I’m pretty sure that In Touch Weekly was right when they claimed, last month, that Portia de Rossi had entered rehab in Malibu following months (years?) of marriage problems with Ellen DeGeneres. One of you said it so perfectly, I have to jack the comment: “Ellen seems to always have relationships with women who are troubled.” (Thanks GiGi.) That’s it in a nutshell. I think Portia had demons before she even met Ellen and they worked through some stuff together, but their relationship is probably not healthy at all. Ellen likes women who are DRAMA. Portia is a lot of drama. They’re both to blame. Anyway, this week’s issue of In Touch Weekly says that Ellen and Portia are trying couples therapy… after Ellen maybe had an affair?
Sources tell the new issue of In Touch that Portia de Rossi believes wife Ellen DeGeneres cheated before her rehab stay and that the couple are now in therapy.
Portia thinks “she had an affair with one of their mutual friends right before Portia’s rehab stint in May,” an insider exclusively tells In Touch, on stands now.
But Ellen insists she doesn’t want to give up on their marriage, the insider alleges, so she agreed to go to couples therapy years ago.
“It’s going to take a lot for Portia to trust Ellen again,” the source tells In Touch. “They kept up with the therapy after Portia got out of rehab, but they still have a long way to go.”
In Touch broke the story of Portia’s secret 30-day rehab stay at Passages Malibu earlier in July.
Drama. I’m telling you. Both of them are feeding on it. It’s emotionally symbiotic but profoundly unhealthy. I have to wonder about the politics of this as well – Ellen DeGeneres is seen as America’s Lesbian Friend, a groundbreaker for so many in the LGBT community, someone with enormous crossover clout (like Neil Patrick Harris, who can basically do no wrong). Ellen’s image would take a hit if A) everyone thought she cheated on her wife or B) if she and Portia split. Then again, it does prove what marriage-equality proponents have always said: gay marriage is just the same as hetero marriage. Same issues, same troubles, same unhealthy patterns.
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Radar and a few other sites are saying Portia secretly recorded some of their fights as a sort of insurance policy. If these stories are already leaking, it’s gonna get uuuuuggggly.
Yes, and the inference of Ellen not being quite as nice as her public persona is being put out there with it. Things are going to get nasty very quick I think.
::excitedly grabs popcorn::
Rumor is Ellen cheated on her ex ( the woman that is now married to Jodie foster) when she got with Portia. Portia cheated on her ex with Ellen.
What goes around comes around.
I was thinking the same thing…they both cheated on their partners to get together….where’s the surprise, Portia??
Yep. I thought Alexandra handled her break up with Ellen like a champ. Granted she is not a huge star, but she didn’t get all Tammy Lynn Michaels on Ellen either, just quietly moved on with her life.
Alexandra Hedison is David Hedison’s (actor- look him up you will recognize his face) daughter and she has a photography business. So she was self sufficient, unlike Tammy Lynn who pretty much gave up her career. Plus there were no children involved.
I was about to same the same thing. Ellen seems notorious for cheating on her girlfriends, she’s never satisfied. I think her house flipping actually reflects this. Behind the scenes I think she’s a controlling mean freak just like Rosie is. We just haven’t seen her have a public meltdown yet.
ITA
Ellen looks really rough in the candid photos.
I’ve noticed that a number of times, yet she always looks soft and pretty on her show.
Hup Hup! Thanks for the mention 😉
It is true though. I think this is a perfectly symbiotic relationship. My BIL is a lot like Ellen. He has a martyr & rescuer complex so he always chooses to be with hot messes. Because then he can fix them and be the hero. Everyone gets something out of a relationship like this, but it’s obviously not healthy! I see Ellen and Portia just the same way.
Not that Dr. Phil should be the source for anything, but I once heard him say that the reason people continue in a behaviour is because they are getting something out of it… even destructive behaviours have their own reward. It’s all too much for me.
People are attracted to each other for a reason, especially if they have underlying issues. Ellen and Portia are probably in a co dependent relationship, in that they enable each other.
This cycle can only be broken by getting therapy, and even then it is a long road which will last your entire life. Therapy will help with identifying why you look for the same things in partners over and over again. Once therapy starts to change things, then so does the type of person they will look for in a partner.
ITA. My ex and I went to therapy, and one month into it, I realized what was really going on and moved out the following weekend. I hate wasting time and money.
Having been the person people on the outside called the ‘hot mess’ in that equation, and being told at the breakup table that we were together because he ‘thought he could save me’, I find the other half to the equation just as delusional. It did allow me to be single for years and figure out my own stuff and find someone who respected me and loved me for myself, and the ex ended up marrying someone who was looking to be saved — they’re pretty happy. I think there is more to it than just niche descriptions of personality. I also think that in Hollywood, there is no such thing as a healthy relationship.
