Neil Patrick Harris Instagram’d this ^^ photo late last week with the message: “I couldn’t be more in love with my family. Any reports to the contrary are woefully mistaken.” That’s NPH’s partner David Burtka and their two children, Harper Grace and Gideon Scott.
The “reports” Neil is referencing came from the most recent issue of the National Enquirer. I came very close to writing up the story last week, just because the Enquirer was surprisingly detailed about the problems Neil and David are having. Neil has been keeping rough hours while doing Hedwig and the Angry Inch. Sources claimed that Neil goes out partying after every show and that both David and Neil could be fooling around with other people. I didn’t want to believe the story, so I guess I don’t have to. David and Neil are fine. Or are they?!!? I don’t know. I think they love each other and they love their family life, but if I had to put money on anything, I think David isn’t content to merely be defined as NPH’s partner and house-husband.
Also a factor? NPH has been killing himself for Hedwig. He’s lost a lot of weight and everyone says he’s busting his ass every single night. Thankfully, today is his last performance. He and David need to take a vacation and reconnect, I think. And Neil really needs to get back to his normal weight.
Photos courtesy of WENN, NPH’s IG.
If David truly is feeling sourgrapes because of Neil’s career, then its only going to get worse since there is early oscar buzz for Neil in Gone Girl.
I’m giving a side-eye to this simply because I’ve seen NPH as Hedwig (amazing) and this guy leaves it ALL on that stage. I can’t imagine at the end of a performance he’d have much enegry to do anything, much less party.
My daughter and I waited stage door to meet him and he was very sweet – but he looked exhausted.
I thought the top photo was Slade Smiley and then I remembered…. lol.
I really hope that they stick it out. I love them together and I really love their family. Also, I hope Neil gains weight soon, he looks sick.
I was going to ask if he is sick. Thankfully some of you know what is happening in his life.
If he says they are fine – I believe him.
Also saw him as Hedwig and just the sheer physicality is amazing. You see quite a lot of his body and he looked all muscle. Nowhere near as diminished as the tv/pictures make him look. Not that he was fat. Or had weight to lose. His body has just changed.
That picture is incredibly sweet.Every relationship sometime get strained. I hope they can reconnect and make it through if the National Enquirer piece is true.
If I had to guess, I’d say that the show alone is causing them some stress (with or without partying, the schedule would be enough to cause troubles for people with young kids) but that they’re committed to working it out.
Maybe they are fooling around with people on the side, but if it’s an open relationship they don’t have a problem with that? In the end there’s lots of stuff we don’t know about celebrities.
Omg… Yes. Neil needs a solid 20lbs, but I like my men a bit beefy. I hope the rumours aren’t true, but sadly I think there is trouble. I saw an Oprah interview with them at their home and noticed that every time there was focus on David, or he interjected to speak, Neil would have this look on his face like, she’s here for me, not you. I really got the feeling Neil needs a lot of praise and doesn’t like David getting attention. He is the star of the family. Just the feeling I got…
Is it me, or does NPH not look entirely well in those photos? I hope he is okay.
Me, too, and no, it’s not just you. He looks ill.
Very pale and gaunt. It looks like more than just working his ass off. I hope he is not sick, or if so, that he recovers.
I thought he dropped weight for the play?
I don’t know, Abbott, maybe. Perhaps just being below his normal weight has had health consequences altering homeostasis. Or maybe I am just seeing illness where there is none.
I hope it is just for the play and there aren’t any other reasons. It would be such a shame.
He apparently lost 22 lbs for the role. But this article is from May. That seems like a really long time to be that emaciated? (I just ate a hot pretzel for breakfast so what do I know)
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2621781/Neil-Patrick-Harris-says-hes-lost-22lbs-crediting-skinny-figure-cardio-workouts-not-eating-late.html
Neil definitely looks too skinny and exhausted, hopefully once the show ends he’ll get some rest! I really love them together and hope the rumors aren’t true, such a cute couple with adorable children. I think Neil is so incredibly talented and has a long career ahead, can’t wait to see what’s next for him.
I’d imagine it’s hard to be married to an actor no matter what, but especially someone doing such a grueling performance 8xs a week. Tabloids have been claiming they’re splitting up for years now, and it hasn’t happened.
They seem to be a very sweet, loving family, and I wish them the best.
A lovely fall getaway for a month in the Berkshires is in order!
