Jennifer Lopez is ’embarrassed about her own life’ after seeing Ben Affleck

Ooooh, here’s a really good explanation for why Casper Smart was not around this week while Jennifer Lopez promoted Parker in New York City. This might also explain the major discrepancy between how Jennifer looked at the Golden Globes versus how she looked at the post-Globes parties. The theory – posited by Star Magazine – is that when Jennifer Lopez sat in the audience of the Globes and watched her ex-fiancé Ben Affleck win Best Director, it triggered a major crisis in J.Lo’s delicate psyche. In one crashing, awful moment, she realized that Ben was married to a lovely, successful woman and he was happy and the industry loves him and Jennifer also realized that she’s dating a gross-looking backup dancer whose last gig was probably as some kind of gay gigolo. BOOM!

Jennifer Lopez is putting on a brave face while promoting her movie, Parker, telling the world that she has “no regrets” about her love and career choices, but close pals say that after watching Ben Affleck accept a Golden Globe for directing Argo on January 13, Jennifer suddenly found herself in the middle of a midlife meltdown.

“Ben winning that award really hit her in a weird way,” confides a friend. “She used to brag that she’d win an Oscar by the time she was 45, and that doesn’t seem likely. Plus, her music career isn’t what it used to be.”

Nor is her love life. Jen, who has been dating 25-year-old backup dancer Casper Smart since 2011, couldn’t help but feel pangs of envy as Ben glowingly thanked wife Jennifer Garner and their three children during his speech.

“Ben’s wife is very successful and respected in the industry and J.Lo can tell that she and Ben are very happily married,” the source explains. “Then she looked at her own relationships: she’s dating a backup dancer who’s nearly half her age and riding her coattails.”

Casper may be youthful, but seeing her ex so fulfilled was a wakeup call for Jenny from the block.

“Jennifer acted happy for Ben that night – but the truth is, she became very embarrassed about her own life… her loved ones are worried and constantly tell her she should give herself more credit, but Jennifer is really in the dumps.”

[From Star Magazine, print edition]

If it makes Jennifer Lopez feel better, Jennifer Garner barely works these days, and while Garner’s well-liked within the industry, I get the feeling that there are some people who are really tired of her daily pap-walks and the Affleck-Garner Oscar Campaign. And if it makes Lopez feel better, someone should definitely tell her about Ben and Blake Lively (allegedly!). Of course, that’s still no excuse to stay with Casper. But I just don’t buy that J.Lo is THIS self-aware. I mean, this is the woman who exhaustively praises her own “elegance” because she packs her own bags and combs her kids’ hair. FOR REAL. This is not a woman who has a crisis of conscience when she sees an ex-lover succeed.

Photos courtesy of WENN, Fame/Flynet.

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  1. Joanna says:

    yes, i’m sure she’s heartbroken. rich enough to buy anything she wants, dating a young boy toy, poor girl, her life really blows. so glad that’s not me *sarcasm*

    • elceibeno08 says:

      Also, I am pretty sure Casper does a better job in bed than Affleck would have when he was Casper’s age. I am sure Jennifer sometimes wishes Affleck would have married her.

    • Ami says:

      Hey have you all ever checked out Casper Smart for real. The guy is a nice man and an excellent dancer. Just because he is young and less successful doesn’t mean he is not worth anything.

    • Outstandingworldcitizen says:

      Yeah let’s all shed a tear for her. Puhleeaze!!! She can not handle a partner being as successful as she is THAT’s why she always chooses the backup dancer dude. This is not to imply backup dancers are bad people but her ego needs to be stroked constantly it seems. Marc came close but no cigar….I am repeating myself but I am happy Bennifer I did not work out. J. Lo was so horrible to Ben on that Dateline special I felt bad for him. She belittled him on national tv….Perhaps J. Lo’s desperate attempts to hang on to her youth are not that fulfilling after all. She is probably envious of Ben & Jen b/c they seem like a loving couple with three cuties. Stable and normal.

  2. Astrid says:

    The pictures feel like vibes of Jennifer Anniston. Don’t like the straight hair.

  3. Viv says:

    Is JLo wearing a wig in that second pic?

    I think Jen Garner works so little because Ben works so much and the kids are so little. Would’t be surprised if she will work more once the youngest is out of diapers.

    • Nashville Girl says:

      I agree. I think Jennifer G. us happy with her kids and only works when she wants.

      • Diane says:

        Something tells me Ben needs a woman willing to be in the background. And that isn’t JLo! Jennifer Garner fits the bill perfectly.

