Angelina and her mom, Marcheline Bertrand, out with a then-infant Maddox on 6/12/02
Angelina Jolie lost her mother nearly two years ago but doesn’t seem to have let herself take the time to really work through that grieving process. She’s not unique in trying to deal with tragedy and difficult feelings by staying busy and focusing on other people, it’s common. Unfortunately, dealing with loss this way often makes finding closure a much longer journey. Jolie’s superwoman image cracked a little recently when she was talking about how her mother influenced how she played her character in The Changeling.
She has to keep it together for the sake of her kids, but she is only human and falls apart from time to time,” a longtime friend of Angelina tells OK!. “She is still a mess over Marcheline’s departure, believing no one understands her the way her mother did. They had a very strong bond that she feels she will never have with another person.”
Throughout her grief, Angelina has been able to rely on her family. Her partner Brad Pitt has especially helped her get through the dark times. “Brad has been her rock, and he will always be there for her,” the friend tells OK!. “Without his love, she would never have been able to cope.”
Angelina also has drawn strength from her children, Maddox, Pax, Zahara, Shiloh and 4-month-old twins Knox and Vivienne, whose middle name honors Marcheline.
“Mad tries to cheer her up and makes her laugh and smile,” reveals her friend. “She feels like she is the most privileged woman to have such an incredible family and has said her mother is a guardian angel over her household.”
[From OK! Magazine]
Grieving the loss of a loved one is a process with many steps and no determinate amount of time to get through it. When the loved one is a parent that was very close, the process is even more intense and there is a real need to take the time to work through it, no matter how strong or together you are. This means taking time for yourself, dealing with the loss, your feelings, and how you’re going to go on with your life without one of the most important people in it. Most of us have or will go through this, and all of us with a heart support people who are living through the devastation of losing someone so close.
It was a little disturbing to hear people malign Jolie for tearing up when talking about her mom. You can feel whatever moves you about her acting, her exposure, her relationship, even how many kids she has if you really need to, but no one should judge someone else’s mourning process. Everyone’s pain in losing a parent or loved one is unique to them and how much you miss them hits you at random times. Even Angelina Jolie deserves some sympathy, doesn’t she?
I saw the interview and loved that she wasn’t afraid to cry about her mother. Yeah, it pisses me off when people say she’s an actress and she was playing the sympathy card. Over the years, she’s always talked about her mom, so I think she was completely sincere. I can’t even think about losing my mother and she drives me nuts all the time. When my mom was diagnosed with cancer and we weren’t sure she was going to make it, I completely lost it. Even though she survived, if I talk to anyone about it, I still cry about it.
I will never get over the loss of my mom– when it happens! I can’t imagine not having that person there- to text at a moment’s notice, to always read loving emails from, to talk on the phone with for hours, to go everywhere and do everything with…she’s so much to me. And of course we have an understanding and share experiences that no one else could…. so wow. I thikn about it because I know she wont live forever. She’s only 49 now but I’m already realizing I need to be aware and fully there in each moment when we are together. I hope I am better off on my feet when that happens, too.
I think given Angelina’s difficulties surrounding her father’s abandonment of the family (her), it comes as no surprise that she would take her mother’s death especially hard.
There’s a line in a movie where the main character says “I’m like a balloon; without someone to hold my string, I’d just float away”. I think moms are that person for almost all of us. I know mine is.
Yeah, the grief is real. Angelina’s grieving process might be so difficult because her mother was sick for so many years – in effect, Marcheline was not a cancer survivor, but simply living with a managable cancer (for a time). Perhaps Angie never really let herself admit that there would be a day when her mother wouldn’t be *living* with it.
I love these old pics of Angie and little Maddox. He’s was such an adorable baby! And Angie and her mom look so cute together.
