pose especially. She’s styled to look like Grease’s Sandy in the other photos, and some of them are ok, but overall I’m not feeling the photoshoot.
Inside, Kruger talks about how she doesn’t really believe in marriage, which is surprising to me because she seems so solid with Joshua Jackson. As The Huffington Post points out, she was married young to French actor/director Guillaume Canet, and that marriage ended after seven years. Canet is now expecting a baby with Marion Cotillard.
Diane Kruger is featured in the upcoming issue of Glamour, and her views on marriage are what’s making the headlines.
Kruger, 34, is dating TV star Joshua Jackson, but her past experiences have taught her that tying the knot — again — isn’t in her future.
I was married very young [to French actor and director Guillaume Canet]. We were together seven years. Without sounding pessimistic, I learned that I don’t believe in marriage. I believe in a commitment that you make in your heart. There’s no paper that will make you stay. A guy friend of mine said, and it made a lot of sense, that people should get married at the end of the road, not the beginning.
In some ways, that may go back even further than her experiences with Canet. Kruger divulges that her father was an alcoholic, and she, her mother and her brother moved out of their home when she was 13 years old.
“I also made a lot of boys pay for my father’s behavior,” she admitted.
As for her future with Jackson? She may not want a ring, but she does want kids — one day. And her ex, Canet? He’s got a child on the way already, with actress Marion Cotillard.
[From Huffington Post]
If that’s what works for her in her relationship, good for her. A lot of women decide to give up on marriage after they’ve had a bad experience (or three) with it, just look at Halle Berry. I wonder if her “male friend” who told her that people should get married at the “end” not the beginning, was Joshua Jackson. Like if he was gung-ho on marriage would she change her mind? Also, does that make any sense to you? I get the general sentiment, but at the end of a relationship there’s no point getting married because it’s almost over anyway.
Glamour photos via Just Jared and also available at Glamour.com Other photos of Diane are from fashion week in Paris on 1/30/11 and with Jessica Alba on 1/26/11. She’s shown with Joshua Jackson on 12/7/10. Credit: Fame
Whoah…Pacey Pacey Pacey…a sweater and a jacket? with a bow tie??? does not compute…
^^ lol
I hate this entiteled bitch.
Note: No matter what, dont ever ever pose next to Jessica Alba.
I know a lot of you guys are hating on her, but her looks make me weep every time I see her.
I think the ‘end’ was supposed to mean that the relationship has lasted long enough. And by long I don’t mean 3 years or, heck, even 5-7 years, but longer. A marriage is a contract that will make life easier for people who love each other. At least in where I live, married couples get several bonuses, not to mention being able to include their spouses in their will, something, which unmarried couples can not do.
And provided that divorcing can get very nasty and leave people pissed and poor, I think it’s safe to say that one should get married in the ‘end’, when everything is absolutely certain.
Love marriage is silly. You can love without a marriage as well. Marriage is for solving materialistic issues.
I am not sure the end means the end of the relationship. I think maybe she means later in life after the excitement and passion has developed into true friendship and companionship?
OMG, look at her collar/shoulders in the pic she is standing next to Alba in, pass that woman some food. Eewww
I know this is probably lame and picky, but it bugs me when people say, “I don’t believe in ___.” Marriage isn’t the Easter Bunny, Diane. It’s an actual legal–and religious (for some of us)–union. Say “I’ve tried it and realized it isn’t for me.” But don’t say you don’t ‘believe in’ something that actually EXISTS.
She’s right there is nothing wrong with getting married but it doesn’t guarantee anything. More important is love, respect, and knowing who you and your partner is and communicating with them what you really want.
I find her stunning and do not see the supposed entitlement.
I’ve been with my guy for almost 8 years and we don’t plan wed. I’m sure he would if I wanted to, but I don’t so we won’t! I guess I’ve never really cared about weddings or contracual love. Seems odd to me. Plus I have a good job and could totally support myself and our future children.
Lay off Pacey. He’s like a hot Mr. Rogers in that get up.
I think they photoshopped her mid drift in that one shot. She’s so emaciated, there’s no way her stomach looks like that.
