I know that some of you have grown weary of Demi Lovato always talking about her ongoing rehab and recovery issues, and some people have hinted that she’s less than sincere while answering interview questions. Yet I maintain that no matter what, she’s a valuable role model to her young fans, many of whom are undoubtedly facing the same issues as Demi while growing up. To that end, I don’t mind at least another few rounds of this discussion.
However, this interview with Fabulous Magazine is a bit different than Demi’s other recent discussions about her troubles. When she first entered rehab in 2010, the official line was that she entered for emotional and eating disorder issues, and that’s continued to be the official word during her most recent publicity outings as well. Now things are turning in a different direction with some confirmation of those old rumors that Demi used to do lines of coke like a pro. In this interview, Demi admits that she did cocaine and engaged in underage drinking as well:
She hates having her picture taken: “I felt uncomfortable today [at the shoot]. Knowing I have bad angles and the photographer can take a bad shot makes me insecure. But I’m a lot better than I used to be. In my first shoot after having treatment, I went into meltdown and ran away from the studio. So I’ve made progress.”
On her eating disorder: “I’d make myself sick up to six times a day. My mum was worried, but because I was going through puberty I was having growth spurts so she assumed that was why I was thinner.”
She admits to doing cocaine: “It’s something I don’t really want to talk about What I can say is that I was depressed. I would come off stage in front of 18,000 people and suddenly be alone in a hotel room. I’d come crashing down and would try to find a way to recreate that feeling, to stay ‘up’.”
Club promoters enabled her: “Promoters gave me drugs and alcohol in restaurants or clubs. They wanted me to come back so I would be seen there. They were basically kissing my ass,” she says, a flash of anger briefly interrupting her sunny demeanour. “I thought they were my friends. I thought I was having fun. Being a celebrity can be dangerous. Nobody says ‘no’. That’s why so many end up overdosing and dying. It could definitely have happened to me.”
On cutting: “It started with my wrists. People saw that, so I cut in places they couldn’t see. You do it because you feel so bad inside. You don’t know how to take it out other than on yourself.”
On rehab: “It was really, really hard and scary. I was homesick and lonely and several times I thought f*** it, I’m leaving. But my mum told me I would regret it. This was my only chance. I had 14 hours of therapy a day. I listened to music and learned to knit. When I finally left, it was like being let out of prison.”
On being a size 10-12 again: “After so long being thin, it was terrifying being heavier. But I am a naturally curvy Hispanic girl. I don’t deprive myself – I had a Kit Kat last night, but I don’t eat s*** every day. I have a meal service that brings my food to my home so I don’t have to think about being healthy.”
On her love life: “I’m not dating at all. I love having a boyfriend but need to be secure on my own first.”
[From Fabulous Mag]
So are these new admissions part of calculated new PR move? Maybe her team just realizes that Demi’s been saying the same stuff for about a year now and figures that since the coke rumors are out there, she might as well admit to them and change up the routine. Still, I find it interesting that she’s specifically calling out the club promoters and “yes” people that surround the rich and famous. It sounds like Demi really has figured out how to cut through the Hollywood crap in that regard, and I can also appreciate that she’s indulging in Kit Kats. Obviously, everyone deserves the occasional Kit Kat.
Photos courtesy of Fabulous Mag
Bored now. Especially since – from the sounds of it – she’s lying through her teeth about being rehabbed.
And whatever happened to personal responsibility? No-one forced her to party every night, drink under-age, do the damn coke, punch that dancer or date Wilmer “Ephebophile” Valderrama.
People have died for their country at a younger age!
True no one forced her. But promoters shouldn’t have been handing out drugs like candy either. You wouldn’t give an alcoholic a bottle of vodka.
But it’s the alcoholic’s choice whether or not to be in a bar in the first place!
She’ll never truly heal until she accepts total responsibility for her actions, and all I read here is a load of self-pitying “wah-wah, it everyone’s fault but my own that I’m a violent coke hound”.
She should take some real time out of the business – maybe go to college – and if she’s talented enough (she’s not) she’ll have a career waiting for her when she gets back.
@ Tapioca–
My neck hairs go on end whenever I sense someone avoiding personal responsibility for their choices.
HOWEVER, in Demi’s case, this would have begun long before she was legally, if not morally, responsible. Where was her mother, father,chaperone or otherwise responsible caregiver who should have been overseeing her well-being?
I can understand how she is bitter at having stuff shoved at her then, but she is accepting responsibility for the choices she makes now, as evidenced by these more open interviews and her session in rehab.
I mean, yeah, but look how old she was when that happened. She was a kid. She’s barely an adult now being surrounded by adult situations for yrs now. It is a pervasive problem in Hollywood to drug up CHILDREN and take advantage of them sexually, financially, etc. Drew Barrymore, James King, Lindsey Lohan, The 2 Cory’s… All have been victims. That has to be the first consideration for her. I’m proud of her to have gotten lost and still finding her way. Drug addiction is a serious struggle for anyone to deal with. It’s a daily, conscious fight. Some days she’ll win, some days she’ll lose. Same with the weight issues. Just cut the girl a break is all I’m saying. I appreciate her continued honesty and effort to fight her demons. Clearly, it’s something she is still dealing with.
@Tapioca Kinda like how her career was here when she came back from her break? I mean I get that your opinion is that she isnt talented. However you say that talent is determined by people with comebacks. Well so far she has had a pretty good comeback. So by your own words she is talented enough. Fail on your end lol.
You know I always think about Justin Timberlake when they say that those poor rich celebrity kids become drug addicts and alcoholics because they didn’t have choice.
He was growing up in the same business. I’m sure they were giving drugs to him everywhere too. But here we are – he grew up as normal person. With no drug scandals. It’s always choice. Looks at Jodie Foster, Josh Hutcherson, Elaja Wood, Harry Potter kids, Dakota and Elle Fanning, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Ryan Gosling… They made their choice not to do drugs.