    • Tessa says:

      When she does work, like Juno and Butter and Timothy Green, she is so great. I wish she worked more. I quite enjoy her.

      • Bonnie says:

        Don’t forget Dude Where’s my Car!

      • LAK says:

        Bonnie – all actors have to start somewhere, usually pretty embarrassing when you see where they end up eg Ben started in BUFFY THE VAMPIRE SLAYER [the movie] which is so bad it’s now cult viewing.

  4. mln76 says:

    Doesn’t he write to J-lo regularly by his own admission? I personally think she puts herself head and shoulders above Garner whose career hasn’t done a thing since Alias but get papped a lot. I don’t know if I agree with her but I never worry about J-lo’s self esteem.
    Oh and I go with Lainey’s theory Casper stayed home because Strathom doesn’t like him.

    • Faye says:

      You expressed pretty much everythinig I was going to say. I doubt very much that J.Lo’s esteem suffered in any way. I rather think she *enjoys* this whole outre, larger-than-life, boytoy-dating persona. I suspect that if she thinks about Jennifer Garner at all, she would dismiss her as a frumpy hausfrau chained to Ben. J.Lo would *never* be content playing Garner’s current ongoing role of “happy wife and mom who spends the days frolicking with her children and going to endless farmer’s markets.”

  5. Saracen says:

    I’m embarassed for her too. Also she needs to learn how to close her mouth

    • Diane says:

      Lately she looks like she’s had some major work done. But she has constantly been in front of the camera so I don’t know when she would have had time to get surgery. That’s a minimum of 2 weeks recoup time.

      • anmelt says:

        I agree. I think she has done some kind of face lift as her eyes slant more up in all the photo’s I have seen of her. I have to admit she looks quite good though, I wouldn’t mind looking like that in ten years when I am her age.

      • Tessa says:

        Botox in the forehead can lift the brow and eyes. I think it’s just a lot of botox. A LOT.

      • Shaniqua Nunyadambidness says:

        I’m with Tessa…that’s about a gallon and a half of botox in her face. Almost Kartrashian level.

      • Nia says:

        I am thinking maybe Thermage or some other less invasive tightening procedure. She is young enough to get good results and her skin is probably not thin.

      • TrustMeOnThis says:

        She seriously needs to lay off the shimmer powder, and the pale concealer under the eyes. You can see it in ALL of these photos. Either her makeup artist is inexperienced with flash photography, or homegirl needs to learn how to blend!

        Also that naked look at the globes… those are not the globes people were looking for! At least it was lined. I’ll say that for her.

    • eileen says:

      I can’t take her “sessay look” she tries on the red carpet. She always looks like she’s taking a crap!

      • ParisPucker says:

        I said this yesterday. Gf needs to buy some self-awareness and realize that a cougar doing the taking-a-shit face is nor sexy nor cute..

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Exactly. Her and Lea Michelle are both sad pose-hards.

        It’s not *FIERCE* ladies.

  6. Jayna says:

    Spare me. Jlo is on a roll. She had a comeback musically with the hit single On The Floor, which no one expected. Her tour did great and she finished up the tour. She has a movie coming out that honestly looks like a hit because I love her co-star. She has a boytoy to fit into her life right now. She will dump him when she doesn’t need him. It’s all about making the most of her career resurgance right now. She seemed honestly pleased for Ben in the interview I saw. She was always too driven to be a wife mostly at home with the kids supporting the husband’s career, paring hers down.

    • Dutch says:

      Right … but dance tunes and Jason Statham movies do not get you the kind of validation in the industry that will win her an Oscar in two years. I believe JLo might be feeling pangs of regret when Ben (her boy-toy 10 years ago, remember) has moved to this new stage of his career and she’s still doing the same old crap she was doing 10 years ago. She chose style over substance in her career. Did it make her rich, sure. Is she respected within the industry? Meh

      • gogoGorilla says:

        Yeah, I think her life is in a terrific space by any yardstick but people in HW are so out of touch that I could see her being jealous that he has … MORE. Plus, he’s married and stable, and she’s only been with the vampire and the gay ghost in that time period. It’s got to hurt – her ego. Not her conscience.

  7. Launicaangelina says:

    Her eyes look different. Very tweaked.

    I’m torn. I kind of believe and disbelieve this story. I agree that normally she’s not this self aware but maybe this was her light bulb moment. She has coasted for this long and then bam, she up close to her biggest name ex.

    • Diane says:

      She looks different to me. Almost don’t recognize her. Don’t get me wrong, she is still beautiful but she’s starting to look like those plastic women.

    • eileen says:

      Here’s my theory on why I could believe this story (not that you asked hehe).

