The paperback re-issue of John Edwards’ cancer-stricken wife, Elizabeth, is raising some new questions about how much Elizabeth knew about her husband’s affair- and how she really felt about it. Her book, “Saving Graces: Finding Solace and Strength from Friends and Strangers,” was originally published in late 2006 and chronicles her battle with breast cancer as her husband campaigned with John Kerry. The just-issued paperback version of that memoir features some subtle new passages, written by Edwards herself, that could be interpreted as a slam at her husband’s mistress, Rielle Hunter, and at John himself.
Edwards has said that he told his wife about the affair “at the end of 2006” and that everything ended after that.
Indeed, within days of the end of 2006, Web videos produced by Hunter about Edwards disappeared from his campaign Web site and from YouTube.
Sources tell me that it was indeed Elizabeth Edwards who had the videos pulled down when she saw them. The theory among Edwards campaign insiders is that she finally put two and two together. “She realized this blonde woman who was always around and who made these videos, there was something going on,” a source said.
In fact, Hunter and her videos disappeared, only to be replaced by new videos made by a videographer who’d worked for Elizabeth Edwards’ brother, Jay Anania. Peter Cairns had worked for Anania on a project called Commedia and a video called “The Lost Hours.”
In a chapter added to the paperback edition of Edwards’ memoir, “Saving Graces,” the former senator’s wife observes that in 2007: “My brother Jay had a wonderful young man, Peter Cairns, who worked for him, and Peter had begun videotaping the campaign, the events and behind the scenes. We had tried it before but the process of getting the film from the camera to the internet — where I and the public could watch John took much too long.”
Of course, that wasn’t the case. When Hunter shot her videos, sources tell me, a dedicated Internet technician was part of the deal, and managed to get all her videos up on Edwards’ campaign site immediately.
Elizabeth Edwards, of course, is the sympathetic character in the Edwards-Hunter saga by virtue of her cancer. John Edwards told ABC’s Bob Woodruff that he only commenced his affair with Hunter when his wife’s cancer was in remission. In the added chapter, Elizabeth recounts the story of her recurrence in late March 2007. The prognosis was dire.
Curiously, it’s also in that added chapter, amid many thank you’s to people who helped her or reached out to her, that Elizabeth adds a surprisingly bitter note. Sources say that at the time, in March 2007, she may not have been aware that her husband’s affair with Hunter had been rekindled. Hunter got pregnant in late May or early June 2007. The “Saving Graces” paperback was published officially on Aug. 14, 2007.
Elizabeth writes:
“It is hard to describe the test of public life, the way people believe — to some degree correctly — that you belong to them. There are awful examples, of course, of those whose motives are selfish or not admirable, who pry their way into the lives of public people in order to exploit a kindness or a generous gesture. They are to be endured and, to some extent I largely chose to ignore, feared. They remind me of a more malicious version of the people who wandered into our house in Annapolis, walking around our living room, putting their hands on our things. It is a sad fact that these people are a threat to anyone with even the smallest amount of celebrity.”
I don’t think it’s unreasonable for Elizabeth to want the video footage taken by her husband’s mistress removed from his web site- I think it’s the least John Edwards could do for her. She probably came up with the explanation about the lag in posting the footage on YouTube before John finally came clean about the affair to the public. Clearly, there was a period of time where Elizabeth knew about the affair before the rest of the world did. I do believe that the new chapter is pointed squarely at Hunter- who not only walked through the Edwards home and put her hands on everything, but also helped herself to John Edwards. I can’t say I’m surprised that Elizabeth is angry. Who wouldn’t be? And I’d also bet that she feels even more anger towards John himself- hence the change in her book dedication. It’s just sad that Elizabeth feels obligated to spend the remainder of her time left with a cheater.
How shameful. Who would have thought a Democratic candidate for President would be less than faithful to his spouse?
Huh? A Democratic candidate? Shakes head, mind explodes.
To have to deal with his affair while dealing with cancer would be pretty overwhelming. I don’t think I could ever be as restrained as she was – plenty of shit would be hitting plenty of fans.
So, what is the new dedication?
I’ve often wondered why she wouldn’t just kick John to the curb, where he belongs. But I suppose their lengthy marriage, many children (some of whom are still very young), and of course, her terminal illness, would make the decision far from cut and dry.
Hmmm just as shocking as John McCain leaving his former beauty queen wife. She waited him all through this POW time in Vietnam, but unfortunately she had a disfiguring accident.
