Back in 2009, Susan Boyle made her first appearance on Britain’s Got Talent. She sang “I Dreamed a Dream” on her first appearance, and the video ended up going viral. Susan, a frumpy-looking older woman who proclaimed that she still dreamt of becoming a professional singer, performed the song beautifully, much to the stunned amazement of Simon Cowell, Piers Morgan and the entire audience. Susan didn’t win The X Factor that year, but she did become a professional singer and now, four years later, she’s sold millions of albums, she’s headlined tours and performed for the Pope. She’s made millions of dollars and she seems somewhat happy. But there was always something eccentric about her – she just seemed like a woman who marched to the beat of her own drummer, who was perhaps very awkward in many social situations. And now we have an explanation for it – Susan was recently diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome:
Susan Boyle says she has been diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome, a form of autism – and feels relief at finally having the right label for her condition. Boyle told the Observer newspaper that she saw a specialist a year ago, who told her she had Asperger’s and an above-average IQ.
Boyle, 52, had learning difficulties as a child, which she was told were the result of brain damage from oxygen deprivation at birth. She struggled in school and was bullied by other children.
“I have always known that I have had an unfair label put upon me,” Boyle said in the interview, published Sunday. “Now I have a clearer understanding of what’s wrong and I feel relieved and a bit more relaxed about myself.”
The church volunteer from a small Scottish town became a global sensation when she sang the Les Miserables number “I Dreamed a Dream” on Britain’s Got Talent in 2009.
The contrast between her shy manner and soaring voice won Boyle legions of fans. She has sold more than 14 million records around the world and recently released her fourth album, Home for Christmas. She makes her big-screen debut in holiday movie The Christmas Candle.
Boyle has occasionally struggled with the pressures of fame, and was treated for nervous exhaustion soon after her stint on Britain’s Got Talent.
The singer said she was glad she, and others, would now have a better understanding of the struggles she experiences.
“I would say I have relationship difficulties, communicative difficulties, which lead to a lot of frustration. If people were a bit more patient, that would help,” she told the newspaper.
“Asperger’s doesn’t define me. It’s a condition that I have to live with and work through, but I feel more relaxed about myself. People will have a much greater understanding of who I am and why I do the things I do.”
Daryl Hannah also recently revealed that she had been diagnosed with Asperger’s too, but she was diagnosed as a child. Susan has only been diagnosed recently, but my guess is that there were probably some people in her family who suspected something like this, wouldn’t you think? It’s not that Susan comes across as a bad person or even a dumb person, she just seems eccentric, a bit odd and awkward. Which is one of the big parts of Asperger’s – social awkwardness, not knowing how to “behave correctly” in social situations. People who Asperger’s often have a streak of genius too, or an ability to focus obsessively on one thing until it’s perfect. I imagine it is a great relief for Susan to finally have a label to put on herself and this really does explain so much about her.
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I cannot believe I only watched that video for the first time at the end of last year (when Les Mis was coming out in theaters) and OMG did I cry! She’s amazing. All the best to her!
I know. Her appearance on that show was like a suprise knockout. She really blew everyone away with her performance.
I know. I’ve seen it several times and it always gives me goosebumps and makes me cry. Even my husband, a big, burly construction worker, was moved. She’s awesome and I’m glad she finally has a name for her eccentricity.
When I was caring for my mum who had vascular dementia, each and every time I put on Susan’s music, my mum would just sigh and say how beautiful and clear a voice she had.
I still get weepy from the power of her voice every time I hear it and I always think of mum and how much pleasure she got from hearing that amazing voice. Bless.
Aspergers is the correct diagnosis for so many people who are given incorrect information for years about what is “wrong” with them. So often, they are labeled bipolar, depressed or a number of other things and it’s so upsetting to have to keep looking for the truth. I’m so happy for her that she finally has an answer and now she can move forward from here.
Kaiser, People often know something is wrong but can’t correctly identify anything other than ‘He/She is odd’. And when people (even professionals) do find a label, like Andrea pointed out, it’s often the wrong label.
I am so glad she found the right label because it does help understanding and allows for a human being to grow from that new place of insight.
Very true. My cousin was diagnosed with a DVD and given meds etc to try to help him function better.
He was finally corrected diagnosed with servers when he was 12 or 13. He got off the meds and into therapy and summer camps developed for kids with aspergers. He’s much better now. He was able to do better in schoolbecause of new ways of ccoping and interacting so he was bullied less.
