As we discussed yesterday, Angie Harmon and Jason Sehorn are over. They were married for 13 years, although the past four or five years have been particularly rough on them. Basically, they’ve been on the rocks ever since Angie signed on to Rizzoli & Isles, which films in LA, but then refused to move her family to LA from North Carolina. Harmon is a vocal conservative and she was often critical of the lack of family values (or whatever) in LA, which is why she worked in LA for seven months a year while Jason Sehorn raised their three daughters in North Carolina. As you can imagine, this issue has come out in the post-split analysis.
Another Hollywood heartbreak. After 13 years of marriage, Angie Harmon and Jason Sehorn announced they were calling it quits this past weekend. A source close to the actress tells Us Weekly that the split was actually a while in the making.
“A large part of it is when you spend five or six months a year away from your spouse, it gets really tough,” the insider tells Us of the pair, parents to daughters Finley, 11, Avery, 9, and Emery, 5.
The Rizzoli & Isles actress, 42, and Sehorn got accustomed to that distance. “In the beginning, they really missed each other,” the source recalls, “but then they got into a groove where one person took over the main responsibilities of parenting while the other was working.”
Harmon chose to raise their children in North Carolina, even while she had to film her TNT series in Hollywood. “She didn’t want them growing up in Hollywood and being exposed to the fast-paced life,” the insider tells Us, adding that it was the “greatest thing” she could have done for her children.
Ultimately, however, that distance for Harmon and the former NFL star, 43 — who stayed mostly at home with the kids — created tension. “The dynamic of the relationship changed,” the source tells Us. “Things were brewing.”
Still, the insider insists there was no cheating or other betrayal involved in the couple’s decision to separate. “They’re good, devout Christian people,” the source tells Us. “The split wasn’t shocking to their close friends.”
Harmon’s rep confirmed to Us Weekly that the two were “amicably” separating on Monday. “For the sake of their children, they ask for respect & privacy as they navigate this time in their lives,” the rep added.
I’m trying not to get too judgy and wallow in my schadenfreude, but O RLY?!?! I’m guessing that the best thing for those three little girls would have been having two “good, devout Christian” parents who were there for them every day, even if it was in modern-day Gomorrah/Los Angeles. And now those little girls get to be pawns in their good, Christian parents’ divorce and custody battle. Because everyone involved is so good and devout and Christian. To me, this is just throwing the baby out with bathwater – this marriage literally failed because Harmon is so much of a conservative wingnut, she didn’t want to raise her kids in “liberal” LA for five years so she barely saw her kids for like six months at a time.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
“And now those little girls get to be pawns in their good, Christian parents’ divorce and custody battle. Because everyone involved is so good and devout and Christian. ”
BOOM. So much this.
Is there already a custody battle going on?
It would seem that Angie would want to be consulted for important matters but I think Jason would get sole physical custody since that is what the children are used to.
I doubt there is a custody battle. The choices that Angie made do not say Full-Time Parent.
I can’t imagine that Angie actually wants to parent her children everyday; I think this is maybe her way out of being a full-time parent. Just a guess based on her choices so far.
I’m gonna guess she might ask for some holidays, and maybe summers. I don’t think there will be a knock-down fight for custody, though.
Stupid woman. I guess she missed the part in the bible that says wives shouldn’t leave their family. But I bet she’s the kind of Christian that believes that doesn’t apply to her. Smh, Stupid woman!
^ This.
Schadenfreude is a wonderful thing sometimes.
All joking aside, I do feel bad for their girls. Divorce isn’t easy. Although, I cannot fathom how ‘liberal’, ‘faced-paced LA’ is still worse than tearing your family apart via divorce. Guess it’s my faulty liberal logic coming into play…
I do feel sorry for the girls, too, and I was starting to feel sorry for Angie…but then I realized she really set this in motion with her sanctimony and effed up priorities.
•Esmom•
Exactly. I’m not saying they would have stayed together if they both lived in the same city. However, any marriage that takes the strain of living apart over half the time and over a span of several years, is likely to have ‘issues’. And why wouldn’t you at least *attempt* to move the family together to resolve or address some of those issues?!? That’s what boggles my mind. An attempt to keep the family intact should have been their first priority — but that’s strictly my opinion (and California supposedly has a few Republicans living there. Just sayin’).
her priorities do seem to be totally off. whether they would have made it as a couple, who knows. that’s really a secondary issue. but dropping very small children, when there is no need to do so because you have the resources to live close to them (ideally – with them) is just super sh-tty.
even if she’s not into being a mom (but had 3 kids?), then she’s sh-tty for paying lip service to family values/conservative values/christian values while basically dropping her own family.
i feel sorry for the little girls. this must have messed with them, and will continue to mess with them as they grow. fingers crossed jason is a good, hands-on dad.
wait… maybe it’s gay people who broke up her marriage?