Playing devil’s advocate: Are some of you saying that alcoholism/drug abuse is personal choice and not a disease?
The child of my best friend struggles and this young man is begged by his parents to NOT go into places or to establishments that serve booze. The kid doesn’t have the “thing” inside that tells him when to stop. He doesn’t want one drink, he wants ten. But he also is not strong enough (yet?) to fight against it when people around him tell him that we adults don’t know what we’re talking about…and that he should be able to drink or party whenever he wants. It is a constant struggle. So is the boy suffering from a disease or is he simply weak? I don’t know myself but I would give the WORLD to know how to fix him because his parents’ souls sre bleeding because they cannot stop what looks like disaster down the road. And unlike the child stars, real people don’t have unlimited funds to handle these problems.
The thing is, she was a CHILD star and probably started doing this stuff in her early/mid teens. Do you remember being fifteen at all? Do you really think a teenager would say no to free alcohol and drugs if all the adults in her life were promoting them? I was broke but deep into substance abuse at her age because I was unhappy. I’d probably be dead if I had her enablers.
And that is the point. I think people forget how young she is.
Apart from the numerous examples of kids that started out even younger and have managed to stay out of trouble – The Fannings, Hilary Duff, Selena Gomez – she’s not a child NOW and she’s still (apparently) making the same mistakes all over again.
Youth and peer pressure are no excuses for drug abuse and assault – even toddlers know that hitting people is wrong! The whole reason Li-Lo is how she is, is because people made these same excuses for her behaviour, largely on the grounds of her age. What good has that done HER?
@Tapioca
Really? Hillary Duff stayed out of trouble? I guess you don’t keep up on the news about her at all. I do believe that around 2010 there was a rumor about her and her sister stumbling out of a few bars during the time their movie careers were taking off. Or what about the rumors that Selena Gomez was caught drinking with Justin bieber at a recent party. Also if you are going to accuse her of making the “Same mistakes” over again, please give an example. And note that Blindgossip rumors or rumors in general don’t count.
I will agree that youth and peer pressure are no excuses for drug abuse and assault. However I guess you are unaware of what peer pressure DOES to people. Are you saying that the stupidity of youth or the pressure of your peers plays no part in someone’s choices at all? If that wasn’t the case then there wouldn’t be any teenagers hooked on drugs. There wouldn’t be any YOUNG people with issues. Also are you saying that just because someone KNOWS that doing something is wrong, that it will stop them from making mistakes? This type of wayward thinking really astounds me.
@Tapioca: Hillary Duff had a huge cocaine problem (that her mother was aware of). I have a friend who was her PA for a music video and they had to keep propping her up and concealing the mess of her nose.
Her mom was with her while she was using.
If you are bored with her, then why are you responding to this article? That makes no sense. You’re not bored if you obviously cared enough to comment. Also she is now lying about being in rehab? So I guess we must have imagined those three months that we read about during her stint right.
And are you telling me that there are no such things as ENABLERS? That the concept of peer preasure and people ENABLING you to do drugs doesn’t exist? Cause that is just a faulty concept right? That there are no such things as enablers eh? Yeah ok.
I guess you are unaware of how addiction works. Or the concept of it being DUAL responsibility.
Yeah there is responsibility on her end. But what about the responsibility on the ENABLER’s end? Are you saying that the people who give her drugs or the drug dealers out there hold no responsibility in enabling other drug users? Cause you know, they’re the ones that PROVIDE them with the drugs. And I take it that you never read any of her interviews in depth. Because if you did you’d see that she has taken responsibility. Several times in fact she stated so.
During her 20/20 interview she stated she was, during her magazine interview with seventeen she said she was trying to lead a better example. You really should take the time to actually READ an interview. Either know what you are talking about in terms of addiction. No offense but what you said makes no sense.
girl. word of the day, “ephebophile.” thank you for being a smartie-pantz!
I had to look it up. I didn’t know there was a word for this. Boy, we should be seeing this word more often since it is pretty much a religion out in Hollywood.
I like that she speaks so candidly about it. What bothers me so much about LL is that she will never just say something along the lines admission. If yu have nothing to hide you should have no problem letting the world know how you got around the rules.
Very true!
And if we are along the lines of divulging the whole truth Demi, the same way word was she was consuming mountains of coke, rather publicly and there is a tape going around of it when she was just 15 or 16, let’s then go for the truth all the way, and admit that one of her enablers was her own mother.
Her own mother was a Dina Lohan in the making. She partied, and partied hard, with her own underage daughter.
Agree. Disney has a lot to answer for. I wish Demi would be brave enough to name names. Agree with all of you wondering why Demi’s parents, friends, agent, those ADULTS around her didn’t a) help her make better choices and b) didn’t dob in the enablers. Now it makes sense why Demi had a crazed-eye look in the first Camp Rock movie. How and why did those who were supposed to protect her let this happen?
This was a good interview, people may get bored of it and it may be calculated but she HAS been through this and by talking about it she’s helping fans that are going through the same thing.
Also I agree with @ThatGirl if Lindsay Lohan ever just came out and admitted to all the BS she’s done I’d pass out lmao
Admission is the first step to recovery and I hope one day LL follows Demi’s example.
imagine the tell-all book we could get if linnocent wasn’t delusional…
I wish my size ten was her size ten. ahh to have a booty
I quite admire Demi for this – I’ve read all he blinds and rumours that she’s still doing lines and drinking and cutting but I’m hoping these are just rumours.
She is seemingly honest about her spiral and at least she is a better role model in the respect that she is publicly being seen to admit drugs and drink etc are bad – better than most starlets anyhows.
