Cameron Diaz is going into promotional mode for Bad Teacher, so expect to see her on every magazine cover. She took the June cover of Elle UK, and the June cover of Maxim (you can see a low-quality shot of the Maxim cover here). In both interviews, Camy seems to be trying to lower people’s expectations that she’s sitting around, waiting for The Ring. She’s talked about her ambivalence towards marriage before, but I guess people thought she had changed her mind considering she seems head-over-centaur in love with Alex Rodriguez.
Wedding bells aren’t ringing yet for Cameron Diaz, and they may never be. And she’s cool with that.
Asked whether she thinks marriage is a dying institution, the actress tells Maxim’s June issue: “I do. I think we have to make our own rules. I don’t think we should live our lives in relationships based off old traditions that don’t suit our world any longer.”
Diaz, 38, also talks marriage in the June issue of British Elle. ““Life is long. Why would you ever live in the past when you can live in the present, and allow the future to be bright and happy and exciting? There’s no reason. I think people’s mentality is, ‘It didn’t work out!’ But, like, what didn’t work out? What’s supposed to happen? I think a lot of people are married to people they’re not romantic with any more,” she says. “I just didn’t ever marry anybody that I then had to get divorced from. We break up. We move on.”
“People are always asking me, ‘Do you want to get married? Do you want to have children?’ My family doesn’t ask me that,” she laughed. “They don’t put that on me. They never have. They know that if I want to get married, I’ll do it. They don’t think I’m out there, stranded, without what I want. They see me as active in my life, balancing everything that’s important to me, and if that’s part of what I want, at any point in my life – and who knows, it might be in the future – then that’ll be that.”
Diaz – who is No. 4 on Maxim’s 2011 Hot 100, behind No. 1 Rosie Huntington-Whiteley – seems quite content in her current relationship with New York Yankees slugger Alex Rodriguez. Without going into detail, she tells the magazine, “It’s really awesome.”
So, what makes a relationship successful? “Guys need women who challenge them and don’t let them get away with their sh–,” Diaz says. “Women, conversely, need to not be crazy bitches who blow up when their guys tell them something that scares them.”
Diaz, who stars in the upcoming Bad Teacher with her ex Justin Timberlake, says she has a few girl crushes – “Mila Kunis is a little hottie. Natalie Portman is amazing … and the Victoria’s Secret girls!”
But beauty is more than skin deep, she adds. “Women who know who they are and are confident are the sexiest. I don’t find women who are looking for people’s approval to be sexy. I mean, it’s easy to seduce, but to be truly attractive, to bring people in and be sexy, I think that comes from the inside.”
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I generally like Camy in interviews – she comes across as intelligent and realistic, but I tend to think she’s probably a different person (monster) in real life. Especially when it comes to men and relationships. Remember how she hand-fed A-Rod at the SuperBowl? Yeah, that’s what I think of whenever Camy is doing this “I’m such a strong woman” speech. It’s just like… Dude, you were hand-feeding your boyfriend on national television and looking like his dong was the center of your universe. Meh.
Covers courtesy of The Fashion Spot. Additional pic by WENN.
Whether she really feels that way or not, she had to say that while dating A-Rod, that’s self-esteem preservation.
It may not be for her, and I respect her recognizing and stating that, but that doesn’t mean marriage is a dying institution. There are still many, many people who believe in it and do it right. (For the record, I’m not married nor dying to be.)
I get her whole “strong woman” thing, but honestly, ARod seems like such a sleazeball, I can’t help but question any woman who chooses to be with him.
I tend to agree with her about marriage. A large majority of people I know are just shacking up. Especially if they’ve been married once before. I have no burning desire to get married again. And divorce is an expensive pain in the ass. Been there done that.
didn’t bother to read, I was accosted with CROTCH!
I think for some marriage is not worth it, but for other people it’s a necessity. You live with a man, give up your career to raise children, you pay into the house that may or may not be in your name, you build a life, and if or when it ends you can be left high and dry with no income, no pension, no retirement, and no place to live. Marriage is just as much about love as it is about a contract. Some men are nice and will not let you lose yourself, but you need to watch out. Marriage keeps both parties accountable for eachother and the involved children. Maybe if you’re rich, it’s not a problem because you have your own money, your own source of income where you work very little and have a fleet of nannies or three houses, but that is not the case for john and jane doe.