Exactly. I can’t watch her show not due to her politics solely but het acting sucks. Stiff and actory. That’s why she and her ilk – Melissa Sue Anderson, Jessica Simpson etc. – are not talented.
I can’t help wondering if a part of Angie wanted to just have time away from her family. 6 months is a long time! I bet she could have found a place to relocate her family that wasn’t a multi timezone flight away. Even if it was just an hour or 2 drive. Ultra conservative places exist in every state.
Although, there’s a special type of conservative wingnuts that exist in NC. I say that having spent some time there. It was rough.
I held the door open at a boutique for someone with darker skin. I to this day swore it was a really great tan. She said ty, I said you’re welcome. Wished her a good day. And that sealed my fate in that town.
Bottom Line(s). If she wanted her family near her it could happen. If she felt her marriage was suffering from the distance that could be remedied. If she was spenind 6 months out of the year away from her daughters and they needed her adjustments could be made.
I read an interview with Angie years ago, that really sheds light on this situation. It either makes it all make sense, or reveals a tragedy. Angie was raised by her father because her mother willingly left their family. So, either Angie just doesn’t know how to be a mom in an intact family because she never saw one modelled, or she thinks it’s no biggie because her dad did a great job and she didn’t miss having a mother – and she did state she was fine without her mother. Denial is a powerful thing, and she may be using her own childhood as justification for her own choices.
Mayamae
That’s awful and I can see that making sense. Like how Halle was raised by her mother (single parent) andhas said before it’s prefered to raise her daughter herself.
She could’ve chosen to raise her family 2 hours from LA. Or just not attended to “the movie star life-style”. It’s not a requirement to go to every opening, photo-opp, etc.
She simply chose to be a movie-star over being a mommy. I hope her husband finds a loving partner who will mommy on those girls.
Schadenfreude is a lovely thing sometimes, but I do feel for the kids.
Don’t know how L.A. is worse than living across the country from your children for years — a large part young daughters’ lives. Not to mention that if L.A. is too liberal for you, just head a little farther south and you can revel in the conservatism of Orange County.
This is EXACTLY what I was thinking!! Why not just settle the family in OC, where it’s more her political climate, and possible for the family to be together while she works? Maybe it had more to do with taxes…? (I have absolutely no idea — I don’t follow AH or her politics, so that’s pure speculation, but there has to be something other than “I don’t want my kids to live in LA” to make you say 3000 miles away is preferential to actually being together.)
I find that there are many people, not all but far too many, people when they think of LA they only think or see and live their lives according to “LA” as a concept and do not know or attempt to see or live in Los Angeles the city and not “LA” the concept.
As a born and bred Angeleno it’s entirely irritating! It does in fact trigger the automatic tune out for me.
@Reece,
As a born and bred New Yorker, I know what you mean, and completely agree.
You don’t even have to leave LA County! Go to Agoura, Calabasas, Pasadena…there are plenty of collar cities that are markedly more conservative than LA itself.
I agree with a lot of you! There are plenty of smaller communities around LA, and if they really want conservative, it doesn’t get much redder than Orange County. People forget that California has a very strong republican roots, especially in OC.
All of this! California is a big state, it’s just that the bigger cities tend to be liberal. I guess she never heard of that proposal to split CA into 2 states based on the conservatives wanting to be separated.
•everyone•
I feel like I need to clear something up. My schadenfreude stems solely from the hypocrisy involved in *how* they communicate their values and decisions — not necessarily the actions themselves.
I honestly think you can convey your values (regardless of where they fall on the spectrum) without being judgemental. For instance, I don’t judge Angie for deciding to go back to work after being a SAHM for years. A great many mothers, find that being a SAHM wasn’t what they thought or imagined. They hankered for ‘small things’ like conversations that don’t revolve around bodily fluids and full, grown-up sentences/conversations. No shame there. Nor is falling in love with a community and trying to keep your children in the same place for reasons of continuity. But when you pull in religion and use it to Lord over others — that’s not cool in my book. Again, it is just my opinion.