Hollywierd seems to be a really horrible and dangerous place for young people
every time I read an interview of hers, she seems to be saying/doing all the right things – taking personal responsibility, advocating to her young audience about the dangers of drugs/alcohol and the experience of mental health issues, etc.
but the blind items do concern me. I mean, they are blind items, so I try to take them with a grain of salt, but blindgossip has published so many with crazy detail that is often partially corroborated through her social media, public appearances and PR statements. I worry that her management pushed her back out into the public eye before she had fully cemented her recovery. relapse (of drug/alcohol abuse, eating disorder, depression, self-harm, etc) is so so common and it sometimes seems like they tried to minimize the turn-around on her treatment and re-brand her as quickly as possible without much regard for her actual mental state or psychiatric needs.
she seems like she’s genuinely trying, but she and her team may not be as invested in recovery as they claim, which could spell disaster. it also means that, since she’s now put herself out there as a spokesperson for mental health issues and recovery, that there is an even greater pressure to tow the line and maintain the image of health in spite of whatever the reality is.
I just hope she’s actually doing as well as she comes off in interviews.
She looks good in this photoshoot, and I like her hair colour and style.
About cocaine..sigh, I’d love to find even one in Hollywood who doesn’t do that. Really, maybe I’ll never find that someone and this is so sad.
I don’t mind her talking about this stuff. I think people keep asking her about it so she’s answering, and we won’t hear differently until she has another project underway. Besides, I think it’s cathartic for her to speak out after keeping silent for so long. I don’t mind being part of her group therapy. 🙂
As well as being a part of her group therapy, she is setting us up as part of her “accountability group”. I don’t know if she realizes it or not. I mean the more people that know about your problem, the more likely you will get a negative response if you go back to your old behavior.
I know she may not care what we think BUT I’ll bet she cares about her image. She has now made herself into a role model so she has an accountability to live up to that. I, for one, wish her all the success in the world.
Sounds like she is making excuses for her behavior. We also now know she was lying about going to rehab just for an eating disorder. From the get go we all said it was drugs but she and her people lied.
Sounds like YOU didn’t read the full interview or anything she has said. She said she went for an eating disorder, and self mutilation. Maybe if you bothered to actually look into what she is saying rather than taking stock in unreliable rumors, you’d what she ACTUALLY said. And she was also there to deal with her bipolar 2 syndrome. Do keep up.
I think YOu didn’t read it correctly. The point of the article is to say the girl has a coke problem. Yes she has other issues but let’s get real her rehab was for drugs and her people had to keep hush hush about it.
@tc
I read the article fine thank you very much. However you’re the one who clearly has the issue with reading and well common sense in general. Not once did she say she was in rehab for just eating disorders. However that was one of her main issues. The drug abbuse and her addiction s are her symptoms of her problems. In case you are unaware of this tk specialized in Ed’s and self harming issues. Again you need to read more carefully. Either that or do your reasearch on addictions.
Please read my below responses.
Ok so because you didn’t obviously read the article I felt the need to properly in form you of what goes on in this article. What this uis, isn’t excuse making, it’s giving people an insight as to why she took drugs or substances in the first place. What she is doing is placing blame where it belongs. Which included her as well if you read this and her enablers. After all they provided her with said vices.
Do some research Into what treatment she went into. Timberline knolls is a tc in which yogurt specialize in eating disorders. However it is a known fact that people who suffer from eds and self harming also use drugs. The drug abbuse is a symptom if her issues. You don’t go to treatment for “drug issues ” per say. You go to work out your issues that are buggin you. Substance abbuse is a symptom. Anyone with any background in addictions will tell you that. What she was in for was biplor 2, eating disorders and self harming. Her tc is a testimony to that.
she said that she was never diagnosed with a “drug problem” and she wasn’t. That’s not to say she disnt take or abbuse drugs at one point in her life. You really need to listen.
Actually the point of the article was for her to talk about why she did drugs and how she got the . No where did she mention the words come in them. Her real issue for her rehab was her eds and her self harming. Her addictions for whatever are symptoms of her problems. Reasearch please!
And you could say NO. Call the police, call the parents, manager or whatever. Did somebody force her to take these drugs or drink that alcohol? I don’t think so. Get over it and go to rehab. For real this time.
Right cause enablers play NO part in anyones drug abbuse right? I mean its not like they are PROVIDING the deadly substances of vice for said addict right? No that can’t be it at all. Psh…
Well promoters gave me coke too – and I happily did it all.
However, I was 28 – not 16 – so maybe there is a difference here. (I know she is not currently 16 but she WAS…)
Sheesh, are you serious?
I hope you’re not a mother – YOU ARE SO INTOLERANT!
It’s well documented after many years of extensive neurological research, that the frontal lobe in adolescents and youths remains undeveloped until roughly 25. This part of the brain is responsible for risk taking behaviour and explains why at 15 you can be offered a tab of acid and take it, no questions asked, but by 30, you’ll probably decline. It also explains risky behaviour like unprotected sex, excessive speeding and drug taking.
Throw into the mix fame, stardom, money and fans and you can understand why Hollywood regularly churns out messed up adolescents. They do everything regular teens do but with the advantage of easy accessibility to drugs and sex.
I am so shocked by the intolerance, rigid conservatism and complete ignorance being displayed here.
Ms Lovato is showing herself to be a determined, humbled and truthful young woman and she deserves your respect, not your derision.
She needs to can this redhead thing. Hispanic women generally do not have the colouring for it. Just give it up, already.
I agree. I am a light-skinned Latina, and when I went full-out red it looked super trashy. I’ve since moved on to auburn-ish subtle lowlights and honey-ish highlights and it looks great, like I went to the beach. When my hairdresser finished the full red, she didn’t even let me look in the mirror before she offered to redo it for free.
you know it’s really hard speaking out about things like this. she’s trying to better herself. why would you guys try to put her down? she’s back to doing music and getting her life back on track the way it’s supposed to be. so all of you people who are tired of hearing it just turn the page then. you have a choice too. I applaud her for her honesty. she’s a beautiful girl and I wish her the best.
You are spot on. I think she’s doing the right thing being candid about it.
Okay. Cutting, booze, cocaine, and an eating disorder. Is that the complete list? And then she felt like she was out of prison when she left rehab? And hates/hated being in a hotel room alone after performing for a crowd?