Long time CB listener, first time caller here 😛
I think I sorta understand what Diane’s trying to say here guys? Maybe it’s just me relating my own personal experience, but my parents have been together for almost 30 years now, managed to raise myself ad my brother amazingly, and only now – as they approach 50, are making the choice to get married.
They always said that they wanted my brother & I to stand up for them, and my Dad asked the both of us how we felt about it before he got my Mum a ring.
They’ve always been as married as any other couple to me… though I do understand the legal aspects to that piece of paper, I guess I kinda identify with Diane’s POV too. Even if she worded it strangely.
I think she means that you should wait to get married until later in life. You should get married in the winter of your life. Close to the end. When you are almost kaput!! *gulp*
I never thought marriage was necessary (just a piece of paper, right?), then I married someone I considered my best friend and thought it was utterly wonderful to be part of this union.
He left me after nine years when my mother had a stroke and the going got tough – I feel what she’s saying.
Marriage establishes legal next of kin relationships. It may or may not have anything to do with emotional relationships. Not an issue if you’re healthy and single; however it can be a big issue if you’ve got kids or are in any kind of situation where you are incapacitated and incapable of making a decision by yourself. Plus, it can be a beneficial or complicating status if you die and leave a will, or die and don’t leave a will. Right now, Ms. Kruger’s alcoholic father has more legal right to make a decision about her life than her boyfriend, and if there’s a problem with her will, could be the defacto executor of her estate. Probably not a state of affairs she wants.
Ultimately though, if a relationship lasts a number of years, a common-law marriage is established so the point becomes moot. It’s still more difficult to establish next of kin issues though.
If you want to raise kids or you want to rely on your emotional partner to make decisions about how to be treated if you become incapacitated, you should get married. It smooths out a lot of legal hurdles when the going gets tough.
She’s easily one of my favorite celebrities out there, maybe even right behind Helena Bonham Carter. I love that she completely does things on her terms, whether they’re dubbed favorable or not. One of my favorite quotes about them was from Joshua Jackson when someone asked him when they’re getting married. His response, “She’s German. She let me know when its time.” I just love how casual they are about silly traditions some people take way too seriously, and just simply enjoy being with each other.
Maybe I’m just too much of a hopeless romantic, but I like the idea of someone wanting to stand up in front of all our friends and family and declare their undying love to me, and then not being able to escape without a long and costly legal battle!
Marriage isn’t just a “silly tradition” for everyone. I, for one, love being married and don’t see it as some kind of contractual agreement. My husband and I got married because we loved (and continue to love) each other and wanted to take that extra step as a sign of our commitment. That said, two people who choose not to marry can be every bit as devoted to each other. Like I said, it’s a personal choice and neither “side” deserves to be ridiculed or trivialized.
why is she in a chicken coop?
I don’t think marriage is silly. I’m quite happy to be married.
Another actress I just don’t like. I have no reason to, but she just isn’t someone I have ever found attractive or talented.
I didn’t want to get married because I thought it was a useless piece of paper. Someone is going to leave if they want to no matter if there is a “contract” in place. Then I met my husband. Then I wanted to get married, I wanted the wedding, I wanted everything that came with it. It’s all about choice and deciding what is best for you as a couple.
I think it’s great that Diane knows that she doesn’t want to do it again. My uncle has been with his girlfriend for almost 20 years. They aren’t getting married (hell, he’s still legally married to my cousin’s mother!) and it works for them. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix.
Common law marriages have nothing to do with time together. It has to do with holding oneself out as being married–basically lying. And not every state recognizes it.
Liana:
But in Hollywood, don’t you think marriage is kind of silly? So many celebrities her age are more focused on when their public image should dictate when they get married rather than when they actually ought to. I think that people who are really partial to the idea of marriage (and I certainly am not one) would applaud her for not making light of such a valued tradition like so many celebs are.
I married my husband because I loved him, because it meant so much to his mother (who is ill) and because I didn’t trust his family to do the best for him if he ended up in a coma in the hospital. I could see a few of them pulling the plug faster than they could blink! Now, it’s my job and I don’t have to worry about being shut out by his family in an emergency.
