The breaking news last night was Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s “sudden” separation, or as Gwyneth called it on Goop, “Conscious Uncoupling.” By the way, Goop.com is still crashing for me. THAT is the real story – that Goop.com’s servers blow. But I’ll admit to be surprised by Chris and Gwyneth’s separation. As I said yesterday, I was expecting it, waiting for it two years ago. But they have seemed much tighter lately. So, what happened? Perhaps it was an alleged affair. Perhaps it was the Vanity Fair “takedown” which never arrived. Perhaps it was… God knows. Anyway, there’s some new information percolating this morning, so let’s get to it.
Us Weekly says that Chris Martin and Goop traveled to the Bahamas yesterday in advance of the announcement. They took their kids too – maybe it’s Apple and Moses’ spring break? Maybe they just wanted to explain the separation to the kids away from all the noise.
The Daily Mail has 20 million new stories about Chris and Goop. A source says that they traveled to the Bahamas because “Going away together may seem unusual but that’s Gwyneth and Chris. Foremost they want the kids to see they mean business about remaining a family, and another… they want to miss the fallout.” Chris also gave Gwyneth a gift to mark their separation: a painting of a bird in flight (FREEBIRD).
One of the most interesting takes – and I think this is for real too – is the discussion on what led up to this split, and how it has to do with their move, last year, to LA. Chris has always seemed like an a—hole about getting his way, and it surprised me that he would have agreed to move to LA, which is clearly what Gwyneth wanted. And Radar & the Daily Mail say that the move was a big factor:
Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin insist they’ll “co-parent” kids Apple and Moses post-split — but they’ll do it from different continents! RadarOnline.com has exclusively learned that while Paltrow plans to stay in L.A., her rocker ex is going back to his native England.
The Academy award winning actress and the Coldplay frontman announced their plans to “consciously uncouple” on Gwyneth’s website, Goop.com website on Tuesday. The couple had moved to Los Angeles last summer, after living in London for most of their marriage. However, Martin, 37, has been unhappy since moving to LaLa land.
“Chris doesn’t have any family or friends in Los Angeles. His Coldplay bandmates are based in London, and that is where his world is. Gwyneth had always said she never wanted to live in LA, and then, abruptly changed her mind last year. The plan is for Gwyneth to remain in California, with their children. Chris will absolutely be moving back to London, but will commute back and forth to see the kids,” a source told RadarOnline.com.
Martin and Coldplay are expected to embark on a world tour to promote their upcoming album, Ghost Stories, which is being released on May 19. Radar broke the story: Martin had been miserable since decamping to sunny SoCal. Prior to the separation announcement, Martin told Gwyneth he had wanted to move back to England, with the kids, once the school year was over.
“He hasn’t been happy living in Los Angeles because Chris just isn’t into the Hollywood scene. Since moving to LA, Chris has been away from the band, and he has essentially put his career on the back burner,” a source previously told us. “At first, Chris was doing it for Gwyneth because of the sacrifices she made for him, especially since he would be on the road for months at time while the band was touring. However, Chris now recognizes that Gwyneth doesn’t need to be living in Los Angeles for her career…Yes, she is closer to her mom Blythe Danner and friends, but Chris is away from his family and pals. From the beginning of their relationship, Gwyneth always told Chris she wanted to live in London. The couple also owns a home in the Hamptons, and Chris would much rather live there than in Los Angeles.”
The separation comes on the heels of their purchase of a $14 million Malibu house and they already own a lavish estate in the Pacific Palisades, Calif.
I do think this was a big part in why they split. I mean, of course there was other stuff and I would imagine other people involved in the split as well. But the whole “where is our homebase?” thing really clinched it. Gwyneth moved to London full-time for him (and she wouldn’t shut up about it either) and within months of moving the family to a city where she has friends and family, suddenly Chris throws a fit? Yeah. That happened.
Photos courtesy of Goop, Getty, WENN.
I’m pretty sure they split because of that header photo.
funny
I think it happened after he saw her dance.
And that part where she opens her mouth and the noises come out?
Maybe she asked him if she could be on “The Voice” with him and that was the last straw.
I bet he can now eat his Cheetos and drink his Cokes in peace. He no longer has to hide his empty candy wrappers under the bed.
I forgot about that. How could living in LA be the culprit? Doesn’t the Voice tape in LA?
Yep it does Kiddo.
I wonder how much time it will take to flm his segments for The Voice. I thought it was a weird gig for him when it was announced. Maybe he took it partly to show his commitment to bi-coastal parenting. He’ll visit the kids while he’s working in L.A. and she’ll do the same when she’s in London.
No, they “consciously uncoupled” because mankind isn’t meant to be monogamous. See, it’s not her fault! Goop had 2 experts write an essay justifying conscious uncoupling for EVERYONE. They took two pages to say “The idea of being married to one person for life is too much pressure for anyone.”
Conscious uncoupling beats waking up alone with a bottle of Jameson’s and wondering WTF happened, right?
I think this is going to get dirty. Not between the two of them, but in the press. I have a feeling there is some serious dirt about to come up, and don’t forget that someone in Gwyneth’s camp is leaking stuff. She really must have pissed someone off!
Yeah I agree. Lainey is going to go totally overboard for the next couple of weeks with her “G”; I feel like I should send her some complimentary Xanax so she doesn’t bust a nut.
I’ll pitch in for the Xanax. Ugh.
If you look back on the last year or two, there’s been a subtle shift with Gwyneth. She’s always been an elitist snob, but somehow she’s gotten weird. I couldn’t imagine 10 years ago her calling attention to her own ”stripper ass” or her weird relationship advice, let alone the meangirling of the Met Ball. Something is up. And again, we already know that someone close to her is leaking stuff.
And Lainey may love Gwyneth, but I don’t think she’s going to pull any punches. I actually like Laineys take on a lot of stuff (but not fashion… At all). Gwyneth IS interesting, too – the fashion, the friends, the men (seriously, she got the best guys. I don’t get it.)
careful…lainey is my gwyneth 🙂
@ Bridget
Lainey’s dropping LOTS of HINTS about a skinnier than GOOP fashion girl. About him not being able to fall out of love with here.
Anyone have ideas who that is… that’s not a long ago reference to Bosworth is it ???
I really don’t like that Lainey doesn’t allow comments on her site. I used to read her all the time, spending at least 15 minutes on her site every day. Now I just check in for a minute and don’t read half of her posts (and the Lifestyle section not at all). I like Celebitchy much more and spend most of my gossip time here now. I think bloggers should trust their readers and allow comments – why not? It works fine here and it creates a community – and that’s what the internet should be about. Lainey is too much of a control freak. I like her writing, but the fact that she won’t allow comments makes me like her less. And I think she is a hypocrite when she asks for thoughts on subjects, as she does often. If she really wants to know, allow comments. And if you need another argument: It has the added benefit of readers spending more time on your site, which attracts advertisers. End of rant.
@Layla, she talked about Alexa Chung yesterday – maybe it’s her?
@Layla: supposedly, the arrangement between Paltrow and Martin was that he keep his dalliances with “civilians” and one of their rockiest points came about because he was caught hooking up with The Bos (there were photos of them kissing at a concert, and she’s been cast out of certain circles ever since) but… considering that Lainey is actually refencing multiple extra people in her post, I wonder if the one who Chris Martin actually carries a torch for is Natalie Imbruglia, whom he also was rumored to have had an affair with (and wasn’t he romantically involved with her pre-Gwneth?). Supposedly Gwyneth was furious at that involvement as well.
Those two certainly got around a lot during that marriage, tis could potentially be incredibly embarrassing.
@Calcifer: I’m not shocked she doesn’t allow comments. She became well known during the height of TwiHard mania. Those crazies pretty much ruined The Awful Truth comment boards. It probably takes an enormous amount of time to moderate these comments on this site so that it doesn’t turn into Perez Hilton’s site. I don’t blame any blogger for not wanting to take that on.
OMG!
http://instagram.com/p/bKyDXulLOB/#
@Liv, that is a surprise. Now all makes sense, poor Apple and Moses.
@LIV, wow, great instagram find! This:
(a) would confirm pasty Chris liking his women physically weak-looking, possibly eating-disordered
(b) would be an embarassing comedown for Alexa Chung after Alex Turner… like going from the Beatles to the Monkeees
@Liv.
W.O.W.
what a finds right!
Hmmmm….here I am thinking Chris is devastated…but perhaps he’s fine?
Haha, thanks girls, I just googled them! There’s also a site where people talk about their celebrity sightings at Glastonbury and one guy stated this:
“Seen Alexa Chung and Chris Martin sat round a little fire just off the track about 4am sun morn.”
