Over the weekend, the NY tabloid press was all over a story, published in an online zine, by a 20 year-old college student complaining about being judged for being rich. Rachael Sacks started her idiotic essay with an anecdote about a cashier at a grocery store giving her the cold shoulder, as if that was the worst thing that’s happened to her in weeks. She went on to bemoan how hard it was to be judged for her wealth and called it “disgusting behavior” to try to act “poor to relate to people.” Sacks did concede that “thinking that other people are beneath you just because of the financial circumstances they were born into is just gross.” She then seemingly flip-flopped by shading Gwyneth Paltrow for saying that she couldn’t act like she made less than $25,000 a year, after basically parroting Paltrow’s sentiment in the lead up to that.
Here are some relevant excerpts from Sack’s story, thanks to Radar Online. You can read the whole thing here if you’re interested:
The 20-year-old Manhattan college student has furrowed a few brows penning a piece — presciently titled, “I’m Not Going to Pretend That I’m Poor to Be Accepted by You” — in which she unabashedly embraces the wealthy lifestyle her doctor father has furnished her with.
“I’m not one of those people who try to be poor to relate to people,” she writes. “I am sorry that I was born into great financial circumstances and my father likes to provide for me,” “I am sorry that I don’t have to go to a state school to save my parents money. What do you want from me?”
She relayed an story about being slighted and snubbed by a cashier and customer at a Gristedes grocery store as she held a “big a** shopping bag” from the Mulberry sale she’d just attended.
“What the f***? Could they not be that obvious? I should have stopped at my apartment and put my bags down then if they were going to judge me like that,” she said. “And I got my purse at a 70% discount so they can f*** off.
“I am sorry that I was born into great financial circumstances and my father likes to provide for me. I am sorry I don’t have to go to a state school to save my parents money. What do you want from me?”
She later went on to say that “people shouldn’t make others feel bad about their own personal finances,” and that “it just seems really petty and makes you look bitter and unhappy with your own life if you are casting nasty glares at college girls in Gristedes because you’re a cashier.”
Sack’s whole essay seemed like trolling on a Samantha Brick level, but in a follow-up defending herself, she pretty much reveals that she’s as serious and deluded as Samantha Brick. She also gets upset that people are stalking her, which should not have happened to her and is wrong, but everything else she says just confirms my first impression of her. I’m not going to include her whole rant, but here are the relevant parts and you can read it here.
I find it so funny that everyone is hating on me instead of investing themselves in worthier things. I don’t deserve all of your attention. Do I deserve all of this hate? Maybe, maybe not. What I am is a scapegoat for the current issues in our economy and honestly, it doesn’t phase me. I’ve finally gotten an eloquent message of “kill yourself” from reader mail. Thanks bro.
I’m just poor little Rach(a)el (depending on the intelligence of the commentator) Sacks who was soooooo sad that a cashier showed her a little disdain. Boo. F’king. Hoo. I am 20-years-old. I have to take a midterm tomorrow like everyone else. I am not above anything and I never said that I was above any of you. But the American public is allowed to infer anything they would like. To go on Google Earth and find my childhood home, to stake out my apartment, to go through my private photos. I have nothing to hide and I am here to be your own personal punching bag, America.
You were never a dumb 20-year-old, you snarky, washed up, 40-something commenters. You never said dumb shit — as long as it’s hidden. You’ve never taken drunk photos, or felt like your views about life were like, “super important.” Only luckily for you, the internet exists for me and so you can all pretend you were never a young adult and dig up everything and tell me to get Botox. Which I wouldn’t at this point. Maybe when I start to get older — I’m really not ruling anything out. If you all wanted to show me, you would realize that I am a sad, sad little girl, seeking out attention and you wouldn’t give me the time of day. Go ahead, shun me, act like I’m irrelevant. I’m a lot more afraid of that than being told to jump off of a bridge.
I’ve been criticized by the media for taking this all in stride and not being more apologetic. What else am I supposed to do? Cry? Be a pussy and flip-flop on my own views? Beg for the public’s forgiveness? These are things I would never do. Who am I to turn my back on my own views? Who am I to attempt to talk about things that are taboo? Who am I to think that America has a sense of humor about anything?
Gawker is praising Sacks for standing by her original essay, but her attitude here is just consistent with the original essay. She’s defiant, put-upon and so stuck in her privileged world view that she can’t see why people are criticizing her. It’s all about how she is affected by the world without a lick of self awareness for what she’s putting out into it.
She herself is not rich correct? It’s her family. So, get over yourself until you find work out of school.
I think her family is rich but not super mega rich. Normally, the super rich one doesn’t feel the need to broadcast to the whole world that they’re rich. Her family might be the in bottom of the riches and high society. I feel like she’s just trying to got the attention by posting that essay.
Very true Rhea! Often the ones who shout the loudest about their wealth really aren’t that wealthy
I read the housing prices for the area she grew up in average about a million a house. Very small potatoes compared to the area I live. A shack costs a million in Silicon Valley. She may inherit a couple million but she’s no Athena Onassis.
I mean if her father is a doctor, she’s obviously not poor but she’s no heiress either. If a cashier was rude to her it was probably because she was being a b*tch not because she was carrying Mulberry bags.
So what if her father is a doctor? Her parents wealth is NOT hers.
My husband and I are financially secure after having lower middle class upbringings and working our asses off. I have 3 boys and they will never be under any impression that THEY are wealthy.
In my experience though, a$$hole kids like this come from a$$hole parents.
Nouveaux riche. Not an Ivy Leaguer at all. Go away little idiot, go away.
“If a cashier was rude to her it was probably because she was being a b*tch not because she was carrying Mulberry bags.”
Maybe. Maybe not. If people, including some cashiers, can be rude to someone simply for looking well AND being far kinder and warmer than the people they usually meet, it is perfectly possible to become a target of rudeness because of a simple inscription on a bag. It’s happened to me, more than once.
I am glad people seem to find this difficult to believe because it IS stupid beyond belief. Yet it does happen.
(Not to mention that a cashier has no excuse whatsoever for being rude to anyone. Is he/she is having such an overwhelmingly tragic day that he/she cannot control their own behaviour, they should stay at home for the day.)
They are rich, as in, they are richer than the average upper middle class family. Her family owns a $700,000 home in Bethesda. Her dad is a working professional. They aren’t by any means among the super rich celebrities and businessmen/women that we read about in the gossip columns everyday.
Being rich and spoiled is no excuse to ACT like a spoiled brat or lack any sympathy for people who don’t live in your social sphere. I have a friend who has two parents practicing medicine and they own similar homes in the $500-700k price range. My friend and his siblings are all expected to work to pay the bills even if it meant waitressing in college. They all buy their own electronics and pay for the majority of their college tuition.
Yes, they were “spoiled” compared to most children in the sense that they were given a very comfortable upbringing: their parents had the money to pay for vacations, a nice home, and a good education when they grew up. That doesn’t mean they also weren’t expected to pull their weight, get good grades, and become productive members of society without leeching on their parents’ wealth and success after high school. THIS is how you teach your children to understand the value of hard work and to be able to stand on their own two feet while connecting on a basic level to 99% of the population who also have to work their asses off to earn a living.
This girl is NOT smart. Despite her parents’ wealth, she still couldn’t get into an Ivy League or top state school. BTW, I’d much rather go to a state school like Michigan, Virginia, or the UC schools over some overpriced private school for underachieving rich kids. There are plenty of rich kids like her who will have a VERY difficult time working with others. Her only hope will be to marry another rich brat who will give her a comfortable living because she’s not going to make it in the world on her own. Her parents aren’t multi-millionaires. The money won’t last forever the way this girl probably burns through it because she lacks all responsibility and common sense.