And for the record, I was able to raise my two children, with liberal values that resemble but not necessarily mirror, my own. All while surrounded in the hotbed of conservativism that permeates the U.S. military while living in predominantly red states — where Armed Forces Bases often are located. So it IS possible to raise children in places with values that aren’t congruent with your own. (I do realise that is a tad judgey but I still feel it’s an important point that needs to be made).
I get that LS. And I agree.
My husband is NPR liberal. He calls me Ron Paul constitutionalist conservative, mixed in with traditional home values, and decent common sense. I take that to mean i’m a good mix of both sides with easily relatable views. I’m still religious, but refuse to attend sunday mass as I would call out people for their hypocrisy. I do not hide my feelings well in those situations.
And I still feel this is expected hypocrisy. How they justify or excuse their actions on their religous beliefs is terrible. Own your own actions.
LOL!! “Liberal logic” Stop it with the stupid labels. I’m Liberal about some things I’m conservative about others. So what if they are getting a divorce. You can split and still be devout. You’re just not an idiot staying in an unhappy relationship. So kudos to them for figuring it out.
I don’t know who y’all pray to but, my GOD DOESN’T WANT YOU UNHAPPY. If you have to split for all to be happy that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Spare us the judgments of this couple simply because they claim to be ‘devout Christians’.
I think you missed the point. Split if you’re unhappy. Just don’t blame anything else for your split. They decided on divorce. Not because LA was too sinful. Because there was a lack of compromise and likely both party decided they didn’t want to be with the other. No need to drag religious beliefs or political parties into it. Own it. Accept the fallout from your own actions.
Unless, i’m way off base. It’s happened before.
•G•
My use of the words ‘liberal logic’ was firmly tongue-in-cheek. I totally agree with •Florc•, split if your marriage isn’t salvageable, but take ownership of the reasons why.
Got it LadySlipprs! You don’t owe anybody an explanation for your opinion. In my eyes it’s respected. No fun if everybody agrees 😉
I just can’t understand why she didn’t move her family to northern California. Everyone’s much closer together and it’s full of Republicans, problem solved!
If her concern was really about “liberal” LA she could have moved her family to conservative, Republican Orange County, which is about an hour away instead of 3000 miles away. Allow her to actually see her family occasionally.
‘good, devout christian’ somebody please explain this to me because………….
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Dearest •LAK• the problem with your question is — ………..
*wildly waves hands in air*
Is that helpful? 😉
About as helpful as a good, devout christian!!! 🙂
•LAK• as always, I am at your service.
😉
Good Christian is the opposite of Bad Christian – you know, Christians who believe in treating gay people decently, feminism or aid for the poor. Bad Christians.
Good Lord!!!
Yea, i’m lost here too.
Anyone who calls themself that is too full of a few deadly sins to support it.
We can only strive to be so. But we can’t fully be because we were born with sin and are fallible. That’s my stance. Much like how Dave Grohl says anyone who calls thmselves a RockStar isn’t one.
The littlest kid in the top photo–those eyebrows! She’s not buying any of this.
Hahaha! Those are some epic eyebrows.
Lmao! It’s her eyebrows that stood out when I took a glance at the photo.
+1
Amazing brows!
I was on my phone when I saw that, and all I could see were those eyebrows. I actually zoomed in to make sure it wasn’t part of a Halloween costume.
As Tina Fey would say, that’s a ‘swarthy’ baby lol.
Her logic defies logic.
My thoughts exactly! She’s an idiot.
That explains her conservative ‘values’.
+1
I can’t quite wrap my head around choosing to be away from my kids 7 months out of the year. I don’t know much about Hollywood but I am guessing they could have found a home within commuting distance that met their needs.
Whatever. They sound like self righteous hypocrites.
My thoughts exactly! She could have lived an hour outside of LA and been away from the nonsense. My dad commuted an hour every day to the city and we lived in the suburbs. Sounds to me like she’s just selfish.
I didn’t understand that either. I’m thinking there’s more to the story, because that’s the common sense answer.
Supposedly she is the one CDAN refers to as coke mom. If yes, this makes sense. Or that site is full of it. Ehhh.
Perhaps things were on the rocks before she decided to live and work in LA for 7 months. A separation without having to get a separation. I also think maybe she just does not like being a mother. Why have three kids then? I dunno. But it seems like she’d rather be working than parenting. I know a few people like that, and I don’t think it makes them bad people–but it kinda sucks for the kids and spouse. I think it’s typical for a decent amount of men to prefer the office to home, but it still kind of shocks us when it’s a woman.
I don’t know… I would find it strange for the dad to be away from the kids 7 months out of the year too IF being together was an available option.
