Wait. Just prepare yourself. Do not read this post or watch this video unless you’re okay with crying. Do not yell at me for NOT warning you. This will make you cry in all likelihood.
Liam Neeson doesn’t talk publicly about Natasha Richardson that much. It’s not like he’ll get angry if he’s asked questions about her, and in various interviews, he’s made oblique references to her passing, in 2009, and to his grief. The only time – to my recollection – that he’s ever really discussed her passing at great length was in his Esquire interview in 2011. You can read that piece here – it’s still one of the most heartbreaking interviews I’ve ever read. Well, Liam is discussing it again with 60 Minutes, in an interview which will air on Sunday. Here’s the video (prepare a tissue):
Liam Neeson says the sudden death of his wife, Natasha Richardson, still doesn’t seem real, even five years after she died in a skiing accident at the age of 45. The star of films like “Schindler’s List” and “Taken” also speaks about donating his wife’s organs, his childhood and how his age is beginning to conflict with his action star roles in an interview with Anderson Cooper. The interview will be broadcast on 60 Minutes, Sunday, Feb. 23 at 7 p.m. ET/PT.
“[Her death] was never real. It still kind of isn’t,” he tells Cooper. “There’s periods now in our New York residence when I hear the door opening, especially the first couple of years…anytime I hear that door opening, I still think I’m going to hear her.”
He recounts arriving in a Canadian hospital, where doctors told him Richardson was brain dead from swelling of the brain caused by her fall on the slopes. “She was on life support…I went in to her and I told her I loved her, said ‘Sweetie, you’re not coming back from this, you’ve banged your head’…she and I had made a pact, if any of us got into a vegetative state that we’d pull the plug…that was my immediate thought…’Okay, these tubes have to go. She’s gone.'”
Neeson says he did keep his wife alive for a short period so family members and friends could say their goodbyes. Then it was decided his dead wife would help keep others alive.
“Donated three of her organs, so she’s keeping three people alive at the moment…her heart, her kidneys and her liver. It’s terrific…and I think she would be very thrilled and pleased by that,” says Neeson.
But the grief remains. “It hits you. It’s like a wave. You just get this profound feeling of instability…the Earth isn’t stable anymore and then it passes and it becomes more infrequent, but I still get it sometimes,” he tells Cooper.
Cooper and 60 Minutes cameras went back to Neeson’s home town of Ballymena outside Belfast in Northern Ireland. There, the actor recalled the sectarian violence of the day and visited the grammar school where he played his first stage role.
Neeson currently stars in the action thriller “Non Stop,” which premieres next week. He says his age is beginning to contrast sharply with his role in it. “I’m 61 years of age, man, you know? Going around, fighting these guys, yeah, I feel a wee bit embarrassed, you know? “
The only thing keeping me from sobbing outright is the fact that Liam doesn’t talk about Natasha’s poodle and how the poodle just KNOWS when Liam needs her, which is what he talked about in Esquire. But I began to get choked up during the part about life support and taking the tubes away and how Natasha’s organs are keeping people alive. Lord, this man. How many times are you going to make me cry, Liam?!
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Heartbreaking.
Grief is very powerful, and his words very poignant. It doesn’t ever go away. You learn to live with it. And he’s right about it being like a wave, there are times when it is all-encompassing and knocks you over.
Could not agree more with everything you say. Intense grief never, ever completely goes away, but you learn to live with it and not let it cripple you the way it does early on in the sad process.
Like he said, it comes and goes like waves. So heartbreaking to hear him speak of her. I feel for their boys too. And the poodle story kills me. Grieving dogs or grieving with a dog is horrible – I guess because they are such pure creatures – god, I could cry right now.
So much respect for this man. I respect him as an incredibly talented actor, and even more so now as a person. I’ve had an experience like his, and I applaud him for speaking about it candidly. Sunshine, you summed it up so well. I’ve experienced several losses in the last few years that have sent me to hell and back in grieving. It really does change your feelings about the world, and it changes you.
Thank you. I rarely post here, but I lost my husband 2 1/2 years ago. We had four very young children, so it’s very fresh and raw every single day. There are stretches of time where things are so, so good, and then that wave knocks you over.
Very true. I cannot imagine the grief of losing a spouse. Losing certain relatives along the way who were too young has been hard, but losing a spouse when you expect many more years is just heartbreaking.
I hope he doesn’t make the same mistake Paul McCartney made of marrying a gold digger to replace Natasha.