@kibbles I hate to be that person, but a $700,000 home in Bethesda is not “rich” by local standards. The Bethesda housing market is booming right now. For example, my mother lives in small house in Bethesda that might be considered a teardown and it is still comfortably above $700,000 because of the local market.
Not to mention that $700,000 from a “rich bitch” in the New York City real estate market would be considered a joke.
Location. Location. Location. If she doesn’t want to adjust her attitude, maybe she should move to somewhere that she would actually be considered wealthy.
I knew a girl exactly like this in college – but the reason people didn’t like her is that she as always accusing people of envying her wealth. Only, back then that kind of behavior wasn’t broadcast all over the media and worthy of mass discussion. Wait, why does one girl matter?
I think everyone needs to step back maybe the cashier was having a bad day. She really shouldnt flatter herself. She is completely self absorbded. Nice job mom and dad
If this girl is so rich why does she dress like a bum? Why is her hair a greasy mess? Why didn’t she get herself a quality education so she could have some basic writing skills? Why doesn’t she go to a real college? This smells like BS to me.
I was thinking the same thing. If she is really “not one of those people who try to be poor to relate to people”, then what is up with the hair? It is worse than At-Home-Ombre!
Her writing is awful. I think it just come down to the trend of people embarassing themselves publicly for attention. Her first try (I am serious here) was titled, “Confession: I’m a Chronic Female Masterbator”. There is a link at the bottom of her article to her other “pieces”.
Clearly this girl was in desperate need of attention, and the class-war angle finally got it for her.
Her nails are awful, too. If she is so wealthy why doesnt she partake in a manicure and trip to the dermatologist?
I hope she doesn’t try to act. People might throw fruit at her. My little PuddleTom can tell you how much that hurts, bless him.
Did he say something about fruit-throwing? I missed something. Poor little sausage.
It was in that hilarious boating interview that was featured hereabouts t’other day. He was bemoaning the fact he had this wonderful education only to find when he came out of it, people “threw fruit” at him for it. Poor baby.
You need to ask our glorious leaders for two nicks – I get confuddled when you drop out of character!
Argh. I have two actually, but my phone sometimes plays tricks on me when I post. Apologies. You can throw fruit at me if you want, especially snozzleberries.
Edit: In fact, I insist on snozzleberries.
Just found that quote. Wow. Puddletom really doesn’t get it.
Let’s just throw stuff at TommyAnne together. We could douse my gag in a smoothie or something.
Hey I know, you can throw fruit, and I will do my best to jump in the air and catch it in my mouth!
Like a springer spaniel!
I was thinking “like a trained seal”, but I suppose they don’t eat much fruit.
Can we throw fish instead?
(We know you love to dance, so I’m hoping this’ll turn a Monty Pythonesque fish-slapping dance.)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IhJQp-q1Y1s
I know that dance! It’s a very old Eton tradition among students in the the Oppidan houses! The Dames would teach us, and we would open every term with it at Luxmoore’s Garden!
Oh, all this #WhiteWhine!
Um not sure it’s specifically that kind of problem…
Oooh you just had to bring race into this.
I might be wrong about this, but QQ’s comment “Whitewhine” could be about the website:
http://whitewhine.com/page/2
It is not a racial comment. The website is very funny and consists of people bitching and moaning on FB about stupid, shallow, inconsequential things.
Oh I see!! Well don’t you just learn something new on the internet every day? (seriously though how many of these websites are there?)
Really? People are getting angry about QQ’s comment now?
She didn’t invent the website (which is pretty amusing btw).
TheOriginalKitten, I didn’t have the foggiest clue that QQ was talking about a website. To someone like me it seemed like an odd comment to make. The website Is amusing! Your right, to be fair to QQ she didn’t invent the name but I’m not sure I like the name either way.
Fair enough, Harriett.
I think the name was a clever play on the adult beverage. And now you have me thinking about a New Zealand Sauvignon Blanc-shame on you! 😉
To be honest, the website seemed to be about whiny teenagers who don’t know how good they have it, more so than just white people. *shrugs*
Don’t you just love a glass of overprivileged white person tears with your morning meal?
Congrats Jay You got it! (I expect it to be in that Tumblr By sun down?)
This plus!
Yes, because there are no poor white people. And no obnoxious rich black people. Thanks for educating us!
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Um, yes, actually, they are related. Intersectionality. Look it up.
@mj : Thanks for mentioning intersectionality! People really fail to realize how much the intersection of race, gender, sexuality, etc. create unique and distinctive experiences for everyone.
To MJ and Hiddle:
Try dealing with people individually, and not as statistics.
Don’t kid yourself there are PLENTY of stuck up rich black folks. My daughter went to a well-known HBCU and all the wealthy girls flaunted their money, wore designer clothes to class, and acted like beatches to anyone who wasn’t in their circle. Being an entitled azzhole has no color.
BTW, I went to an Ivy League school (I think you can guess which one from my name) and I work two jobs to make ends meet!
Oh all these racist comments.
LOL!
Note: please stop reporting this comment. There is a whitewhine parody website, referring to the “first world problems” meme and that’s what it’s referring to. Plus there are many, many responses. If we delete the parent comment, the responses will make no sense. Just stop reporting it.
BWWWAHAHAHHAAHHAH they were Reporting it?!??! bwahahahhahahajahaha ya’ll Fucking Ridiculous !
Thanks for the lulz and Nyc, Jay and OKitt for having the sense God Gave a Puppy and a sharp funny bones!
Are you kidding me? LOL!
Sounds like Rachael had all her little friends over here. Get a sense of humour people.
QQ – I actually just discovered that site today so I thought it was funny that you mentioned it. I love the FWP memes so this was right up my alley. I also think it’s kind of funny that your post got reported – though I feel bad for Celebitchy’s headache!
The cashier was probably reacting to how unfriendly and put-upon she apparently is. And even if the cashier were judging her, how this chick extrapolates from one person to the whole world is beyond me.
Just another not-so-smart girl looking for attention, and then pretending that it is unwanted. If you’re going to blog, at least learn to write and offer something funny, intelligent, or interesting. Shock value rudeness is too cliche.
Wait’ she”s rich so why did she have to go to a Mulbery sale?
Anyways I sympathize with her because I just can”t go around pretending that I”m rich just to be accepted by rich people. Please don”t hate on me because I”m one of the have nots.
“And even if the cashier were judging her, how this chick extrapolates from one person to the whole world is beyond me.”
Exactly, and honestly her perception of that event (and the essay in general) just made me giggle. The level of self-importance in this girl is off-the-charts.
Plus, I lived in NY for a few years and many, many grocery clerks are rude to everyone. I was actually afraid of them, or too afraid to ask them not to roll my fruit down the belt like they were bowling. I doubt it had anything to do with her stupid Mulberry bag or with her at all. It probably had to do with being overworked and underpaid and having to do a job you don’t like all day long.
Def. It’s why I generally do self-checkout.
After reading the account of the exchange with the cashier….WHAT is this chick talking about? The cashier didn’t seem to do anything outright offensive, she just wasn’t chatty as she was with the previous customer.
The fact that she takes a non-event, turns it into a an insult to herself, assumes the insult is based on her families wealth…it just sounds like a whole lot of IMAGINATION went into getting offended. She was writing a column, so it kind of sounds to me like she was stretching for inspiration.
I bet $20 that one person threw shade at her for what is obviously an ugly attitude and she got all huffy, wrote a super long Facebook status about it, then made it an essay.