I mean this went on last summer, but if we believe Lainey she’s the one he can’t forget! 😉
Thanks for filling in the gaps everyone!
@ Liv :
Amazing IG find – guess Lainey was on to something when she mentioned Alexa Chung yesterday !!!
Oooooh. BG is saying that Chris has been hooking up with KATE HUDSON for months now!
Not sure if I believe it, but good gossip!
Not an expert, but I see CM going for (slash already being with, SMH) someone random, not too famous (and not fame ho-ey) and totally different from GOOP. Like a 22 year old Asian-British makeup artist who loves cheese fries, or something. Why bother giving up GOOP for another version of GOOP (Hudson and Alexa Chung are not too different from her)? He seemed actively embarrassed and annoyed by her, but also seemed to like the idea of remaining as a family unit. Why break up the family to get with someone just like GOOP?
I know it’s better for gossip sake if he also gets with someone famous and similar and in GOOP’s social circle, but CM also seems to be done being a gossip column staple.
@Calcifer,
I don’t blame her for not having comments, but funny you mention “control freak” because that was the first thing that came to mind while reading her piece on her ‘G’ today. She was in a tizzy over GP’s sharing boundaries, which segued into a rant on celebrities trying to control what info they share about their personal lives. I just had to laugh. A control freak frustrated by the moves of other control freaks, or people she’s branded as such because they don’t act according to her rules. Her ‘G’ did make up her f-cking mind about exactly what, when, and where she wanted to share. Celebrities and everyone else get to draw the line about what they share and with whom because it’s their lives. No one is forcing her or anyone else to try to keep up with their sh-t. Not only is it her choice to try to keep up, she makes a living off of it.
Alexa and Chris make more sense to me as a couple than Gwyneth and Chris EVER did.
Here’s Alexa Chung “interviewing” Gwyneth.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VquNswxTEG8
Two horrible voices (smoker and honker), also demonstrating why Alexa’s MTV show bombed; she’s too celf-centred to focus on someone else for the length of an interview and let them talk.
@Calcifer
You’re absolutely right. One of the reasons I stopped checking her site. What’s the point?
Yep, there’s more to come.
My very first thought was “Why release this on a Tuesday afternoon?” It’s like you want everyone to talk about it. The only press you’ll avoid for a bit is print, (how many gossip watchers get their news through print media nowadays), and you’re only giving them a week to get some stories together. Seriously, unless Angelina announces she’s pregnant or Tom Cruise comes out of the closet what else is anyone going to be talking about for at least the rest of the week? There have been rumors about this forever. So why now? Why RIGHT now? I think it’s something and a semi-permanent move could only be the tip of the iceberg. They already spend plenty of time in NYC, the Hamptons and vacationing. And how often are both even “at home” at the same time? These are bigger issues than just where do we live. She moved to LDN, put everything on the back burner in the first half of their relationship. If dude can’t compromise that speaks to a bigger issue. I had forgotten how fast their relationship progressed until the Fail reminded me. They meet three weeks after she lost her father. They got pregnant less than a year later, she was about five months along when they married. I think Moses was born two years after. During all that, Coldplay was becoming huge, she was playing happy homemaker, and a year or two later the first stories about him cheating came out. Well, whatdoyahknow? This era was also the beginning of GOOP and “Iron Man”. When you couple that with all of her talk (and she talked a lot, even though she always insisted he was very private), making it seem like her marriage was pretty much the only non-perfect thing in her life, I don’t think things were ever all that great. How can there not be some acrimony here? So I also have no doubts that this isn’t going to pleasant. I mean we know there’s plenty for the press to dig up. But just how this is coming out now, plus the rumors about her infidelities, and how Paltrow has dealt with the press in the past, it wouldn’t shock me if things got dirty between them as well. I think some passive-aggressive “sourced” mudslinging at the least.
They didn’t bury it at all. Its more like ”we’re breaking up, come take a look!”
That Whisper App thing about Kevin Yorn felt malicious, and what I inferred from Lainey was that there are some pretty pissed off wives right now that may have it out for Ms Gwyneth. I would venture a guess that the biggeat difference between her cheating and Martn’s was that for the most part his was contained to regular people (even Imbruglia and Bosworth were at least single) while Gwyneth didn’t seem to care if her extra curriculars were already attached. Though I was always surprised people didn’t give Martin a harder timr for those Kate Bosworth photos. Yuck.
They probably just decided to do a quick painful bandage rip. Also, its pretty obvious that the next few weeks will be saturated with the ”behind the scenes” gossip anyway, so what does it matter when you put the news out. This isnt one of those stories you can bury.
I wonder if they thought everyone would be talking about L’Wren Scott and Mick Jagger and this could kind of slide past.
@Omega, I’m not saying it works really, but it is what everybody does. If you asked me how they would announce their breakup it wouldn’t be like this, after a year of being more public than ever, while she’s taking hits left and right. I’ll never forget Nick and Jessica announcing their divorce on Thanksgiving. Big news on Fridays and holidays. So it is just unusual to announce something like this on your website, as a blog entry on a Tuesday. It’s not out of the blue that their marriage is over, but it is a sort of an out of the blue time to announce it for me. @Kristie – L’Wren, plus Kim and Kanye? If this split is amicable, then I imagine it would be in the works for a while. They could pick any time to announce it. I would’ve announced it the Friday before the Superbowl or something. Maybe it is ripping off a band aid. Or maybe there’s news and they’re trying to get ahead of it. Maybe one or both, is seeing someone already. Or who knows, maybe it’s spite and Martin had little to do with the blog entry and Paltrow wasn’t overly concerned about consulting him on it. Who knows? It just feels kind of rushed and off to me. It’s very “watch this space”.
Maybe she caught him off guard, but I doubt it. I’m sure there are some hard feelings and both sides (especially Gwyneth) will be looking to protect themselves in the media theough their camps when push comes shove, but I think they are probably together on the nuts and bolts of how this was going to go down, especially since they left on vacation with the kids at the same time. My first thought was maybe they got word of some photos or other damning information coming down the pike and decided just to get it over with. Let the media have a feeding frenzy while they’re out of town and hope the gossips burn themselves by the time they resurface.
She’s probably made her fair share of enemies over the years given her ‘mean girl’ rep, but I’m going to guess the leaker is the girlfriend or wife who’s on the verge of splitting with the man Gwyneth had an affair with (if she hasn’t already), or one of Martin’s paramours who wants to see him single.
Blind Gossip says it’s Kate Hudson and it’s a “solved” blind – just today. Holy crap!
Blind Gossip isn’t the best source (you might as well cite CDAN)… And that would be a HUGE F-you to Gwyneth. If he was really having an affair with Kate Hudson this wouldn’t be nearly as amicable divorce, because while those two aren’t close they most definitely travel in the same circles and have a lot of overlapping close friends. On the other hand, there have quietly been sightings with him and Alexa Chung, and that I wouldn’t be shocked about at all.
I disagree, BG often has blinds that turn out to be accurate. Many reveals, sometimes years after the fact that end up completely true.
Comparing CDAN to BG is like comparing Tang to Tropicana.
Although, I have to admit, I was shocked by the Kate Hudson reveal, especially since Lainey was hinting about Chung, but then today, Lainey mentioned Kate in her latest GOOP article so….where there is smoke there is fire?
She with her wrighter.
Him with Kate Hudson.
i dont think LA is the probl. They have enough money to fly from Eng to USA.
Crazy Days and Nights is doing blind item reveals about them today. Makes for good reading!
Haha Yes Kellie They are Unloading Over there!
I don’t know why everyone hates her. I always liked her. Divorce is rough. I’ve seen a lot of my friends go through it. It’s very emotional and painful. I feel terrible for the children also. Whatever happened between them is between them. Hopefully they all come out of it whole.
+1
But we have disliked this pretentious woman before the divorce. This is not new found hatred, it’s been here for awhile.
V4Real says “But we have disliked this pretentious woman before the divorce”
This is the bit I dont understand though. I googled “Paltrows snobbiest statements” and read quite afew links. Its mostly inoffensive stuff. So she doesnt like her kids watching telly and prefers them to learn foreign languages, whats wrong with that? Or she took up Japanese screen printing over the summer to keep their minds busy with something from a different culture, again whats the problem with that?
I mean is this an American thing, where if you are not chugging a beer and laughing at other cultures and their languages, you are pretentious? Because its the other way around where I am from. We like the mums who get their kids to eat right, be multilingual and entertain them away from the TV.
Oh Omega it’s so much more than that. You haven’t read everything if that’s all you got from her.
How about we don’t like hypocrites. Gwyneth preaches a whole lot of sh*t she doesn’t live. And she gets called on it. Sorry if disliking hypocrisy offends you, Omega.