I am so pleased to see the positive comments. I know the kids will come in later for the negative stuff. I am blessed to say I still have my Mom. I do have several friends who have lost their Moms, and it is a lost that you never get over. A wound that does not heal. She has been so honest with the public about her life..successes, failures, and pains. I think that is partly why she generates such strong responses in fans and haters alike. It is easy to attack. She stands before us all as she is. No real secrets. Others in the celeb culture are easier to like. We know next to nothing about them. They are empty boxes that the public fills with their own ideas of whom these people are. More times then not, we find in the end that they are just what they appear to be.. Empty boxes. She is an unique one. It will be along time when another Angelina Jolie comes around. She is an original. Yes, dare I say… I am a huge fan.
I lost my mom 4 years ago. It never gets easier. I think you grieve for the rest of your life – just in different stages.
I was absolutely disgusted reading the horrible things people said about her after that interview.
Baho – I love the balloon line. Very Poetic. And I think your right – mom’s are balloons.
Well, yes. You don’t get over it in a month, a year, three years, 10 years, you just figure out a way to cope with it. As someone whose mum died very suddenly, her absence is a raw, sad, at times unbearable fact of my everyday life. You’re not in control of when and where the loss will hit you. Or the way you respond to it.
I genuinely can’t understand how anyone, regardless of what they feel about other aspects of AJ’s life, could have so little compassion/objectivity as to believe she would seriously milk her grief to sell a film. I’m not easily shocked but this shocked me.
Glad you like it Kristen, just to say though, us kids are the balloons and our moms hold the strings 🙂
I lost my mom 11 and a half years years ago. I was 27 at the time, so I was all grown up, but I tell you, the pain never stops. We were very close, called each other every day, sent little care packages in the mail, etc. After she died I found 5 years worth of Christmas presents stock piled in her closet for me. You just never get over it, you never never do. She wasn’t there for my wedding day, or to meet my kids, and even the mundane stuff hurts, like when I see a great movie and am dying to tell her about it.
However, because she always gave me her support, no matter what, I never feel in “need” of her. That love and support never, ever goes away. If I need to get through something tough, I know that her support continues, as it always had, even though she’s gone. That is what I want to convey to my own children and what I would encourage everyone to give to theirs. Unconditional love and support never, ever die.
It’s uncanny how very much alike they look (except for the lips).
I totally understand Angelina. I just don’t see why people “close to her” always have to go blabbing to the press. That would make me so mad and paranoid.
Wow guys all these comments have made me teary eyed. I feel lucky that my mother is still alive, as I’m only 24. But as I’m growing up, we’re becoming closer and closer, and she’s more like a companion to me now than a mother. The day I lose her will be the most devastating of my life, I know that, and thinking that one day I’ll have to deal with that makes me very sad. I totally feel for anyone who has lost someone close to them, whether they’re an ordinary member of the public or a Hollywood celebrity, the loss is still the same, and very painful.
Beautiful comments – a big hug.
Debra, I don’t think we’ll have to wait very long for another Angelina. Between Shiloh, Zahara and Vivenne, one of them is bound to be an Angelina-esque hellraiser.
Wif, You wrote that you were all grown up at 27 when you lost your Mom. Your comment really hit home with me, and it broke my heart to read it. I was 47 when my Mom died and don’t think I could have gone through this loss at 27.
The close relationship you had with your Mom is a testament to her as a loving Mother. She would be proud 😉
yeh, I agree, it is a testament: the deeper your grieve, the more a wonderful mum they were . . . . . .
It took me 7yrs before I could look at my mother’s photo again; I would sob if I saw her handwriting, and was on anti-depressants for 12yrs.
My daughters most definitely helped me thro, and it calmed me to think my mother’s genes were in them too; she was part of them.
My brother said he thought of our mother (in death) as a swan teaching all the other fledglings to swim and fly
Angelina broke-down as soon as she mentioned her mother’s ‘pet-name’, which was ‘marshmallow'(because she was so soft and gooey, I think Angie tried to say).Obviously that’d be enough to crack anyone up into tears – it would me.
I’m so glad AJ has such a loving family to carry her through this.
You never truly ‘get-over’ it, you just get used to it.
and btw- what lovely photos, thanks Jx
Can’t even begin to imagine life without my Mom (or my Dad). They recently moved nearby in order to be a regular part of my kids’ lives, and it’s been a gift for them, and for me. My heart goes out to all of you who have lost parents, and anyone else you loved dearly. As Daisy said, they would surely be proud!