Sounds like she hates Demi Lovato 1.0 and is constantly looking to change her baseline. And all those illusory improvements–booze, cutting, cocaine, bulimia–only make version 1.0 temporarily unaware of its flaws. And then you come down or wake up hungover or binge and feel ashamed, not only because of the mistakes you made, but also because you realize you’re still 1.0, only now you feel worse and have huge regrets. The only solution you can imagine is not to think about it, to move away from 1.0 in any possible way, and substances get more dangerous.
But there’s a catch: you’re always version 1.0. Everyone is. Doesn’t mean you can’t change your behavior, attitude or life. But it does mean you’ll never ingest anything that will move you off 1.0. You can’t bleed 1.0 out of your body, either. At best, you’ll only forget about it for a little while.
And there’s a giant lie that our entire culture believes: something’s wrong with 1.0, but booze will give you courage, cocaine will give you energy, and purging will give you that body you always wanted. But it’s not true. Some people know that, probably because their parents or someone made sure they knew it when they were younger. Some people don’t know it, for a million different reasons. The most important thing is not to believe the lie. No one can make you less than 1.0 and no substance can make you more than 1.0.
Enjoyed your post. Thanks for taking the time to articulate this. Hey people, 1.0 ain’t so damned bad!
Thank you. I’d never looked at it like that before.
I hate to say this but some issues take TIME and AWARENESS and MATURITY and this isn’t easy in one’s early 20’s.
It took me a long-ass time to get my sh’t together; thankfully I wasn’t in the media.
Thank you for the insightful post on this complex issue. Your understanding and empathy makes me think you either know this problem first hand or have someone close to you that does. In a room full of hysterics, it is great to hear a calm voice of reason.
+1.0 😉
It is her choice but at 15, 16, and 17 when these so called adults are supposed to be help guiding you or having your back, telling you it’s okay to party and then offering it up on a silver platter…please. They need to take responsibility too as well as her mother who clearly was not around the way she should have been. demi had mental issues so clearly her decision making skills were already impaired. Those people are evil for exploiting her illness further.
I can’t believe she called them out. I hope she is safe, because if you expose the seediness that is Hollyhell, they will close ranks and protect themselves. It could very well cost you your life.
Agree! Aside from her issues, how about that shout out for the promoters and PR industry of Hwood?..wow. I am shocked someone has the guts to call them out for being enablers. That’s typically a hush-hush thing for the (celeb) culture out there.
The Original Victoria: While I deeply agree w/ you about the dangerously irresponsible, callous Hollywood people who enabled (and apparently encouraged) Demi to do drugs,I DON’T agree that her mentioning it could “cost her her life.” First, there is no Hollywood Mafia or similar organization where actors are actually *killed* for talking about the fairly well known seediness and heartlessness of far too many in the Hollywood industry. Had she named specific people as her enablers (which she did *not* do) then it is indeed very likely that her *hollywood* life would be floundering if not entirely over: Hollywood can, and does, kill the careers of people who threaten to or actually expose them for what so many of them are. (Megan Fox, for example, in calling out that Transformers director–forget his name!–certainly lost much of her rapidly elevating status in Hollywood quickly, partly as a result of revealing exactly what shehad to do for him to get her role.) The “higher ups” in Hollywood stick up for and defend each other(and themselves, by association) fiercely, but the belief that a young actor would actually be LITERALLY *killed off* by Hollywood for exposing how immoral and calculating they can be, is,I think–thankfully—FAR from accurate. It has, at least, never happened before. But actors certainly *have* lost their careers, and reputations, as a result of revealing too much of what goes on behind the smoke and mirrors of that world. Hollywood, however, is a lot stronger and more indestructible than the voice of one young girl, however, and they would hardly be threatened or frightened enough by her to actually kill her for exposing how ruthless and endangering the huge industry is, and will always be.
I do NOT think she is yet comfortable in her own skin. Her eating disorder has created the very thing she feared, a bit of weight, and she looks wonderful to me, BUT,her body language in so many photos I’ve seen shows that she isn’t comfortable at all. She hasn’t lived long enough to have recovered…given more time, she hopefully will find some peace. She speaks too much about it all, regardless of whether or not she is asked outright…and as always, that is a red flag.
I understand that Hollyweird has an obsession with being thin. That said, I saw pictures of Demi in a bikini on the interweb this weekend and, imho, she looked fantastic!
^^ She looked good but she was constantly covering her stomach and I agree she was uncomfortable. Yes she is thicker now, she is no longer 15, the latino genes are showing and the effort to not be eating-disordered must be very challenging.
Is that a Rihanna shirt in the first photo? Great role model Demi 😒
I saw that too and was wondering the same thing! Crazy
So she is a bad role model now because she is a Rihanna fan? Are you gonna say that someone who is a personal trainer is a bad trainer because they like to eat pizza every now and then?…the mindset of a celebrity gossiper.
Well, DUH.
That was a lame post. even for your standards.
She needs to shut up & just clean up her act.
Well you need to present a statement that isn’t incoherent. But I guess that won’t happen anytime soon. So why on earth should she take your ill advice?
I wish her luck, but have a feeling this isn’t the last of her troubles. It sounds like she has a LOT of issues, and trying to keep a Hollywood career going probably isn’t the healthiest place to be in.
Wow, some of you are so harsh. The girl was barely into her teens when all this stuff started. Is she even out of her teens now? No one can say 100% that she’s lying or not taking full responsibility. Maybe she isn’t there yet. Addiction is a struggle and a process. But she is trying so I have to give her credit. She is admitting to her wrongs unlike certain people who claim to have no problem. Also people need to stop taking blinds at face value.
Cut the girl who makes an effort to clean up her act some slack.