Blanket statements like ‘marriage is a dying institution’ is too broad of a generalization. She should have added, ‘for the wealthy or childless.’
She has the foundation line from hell in the top pic!
I think people answer questions without really thinking about them. Or maybe reporters ask questions without thinking about them. Did they ask because she’s a notorious single woman and she couldn’t possible want to “settle down”.
I need to know how the hell Olivia Munn made the top 10 of Maxim’s list.
I do not get men. At all.
Is it just me, or does every women who has dated Justin Timberlake, end up looking desperate? It’s like he does something to them emotionally, where forever after, they seem broken and appear to be settling in their personal life.
Lol @ Bailey
well her bods hot! but that 2nd picture just screams witch.
Damn sun damage is not kind.
Well, in a way she’s right, in that divorce rate is sky high on first, second, and third marriages. In a way, she’s had three marriages, living with men longterm, but moving on. Others just get married, divorced, married again. My friend is on her third marriage, married for 19 years this last one, and is miserable. I feel for her. He has put them in financial peril. She would leave this marriage in a minute if she was financially able to. So Cameron doesn’t do it. She knows herself.
BUT — I believe if A-Rod asked her to marry him, she would be running down that aisle in a nanosecond. LOL
I agree with this post. She says all of this stuff yet she always seems to act opposite. She is finally off filming though so it seems like she and A-Rod are finally going to get time away from each other. I can’t believe how ‘attached at the hip’ they were. They need to focus on their careers and if they’re having fun, so what, but I think that’s all it is.
If she is such a strong willed woman, why did she make such a public spectacle of chasing Justin Timberlake. After he dumped her and she freaked the hell out.
I also recall that Matt Damon would not marry her. When she was desperate to marry him.
Yea, Cameron has all kinds of opinion’s on the relationship thing. Based on the man she is shagging at the time.
And her whole rah-rah thing about how she doesn’t need to be married. Is all about keeping her favorite centaur from dumping her.
And I agree with Janna, if A-Rod asked there is no way she would say no LOL She has really upped her workouts though since him and it’s sad to see her transform into his ‘perfect’ woman but he loves Hollywood and Cameron gets him there. No doubts. She just screams desperate to me anymore and it’s really annoying. I just don’t think he’ll be asking for marriage. He just got out of one and maybe these comments and her ‘act’ are exactly why he is staying around.
Lol@ flounder you might just be right, Brit Brit married k-fed, that speaks volumes. I don’t CD, she looks scary & manish. How the hell is she # 4 on a hottest female list? Smh
She is looking rough these days. Besides, I doubt she would have turned Justin down or Arod. Marriage is great when u take it seriously as a life commitment of love and respect and not just “a piece of paper”.
Sorry I cannot get over that crotch picture – of course if it had been madonna, that crotch picture would have been in the nude. Anyway,Cameron looks hard and used to me. Way tooooo much sun Cameron – moisterizers are your friends. ha ha aa
Spoken like a true, single 40 year old.
Marriage is hard work. It doesn’t just “happen”. I disagree with her statements. She is better off not getting married though if she feels that way.
@ Roma: “I need to know how the hell Olivia Munn made the top 10 of Maxim’s list.”
She posed for their cover a few months ago wearing blue see-through knickers that gave her a kind of “reverse brazilian” look and the mag lots of lovely publicity.
Re: Cammie – So she’s all about the “internal” beauty? She has very odd girl-crushes then, because I’m pretty sure that’s not how they choose the Victoria’s Secret models, or why Mila & Natalie are currently so hot!
i don’t know why, but i get the feeling she’s the kind of girl who gives too much in a relationship, to the point of being too accommodating…
she’s nice. i hope she finds happiness. i’m just not so sure about A-Rod being the man for the long-term.
I wonder if she was thinking of Jen A. when she said this. I know I was… “They don’t think I’m out there, stranded, without what I want.”
The thing about marriage is that it’s not about romance. Dating and courting is about romance. Marriage is about partnership, commitment, and intimacy, both physical and emotional. I don’t agree that it’s a dying institution…I think it’s the cornerstone of a strong community and the human experience. It also requires you to not be selfish and self-focused…which I think may be the real issue with Cameron.