My mum is 77 and lives 5 minutes away. I often wonder what I’m going to do without her when she’s gone. I go over there in my pj’s for a cup of tea at a moment’s notice. She’s the very best friend I will ever have.
My mother just died from cancer a month ago, and frankly, I can’t imagine getting over her, even two years from now. I believe Angelina when she says no one knew her like her mother. I have never felt more alone. I have a wonderful husband and beautiful child, but no one will ever know me either the way my mother did. We shouldn’t expect people to ‘get over’ things like this. These are the wounds we live with.
My Nana (maternal grandmother) died in late 1999. My mother still cries on occasion when remembering her. So do I. They had a complicated relationship, but even when that’s true…you never get over losing your mother.
You don’t have to fake that kind of grief.
phoney – while her mom was dying, she was to busy chasing Brad Pitt – but once she purposely got herself pregnant (she admitted it in an interview) she went to see her mom. Changling is now not even in the top 11 movies! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha The phoney media whore needs to go away like she said she would. She’s box office poison
I thought at one time I would find the death of a parent less emotionally devasting as I got older, and it would become apparent this was the natural order of things.
I was 46 when my mother had a brain aneursym and came close to death. I would come home in the evening with a hole in my stomach from grief and just collaspe on the floor crying. I could not then, and I can not now, imagine my life without her, or my father. To know its inevitable is like a shadow in the corner of room. Every now and then the shadow begins to emerge, but then it retreats. Unfortunately, it will one day emerge completely, and I just dont know how my life will go on.
Baho – your right I just read what I wrote.
Must have had too much Thanksgiving celebration last night! LOL
Anyway – thanks again. I still love it!
WIF ~
Well you sound like you are a very loving person. We are all lucky to have the people we love in our lives as long as we do. My mom wasn’t at my wedding either and I too found Christmas presents around her house after she had passed away. She was sick for ten years and in that amount of time the pain she must have felt still haunts me. But I have two children and your right your must convey unconditional love. Our parents live on through us and our children. By reading your post – I can feel that your mother must have been a great woman.
There are no guarantees in life and you must live life to the fullest. I guess that is why I like Angelina so much. She definitely lives her life to the fullest.
So tonight I’m going to raise my glass to all of our mothers…. and the amazing love and strength they gave us all.
mindy, I can only assume you have never suffered a personal loss like this, to be able to post something like that.
My mother passed away six years ago, and I was in my 30s. Although my life goes on, and I cope with that loss, it will never stop being a loss.
Diana ~
My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I know your loss is immense – but your family will get you through it. Hang in there and know that you are not alone.
Mindy ~
Your comments are cold hearted. Have you read any of these posts today.
I think your comment is disrespectful to everyone on this site who has expressed their loss.
Have you ever lost anyone close to you?
Speaking as a daughter and mother, it is an incredible loss to her and for any woman who loses her mother. When I had my son, 14 years ago, it was my mother who bathed me after my c-section. When I had my daughter 8 years ago, it was my mom who tended me after another c-section. So I can totally understand how Angelina must have felt not having her mother helping her with her personal things after giving birth. Its an incredible loss. I am very lucky to have my mom by my side.
I lost my mom 10 years ago and I still tear up when I just see or hear something that reminds me of her. I will never get over it but I do my best to cope daily with the fact that she is gone.
Mindy, you have a cold cold heart, abd are a bitter bitter person who needs to seek mental health treatment ASAP as you have no soul. Angelina emotionally and financially and in every other way supported her mom for years, and Brad stayed with her mom like Angelina and James did when her mom has acute illness days. Her mom was sick for many years and always overcame the disease until the last crisis which she did not survive. By the way, both Brad and Angelina have said that they wanted bio kids and both willingly participated in their conceptions, this is a fact and has nothing to do with this thread.
All please excuse any typos I made as this Mindy person is most upsetting to me. Grief signals a loss one never gets over, you just do the best you can to deal with it.