He focussed on films and knows everything you could ever want to know about them. He’s not great and has issues functioning and hasn’t been able to work. But he’s better than when he was being treated for the wrong issue
Another important aspect of Aspberger’s is not being able to interpret facial clues that “normal” people can recognize and respond to~people with Aspbergers literally can’t read other peoples expressions correctly, which is a huge factor in the social awkwardness. Interestingly enough, both Aspbergers and ADD/ADHD are put under Autism Spectrum disorders by most mental health professionals these days. There is a VERY strong genetic component and link, which causes it to run in entire families. So much more research needs to be done, but at least things are moving in the right direction for diagnosis & treatment. Cognitive Behavior Therapy is one of the most useful tools in dealing with these types of disorders~and several other mental helath issues as well.
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s a few years ago. It IS a huge relief! And although testing shows that I should have more problems – I’m very normal seeming. Most women with Asperger’s are because you learn coping mechanisms. It’s not comfortable or natural for me to look people in the eyes or ask little questions about them, but I make myself do it. It’s like a tape recorder in my mind going, “Now smile, nod politely, ask about their children”.
I’m glad for her because many of us have felt we’re bad or unkind people for not being more connected or empathetic. I always joke that it’s not that I *don’t* care, just that I *can’t*. 😉
GiGi, As you probably know, Asperger’s is a tough thing to deal with — at least socially. And I think it’s more difficult because (as you’ve stated) there are lots of times there appears to be nothing wrong so a person with Asperger’s as the can appear very normal.
My children have several friends with this and others often think these children ARE normal so the children with Asperger’s get way more than there share of bullying due to a lack of understanding.
Glad your diagnosis has helped you. May everyone find some peace, with a whole slew of coping techniques, with their diagnoses (in whatever it is they have).
Thanks, Lady. It really did come as a relief to me. For the longest time, I just thought I didn’t really click with anyone and that was kind of ok, because it can be difficult to be around people – it takes A LOT of energy and focus. But once I was diagnosed, it actually allowed me to further develop my “work arounds” and become more comfortable being warm and close with people. I know every case is different, and I do hope everyone out there finds their path.
Susan is an inspiration. So glad she had the determination to get to the audition and WOW everyone when she sang ” I Dreamed a Dream”. Her voice is angelic. All the best to this wonderful human being.
Awww.. Her stories always break my heart. She also revealed a while ago that she’s never been kissed.. I wish her all the best. I’m also getting that album
I’m surprised it took this long for her to get this diagnosis. It was clear there was something off about her behavior from the start and little stories that came out only added to it. I have always wondered about Asperger’s with her. I’m relieved for her that it’s official. She sounds relieved! Hopefully she will move forward with continued success.
My son is an Aspie, and I’m always amazed at how people can make it well into adulthood without being diagnosed. I think it’s indicative of the incredible coping mechanisms that people like Susan have to develop just to survive in a world where everything feels strange and is so hard. It breaks my heart to imagine how much she’s struggled — so I’m happy she feels relieved.
I have to say that my son’s diagnosis does not bring him comfort at this point in his life (he’s 14), he just wishes everything didn’t have to be so incredibly difficult — especially social interactions — and that he could float through life like a “typical” kid. Instead he struggles every minute of every day to “pass for normal” and it exhausts and now depresses him.
I don’t mean to digress. Another benefit of hearing Susan’s story is that hopefully other people, including my son, will feel better knowing they’re not alone AND that success in life is not out of reach.
EsMom, I feel for you. A lot. My children have friends that have this diagnosis and I see both the parents’ and their child’s struggles. And it’s compounded by mean kids that cater to the herd mentality. Hopefully things get better for your son. {{HUGS}} as it always is so hard to watch your child struggle.
My son was diagnosed at 14 too, and while the accommodations made at school made it much easier, he HATES the label. It’s a difficult age regardless, but hopefully your son, like mine, will find high school so much better. And my son now has a full time job and is apprenticing to be a chef. He’s found his niche (because cooks are a different breed anyway!) and he’s happy. Best wishes.
Aw. It is a harder path for boys, I think. Because girls and women have other (usually much more emotional) women to mimic, they develop really skilled coping mechanisms, but that just isn’t the case for boys. I hope your son has an easier time of it as he moves through life.
I do find that “passing for normal” works but it is exhausting, for sure. And I don’t know if it’s better to play along or just be yourself, really, but I do know that when I use my coping mechanisms, I am able to maintain friendships. Now, my hubs and kids still call me the Ice Queen, so I must relax quite a bit around them, lol!
GiGi, you are probably right. And girls are coached a lot more with any and all social cues. Whereas boys get stuck with people that encourage a ‘macho’ type thinking which doesn’t help social skills at all.
Thanks LadySlippers, Laura and GiGi (you are a true inspiration!) for your kinds words. Such great insights, too. I’m wiping tears because my son is in such a bad place right now but I do know it will get better. He has so much going for him and has generally been happy and comfortable with himself, quirks and all.