I do not doubt that there are plenty of men and women who genuinely think marriage is a dying institution and “don’t need it, don’t want it”. However, when people go on and on about it repeatedly, such as Cameron Diaz has been known to do, it can sound like “protesting too much” after a while. Why go on and on about it if you really believe it?
Also, she dates a notorious cheating douche.
Gosh, I didn’t know that I’ve wasted the past 25 years nurturing a loving, trusting and -yes- romantic relationship with my husband.
I think it’s perfectly fine and valid for someone to decide that marriage is not for them. But for her to insult marriage in general makes her sound ignorant. Just because she is a failure at relationships doesn’t mean that marriage is a bad thing.
NOTE-I don’t mean to say that think unmarried people are failures at relationships in general. I am talking about her specifically.
Sorry, I don’t take my opinions from a celebrity space cadet – especially one that has the money to easily buy into and get out of relationship problems.
i agree that marriage is oudated. i have no desire to be married, and my relationship is very happy and solid. i think cami may be a bit defensive and i understand that: when you are over 30, unmarried and childless the world pressures you to get married and breed. it always makes me think those people are unhappy and want everyone else to be miserable as well.
Methink A-rod has informed Cammy there is no ring! @ gee I agree totally.Marriage is accountability and order which far from dying out , is the gold standard of relationships – Elizabeth Taylor knew this. So Cammy dear, keep your opinions to yourself!!
She does give a cool vibe but then we can’t forget she made a spectacle of herself after she and JT split. So she wasn’t moving on there. And I agree with flounder above, everyone who dates that loser timberlake ends up a desperate mess. Didn’t Jessica say she wasn’t into marriage either? That was because she knew he wasn’t asking.
And Kaiser you gave me the laugh of the day with your “head of centaur” remark. Too funny.
I can see why Camy would say that. Marriage has never been a strong institution in Hollywood anyways. Actors/actresses love themselves too much to love someone else. Plus her weird choices of men make them look more like arm candy than true lovers.
You live with a man, give up your career to raise children, you pay into the house that may or may not be in your name, you build a life, and if or when it ends you can be left high and dry with no income, no pension, no retirement, and no place to live.
Wow, that is an extremely cynical view of married life. These days, more often than not, both people have jobs, if not careers.
As for the rest of it, its fine & dandy if she doesn’t want to get married, nobody is making her & it really isn’t anyone’s business anyway. But to say that marriage is a dying institution… thats just ridiculous.
I don;t really think she really even believes what she’s saying. I think it is more, right now she really doesn’t see herself as getting married any time soon and as you start to get older people obsess about it. She is probably SO sick of answering the marriage question, she just kinda goes with whatever reason she is feeling that day. I know I am sick and tired of people asking me why I won;t marry my bf and I’m only 26!
The problem with what she said is how obviously-transparent it is. Points to everyone for not being taken in by Cameron’s sad attempt to justify her emotional turpitude.
@Bodhi, obviously all marriages aren’t like that, but you should prepare for the worst and hope for the best, not just in marriage, but in general.
I’d really prefer it if the “dying institution” was questioning single women in their late 30’s about marriage. Some of us think marriage is right for us, some of us don’t [I don’t].
She has so much facial filler lately. Ew.
what in hell is that first picture? please tell me that’s not really a cover.
I agree that one should keep the worst case scenario in mind, but I still think that is a really cynical way to look at marriage.
But I don’t have experience with divorce, so maybe its different for people who do, I don’t know.
Ha – she’s so right. Single women are happier than married women!
I agree with “Hautie”. And I don’t agree with blanket statements. I will say this: it IS a dying institution when you consider how people are becoming less and less willing to work at it. Which I don’t get. You work hard for your money, your promotions, your health, your fitness, etc. But people fail to see that you have to put the same amount of work into a marriage. It’s damn hard sometimes. But it can be rewarding on a deeper level, which is why there are still people out there who believe in it.
Uh. How ‘shopped is that cover pic?
Food for thought from famed sociologist Cameron Diaz! Marriage isn’t right for her, so the whole institution is bogus? YAWN.