Agreed. That or she is completely overreacting to the cashier who has been on her feet all day not wanting to chit-chat. The thing is, at least for me, when I see a young girl with a thousand-dollar purse, I either automatically assume it’s fake or just don’t care either way. She needs to get over herself BADLY!
#firstworldproblems
Exactly.
Sounds to me that people are relating to the complete bitch vibes emanating from every pore, not so much the rich dad.
One of my friends was left a seven-figure trust fund by her father when he died. She has a wide circle of friends from all backgrounds because she’s a TOLERABLE HUMAN BEING.
Apparently trying this has never occurred to Daddy’s Angry Little Princess up there!
I personally feel rich or poor, privileged or scraping by, stfu about your situation in public!
Ugh.
That’s all I’ve got.
First world problem, missy. Pull your head in!
So a cashier gives her attitude and this woman writes a open letter to the media? How many people rich and poor have been given attitude by sales staff? What makes her special? When you finish school and get rid of child hunger/poverty or find a cure for cancer then I will care what you have to say
Bitch please
Good point. Sales assistants giving attitude are individual situations
Well if it makes her feel better she looks completely budget. Maybe that’s what she was going for.
Ha! Thank you!
You’re welcome. 🙂
The best thing to do to this snot is to ignore her and her dumb essay. She is about as smart as she is good looking. You would think with all daddies’ money she could find some to do her eyebrows better.
I am one of those sad 40 something posters, and I can say I never took drunken or nude pictures of my young self ever. As that other generation I don’t get the revolution of the selfie and revealing every thought.
Reminds me of a line from the movie Easy A, when Thomas Haden Church said he didn’t understand the fascination with this generation documenting every thought. They aren’t all doozies. He is so right, and most could live a lifetime not having this girl’s thoughts exposed, including her.
I think it comes from the special snowflake mentality where kids are told they are amazing and more special than anyone else for just existing. No hard work, good character, or sacrifice is necessary.
Yes. More manifest destiny than noblesse oblige.
I’ve always enjoyed the phrase: You are special and unique, just like everyone else.
Special snowflake is perfect! So a clerk who has been on her feet for 8 hours and is a single mom with 2 kids in daycare with a deadbeat dad is not just THRILLED when Bitchface Bubbycakes goes through the line with all her shopping bags.
And now the rest of us are treated to a tirade about how her sad life is everyone ELSE’s fault.
Yes, you are being judged, little girl. On your behavior, not your wealth.
what inthekitchen said.
today’s generation is the Entitlement generation. these are the kids that got a trophy for “participation”. growing up; we only got them if we won. these are the kids whose parents berate the teacher for the kids’ bad grades, not the kid for not doing the work. these are the kids who (as stated above) are told how SPECIAL and AMAZING and ONE-OF-A-KIND they all are. they get to thinking that EVERY SINGLE ONE of their thoughts and ideas are GROUND-BREAKING!!! when in fact they’re no more “special” than anyone else.
I don’t mean to pick on you personally, but I’m not sure if I buy this. I know plenty of teens and young adults who work hard and care passionately about causes bigger than themselves.
My kids are younger and we live a fairly privileged life but no one I know is asking for favoritism or special treatment for their kids.
I do think entitlement exists, don’t get me wrong, I have a couple young relatives who are perfect examples of that. I just think it’s a bit unfair to paint an entire generation with such a broad brush.
@ Esmom-I blame HuffPro, Gawker, Daily Mail and a few other online news outlets for creating that false perception and it’s mostly being directed ay MY generation (30-somethings) not the 20-somethings of today. The articles were generated as an explanation for the burgeoning “adultescent” lifestyle of myself and my unmarried peers. Some of the observations are spot-on but I have a really problem with the “snowflake symptom” that keeps getting brought up.
It’s a bit insulting really.
Esmom, they did it back in the Seventies with the “me” generation, which is the generation that spawned the first wave of tech pioneers who revolutionized our world. And then Generation X was a bunch of whiny crybabies, except now they’re the ones emerging as leaders in equality fights such as marriage and health care. So, by my calculations, the “entitlement” generation is going to cure cancer and/or make first contact.
TEENAGERS SUCK. EARLY 20-SOMETHINGS SUCK. It’s useless to judge a generation by the teens and early 20s because everyone is horrible and has no experience. Call me when they run into the first major obstacle of their lives and then we can see how they deal. This girl is a twat, and maybe she’ll always be a twat, or maybe one day she’ll experience something that will open her eyes and bring her outside of herself and she’ll go on to be a worthwhile human being. But even if she doesn’t, the majority of her peers will.
yes, of course, I am generalizing.
I come into contact with young people every day who are NOT like this (and it’s refreshing when I do), but I’ve seen too many who are like that to NOT see it as a generational thing. and, truth be told, it’s not the kids’ fault, it’s more so on the parents who have created this entitled generation of kids who think they deserve an iPod or a laptop or a car or a Coach purse because “so-and-so has one”.
In general, babies, children, teens and young adults are, by default, selfish. Not all, but in general. It truly is by nature.
They, like all those before them (us “grown-ups” included) eventually learn and grow.
It takes time, but can happen. Unfortunately some won’t grow out of it, unless given a hard-knock lesson in life that brings about great change.
Accusations of laziness in “kids these days” is not anything new. It has been a shared feeling against many generations. Possibly what generations before mine perceive as laziness, is actually a more productive way of doing things. I don’t think I need to explain the economic hurdles that my generation has inherited either.
I definitely agree with the entitlement thing–and it’s proportional. Where I live, there are some rich people (apparently people like the snow here), but the majority are middle class and poor–but their kids have everything. In elementary school, you see kids walking around with cell phones–not track phones, CELL PHONES. They all have an ipod–a new ipod. Some even have laptops.
A lot of kids, where I live, just expect their parents to pay for everything, get them what they want–no matter what.
I’m eighteen–I’m typing this comment on my laptop that I got for my birthday LAST YEAR–without asking. I’ve never had a cell phone (if I want one, I have to pay for it). Even when I was younger, if I wanted to buy something (I used to collect Barbie Dolls), then I had to do extra chores in lieu of paying w/actual money.
I’m 37 and boyfriends have taken plenty of pictures of me naked. My husband does it now too. I have pictures of my father and mother and their friends when they were drunk (and probably high).
Old people whining about how the younger generation is entitled/lazy/whiny/too sexy/likes to drink/get high/and etc. is at least as old as writing. And it does not say anything good about us as a species that we keep doing it over and over and over, generation after generation, same thing again and again with absolutely no change.
It’s jealousy, and it’s forgetting what it was like to be young. As Dumbledore said, while young people have no way of knowing what it’s like to be old, it is inexcusable for old people to forget what it was to be young.
The Millenials are not entitled. They are not lazy. The world has changed, and they’re rolling with it a lot more easily than people older than they are.
It’s funny, I never see anyone saying Brandi Glanville is getting drunk and flashing tampon string because she’s Generation X, or that Leann Rimes is going nuts on Twitter because she’s Generation X. Remember when we were being treated like carbon copies of each other, and regularly accused of being lazy slugs because we were not doing everything in exactly precisely the same way Baby Boomers did? It wasn’t very long ago; we should not be forgetting so easily. It’s not like we have the excuse of being Baby Boomers ourselves and being senile or something.
I’m 37 as well, and while I get what you are saying, I kind of disagree.
I think the point that most of us Gen X and Yers make is that there was no outlet when we were that age to broadcast our bad behaviour. Yes we took drunken, nude pics or made other questionable choices but we didn’t have access to broadcast them to the world. Our “mistakes” are on negatives in someone’s basement.
I think there is a fear of how those choices will follow a person through their lives because once it is in cyberspace there is no taking it back.
