Last Thursday, we talked about a new wrinkle in Tori Spelling’s life. Her husband, Dean McDermott, was revealed by Us Weekly to have cheated with a Canadian random. Since then Tori has been putting on a “happy family” face for her website. She wrote a sickly sweet Christmas message about being “so grateful for all my blessings.” She posted these photos of her children with Santa, who looks a lot like Dean. I don’t think that’s Dean in the Santa outfit, right? Damn, I can’t tell.
My point is that Tori has gone out of her way to ignore the news of Dean’s infidelity. She is not responding at all to the media coverage, which is telling because Tori is usually quite vocal in shooting down rumors. Radar Online says Tori refuses to talk publicly about Dean’s cheating because she doesn’t want to shatter the image of “picture perfect family.” She’s also refused to let Dean move out but is making his life hell at home with constant screaming fits. I can’t blame her for being mad at hell at the guy, but their poor kids are hearing everything go down. Here’s Radar’s take:
Even though Tori Spelling is refusing to publicly acknowledge reports that Dean McDermott cheated on her, the former 90210 star is making her husband’s home life a living hell, RadarOnline.com is exclusively reporting.
As Radar previously reported, a 28-year-old Canadian woman named Emily Goodhand claimed she had a few rolls-in-the-hay with McDermott, 47, at the Fairmont Royal York Hotel in Toronto while he was in the northeast for a TV gig earlier this month.
Despite the cheating allegations, the mother of four posted a cheerful Christmas picture and message to fans: “I wanted to take a minute to wish each and every one of you a very Merry Christmas, and for those of you who don’t celebrate Christmas, a very happy holiday season!
“As another year comes to a close, I can’t help but feel so grateful for all of my blessings. My beautiful family, my amazing friends, and of course, all of you!”
Spelling said she and her family were “spending the day together — cuddling, cooking, baking, unwrapping gifts, eating, watching movies and counting our blessings,” signing the letter “T, Dean, Liam, Stella, Hattie + Finn.”
But sources tell Radar, “It’s all a calculated plan on Tori’s part…she is refusing to comment on the cheating rumors publicly, even though she believes Dean did cheat on her.
“Tori is obsessed with having a picture perfect family, and thinks it’s a big part of her image. Commenting or addressing the cheating would taint that image. Things are very tense in the house right now, and Tori is making Dean’s life hell.”
The source added, “Even though she is trying not to fight in front of the kids, it’s impossible. She has been crying and screaming at Dean, and saying he has ruined everything, including Christmas.
“Sadly, Liam and Stella know their parents are fighting and it’s only a matter of time until they find out why. Dean even offered to move out, but Tori wouldn’t allow it. It’s a very unhealthy environment, and the kids are being impacted by it.”
Goodhand told the magazine that McDermott, who’s been married to Spelling for seven years, told her that he “had a sexless marriage” with his wife.
McDermott was formerly married to Canadian actress Mary Jo Eustace before leaving her for Spelling.
Deep down, Spelling “has always been very insecure about her relationship with Dean….she has been telling friends she always had a deep, dark feeling that Dean would cheat on her,” the insider concluded.
“She has never completely trusted him and has always kept very close tabs on Dean. But despite all that, Dean still cheated.”
[From Radar Online]
Well I’m not surprised to learn that Tori suspected all along that Dean would eventually cheat on her. Their own relationship started when they both cheated on their at-the-time spouses with each other. So sure, it was only a matter of time before either Tori or Dean cheated in this marriage too. Cheaters rarely ever reform themselves, and this is a sad situation for the four children who must now deal with the fallout of their dad’s wandering wang.
With that said, it sounds like life in the Spelling-McDermott household is pretty toxic right now. Here’s a Christmas morning video from Tori. Her kids are opening their presents, and you can hear Dean’s voice in the background.
Photos courtesy of ToriSpelling.com, Fame/Flynet & WENN
Those kids look miserable in that Santa photo. In fact, they look miserable in a lot of photos. Must be a fun house.
I thought it was kind of funny that the oldest girl had a smile on, while the others had varying degrees of annoyance/misery.
ITA.
So true they been looking unhappy in photos, red carpets for the last 4 or 5 months.
I have a nephew that always looks miserable in photographs. He just hates having his picture taken.
Yes. But prior to the last couple of months they always look happy in photos .
I here a lot of kids don’t like there picture being taken my grand daugther don’t like it still dont some kids an people just don’t like it a lot of pretty prople don’t like it you would think they would love it there to young to no whats going on I’m sure they have good times to
That’s one thing I don’t get. If you’re devastated about the cheating, kick his ass out. If you want to keep him, go to therapy and try to work it out. Being toxic isn’t any better for those kids than them asking where Daddy is; especially since she could easily say he had to go work somewhere at first, if she needed time to get her head together.