Exactly! Why preach all that conservative BS then not bother living it?
@Tracy: I totally agree that being away that long is really strange for either gender. I just think that she probably didn’t want to be married anymore, or parent that much, when she first set out for LA. I’m sure she put on a good front about missing them–but probably preferred her life away. I think it’s really sad for the girls, but it would probably also be really sad if she stayed and quietly resented them, and made their little lives hell. Maybe everyone discovered that they were happier this way. Just a theory.
I hear what you are saying. It does make me feel sad for the girls and I wonder if Angie will wake up and regret all that she missed one day.
Exactly Tracy. Judgey McJudge, preachy mcpreach but atno point did they say ” hey this is tearing us apart, let’s do X or Y to keep us together?”
Some of these aren’t direct quotes in the story so I am sure their ‘people’ will vet better than this , right? This reads like nonsese: she hates where she works, doesn’t want the kids in that environment so….
And : they can’t reconccile?
Oh for the love of God, that woman is a hypocrite. If LA is such a cesspool (and I imagine it is to some extent) and this whole business is so horrible, why would you work in such an environment? It goes against everything you believe in but it’s fine to take the money? Shut up. And can someone who lives in California explain to me why it is not even possible to move the family somewhere closer to LA than North Carolina? Is all of California so hedonistic that it’s not a safe place for children?
We live in SoCal (just an hour and a half away from LA) and we live in a very nice, family oriented area. Rob Lowe moved his family to Santa Barbara. Sean Penn and Robin Wright raised their family in Marin County (NoCal) just an hour flight north of LA. Of course it can be done.
Please. Marin County is not a place to raise your kids away from charlatans, new age orgies, drugs and other hedonistic narcissistic nonsense. I lived in Marin County for a long time. There are only certain places where the kids would be sheltered from all the “Hollywood” crap.
@Hummingbird: I was raised in San Rafael-it is a lovely place and very family oriented. You’re talking about a very small part of the population that is “new age, and into drugs”-way to overgeneralize. You can find nice people EVERYWHERE.
@Hummingbird: I was partially raised in Point Reyes. It was a great place for kids.
@hummingbird, as all of the other Marinites are piling on, I will too. You clearly don’t know what you’re talking about. Marin County is a lovely, family-oriented place to live and not much different than other places in the Bay Area. I’m sure you can find drugs and orgies in Marin, along with probably anywhere else in the U.S. if that’s what you’re seeking.
As a Marin resident for 40 years, I can tell you that there are several Marins and talking about one of them means nothing about the rest. Point Reyes has nothing in common with Tiburon other than some water views. San Rafael has nothing in common with Mill Valley, Novato has nothing in common with Ross. If you’re raising your kids in Ross, like Sean Penn did, then you’re raising them in an enclave of spoiled little rich kids who all drive BMW’s to private school, and you’ve got enough money to get yourself into the kind of trouble that mommy and daddy will have to buy you out of. There is very little difference between raising a kid in Ross or Tiburon and raising a kid in L.A. Lots of money and too much time on your hands results in the same troubles, regardless of where it is.
@RobN-point taken. Yes-every wealthy area in the U.S., including North Carolina, has a contingent of rich, spoiled kids with overindulgent parents. I don’t think moving out of LA guarantees a normal, down to earth existence.
in San Francisco –it might set their hair on fire the crazy good but not devout stuff that happens here. But certainly Orange County just south could suit their conservative ways and there are plenty of megachurches too. Plenty of conservative bastions in the Central Valley too–remember CA embarrassingly was the state that passed Prop 8 and elected Arnold.
This! So much this!
Not to mention everything between North Carolina and California?
I live in NC and is no different from LA people wise when it comes to values some have it and others don’t. So I think that’s a cop out on her part. Yes California tends to be more liberal and NC tends to be more conservative but these holy rollers got more skeletons in their closet than your average liberal and im from California. so just tell the truth Angie. You got yourself a lover in LA and ” family” is cramping your still. I bet she stays in LA after that show ends in the future. She always gave me lesbian vibe. Nothing wrong with that but her being a die hard conservative makes that a bad thing.
THANK YOU!!! There are freaky sneaks EVERYWHERE, and sometimes the most freaky and sneaky on the down-low are the most conservative and judgmental on Front Street! It’s amazing how many folks protest too much!
Such a good comment. My mom comes from a small southern town. A sleepy little town with a church on every corner and “family values” in excess. It also happens to be the meth capital of Arkansas.