      I don’t think JLo is used to getting dumped. I think when Ben dumped her, she became uber sensitive to where he ended up and kind of comptitive. JMO I would be if I had her ego. He gets married, has kids, seems pretty grounded (for an actor) and now he’s getting great success as a director as well. I can see how this would irritate her because as the one dumped, she wants to come out on top.

      • Launicaangelina says:

        I like your theory!

      • JS says:

        J Lo came in the 90s and changed forever the image of the Latin women in Hollywood. However, a a Latina myself, I identified poorly with her role model. Most girls that are obsessed with the celebrity phenomena do, but that is not my case. Most Latin women that I know are beautiful but not glamorous and are much more grounded in their families and professional careers that trying to be a bombshell or date a much younger man to prove their attractiveness. Unless J Lo cleans her act and offers the rest of the Latin community something to identified with, she will continue to be blank of all these speculations. If she wants to win an Oscar or be respected in Hollywood, she must follow another strategy and try to take serious parts in serious movies and switch her strategy; stopping trying to be simply pretty and beginning to be simply respectable. She can have all the money in the world, but the respect of her peers is as valuable as all that money. Ask other people, R-E-S-P-E-C-T can be as valuable as wealth.

  8. Rhea says:

    Too bad it’s not that easy. In real life when she’s in love, she develops a reeeaalllyy thick skin.

  9. JoJo says:

    I can believe this story. Seeing Ben win the Oscar and then deliver that thank you to JG probably just made the difference in their two paths hit home. But JG is “loved and well respected in the industry”? Really?! Could have fooled me. When is the last time she made a half-way decent movie? She’s a TV turned B-movie actress. And a perfect Martha Stewart / white picket fence backdrop for the “perfect” life Ben has built since Bennifer.

    • carrie says:

      Garner is less interested by her career than her family life

      • JoJo says:

        Comletely agree that she chooses family over career at this point! But the fact remains that she was a mediocre TV and B-movie actress BEFORE she turned into a family woman.

      • lrm says:

        she will forever gets points from me, for ’13 Going on 30′-along with Ruffalo, of course.
        She was brilliant in that, IMO.
        Yes, I am happy to watch any ‘family’ movie with my kids, that does not make me want to stab myself….and that one actually makes me laugh every time.
        Plus, the Thriller dance sequence with garner was just awesome.
        I like Garner’s ‘brand’-she has a niche in movies and we need her type.
        Not A list, but she knows her strengths and plays to them-
        unlike lame kate hudson and a few others….uugh.
        I’ll take garner any day.

        Also, I actually really like J Lo in her movies-as lame as they can be, she is enjoyable.
        maid in manhattan, wedding planner, etc. Again, family movies-that I can watch without going completely numb in the head.

        J Lo is beautiful-she needs to stop with the cosmetic stuff now before it’s too late.

        She reminds me of madonna-all drive and ego, and works hard to get where she is….gotta hand it to them both. Taking hard work with average/mediocre talent, and creating an empire=success.

  10. flor says:

    She SHOULD! Ben is going to be a fantastic director when he gets older. He is going to be like Clint Eastwood and will stick around for a long time. He was not nominated for the Oscar because he could actually win but he is too young for a BD Oscar. But he will get there and hopefully, he won’t feel the need to keep calling the papz.
    Geez, after the Golden Globes I ADORE Ben. He can be a real charmer when he wants.

    • LAK says:

      BD has no age. ditto any of the other categories. talent is talent.

      the rest is just campaigning and politics.

      Some of the ALL time greatest directors have never won oscars eg Alfred Hitchcock,

      • flor says:

        I think it does affect him because he could actually win. They are going to make him pay his dues as a director. Steven Spielberg wasn’t nominated for The Color Purple nor was Ron Howard for Apollo 13. It happens but I think Ben will get there.

  11. Kate says:

    I think she’s generally happy with her success, but I think moments like the GG and the Oscars remind her of where she stands in terms of the cream of the crop (Clooney, Pitt, Streep, etc.). Her day to day life insulates her from the fact that she’s not really a movie star anymore. She’s a personality. But she’s got a ton of money and people who fawn over her that I don’t think the reality of her not being part of awards season, not having an acclaimed movie to promote, not having industry respect hits her hard when she’s faced with it.

  12. annabelle says:

    Actually, I have no trouble buying this take. She wants it all, you know, she wants the man and the career and the fame and she works so hard to get it all. But at the end of the day, she has a butter-face boy, few offers and plenty of box office flops, not the kind of life that has her going for ice cream with her adorable kids, and has jacked with her face to the point of a permanent squint and lips that won’t close. Not to mention she can’t find a decent powder to take down that shine!