Plus, he was excited to make my ‘Will not kill’ list – it’s a very short list but marriage gave him membership 😉
LOL @ hot Mr. Rogers! I love a guy who can rock a cardi or a sweater vest. I love a good “hot professor” look!
OMG, look at her collar/shoulders in the pic she is standing next to Alba in, pass that woman some food. Eewww
I’m 6 months pregnant (& I look it) & my clavicle still looks like that. Some of us just have bony collar bones…
Globally, the countries where institution of marriage is held in the highest regard are these with the most violence towards women and minorities and the least respect to human rights. It is no co-incidence….
I don’t understand why a lot of people bash marriage.
lollipop alert!
@Manda:
No, that is not the proper interpretation. It varies from state to state, but it has nothing to do with “lying.” It’s demonstrating a 5, 7, or 10 year live-in commitment with another individual. Living together without legal marriage is not misrepresentation, or “lying,” it’s simply living together.
Further, if one state recognizes someone as common law married, per the 10th amendment, all 50 states have to recognize that marriage. It’s the same reason that the law that was passed regarding same sex marriage and the state’s right to ignore it was unconstitutional. Constitutionally speaking, if one state declares 2 individuals married, all 50 states must recognize the marriage. It does NOT mean that the state in question has to recognize an individual that participated in the same activity in their state as a legal marriage. For example, if I were single and lived with my boyfriend in TN for 7 years, we could be declared common law married. All 50 states would be required to recognize our marriage. However, if we lived in the state of VA for 7 years, and VA did not have the same laws, we would not be recognized as common-law married.
In short, the 10th Amendment grants state’s ability to declare a couple married within the state’s legal boundaries, and all states must recognize that state’s sovereignty regarding that marriage.
Also, FYI, the 10th amendment gives the states rights to legislative issues that are not constitutionally bound to the federal government. The states have had dominion over the legal contract of “marriage” since the Constitution was written, and any federal law passed regarding that legal Agreement is unconstitutional. Thanks a lot Mr. Clinton.
Totally agree with whoever said it’s a bad idea to pose next to Jessica Alba. You see how very plain and severe-looking Kruger is in that photo.
“I don’t understand why a lot of people bash marriage.”
not wanting to be married is not bashing marriage, but as someone who is not married and will never be married, i think some of us are tired of getting bashed by married people. i have had so many women say “oh, if he comes home with a diamond ring you’ll change your mind!” why, because sparkly things make me unable to form opinions? also the sentiment that if he really loves you he’ll propose, etc. is very insulting. nothing but a gimmick to stimulate the wedding industry, which is huge.
marriage is fine for some, but for me, marriage is an outdated institution. i don’t need mr. original kate to say “i want to spend forever with you” in front of 100 people – he says it to me and that’s enough. why is that such a problem for the people who keep pushing us to get married? i don’t know. by the way, an interesting book on the subject is “marriage, a history” by stephanie coontz.
@ prettyrtarheel: thanks for stating that so well.
Why is she on the cover? Is she still milking “Inglorious Basterds”? ugh. Go eat!
I like her take on marriage though. I get it.
@Prettytarheels
Great post ha.
In my undergrad a girl in one of my classes was telling everyone how her parents don’t believe in marraige (they had been married before they met each other) and that if one of them wanted to leave then they would pick up and leave and there wouldn’t be any divorce or hard feelings. I asked her how long her parents had been living together…she said TWENTY YEARS. And I told her, “Dude, I’m sorry…but your parents have a common law marriage.” She was pissed. I guess she didn’t like the word marriage…idk?
Marriage works for some, marriage is a necessity for some (especially next of kin stuff, or other issues), and marriage can be the worst absolute choice for others. But it’s pretty damn fabulous that we can choose if we want to marry or not.
I understand that some people are really thin and that perhaps their bones naturally are very visible. However, I do not think Diane is one of those people. She looks unnaturally skinny….imo.
I think she’s pretty in movies but doesn’t seem to be photogenic.
As for marriage – to each their own. At least she’s honest about it and knows it doesn’t work for her – a lot of people who go through a divorce feel that way.
There are a lot of legal benefits for married couples that do not apply to unmarried folks living together.