I do see Angie as a hypocrite. I’m sure she craps the whip and makes sure Jason takes the girls to church every Sunday. Meanwhile, she probably sleeps in because she works so hard. On the lesbian thing – I can only go on how she self-identifies, so I can’t slam her for that. I do know that she has a vocal LGBT audience who stans her character with the other leading female character (neither are gay), and she likes to fan those flames. I’d be curious to know if she supported Prop 8.
If she’s such a devout Christian, then why was she participating in such a heathen profession? Did she see herself as some kind of Christian martyr? Or was she really just greedy? I’m a parent, and I would take the biggest pay cut ever in order to be present with my kids every day. I can’t imagine being away from them for months at a time. Ms. Harmon tanked her own marriage.
THANK YOU. I was coming on to this thread to write this. They could have moved to Northern California or a neighboring state if they didn’t want to be in L.A.
Both parents likely made lots of money by the time of their marriage. They could have lived most anywhere and probably never worked again, assuming they lived a modest lifestyle.
I can’t garner sympathy for anyone other than the children.
EXACTLY. I have been trying to have a child for 5 years and am now undergoing IVF, and have taken a major hit to my career to make that possible. If I have a child, my career will be hit even further, because I’ll be damned if I’m going to park an infant in day care if I’m financially able to take care of him/her myself. There is no career opportunity in the world for which I would spend half the year away from my spouse and child(ren). And I’m a liberal heathen.
And, as many people have said, they could have just moved to Orange County and fit right in. So much hypocrisy here it makes my head hurt.
Spending 5-6 months apart habitually will take a toll on a relationship.
Divorce is never fun. Hope they are able to keep it as amicable as possible for the kids.
I don’t care for these people AT ALL: snooze. But the good devout Christian part of the quote was referring to the fact that the separation and ultimate decision to divorce wasn’t caused by cheating; not that they split because of their devoutness.
•Kiddo•
That’s how I understood it too. However, even ‘good, devout Christians’ are tempted by ‘sin’. To me, that statement was hollow and meaningless.
It’s a political way of saying, “The split is amicable and no one is at fault, I’m STILL RELIGIOUS” and whatnot. It’s her version of ‘conscious uncoupling’. Her divorce is better than other people’s divorces because they didn’t cheat. At least that’s my take.
But the headline is still erroneous.
Kiddo, yes, exactly. Her sanctimony remains strong even as her marriage does not.
I agree. And, we all know sanctimonious, smug, judgy assholes can be found in all religions. Christians don’t have that market cornered. As I type this there is an ad at the bottom of the page for Daily Bible Guide. Irony all around.
Sooooo … if they’re splitting up, and she doesn’t want the kiddies to live in modern-day Sodom, will she give up primary custody so the kids can live in good, devout, Christian North Carolina with their good, devout, Christian dad? Or will she quit the show and move back to NC so her kids can have their good, devout Christian mom around? Or will she move the kids to Los Angeles to wallow in filth and depravity? If she gets primary custody and moves the kids to LA, what will the excuse be?
I’d have to agree with some of the posters upthread. Since the girls are used to living with Jason in North Carolina, chances are he will probably get full custody and the girls will stay in NC.
I’ve never been to LA, but I’d get the impression that it’s just about as moral and immoral as anywhere else in this country. She could have taken the Alyssa Milano option, Alyssa Milano did not want to uproot her family from LA to shoot another season of her show Mistresses and left the show. I would imagine there are plenty of family friendly places to live in California that are within commuting distance to LA.
Another conservative marriage dissolves- yet liberals and gays will ruin the institution of marriage… Ah yes that wing nut conservative thinking, what every marriage should strive for to raise another generation of adorable kids that grow up to be future Sarah Palins & Newt Gingrichs. God help us all.. And today’s Election Day.
keep in mind, this woman has repeatedly praised Sarah Palin, so…
There are plenty of mellow, conservative communities in California that they could have moved to.
This! I loved in LA for 9 years as a kid because my dad had a preaching job there. I’m fine.
There are other areas in California that aren’t LA. I know it’s crazy but we do have other cities where she could have set roots for their children and continue to work while at the same time keep raising them in a conservative environment.
The family didn’t have to live in liberal-lovin’ Los Angeles. An option was to move the family to a nearby state that’s conservative–Arizona, anybody?–or a small town in Northern California. That would have cut the distance way down.
So they’re splitting, eh? Well, right in time for the holidays.
Merry Christmas, girls.
Exactly! Both Orange County and basically all of AZ are pretty conservative. You do not have to move 3000 miles away to find a conservative area.