Although I admire her honesty, I still feel like this is just another PR move. Demi somehow feels like she needs to stay relevant because she’s not doing exceptionally well as a singer. And I’m tired of hearing her boo-hoo stories. She’s not the first and only person in the world to go through horrible turmoil. Quite frankly, this girl is just another famewhore. What she needs to do is get the f-ck out of Hollywood, get someope REAL help and cut the bullsh-t.
ITA. Finally someone sees through her shit. Nobody forced her to take the drugs. She did them on her own freewill. If she should point the finger at somebody, she should do it at herself.
Again so then there is no such things as enablers right? Well I guess we should tell that to the drug dealers and the people PROVIDING drugs for other people right? Its not like THEY are contributing to addictions or anything like that! No not at all…psh
Lol, this is amusing to read. You say you admire her honesty but then you slam it for being a PR move? Of course it’s a PR move. Everything she does or any celebrity does is a “PR” move. But who says PR is evil? If you think she needs to stay relevant, well guess what? You’re the ones making her relevant. You are the ones that got her a gig with the entire nation of south America, got her a people’s choice award, a radio single that made the top 30 in a lot of radion stations. Congrats to you. YOU made her relevant. YOU are the ones causing these “boo hoo stories” Because YOU put them in the spotlight. And YOU made her successful as a singer. But what I want to know is who in this industry isn’t a “famewhore”? Is that your only thing to say about her? That she wants fame? She’s a celebrity duh. Her career kinda depends on it? You amuse me 🙂
Lookit…ever heard that saying, “It takes one to KNOW ONE???” Well, I’m “that one,” & I KNOW there are many, many more of you out there that “are one’s,” as well.
I’m clean & sober now, but all my life I struggled w/issues of alcoholism/addiction. Had my 1st drink @ 11 yrs. old. Drank 9 beers. Yeah, someone older provided such to me. Do you think FOR ONE MINUTE I’m pissed w/them? No. Why? Because the whole time it was happening, I wanted that shit. I couldn’t wait to have it. I couldn’t WAIT! Way back then I KNEW IT WAS WRONG. I knew I was way too young. Did I care? Hell no! I. WANTED. IT! I could not wait for it.
I got especially pissed when I read, ‘Promoters gave me drugs and alcohol in restaurants or clubs. They wanted me to come back so I would be seen there. They were basically kissing my ass,” she says, a flash of anger briefly interrupting her sunny demeanour.’
Oh, so she’s PISSED about that? She’s not being real…and I KNOW. She needs to STFU. She’s not being honest w/herself. She’s not admitting HER culpability…& it’s there, like it or not. She wanted it. She knew she was too young…just like I did. She knew what she was doing “was wrong.” All of us addicts/alcoholics KNOW what we’re doing is not right…we didn’t give a sh-t. We wanted what we wanted…NOW.
Guess what Demi? Ever heard of personal responsibility? You can’t buy it w/all the $$$ you have. It’s earned. Your road will continue to be rocky and hard, and life will SUCK until you finally admit the real truth. It feels much better when you break through to the other side.
Recovery is about getting to your CORE ISSUES. Admitting your “wrongs.” Righting your “wrongs.” Life will continue to be difficult and everything will be “everybody else’s fault,” and no one “will understand” poor Demi…until she breaks through to the other side. She’ll never “get it” until she man’s up to the truth. Sorry…she hasn’t recovered, is not recovering, or is on the right path yet.
I’m just sorry she has a large forum (media) where she can blame others. It’s sad. She has NO IDEA…she’s CLUELESS that others just like her see right through her bullsh-t.
Yeah, so she’s finally “admitting” there were other issues (drugs) that were addressed during her recovery. So, she & her people think they’re “surprising” anyone w/such “news?” We all knew. Again, just admitting they were lieing….we all knew it anyway.
Why don’t you keep to taking just your OWN inventory. (Just a suggestion to help you in your recovery 🙂
@Alexa, thanks for your comment. Actually, focusing on myself and my part in things is what I attempt to do daily.
I read this write-up and Demi’s interview (what she said) & felt the need to comment that when she focuses on what’s wrong w/others….malingering on people that provided her drinks/drugs..placing blame on them….she can’t change them…can’t change the past.
Since this is an issue that I’m familiar with…I have an interest. I just felt the need to comment, that’s all.
And you’re right….again, thanks for your comment.
oh *SNAP* lol
Kimbob you don’t have any experience or any know how as to what she goes through. Every story is different and every experience that someone tells is different from another persons story. You have no idea what she goes through yet you pretend to do with this crassly written post of yours.
In fact you come off sounding extremely pompous and disengenious through your entire post.
You honestly believe that her enablers had nothing to do with her addiction? Sad…
You know I am actually quite offended by this post of yours. You would think that a fellow person who knows what it is like to be an addict would be a little more sympathetic or understanding when it came to this yet you just sound extremely condenscending.
I mean you even admit that you started drinking when you were 11 years old. I don’t know many 11 year olds that would drink 9 beers at a time. Did someone NOT provide them for you and enabled your addiction? Guess what? That person played their part as well. Especially when you are 11 and don’t any better? How can you sit there and say that your enabler did Nothing to contribute to YOUR addiction isssues when time and time again it shows that yes. Enablers DO contribute to addictions. What you did was wrong yes. But guess what the people who gave you those substance played their part as well.
And who cares who gave her the substances? Be it promoters or what not or the people who she thought was her friends. Does it matter who gave her the substances? She has a right to be angry at drug enablers since they are the ones providing the substances to those who rely on those vices. You say she is no real but there is nothing more truthful about the enabling side of the party. You say she needs to STFU yet here you are sharing a SIMIALR story where your sins have been enabled by someone as well.
You say she doesn’t admit to her culpability, time and time again she has said that she did things she regretted and what not. Time and time again she says she is trying to set a better example for her family and friends, and oh yeah she went to rehab.
She wouldnt have GONE to treatment if she wasn’t admitting culpability. That is just folly to say.