Yes, it’s an American thing! (Are you f’ing kidding me? Yes, let’s lump a vastly diverse 300 million people into one pot, sure.) I live in LA and most moms I know here, including me, don’t let kids watch tv, have multi-cultural and multi-lingual families, make sure our families eat as healthfully as possible, spend lots of time outside, really care about education, the environment and teaching our kids how to be decent human beings, etc. What we don’t do is tell other people how awesome our lives are and how [insert latest food/beauty fad] is actually really fantastic for you and how you should spend thousands of dollars on black pants, all on the basis of, well, nothing. She’s pretty much the definition of pretentious. She totally has the right to tell people everything she wants to, but it doesn’t mean she will be liked for it… I try to avoid her stuff, but she must pay her PR firm very well because she is all. over. the place, so yeah… I find her very annoying. I have to say, though, that I do like beer… hey, I guess that is so American of me, even though I’m not originally from here!
Absolutely. My parents divorced when I was a kid as I’m sure most other readers on this site & I just don’t get how their breakup is funny. Divorce is incredibly difficult & sad.
I’ve also always liked Gwyneth. She’s one of my faves.
Thank you for saying that. I couldn’t care less about this celeb couple but laughing at divorce is almost as bad as laughing at death in my books. FFS.
Also, I think Omega above is onto something.
Annaloony- Well I felt it was your destiny, your fate that I call you that. This IS a gossip site – psychology, emotional pain & human drama is all over all of them. I thought that was a given? You seem to know it all to justify your words. Yah it sucks when someone just throws out negative comments without knowing you right. Awww…tear.
It’s hard not to feel some satisfaction when Know-it-alls get served with a huge slice of humble pie. Ms. Paltrow has gotten her comeuppance, and it can be a bitch.
I don’t view her as a “know it all” and even if I did, that’s no reason to enjoy seeing someone go through emotional pain. Humble pie?? Really. Grow up.
Yes, I and half the other posters probably need to grow up, but that’s why we’re here. Respectfully, she’s a celebrity, she’s put her sanctimony out there on everything from shampoo to BJs for hubby – she’s a total know-it-all and absolutely fair game, & schadenfreude is loved, especially in this forum. So I’m volleying that “really” comment back at you and your “grow up” as well, because this IS a gossip site – psychology, emotional pain & human drama is all over all of them. I thought that was a given?
Hey Annaloonatic chill out. So you’re saying that she deserves this, it was her fate? My point is just because it’s a gossip site doesn’t mean you have to be so mean toward someone going thru a painful situation. So because you have labeled her a “know-it all”- she’s fair game. Oh ok. The only thing that’s a given is that you’re an ass****. Volley this.
Pnichols, what planet do you live on where it’s okay to tell someone to “chill out” and then almost immediately proceed to call them an ass****?
Pnichols, your telling me to “grow up” set the whole tone of this thing and now you’ve called me an ass****. Maybe try practicing what you preach and try taking a civilized tone yourself.
Annaloony- Well I felt it was your destiny, your fate that I call you that. This IS a gossip site – psychology, emotional pain & human drama is all over all of them. I thought that was a given? You seem to know it all to justify your words. Yah it sucks when someone just throws out negative comments without knowing you right. Awww…tear. P.S. Oh and I live on Earth
As much as I roll my eyes at Goop, I just can’t be happy about a family breaking up. I’m sure she will continue to be a good mom and he a good father, but those kids’ lives are changing in a huge way and all the best co-parenting in the world can’t stop that. She is insufferable, we all know, but this kind of humbling is so painful, I almost feel sorry for her. The blinds have been leading up to this and told of numerous affairs on both their part, so all this time she’s been fronting the strong marriage and getting over cheating hurdles, it was still going on. If this is Kate Hudson, I have a huge problem supporting her. They were friends, had their kids playing together….that has got to be THEE WORST betrayal of a trusted friend.
I am no Goop apologist but I think the reason we got saddled with her a few years back is because her husband ignored her and took her for granted for years. So I’m reluctantly on ‘her side’.
I’m sure they both have had affairs but I think he cheated first with Natalie Imbruglia, and Kate Bosworth and Goop cheated after it was clear the marriage wasn’t going to work out.
Well isn’t she a known cheater as well? I heard rumors that she cheated on Ben Affleck as well as Brad Pitt.
BTW I’m sure all us regualr posters are not surprised by this at all. Most of us saw this coming when she started to make all the declarations of how in love they are, how she gives BJ’s and this and that and blah, blah, blah. I recall one poster who said divorce was coming soon and Gwyn just wanted to make it to that 10th year of marriage that is the acceptable break-up time in Hollywood.
I agree with you. She stayed in England for him, all but gave up her career and after 8 months living by sand and surf he bails? I think he cheated first because he had only had one lover maybe before her? This happened with my husband. He was also 5 years younger and we got together at 18 and 22.5 respectively. Also, couldn’t agree where to live. Oddly, I identify with this situation. I always liked Gwyneth before the last few years. We’re the same age, so my 20’s were filled with her movies. When you feel abandoned and taken for granted in your primary relationship it can do very strange things to you.
Divorce knocks the world out from under you. The most scarring thing about it, from my POV (I’m going through one now) is that I can’t imagine ever trusting my own judgment about men again. You literally lose all faith in yourself. Think about how awful that is. It will be a long time before I can date again–and I left *him* after falling out of love, and it’s not even that messy a divorce in our case.
My heart goes out to them, even though I think they’re awful, whiny, world-blind people in some ways. My heart goes out to G and C as much as to the kids because divorce fecks.you.up. and you don’t recognize your life or yourself anymore.
Nothing funny about it. There’s a reason they say “death and divorce” in the same breath.
Godwina, thank you for telling your story and putting a human perspective on this. You say, “My heart goes out to G and C…” Well, my heart goes out to you.
“Gwyneth moved to London full-time for him (and she wouldn’t shut up about it either) and within months of moving the family to a city where she has friends and family, suddenly Chris throws a fit? Yeah. That happened. ”
Totally could have happened. I’ve seen it over and over again that men expect their girlfriends/wives to make sacrifices for the relationship the men themselves wouldn’t be willing to make, have not intentions to make and will never make. Me thinks the ladies need to be less accommodating.
Wow. ++++++++1
+100
+101 (lol). I’ve heard a lot of stories of people who have issues with the whole “where to live” thing and it seems like it’s always the woman who caves. It wouldn’t surprise me at all to hear that Chris Martin got upset at the idea of having to move.
Its not just about where you live either. Its what religion to follow, what job opportunities to accept, who should be the primary care giving parent to the kids. Its that bs that Gaga was spewing about letting the “man be the man”. What utter garbage.
Compromise means that you BOTH make sacrifices. If you are the one doing all the bending, you are in alot of trouble and GOOP is a perfect example of that.
@Omega : I totally agree with you. I came from a different country, culture, religion and background (even different taste and personality!) with my hubby. We both have to compromise, we both make sacrifices, and we both have to learn to be sensitive of each other feeling. I think it’s important that both side are committed for the relationship and both doing the best they can to keep the relationship going strong in the long haul.
It won’t work if only one side that keep trying to hold on the relationship together.
In an interesting turn, my sister did this to her husband.
They met and married in Japan. Moved back to here so he could go to school (CA) and she could teach. All along everyone knew it was for 5-8 years, then back to Japan. It was very clear and VERY important to him that his kids be schooled in Japan for part of their education.
This was clear to all of us.
2 kids later, she changes her mind. Uses him to pay off her Lexus, gets the big house and joint custody, and he’s stuck here for good because he won’t leave his kids.
She reneged. Completely reneged on their arrangement and their marriage ended but she would not even consider his feelings once they moved back here.
it’s horrible for him, his kids, and for the family. We love him and feel for him. She has a new boyfriend she moved in with less than 2 years later. Into her ex’s house, with his kids and the new guy uses the Lexus.
So it’s not just men. She got what she wanted (including the fact that he paid her student loans for her).
So I can feel for Gwen if he is pulling on her what my sister did. it’s awful.
I don’t know the full situation but being married to someone and living in their country, in my personal experience, is no cake walk. Whatever she did or didn’t agree to, she has a right to change her mind. When you are young and in love moving to a new country is an adventure, you don’t really foresee the real difficulty of a lifetime of homesickness and being far away from friends and family. It’s sad that he is now stuck somewhere he doesn’t want to be, but don’t totally negate you sister’s right to live where she pleases. It does seem unfair that she didn’t even try the move for a few yrs, and it must really suck for your former brother in law. Being a couple from two different countries is something a lot of young people get excited by, but in the long term it takes a lot of work and sacrifice. These kinds of compromises are not easy, I wouldn’t be surprised if Gwyneth got tired of it at all. As much as you try to embrace a foreign land, it’s hard to let go of where you’re from.