Sorry to break it to you Angie, but those “good and devout Christian” people you surround yourself with are judging the sh-t out of you because in their mind, you abandoned your family and wife duties.
To be sure. We were in (eastern) NC for 5 years and I’m still flinch when hearing “good Christians”. I have lived in 10 different states, and never experienced such an intense hate and mistrust of anyone that is not white, insert certain religion here * or straight. Being 2 out of 3, local folks thought it ok to share their deep thoughts until they were aware of my horrified reaction. Every morning at 10 am, my fellow state workers would gather for their 30 minute sweet tea break. One of my few good memories was breaking these meetings up (just by wandering in) and watching them wordlessly leave the room. I suppose they were shunning me, but I was grateful to be cut out of any socializing. Bottom line, it was heartbreaking to hear people’s hateful thoughts on their fellow man and made worse by the lack of awareness. When I asked my friend (local but had left and lived in NY for years before returning–why?!) Her answer was because they went to church on Wednesday and Sunday, they were forgiven of any sinning, deliberate or non deliberate. Awful!
I also lived in eastern NC, and I found this to be true. Bigotry and religious proselytizing is much more tolerated even if others disagree with it. This makes a huge difference in the climate of the culture in general. Lots of people there are not racists, but they are pretty tolerant of those who are. Same with the religious extremists. They are tolerated more because people are just used to a certain percentage of the state being that way. I couldn’t wait to get out. It isn’t the same all over. Not even close. I’ve lived enough places to know.
Why would she seek primary custody of her kids? She obviously prefers the arrangement currently in place, he has the kids most of the time living across the width of the North American continent away from her while she lives and works in “sinful but oh so lucrative LA” LOL. She is a simply and foremost a hypocrite. Do feel sorry for those 3 little girls whose Mother made the choice to be away from them for so much time now for years.
The quote that references the faith orientation of this couple has been taken out of context…it refers to adultry.
The path of faith is difficult and the values of formal religious belief systems are countercultural.
Yet, folks are ready to dogpile on anyone who mentions anything about faith or who fails publically. Great example of the last acceptible prejudice. Catholics are particularly good targets!
I think what people are fed up with is the hypocrisy of the Christians who repeatedly strive towards limiting others’ rights while flouting the tenets of their own religion. I was raised Catholic, and brought up to believe that divorce is a sin (it’s not my own belief system, however). If Ms. Harmon really was true to her religion, it seems as though she should have fought harder to keep her family unit intact. There doesn’t seem to be much sacrifice on her part to have her own children and husband living with her. That’s not a religious piece, btw. That’s just common sense.
The thing that bugs about people who are constantly using the “Christian” label is how hard they are on other people. Yet when something goes wrong in their own lives, they’re so quick to be all, “well, Jesus forgives and he isn’t judging me”. I wish that people would just shut up about their religion and go forth to quietly worship however the hell they want to. It seems so showy and false if you constantly have to be proclaiming how Christian you are.
” It seems so showy and false if you constantly have to be proclaiming how Christian you are.”
YES! and so often, it’s those that proclaim it the loudest that act in a most UN-Christ-like way. “What would Jesus do” is not what they would do.
it’s like, by claiming one is a Christian absolves them from any criticism about their life choices or behavior.
meanwhile, if you TRULY live a Christian life and are kind to others and don’t judge, it shows simply by how you live your life.
I had a friend who was always trying to convert me. It was really sad because she eventually dropped me as a friend even though I was extremely loyal and kind to her. She could not see past the fact that non christians could be good people too.
I agree with much of what you posted. And although it seems odd to respond with a quote attributed to Mother Theresa, I think her suggestion is appropos: “if you want to change the world, start with yourself.” The problem is ourselves-whether we call ourself a Christian or not-it’s always easier to see the “flaw in the others’ eye.”
•Amelie•
Not true. I have a great many friends that are very religious and are not judgemental (Christian, Jewish, and a few that fall in the ‘other’ category). It’s the judgmental ideology I have problems with — not with religion or the religious as a whole.
•RN•
Exactly. It’s the ‘Do as I say, not as I do’ that I have issues with. And all the finger pointing. There’s a lot of finger pointing in fundamentalism.