Maybe Millennials won’t care about leaving it all out there. My mom was worried about my tattoo because I will be old with a tattoo, but then so will all of my friends. Maybe that’s how they feel about their online persona.
I think it is the point of youth to push the envelope. They want to shock and annoy us, just as we did at their age. So our judgement is not just because everyone gets narrow minded as they age, younger people want to rebel a little and that is ok. Just like it is ok for us to think some of their choices are wrong or in poor judgement.
Like the saying goes “Youth is wasted on the young”
@ Emily C.
I love you for this comment
I love that scene in Fight Club…”you are not a special or unique snow flake”
This bitch needs to take a seat. I hope her parents are mortified and put her into community college. Nothing against community colleges, btw, they just don’t offer little brats like this a lot of luxuries.
I hope her parents do realize the type of person they’ve raised their child to be.
Also, you’d think with the Ivy League education of which she boasts, she’d had a better vocabulary, so she wouldn’t have to resort to dropping the f bomb in what I assume was supposed to be a serious letter.
If they don’t get it after reading her rants, they are truly clueless.
She goes to Manhattan College. Not Ivy League. Great school, though.
Not Ivy League. She goes to the New School which is where people go to take classes in just about anything. It’s hardly even considered a ‘college.’
I hope this is some kind of social media/journalism experiment, otherwise that chick better pray her dads money lasts. Only youth would allow a person to publish something like this. It reeks of issues, a reputation, and now an Internet thumbprint that most employees wouldn’t touch, so good luck with that Job search after college and enjoy the good life while can because the sun sets on a rich mans as same as a poor mans. Idiot.
I guess the adage “money can’t buy class” would be appropriate here. Why does she feel the new to even bring attention to her finances? In American culture it is absolutely crass.
Exactly. The first rule about coming from money is that you never, ever mention money, or advertise that you have it. It’s not just unseemly, it’s downright vulgar.
The crazy sorority girl was so much more entertaining. This girl is a total bore
I love her if for no other reason than we got a video of Michael Shannon reading her letter.
http://www.funnyordie.com/videos/4ad20b4edf/michael-shannon-reads-the-insane-sorority-letter
So basically she sent an email judging people with less than for judging her? Oh to be young, self-centered and dumb again.
You never have to apologize for the lot in life you were born into, you have no control over it. However you do have control over whether or not you choose to rub people’s noses in it. So what if someone didn’t like you, guaranteed it happens daily. Get the fuk over yourself child.
All that money and she can’t get a decent dye job?
Or an iron?
Or some shampoo?
Lol, I wanted to mention that as soon as I saw her picture. All that money and she looks like a slob.
Or a hairstyle.
Or some make up.
Or an eyebrow tweezing.
Or better clothes.
Though I’m sure that frumpy outfit cost a small fortune.
Just STOP you jealous, 40-something poor peoples!
Heh.
She reminds me of a girl I knew in high school–whose life after doctor daddy did NOT go well. I think she is on husband #3 and a serious alcohol problem.
Don’t hate me ya’ll, but her dad is a doctor. Not some titan of industry. A doctor. Very good money? Yes. Rich money? Rarely. I read an article that said she lived in a 700K house in MD, which is solidly upper middle class. I guess rich is subjective cuz I grew up in similar circumstances and I have NEVER been under the impression that we were rollin’ in it.
I was thinking the same thing! My husband is a doctor (granted a generalist) but in no universe are we rich. The drug reps make more than my husband. Sheesh! Way to perpetuate stereotypes that are ridiculous and out of date.
I’m a doctor (psychiatrist.) I lucked into money (trust fund from a benefactor), but had I not, I would be living nicely on my salary, but not rolling in the big bucks.
I grew up with nothing. I know what it’s like to live hand to mouth and paycheck to paycheck. It’s the way of life for many many people. I am no better nor am I worse for having money now, at 40 something.
Where in Maryland is she from? I’ve lived here my whole life, and that actually makes sense to me. It’s ridiculous the dichotomy of rich and poor you find here, and the sense of entitlement in a lot of kids AND adults, even where I live, which is probably closer to her PARENTS income level, mid to upper six figures
Good thing daddy is rich because no way in hell is she ever becoming a successful writer
Too bad she’s so butt ugly inside and out. Money can’t buy pretty.
I was just thinking she needs to invest that wealth in a good moisturizer and hair stylist.
Why should she look any different than what she looks now?
Your comment is ugly too
Daddy must be so proud.
That was exactly my thought. If my kid did this I would be absolutely mortified. She would have gotten a massive reality check from me – and cut up credit cards.
Any time my kids refer to their circumstances, I remind them that the only reason they live this way is because we provide it, and they could very easily be living a different life. It’s all a matter of genetic luck when you’re a kid. Go out and make your own difference in this world and then you can take some pride.
Until then, be grateful…it could all turn on a dime.
Exactly.
I blame her parents, because they created a monster. Just because you have money doesn’t mean you have class. I would love an interview with her parents on their reaction to her rant.
Someone wants their 15 minutes.
If one word of that is true then I feel nothing but pity for her. Anyone that stupid and self absorbed is in for a lifetime of disappointment and baseless indignation.
Ugh, have a stadium of seats. Maybe she’d like to swap circumstances for a while?
I love that she is complaining that people are judging her for being “rich.”
Please you are not rich, your parents are apparently doing very well for themselves. I remember the Cosby episode where Vanessa complains she got in a fight with a classmate because they were calling her a rich girl and she blamed her parents for it. I loved Bill Cobsy’s response. “Your mother and I are rich. You have nothing.”
I would love it if her parents are the type who cut their kids off at a certain point, but from the way she talks it sounds like they are probably paying for her rent and everything else.
Ha ha..that’s a great quote.
Saturday night my friend and I got stoned and watched ‘Bill Cosby-Himself’. Dude was (and still is) so brilliant.
Off topic, but you made me smile with this reference. Bill Cosby Himself is still on heavy rotation in my house. “The Dentist” makes me lose it every time! I can probably do the whole show along with him at this point.
(I actually threatened to pull my husband’s bottom lip up over his head when I was in labor with my first son. It’s pretty accurate.)
He’s the best. We used to listen to that on a cassette tape when my family would go on road trips.
Chocolate cake! 😉
“Dad is great! Gave us the chocolate cake!” Classic. Love it!
The best part of that scene (to me) was Claire Huxtable clarifying that they weren’t rich, because “rich is when your money works for you, you don’t work for your money.”
I love that episode- I was a kid when I saw it, and it clarified a lot for me regarding my entitlement to my parents’ money. My parents have done well in their lives, but their money is not now and never has been “mine.”
I made the mistake over the weekend of following a link to this girl’s twitter. It was pretty darn racist. Shockingly so. I couldn’t care less about her having her daddy’s money– hey, enjoy it — but the racist tweets made me sad.
So, um, she decides that all of society treats her a certain way based on one interaction with a clerk? And the clerk said nothing about her wealth directly? Little Miss is projecting. She says she is not going to “act poor”, so what’s the real story? Did she behave “rich”, whatever that means, to cause the clerk to dislike her?
I couldn’t tell that her family had money based on that photo. She must just have an air about her.
Right, it MUST be because she’s rich, because cashiers are never rude or anything, like EVER.
Nothing against cashiers, I was one in high school and I can tell you that I wasn’t greeting the clientele with a big smile every day. Might have been because I was getting paid $4.25 an hour and was forced to join a union.
Or, you know, humans sometimes just have a bad day and you can’t take every little thing personally.
I’m certain that I’m a bitch to rich people on a daily basis while elbowing my way through this angry-ass city.