He screwed around on her until he found the much younger, very wealthy current Mrs. McCain.
http://www.latimes.com/news/nationworld/nation/la-na-divorce11-2008jul11,0,6546861.story?page=1
http://www.factcheck.org/askfactcheck/did_john_mccain_cheat_on_his_first.html
Then there’s Strom Thurmond; I can keep going.
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2003/12/17/60II/main589107.shtml
I abhor what Edwards has done, but please don’t be so disingenuous to suggest that Dems have a monopoly.
yes, it is shocking that a politician would have a disgusting affair while his wife was fighting for her life. but if john edwards is scum for having an affair while his wife was fighting cancer, what does that make john mccain who had numerous affairs while his first wife was recovering from a horrific car wreck? who abandoned and divorced his disabled wife so he could marry his little brewery mistress?
I have NO respect for Ms Edwards. I MIGHT if she had any for herself.
I hoped that Elizabeth would be angrier at John than at Rielle. But it sounds like, in the grand tradition of women scorned, she’s laying the majority of the blame at the feet of Rielle. Not cool. John was the one who broke his vows, his trust to Elizabeth. Not Rielle.
I watched the first video filmed by the mistress on YouTube, after news of the affair broke. I don’t know if it’s still there.
In the videos Edwards is being interviewed by the mistress. I can’t tell whether he’s flirting or just being very friendly, but surely his wife, if she saw the videos, would know.
Holy Cow RReedy – that is brutal. Mrs. Edwards loves her husband, shares three children and is fighting for her life – literally. All of this in front of the entire world!
One should never judge another. Period.
One should never judge another?!? How freaking boring would that be?? I’m sure she’s staying with him because accepting her cancer diagnosis is all about forgiveness and acceptance.
Agree with Kaiser, he made the vows with Elizabeth.
To be fair, Rielle knew he was married, with kids.
BTW, how does McCain fit into this? Is he in the new passages?
Who is the book dedicated to now? Was it dedicated to John before?
Some folks live and breathe politics and their lust for power trumps all.
I do believe that if Elizabeth thought they had a shred of a chance of winning, she’d be back by his side campaigning and looking for ways to transform his slimeball affair into personal victimhood, which would translate into votes for the Edwards ticket.
Rreedy, you are very judgmental. Elizabeth Edwards said she made the decision to make peace with her husband for the sake of her family, because she has a terminal illness. She wants to keep her family together and make peace before she dies. It has nothing to do with self respect or self esteem. The feminist crap about self respect has no bearing here. All women should have the choice how to run their lives without being judged so harshly. If she wants to forgive her husband, she is entitled to do so.
@Daisy – I think McCain got brought up because Mr. T and someone else (whose comment seems to have disappeared) were talking about how only Democrats cheat on their wives.
*whispers “zomg homewrecker” to self, weeping*
What’s “ZOMG”?
I simply can’t imagine what she’s going through. God Bless her.
Elizabeth is a smart, strong and courageous woman. She’s probably made future plans for herself and her children without John being a part of their day to day life.
I hope she is able to continue to advocate for healthcare and women/children issues on the national stage – we need her voice.
I wish Elizabeth and her children all the best.
John should stay home alone and reflect on how he messed up his life both privately and professionally.
I never understand the wives who take pot shots at the mistress, she’s not the one who is cheating! The married man IS the one cheating! Not to say that the mistress’ behavior is commendable, far from it, but he’s the bigger sleezebag. what really irritates me isn’t so much cheating politicians (kind of goes with the territory unfortunately, apparently), what I find insulting and disgusting is these politicians who portray themselves as family men, harp on about their wives and kids and are found out to be chronic cheaters. I dont believe for one second that its the first time he’s done that, not at his age! The only positive point? At least it wasn’t a transvestite hooker-lol- I just feel sorry for all the kids involved the Edwards’ and the baby with the unkown father they are the real victims…
my father had affairs and my mother was always angry with the woman rather than the man who had broken his vows to her. I think it is about competition.
I feel for Ms. Edwards and I like her husband. he was a candidate who had been poor, who was the first in his family to attend college, to help children, who lost a child and seem like a decent individual. I usually don’t buy anything pols are selling. I feel bad that I let my guard down.
I do believe that regardless of what side of the aisle they sit on, the first and most important thing is themselves.
huh: I’ve always wondered that, too. Can anyone shed light on the ZOMG thing for us?
NO respect for Elizabeth? Damn, that kind of statement makes me wonder what kind of people Rreedy does respect.