Marriage gives the survivor rights and benefits in the event of a death that that are not given to unmarrieds. This would apply to “the end.”
“Marriage gives the survivor rights and benefits in the event of a death that that are not given to unmarrieds. This would apply to “the end.”
not completely true – I would receive my partners pension, life insurance etc if he dies. But I’m from Canada..woot.
@original Kate – I agree, not wanting to get married is not bashing other people who do. I find the question ‘when are you guys getting married’ loaded. If I say ‘it’s not for us’ I get strange looks, and if say the reasons why, I’m ‘bashing marriage.’
Anyway..back to work! 😉
Marriage is a culmination of Romance, certainly, but it is also the beginning of a Family, emotionally and legally, whether you have kids or not.
Think of what it would take to ‘break up’ with your mother or sister. The same level of commitment is involved in your bond to your spouse (or it should be, if you’re both kind, decent people). I just don’t think you can ever count as much on someone you’re just living with.
Yes, the paper makes it harder to walk away, and that’s usually (in non-abusive situations, of course) a good thing. You should stay and support each other like any other close family member, and you should be able to count on your life partner to do that — the paper, the ceremony, the legal status, it all helps the permanence of the bond.
Having said that, many people do get married solely as a culmination to romance, when they are not prepared to be mature and commit to support each other emotionally like family. It’s tricky that women are conditioned to believe that the wedding is the beginning of utter, uncomplicated bliss, while men seem to be taught that once they’re married they can just relax and not work very much at the relationship — they’re conflicting illusions!
I agree with her for some people. And, let’s face it, the divorce rate is 50 percent on first-time marriages and higher on the second. But she has her own money. For the average person, it matters for health insurance plans, for a stay-at-home mother to protect her in case divorce happens down the road on receiving half the assets, and for many spiritually. Different strokes for different folks. But a certificate doesn’t mean anything, really. Many people stay married until the children graduate and, bam, they’re gone. I see a lot of unhappy or lifeless marriages that are still together because financially it would kill them to get divorced or don’t want to hurt the children or are afraid to be alone on their own. The truly strong marriages are to be admired, couples that grow together and still have love and respect for each other.
“Marriage is a culmination of Romance, certainly, but it is also the beginning of a Family, emotionally and legally, whether you have kids or not.”
really? so people who have been together for years and are in a loving, trusted, committed relationship aren’t family? you must have a rather limited definition of what constitutes a family. i would rather my partner stay because he wants to rather than a piece of paper making it very difficult for him to leave. and if said paper makes it so much harder to walk away why is the US divorce rate at almost 50%? as for “marriage is the culmination of romance” when i look at most of my friends who are married with kids i think that may be true.
I get so tired of unmarried people saying that they don’t think marriage is important. It isn’t just a piece of paper. It’s a legally binding contract. Is a will “just a piece of paper”? Is a subpoena “just a piece of paper”? Is a birth certificate?
Marriage is a commitment for life that helps establish inheritance and the legitimacy of children. It is something much deeper and more important than this bimbo apparently understands.
And I’ll bet anything that this is all a cover up for the fact that her boyfriend is not interested in marrying her.
But in Hollywood, don’t you think marriage is kind of silly?
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I don’t think MARRIAGE is silly. I think the way it’s treated absolutely is. It’s trivialized so much and these 20 second marriages are stupid. My parents have a “Hollywood” marriage, though, and have been together forever. Of course, only one of them is in the business, that only leaves one ego – dad’s.
I’ve actually seen very little “marriage bashing” in this thread. Marriage isn’t for some people. I didn’t think it was for me until I hooked up with Mr. Liana (JP). I think marriage is fine. I think choosing NOT to be married is fine. I, too, hate it when my unmarried friends with longterm partners or my unmarried single friends are marginalized as if being married (and having kids) somehow makes you smarter, more sensible, and more worldly than those without spouses and/or children. I never do that and I never will. I will never be the woman who says “you don’t understand because you’re not married” or “it’s different when you have kids.” I hate that. Just do what you want, live your life the way you want to live it, harm no one, and be happy. And give EVERYONE the same right to choose marriage or not.
Scarlet Vixen
That makes so much more sense than what the dipshit in the cover story said, lol.