That being said, it really has nothing to do with them being rich, rather just that they’re in my way or walking too slowly or any other one of the myriad offenses that urban dwellers are guilty of.
I really don’t understand why she assumed the cashier and in-state-woman were bitching about her in the first place.
I worked checkout back in high-school, and had my share of random weirdo customers, but none randomly bitched about other customers being rich. I can’t see it happening out of the blue like that.
More likely scenario: cashier and in-state are vague acquaintances, and in-state simply mentioned her school in the context of explaining what she was up to these days. Rich-girl was just being paranoid, and they didn’t even notice she existed.
My question is and maybe I missed the answer but how would anyone know she/her family is rich? Because of a shopping bag she was carrying? I call b.s on this. I am not rich by any stretch but every now and again I might treat myself and be seen with a high end store bag. No one treats me poorly nor do I assume they think I am rich. People treat you how you treat them. If you are a douche bag you might be treated like one. If you are courteous and polite you are treated well.
Maybe it’s too early and I missed the point of her rant. More coffee may be in order.
there was no point to her rant, you didn’t miss anything.
Lol. Thanks. I was hoping that was the case.
It certainly did not have anything to do with her frumpy appearance.
And PS: when I see young girls with designer bags, I assume they are knockoffs. Not gifts from daddy.
People sell designer bags on eBay. Not sure how much a Mulberry one would go for, but you can buy Chanel or Hermes ones. Just in case you feel like going to the store and bitching about the great unwashed. 🙂
The biggest problem I have with this is that she is not rich, her dad is. When she starts to work for her money I will listen to her opinions about money. Until then, she can shut up, go to school, get a job and learn a little about the world.
yes indeed, boo hoo hoo.
and on that note, hooray for pocoyo!
Im glad she’s no Beauty…If she was she would be complaining about that to.
WOW. Maybe it’s the cultural differences (I live in a poor Eastern European country), but this is shocking for me. This girl needs to get a grip asap. What she wrote is outrageous, she’s painting herself as some kind of martyr… go buy another bag, b*tch.
“Who am I to attempt to talk about things that are taboo? Who am I to think that America has a sense of humor about anything?”
I love how indignant she is here, like she’s some sort of social commentator fighting the man!
If this even happened, in the height of a crippling recession when people can’t pay their utilities and mortgages/rent if you post something on the internet about getting some shade for having Mulberry sales bag from a cashier who probably earns less than minimum wage then expect to get flamed on the internet.
Some people can’t afford a sense of humour about money when they don’t have any but given that the cashier didn’t even say anything, it sounds like it’s all in her head.
Awwww, look at her and her first world problems. Quick grab a Hermes scarf to wipe away her tears…
BWAHAHAHAHA!!! Priceless!
I finally get it. *This* is the “Girls” target demographic.
HA! +1. She totally fits the “Girls” demographic. Like the actresses on that show, this girl is also an annoying 20-something living in NYC and benefiting from her daddy’s wealth and connections. Thank you for pointing out the similarities.
On another note, I kind of hate how people just automatically start slamming her looks. Isn’t there enough material to work with here without bringing her appearance into it?
Ugh.
Agreed, her looks have nothing to do with anything. This is all about her horrible attitude and behavior.
I think Jezebel has a brilliant piece on this very topic.
I’m also confused as to why on Earth should she look any different than what she does now? Would better looks make her meanness and crudeness somehow more swallowable or acceptable? Is it that if you’re pretty, you can be a beeyotch?
Whenever women insult other women for their looks, they’re just enforcing the discriminatory male gaze (“a woman’s sole purpose in life is to be pleasing to the man’s eye”). Every. Time.
http://www.dressaday.com/2006/10/20/you-dont-have-to-be-pretty/
“You Don’t Have to Be Pretty. You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female”.”
I love this.
I agree to a large extent, but I think in this case she was using her appearance as supporting evidence as to why she was supposedly treated the way she was.
She is asserting that the clerk just KNEW she was a rich girl by looking at her and therefore was rude to her because of that, without any conversation relating to money. I think based on her essay, people were expecting her to look like the stereotype of wealth.
I agree. Under no circumstance would I run into her and think “rich girl.” I think the fact that she looks pretty schleppy flies in the face of her argument that the clerk was mean to her because the clerk guessed that she was wealthy. You can’t be judged for being a rich girl if no one would think that you are rich.
I agree! People calling her ugly are really lowering the bar for discussion. Like, is that really all you have to say?
Besides, haven’t we all had bad photos taken?
There has been recent scientific studies done (and I apologize that I can’t site them, I heard about it on CBC radio while driving) showing that the more money you have, the more it affects your sense of empathy. I don’t think that’s true in every case, but it seems true here. It doesn’t bother her how much she’s offended people, she goes on the attack. And I’m not saying that she shouldn’t stand by her argument (no person should be judged by their income level) but that she should at least consider how her words could be perceived as hurtful.
I can’t disagree, having worked for the filthy rich, a lot of them soulless freaks. The young especially feel entitled and haven’t been taught manners. She’s lived in a bubble, and a peon treated her, in her estimation, poorly. Because, of course, she should be treated like gold even when she acts like a tiresome ass.
Her father needs to borrow a line from the great Cliff Huxtable: “Your mother and I are rich. You have nothing.”
And this gem (which my Mom used on occasion before this show):
Cliff: “I brought you into this world and I can take you out again!”
Well, as someone who isn’t rich, doesn’t have rich parents, etc. I find nothing wrong with the initial motivation of her writing the essay. It seems its the thing to do to shame people for having money and being well off or finding out how much they make and then telling them what they should do with their money as though we know that they don’t do anything charitable or productive with it.
And then the usual “oh she and her first world problems” comments, this isn’t about her ranting about her problems or crying woe is me, she’s calling out those who are pertentious (sp) and judgemental in labelling her based on only the simple knowledge that she is of well of means, or rather her family. It’s only when someone who is the target of the judgement decides they want to “clap back” with questioning why you want to challenge them and their status and how do you know they don’t do anything productive with their means that those that questioned them, will get defensive and won’t answer the questions but continue to label…shutup!
I think her version of “acting poor” probably means not acting entitled. Hey, girlie, I’ve seen rich people act civil and polite, and broke-ass people act like like complete boors. And vice-versa. If a clerk shades you for being rude and demanding, good on her/him!
She has a point. I took a job cleaning houses when I was fresh out of university and the girls I worked with were insanely jealous of the people who lived in the houses we cleaned. One woman was called all sorts of names behind her back because she has a fabulous collection of Louboutins and Manolo’s but she was a sweet and decent person. There was no motivation for the names other than jealousy.
My SIL’s family are extremely well off and their kids were constantly sneered at for having expensive cars in their teenage years. I just dont understand that. Its pure jealousy because not one of those kids are abrasive or snotty in any way.
There is a certain mean streak fueled by jealousy and thats what she is talking about… she just did it in a very abrasive way.
Please. In younger days I cleaned houses of the stinking rich as well. No one had time to be jealous. They were just trying to survive and were busy eating each other alive. One hell of a subculture. All interest in the rich was about the tips (largely a disappointment).
I don’t think its jealousy, so much as its just plain ignorance and “group think” crowd following to feel justified in judging due to the fact that alot of us have been conditioned to categorize and label those with alot as the culprits in some way as to why there are so many “have nots” in the world. We see documentaries like born rich, reality shows, etc and just by knee jerk reaction feel justified in the wrong thinking that anyone from a means of wealth or upper class should be looked at as wrong, an enemy of us common people and choose to turn the tables by saying in so many words “well I may not have your money, but I am better than you because I care about more important things etc” when we don’t know ANYHTING about them past what they (or their families) posess monetarily. It kind if furthers the notions that a “have not” TRULY is a “have not” in the sense that they get clouded by their own judgement of other people and don’t bother to put themselves up for review. They bug me to no end!