Ugh, I know right? That always killed me because you could see how vulnerable he was after Linda’s death. Thank God his new wife Nancy seems amazing. Let’s hope if Liam remarries he finds his “Nancy” first.
I’m so happy to hear that he and his wife had a plan during a tragic time like that. I think it’s so important to have clarity during madness. Their love is so strong and there is no doubt that their marriage was strong and inspiring.
He has always been and always will be, on my top 3 list. Adore him.
You can tell he has a good heart just by looking at him. He seems like a really cool guy.
He is such a beautiful person. I love that he donated NR’s organs to help others. It’s a very important message. We donated my father’s organs when he died suddenly & I like to think he lives on in a way.
I’ll have my tissues ready Sunday night for 60 Minutes. God I love this man!
I’ll get clobbered for this but…
I love him and I have no doubt that he loves and misses Natasha, but why is he doing such a personal interview while he is out promoting his movie? It seems like bad timing.
He is promoting a movie,but he’s talked about her death before.
Because he never gives interviews about anything period until he’s out promoting. But this wasn’t just a regular interview like he usually does where he doesn’t talk about her and he’s not asked ever really. He only did one interview about her in Esquire magazine and said that would be the only one. Intertviewers in print and on TV know better than to ask. He has mentioned her in passing on his own accord when telling a story that included her saying something sometimes about My Beloved Natasha. Only one other time was he asked about her and it was in a foreign magazine or paper, and he was kind enough to answer. And he answered he thinks about her every day.
This was 60 Minutes, though, which is an in depth interview. He discusses his life. I think they even interview him in Ireland and go to his school where he went as a youngster. To leave Natasha out and her death and impact on him would have seemed odd.
Yeah I get that. Maybe it’s just my own unease at watching the interview. I just get uncomfortable when I see celebrities bring up such personal things while promoting a project. But I guess everyone has their own ways of dealing with loss.
It doesnt sound like he is doing it to promote his newest action movie. No matter what I bet Liam takes it at the box office. People love watching him smack people around right now. It sounds like it was a in depth interview with CBS not like something on E or the other tabloid shows.
Anderson Cooper is also a top-tier, A+, gold standard journalist. Sometimes people will not discuss things with reporters, but then when they sit down with a real pro or someone highly respected, they finally open up.
I don’t think people, in general, ever get over a death of a loved one or someone very close. The feelings gets buried inside of you and a sound,a smell or something visual that day brings back those feelings, whether good or bad. For that moment or even that day you have to work through it.
I don’t think he’s going to get remarried. Maybe date, long term girlfriend etc, but I don’t see him as the type to ‘replace’ his wife. He seems still so devoted to her and her memory.
I am 46, so it is hard to imagine dying today and leaving my husband and still young children. Nor imagine losing my husband today and facing decades yet without him.
Hug your family every day, throw many I love yous at them until they roll their eyes at your sentimentality. You never know if it will be the last time they hear it.
Oh my, that is heartbreaking.
I am sobbing outright for so many reasons. I lost my husband, the love of my life and the best friend I’ll ever have three months ago today. I think my subconcious knows when this “anniversary” is coming…every month I’m just inconsolable during these few days. Listening to and reading Liam’s recollections about that horrible time and the intervening years just hits so close to home I can hardly bear it.
Because his cancer had metastasized so badly, there was no question of donating my husband’s organs and THAT makes me sad because we had talked so much about doing that. Damn.
And, finally, reading the knowing and compassionate comments here has been quite healing. Thank you, all, for that.
I’m so sorry; I know the terrible pain and grief of losing a loved one. I know that even the good memories can stab. Try to let the lovely times with your husband be in the forefront and be good to yourself. He would want you to be, I am sure of it.
Thank you, so much, Jennifer12. You’re right about the memories good and bad, but I look forward to the day when I DON’T remember those last weeks so much.
I can’t imagine losing my husband and for you it’s still so fresh. I find it hard enough four years on from losing my dad, tears will suddenly start flowing. Time never really closes the hole in your heart but I hope you have lots of loving family and friends around to help you through this time in your life. Never worry about feeling sad about it.
feebee and Ginger, thanks for these sweet thoughts. I am a little overwhelmed by all the comforting replies, but they all help more than I can say.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandmother suddenly from an illness when I was very young. I’m middle age now and I still feel the pain of not having her around. Blessings to you!