I think 8th grade just threw him for a loop because so many kids are maturing/evolving in their interests, and boy-girl dynamics are changing big-time, and it’s bewildering. Add to it a susceptibility to anxiety and depression (the clinical psychologist he’s now seeing says the incidence of anxiety and depression in Aspies is 50-65%) and times are indeed tough. But he is one of the most determined people I know so like I said I know he will get through it.
Hey Esmom!
Please let your son know that it does get better! My oldest was diagnosed Aspie is 7th grade, and he hated the label, too! But once he hit high school, it was like a whole new world for him. He now has a small but close group of friends (his counselor calls them the “Nerd Herd”, LOL!) and even his grades have improved. He’s in his junior year, and looking forward to graduating and going to college. He’s a computer geek, and wants to pursue IT as a career. He’s also incredibly sweet, kind, and surprisingly empathetic to those in pain. I wouldn’t trade him for the world!
@Esmom, my son is 10 and an Asperger/ADD child. The social issues are very hard for him too. Kids can be mean to each other, but when they know one has issues such as these, they can be brutal. They know just what buttons to push to get a reaction, and then play the little innocents and blame my son. He’s not perfect, and he knows full well how to push people’s buttons himself. And socially he is just so much more comfortable with adults, being that he sees himself as being at that level. Middle school is not far off and I worry for him, high school even more so. I want him to fit in and show all the wonderful qualities he has. Sometimes I become frustrated because it feels like everyone is expected to mold into the “one size fits all” cookie cutter mentality, and Aspie kids don’t. But they have their own gifts, and intelligence that would flourish if those around them would allow that to happen. And I do wish that more people who are in the public eye would come forward and talk about their diagnosis, and how they manage to cope. It would be so inspiring to those who have been diagnosed themselves.
I think it does get better for some in High School. Middle School kids are the worst when it comes to meanness.
LadySlippers took the words right out of my mouth. Middle school kids can be brutal, although it doesn’t have to be a nightmare. My son has managed to fly under the radar and found a safe niche in band and with music and sports and a couple friends who are not trying to grow up too fast or be “cool.”
By high school, from what I’ve observed, the kids seem to be less afraid of non-conformity and more tolerant of differences. I’m sure it’s not exactly a picnic but definitely not as tough as middle school where anything other than cookie cutter can be a target for meanness.
But you are right in that it’s a shame it has to be a struggle for kids with differences like ours to be recognized for their gifts. Again, with the right support and guidance the school experience can be OK, but it definitely is no thanks to the “typical” kids, most of whom are too busy protecting their own social status to stick their necks out for someone different or quirky. Sad.
I suspect (although I haven’t been diagnosed) that I have Aspberger’s; it really explains a LOT of things in my life. I think that as people get older they learn more effective ways of coping with it, just by trial and error, but I also can’t help but wonder how much more advantageous an earlier knowledge of what was happening would have been. I think that just knowing that your son has this condition, and being able to adaptively cope with it and learn techniques to combat it at this early of an age, will in the longer term be ENORMOUSLY beneficial to him. I also think that when this is quantified to his potential social circle, that an understanding of what HE is going through will help others cope with his apparent awkwardness by going “ok, no big deal, it’s just the Aspbergers” and will enable and enhance undertanding from his friends. 14 is a really tough age no matter WHAT your other issues are, since the fluctuation of hormones adds another dimension to what he is already coping with. Hang tight, Esmom~knowing what exactly your fighting is more than half the battle. 😉
She’s got the most amazing singing voice, I honestly wish her the absolute best in life. She’s a sweetheart.
I read about this online yesterday and wondered if it would be covered on here today. Glad to hear she is somewhat happier – I remember a few years ago she had some sort of “breakdown”, so this diagnosis would explain why she seemed to have so much difficulty coping with her newfound fame in the beginning. Anyway, I really love her voice, it’s just so lovely and innocent sounding. Her version of the Stones “Wild Horses” is even better than the original, imo!!!
I love her. She is so strong and brave to come out with her diagnosis. It’s good to know she is getting the help she needs.
I too was diagnosed a few years ago with Asperger’s and like what Susan said, it was a huge relief for me after years spent wondering what was “wrong” with me in that I couldn’t “connect” properly with others and always generally just felt odd and socially awkward.
However recently, with good meds to control my ADD (which is a common co-morbid condition that Aspies tend to also have), supportive friends and spouse, and a good therapist, I’ve developed some coping skills along the way that have helped me to enjoy social situations more often since I now know what to expect and how to behave during those times. Some people even comment today that I seem “normal” to them and that they wouldn’t have ever suspected that I had the disorder, which is something I’ve always longed to hear. Aspies just want to feel normal and accepted but at times it just feels impossible. I still have my ups and downs but things have definitely gotten better overall.