NPH has been working non-stop since his last tv-show began the recording of last season, so he began directly to prepare for Broadway. This has resulted in almost no time for family. He has admitted that he almost did not see the children as he did Hedwig, saw them barely in the morning before starting the day with all agreements, exercise, physical therapy, voice lessons, spokesperson for heniken, made ads, etc.
One of the reasons they moved back to New York was that his hubby could go back on stage. We have not heard anything more about it after it was announced that he was going to do Hedwig. Because one of them has to stay home with the kids. NPH is seen around town atfer he has doing shows.
He needs attention all the time. So he is very focused on himself and his career. Oppførselsen his has changed, it seems like he has some midlife crisis. He must either choose to put family first, or careers. So we see what he chooses?
Hopefully they choose to spend time together for a while, to get the relationship back on track. that a relationship should work needed nourishment. It takes energy from both parties. It’s sad when a relationship that has lasted over a decade would end, usually they look so happy out. In hollyood a decade a lietime.
So I guess both are pretty worn NPH after all the hard work is certainly tired, impatient and exhausted when he’s home and his hubby to be responsible for everything with the move, having responsibility for twins without help from NPH etc . We know that it is easy to smile and appear friendly to strangers, while there are those we love who will feel and see all of our bad sides.
I hope and believe that if they take a little time, make an effort, they will get through this crisis too. I rooting for them.
I see that he never does deny break up rumors. He says he couldn’t be more in love with his family and that any reports to the contrary (to him being so in love with his family) are woefully mistaken. Even if they are split he still couldn’t be more in love with his family.
Does anyone know the status of their relationship with Burtka’s other 2 children? (With former partner Lane Janger) He has a girl and boy around 11. The then-couple had the twins via a surrogate mother in 2000 but broke up 4 years later and then some tabloid claims were made that David rarely ever sees the kids, even though they all live in LA. Earlier reports (when DB and NPH got together) mentioned the kids and said that they saw them and took them to places like Disneyland and that NPH enjoyed being a stepparent. But while they are frequently seen with their own twins, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a photo (personal/Instagram or paparazzi) of them and all 4 kids. I had never thought about DB one way or the other (though I like NPH) but I remember that tabloid story and I’ve never really been able to look at him without thinking ‘Is he a golddigger who left his partner and kids for a bigger catch and now has his own ‘ATM babies?’. I just feel that, if he was a female and they were a heterosexual couple, that’s how this angle may be portrayed. I hope it’s not though and that the 4 kids have a chance to bond as siblings and that he still sees his other children.
Judgmental without knowing the situation. Both NPH and David have repeatedly talked about the situation. How many times do they have to do that? They still have regular contact, David is like a special uncle for them (see his twitter). They were just to visit NPH and David in NY where they live..
It is Lane’s kids, not David. Lane began the surrogacy process before David and him became a couple. David had not any legal rights to the kids. He was not on the birth certificate, not on the surogacy contract etc. Lane had the kids as a single man, but he where together with David. He helped Lane to raise them when they were together. Two of the four years they where a couple did David live in NY and did work at Broadway. At that time Lane and the kids lived in LA. What do you think David should have done? (Still In 2014 LGBT people in many states have very few rights) This is 14 years ago and LGBT rights was almost zero. Both David and Lane have done what I hope more couples who are together with people with kids, they maintained contact, How many people do that after a break up where one of them had kids? not many in my experience.
They are friends and David see them regularly. Last year both David and NPH was at the kids Bat/Bar Mitzvah. David was even in the video Lane made for his kids Bat/Bar Mitzvah, becuae he is an importen part for their life. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rvPwlZ9z4XY
NPH and David got together in early 2004, NPH was only a former child star, did broadway show at the same time as David. NPH was not rich, famous , he was a former childstar who did struggle to get a break through as an adult . This was before NPH was a household name, before HIMYM, before Harold and Kumar came out.
That Lane, David, NPH has agreed to not put Lanes kids in the spotlight. It is their decision and rights to choose. Gideon and Harper are both NPH and David kids, both are on the birth certificate, the surrogate contracts, legal documents, and is both NPH of David’s kids equality. (NPH did talk about that too in a video)
If Lane had been an asshole , he could have chose / decided that David would never have seen the kids again, after they did break up. Thankfully they managed to behave as grow up and put the kids needs first, and understand that although Lane and David where no longer a couple, the kids still loved David and vice versa. I think they all have handled the situation incredibly well. So it’s annoying when people just judge David, when they all deserve a lot of credit.
Do you believe everything that is written in tabloids?