I’m a card-carrying girl, but I’m going to defend Chris Martin on this one. I have seen women cave because they’re afraid the man will walk otherwise. Then, later, when it turns into a big deal, the man is understandably confused and angry because she knew from the start location was a dealbreaker. The man gets tagged as “unwilling to compromise,” when it was the woman who was unaware or unwilling to say what she really wanted/needed. Who knows if any of this fits here.
Side Note: Isn’t this what’s going on with J. Aniston and J. Theroux? Don’t really follow them.
From a hard-core feminist, being angry when the other reneged on the bases of your agreement is a very reasonable and understandable reaction. It’s not throwing a fit. The I want/don’t want kids, I want to live here/there, I want this or that kind of lifestyle,… are, among others, deal- breaking questions. If one change his/her mind or plainly lie, the other, even if he’s male, is still entitled to not being happy about it.
Instead of criticizing the men for their “hissy, unfair or self-centred” reaction, maybe some women should stop being all yes-dear at first and stop entering marriage with the idea of changing the poor gullible sob.
This.
The man is not always the one at fault for the divorce. Usually both people are, and sometimes it’s entirely the woman’s fault. Goop is hardly a poor abused little flower. She’s a hardass narcissistic cheater, and a hugely wealthy one at that.
London probably looked a whole lot nicer when she was besotted with a Englishman who only had eyes for her. Women following their men around the world and effusively proclaiming their love for their new home should take note. They may want to go home again someday, and it will be a lot more difficult once the kids hit school age and the men are even more settled in their ways.
In regards to GOOP and Martin, I can see both sides. Yeah, she made a commitment to base the family in England, but it was a decision she made when she was relatively young and the relationship was thriving. I doubt she was solely responsible for their relationship faltering, and I think if you really love someone, you want them to be happy. To that end, both should be willing to accept that people change over time and at least meet their partner halfway if possible. Gwyneth and Chris could have made NY their base if they wanted to compromise, but it sounds like neither party was interested.
Methinks Gwyneth Paltrow needs to not have lied her ass off then. If not living in L.A. was a dealbreaker for her, and not living in London was a dealbreaker for him, they shouldn’t have gotten married. But Goop was always clear about how much better she thought England was than the U.S. You think she only lied to us peasants, but was truthful to her husband? Yeah right.
I’m seeing the same thing happening here as happened with Jennifer Aniston. Women are projecting their own personal experiences onto her when they do not match up in any way.
A) Pretentious Conscious Uncoupling News Update
B) oh so the affairs on both sides wasnt it? *wiggly brows*
C) Im personally sitting back for all the “friends” and “sources” to start leaking like sieves
I hope they do start leaking, the gossip would be fantastic!
Did their statement also infer they Unconsciously Coupled?
In all fairness, she lived in London and adapted to his lifestyle more than he ever adapted to hers. Relationships require compromise on both sides. I get the distinct feeling he does not understand compromise, and that he rarely lost the arguments in the marriage. I think she finally stood up for herself.
+1
Don’t agree. If she said from the beginning that she wants to live in London then it’s not his fault. Besides I totally understand that he doesn’t want to live in LA. She’s of course allowed to change her mind, but they should have find a compromise like NY or something. That said I doubt that moving was the reason for their split – other people were.
I agree. There was an interview a few years back where she said that because he’s a genius (snicker), she tends to give him what he wants, as he has an artistic temperament. She made a lot of sacrifices – once she moved to London, her career did stall, and without the Iron Man movies, she’s not going to be A-List anymore. Plus, you might want to argue that all of the pretentiousness and the GOOP-yness is indicative of a woman trying to prove something.
“Plus, you might want to argue that all of the pretentiousness and the GOOP-yness is indicative of a woman trying to prove something.” I agree completely and I agree with everyone who said he doesn’t know or doesn’t want to compromise.
@ T Fanty: Your comment is spot-on.
Um, they have like FIVE homes- or something excessive like that — where to live was always their luxury! They can have any life they want, where they want. I highly doubt these two self impressed nitwits would quit their marriage over not agreeing where to live, there has to be something else. A BIG something else.
The thing with that though was that after she moved to London she made it very clear that it was the best most sophisticated city on earth and the place where she belonged and not in some gauche American city. She talked about her love for London and the uk all of the time and how it and it’s people were so much better then America and Americans. So I don’t feel bad at all for her having to endure living there.
Well, you can’t fault her for being right about that. 😜
@T Fanty HA!
She should stay in Eleuthera. America doesn’t want her back, and I don’t think London does either!
In retrospect, I think that whole interview was Gwyneth speaking her internal monologue, trying to convince herself that London was really the right place for her, that it was really the best place on earth. Real Gwyneth is more NYC where she grew up. I remember when she told her 9/11 story.
Its just like how she was speaking aloud trying to convince herself to have another child with Chris, even though she admitted she was terrified of having another because of her postpartum depression following Moses. I think she’s one of those people who tries to convince themselves that everything is perfect and everything is what they want, even when their world is collapsing.
Yes, this
If she liked London — which she at least pretended to do — and he hated L.A., it wouldn’t be “compromise” for him to live in L.A. It would be torturing him for no reason.
Completely agree with this.
Didn’t Chris just sign on the The Voice? I assume that films out of LA, right? So doesn’t he need a place in LA anyways?
That’s what I was going to say. Also I think they have probably been over for awhile and were waiting until a time that they need to publicity to announce it.
Chris is a mentor for one of the Voice rounds that are not filmed live. That is, he likely shot everything months ago
It depends on if he’s a mentor who sits in a chair like Levine, Usher or Blake. If that’s the case they they might have filmed for the upcoming show but I doubt it; you would know if auditions were being held. Now if he’s a second mentor to the first mentor then he definetly hasn’t started filming. Because the second mentor doesn’t come in until they have completed the auditions and the the contestants have been choosen.
Yeah that kind of contradicts the whole OMG he hates LA! thing.
I seriously doubt that was the reason for the split. It’s never just one thing. It’s an accumulation of things over the years until finally you go, “Ok. Now it’s done.”
I agree. There may be a straw that breaks the camel’s back, but it’s rarely as simple as where you live.
Very true. It could have been the proverbial last straw. The only thing I don’t quite get is why she is/was so insistent on moving to LA. I thought she was a NY girl.
Community property state?
She wanted her kids to pick avocados or something in LA
Her lover is in la?
Yuppers.
I think they were both screwing around. One of them may have developed feelings for their jump off, but their move to LA was a calculated move on Gwynnie’s part.
She saw this split coming, and firmly established the children in LA so she wouldn’t be stuck in London.
I agree. She wanted to be near her mother, brother and friends during the inevitable split up.
I think you’re right. Good for her. She knew that she and the children were going to need the love and support of family. Smart decision to move to L.A.
So she wrenched her children out of the home they’d had for years and away from the support of the family they’d seen most often — Chris Martin’s side of the family.
I think this was an utterly selfish move on her part.
@Sullivan, Chris has a family. A nice one. But yeah, totally awesome of Gwyneth to move the kids to where SHE has family support. Never mind Chris’ family or their lives in England.
It doesn’t matter how much I dislike Gwyneth but i HATE when couples break up. I hate it even more when they give up on their marriage. And I HATE when someone calls it quits when kids are involved.
It makes me feel so very sad.. as if there is no hope in the world.
There’s hope in the world, Paola, and lots of people make it work. It is sad, though, but I think they tried hard and will both be there for their children. When my brother and his wife, whom I loved, too, divorced, I thought it was the end of life as we knew it, and it was. But they worked out a new way of being a family, and the kids are all fine. It makes me sad that you’re sad, so cheer up! Lol.
ahahah! I’m fine actually.. but the end of a relationship is one of the saddest things ever.
Aw, that’s was sweet Goodnames. And she’s right, Paola, sometimes things have a way of working out even better than expected. And that, in a nutshell , is hope. 🙂
@GoodNamesAllTaken is good people, @mimif.
It’s weird being around a couple breaking up, if they are your friends. It makes everyone around them take stock of their own relationship.
I agree about the part involving kids. About breaking up, sometimes it is necessary. You never know what the future holds for you…. When my second engagement went into the bin, I really thought “I need to think about the possibility I will always be alone” and I organised my life in a completely different matter. Needless to say, I got married in a very short time after nine months of dating…. 😉
I don’t like Goop either. But maybe the split was necessary and hopefully she will happier with someone else. Chris Martin sounded a selfish egomaniac anyway….