    • Loira says:

      Even tho, she is very successful in her own right. One of the most successful pop singers years ago, and that has made a come back recently. Her tacky choices are her own, but you shpuld not diminish her accomplishments.
      I do think she has tried to have it all, and she has been hilarious at some of her attempts (and interviews), but she goes for it and that is admirable.
      Others just never dare try.

  13. Pandora says:

    Iron will and self belief can only get you so far, she owes her career to the cult of personality, because she has zero true talent,and she’s smart enough to know it, so yeah I don’t think she’s weeping into her champagne exactly.

  14. jinni says:

    Must every woman be painted up as desperate and unable to move on? Ben maybe successful, but he’s no catch. Plus, if anyone hasn’t moved on it’s him; he’s the one that keeps her name in his mouth all of the time.

  15. Kimbob says:

    The Star Magazine story is REACHING, at the very best. And let’s be honest….things aren’t as they “seem.”

    I agree w/Kaiser…I don’t J-Lo is too self-aware. I mean, she probably IS embarrassed a bit by Casper…who WOULDN’T BE?

    Above all else, I think J-Lo views herself as an elitist, & more than anything, probably focuses on Jennifer Garner’s lack of career, & probably sniffs @ that!

    Anyway, it’s widely known in the industry that Ben has a wandering dong…this is WIDELY known. J-Lo’s already heard those whispers, also.
    This Star Mag story is crappola.

  16. Lem says:

    I thought she left Casper to woo Marc who left his gf. I guess Affleck could be behind that.
    Seeing an ex happy and getting praise. Tough pill if you have self confidence issues, which she does, and kinda should right now

  17. Ms Kay says:

    She may not be the greatest actress nor even greatest singer, but she is an entertainer and knows how to play with her image, she is far far far richer than Ben Affleck, she has a good PR team enough to still get her to present most prestigious awards such as GG and Oscars. At the end of the day she knows that she isn’t Oscar calibre acting wise but she sure is a heavyweight entertainment wise.

  18. yellowlala says:

    If I was her id feel the same way, embarrassed…unrelated to this story, I’ve always thought her face looked good incomparison to other plastic hollywood faces, but now she definitely looks like a mini face lift. Something looks unnatural.

    • Linda says:

      Why on earth SHOULD she be embarrassed. Whether you like it or not she is one of the most powerful entertainers in the world.

  19. Leek says:

    I always thought she looked at Ben as the one who got away. I actually liked them together.

  20. tracking says:

    I could see there being some element of truth here. I don’t think her life has exactly turned out as she planned and he does have the kind of industry respect she thought she’d have by now. Any human might feel a little rough seeing the Affleck-Garner family juggernaut. I would hope she doesn’t envy Garner (I don’t think most people do), but it’s possible that she envies their status in Hollywood. And she has looked rough and unhappy since right around then.

  21. Annie says:

    Jennifer can have whomever she wants though. This is who she wants. Sadly.

    • Tessa says:

      Errm, I’m not sure that’s true. She has two kids, is into her 40’s, and generally has the reputation of being a high maintainance diva. I can see a lot of guys passing on JLo. She’s not that young hot piece of ass anymore. She’s thrice divorced and known as a career killer. The really good catches, are probably looking for a better catch themselves.

  22. carrie says:

    Why do i feel that Affleck/Garner/JLo are the new Pitt/Jolie/Aniston for the US tabloid ?

  23. randi says:

    Garner may be well-liked in Hollywood and seems to be an A+ mom but career-wise, I beg to differ with the sentiment that hers is smokin’ hot.

    Despite what she says about being very selective about the roles she accepts – due to family commitments – she always seems to pick stinkers and her movies are cr*p. Other actresses – Julia Roberts, Naomi Watts, Nicole Kidman have said the same thing, but they are all successful A-listers

    • caitlin says:

      Jennifer is an A-lister too. Just because YOU don’t like her movies doesn’t mean she’s not a top tier actress so get over yourself. Julia Roberts? Her career is way gone.

    • Marie Antoinette Jr. says:

      I wouldn’t count Julia Roberts out. I haven’t liked her movies for awhile but I still consider her an A-lister.

      Jennifer Garner seems to care more about her kids these days. She’s not in the public eye at all unless it’s about Ben. I think she just prefers to be a mom.

    • raven says:

      +10 — finally, a comment that makes sense. thank you!

  24. Tuxedo Cat says:

    She really doesn’t seem like someone who is insecure. I’m wondering if she isn’t just looking for sympathy.