I wish I could sit with you now, and either just pat your hand gently or, if wanted one, give you a big hug.
Instead, next best thing, I am sending you thoughts of support and warmth.
My sincere condolences to you, and I hope that your memories will one day bring you comfort.
*hug*
That’s lovely Frida. I agree with you.
Thank you, Frida and NYC_girl….I feel hugged, truly.
My heart goes out to you. I can’t imagine it. Losing my parents was so difficult and I still miss them and can’t believe they are gone, but watching my dad lose my mom, his wife of 50 years, was heartbreaking. Three months is still so new for you, though. It must be unbearable. A lady that worked for me lost her husband suddenly, and he was her best friend. After a year she was still inconsolable and crying. She just got no enjoyment out of her life or even her grandchildren, whom she adored. Her doctor insisted she try another anti-depressant, and she said for the first time she woke up in the morning not with dread but re-entering life again. Still grieving, and even some really bad days, but just not so incapacitating. Light was coming back into her life. I hope you find that peace again.
So very very sorry. This must be so painful for you and difficult to discuss, but thank you for sharing. And sometimes a sympathetic message from strangers can be comforting, it makes the world feel a little smaller, a little less cynical and ourselves a little less alone in our struggles. (Hug)
I’m so sorry. May you find peace.
I am so very sorry.
I am so sorry.
Thank you, all, so much for these messages. I know that everyone’s experience with acute loss is different, but I’ve never been through anything like this and I am trying to pay attention to how I’m coping or not…and so is my doctor…so I don’t slide too deeply into a bad place. I will meet with a grief counselor next week and maybe that will help me process some of the harshest memories of those last weeks and days when my darling husband was going through so much and I so often felt terribly helpless.
BUT. We had 20 absolutely wonderful years together and the good memories are rich and plentiful. I will hold those in my heart and mind forever.
Hugs to you all.
I lost my husband four years ago (he was 29; it was sudden), and it gets better? Sort of? But the instability that Liam Neeson talked about, just that feeling that you don’t understand how the world works anymore, that stays. I’ve heard it called an existential crisis, and that seems about right.
I do feel for you, because I know how bad all this hurts.
If you’d like to talk or just support, feel free to email me: jen.doorn @ gmail.
Bless them both.
Tissues indeed! I just watched Amy Adams talking about PSH’s passing as well and cried at that. Partially because a friend of mine passed away the exact same way that PSH did and on the same day. So, I cry for both of them. Now I’m crying at this post too. I don’t think I have the heart to watch the interview about Natasha. So much about this hits home. I will be 45 very soon. I have a son. I’m happily married to my second husband. Man, she was so young. I can’t even imagine passing and leaving behind my husband and my child. It’s so tragic. I love that he brings up organ donation. I worked in a hospital for a number of years while getting through college and was witness to organ donation up close and personal. I am a listed organ donor. You really don’t know how many lives this one act can touch. I wish the best for Liam and his sons.
This story makes me cry every time. Her organ donation, the dog, the pain in his eyes. And all of you are right; you never get over losing someone. I lost someone very close 20 years ago and still find myself reaching for the phone to call her. To find love with someone, and have it end tragically – I don’t know how I would survive.
I have said this before. I can’t think of another actor/actress/celebrity that universally is so beloved by all ages. I have yet to ever see a post negative about him from people commenting on the internet.
All age groups go to his movies, depending on the movie, and all age groups admire him as a human being, the way he carries himself in life with grace and dignity and humility, so self-assured but never arrogant, and with lots of humor and charm. He just seems to treat people from all walks of life with respect. You always hear that from people that have gone up to him for an autograph or that talk to him or who have worked on movie sets with him.
I will be at this movie the first day with bells and whistles on.
Liam is going to be on Watch What Happens Live next Thursday.
I wish more actors & celebrities carried themselves with grace, dignity, intelligence & sense as Liam does.
None of us know how the sudden passing of a partner would affect us until it happens. Liam and Natasha were a lovely couple.
Liam is the new Arnie/Bruce/Harrison Ford….if you’re going to be on a plane and someone bad’s on board….he’ll save the day and make things right. I’ll go & see non-stop.
The man is still grieving for his wife. I guess that’s why he works so much just to keep himself busy. I hope he finds a great woman that will make him happy.
This is the 60 minutes piece. if you scroll to the bottom of the page there is a piece that didn’t air on grief.
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/liam-neeson-anderson-cooper-on-living-with-grief/