“she purposely got herself pregnant”
Interesting. Just how does that work? Mind you, I am child free, but I seem to recall that it takes two people to make a pregnancy occur. I don’t understand how any woman could possibly “get herself pregnant.” Generally there is a man involved.
Or are you trying to say that she had an immaculate conception?
I’m not a fan of Angelina, but I thought that interview was very sad. It didn’t seem fake @ all.
I lost my Mom 15 years ago after a short battle with cancer. I was 31 and married so had a wonderful life and support … but … part of me still feels like a 7 year old girl who just wants her Mommy. The longing for her laughter, support, chastising, conspiring, mischievousness etc. hasn’t dimmed a nanogram. Sometimes it’s worse now because of a very real frame of reference for how it’s always going to be without her. I am closing in on the age she was when she got sick and that scares and saddens me further.
Mindy does have a point though … when her Mom was dying, Angelina didn’t disappear to be with her Mom, she was all about Brad and breaking her own word about not being involved with a married man because of her own childhood (sex or no sex doesn’t matter – they fell in love and that’s all that needs saying).
Angelina does some amazing charity work and when she uses her fame for that, she deserves kudos. But she uses her fame to be St. Angie and that’s sickening. If she didn’t try to paint herself as a moral earth mother type, I’d have some respect for her. However, she spouts one thing and does another … that’s just too much to handle.
I know how real the grief is from loosing my mother. I don’t know how real her grief was because there doesn’t seem to be alot to trust with her. She reinvents herself and reality at a whim.
I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt today. It’s unfathomable to even consider that she’d use her mother’s death as a publicity tool to rebound from the “whoops, I blew it when I admitted the whole Smith & Smith thing”.
I find Mindy to be upsetting too. I lost my mom 3 years ago, I was 63 but it is never easy, and even if you are not close it’s a loss that’s terrible to deal with. My mother had mental problems which were hard to deal with, and most of the time she seemed like a burden, but when she died I realized I’d lost the one person who believed in me totally and supported me absolutely, and I’ll never have a chance to tell her that. It still hurts. I don’t expect it to go away.
By the way, Mindy, if you’re as gorgeous as Angelina, you don’t have to chase Brad Pitt, he chases you. Get a grip, don’t let your stupid hatred make you look insensitive and loathesome.
Mindy, are you serious? I was reading all these lovely things about how much people’s mothers mean to them and then your cruel comment popped up. Even if you’re not an Angelina fan (I know not everyone is) that is a terrible thing to say. Nobody with any kind of soul would try and use a loss like that to promote films.
To everyone else, your mothers sound like amazing people, whether they are here or the next life.
My granny died in 2004. I spent Thanksgiving speaking about her. Grief isn’t a cut and clear process!
There is more than one way to lose a parent. My mother is still alive but she is over 90 and I have been losing a bit more of her every day to Alzheimers disease.
It is quite painful to watch a formerly vibrant, active and very intelligent woman shut down inside her head and lose interest in everything around her. She has better days and worse days but on her worse days she doesn’t even know who I am.
I can relate to Angelina’s pain. She is fortunate that her mother remained alert to the end and she never had to watch her deteriorate mentally to the point where she was a shell of her former self.
I would point out to Mindy (and the rest of the Voices of Pro-Womanhood who haven’t turned up yet) that you don’t know that she was nowhere near her mother when she died. SHe manages to get to all these far flung countries and we often don’t hear about it until she gets back. Well, I would point that out, but I’m assuming Mindy has gone back under her bridge and is waiting for some billy goats gruff to annoy. 😉
Angelina spent 30 years with her mother in her life, to assume that she should have finished tearing up and getting upset within 18 months is not only heartless, but unrealistic.
Diana, my sympathies with your recent loss. I hope it won’t be long before the good memories are stronger than your grief.
To all of those who’ve poured their hearts out here remembering their loved ones, I wish you all well. As tear-jerking as these stories are to read, aren’t they just beautiful? How lucky we are to have these great losses. Some people have no one worth mourning.