She should eat. Then when her brain’s refueled someone should tell her marriage with a French actor slash director may not have any resemblance to … marriage.
JK. But there is some truth to it. Kinda like, marrying a rapper or rock star is a bit tough to imagine ending well since the lifestyle is what it is.
Except Alice Cooper. I kid you not. Listen to him talk about women, his wife, and marriage and you’ll rethink the idea of it not being wonderful. Hope lives.
She’s incredibly talented, and that’s all I care about. She also seems to be very intelligent.
I interpret “end of the road” to mean “once you really know someone” rather than marrying someone at the “beginning” of the road, where there is all the mystery and heated passion of a budding romance.
@Scarlet Vixen, Majosha and Liana: I agree with you guys 100%. My thoughts exactly. 😀
Re: Diane Kruger; I find her so bland and kind of ‘meh’ TBH.
“Marriage is a commitment for life that helps establish inheritance and the legitimacy of children.”
the entire concept of “legitimate” children is rooted in partiarchy – you do know that, don’t you?
@original kate: if you’d read more slowly, you might have noticed that I was saying what marriage is, not what non-marriage isn’t.
statistic show that the most loniest people in the world are married women over 40 – we raise the children and at the end of it all we either are cast aside for someone younger or stuck with needy, childlike husbands who expect you to be their mommy. If I had the opportunity to do it again, I’d have the kids but not the husband. I can only hope that I raised my son to be a man that respects the value of women and their importance in society and stands up for those beliefs.
original kate: February 1st, 2011 at 2:19 pm – Great post; I totally concur.
“if you’d read more slowly, you might have noticed that I was saying what marriage is, not what non-marriage isn’t.”
@ ally? (sorry, can’t read your name): by saying that “marriage is the legal and emotional beginning of a family” implies that the family does not exist without the marriage certificate. those are your words, and regardless of how fast they are read the meaning is the same.
Roots in patriarchy or not, I stand by it.
preach it, liana. ITA.#44.
She was so great in Mark Ronson’s Somebody To Love Me video. I don’t really care anything else about her, I just love her for that. 😀
Maybe some don’t like her, or think she’s too skinny, and fair play to them, but me? I think she’s great. To me she is both beautiful and talented and she and “Pacey” seem to have a great relationship. Personally I believe marriage is a great institution but if she believes something different I guess that’s her perogitive. Good luck to them both and I look forward to seeing more of her work.
My own personal belief, having seen very few marriages that I respect, is that I agree with her. I would only get married after a truly long commitment with someone. After 10 years maybe when we both know for sure this is for us than yeah I’d love a small ceremony with close friends and family nothing budget breaking. That’s not to say getting married after a year is wrong … my best friend got married after six months and they are the happiest marriage I know. Different strokes for different folks.
I think what she means is that alot of people see marriage as a check point on their list. They get married just because they have to be by a certain age else you’re a sad pathetic loser. It leads to alot of unhappiness.
After 10 years maybe when we both know for sure this is for us than yeah I’d love a small ceremony with close friends and family nothing budget breaking.
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I agree. I knew JP for over 10 years before we got married. I knew him as a friend of a friend, then as a friend, then as a unrequited (I thought) crush, then as a boyfriend. And when we got married, it was a tiny pretty little wedding with just family and very close friends.
I’ve also known one or two “quick” weddings that have produced happy marriages. But the strongest marriages are the ones that come from the strongest bases.
coz she z a kruger,guys ! n FYI u alreadi no w@ d@ mins she is just a replica of w@ scaaarrry movies r, esp in bed!!!!!!!
Marriage is extremely hard to pull off, I’ll give her that. Lust and passion die after a period of time. Problems arise. Sometimes it seems as though the easiest thing to do would be to divorce or never marry in the first place. But like a lot of you have said, a person makes decisions of this size based on their past and their examples of marriage. Having been a soul who has had ample opportunities to lie, cheat and/or leave, I’m happy to say that I haven’t done it and don’t plan to. My marriage gets better and my life gets more meaningful the more I work at it. Just like working hard at my job, my exercise routine, and my diet, good things come to those who keep trying. Just one opinion.