I know lots of kids – my(former kid)self included – who turned out much better and had healthier childhoods because parents split up. It’s really not the end of the world.
That’s just… really, really sad.
Breaking up is not a bad thing. It is usually the best thing. A romantic relationship is far from the be-all end-all of existence. I’m happily married, and I would not be if I had stayed in my first relationship. My parents divorced, and they should have done it sooner, it would have been better for everyone involved. Breaking up is simply not bad.
It’s natural to be sad at the death of love, but in many cases the children are better off/happier. Maybe Gwyn and Chris sheltered the kids from their problems, but in the long run it’s for the best. I come from a very happy broken home (lol), the day my parents split was one of the happiest of my life, seriously. The kids are young but they will get used to it. They are used to their Dad not always being around so it probably won’t be that different.
I think it was more that they both had side pieces and one of them became sloppy with the discretion. He had been in LA for quite a bit during their marriage. Yeah, something is about to blow up and Vanity Fair got the wheels in motion. They might not have published the story, but they will be the source behind future ones. Well played, Grayson.
It’s Graydon. And I think he will have egg on his face if VF doesn’t get some sort of scoop here.
Maybe the deal was VF had to hold off on their story, GP and CM would announce a separation on their own terms and then participate in the VF story.
No way.
Poor old GOOP. When the mocking of “conscious uncoupling” even makes it to the BBC Breakfast News and it’s more important to laugh than sympathise with the breakdown of a family, you know the world is going to hell in a GOOP cart.
I’d rather hear about Gwenyth than the Vogue cover with the porn star on it. 🙂
That particular GOOP cart being woven from the finest organic bamboo fibers harvested from the eastern side of the feng shui apple orchard.
OMG HAHAHAHAHHH
It really just kills me that even her separation announcement is pretentious. That’s all I’ve got.
Honestly, that’s all there really is… pretentiousness
I think folks are really reaching here. She always seemed to love London and the whole British scene, and moved to LA for work, just as he did, so this rings hollow. I think the next week before the tabloids hit will be a bunch of leaking from “friends, sources and whoever the hell else” from both of their groups who wants to talk and get their story out first before whatever bombshell hits and the mess becomes public.
The whole thing has Huvane’s prints all over it though. The whole “let’s vacation and look happy then lower the boom about our split” seems familiar.
I don’t buy that the family vacation is a publicity stunt. I actually think it’s not a bad idea to help get the kids used to the idea, far away from the media. It strikes me as a genuine commitment to
amicable co-parenting.
You know the paparazzi is on their way to Eleuthera right now, I’m sure!
Actually, when Howard Stern and Allison announced their split, which took a look time to come to the place of doing between them after trying to stay together, the family all went away together and hunkered down because the publicity was overwhelming and wanted to be away from it. He said at that time it did bring them closer because of just being bombarded with the publicity of it and handling it together.
Jen & Brad did it and Huvane is her press agent too.
I can’t get past the ‘conscious uncoupling’ idiocy. Can she not just say breaking up the way the rest of us do? So pretentious, so full of herself. Is she going to re-invent the wheel next?
Hey, breaking up is hard to do. 😉
Isn’t it interesting how establishing residency in LA allows her sue to for community property and primary custody of the kids? It isn’t that they moved to LA, and Chris wanted a divorce. She wanted a divorce, and so moved to LA to facilitate it. These 2 have had a marriage in name only for years. They cheat on each other incessantly. No one should be surprised by this.
I don’t know why they moved to LA but you could be right. This feels like there was some planning here and the problems existed long before the move to LA. It’s just easier to blame the move than address the dirty laundry, which honestly, I don’t blame them. I’m no fan of Goop but I am sorry for the split. I think there is a lot of fault on both sides. She’s pretentious but he really seems pissy too.
I wouldn’t want to live in the city where the people my spouse was purporting to have an affair were living either. Cannot blame him.
And all the ones he cheated on her with?
Oh yeah. Geez. They’re both gross.
I think they had an open marriage and she violated the agreement somehow. Maybe by sleeping with a married man. Because she has definitely had plenty of her own side pieces.
He just seems like a huge douche to me and I’m surprised she put up with him for this long. I know she seems like a pain, but he humiliated her a lot.
Agreed. He seemed to treat her very unkindly in public. By running away from her whenever they saw the paps. That is hardly loving.
How is running away from the *paps* unloving of her?
It’s arguably protective of their kids for him to do that. If he makes the photos the paps take less valuable, then fewer of those photos show up in the media.
The kids were not with him.
I think they are probably both huge annoying pain in the butts to live with so I’m surprised they lasted so long. I also think maybe their constant effort and energy into not being seen together took a toll. I can’t imagine trying to keep up a family life and marriage when half of the time you’re trying to plan where one parent is going to be so the other one won’t be seen with them and vice Vera. Yuck.
I just listened to the BBC report on their separation. The announcer Razia Iqbal was laughing at the term “conscious uncoupling”, and I think she nailed it for everyone.
I might be wrong, because it’s not like I follow these two closely — but doesn’t it seem like he never wanted to be a part of the Hollywood fame machine? I think that at first, when she moved to London, Gwyneth honestly thought she wanted to get away from it all, too. But as the years passed and she realized how irrelevant she was going to become if she didn’t put herself out there, she got antsy. She started Goop as a way to put her name in the spotlight again, Anderson-ed herself into rock hard shape, and started taking roles in action films and t.v. shows where she could wear short shorts and show off how fabulous she is. I think she loves the attention and the fame and can’t live without it; whereas Chris still doesn’t need to hit red carpets or sell products to feel successful/worthwhile, because he gets his fix standing in front of adoring crowds of fans when he’s on tour.
I know he just signed on to do The Voice so I’m not sure what that does to my theory. But I’ve just thought for a few years now that Gwyneth isn’t happy with the quieter London life, that she NEEDS more attention, and that’s why their marriage has had so many problems.
The move to LA is odd given her once upon a time “oh Americans just don’t read enough” or whatever it was but maybe that was trying to convince herself she was happy in London? The ‘for work’ idea has some merit. She’s a non-entity without Iron Man and as I understand it RDJ is doing Avengers 2 and 3 only and she’s likely not really needed for those.
Ugh, divorce is so off brand though! 😉
Up thread is a comment that speculates that the move to LA might’ve been for California divorce laws regarding equity and custody. Seems likely
Trust me a few years of dark days and 4 weeks summer will make anyone want to move me included… damn I should have married an Aussie.. 🙂
London must be terrible…. I can’t imagine myself living there EVAAARRRR…
And I live in UK, it speaks volumes (AG, we have summers here… Not like the Australian ones though, more like New Zealand…..)
Ditto. Feel your pain. Signed, A Texan in the UK.
We do have summers, I know we have summers, I distinctly remember one once 🙂
Does anyone remember a somewhat recent blind (last 6 months + ) that fit Gwyneth, Chris, Jay Z and Beyonce? IIRC, the blind mentions that the two husbands are friends and collaborators (Chris Martin and Jay Z), but that one of the married women (Gwyneth) was having an affair with her friend’s (Beyonce) husband (Jay Z). It fit at the time and I still think it does because it’s been a while since Gwyneth and Beyonce have hung out or appeared together. It was like their friendship ended. Then the Vanity Fair stuff happened. Makes me wonder if it’s Beyonce that’s leaking.
Oh and the blind also mentioned something about how this alleged affair between these two parties is very unconventional – I gotta say, to see Gwyneth and Jay Z in a coupling can be considered unusual.
I have always wondered if G and Jay may have hooked up at some point.
Okay so it’s not that recent but here it is. More than a year old. But pretty sure it’s been that long at least since Beyonce and Gwyneth have hung out.
http://blindgossip.com/?p=49864
The Straw-hair that broke Joe Camel’s back.
Don’t know if that’s true, but what is true is that Goop and Beyawnce are no longer friends.
I know. They went from hanging out all the time to nothing.
Maybe it was an unconscious coupling.
This would make some sense of Bey’s behaviour over the past few months…going way over the top with the sexed-up schtick… the many duo performances with Jay… and the soft p*rn videos, all to remind us they are a perfect couple who have amazing sex all the time and no anemic goopy blonde would ever be a threat here, no way.
Good point.
WOW my intuitions are different from all of yours! I assumed the cheating would go Chris-Bey. I can’t see Jay-Z being attracted to Gwyn at all, and it doesn’t seem to me like he’s the type of cheater (if he cheats) to ish where he eats. Not to mention that it would murder his brand to be know to have shtupped GOOP! Whereas it seems that Chris basically had something of a passive aggressive death wish for his marriage, was cheating indiscriminately everywhere, and if it came out that he was getting it in with Beyonce he’d look kinda cool.