Guess what Kimbob? Ever heard of responsibility on the OTHER end? Ever heard of people who enable said addiction? You know the guy who provided you with beer when you were only 11 years old? Oh yeah, they play their parts as well and if you think THEY have no play into your previous issues, then you’re the one with the problem.
If recovery is about getting to your CORE ISSUES and admitting YOUR wrongs, and righting YOUR wrongs, then you haven’t fully recovered. YOU haven’t fully recovered if you don’t acknowledge the people that support and enable addicts with their vices. YOU haven’t fully recovered if you honestly think the person who gave you beer at 11 years old played no part in your addiction. YOU haven’t fully recovered if you don’t believe that TRUE responsibility is a two way street. The person DOING the addictive behaviors, and the person PROVIDING the substance for said addictive behaviors. And until YOU break through the other side to see REAL responsibility to see it as the two way street it is, YOU will ever get it until YOU man up to see the truth. If recovery is everything what you claim it is, then by YOUR own words you haven’t recovered, you’re not recovering nor or you even close to being on the right path.
Time and time you say accept responsibility, well what about getting the other side to accept their responsibility? If that the case then YOU have no idea about what it is and YOU are clueless and the only one speaking some serious BS, is you by your massive contradictions.
If YOU really want to recovery, then why don’t you practice what you preach. See the other people who provide for said addictions and have THEM take responsibility. Because they played just as much as a part in your addictions as well.
@Kimbob But you don’t have any experience or any know how as to what she goes through. Every story is different and every experience that someone tells is different from another persons story. You have no idea what she goes through yet you pretend to do with this crassly written post of yours.
In fact you come off sounding extremely pompous and disengenious through your entire post.
You honestly believe that her enablers had nothing to do with her addiction? Sad…
I will say this. By her talking about her issues and enablers and what not? She’s on a much better path of recovery than you are. And THAT is the truth.
Where the hell were her parents and managers?
On the other side of that though, they didn’t force her. I was a teenager and in college with access to all kinds of hardcore crap, didn’t touch it. Ever.
Except you were an adult in college and probably ( I say probably cause I don’t know you) not supporting your whole family. Demi was a kid with adult responsibilities surrounded by shitty adults. Would of been great if she was so grown at 14 but she wasnot. I have never taken drugs of any kind and can count on my hands the drinks I’ve had in my life but I always had a strong sense of myself. Heck I couldnot even be bothered dating as a teen/college men were just a worthless distraction to me.
Where were her parents? No way in he!! would my young kids be out partying alone like that.
And what bothers me is her victim mentality. Most of us have faced temptations at college or when we moved away from home. Most of us managed to say no.
Sadly with the amount of alcoholics and druggies around “most” people DIDNOT manage to say no. Let’s not even count the millions stuck on pain killers. This girl had SHITTY parents who did not set her up with a good background and sent her to the worlds worst place for any child to be. I don’t personally care about Demi but we’ve seen this story time after time in Hollywood.
Well no offense but your young kids are probably not world famous pop stars who had the weight of their entire house hold o. Their shoulders. Th fact that you compare your kids to Demi lovato is hilarious. I doub your kids have half the responsibility she has to be a bread winner at 14. What a foolish statement to make. Comparing your kids to a public figure…psh.
Not every person is the same. Some people buckle into peer pressure easier than others. You say you wouldn’t let your kid party, but Demi is a popstar. It would make sense to go out to different events…that’s what the majority of hollywood does.
And it seemed like she hid most of her problems from her mom. She cut herself where no one would see. She said her mom thought the weight loss was because she was a teen going through puberty. Mood SWings probably would have been attributed to being a Teen as well.
So I guess she wants to go from “the former Disney child actor/singer” to “former cutter/bulimic/addict/rehab/…” What about just trying to go for the girl who has a good voice and can sing?
I guess you missed all the promo for her album she has been doing right? Or the fact that she is…l dunno..on tour right now? Ah doi!
Kind of makes me wonder about all the other young ones, how many of them have been offered crap along the way and the results. I mean, of course we see Miley, LL, etc..just like what about the JoBros, Justin Beiber, whoever. Is it just certain ones and how far does it go? It’s a really sad world, that’s all I can say. Hope all these kids can get or stay clean.
See this is what I think about. I’d bet some of them dabbled and thankfully didnot get hooked. Some had fierce parents that protected them.
You are aware that people with fierce parents still get hooked onto drugs. There are many favors which you don’t take into consideration. Then again you foolishly bash someone with no first hand experience of that person. So I don’t expect common sense from the masses.
I’m honestly amazed by the naysayers in these comments. I’m not really familiar with Demi Lovato but my impression of her from these snippets is that she’s pulled her life together from the disaster – the early death, or worse, Lohanesque living death, that it could have been. She’s talking candidly about her struggles and some young people might find something helpful in her honesty. And people are bashing her for it.
So she made the choice to take drugs or to drink? Nobody made her take cocaine? Yeah, sure, nobody held her down and forced the stuff down her throat or up her nose, but since when is life EVER that black and white?
She was still a kid, without the constant support of family and friends or normal life, instead surrounded by people who were making money off her; being scrutinised in the media while going through puberty, when everyone feels weird and freakish anyway. However gratifying it must be to be a hot young star – something every little kid dreams of; what kid would turn it down? – it must be equally isolating, and being a cog in the Disney machine must be gruelling. We’ve seen how it turned out for other child stars. We know that it’s ended in, at the very least, a precarious mental state for Britney Spears, and obvious drink issues for Christina Aguilera.
If someone turns to drink and drugs because they’re unhappy, because they’re miserable, they feel hollow and empty – I can’t laugh at someone in that position. I’ve felt that way, even as an adult, and I feel grateful that I can still go to my family and curl up on the couch and be loved. If I’d had someone offer me drugs at my most vulnerable, and I was that desperate, I’d probably have said yes.
And I don’t have to go out in front of thousands of people and pretend I’m a carefree young thing and everything’s fine, and then go back to a hotel room with everybody else saying how great my life is, high on adrenalin and feeling alone. Older and wiser performers than her have fallen prey to the same sense of come-down, and taken the same route out.
