Retro seductress Dita Von Teese has a new interview with News of the World Magazine in which she seems to reveal that she has a new, unnamed lover who is just a normal guy, as opposed to her goth rocker ex husband, Marilyn Manson. She says that sometimes you can have the wildest sex with the people you least expect. Von Teese talks about her self imposed year long celibacy after her 2007 divorce, but says that those days are over and she’s having plenty of naughty fun in the bedroom again.

“Let’s say I’m enjoying myself at the moment,” explains the world-famous burlesque star often dubbed The Sexiest Woman On The Planet.

”I have suddenly become quite lecherous and it’s fun. I absolutely adore good sex. Like anyone, I think about sex a lot and let’s face it, in times like these it’s one thing you can really enjoy because it doesn’t cost a thing…

“After the divorce I was going through complete heartbreak,” she says. “It changes you. I spent the first year not having sex at all, which was strange as I still continued to convey sex in my work.

“But I didn’t feel ready to have another partner. I didn’t feel the inner chemistry you need to want to have sex. It wasn’t there. I needed to get the past out of my system and to listen to my emotions.

“After a split a lot of men put on a band-aid by getting another woman. I wanted to deal with the break-up and learn from it and I’ve done that now. I wanted to come through it and be able to love again as if my heart had never been broken.”

But Dita has not quite had her fill of bad boys. “You know what?” she says. “I absolutely accept that I’ll have my heart broken again, and probably again and again.

“But I don’t think I’m the sort of girl who’ll be celebrating a 75th anniversary with a man. I actually enjoy rollercoasters of life, and with great passion sometimes comes great heartbreak. I think I’ll end up belonging to the club of glamorous women like Lana Turner and Betty Grable, who had big, adventurous love affairs. The road less travelled can be more frightening, but it’s a lot of fun.”

Then she pauses and adds: “The only thing is, at the moment I’m definitely not looking at musicians. I’m attracted to normal, sweet-looking guys in sweaters. I’m finished with the leather trousers and eyeliner types.

“You can have a rollercoaster ride with a nice guy in a sweater.”

[From Fabulous Mag]

Von Teese also has some practical advice for those of us looking to spice up our love lives, and says that she’s tried threesomes in the past but that it never works. As for women who try to snag attached men, she’s understated about it but claims those women are fundamentally lacking. Von Teese’s relationship with Manson ended amid rumors that he was cheating on her with much younger then-lookalike, Evan Rachel Wood:

FIND YOUR INNER SEXINESS “A lot of people confuse the idea of being sexy with an image of how they think they should look. There’s no one way to be sexy. I feel most sexy in stockings, garters and gorgeous lingerie, but that’s not because I think men will like it – it’s what I like. Everyone is different, so work out what makes you feel most sexy and go with it. Variety is the spice of life.”

GOOD LIGHTING “It’s totally essential. To look your best you have to have good lighting. Fix a dimmer switch in the bedroom and play with the settings. I have dimmers in all my rooms.” BE AN EXPERT “I like to be adventurous in the bedroom, but want to know what I’m doing. I read Nina Hartley’s Guide To Total Sex all the time. Nina was a famous porn star who experienced every kind of sex, then wrote all about it, detail by detail. It’s the best book about sex ever.”

SMILE! “When a man pictures his woman in his head he’ll always remember when she’s laughing and smiling, not necessarily when she’s trying her hardest to look sexy. If you feel happy and comfortable, then you’re more likely to feel sexy – even if it’s in your skinny jeans and boots, or short skirt. Just let yourself go.”

DON’T DISMISS ‘VANILLA’ SEX “Normal or conventional sex can be just as good as adventurous sex. You should never feel like you are under pressure to perform. When someone’s trying to impress you, it doesn’t work. It’s better to let one thing lead to another naturally, so you’re more relaxed.”

PICK YOUR FANTASIES “When I was younger I used to think I’d be the best girlfriend I could and invite a female friend for a threesome, but it always backfired. I’d suggest thinking about other ways to make sex exciting. And remember, it’s OK to keep some fantasies as just that.”

EXPECT A BIT OF TORTURE “Is he going to call? Isn’t he? Does he like me? Doesn’t he? Every girl goes through it – whether you’re Kate Moss or the girl next door. Accept it as part of the excitement of being with a guy and enjoy it.”

BE A GIRL’S GIRL “There are two types of women – those who prey on taken men, and those who don’t. The first group are not sexy because they don’t have any confidence or self-esteem. I love men but I’m a girl’s girl, which may be one reason Jennifer Lopez asked me to perform for her husband, Marc Anthony, and why the singer Fergie booked me for her husband’s stag party. They know they can trust me. There’s nothing sexy about hitting on another woman’s man, it’s just mean-spirited.”

[From Fabulousmag]

Dita sometimes comes off as smug and I wasn’t a fan of hers at first, but there’s a reason she’s at the top of her game. She exudes confidence and sex appeal and she really seems to have evolved since her divorce. Von Teese is headlining at the Crazy Horse Cabaret in Paris from February 1 to 15. Tickets start at 100 Euro per person.

Dita Von Teese is shown out at an Aids benefit dinner in Paris on 1/29/09, Credit: Fame, and at Paris Fashion Week on 2/1/09, Credit: WENN