Wild speculation aside, the reason why the relationship between the Carters and Gwyn has gone south is that they were Chris’s friends to begin with. Why would she remain close to them if she and Chris were clearly breaking up?
I just get the feeling that Beyonce has the upper hand and with Jay Z not boycotting Vanity Fair, it’s like they were saying to Goop, ‘We’re not going to listen to u, we’re doing what we want’
As for Chris Martin he seems to like his women thin and less powerful then him. Beyonce could stir Chris Martin into her breakfast smoothie. Goop seems the opposite, she likes them more powerful than her.
Well at least Goopy’s uncoupling has stolen Kimye’s Vogue thunder. (Kanye is at this very moment crying in his gold plated bowl of cheerios)
*evil Maleficent cackle*
+1
Yep it pretty much buried that story! Thanks Goop!
Goopy is always so considerated with us the lowly peassants. Thank you Dame Goop!
They fell out of love and want to move on. The end.
The main thing now is…What’s Ben Affleck’s next move?
I remember there was a blind gossip item a few years ago about a married A lister with kids who was waiting to learn the fate of another celeb couple who were on the rocks because if the woman from that relationship was suddenly free again, he wanted another crack at said female.
The main guesses for that blind were Goop and Chris, with Ben Affleck waiting in the wings.
And Lainey, oh so casually refers to Ben Affleck in her recap.
“Lots more to discuss re: my G throughout the day. Until then I leave you with some Gossip Nostalgia – Gwyneth and Ben Affleck who, by the way, was also born in the Year of the Rat.”
Thangs could get real interesting…
OH God I don’t think I could handle losing Goop/Martin and Benifer 2.0 all in the same year.
My gossip fevered brain would explode.
don’t ya just love lainey?
she’s got something to reveal with the ben affleck, another rat, post at the top of goop’s post today.
he seemed crushed and humiliated when things ended with goop.
he was obviously serious about her…anyone remember them on SNL?
he looked lovesick…
wow…would be something and truly sad smut if he bailed on JG for goop.
too many children involved.
The last person Ben would be pinning over is GOOP. That relationship always was up and down, off and on and ran its course, and that was back when Gwyneth was adorable and young and pretty, not the neurotic over food, obsessed with her stripper’s ass mid-life crisis, GOOPY 41-year-old she is now. Ben will be with a hot, younger actress if he and Jen every break up.
I agree. Too many kids involve.
Nah. I remember a blind that was posted that the male celeb (Ben) actually was caught cheating but the female celeb (Gwen) wanted to try counseling and was totally obsessed with him and would not leave him alone after they broke up.
There was a blind item she had posted that sounded like Ben Affleck bc he had a skiing accident earlier this year that was kept sort of hush hush…
here is Lainey’s Blind item from March 10:
“It’s hard to stay up. Every time he’s gone up, he’s always come back down. It was thought that that was only because he was young. And now, with children and a devoted wife, he was supposed to be able to hold it together. So far, sure, but just barely.
There were signs before Christmas but during the holidays, he injured his back on a ski trip. This was not widely disclosed and kept out of the press. Painkillers were prescribed. The big movie was pushed back. Cocktails were consumed in combination at events. No one remembers he actually went to rehab several years ago. Still, so far, he’s functioning. And things are great with his wife. She really tries to take care of him but she’s not always with him. When he’s out on his own, it gets messy. There have been times lately where he’s been so drunk, he’s the dude passed out on the couch when everyone else has gone home. Either that or he’s the dude who’s all over the tall, attractive model type at the Oscar party that his wife decided to skip. Oh yeah, that happened. It keeps happening. They were talking nose to nose. He gave her the full charm. A “later on” was definitely implied, while everyone around him just shrugged. Because it’s not the first time and it’s not the last time and it’s the secret they’re all expected to keep. Not because he doesn’t love the mother of his children, because he does, he really, really does. But between the pills and the alcohol, he’s losing control of that side of himself that’s been held in check for too long.”
I don’t think Gwyneth’s going near this.
I agree. He’s clearly having issues-NO way she’s getting with him. Plus she’s already disclosed that he was cheating on her -she’d look like an idiot and weak if she did that again.
Opiate painkillers are severely overprescribed in this country. The pill companies have gotten physicians to believe the lie that people in pain don’t become addicted to them. I don’t know how they’ve imagined this to work biochemically, but it is utter nonsense. I was prescribed Percocet after throwing out my back, and hey presto, I was addicted in under two weeks — and they did zilch for my back. They actually caused more pain than they helped. And I was a different person while struggling with the addiction.
These drugs very quickly rewrite the pathways in your brain. The medical establishment is basically shooting up a captive population with heroin. I do not like Ben Affleck, but in this case I feel nothing but sorrow for him. His doctors were utterly irresponsible in prescribing him this kind of drug. There are now more prescription opioid deaths in the U.S. than any other form of accidental death.
The group Physicians for Responsible Opioid Prescribing has an excellent site regarding this epidemic: http://www.supportprop.org/
She just dropped another hint in her Gwyneth post that Chris fell in love with some Fashion It Girl — theories about who that is?
YES! I want more on this!
Anyone ??!!!
I mentioned up thread that it still couldn’t be Bosworth, could it? And didn’t Lainey mention Alexa Chung in a Goop/Martin article yesterday.. or am I getting my gossip mixed up (I’m also too lazy to look it up!)
Seems like Lainey has A LOT up her sleeve about these two .. or three.. or four! Ha.
I want to know who the Fashion It Girl is, too. And what is with the Kate Hudson comment that Lainey made???
I’d say Alexa Chung too.
I think Liv nailed this with her link to instagram further upthread. It’s Alexa Chung. The Kate Hudson stuff is only because Kate is known for being a band groupie.
I am wondering if Kate H did hit up Chris and that’s the fashion it girl (Blonde) that Lainey is referring to. She is skinnier and younger than G right?
I also don’t think that is Ben Affleck in the blind. Lainey posted some new blind that seemed to refer to Jen G being high on pain pills and being happy with the attention she was getting from her spouse.
Here it is:
He recently had to pause on work obligations citing health reasons. But this superstar didn’t seem all that sick. That’s because the health reasons were related to his wife. She’s been keeping a surprisingly low profile the last few months. Which is unusual because, well, the wife is rather pap-friendly. The immediate speculation was pregnancy and bump-hiding. But there was no bump when she showed up at a major event so it definitely wasn’t pregnancy.
Apparently there’s a painkiller addiction going on. And that’s the reason he couldn’t make it that time. She had an episode and it was serious enough that he had to bail on work and help her out. Not a side of him we see very often – you know, putting her before him. Something she must have enjoyed, though probably for the wrong reasons. Still, she seems to be getting off on his attention. And that’s worrying for those around her too. She’s addicted to the pills and also addicted to his care.
I thought that was J. Biel… but I am soooooo bad at blinds! haha.
I thought that was about Biel/Timberlake.
THAT is VERY interesting. But I still think it’s Ben Affleck bc production on his film was pushed back too and the rehab reference…
But Jennifer Garner with a pill popping addiction? I’m skeptical, but that doesn’t mean I don’t believe it. A lot of pill poppers I know are pretty highly functional.
I really feel like there is something there on the kate hudson – chris martin front. maybe not the whole thing, but something…
I didn’t see Justin Timberlake just because he has no commitments that he would have to delay. Affleck had to push back start time for Superman Vs. Batman which would make more sense to me.
No this is definitely JT and Biel. The big event being the Oscars, where she had no baby bump even though she was rumored to be pregnant since she kinda disappeared for a bit there after being papped almost everyday walking her dogs. Plus JT canceled a concert or two concerts I believe and he cited health reasons. The Ben Affleck blind refers to him hurting his back while on a skiiing trip and now popping painkillers and drinking again, which leads to him constantly cheating on JGarner. That particular blind also talked about production having to be pushed back and the Batman Vs. Superman movie was indeed pushed back.
BlindGossip says IT IS Kate Hudson!
http://blindgossip.com/?p=58071#more-58071
I am just not seeing Kate Hudson, married to two other Brit rockers already with however many kids, being the one Chris got gooey eyed over enough to make the break with Gwyneth for good. The lyrics of that song Lainey mentioned do not sound like they are about a woman like that, they sound like they could be about a young single girl he could put on a pedestal to write pretty lyrics about, like he once did with Gwyneth. Unless Kate Hudson is some sort of real life Penny Lane? I just find her ordinary, not the manic pixie dream girl type Chris would think he was falling for. Just my opinion.
I can see the headline, “Gwyn calls Brad for support. Angie is jealous.”