She can’t get rid of him–he’s an integral part of her marketable persona: Tori Spelling, super mom/wife to a bunch of kids with a happy marriage who has to live ‘frugally’ JUST LIKE US.
She would be wise to let go of the 50’s fantasy of perfect marriage, perfect wife, perfect life. If she has fans they are her fans, not his and they will side with her if she gets rid of him. I would never stay with a cheater but she choose a cheater in the first place so maybe she doesn’t want to divorce. If they stay together they should get counseling because infidelity can ruin a relationship forever.
Sometimes, tossing him out on his @ss seems like the first thing you would do – until it happens. And while she might be trying to put together the pieces, for sure she’s going to erupt in a rage at him, kids in the house or not. I feel sorry for her. Infidelity is heartbreaking.
Maybe now she knows how his ex-wife felt! Feel it, Tori!
What did she expect to happen? Dean’s ex-wife must be reading these stories and laughing her ass off.
I don’t think so. I imagine Dean’s cheating is dredging up Mary Jo’s really sad memories of him doing the same to her. Dean’s stepping out on Tori, coupled with his ongoing neglect of their son together, must feel like a fresh cut every time this leopard keeps sporting his spots.
I don’t know. My husband cheated on me and left me for the other woman and when I hear about their drama, (and there is a TON of it) I laugh and laugh and laugh. And then thank God again for getting that asshole out of my life and into someone’s who is more “deserving” of him.
If his ex isn’t over him yet she should be. He has 4 children with Tori and his first wife should not still be spending her time thinking about what a loser he is.
Most kids look miserable on some old fat white guy with a red jumpsuit and beard’s lap.
@bowers
amen! I loathed this creepy tradition as a child
I was thinking the same. My daughter has never wanted to sit on Santa’s lap, and I thought ‘Why on earth would I force her to sit on a strange man? I’m glad she knows that’s creepy!’ And let’s face it, Santa’s not real and that’s some guy who signs up to have kids on his lap all day?
(This was supposed to post on its own) I know the Royal York in Toronto well – my daughter was conceived there! Hard to believe, considering we went out for Mexican that night.
I don’t know what to say about this.
but why are there no decorations on the green Christmas tree or is that just for decorations. It make no sense to me
I was wondering about that too. It looked weird without any decorations or lights.
@lisa2 you made look 🙂 Perhaps its safer without the lights and stuff ? 4 little children could be less worry and watching them with a plain tree. Maybe there is a decorated tree in another room?
Four little kids and a huge, possibly marriage-ending fight, I bet decking the halls ended up very low on the list indeed.
Good point Nina W.
Their kids sure are cute. Sad story, though.
I feel kind of funny that, without any proof, everyone is insisting that this is true. I mean, I could go out there and claim that Henry Rollins and I had a mad, passionate roll in the hay (PLEASE LORD) and he worships the ground I walk on (PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE). However, *if* this is true, think about what their relationship is based on: a quick affair, which, of course, is always about true love and someone finally understanding them. Divorced their spouses quickly, married quickly, and started having kids one after the other. Did they ever slow down and take time to know each other? No, they always had to have something big and exciting going on, because there wasn’t much else to hold them together. It doesn’t excuse the cheating if it’s true, but then again, it doesn’t excuse what they did to both their ex-spouses, either.
Very spot on and I hope you get your wish with Henry
Word
Well, the girl did give her name, and neither Dean and/or Tori after six days now have issued a statement denouncing it as lies.
Great post.
Aw, thank you. 🙂 The husband probably wouldn’t be too thrilled with me if I bagged Henry, though. The thing is, you can go out there and say ANYTHING, and it’s automatically believed. I try to give the benefit of the doubt first. I don’t think giving her name is proof of cheating, but it’s either true or Dean/Tori don’t want to give it any air or both. I don’t feel sorry for anyone but those kids. Even if it isn’t true, I’ve never thought their relationship was healthy and it’s not based on much. I’ve been with my husband 14 years and married 11 years and it’s not always about big, exciting events- it’s the day to day, mundane stuff more often than not. Tori likes everyone to see her as supermom and tries to relate to non-famous parents, but she keeps getting caught, like saying they’re broke and then having the kids photographed with a herd of nannies.
What goes around comes around. I feel sorry for the kids. That’s all.
LIFE LESSON: How you got him is how you’re going to lose him.
And Tori, if you’re not prepared to lose him, then find that girl and pay her to shut up and/or recant her story. Then you can go around pretending once again to have the perfect life.
I’m so glad her father left every dime to her mother. He clearly knew that his unattractive daughter would be a magnet for users. Already she has expelled a ton of children because each child has an inheritance claim. She and Dean took the long view. But she forgot that he has a straying peen. Can’t wait to see what happens next.