NYC, unlike working class Philly, is FULL of rich people walking around. I really doubt that the salesclerk was rude to this thing.
Personally, I don’t give a damn about how much money someone does or doesn’t have. I try to treat all people with decency and respect.
she needs to focus on getting an education because sounds more moronic than most her age.
-throw shade at goop for being an ACTRESS that’s unable to pretend like she makes less than 25k.
-learn if you “put yourself out there” there are going to be people that don’t like any part of it: your actions, ideas, or you personally.
– ugh, who am i kidding? she’s 100% special snowflake. she will never learn anything outside of feeling entitled to do/say as she pleases and expect nothing but praise in return.
she is just like goopers. born on third, thinks she hit a triple.
she thinks/writes about as well as goop, contradicting herself every other thought -maybe she should try for an internship.
And now that this is out there, how does she think this will affect her prospects of getting an internship or job? She may think that she can live off of daddy her entire life, but I seriously doubt that is true.
To have money is one thing. To think you are above and beyond, and better than the rest of us because of it is asinine. After all did she do anything to earn that wealth other than being born into it?
Go stand by your mailbox and wait for daddy warbucks to mail your monthly check from the family money market account. ugh.
The dye job is worse than Depp’s. I wonder if she was yapping on her cellphone while in the midst of the transaction, came in at the last minute and holding up the line when everyone wanted to get their thang done.
I would rather read stereo instructions than the drivel of that homely cretin.
When a cashier gives me cold or even borderline rude service, I think about how awful it must be to spend a whole shift on your feet, doing a repetitive motion, surrounded by screaming children and probably get yelled at by impatient/irate customers at least half a dozen times a day, all for barely more than minimum wage, if even that. I’m lucky enough that I never had to work in a service industry, but I appreciate the people who do because god knows I would probably snap and murder everyone if that were me. I don’t assume a “bad” cashier is being rude because they’re jealous of me or whatever, I just think that they’ve likely had a rough shift and I try to get out of their way with as little fuss as possible. The world doesn’t revolve around me.
to add to what you said (and totally agree, btw), if you show a person working in the service industry a TINY LITTLE bit of kindness or patience (which they often deserve), it’s amazing the kind of (excellent) service you’ll get.
totally agree
+1
Thank you. I was going to say something along those lines but you said it perfectly.
And not to defend the clerk’s rudeness, because we don’t know the whole story, but for me, personally, if I am ever blatently rude to someone I have to help at work, it’s because they’ve exhausted my kindness AND my reservoir of “bless your heart” and I just want them gone. I don’t hate this girl because she is rich, but I certainly don’t like that she doesn’t have the self-awareness to examine how she treats others before casting stones.
+2
You said it perfectly.
Amen. Although I hate Dr. Phil, I did catch a clip where he was discussing the treatment of waiters. He said that the best way to deal with people in the service industry who appeared to be crabby was to try a little compassion (looks like you guys are swamped; seems like a killer shift, etc…) Even if the person doesn’t respond well, you are far more likely to walk away feeling better about the exchange.
Only insecure and angry people let one person’s demeanor ruin their day or mean anything to them.
Thank you!!!! If only more people were like you, my job would be a lot more bearable.
If we in the service-industry are seemingly rude, it really does mean we have reached our quota of the day of dealing with rude customers who think we are lesser human beings for the jobs we have. Sadly, a common occurrence. I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to have someone give you a simple thanks for the service.
We do our best but it is not always easy to stay pleasant to everyone and yes, some people push our buttons to the point where we grimace instead of smile easily.
I don’t know who you are but I think I love you. As a waitress I earn minimum wage while in college studying drama 95% of the time the customers are wonderful but then you have the 5% who treat you awfully. What customers don’t see is the day you have spent on your feet running round for them, making sure they feel comfortable and all there needs are met. Recently I’ve even had to work shifts with a trapped nerve in my back and possible siatica but I have to make sure customers don’t see I am in sever pain while I bring them there food. And doing 6 day weeks can be exhausting too sometimes people need to realise before you treat your server like shit that they have a life too and they are not paid enough to listen to your first world problems about presentation of food they didn’t cook. Sorry rant over.
It sounds like this letter was really meant for a tiny group of people who were really harassing her and that she has a lot of stuff she needs to work on with a therapist, in private. It’s unfortunate this got published.
I agree with you Tulip. This stuff isn’t new, when I was in college there were girls complaining to me about how others were jealous of them because of their privileged back round. If she was constantly attacked for it, I can understand why she flipped and tried to turn it around.
Maybe it’s a good thing that this came out, who knows she might learn something, not now, but in a couple of years perhaps.
Money can only get you so far, after college you have to prove yourself on your own. Probably she’ll come across people who are more entitled than she is right now. That’s when you learn to eat humble pie and accept your place in life.
So there is always hope I guess…..
Her essay was silly, no doubt. 20 something millenials have no filter, no thoughts of consequences or the future. It’s all about “feelings”. If cashier made her feel badly, just think about how bad her boss someday is going to make her feel when he/she criticizes her. I came from similar circumstances, but my parents were frugal and cut the ties after my “sub-par” state school education. This girl has some hard lessons to learn, but didn’t we all at that age.
Her dad is a doctor, I’m sure her family is comfortable but I doubt they have an endless reservoir of funds. Also, she is twenty – so she herself probably has relatively little (if any) money of her own. I guess I don’t understand why she would write her little manifesto in the first place. A cashier was mean to you, big whoop. More than likely she is disliked because see is always pointed out that her father is a doctor and bragging about something or another; otherwise no one would know how much money her father/family may or may not have.
This behavior is typical for the obnoxious semi well off folks. On the other hand I have actually interacted with some people from well known families who have hundreds of millions/billions of dollars and they generally don’t do stuff like this.
Princess Ranty-Pants should use some of her allowance to buy some character.
And class, tact, humility, modesty, respect, understanding, and if she has any change left over, perhaps a slice of humble pie.
Excuse me… “State school”??? Some state schools (e.g. The University of Texas, The University of Vermont, Rutgers, UConn, etc.) are just as well-respected and accomplished as any private school. They’re called public ivies for a reason, betch, and my education from UT probably afforded me the same opportunity to get into law school that I would if I had gone to a place like Brown, Baylor, SMU, Vandy, etc… And I paid half the price. So suck on that.
Cheers fellow utah graduate
I’d like to add to that list the University of California. All my professors were the people that wrote the books, essays, etc that are used in her Ivy League.
Well I’m solidly middle-class so I have TWICE as much to whine about as little miss snottypants. The lower classes hate me because I have more money than they do and the upper classes hate me because they think I’m poor and jealous of them and fuming about it on social media.
Two words for you sweetheart and they’re not “I’m sorry”. F*ck off.
Can she afford to put a gold bag over her head?
Girl has got serious “butter-face”
Geez Louise. * How does one act ‘poor’???
This mindless waste of space actually believes that it’s the bags from Mulberry that define her.
I’ve worked serving the rich. It’s their entitlement, demanding and whining that defines a lot of them especially the young. So perhaps that ‘rich’ behaviour did not fly. Or perhaps
she’s just a nasty person with underlings. Or perhaps the underling was having a bad day…
But noooooooooo, it’s because of the label.
Self-important, self-absorbed.
Narcissist.
She is a tempest in a teapot. Laughable, really.