My parents separated (subsequently divorced) when I was 10. For about a year before the actual separation happened, my parents spent very little time together in our home. There was usually one parent home with the kids while the other was off working, vacationing, out with friends etc. On the rare occasion that they were home at the same time, things were very tense. There was a LOT of fighting and it wasn’t a healthy environment at all. It was actually a relief when they finally separated and were no longer officially living together. I think, at this point, the Sehorn kids are probably used to being co-parented and splitting time between parents. So hopefully this divorce won’t be too much of a shock for them.
I was thinking that myself – they are somewhat used to it, so hopefully it’s not too difficult for them.
I think this is all a huge excuse for escaping a life maybe Angie didn’t end up liking after all. She seems to enjoy her job in an industry based in a city that she believes lacks morals. If she really hated that life, she could have said good-bye to it for good or chosen a project on the East Coast. Or, she could have moved her family to northern Cali or rural Oregon several hours away by plane. The truth is that she chose her career over her husband and children. Her husband will likely keep the children while she continues her entertainment career. To me that is truly selfish and I would also say this for a man who thinks being away from his family for 6 months is okay too. Trust that she is enjoying her life in sinful Hollywood much more than living in North Carolina. Don’t be ashamed to admit it, Angie!
Yep. I agree. It really seems like she just didn’t want to be a wife and mother.
Dugger girls this is your future.
Think you hit the nail on the head here. What she wants for herself is different than what she is supposed to want…
“LA for me, but not for thee.”
News flash. You can’t make your kids follow your religion or political views when they get old enough to make their own decisions.
Guess what Angie – blue states have lower rates of divorce. So she loses her marriage and doesn’t see her kids much. A+ Angie!
So Jason should get primary custody I guess. Yep, moving the family back to California was a terrible idea!! *sarcasm font
Insert the infamous JLaw “Yeah, ok” GIF here.
HahahahhI’m trying not to get too judgy and wallow in my schadenfreude”
You Try, I wont! she was so obnoxious when she started with those Good Devout Xtians my kids won’t come to this “fast paced life” … uh you are raising them, you and your husband set the tone and exposure to whatever it is, Lady… it seemed then like she just wanted her me time more so than ” My kids shant touch this vile city”
Also, sorry but those kids’ names together are just… Corny (finley is not too bad but the other made-up two all together LOL)
Lol once they are college age they will go to UCLA. What is she going to do then? No matter how you raise them they will make choices as adults and what happens when they want to follow in her foot steps and also be actresses? She is going to have a fit.
They’re not made up names. One of my dogs is named Finley, and one of my sister’s dogs is named Avery. And both dogs are older than her daughters, so I guess she named her girls after a couple of dogs! 🙂
Anybody know why they picked North Carolina? Is his family there or something? I thought she was from Texas.
Ironically, he’s a born and bred non-LA California boy.
I believe the location decision was career-based on his part. He’s a Director of Something (I forget what) at a corporation based out of NC.
I don’t care one way or another if she is conservative or liberal. She has shown me that she considers her career more important than her family. People keep saying she should have moved her family there but are they taking into consideration that maybe his career was based where they lived. I know, feminists are going to hang me but for most of these little kids lives (except for the youngest) she was home being mommy. Now that is no longer as important to her. She should have stayed single without any responsibilities except for the career she wants to continue to have.
Maybe she fell in love and was ok with it at first. Maybe she got tired of the marriage after a few years but was to scared to divorce him because of her conservative view and is using this reason now to come out looking like she’s saving them from the sins of LA. Her persona does not take a hit because she loves him it’s just her mean old job is keeping her from her family and she has noway out from her contract ( rolling eyes) and she has to give them up. Oh liberal LA is sooooo evil. They should just let her out of her contract so she can go home to a God fairing NC. Free Angie!!!!!!
•briagal•
I consider myself a feminist, and I’m at a loss, why would I hang you? Because of the stay-at-home comment? Why? Feminists believe women should have options and not be forced to do anyONE thing. As an example, I too stayed at home to be with my children. No shame in that.
I applaud Angie for staying at home. (I applaud her for wanting to work too). I just take issue with the ‘I’m better than you because I am religious’ type hypocrisy. And as someone else mentioned — Christains haven’t cornered that market — it’s fairly commonly in other religions too (sadly).
Stay at home feminist mom too here. We exist. 🙂
No–the stay-at-home didn’t equate into my opinion. I keep reading the commenters saying that they should move to CA because of HER job, not taking into account his job and life where they live now. I think–and here’s where the feminists would hang me–that because HIS job is where it is, she should have taken THAT into consideration when agreeing to the long-distance job requiring so much time away from the family. Yes, her job is important but so is the family
THEY had and she really should have been at home especially with the kids as young as they are. Just seems to me that her career seems much more important to her than her family.