    If she loves Casper she shouldn’t be embarrassed of him.

  25. Nina W says:

    I don’t believe this story. When people break up there are usually good reasons and most people don’t pine over the fantasy of the “one that got away”. No way does JLo want to be living Garner’s life. If anything maybe JLo wishes she had a better, more mature boyfriend who is as successful as Affleck but I don’t think she begrudges Ben his success or his family.

  26. Miss You Enclave24 says:

    Jennifer should not fret because the divorce between Ben and Jennifer Garner is going to be EPIC.

  27. Miss Kiki says:

    I’m not her biggest fan but I really don’t think JLo has anything to worry about. Regardless of how *I* rate her singing and acting the girl has been around for years and is still able to earn a buck or two. Jlo has built a successful brand. Whilst both woman may or may not have partners that occasionally display wandering dong syndrome, in terms of net worth and material success JLo comes out winning when compared to Jen.

  28. Melissa says:

    I could believe this.

    Even with her diva, JLO persona, what is she in the end? A woman who constantly needs to be with a man. Throughout her life in the public eye, she constantly goes from one relationship to another super fast. I can’t remember a point where she was happily single. IMO Ben is still probably the love of her life. Seeing him succeed in his career with a beautiful family probably did make a light bulb go off. She had the whole family with Marc Anthony and that didn’t end well. While she has some success with music and acting, she will never be considered a fantastic vocalist (like her “rival” Mariah Carey) or get an Oscar in her acting. And Casper…need I say more?

    So I do think it might be some kind of wake up call that if she wants to succeed in career or personal life, she might to start doing it now. And she should start by finally dumping Casper (who’s totally gay) 😉

  29. Darlene says:

    I don’t get how you say people are sick of Garner’s “pap walks” with her kids…she is a hands-on mom and she walks places with her kids and she happens to get photographed (a lot) when she does it. Should she stay inside or have someone else spend time with her children? Let’s not criticize her for being a mom and living her life.

    • claire says:

      I think it’s more to do with the idea that she goes to known pap hangouts. There’s other choices, and she goes to the places that are known for where celebs go to specifically get papped. Matt Damon made a bit of a snarky joke about this in a recent interview. I can’t remember which one it was.

  30. Mar says:

    She so did an eye job. Her eyes look very pulled- and I don’t like it at all.
    She has zero talent. Her singing sucks.
    Her acting sucks.
    She is total style over substance- and her fans are simpletons

    • MST says:

      Well, I think that saying her fans are simpletons is a bit harsh, but I agree that she has minimal talent. Thousands of people can sing, dance, and act better than her, but these folks are waiting tables and she’s rich and famous. Go figure.

    • JoJo says:

      Agreet with MST.

      Sure, she’s primarily “entertainer” vs.an “artist”, but so are/were people like Madonna and Michael Jackson and others. Hold on now – I’m NOT comparing her to Michael Jackson (I realize he had way more talent and is a legend, blah blah), but the point is, there is also value in being an entertainer. Not everyone needs to be an “ARTISTE” to bring entertainment and fun to fans. No one is saying JLO is an amazing artist. But, she’s done relatively well for herself across both acting and music/performing. Actually, I will usually watch movies with her in them, and while they’re certinaly not Oscar-worthy, I usually find her watchable/likable and pretty simply, just entertaining, which is really ok. Why do people always have to make direct comparisons with people – I’m not comparing JLO to someone like Kate Winslet or even J. Garner – just saying that JLO is her own person, has her own style and does well at what she does.

  31. anneesezz says:

    Does she realize that standing next to someone 25 just makes her look that much older? Of course she’s jealous. He was up there thanking “his rock” and the Jennifer he’s sharing his life with isn’t her!

    P.S. why was she even there?

  32. floretta50 says:

    I believe this story, most actresses and couples aspire to be like Brad and Angie or take them dowm. Jlo is so self-centered, isn’t she the one that went to Tom and Katy’s wedding and changed so many times? She would give anything to be in the Brad, Clooney and Afleck A-list crowd. It seems as if Angelina Jolie have dropped off the planet!

  33. lucy2 says:

    I can see some truth to this too. I think JLo has a VERY high opinion of herself, and thought herself the bigger star of the couple when she was with Ben. That was his low point, and to see him now having such well respected success must ding her ego a bit. She seems to think she should have all that, the awards and industry respect, and she doesn’t. She has made a successful career (on very minimal talent IMO) but it’s not at the level his is.