Grief is a long and horrible process. Angie is honest in her grief and that is a good thing. What I find sad is that her fans are so nasty and rude to others who are also going through a grieving process. They will make hrroible comments about Britney when she has had huge loses, and others. They will say that certain stars have “pity parties” when they are grieving. Death is a horrible thing but losing family through divorce, mental illness or other things can also cause horrible grief. To make fun of others people’s grief is rude and should never be done. And yes grief can last for years. I wish that the Brad/Angie fans were as kind to other who are grieving as they are to Angie.
And I also don’t believe that Mindy is a Angie hater. I have always believed that people who post like this are Angie fans who are trying to stir up trouble and get people to respond to make alot of posts. I believe that because the commments sound so much like the hate commments posted on Jennifer’s posts. They are the same people. There are a few fans of Angie/Brad who want to keep this whole hate thing going because they love it. Responding to this person is just what they want – Ignore them.
With this said I have always wondered why Angie decided to stay in New Orleans with Brad when her mother was dying. she also went to somewhere in South America for Christmas a month or so before she died. I know she was close to her mother and I was surprised that she didn’t spend the last few days of her life with her. Do you think that no one knew she was dying? Probably not. I often wonder if some of the grief she has is regret. I know that I certainly would. My father died and I wonder wonder should I have done this, should I have spent more time with him. Regrets can increase grief. So sad that she is struggling so. Hopefully she will get alot of help around this – It cannot be easy.
I lost my beloved Dad only a few months ago – I’m dreading Christmas
“What I find sad is that her fans are so nasty and rude to others who are also going through a grieving process. They will make hrroible comments about Britney when she has had huge loses, and others. They will say that certain stars have “pity parties” when they are grieving. Death is a horrible thing but losing family through divorce, mental illness or other things can also cause horrible grief. To make fun of others people’s grief is rude and should never be done. And yes grief can last for years. I wish that the Brad/Angie fans were as kind to other who are grieving as they are to Angie.”
Susan, I don’t agree with many people ALL of the time, but I thought the exact same thing as you did this time. Grief is grief… no matter how you slice it or what you experience. The same people who melt over one person’s tears, cut up someone else they don’t like when they cry or throw a “pity party” (term used loosely and not intended to call out anyone) over their grief… It’s an odd thing for me to see/hear. 🙁
my mommy passed away from a very short battle with breast cancer when i was 11. that was 11 years ago, and i still want to scream and cry about it every so often.
i am not particularly (spelled wrong probably) a fan of AJ, but i respect her for showing her emotions like she does. its hard to lose your mom, i still cant believe it sometimes.
oh…and mindy-youre a bitch.
All adults lose parents, I lost my mom 19 yrs ago and my dad 4 yrs ago, i still miss them both. You would think since the only parent that AJ has left is her dad, she would make an effort to reconcile with him. Or better yet she could grieve the loss of her morality, it died many years ago.
I lost my mum when I was 15 and the more time passes by, the more I suffer and miss her like crazy. I am 30 now, and when I tell people I feel her presence, some made fun of it and that made me cry and sad. It was sad to see them making fun of me, and so unexpected. They have no clue what it means to not have your mother by your side most of your life. 😥
But susan, you yourself said something similar to Mindy on the NYT thread – I can’t quote directly as it’s deleted now, but it was to the effect that Angelina was using her mother’s death to promote herself.
So… are you an AJ fan trying to stir things up and turn everyone against JA and be all anti-wimmin? Sorry, if that’s the agenda I still have the same opinion of JA as i had 5-10 years ago. Her fans on the other hand…
For the record, I’m pretty sure that aaages ago I did say something like Aniston was grieving for her marriage 3-4 years ago. But the difference there is that Brad Pitt is still alive and the two of them have seemingly managed to keep some sort of friendship going.
To Diana, xiaoecho and others – I’m very sorry for your loss. I can imagine what you’re going through, but I can’t even begin to understand your sorrow.
Cheyenne, my heart does go out to you too, I’ve seen Alzheimer’s and if ever there was an illness to be scared of, that’s it. I just hope that your mother remains comfortable for the rest of her days and your family has the strength to cope.