She is a brilliant & very accomplished person, with or without John. And she has pretty much been handed a death sentance. How would anyone involved benefit from a huge messy public break-up? The Edwards’ have small children who are already undoubtably confused & upset about things they don’t understand.
More than likely, Elizabeth won’t be with her children as they pass life’s milestones. How would disrupting the limited time she has with them help anyone? Whatever the nitty gritty comes down to, I bet ole Johnny boy has been banned from the master suite for a looong time
Bodhi – How does banning ole Johnny boy from the master suite make him sorry? He’s probably still boinking the mistress anyway. According to 8/25/08 National Enquirer, Edwards called Rielle the day after his admission of the affair on “Nightline” and told her they’d be together after Elizabeth gone. Nice guy uh – let’s just wait for her to die.
I read over a week ago that Elizabeth told John to “pack his things and move out” of their Chapel Hill house. He’s evidently been living at the Edwards beach house in Wilmington, NC. No – I think Elizabeth wants no pity from Johnny boy. I hope she’s preparing to divorce/protect half of the millions for her three children.
I bet Rielle has been pushing Edwards to ask for a divorce but he didn’t want to give up half of the millions, telling Rielle it wouldn’t be all that long until Elizabeth dies. Plus he would have had to admit to Elizabeth that he had lied about not ending the affair and about the baby being his. My money is on Rielle had her friend Pidgeon or sister Roxanne leak to the National Enquirer that Edwards was meeting her on July 21 at the Beverly Hilton as Rielle wanted the affair out in the open. Elizabeth would be forced to either suck it up again or kick John out and file for divorce. When Elizabeth fired Rielle from the campaign, Rielle decided to go after Edwards full force – hence she got pregnant. John Edwards has F’d himself. He will never have a career promoting poverty issues in the future. He bought a bad “bill of goods” in Rielle Hunter. Rielle already has the big beach house in Santa Barbara, CA. Now she just waiting for Johnny boy to be with her.
I sincerely hope that one day people can go though a traumatic experience like infidelity and NOT feel compelled to write a f*cking book about it. Whatever happened to grace and dignity, instead of airing your dirty laundry through some pseudo-self-help bullsh*t book.
Marilyn~ I’m pretty sure you missed my point entirely…
Edit: Dante~ Her book is NOT about John’s affair. It was originally published in late 2006 and chronicles her battle with breast cancer as her husband campaigned with John Kerry.
Quote from MSat’s post.
Term limits for all government offices. Nobody should have “politician” as a career, it invites impurities in the system, and in the person. I do believe that proof of this is right out in front when you see what “politicians” have given themselves as parting gifts for life, even after serving one term in congress or the senate, serving is right, a big ol’ bunch of crap the rest of us pay for – in lieu of marginal service.
I think you all need to remeber something – Elizabeth has already been through the worst thing a mother can go through – she lost her 16 year old son. She an John went through tha togother. And while i think what john did is abhorent and i now personally find him repugnant (which has more to do with the way he has handled this situation and the denial of paternity) i have not walked in her shoes for the 30 years she has been married to him.
She also has probably about 18 – 24 monthes left to live. Given that scenerio and given that she is leaving 3 children behind 2 that will be raised by thier father, is it any wonder that she doesn’t want to spend that time getting a divorce, and making her children take sides?
Thank you lala. I agree wholeheartedly.
Just to clarify, in case anyone was confused by my prior comment, I in no way, shape, or form condone, agree with, or apologize John Edwards’ actions. He is a f@cktard of the highest degree.
My point was that Elizabeth is, above all, a very loving momma, & given her situation, I can’t imagine that she & John would disrupt their childrens’ lives anymore than absolutely necessary
lala got that spot-on. I’m sure he’s the one who’s emptying the cat litter every night – AND being shamed in other ways now that their whole extended family knows about it. You can imagine what her side of the family is saying to him, etc. I had an uncle that did this to one of my favorite aunts. Everyone thought that they had the perfect marriage . . . their daughter was almost killed in a car accident once, and they didn’t lose her – but it was very touch and go for a while. That family seemed so solid . . . and then one day my aunt was diagnosed with breast cancer. What did he do? he turned around and started an affair. My aunt was so mortified, that she didn’t want anyone to know and made her daughters promise not to say anything. And they did it for HER. But that ongoing lie tore that family apart – and it was the bastard, spineless uncle who got his cake and got to eat it too for a while. Apparently, it’s not that uncommon. Men who are afraid of being alone start looking – – it’s so deplorable. He’s a spineless dick. And he should have been there for her. Isn’t facing death scary enough?!?!? Then have to face this on top of this?!? His political life is OVER – as it should be. My thoughts are with her . . . believe me, his kids won’t let him off the hook for this . . . ever. Karma is a bitch & he’s finding out right now what it looks like…
I agree with Marilyn. Maybe Elizabeth won’t divorce the cheating bastard, but she should consider it. If he hooks up with Rielle after Elizabeth’s gone, you can bet Rielle will piss away his money, leaving little for Elizabeth’s children. It happens, and men like John Edwards are dumb enough to let it happen.