And you know LeAnn is trembling with fear right about now.
Some people never grow up and never find the ability to see anyone’s needs but their own. Even if the “anyone” happens to be any one of four small children who need stability and a home led by rational, mature, sane adults.
Those kids look like everybody’s kids who’ve endured standing in never-ending lines, being packed in those never-ending lines like a can of sardines,; is the heater working too hard? Probably because I don’t remember ever being comfortable in those hell lines ripe with screaming babies and toddler tantrums. I hear Moms shushing their kids in a variety of decibles, Dad’s pacing the stores (away from the lines) until wifey-poo shoots a, “Do-you-want-me-to-make-your-life-miserable glance?” Kids are incredibly stressed because SANTA’S here and obviously Mom and Dad are excited because look at all those children! Each doll’d up head to toe, can’t jump, dance or swing on the velvet ropes and can’t really see Santa yet because the entire town is in line. By the time Santa is actually seen AND heard, the kids have had it. The parents have had it. Hungry. Thirsty. Irritated. Frustrated and now kids must remember to tell this fat velvet man exactly what they’ve been dreaming about all year and do it in ten seconds flat.
Statistically, cheaters have a low rate of re-offending, at least when the marriage stays together after an affair. That’s not usually due to suddenly becoming a better person after cheating but because they worry aobut getting caught again. The majority stay faithful (out of fear). It’s probably not the same in Hollywoodland, but in terms of the actual statistics, the whole “once a cheater, always a cheater” thing isn’t actually true.
I don’t think that’s true at all. I think a cheaters fall into two categories – the one time cheater and the habitual cheater. Habitual cheaters desperately need to feel attractive to the opposite sex, and they don’t change just because they get caught. Their cheating is all about them, and has nothing to do with the person they’re with. I’m not sure where you get your “statistics” but, in my experience, habitual cheaters don’t change their ways just because they get caught. They’re just more careful.
Yeah, I agree. In my family, we have mainly habitual cheaters. Like I have this cousin who married a woman who literally helped him start from the ground up. Everything he has today, SHE made it possible. They got married, started having kids. He was of course cheating on her with randoms–but in the second year, he got a steady girlfriend–a girlfriend who dated him for EIGHT years–until his wife got tired of him and they got divorced. This same side piece moved a street away from my cousin and his wife, so that he could tell his wife that he was going to the store or wherever, and just go down to her house.
They immediately get engaged after his divorce is final—it was summer, we were having BBQs in my grandma’s backyard every weekend, and he kept bringing this girl. We all assumed it was the future Mrs. NOPE. WE didn’t meet the woman he was marrying, until the WEDDING. The chick he was bringing to all the family get togethers was just a sidepiece.
I would not ever marry a guy I was habitually cheating with (not a one time mistake), either way (whether he was in a relationship or I was) because they WILL bring that sh-t up to you. Like my cousin’s new wife was complaining that all he did was go out(to clubs to meet new women), and he needed to stay home with his family–he turned around, and said to her “You weren’t saying that when I was with my first wife”…HAAAAA!
Bingo. Plus, if they do it WITH you, they’ll do it TO you. Don’t kid yourself by thinking you’re the magical beast that will change his cheating ways. You’re not and you never will be. Cheaters are narcissists and they never EVER change. Ever.
Cheaters can change. I was one. I was a horrible one. For reasons unknown to me. I told my husband the day I met him that I was not a faithful person, and that I probably never would be. I didn’t decide to change. Thought I never would. It just happened. It’s been quite a few years now, and it never crosses my mind even though the opportunity presents itself frequently. I found that one man that just completes me, I guess. Can’t explain it. It baffles me how I have need no need for anyone other than him. It’s a wonderful feeling.
Obviously, they did not have a sexless marriage.
Exactly. They can’t be cranking out all those babies if the marriage was “sexless”. If the story is true, he did what most cheaters do, claim an unhappy marriage in order to get in those random panties.
Again, if the story is true, as my grandma always said “how you gets ’em is how you lose ’em.”
How do they keep having all those children if they have such a “sexless” marriage ? Hmmm?
Just sayin…
Huh, the marriage can’t be too sexless with all those kids.
Was Dean ever handsome? He looks so… creepy now. I don’t even like that word, but it fits him so well.
Agreed…. Is it just me or does he look like a young Stephen King? It bugged me for a long time because he reminded me of someone and I couldn’t place it, but it is definitely Stephen King. Maybe there will be a Lifetime movie about King’s life and Dean can play him and earn some money for his vasectomy.
That’s hilarious. 😀 Guy sure is creepy looking though.
if the’ll do it with ya, they’ll do it to ya. his ex wife must be laaaaughing her t*** off.