When Marcheline died all the tabs said Angelina, Brad,and James Haven were there. We don’t know if Angie was there for days before she died and it’s quite possible (I’m a nurse, I’ve seen this lots of times) that she was expected to pull through and didn’t. So people shouldn’t be speculating about Angelina running around everywhere else at the time.
Cheyenne,
I know what you mean. My grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in her mid 60s and up until then she had been living alone,doing her own thing. Then we started noticing the small things and then finally there was no denying what was going on. My 2 aunts tried to take care of her but couldn’t and my mom did and it lasted only for a week because she’d try to catch a taxi to go somewhere and would accuse of us stealing her things and she would horde food. My brother and I were young and in school and both my parents had to work, so my mom and her sisters placed her in a nursing home which was not what anyone wanted to do, but they had to. At first when we’d visit, she’d know us and then later you’d have to tell her who you were and then she’d remember and then later I’d tell her who I was and she’d say I seemed like a nice girl and then it was just an empty look. I kept hoping for a flicker of recognition and there never was one. So in a sense she “died” then for me. She physically died about 10 years later and in a strange way it didn’t hurt so bad I guess because by then she was just a body, nobody was inside, she hadn’t spoken in years. Don’t know if that makes sense. I really grieved when she didn’t know who I was anymore. I remember Nancy Reagan saying Ronald was in a place where she couldn’t reach him anymore. I don’t think anyone has ever put it that way so eloquently.
To Rosanna, I lost my Gran too who was like a second mother to me. Still speaking about them is the most wonderful form of memory, it really is, and it makes them part of every family celebration still.
I’m getting that funny feeling in my throat… 🙂 😥 but it’s a warm good feeling now. Once the grief passes, you’ll be surprised that your tears will come with feelings of warmth, happiness and remembrance. *edit* You keep the love and lose the sadness. Stay strong.
@Xiao – I lost my Dad 17 years ago. Christmas is hard for me still because he loved it so much. It’s not just moms, it hurts to lose your Daddy. I think for me it was harder than it will be to lose my Mom…but I have reasons for that,
To everyone on the board, it’s amazing that we have these stories to share about people who have touched us so much. People who are complete strangers really now know of others’ wonderful family members. They’ve made us who we are and will always be part of who we are – that’s why there is never any forgetting.
P.S. at the risk of sounding flakey, it’s just spreading such good energy, this thread 😀
Jackie, I can totally relate what you went through with your grandmother. My mom is in a nursing home because she can’t live alone and I have to work so I can’t be there for her full time, and she absolutely refused to have a home attendant. Every time we brought up the subject she’d start yelling, “I don’t want any strangers in my house.” It’s been extremely stressful but my boss has been very understanding because she went through the same thing with her mother.
I’m grateful that the nursing home she is in is rated one of the best in the country, it’s only 15 minutes walking distance from me so I can visit her often, and the staff are all very caring and compassionate and take excellent care of her. But every time I look at my mom, I pray to God, please, don’t let that happen to me.
Baho: I was thinking the same thing. Thanks to all for sharing their heartfelt stories.
Mairead, thank you. We’re hanging in there. It’s like Jackie said, she’s really dying inside her head now, so when her final end comes, it won’t be so painful. It’s like watching someone suffer through a long terminal illness and being grateful when they are finally at peace.
Jackie, from what I read (let’s hope the tabloids got something right for once), Angelina received an urgent call from Cedars of Lebanon Hospital in LA that her mother’s illness had reached its end stage; she and Brad immediately flew to LA on their private jet, and arrived at the hospital in time to say goodbye to her mother who passed away that same afternoon. James Haven was already at the hospital. From what I’ve read from several sources, both James and Angie fell apart when their mother died and Brad took charge of the final arrangements.
I just love these pictures of Maddox! they are so cute!
Agree Baho, cyber hug to you all 😉
Cheyanne: It was Ceders Sinai hospital.
I lost my mom 2 yrs. ago and i really dont think ill ever fully get over it. Its very difficult when all of a sudden someone who was always there for you isn’t anymore. What scares me the most is when i get married and have children, my mom isnt going to be there and that killls me. And im sure Angie thought of that when she had the twins. I dont remember if Shiloh was born b4 she passed or not.