I have to agree with you. It seems like healthy relationships can’t truly exist in Hollywood. If they can, it is extremely rare.
Portia “thinks she had an affair with one of their mutual friends” that statement alone is like blood in the water to the tabloid sharks. TMZ, Radar, etc are going to do some major digging to find out who this person is.
I’ve just lost all my like for Ellen over the years. There were times I’d be watching her show, and she’d just come off as really mean. For no reason. Then, there’s been a lot of stories about how she treats her staffers. There’s no way that she’s as easy breezy as she puts herself out to be. She wouldn’t have been able to create the career she created by being that way. I just really tend to think that she’s a lot more grumpy/controlling than she wants people to think.
I feel the same way. I tried to like her, but then saw her show when she had Vin Diesel on. She was just rude and mean to him. He took it like a pro.
It always bothers me that when Ellen has her arm around Portia, she also has to have her hand on Portia’s stomach, or holding her other hand, what have you.
Maybe it’s because I am not a PDA type, but it always screamed “holding on for dear life” to me.
Think Ellen is incredibly, naturally witty, but I rarely watch her show anymore.
As far as the meanness, I don’t know…but the childish games she loves to play, i.e., trying to scare her guests, seem silly and a bit sadistic.
I’ve only seen her show a couple times (and pretty much only bits of it) but I really, really don’t like her “pranks.” I went through a very hard time following a series of life tragedies and all I can say is this: you never know if someone is truly struggling to present a calm face to the world. Being (so-called) pranked on a television show if you are one of those people could really do some damage.
So what if Ellen intends to be funny? Well, the classic proverb still applies: the boys throw stones at the frogs in jest, but the frogs die in earnest.
She may think she is funny but one day she may really hurt someone…maybe she already has but the person hid it well enough.
“Then, there’s been a lot of stories about how she treats her staffers….”
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I once read a comment from Kathy Griffin, about this being true. That before she did Ellen’s show, she was a huge fan. That was until Kathy was back stage waiting to go out… and saw how nasty Ellen was to the workers.
Hmmm, I totally believe Kathy Griffin. She seems honest and has been in the biz for a long time, just like Ellen. Off topic, but still heartbroken about her divorce since they seemed so genuine
I’m so glad to know I’m not the only one who has thought this (about how mean she sometimes comes across on her show).
On a superficial note, can we please talk about Portia’s ABSOLUTELY AWFUL shoes?!!!!?? Someone needs to call LeAnn Rimes and tell her she has competition in the Awful Shoe Game.
Thank you! Those shoes are ghastly.
I signed on to say WHAT ARE THOSE SHOES??
I dunno, but all I know is That Portia is so damn beautiful. I’m currently watching Ally McBeal and she was awesome in that.
I read portia’s book and she comes across as someone who is very emotionally unstable…like those people who need attention all the time and if you don’t give it to them they act out because they feel you don’t love them anymore etc. I don’t know the proper word for that but we all know someone like that in our lives that is just draining.
Plus Ellen does seem like a Type A control freak based off multiple stories about working with her so….they have their work cut out for them.
Remember when Ellen was with Anne Heche? That was one for the books.
I see some similarities btw Ellen and Johnny Carson. Enormously popular with the public, extremely charismatic, funny, and fun (Her games on the show are quite silly), but not good to the people in their private lives.
What in multi-colored corrective sandal hell is Portia wearing?!
Lol! So wrong!!!
When Portia was on Ellen’s show, she talked about her battle with Anorexia and how insecure and ugly she felt. Ellen cried and said she had no idea she went through that and how much it hurt her to know she felt that bad about herself. I have always found that odd because most of us know our partner’s fears and insecurities. I don’t beleive Ellen did not know Portia has deep-seated insecurities. There are many blinds pointing to Ellen’s methods and abusiveness toward her staff. Although I know little things can be blown out of proportion, I also think where there’s smoke, there’s fire. Ellen is a force to be reckoned with because she own alot of Hollywood now. I wouldn’t want to taker her on. If Portia is building up to a break away, she probably is stockpiling evidence of abuse and protecting herself anyway she can. I, for one, do not think Ellen is the sweet-natured person her fans beleive her to be. I think she is generous because she can afford to be and it pays off more than she is paying out.
Lastly, what’s up with Portia’s eyebrows? They always look arched up to her hair.
Good points.
I believe this is a co-dependant relationship. And I’m not even so sure who’s the one with the less self-confidence. Portia comes across as highly emotional- but at least she does have emotions, or aires them! Ellen seems to be emotionally very reserved.The way she speaks during her show is quite sharp, and there is a certain lack of empathy. I personally cannot find it funny. Ellen also seems to be sort of possessive…I think Portia might be better off without Ellen.