I’m not sold on the cheating story. These two are drumming up business for their reality program ala Falcor and her lackey.
I didn’t know Tori was married when she got with Dean. Who was her husband? Also, is the baby a boy or a girl?
She was married to a little known actor named Charlie. Sorry I don’t remember the last name. They were married in Aaron Spelling’s mansion. I guess you can say her folks endorsed the first hubby, not Dean. I wouldn’t be surprised Aaron changed his will and left her with nothing after she ran off with Dean.
I follow Tori’s blog and I noticed that even the fans who comment on her postings have said nothing about the cheating allegations surprisingly. Maybe her fans don’t want to believe it either. I do feel really badly for her as having someone betray you like this is so humiliating. I’ve gone through it. But for her having it so public has to be doubly painful. Having said all of that, I’m really not surprised at all that he did cheat on her unfortunately. You have to realize that when your relationship starts out on shaky ground that it will probably end that way too even after four kids. As a child of divorce where my parents fought bitterly for many years, I too feel the most for their children. My father was also a cheating a hole. So, this is my advice to Tori, if you love your kids ditch Dean now and spare them many years of uncertainty and insecurity because of fighting. My parents separated and then got back together so many times over the course of their marriage and my brother and I truly wished they would just get a divorce. Staying together for the “sake of the kids” is not always a good thing. Forsake your ideas of a “perfect family”. That is a myth because no family is perfect.
Yeah, I’m not surprised. I read that they left their spouses after a three week affair–that’s cold. And I realized that Tori wasn’t a young woman–not in her twenties–she was over 30 when they got together. Deciding to start a family right away, after a three week affair is not the best thing to do.
@ginger i totally relate to your story. My parents were the same way…staying together for the kids (me & my brother) only to divorce after we both were in our early 20’s & my mom had a hard time adjusting because she was for the better part of my youth a stay at home mom.
Is no one else shocked by the part of this story that involves Dean having a “TV gig”?
Yeah, right.
Some TV gig. I think it’s ironic that he’s hosting a cooking show seeing as that’s how his ex-wife Mary Jo Eustace brought home the bacon when they were married. I’m surprised he’s actually working at anything at all. He’s been nothing but a lazy-ass cling-on since he married Tori. Guess the gravy train wasn’t as full as he’d anticipated…
I’m starting to believe that’s why Tori didn’t get a ton of money from Aaron–is she an only child? If she is, she could’ve feasibly gotten half of whatever Aaron left. But I read that they were mad, because she’d been married for what–2 years max, when she left her husband–and their wedding was worth at least a million. I’d be p-ssed too. But they probably felt that he was just with her for the money–what kind of a guy leaves his wife when THEY’RE in the middle of adopting a child? He can’t even claim that they were having issues or anything, because of that fact—just selfish.
So I think that the KIDS will probably get some money—but Tori and Dean? No way. Not in this lifetime. Maybe Candy will leave (most) all of it to charity–that’d be nice. I think that if I was that rich, that’s what I would do. Gives any kids, relatives, or friends I have 100k (enough for them to go to school, buy a house, start a business, etc)–and leave the rest to various charities.
Aaron has a son name Randy. He was also an actor in Dad’s shows. He didn’t leave any money to Randy either but you never hear any news about him. I did read that when Tori was carrying on with Dean, that Randy stood by his mom.
Aaron wasn’t the only one Tori pissed off with her affair. Tiffani Amber Theissen also stopped talking to her. I read Tiffani was friends with hubby #1.
Tori, please soften your look. The red lipstick is waaayyyy too harsh for your coloring. Tone down your hair, too. It’s too blonde. BTW, kick Dean to the curb. His eyes are too close together. Hope this helps.
He has always come across to me as an active POS, but you wanted him enough to ruin 2 marriages, so deal with it as best you can! No sympathy here!
AdulTORI!
+1
Haha, well done. I wonder if that will be the title of her next book?
How could Dean be such a bastard. He knows that he and the kids mean everything to Tori and he just screwed with some hooker who couldnt wait to blab it to the press. I hope it was a one off and he stays with Tori and the kids. It bothers me though, that he offered to move out. In fact he should be begging to stay.
I had to laugh reading the report. It says that Dean was in Canada for a TV gig. Since when has he done anything that hasn’t been connected to Tori and their reality show(s)?
HELLOOO!!??
He cheated on another woman to be with Tori. Once a cheater, always a cheater. What did she think was gonna happen??
Duh
That’s why she’s always so insecure and worries about if he’ll stray. Probably why she had so many kids in relatively short succession. She maybe was hoping that with so many kids he’d be less likely to leave her for someone else. That’s very naive.