Thanks Anon. I knew it was Cedars-something.
To Tenille: Shiloh was born after Marcheline passed. Marcheline got to see her before she died.
Syko –
I think you just did tell her. I think that your Mom’s knows exactly how you felt about her. Just because she isn’t with you physically – doesn’t mean she ever leaves your heart. She is always there – living on inside of you.
The mother and child bond can never be broken – even in death.
Tanille ~
I tell my children that Grandma is in heaven and she is our angel watching over us. My daughter doesn’t remember her and it is difficult. I try to tell her as many stories about her, cook her recipes, look at old pictures and tell her what an amazing Grandmother she had.
I know it’s not the same as having her with you – but it does help my daughter.
Your children will know many things about her – because you’ll tell them all the wonderful things about her.
I feel bad for her because it doesn’t seem like she spent much time with her Mom when she was really sick. I remember the time period and she was traveling all around. That must be hard to swallow. I wonder if that has made grieving even harder because she realizes with all the wealth and help she has she could have just lived with her mom and taken care of her. I know I have wished I had spent more time with my loved ones that have passed. So sad.
My heart goes out to all of you who have lost a parent. I can’t even imagine what I’ll do when I lose my mom. I’m just going to pray that I don’t have to worry about that for a long time
Whether you’re a fan of AJ or not, it’s only human to feel for someone’s loss. I guarantee if JA lost her mom people here would feel just as sad for her. I know I sure would. It’s not about who slept with whose husband or who committed what act or who’s dating whom or which movie did or did not tank at the box office (GOOD LORD you’re an idiot, Mindy 😆 ) – they’re human beings. Anyone who overlooks that just to get in a few not-even-a-little-bit-funny-but-thanks-for-trying digs is completely heartless, and should just turn off the computer and go spend time with loved ones. Get some perspective, you know?
Baho and Mairead…….thanx for your condolences and Baho, I lost my Mum in 2003 but the gaping hole my Dad’s left is unbearable – so I know where your coming from –I can imagine I’ll feel this way in 17 years – I wonder if it’s because we’re girls? (girl children)
She could have donated money to cancer research and treatments.
There are millions in the USA that don’t have medical insurance and can’t get the expensive treatment that Angelina’s mother has recieved.
I have never seen Angelina pull her resources to help the research and the fight against cancer, and since she is very vocal about anything she cares about- so that can tell you something about her true feelings.
Hold up.
Her mother died of cancer and she hasn’t donated to cancer research so that means she really didn’t care about her mother and she’s just play-acting concern? Is that what you’re saying?
I’ve seen some idiotic comments on this blog, but they look absolutely brilliant alongside that one.
Angelina is a huge supporter of the Womens’ Cancer institute at Cedars-Sinai Hospital. AJ had just spent two months with her Mum before she went to New Orleans with Brad. I’ve heard that they wanted Marcheline to come with them to Namibia, but she didn’t want to take the chance of being too ill to support Angelina. MB urged James to go, however. Angelina has said that her Mum was in the hospital when she gave birth to Shiloh and they spoke with in a 1/2 hour of Shiloh’s birth.
Marcheline was supposedly getting better when she took a turn for the worse and Brad and Angelina flew back to Los Angeles. Angie, Brad and James were with Marcheline when she passed away.
Angelina didn’t chase Brad it was Brad that did the chasing. AJ lived in Los Angeles near her Mum for more of the last two years of MB’s life than she had for the previous two when AJ lived primarily in the UK. From 6/06-1/07 AJ was away for about 10 weeks. I think MB wanted Angelina to live her life. I sure wouldn’t want my kids hovering over me if I were terminally ill.
My father died 15 years ago, and I still get tearful when I speak of him, particularly if it is a person I don’t know well. I wonder if interviews are one of the few opportunities Angie has to talk about her mother?
I hope Angie is doing with her children what I do with my little girl, who never knew her grandfather. I talk about him a lot to her, tell her stories, show her pictures, cook the dishes he made that have special meaning for me. He is a big influence in her life, and she talks sometimes about getting her PhD like Grandpa, and that means a lot to me. (Not that she get a PhD, simply that she sees him as a role model.)