When I hear about children of rich parents spouting off or acting up, I tend to think of a particular scene from the Cosby Show:
Vanessa Huxtable: “None of this would have happened if we weren’t so rich.”
Cliff Huxtable: “Let me get somethin’ straight, okay? Your mother and I are rich. You have nothing. You can tell your friends and your enemies that. Okay?”
i dont know why she thinks the girl recognized it was a mulberry, knew the cost, assume it was real….
because she has a lot of spare time, she assumes everyone else does too
Forgot to add, perhaps she’s just an ill mannered shrew. Money has nothing to do with it.
She’s getting her 20 minutes of fame, which is what I believe she wanted. We’re going to learn soon it was all a performance piece or something probably. Whatever, I don’t really get why we’re talking about her, she’s just someone who wrote a stupid article. If we were to regularly talk about all the people in the country who write stupid articles, there would be no time for arguing over Cumberbatch.
I think this dumba$$ believes people pay attention to and care about her waaaaaaay more than they actually do.
I don’t think its jealousy, so much as its just plain ignorance and “group think” crowd following to feel justified in judging due to the fact that alot of us have been conditioned to categorize and label those with alot as the culprits in some way as to why there are so many “have nots” in the world. We see documentaries like born rich, reality shows, etc and just by knee jerk reaction feel justified in the wrong thinking that anyone from a means of wealth or upper class should be looked at as wrong, an enemy of us common people and choose to turn the tables by saying in so many words “well I may not have your money, but I am better than you because I care about more important things etc” when we don’t know ANYHTING about them past what they (or their families) posess monetarily. It kind if furthers the notions that a “have not” TRULY is a “have not” in the sense that they get clouded by their own judgement of other people and don’t bother to put themselves up for review. They bug me to no end!
Wonderfully well said.
All this over a rude cashier? Wow. Talk about over-thinking a situation. Maybe the cashier had a bad day? Naaaahhh, it was about you!!
I dont really care about her rant, lets talk about her hard-on-my-eyes face.
According to the Daily Mail, she goes to the “New School”. Not to sound like an elitist snob but if you are going to spend daddy’s money on an overpriced private education at least spend it on a school that is in the top 100. Hey, she’s from Maryland and U of Maryland was ranked like 62 in the US News.
According to the Daily Mail, she goes to the “New School”. Not to sound like an elitist snob but if you are going to spend daddy’s money on an overpriced private education at least spend it on a school that is in the top 100.
Girl lashed out because she’s unattractive. In addition to bring rude, that’s unacceptable.
WOW! So she is complaining about a common circumstance? Haven’t we all been dissed by some sales clerk having a bad day at some point in our lives? Big. Friggin. Deal. Having been a cashier myself I can tell you that it happens. Especially when you have to deal with whiny people all day. I would love to see a follow up to her “letter” (I wouldn’t really call it an essay…note to Rachael…take a LOT more English classes) when she is out of school and having to forage for herself in this cold, cruel world.
Did she mean FAZE instead of ‘phase’? I’m honestly asking that since English is not my first language.
Yes, she does mean “faze”. That mistake is actually pretty funny considering that in her next paragraph she refers to the unintelligence of commenters who spell her name wrong.
I, too, am sorry that she was born into great financial circumstances and that her father likes to provide for her, as well as sorry that she doesn’t have to go to a state school to save her parents money. Perhaps if circumstances were different she might be a little more grounded and perhaps even a little gracious. #firstworldproblems
#Firstworldproblems
Aww, bless her tiny little heart.
She rants because she is unattractive, this along with her rudeness, is very unappealing.
I love her; she’s so unapologetic about being an insufferable, entitled little b*tch. Mark my words, she’s gonna get some sort of a tv or movie deal out of this.
Why is she a thing? I mean, why are we even paying attention to something a dumb kid said? This girl isn’t even a socialite or from a prominent family. She’s upper middle class and about as famous as I am.
New York State schools are nothing to scoff at. Several are great bangs for your buck and more difficult to get into than Manhattan College.
One of my pet peeves is people who treat people who are serving them like they aren’t there. It’s one of the things I on which I base my opinion. I also interrupt the person doing the talking and tell them the waitperson is waiting to take our order. I hate that with a passion I can’t explain.
Me, too, Bluhare!
She’s right about one thing. No one should waste another minute thinking about her!
Perhaps it’s just my middle-class showing, but I always figured when one was rich, and one was judged for being rich, it was the sort of thing you shrugged off because hey, it beats being poor.
Some of the most wretched people I know are the offspring of rich people. Their parents (you know, the ones who actually earned their wealth) are all lovely people, but their kids and grandkids are downright rotten. (Girl’s father’s in the hospital, practically dying, no visit, just a call saying “Give me 800£”)
I think that’s what bugs me the most about this girl; the entitlement. This affluence she claims she’s being judged for? She didn’t have to earn any of it. I don’t begrudge people for having rich parents (hey, they have no control over that) until they start bleating about how awful it is to be rich.
Normally I wouldn’t be this petty towards a non-celeb citizen, but…
She dresses like a bohemian drifter. Seriously, I’ve had to work with some spoiled little rich girls, and NONE of them would be caught dead with that seventh grade DIY Manic Panic dye job…
I don’t understand how the cashier story happened, because if I took one look at her, I would assume she came from less money than me… and it should be noted that my parents were the very definition of middle class.
(And on top of that, I grew up with four brothers with a penchant for totaling cars… and I *still* never looked that awful with my little $100 a month clothing budget! AH!!! Her style is infuriating considering what she’s preaching…)
I don’t really see the point of such a “rant”, but whatever the reason, I do agree with the gist of it – most especially with the observation that people should invest in themselves instead of “hating on” someone else because that other person is perceived to be, or have, something they are, or have, not.
It is also true that such an attitude reveals people to be petty and bitter. (Not just petty and bitter but also stupid, I might add, because only a stupid person would resent a perfect stranger for whatever is wrong with their own lives.)
I have been on the receiving end of much jealousy and pettiness, none of which was my fault (indeed, the kinder I was, the worse it got – because they were deprived of a “good” excuse for their behaviour), and eventually it turned out – unsurprisingly – that those people chose facile envy because it was the path of least resistance. It did not demand self-improvement from them – which was something they were unable or unwilling to pursue anyway. In other words, their lives sucked because THEY sucked.
I can relate to what you’re saying about how kinder you were, the worse you were getting.
Some people chose to waste their time and energy on envying others without ever making an effort to improve themselves or make the most of what they have been given.
No matter how rich or poor you are, there are always people who are better or worse off.
So this girl’s family might not be super rich, but in the eyes of many she is very well off and therefore a target for everything that is wrong with rich people’s lifestyle and attitudes.
It seems like Sack’s so self-conscious about her luxury item purchases that she automatically assumes everybody is focused on her possessions, which is what a snob thinks like by the way… It’s like she buys expensive stuff in order to show off, then expects everybody to realize that she has expensive stuff and expects a certain behavior from others to herself. And if it doesn’t go well for her, then she blames it on jealousy.
And how does having a Mulberry bag (which I’ve never heard of) make others think she’s rich? It’s just a bag. How would anybody assume she’s rich just because of a bag? How does she know that the cashier even knew what kind of bag it was & that even if the cashier knew, that he/she knew it was authentic or not? But then again, it’s just a bag. No big deal. Not really a status symbol to many people who don’t really pay attention to this kind of thing.
This overly self-conscious snob needs to stop basing every day interactions on financial status. Big whoop-de-doo if a cashier didn’t happen to kiss her ass that particular day or every stranger in the world wasn’t nice enough to her satisfaction. You know she bought that bag to show off & is so obsessed with its cost since she thinks it’s the end-all be-all to that particular situation.