OMG, someone (probably Star) will publish this for sure.
Actually, more like calls Brad’s mother. Paltrow was talking about her something fierce last year. Brad will not even say her name and he is known for not looking back, so I doubt they have any thing to say to each other. She pretty much burned that bridge to cinders.
Poor Jane Pitt. Damn. Every time her son breaks up with someone, she gets dragged into it. I guess that shows you how much of an influence she is on him.
She cheated on him. Brad was done with her after that. If she tried for anyone it would be for Brad. She interviewed a few years after the split had sad she was about breaking up and it was alluded to the fact she had done something to cause it.
They spent every summer in the Hamptons . She talked about it and there was always photos of them in the Hamptons during the summers. So it’s not like he didn’t give at all.
This isn’t what broke up the marriage. This was just the part that tipped it completely over. She probably moved because they weren’t happy, so why stay in England. He can come there if he wants to work on it but she’s staying . If she was crazy in love with him and the relationship was great, she wouldn’t divorce over where to live. The marriage was on the rocks. She was setting up her life one way or the other where she wanted to be.
She said they were at times separated living apart and at times living together during the period of a year, so obviously had gone back and forth on the marriage.
Just like Madonna, all those interviews Gwyneth gave about loving England and how this it was and that it was, better than America, blah, blah, and the minute the marriage is in trouble they bolt. I just wish they would be more honest while living there that they miss the USA.
Yeah, she was very snooty about living in London and being oh so much more sophisticated for a while there.
Either the California move was to try to shake things up and fix the marriage or to set up separate lives. Whatever the case, I feel bad for the kids – they grew up in London and all their friends are there, and now they’ve had to go through a BIG move and now a divorce.
I live In Canada now and as an American, I do complain about the US constantly now. There are some things I do miss about the US, but sadly the bad still outweigh the good. I would never move back unless I dated a celeb though (and let’s be honest I’d prefer someone British over American anyways). LOL I get why Madonna and GP got so excited about London, but I don’t get why they returned to the US. BTW, I am not a fan of either anymore (they both act like snobs in general) IMO.
Going on a vacation together, a gift and “concious uncoupling”? My split with my ex was the polar opposite. They are definitely different
I suspect GP’s desire to live in LA is because that is where her jumpoff is located.
So where did the Natalie Imbruglia/ Chris Martin rumor begin? I never heard of it until yesterday. I had heard the rumors regarding Kate Bosworth though.
I’m not Gwyneth fan but I never got the hate. Her breakup makes me sad. All breakups are sad.
My job is going to break up with me if I stay on this story another minute. 😛
As long as they weren’t abusive or terrible, I guess they’re sad. Sometimes people just outgrow each other.
Yeah, some breakups are completely happy things. And even the ones where no one did anything wrong but the relationship didn’t work aren’t sad in the long run. It’s tough to go through at the time, but that’s all. I thought my first breakup was destroying me utterly, and now I cringe when I think about being with him.
When Chris Martin did the Howard Stern show a few months back, he pretty much said that he was living separately. He mentioned that he has his own house right next door to Gwynnie and the kids because he needed peace and quiet to write music. That struck me as kind of a dick move but he seems like a very closed-off, solitary person who likes things his way. Probably something that Gwynnie should have thought about before having children with him and moving her entire life to a different country…. but, hey, 10 years is no slouch.
I wouldn’t worry too much about the kids – something tells me they’re used to being separated from their dad quite a bit already. Also, don’t forget that Gwynnie’s family is all in LA so they’ll be around grandma, uncle Jake, cousins, etc.
No judgement on that… Tim Burton and Helena Bonham Carter also have a similar non-conventional set up. Some people sleep in separate bedrooms. Some folks are inseparable in both work and play.
Each to their own.
Maybe that was his way of saying they were separated. It’s one thing to have a space to go to for peace and quiet and to write music. Most successful musicians build themselves a free-standing studio on property on even build out a studio in another space not far from their apartment if like in New York or a big city to go to. But that is far different than living in a separate residence. He never lived separate from his family in England. If he told Howard he lived in a separate residence then that’s is different than their life before. But maybe you took it wrong. Maybe he bought the property next door to turn it into his studio and a place to go to have peace and quiet for writing his music and setting up all the instruments and recording equipment, etc. That would be normal for the leader and principal songwriter and singer of a band. Dave Gahan bought another apartment in his apartment building in New York on a different floor and built it out into a recording studio and that’s where he would go to write, record, etc. Roland Orzabal had a separate studio he built that looked like a little home at the edge of his estate in England with many rooms and where he went to write and work and his musicians to colloborate to get away from his kids and work.
Like we didn’t see this coming. Chris lost street credibility when he married her.
“Street cred”? He was in Coldplay, no? Did they have street cred?!
Elmo and a stuffed walrus could start a group and they’d have more street cred than Coldplay.
I got a chuckle from the header photo because Gwyneth looks unmistakeably like Chris in this photo – interesting how much their faces look alike.
Yes. Both ugly.
I can’t wait for her to pull an Aniston interview – crying and all depressed while making the ex husband the bad guy and get all the sympathy.
Well, she won’t be crying to Vanity Fair… or was that the deal she struck to get their “Goop tell all” story scrapped? Hmmmm..
Ooh!!
I have to laugh whenever I read a comment from a divorcing couple that reads something to the effect of “we still love and remain committed to each other, however, we have reached a mutual decision that we cannot continue as a couple”. Well, what part of love and commitment do you not understand? A statement like that just makes it seem like they are trying to prevent negative comments about them. “Oh, how sad that two people in love cannot make it work. Please, spare me.
This. If you still like each other as much as you’re saying then why not stay together? Oh, because you’re going through side pieces like a 7 year old on Mountain Dew goes through Happy Meals. Got it.
I’ve seen 1 couple with kids remain civil after it was over. Just civil. Not BFF sleep over. But we plebs who can’t understand their cosmic HFCS free love so whatever.
If the location is the issue, then it sounds like it’s G’s fault. Since she’s been telling C that she would live in London, & if the agreement was that after the school year, they’d move back to London, & now she’s changed her mind, then that’s on her.
They’re filing that show (The Voice? One of the American Idol knock offs) in LA so maybe they moved for that.
Well GP and her publicist Huvane managed this for max PR for her. That man is worth all the many $$$$$$$ his clients pay him. Wonder if this breakup will be spun for years and years as he has done with another one of his clients. I doubt this tired scenario will happen as I see GP with another main man in her life ASAP and Chris with a younger main female in his.
Sadly must say this is not such a surprise. GP is now in her 40’s and her career is not what she wanted. Chis is younger and his career is the hotter one. This makes for an unhappy relationship if neither/either one cannot cede to and accept the shifting tides life throws at all of us and roll with what is.
Very sorry for the kids caught in this messy situation but not for either adult. If something is broken it is broken. Think they did try but could not retreat and manage to repair what was needed to stay together. Probably better for the kids and themselves to split than to continue living in a miserable household.
It leaves such a bad taste in my mouth that she made this announcement via GOOP, promoting her lifestyle website at the same time. Seems like such a Kardashian thing to do – use a family tragedy to do some brand promoting.
And as awful as this is for these children, I do feel that both will genuinely try to make this transition as easy as they can for them. I can’t deny that they both seem like caring parents.
I just caught her on Glee singing “Party All the Time”. She is not sexy at all. She looks lovely when she is still. Trying to dance all sezzy is an epic fail for her. And if those sexy facial expressions are what she does in bed I am totally understanding of her husband straying. BTW he is amazingly unattractive and Coldplay sucks.
Yay, like many of my friends who know them commented on site with lots of details said there was trouble in paradise for years. She is awful – he terrific! BTW, my friends all quit site because of one or two haters here, which is too bad since rest of you so nice and witty and great! So on my friends (and my behalf – not haters at all, not liars, etc) to you couple bullies out there. Tried to get my friend (Dorothy – not the current Dorothy -hi current Dorothy 🙂 but the one before to give you guys the info on how it FINALLY happened but she just won’t because of one meanie on here…sorry guys BUT know that he and kids are happier already!!!!!!!!!!!!! And all you hear in media is her PR angles. He agreed to that and could care less to end this sham of marriage with this fraud that he has suffered through for years since they really ended. (And he would NOT go along with 10 year vow renewal for her PR in exchange per her demands gladly agreed to give her massive $$$$ since she used kids to make sure she got tons sue to 10 year divorce laws, as he is huge money maker since marriage) to be well rid of her.
anne –
Thanks for your insight. Please ask Dorothy to come back. I, for one, miss her here. Her words about Goopy always seemed to ring true to me. Of course, I have no idea what Chris and Goop are really like, but G always seemed like a troubled, eating-disordered, narcissictic, prima donna and Chris seemed like he actually cared about other people (at least insofar as any celebrity actually thinks about others). I always wondered why this guy who lent his voice to issues about poverty, fair trade and human rights would marry this self-centered woman. She shills massively overpriced sweatshop-made goods and certainly does not need to be shilling ANYTHING at all, with all her wealth already. But, I guess when you meet someone attractive and you are only in your 20s, sometimes your other organs work better than your brain at that time . (Unconscious coupling, maybe?) Anyway, I’d love to hear more of the truth about this, because CLEARLY all we have heard is Gwynnie trying her uneducated best to spin the circumstances the way she desires to paint herself in a perfect light, as always.