    Garner has done a film or two every year- basically what Lopez does. Neither are really box office champs these days, so I don’t see much point in comparing their acting careers.

  34. Maritza says:

    I’m sure she ponders about her love life once in awhile but probably that’s why the woman keeps herself so busy all the time. She loves working, whether it’s movies, singing or selling her perfumes or doing commercials. It’s hard to find a man who is willing to accept being last on her list, that’s why she is with Casper, he goes along with whatever she says.

  35. Potato_Chip says:

    Those are lovely Mommy and Son pictures– I didn’t realize that JLo had a teenage son.

  36. Victoria says:

    Meh.. I still say he reminds me of a “latin Jon Cryer”.. Not that there’s anything wrong with that! Right? (mm 😉 hmm)

  37. Madriani's Girl says:

    Her “crisis of conscience” is she realized people are seeing how happy he is and that he’s totally over HER. Her “crisis of conscience” is that she finally realizes she’d dating a gay fetus. She’s still gorgeous, IMO.

  38. Runs with Scissors says:

    In the second pic she looks like she’s wearing those contacts that make your eyes look bigger, like an anime cartoon, so strange looking

  39. Starlight says:

    Jlo has nothing to regret for not marrying Ben. Ben just had a changed of heart. There is nothing she can do about it.

  40. hoya_chick says:

    When I read the title I thought, oh so that’s why Casper the friendly ghost has not been in the picture since the Globes. Ha!

    JLO is consumed with herself and her ego so I can see how she would feel a tinge of jealousy sitting there listening to Ben wax on poetic about how great his life is with the other Jen while winning a Golden Globe for Best Director. Her career is no where near his in terms of credibility and accolades. Chick is doing a B movie with Jason Straham where she isn’t even the lead! lol And her personal life is not that great either. Three divorces and a back up dancer? Hmmmmm.

    But this “Ben’s wife is very successful and respected in the industry and J.Lo can tell that she and Ben are very happily married,” is NOT true. Let’s be real, Jennifer Garner is only A list by association. She has yet to have a movie where she was the lead and/or supporting lead who got nominated for anything or had any real buzz. And don’t say Juno, I hated that try-hard crap. She is not that great of an actress either. If she wasn’t married to Ben she’d be just another former B-list tv star trying to make it in Hollywood.

    She knows where her bread is buttered and that’s why she will never leave him no matter how much he cheats. The constant photo ops are so transparent but that’s all she’s got at this point.

    The grass is not always greener JLO.

  41. Meg says:

    how is garner well respected in the industry? she doesn’t work much and the films she does aren’t stand out greats, not to mention her performances in them.

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Alias was a critically-acclaimed show and had a pretty loyal audience over the years.

      J.Lo had a critically-acclaimed album? No. Movie? No. TV Show?…um, does Idol count?

      I admire Lopez’s business-savvy but as far as “respect within the industry” I’m gonna give Garner the edge on that one.

      • marie says:

        ha, the only thing I’ve ever thought JLo was really good at was dancing..

      • XOGAMI says:

        LOL Alias was, what? a decade ago? Her recent movies have all bombed, respected in the industry… my 4ss!

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Yes well-respected in comparison to J. Lo. Did you see Gili, XOGAMI? Probably not, and I don’t blame you-no one saw that movie. So yes, this one comes down to simple math-one acclaimed TV show, 10 years ago beats no acclaimed anything, ever.

        Yes Marie-she is a good dancer and great at wearing lots of sparkles. She has a nice glow to her. That’s all I got.

      • Dutch says:

        Respect in the industry goes beyond success at the box office. I’m sure with all talent being equal a survey of directors would rather work with Garner over Lopez. That alone is largely the difference between being in an Oscar worthy role rather than say a shoot em up with Jason Statham.

      • The Truth says:

        Ma famille, Blood and Wine, Selena, U Turn, Out Of Sight, The Cell, Angel Eyes, An Unfinished Life, El Cantante, a film that she produced all CRITICALLY ACCLAIMED

        So take several seats

        Box office number 1s, Anaconda, The Cell, Anntz, The Wedding Planner, Maid In Manhattan, Monstor In Law, Shall We dance, Ice Age 4

        She has had WAY MORE SUCEES THAN Jennifer Garner

        Grammy and Latin Grammy NOMINATED
        70 MILLION RECORDS SOLD WORLDWIDE

        Stop trying to discredit her

      • Kosmos says:

        Yes, Garner is probably best known for her role in “Alias,” which happened long ago, but after she married Ben, she became a mother, and I think it’s great that she is able to do that 100% and give her kids a real mom instead of one who has to be off on location somewhere. I loved Garner when she appeared in movies, but I never liked JLo, mostly because of her attitude, and the fact that she has marginal talent.