I like that she got in a new comment about 40 year olds being washed up this time. Burn in hell vapid bitch.
I may be one of the only males to have posted here so far, and one of the only non-Americans (I’m Canadian), that being said, I feel for anyone who has disdain for this young woman and people like her. I’m sorry for all of those amongst you who are better off, but I’m only 23 and fresh out of university and I have a lot of negative experiences with people like this little rich girl and so do a lot of the people I went to school with. First of all, it is so easy to be bottled up with resentment for people who not only aren’t going to graduate with $40,000+ in student loans because your parents couldnt’t provide for you, it’s an extra punch in the face to watch people on campus strut around wearing designer clothes and watching Mommy and Daddy Rich email money transfer your spoilt roommate 500 bucks a week for booze and clothes while you struggle to FEED yourself and live off of Ramen noodles for 2 weeks straight while waiting for your student loan to come through. I sympathise with the cashier because I’ve been there, with over-entitled little sheets acting better than me or as if I’m their slave while just trying to make ends meet. They outwardly act like they are superior to you while rubbing it in your face that their parents send them more money than yours ever could. They act like they themselves are the rich deserving ones and that you are an undeserving peasant because their Daddy is a doctor and your parents work retail. It is insane and ridiculous. I really have no patience for the entitlement mentality that this girl represents and I refuse to look at her as a victim – she has NO idea what the people who are supposedly “judging her” go through on a daily basis. Until she ever has to worry about becoming homeless during her university years like I faced myself during my 2nd year, I just dont believe that her or anyone else who’ve never had to face that have the right to complain. That is one situation that you cannot understand until you’ve been in it – ever.
Thank you for that Scott. I remember my student days when I had to wait tables, pump gas, work at a dry cleaners, and even go on welfare to make ends meet because my parents didn’t have the money to pay for my education. I shared a 1 bedroom squat with 3 other girls and lived on bread and peanut butter. I grew up in a very wealthy town fully of snotty brats with high-end cars and designer clothes, but my parents were totally middle-class. My dad lost his job just as I finished high school and they ended up having to sell our home and move out of town into a cheap apartment to survive. This miserable little entitled c*nt is feeling sorry for herself for having rich parents??? She can kiss my ass.
oh wa wa you dumb girl. The cashiers at the Gristede’s by my old upper east side apartment were rude to me too sometimes. It’s New York for christs sakes. And I was a broke, unemployed happy stoner and the chicks would blow me off too. They don’t discriminate on who they give attitude to. I would bet money the cashier didn’t even recognize your fancy bag.
You are not special.
The Post Office employees in New York are the worst. They literally made me cry. hehe i moved back to california where people say hi to each other and smile. 🙂 that being said, I had amazing luck while I lived in New York- I had a few experiences with extra ordinary nice New Yorkers. My lifelong New Yorker boyfriend at the time would get baffled at the kind things a few nice strangers did for me while we lived there.
I take your NYC post offices and raise you Chicago police departments. I just wanted to buy a parking pass, man… I just wanted a pass…
She should really “rant” to her hairstylist…She’s got a brown helmet with a bushy blonde tail!
I hope she loves Daddy a lot, because with that face and attitude, she won’t attract much more than him.
I believe this kid truly thinks the cashier — and everyone else she perceives as “less than” — MUST be envious of her personally. Everything’s about *her*. Hey maybe the cashier had a headache. Maybe her mom just died. Maybe no one was paying attention to little Rachael for minute. Grow up
This completely supports my belief that Thought Catalog is one of the most irritating blogs online.
Her fathers a stinking Dr.? Big whoop. He’s not even a Park Avenue Dr. He’s some Dr. in the MD boonies? Newsflash sweetheart: this is NYC and theres more money and wealth here than, very obviously, you can possibly imagine. Whatever you THINK you have? Dont worry about it because the money thats in this city can buy and seel you thousands of times over. So just sit TF down and take notes.
Who cares.
And this is exactly why I always felt super awkward when classmates brought up loans and tuition and money when I was in college. I guess I come from a “nouveau riche” family (my parents did not grow up with money) but for the longest time my parents flatly refused to tell me how much they made. They believed it was none of my business to know how much they made, so I was always shocked when friends told me they knew their parents’ salary. I’ve figured it out over the years the ballpark range and I knew something was up when I arrived at college to find that most of my classmates had received financial aid/taken out loans/received scholarships. They would complain about the student loans they would have to pay back and while I sympathized, I didn’t really know what they were going through since my parents paid for my education out of pocket from my college savings account. To this day I still hate talking about money and if people bring it up, I don’t contribute because I know people are going to think “Shut up, your parents are rich!”
For the most part I think I come across down to earth and not very spoiled (though I realized my upbringing was rather privileged). However it would never have occurred to me to rant to the Internet about the poor little rich girl that I am…
Ugh this brat.
People fighting at my school over the remaining financial aid scraps because the state and the government are broke and this girl thinks she has the right to complain about being judged because she’s wealthy? Hey kiddo, as one who gets FA and is grateful for it, I don’t feel at all sorry for you and your grief over being rich.
Yikes.
If I’m going to judge her, it will be on the fancy high school she went to where they were unable to teach her how to spell. I hope the elite college she’s bragging about attending will provide her with a remedial spelling class. Stupid girl. By the way, it’s “faze”, not “phase”, as in ” it will not faze me”.
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OK people CALM DOWN:
Perhaps this is what she was trying to assert>>
It’s true that many people attempt to take advantage of you if they assume that you’re well-off. That includes cashiers who try to short-change you $1 so they are not short at the till by the end of the night, since they ASSUME that you don’t care if you’re driving a nice vehicle or such. In fact, I just took the time to correct a cashier today when grocery shopping.
I don’t care if you are trying to scam 50 cents or 5 dollars or 5000 dollars from me, those actions and assumptions that well-off people don’t care about such trivial matters are utterly misguided and should be corrected!!! Unfortunately many people simply shrug it off because they don’t have the time to care. It’s not about the money, but the principal of the matter.
Sometimes I’m just so tired of correcting people that I just let it fly also, but that means I’m consciously abetting their actions by not speaking out …
Anyways just wish to comment that I get what she’s trying to say. THE END<<
She is voicing up at a time when rich people are being heavily attacked in media and elsewhere. As I am not rich I didn’t notice this phenomenon initially but I do have a best friend who is, and through him I’ve begun to see the world in a different way. I have actually started paying attention to the messages in modern media and to jokes and things people say and there is definitely an anti-rich phase that seems to be going on in popular culture, and I’m sure a lot of it plays into the tough times our economy has come upon and people lashing out and scapegoating at those that are more fortunate. So I can understand what she is saying, even if it isn’t my circumstance. People do tend to hate on those who have more than they do and often try to shame those people or make them feel guilty when they can’t help the circumstances they were born into and they shouldn’t have to feel bad. No one is going to feel empathy for the rich person, but I’m going to side with her on this one. I get what she was saying, though maybe she didn’t voice it in the most eloquent way. Words only hold the power you give them. She is right not to pay any attention to that or apologize for her lifestyle, so long as she isn’t hurting anyone.
she seems vulgar, regardless of how much money she has.
I think she has been a victim of hatred and jealousy by others. Perhaps she is just sick of it. Of course, going public with her feelings only brought more of the jealousy out of the woodwork.
I think she is just trying to say: “I am a human being, too”.
This reminds me of Gretchen Wieners in MEAN GIRLS … “I’m sorry, people are so jealous of me. But I can’t help it that I’m popular.”