So she goes out surrounded by her surrogate family, her managers, people who she’s supposed to be able to trust, and they offer her drugs, they buy her drink – kids say yes. They think they’re invincible. When you’re a kid, you assume that the adults looking after you won’t do anything to hurt you. If they’re telling you “just a little sniff, look, I’m doing it and I’m just fine” and you’re already depressed…?
Very few people make the conscious choice to get sick; addiction is a sickness. Sure, everyone knows Drugs Are Bad, but in a moment of weakness, in desperation, NEWSFLASH: people do dumb things. Even kids. ESPECIALLY kids.
If she’s blaming the people who supplied her with drugs, then she’s right to do so and shouldn’t be criticised for speaking out. Those people should have helped her cope with her emotional issues, they should have recognised that she was sick, and instead they offered her drugs and drink as a means to keep her Up and onstage. She should call them out on that, absolutely. These weren’t random fellow clubbers or her contemporaries. Two club kids sharing a toot, both in the same position – sad, but no-one to blame. But these were adults, with whom she had a relationship of trust, and they gave drugs to a child. Yes, they are responsible for what they did. Do we deny the responsibility of adults toward the young people in their care, or even in their employ?
Is it because she’s a Disney kid people feel comfortable sneering at her? Do they same people mock Robert Downey Jr’s struggle to get clean? I just don’t get the hate.
Apologies for the rant.
No apologies needed. In fact this was the most sanest post I have ever read. Other than my own 🙂
*clapping* Exactly. This Demi girl is not even on my radar but it’s odd seeing the response knowing the way adults with same issues get praised for even mentioning it. Is there even One big Disney female star in the last 20 years that hasnot gone through some shit. Of course there is personal responsibitlity. But it’s too many of them to be a coincidence. Something is wrong with that system.
now..THAT is a news.funny,she just admitted that she WAS accepting drugs from others AND doing them even when she was on her own..nice
Just out of curiosity here and slightly OT–am I the only one who has done/occasionally does recreational drugs?
Obviously, addiction is another issue and so is being underage and being offered this stuff. So I’m not really addressing that in this comment. But the general tone of this thread seems to ignore the fact that drugs are a fairly commonplace reality in a lot of circles. It’s not limited to a certain type of “bad” or “crazy” person, necessarily. I’m starting to think a lot of people would be surprised by just who partakes in drugs in this world, if only occasionally.
I’m with ya. I started doing drugs way too young but have reached a happy medium of occasional indulgence 😉
I have never taken drugs( not even smoked pot) but I’d be lieing if I pretended everyone was like me. Plenty of people that are married with great careers have dabbled and will continue to. I don’t even personally know anyone ( other than myself) that hasnot tried pot and many will have way better careers/ lives than me.
YES, I have totally done plenty of drugs. Lucky to have not gotten addicted to coke – I certainly did plenty. Still smoke weed sometimes.
Have battled alcohol addiction for a long-ass time. I consider myself very familiar with addiction though thankfully (for myself) only alcohol.
I have not smoked cigarettes or done drugs other than pot once. I drank in college but that was a long time ago.
I suspect that I am on the far end of the continuum, but it works for me; I can’t say that I feel as though I am missing out.
I’ve never done drugs. And it’s not like I never had the opportunity. I was once invited to a party by a friend where there was going to be pot. I told my friend I wasn’t really cool with that, and she understood. Never pressured me (so that was nice). I don’t judge anyone that had done it or still does it though.
Poor girl, I can’t believe the promoters. Who the hell are these people?
Yeah seriously! ‘Who cares if she’s 15, I want her at my bar/club/restaurant dammit..so make it happen! And get the good stuff.’ Ughh we can only imagine the reality.
Honestly, I have no idea who she is. I’ve seen her name around and her face plastered on rag mags but I don’t know who she is or why she matters. Finally, out of curiosity and boredom I looked on imdb.com and I still can’t recall her.
Ah the power of Demi Lovato. Grabbing people’s attention without even knowing it. Even those douchey IMDB visitors.
You need to get a grip.
LOL.
She must hate her thighs, since she’s pulling her shirt down over them in the pictures. That’s what crossed my mind after reading her quotes. She has a beautiful voice.
She isn’t that talented even by today’s low pop standards and how is her music all that different from all these other disney clones and products. For someone that grew up on the rock and soul of the 70s her stuffs borderline unlistenable.
Yes,zelda, i smoked alot when i was young, but i outgrew it, eventually walking around in a haze loses it’s appeal.
I understand where you are coming from with regard to the crap that constitutes music today compared to the awesomeness that was the 70’s and 80’s rock bands.
That being said, Demi is quite talented with a quality of voice that doesn’t rely on autotune like 98% of her female contemporaries.
So in other words you’re basically saying “Bla bla bla My music is better than yours bla bla bla” Wow thank you for that incoherent argument. Because that just makes so much sense. Cause there was no such thing as bad music back in the 70’s or 80’s right? Rockwell anyone…what a foolish post.
I’ll give you rockwell, then let’s see zeppelin, queen, kiss, alice cooper, elton john, aretha, bob marley, black sabbath, def leppard, pat benatar, blondie, etc. of course there is/was bad music in every decade who denies that; but it has been balanced out by good/great music – why would anyone defend a manufactured disney product have you watched those camp rock movies. My point is not incoherent – i’m not sure where you’re coming from.
@Jover You still haven’t proved anything other than pompous elitism here in this post. Which still comes off as disjointed and incredibly incoherent. Anyone with access to Google can do what you. Name artists in the past who have done well and compare them to a RECENT artist? That doesn’t prove that anyone is better. Also are you aware that half of these bands/artist back in their days were panned for the most part? Kiss was heavily criticized for their mid work which has for the most part been described as alternative rather than metal. Black Sabbath didn’t even REACH mainstream success until the mid 70’s when they were Even then Iron Man’s biggest peak position was what….52 at the time? Where I am coming from is pretty apparent. It’s foolish to say “My music is better than yours” when yours at that time? Was in its earliest phase and questionable at best. And don’t get me started on Alice Cooper who for the most part of his career was seen more so as an Ozzy Wannabe without the talent.