Meh. I think they had an open relationship, and like a lot of open relationships it fell apart in a dramatic fashion. I do think open relationships can work, but that it is probably very hard to make them work and even harder when the people are older and have kids. I’m more curious to see who Goopy moves on with….I’m predicting a power player or a younger man.
Interesting, never considered the open relationship angle, but it IS possible. Definitely would be a reason why it did not work out ultimately…
Maybe, but an open marriage in a public relationship that is pretending to be a monogamous relationship? It just seems like such a stupid idea. Add kids and it becomes damaging. Maybe it was a loop of cheating to get back at the other for being cheated on, and on and on it went.
Whoever she ends up with will have to like a high maintenance woman, and be really rich.
@Pru
Do you really think Gwynnie would admit to an open relationship though? Few stars would. There is a lot of stigma around that…..and when it comes to a WASPY queen I just don’t see her admitting it because it’s not in line with her “image.” My theory is they had issues for a while and decided to be open for a period of time (when the cheating rumors were rampant to the point actual music journalists, and not just tabloids, were referring to Chris wandering) and it just backfired. Chris apparently barely dated before he met Gwyneth and he was on the road and I wonder if he “badgered” her into agreeing to an open thing—which may have caused resentment. Then they kept trying to “one up” each other and it spiraled. JMO.
No, I think she’d deny it was an open relationship until her dying day. I just think it would be stupid of her (or anyone in the public eye) to agree to one when the damage it could do to the image would be catastrophic, badgered or not. Cheating rumors can cause so many problems, like you said. One VM or text in the wrong hands, and her career is ruined.
Even open marriages require mutual respect and emotional support, which might not have been there in the end…
hmm, Gwyneth and Chris.
I’ve been puzzling about this since the announcement. In many way this was not unexpected and yet rather shocking in others.
It was expected imo because of how they got together. Paltrow had two failed high-profile relationships (Pitt and Affleck) and she and Chris met shortly after her father’s death. We know Gwyneth was devastated by Bruce Paltrow’s passing and I don’t think it’s impact can be overestimated.
She and Chris seemed mismatched from the start but whatever, sometimes odd pairings work. But it was not just personalities. Paltrow was high-maintenance and hitting her stride in Hollywood. Chris was up-and-coming, kind of geeky and from his comments, not entirely confident. They were not together that long before she was pregnant with Apple and then they got married. I mean, let’s face it, Paltrow had a shotgun wedding. I remember thinking that I was surprised and oddly disappointed by it. Not being judgemental but I expected something so much more elaborate from her, epecially given how she carried herself and the airs she put on. I often wonder whether Chris and Paltrow would have remained together/married had she not gotten pregnant.
Anyway, my doubts kind of subsided because I figured Paltrow was going to make it work no matter what. Yes there were the infidelity rumors regarding both Chris and Gwyneth but again, Paltrow seemed like Denzel W. and SJP, kind of accepting of their situation but determined to remain married regardless. When Blythe defended them against the rumors some years ago, I Paltrow made a few revealing comments in interviews I figured my suspicions were true. So the question is why now? What is different?
As some of you have speculated, it’s likely either one or both have someone waiting in the wings and the current situation is no longer acceptable. My money is on Paltrow. I mean even the announcement on her site – on a Tuesday – benefits her. Huvane did not release that statement, Paltrow did on Goop. Her site, her business is getting all those hits. Yeah it crashed but still. Who are people talking about? Hell, even that Kimye vogue cover is practically forgotten. It’s all about Paltrow.
Vanity Fair may have stumbled upon something and threatened to go public, who knows, maybe that is forcing their hands as well, but in the end Paltrow is in control of the narrative.
But I am curious, do they have to file for divorce in CA or can they file in London? Also, do they have a prenup? If it must be CA and there is no prenup, this just got interesting. I think a CA divorce settlement would be very different than one in London. IMO, I think this was Paltrow’s plan (or back-up plan rather) all along. Clearly their marital problems are complex and are not recent. The statement says they’ve been working on it for more than a year. I am not saying that she did not want to save the marriage but likely Paltrow was also thinking ahead and took a pre-emptive strike. Think of their assets – property, her film royalties, his music royalties, etc. In addition to being closer to her family, I think that Paltrow encouraged Chris to move to CA this past year because she knows after 10 yrs of marriage, if their efforts failed and resulted in a divorce, then she would be in a good position to file in CA.
well played Gwyneth, well played.
Everything you just said.
I believe the rumor that they broke up in 2011 and then got back together for some unknown reason (maybe Goop was preggers and later lost the baby?). I think they did try. He tried. He tried to be more affectionate in public like that big public kiss at that concert. I think it was always him that didn’t want to walk red carpets together because she always did before with Brad and Ben.
Anyway it didn’t work so they just continued leading seperate lives. Like you say, 1 or both probs has a jump off which became serious. I think it’s him.
Two great points you made: she’s controlling the narative here and she probably moved to LA to prepare the divorce (the laws are kinder on wives I think). While everyone thinks of her as higher status I actually think he makes more money.
Their relationship may have been spotty, but I think Gwyneth was really into him in her way. Also, he wrote several songs for her, including one to lift her spirits regarding her inability to get over her dad’s death. I’m also not feeling the announcement as being super pretentious. I imagine ‘conscious uncoupling’ is something a couple’s therapist said to them at some point. The more she regurgitates things a specialist told her, the more I kind of pity her for never being able to make her own decisions without outside influence. At this point in their lives, they’re young enough to try and find other partners, and their kids are old enough to weather the separation.
Also I wonder why she decided to announce it on her website instead of a publicist. Its a very obvios way of free publicity and a bit contrived: her anouncment and then the mumbo jumbo comentary of “experts” about counscious uncoupling generated a lot of free publicity on her website, it even crashed yesterday. And now gazillion articles all over the web are quoting it and mentioning the goop site.
My husband said he read a comment that they separated (uncoupled) siting
“insufferable similarities.”
Hahaha. Wish I could credit the blogger.
I’m sure the Goop camp would rather home base issues be the cause of the split rather than her (alleged) affairs.
Goop and Chris split because Chris Martin has been dating Kate Hudson.
Big scoop.
I get the impression that they have been separated for a considerable amount of time before they broke the news publicly. Though I am usually never one to be impressed by Goop, I do believe that if I am right, she and Chris made a wise move. It’s far better to have everything settled and planned in terms of divorce so that the mess that usually arises as people separate is not unfolding under the microscope of the media ect; and, therefore, their kids do not have endure their parents issues or fights being made public. On another note, I’m naughtily curious to learn what specifically lead the end of their marriage. I wonder if the whispers of affairs have any validity? Hmm…
I loved Gwyneth in the 90s and early 2000s. Until she married Chris. Then she just got weird. She used to be cool, and then she became all macrobiotic/detox cleanse/ lifestyle guru/preachy pretentious tw-t. I think Chris cheated first and many times, and then she finally did, and now here they are. Maybe she’ll loosen up again now that they’ve split.
It was a very smart move to announce it on her website. Brilliant! She’s a good business woman which is why I will never I understand why she associates with that shady troll, Tracy Anderson.
They’re both huge, high-profile people whose careers often take first place. I’m sure that the celebrity lifestyle and transcontinental living situation must be hard. I’m also sure that both have large egos that rub up against each other along with alleged indiscretions, either allowed or not allowed. Fame and massive wealth creates a sick way to live – you kind of lose perspective on what’s important in your life. For Goop it seems to be an obsession with having the best, most expensive of everything which equates to an emotional emptiness in her life. For Martin, maybe he’s not into the elegant Goop lifestyle of $500 detoxes, 2 hour workouts, coconut oil pulling and self-absorption. He just wants to make music.
Yeah that sounds like a problem everybody can relate to. Deciding which part of the world to live in and which multimillion dollar mansion to buy. Its not like there is a global recession or anything with people out of/ underemployed for a decade.
#richpeopleproblems