Actions speak louder than words.
Angelina has spent millions on subsidising books for children in Iraq- so we know she cares a great deal anout the education of the children in Iraq.
She didn’t spend millions on cancer research, although that would be the natural thing to do – given her past actions (donating and raising awareness about issues she cares about).
I also find it odd that while your beloved parent is dying (and you have the money and spare time off work) you run off to Namibia with your new lover for 4 months, instead of being by her side.
My mother’s death was due to cancer and I haven’t donated a dime to cancer research. It feels like a big hopeless cause to me. It doesn’t mean that I love my mother any less.
Katya is right – Angie donated money to the Cedar-Sinai Medical Center in honor of her mother. She has also donated costumes and autographed photos to be auctioned off for charity. While her mother was alive (in 2004-05), they lobbied Congress for increased federal funding for ovarian and uterine cancers. So I guess actions do speak louder than IMO’s lies.
Susan & RAN – What the f-ck does Pity Party have to do with this thread? You’re comparing the loss of a mother with Aniston’s disasterous public relations in the four-year wake of divorce? 🙄
Kaiser, I’ve come to the belated conclusion that it is absolutely useless to try to reason with a few people posting on here, who will never forgive Angelina for having been born.
Angelina sold her children for PR, uses charity for PR, why not her mother’s grief. Real or not, like her children she is using it for PR.
You may think some of us are hard on her but do you ever wonder why so many people would be hard on her? Because of her very own actions. She does not speak to her living parent. If she thinks people who lost their loved ones in terror attacks should forgive terrorists, then she can forgive her father who killed no one. After all she is an adulterer herself not once but several times. She has broken up more families than her father.
She is waiting for him to die too and she will milk it for its worth. For her mother’s last christmas, Angelina went to Panama for a charity Photo op. Would I travel away from home at christmas when my parent who I love is terminally ill and is in hospital?
My advice is that she should sit back and live through every moment of her life instead of darting from one moment to another and then shading tears when it is too late. Once she knew her mother was terminally ill (and she had been for 7 years) she should have spent as much time as she could with her. But where was she? Running off with married men, adopting children left right and centre, shooting movies like she was broke, running around the world for charity photo ops.
Even now, she is not allowing herself to live one moment at a time. Before one child has bonded or intergrated, she is off collecting another one in between movies. Before she has even build a firm and stable relationship with their so called father. She is heading down a dangerous path.
#73 and #74: You know, we had a really good vibe going on this thread until you come along and wreck it with your sick, vicious posts. This is over the top, even for you. Your irrational hatred of this woman is truly disturbing.
For the record: Angelina didn’t commit adultery. Brad committed adultery. Angelina wasn’t married when she and Brad hooked up.
Her father has absolutely nothing to do with the death of her mother. How presumptuous to tell someone the way they should grieve. We all grieve in our own way. I lost both my parents and my dad’s hit me the hardest but it really took about six months for the finality to really strike me. I did not grieve for my mother for a longer period and it gradually crept up on me. I can’t imagine anyone telling me how I should experience such a loss.
😆 Hola ….. siempre me a parecido muy interesante la personalidad de angelina ademas de que la envidio por tener a ese hombre tan guapo la verdad q afortunada….Saludos desde monterrey, n.l. mexico
I don’t think she’s putting on an act when it comes to her mother. What kind of person fakes grief to get attention? My grandmother passed away 11 years ago to the day and I still get misty eyed at times when I talk about her. I don’t pine over it all the time, but when it happens, it happens. And I sure as hell aint faking it, I hate when people see me cry.
If there is such a close bond, it is unreasonable to think that the grief/tears are feigned… I believe that Angie was extremely close to her mother and the grief is real. There is a certain bond that mothers and daughters share…
This woman has no feelings, how can she feel anything. She is so disrespectful, cold and manipulative. If she weren’t she would not have chosen (at least twice that we know about) to seduce an already taken man? I don’t trust her or anything that comes out of that huge mouth of hers.