Is this interview from a uk or us mag?.She looks more like a Uk 10 – 12 ( = us size 6-8) than the us version. Not that it matters cos she looks fab either way.
I support Demi. I think she has been through a lot, and she is owning to her mistakes. That is so powerful, and why I think she has a bright future whereas Lindsey Lohan does not. To move on, you have to own what you did. She is owning it.
I think her mention of the promoters is a GREAT thing. They really do enable bad behavior of minors. They prey on children for their own business needs.
When your own mother is one of the biggest enablers out there, what chance does a little girl have in the snake pit of H-wood? Sounds to me like she tried playing the PR game, but it didn’t feel true to her so now she’s being more open. Opening up and admitting you have a problem is the start of healing and she’s attempting that. If she backslides, it happens, just get back on the horse and answer to one’s own harshest critic – oneself. I think she’ll be fine. I hope she’ll be fine.
What a surprise. Another article about Demi Lovato where she talks about her rehab. Wasn’t it like 2 years ago? Let it go gurl. Try to stay relevant by working and not by mumbling about your rehab every day. The point is to go to rehab, get cured and live your new life. While Demi Lovato acts like she got out of rehab last week and wants to share with everybody her feeling about that. Honey you did this like 300 times already. Stop it.
Here was Demi Lovato – some Disney or Nickelodeon teen star who was even less famous then Amanda Bynes. She was kind of a D lister. And then out of nowhere she went to rehab and then began talking about it in every interview for two years and here she is – a C+ lister. And it’s not like she does something. She only gives interview about her rehab. And sometimes she revisits rehab because it helped he so much that she wants to go there every year now.
I’m confused by this mindset of yours Shy. Seriously I don’t understand what you are trying to say. Are you saying she can’t talk about her own issues to the public without someone scrutinizing her yet you can talk about it? You’re telling HER to NOT talk about her own problems, but you can. I don’t understand that concept. AS far as staying relevant by working, maybe you don’t know this, but she is on tour right now. In south America to say the least on a successful international tour. I do believe that constitutes as working. Not to mention that she didn’t even mention rehab at all. This was more about how she got drugs and what to stay away from. SO yeah there’s that. But I really don’t understand why she should stop talking about when you won’t? Lets make a deal. You get everyone in the world to stop blogging tweeting, updating their facebook status, tumblrs and all that stuff about Demi Lovato’s issues, you get them to STOP doing that, and THEN she will stop talking about her issues. That sound good? Alrighty then. Get right on it.
Also as far as being less famous than Amanda Bynes, little factoid for you, Demi Lovato when she started out was in two successful Disney movies had two albums out back then and had a few successful tours underneath her belt while Amanda Bynes didn’t even have anything other than some lame show under hers. And as far as her NOT doing anything you would be right if you were to ignore her teens for Jeans campaign, the love is louder foundation, recording new music and constant promo tours and interviews, filming music videos, her work with the JED foundation, seventeen magazine and all that stuff, if you were to ignore ALL of that, including her anti bullying work, her radio promos, her interviews about new music and oh yeah that south american tour that she is currently on? You would be right. Again you would have to ignore ALL of what I mentioned above for her to “Not do something.” just saying.
Can we back up a few steps here? Isn’t this girl just a once-upon-a-time, has-been child star? I mean, is there anyone over the age of 16 that cares what she does/is doing? And if there is, please tell me why. She is one of those people whose name I only know because they’re on the gossip blogs. (Which means her publicist is earning his/her keep…)
Honestly, she got tremendously more famous for going to rehab. Before that she was in some crappy disney tv movies and had her own show. Now she has about 5 million followers on twitter…. I don’t know why
I only know her from gossip blogs, as I am FAR to old to have watched Camp Rock or any of the other tween crap she was in. But there are clearly some people out there who seem to know everything about her & can explain away her every dodgy move…
Well you obviously care enough to comment. So there’s that/
Yeah a has been child star. If you were to count the fact that she got famous only four years ago. AS far as anyone at the age of 16 that cares what she is doing? No not really. That is if you don’t count the 6 plus million followers she has on twitter and the 12 plus million people who like her on face book and the people buy her CD’s and talk about and what not. Other than them? Can’t say I do. As far as who she is? Well she is certainly someone who you have taken an interest into. So I guess she is doing her job when people who don’t even know she is has taken a HUGE interest in her.
About that last photo… these celebrities and reality people need to STOP with the hair extensions!
They look ridiculous. And obvious.
This girl is all kinds of messed up. Here’s a suggestion….leave H’wood and the limelight and stop chasing fame and focus on recovery and a life outside of H’wood.
Some people here really need to learn how to respect other people’s opinions. Sheesh. Just saying.
I find it really hard to believe that clubs were courting her with drugs etc. Her demographic was young teens and preteens at the time – she was on a Disney show and her music was promoted by Radio Disney and the Disney Channel. She has a great singing voice and certainly can make a career as an adult – but she’s making up stories about the clubs. Her fans weren’t old enough to get in the door legally, and she was underage also. No way a club would want to use her as a draw. I can believe her drug connections were at the clubs, though.
Demi you’re hot!I could make you feel great about your body!It takes another woman.
Right, okay so you all think that demi is just another superstar taking drugs and stuff, no. This is a serious thing to us girls and boys out there. She is a role model and what she has been throught it quite a lot! And no one should be put up to that underage drinking and self harm I know because I’ve done it myself and all that you can’t just have a go at her she is a deep loved, hispanic, down to earth girl that I would love to meet she has saved thousands of lives even more than that! She is a hero and she saved my life I think that’s all I have to say stay dtrong demi. X