I don’t blame her for canceling their joint speaking engagements. It would make me want to puke to be within 10 feet of him.
If he hooks up with Rielle after Elizabeth’s gone, you can bet Rielle will piss away his money, leaving little for Elizabeth’s children.
Again, Elizabeth is a very competent attorney. As such, she can make water tight provisons for her children & ensure that neither John nor a future spouse/f@ck buddy gets one red cent of her money.
Both John & Elizabeth Edwards are really well-educated & really rich. There is no way in hell Elizabeth would shuffle off this mortal coil without guaranteeing that her kids would be provided for. End of story.
I bet Rielle Hunter would try to get every last dime she could. She strikes me as being low-life trash.
Amen Jinxy 😉
Elizabeth: “They remind me of a more malicious version of the people who wandered into our house in Annapolis, walking around our living room, putting their hands on our things.”
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Yep. Hunter was putting her hands on her thing..the spineless jerk of her husband.
Hunter’s name is so fitting. Boy, did she prey on a gullible buffoon, roped him in for the final kill, a kid. Now she’s set for life.
I hope Elizabeth can be comforted in the fact that she is a better woman and if she indeed has very little time to live, may she spend her days happy. That will definitely be a thorn to Hunter’s side. I’m sure she relishes that fact that she tried to destroy his marriage so she can get her paws on him.
ZOMG is what happened when people tried to capitalize OMG but instead of the shift key accidentally hit the “z” and now it’s become “ZOMG”” cause its funny. i think.
Unfortunately Elizabeth’s subtle hits are too subtle and her wording is convoluted. Why even bother adding this excerpt/dedication. It says nothing. Her and John probably sat down together and wrote it. Obviously the Edwards hold out hope to maintain John’s political career, hoping things will die down. It’s so predictable too blaming the mistress. It’s clear in Mrs. Edwards mind her husband merely extended “kindness, a generous gesture.” I think we need to look even more closely at John Edwards. There may be more there.
I am so sorry for you Elizabeth. Nobody should ever be put through what you have been through. You are stronger than most women we know. My dad cheated, my grandpa cheated, my grandma cheated, my father in law cheated, my brother in law is cheating, I was once fooled into being a mistress, a am now a wife,the scenario goes on and on. Not just in my life but my neighbors and yours. And some had kids out of this. We googled it and found out there were only a few presidents of the united states who didn’t cheat on their wives. Not W.
Not HW
Not Carter
Not Ford
Not Nixon
Not Truman
the others just lied about it. Thomas Jefferson was well known for having 6 kids with his mistress/slave. That was never thrown on the front page of the newspaper or on the home homepage of anyone. Get over it. humans are not by nature monogamous look it up. Not like some other animals like beavers, otters, jackals, foxes, some bats and a few dwarf deer and antelopes. sorry Elizabeth. Really bad timing on Johns part but he is human. People knew about a lot of other affairs, such as that of JFK, Eisenhower, FDR, LBJ – they just didn’t think it warranted national attention. that shows respect to the wives and children of those men. We don’t have that anymore. The media today are slime. And have no morals or bad feelings when they hurt lives. Its all about the $. sometimes its worse then what they are writing about. Think of poor princess di. a fairy tale ending where she dies at the end. Paparazzi, Breaking news, Media, News coverage, Exclusive only here. What ever you want to call it. Some things are just plain hurtful truth or not. It hurts a lot of different ways. I don’t condone what any of these men have done. I would be devastated if my husband did this to me, but not surprised. I am sorry for anyone who has this to deal with in their lives. But it goes on everywhere. In a lot of places in Europe they comment on how silly it is to be upset about all this. Its a daily occurrence there. DON’T TAKE MY WORD FOR IT. LOOK IT UP ITS ALL HERE ON THE WWW.