  42. Holden says:

    I was going to say, JLo self aware? Check the temperature in hell! What’s with throwing shade at Ben and Jen though? They seem like a great couple and can’t control what parasitic photogs hang around…

  43. Dorothy says:

    She should be embarrassed . People have been making fun of her over this back – up dancer for months .

  44. tabasco says:

    i’m embarrassed about her melty wax figure makeup in the top pic.

  45. Kosmos says:

    Ben and Jen Garner ARE a wonderful couple and happily married with children. Ben’s career is doing very well. JLo was never at that level. Her boyfriends were, well, dancers, and I really think she married Marc Anthony as a rebound because she didn’t have anyone at the time. And now Casper, huh? We all know that JLo is not very talented overall, not as a singer, for sure, not as an actress, but she pushes her way into the celeb culture as if she’s really relevant nonetheless. I’m just so glad that Ben ended up with Jennifer Garner. JLo should just get over herself a bit.

  46. snappyfish says:

    jennifer lopez looks like she’s morphing into kimora lee simmons…what is happening with her face these days?

  47. Louise says:

    Nope, she’s just jealous. And I don’t feel one bit sorry for her. She’s a hateful, self-absorbed diva. Whatever Jen Garner is, she’s doing it right. I’d much rather have lunch with Jen G.

  48. Asiyah says:

    Both of them suck, but JLo is more successful.

  49. HappyJoyJoy says:

    What is wrong with her eyes?! They look wonky!

  50. Moana says:

    Jenny from the Block is Jenny from the alley…you can put lipstick on a pig, but it’s still a pig.

  51. Sam x says:

    JLo is a has been whose career was revived all thanks to American Idol. Had they not come knocking at her door and Benny Medina not taking her back she would have faded away. I can’t stand her Jenny from the block schtick, who is she kidding! You ain’t JLo.

    Jennifer Garner has a steady successful career in Hollywood and is probably content with that right now, as she has the luxury to do a movie now and again while Ben works. She gets to enjoy spending time with the kids, enjoy being a mom and be the supportive wife.

  52. hoganbcmj says:

    What is the problem with having regrets? Madonna is really adamant about “having no regrets” as well, and I just don’t get it. Everyone has regrets and IT’S OKAY! If we regret something we did, we can learn from it and strive to do better next time. Geez.

    Also, Casper is straight-up ugly. Sorry, but he is. I don’t care how young, ripped and good in bed he may be, J-Lo is gorgeous. I don’t understand why she ends up with such ugly looking guys.

    • Joanna says:

      I’ll tell you why. Average guys treat you so much better than a very good-looking guy. average guys, on average, will treat you very well, while good-looking ones usually expect you to kiss their a*s b/c they are hot. that’s my experience anyway. and average guys are more loyal, too, imo.

  53. Carolyn says:

    Ben Affleck is a really good director. He’s getting better with age and I really like him & Garner together. Even if they do too many “family pap shots”.

    J-Lo strikes me as someone who would hold a grudge for years. Despite her marrying Marc and having squillions of $$$ she’s still be jealous of those who scorned her in the past.

  54. Moi says:

    She might not have been heartbroken by any means, but I could see it possibly being a tiny bit of a wake up call. She may be rich, famous and beautiful, but when it comes down to it, we are all simply human. I think she is wayyyyy too good for this Casper guy. The sex must be fantastic.

  55. fallen says:

    Um I thought she dumped Ben for cheating on her with a stripper?

    • megsie says:

      No, surprisingly she did not. At the time she shrugged it off. Well, publicly at least. A press release was issued claiming she was fine with Ben’s strip club excursion and she joked that it was his early bachelor party. A few months later he called off the wedding just a day or two before the scheduled date.

  56. megsie says:

    If that night at the Golden Globes didn’t give Lopez pause, I don’t know what would.

  57. A Fan says:

    Embarrassment may be the only key this Leo (Jennifer Lopez) needs to get a grip and change her ways…’cause it isn’t going to be self-awareness or brains.

  58. Jaded says:

    J-Lo is like Madonna and a few others who aggressively muscled themselves into stardom by aligning with the right people to get them there, not by any great talent. They will do ANYTHING to acquire fame – act, sing, dance, open a restaurant, design clothes, create a perfume, write a book, on and on and on. They don’t do any of these things particularly well but it gives minimal talent maximum exposure. The only outstanding talent people like J-Lo and Madonna have is the ability to market themselves relentlessly, and that sort of cheapens their image.