Marriage has always been a ‘dying institution” in hollywood. She lives in a shallow bubble.
First of all that this the most hideous cover ive ever seen! And it sounds like A Rod aint popping the question and she is doing damage control saying marriage is dying institution. If A Rod asked her you know darn well she would marry him tomorrow.
“People are always asking me, ‘Do you want to get married? Do you want to have children?’
Children? It’s too late for her old, dried up womb!
Ummm, just look at the divorce rate. It’s pretty darn high and getting worse.
I think people realize that marriage goes through cycles: the hot phase, the sweet phase, hanging on, and then, a slow decline. People used to endure the decline. Now, they jump ship quick. Some people, though, can still stay in love long-term and they are pretty rare. I don’t think people should blame each other or marriage if it doesn’t work for them. The key is to know yourself and what works for you.
And, I think Cameron’s pretty happy with her life. I met her once and she is really nice, fun and bubbly. No star BS w/her at all. That’s why I still like her despite her appearance in some awful movies. But, her next film–Bad Teacher–looks like fun. I hope it works out for her.
I think marriage is a dying institution, but that doesn’t mean that YOUR marriage is dying…you know?
I thought she’s always been nonchalant about getting married.
Anyway, I think there’s a difference between being dickmatized and desperate to get married. At least I hope.
What do you want her to say?
That she is 40 and wasted too many years on guys who didn’t want to marry and now it’s almost too late to have kids?
Nobody wants the sad truth.
No one wants to relate to someone who missed the boat and has suffered on a personal level.
People want the appearance of a great life and everything hunky dory.
They all sell the same facade- from Angelina to Clooney.
They can’t be honest about their real life, or that will end their career.
She is not aging well at all. Look at the picture of her airbrushed and the one not airbrushed. YIKES!
Who is this woman kidding? If A-Rod asked her to marry him she would say yes in a second. She was all ready to walk down the isle with Matt Dillon until he cheated on her.
the institution of marriage isn’t dying-please sit down Cameron. Marriage has existed for thousands of years, who’s dumb enough to think we will be the ones to make it extinct? Marriage simply goes through redefinitions with each new era and culture, that’s all.
I just don’t buy her independent woman sh*t at all. She was one of those “crazy bitches” when Justin Timberlake dumped her for J. Biel! And A. Rod is a greasy, self-obsessed, cheating creep who is a joke even in baseball because of his arrogance. (There’s a picture of him kissing his reflection in the mirror, it’s the laughing stock of the MLB!) Personally I think Cam is a nasty, nasty she-man and A. Rod likes his women butch. Actually I half-expected to see a weiner hanging out of that crotch picture. [Shudder]
I hate reading “marriage is a dying institution.” If you can’t live up to the commitment, don’t get married. Then divorce won’t even be necessary.
I like her.
Who cares how she acts with her boyfriend? Power shifts in relationships.
All we know is that if A-Rod broke up with her tomorrow, she would move on and be fine. No mental breakdowns coming from this lady.
Plus, how much more refreshing is this interview in comparison with the old Aniston “I will get married. I will have a baby.” (Really? Cuz…. You’re old. Time to stop lying to the world…)
And that bit at the end?
About Mila Kunis? — That’s clearly an indication Justin told her he was crushing on Mila.
Add in this line: ” I don’t find women who are looking for people’s approval to be sexy.” — And you know she’s talking about Jessica Biel.
Hilariously subtle bitchy remarks! Justin’s new crush, Mila, is confident and sexy and Cameron-approved. While Jessica is just some loser trollup who actively participated in the demise of Cameron & Justin’s relationship, and got that behavior back 10-fold with her extended break up. I think if you read between the lines, Jessica is clearly the woman “looking for people’s approval” – attempting to sleep her way to the top of the fame game, attemping to cling to some sort of a legitimate career, a career born from laying with her legs spread… There was never much to work with, and nothing much to save at this point.
Good for gossip.
i think that being a 37 female celeb… this is something she HAS to say. if she dosent say things like this, her other option is to be a second “jennifer aniston” . i rather be known as the woman against marriage then the desperate and over 40 category 3-ringed circus they made jens life to be. lets face it, if your not married at a certain age, you are judged harshly… mostly by miserable married women.