I’m also glad there’s now more media interest in this condition (and more celebrity revelations of recent diagnoses helps too) so that it can help reduce the stigma and make those dealing with its effects feel more comfortable with themselves and more hopeful for their futures.
Best of luck to Susan.
I was just wondering what ever happened to her the other day. I’m thrilled that she now has a successful career and is wealthy. She deserves it. Also, I need to get that Christmas album now.
I too was diagnosed a few years ago with Asperger’s and like what Susan said, it was a huge relief for me after years spent wondering what was “wrong” with me in that I couldn’t “connect” properly with others and always generally just felt odd and socially awkward.
However recently, with good meds to control my ADD (which is a common co-morbid condition that Aspies tend to also have), supportive friends and spouse, and a good therapist, I’ve developed some coping skills along the way that have helped me to enjoy social situations more often since I now know what to expect and how to behave during those times, whereas before it always felt like a very mysterious and confusing process.
Some people even comment today that I seem “normal” to them and that they wouldn’t have ever suspected that I had the disorder, which is something I’ve longed to hear throughout my life. Aspies just want to feel normal and be accepted but it feels impossible sometimes. I still have my ups and downs but things have definitely gotten better overall.
I’m glad there’s now more media interest in this condition (and more celebrity revelations of recent diagnoses helps too) so that it can help reduce the stigma and make those dealing with its effects feel more comfortable with themselves and more hopeful for their futures.
Best of luck to Susan.
I think I may have reposted the same long comment – sorry for double post! 🙂
I hope she has a really long career. She is truly an amazing talent!
To all those diagnosed as adults, how does one get diagnosed? For a few years now I’ve wondered if this is the reason I’ve always felt socially odd, but have no idea how or who to discuss this with. Plus I always figured it was just a label and never thought about specific therapy.
Go to a psychiatrist that is *very* knowledgeable about the entire range of diagnoses on the Autism spectrum. Or if it’s someone in the mental health field get a good referral to the doctor I just described (an MD or DO that specializes in psychiatry).
That way you can get tested to find out if it is ASD^ (Asperger’s is just one type of ASD). There are other diagnoses as well that share some of the social issues of ASD so keep that in mind.
Good luck and may you find the answers you seek!! {{HUGS}}
^Autism Spectrum Disorder (not sure you knew the acronym — my apologies if you did)
Good for Susan and good for everyone for whom the diagnosis has cause an improvement in their lives. However, I find this interesting that Susan was recently diagnosed, as in the DSM V Asperger’s no longer exists.
How are they going to diagnose people with supposed Asperger’s in the future, I wonder?
She could have diagnosed prior to May of this year and some clinicians are not yet using DSM-V pending an outside review. I’m reluctantly using DSM-V, but I have some issues with it, especially with regard to the changes to ASD and schizophrenia.
Aspbergers has been moved, along with ADD/ADHD, into the Autism Spectrum Disorders in the new DSM~
It hasn’t been moved as much as been absorbed into the ASD diagnosis. Nothing separate for Aspergers or PDD – NOS, it’s all one disorder under the 299.0 code.
I’ve not yet been diagnosed with Aspergers, but I strongly suspect I could be if I pursued it. I am a carrier of Fragile X Syndrome. FXS is the only known genetic cause of ASD’s, and folks with full-blown FXS are often used to trial the new ASD drugs just before they are approved for market. For both FXS and FX carriers, it’s not that we can’t read others’ faces or emotions – it’s that we read them so strongly and empathize so completely that it becomes painful. We become far too anxious or keyed up to cope with “normal” social interactions. Withdrawingl is so much easier.
It’s always a blessing to get a correct diagnosis. My father didn’t find out he was an FX carrier until my son was diagnosed with full-blown FXS. He exhibited symptoms all his life, but no one could put the picture together for him. He has said he wished he knew decades before – he would have absolutely made different life choices.
Best of luck to Susan and everyone else here! ASD and other spectrum disorders are so new to the psychology community, we’re learning more about them every day!
i sometimes wonder if i might have Asperger’s. I have such a social disconnect. But armchair diagnoses aren’t much good whether you do them on others or on yourself.
Too bad I can’t afford to see anyone.. and i’m not sure who i’d go to anyway.
It would be a relief, though, to have an official reason. So i get why she said she felt relieved.
I answered the same question above.
Good luck to you as well and may you be able to find the answers you seek.
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Its wonderful how people with disabilities like these often turn out to have such special gifts.
Another Aspie female here .. good for Susan! Hopefully she can feel as though she belongs now.
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