    Jennifer Garner, on the other hand, actually does have acting talent and doesn’t fanny around doing a million other things to keep the spotlight on her at all times. She does a movie, then goes home to her family. Ben Affleck realized that he couldn’t deal with the type of lifestyle being with J-Lo would entail – relentlessly courting media attention and being constantly in the spotlight, because that’s the type of life she craves. Being with Caspar means the spotlight will still remain on her because he’s basically nothing without her and willingly acts as her fart-catcher.

  59. Ol'Miss says:

    I’m sad that so many people talk about Jennifer Garner not working much as a fault! She is being an amazing mother by choice, as she is talented, and that is to be commended!! There are too many kids out there being raised by their nannies while mommy “works” to make herself feel valuable! MOM’s are valuable and I am a fan of her choices!! IMHO…

  60. anon says:

    lol these storys, I can’t… what is this hollywerid highschool reunion. also didn’t read, the title said enough.

  61. Animal lover vegan says:

    I hope this FUR MAKER continues to go down, it’s indeed very shameful the way her life is, Jennifer Garner is gorgeous and have carachter, morals, Jlo nothing from the block talks down on people and mistreat employees, who the hell she think she is, not even her face is real.

  62. birdy says:

    JLo’s issue with Ben is that he is now more successful and has more industry pull than see does – and that pisses her off.

    Let’s look at the exes – she married singer that most people had never heard of before her, the back up dancer she married, Diddy (who is doing what now?), the waiter she married, etc. After those relationships, she could still convince herself she was the star and the bigger talent. Those men are referred to as JLo exes, she is now referred to Affleck’s ex – do you think her ego can handle that? That she could be labelled based on another person?

    She would be the type to think without her, they will amount to nothing. Then Ben comes along and has quietly built his name and image back and has developed skills and talent that are now in demand. And I bet she hates it. Especially when she is a footnote in his story referred to as simply an ex.

  63. Jane says:

    Ben has an Oscar and GG. What does she have as far as acting is concerned?

    Oscar? (Cue crickets)
    Tony? (Cue crickets)
    Emmy? (Cue crickets)
    SAG? (Cue crickets)
    GG? (Cue crickets)

    I wouldn’t be a bit surprised if she was jealous as h*** that he is more accomplished in the movie industry than her.

    • Loira says:

      His important awards are more related to the behind the camera work, sript writing, producing or directing.
      I do not consider him a great actor, he is quite woody, not even in Shakespeare in Love.
      J Garner has been awarded or nominated for Alias, mostly. Nothing big in the movie industry, while JLo has some smaller movies awards and nominations . I that sense (acting nominations/awards) , both Jennifers could compare.
      He being successful at what he does was probably very attractive to JLo. He was more her equal than her previous marriages, kind of Diddy and M Anthony. When that failed, she went back to her waiters and back up dancers.
      I do not get the vilification pf J Lo, yes, she is annoying, conceited, etc. She thinks herself as a diva, but the girl has worked for it and tried to do it all, which os commendable.
      What I find more annoying of JLo is her need to be with a man, she cannot stay single for an hour. That is bad. Ut she has behaved with more dignity towards affleck than he has in regard to her. Those interviews shaming his time with her are terrible.

      • Jane says:

        True, I stand corrected. He did get the awards for the behind the camera work: directing and script writing. He got the Oscar for Good Will Hunting I believe.

      • The Truth says:

        Thankyou all this Jlo hate is pathetic, when has she EVER DISSED Ben, NEVER

        She aint the best singer, but you can say that about alot of singers, shes a great dancer and performer and great actress who has wasted her time in Rom Coms

        Who is Jen Garner the chick form Alis who lucked up and got with douchebag Ben

  64. theoni says:

    I totally believe this.

    She wants Ben back. Period. Lets not forget her mothers little emails to him after she broke up with Marco baby.
    When he divorces jen she will be up his arse in no time.

    JLO feels she owns her exes too- FOREVER. Even years later she called p diddy “baby” at the GG afterparty.

    She wants to keep up with him to compete with Garner in the ex ego war, so she can rest on a fantasy that he still pines for her.
    In her deluded egobrain a part of him wants her but is taying with garner for the kids and she still has a chance.

    She says it was a taking stock moment about her own life- but this is about Ben. Her ego was bruised BIGTIME and publicly- she likes to rest on the idea a part of him still wants her.

    Lets not overestimate the maturity of these people after all- they are in a hollywood bubble, and it would simulate highschool very easily. With magnan. egos and no real stresses they are not above getting depressed about petty power games.