I get what people are saying but what if it was he who was working while she stayed back and raised the kids in NC?Many athletes work/live in their chosen cities while the mom stays in another city with the kids. There is a lot of shade being thrown at her for doing the same thing many men do.
I guess I’m a wing nut as well because my husband drives an hour to and from work each day so our kid gets to grow up in a smaller town.
most athletes have home bases where they spent a big part of their time. they are not away as much as the average hollywood actor. and the average actor isnt away as much as this woman is.
plus if you go so all out on family values that you forget your own family, well people are going to rub it into your face. rightly so.
if a male was so about family values and protecting his kids so much from LA but spent 8 1/2 mobths away people would also call him out. most big name male actors have their families with them. its also not like they had to live so far away, they could easily have lived like you, an hour away. that was a deliberate choice.
its not really comparable to regular jobs because even if you work a lot you’ll see your kids more often than a couple if times per year.
An hour is not California vs. NC though. I’ll throw the same shade at any man (athlete or not) who can work in an environment that goes against his values but not move his family there. And who, in fact, won’t move the family ANYWHERE near him. It makes no sense.
It seems to me that she is not into being a mom, wife and family life in general. That is the only reason that seems to make sense to me in this situation. She would rather be separated from her girls FOR YEARS when they needed her the most than have them be with her in LA?? Ridiculous.
What does politics or religion have to do with this, besides giving nasty people a reason to snark and be judgey?
None of us really knows what went on. It’s really sad that the internet gives people the freedom to hide behind their nastiness.
If it is indeed true that she chose NC over California because of the political and religious climate, and distance ruined her marriage, it’s not nastiness, it’s logic.
Sorry, but we are all just speculating.
I just find it sad when a family with 3 kids gets divorced, and I’m not interested in jumping up and down and rejoicing that a “christian” couple is splitting up.
Good points.
So this is basically the good Christian version of Goop and Chris Martin
Conservative, family-values espousing actress (Harmon) divorces rather than move her family to LA.
Liberal, family-values espousing actress (Alyssa Milano) quits show rather than uproot her family and move to another country.
Who’s winning the true family-values game and who’s just pretending they play?
I don’t think it’s fair to say the kids will become pawns in a custody battle.
It sounds like these two already know how to co-parent effectively — they’ve been doing a practice run on being divorced for five years now — and they’re clear on where and how they want their children raised.
Honestly, I think the kids will be the one factor in their divorce that won’t turn ugly; the status quo was working fine, in that regard.
I agree. Sounds like everybody was on the same page in regards to the kids, so I don’t see any reason that should change now. Nobody is claiming the other is the anti-Christ, so I’d guess the custody arrangements ought to be pretty well defined already.
Bottom line ……this woman is no longer interested in being a wife and Mother. She’d rather have her career.
Funny how we never say that about a father who is working away from his kids. Perfectly fine for Dad to be a part-timer, but when it’s Mom, then people feel the need to go straight to abandonment.
I’d say the same if the roles were reversed. Divorce is really hard on children.
Men are trashed all the time. I remember when Russell Crowe was trashed for tweeting that he’d only spent 30 days of the past year at his family home–he had been tweeting to a traveling salesman. And Crowe had just separated/divorced his wife.
Does she ping anyone else’s lez-dar?
Yes, since her early years.
Yes.
Yes, which is why I wasn’t surprised she became a wingnut. Excellent camo.
well, i liked her in law and order.
I didn’t. I thought she played a snarky, judgmental bitch, which is exactly how she comes across to me in real life.
“L.A is a great big freeway”
Seriously, nothing between where they are in NC and LA would have worked better than this?
So her youngest is 5 and she left them behind 5 years ago? I am in no way maternal but I could never leave a child that young for months at a time. And when they’re that age they are hardly going to learn to be horrible fame monsters unless you let them/encourage it.
This has nothing to do with being a Christian or not. They were two adults that unfortunately didnt endure their marriage. Sad. They tried, but failed.
Equal opportunity blame here. She didn’t have to park her family in NC, but he didn’t have to stay there, either. It sounds like this was a jointly sanctimonious decision.
Given that they’ve already been living apart, I don’t think there will be a custody battle. It sounds like this is just formalizing a sad situation that’s existed for awhile.
All this bitchiness towards Harmon is because she is a Conservative. You’d be applauding her if she was a Liberal. FACT.
I guess you’ve never read a GOOP celebitchy article.
lol conservative victimhood
The bitchiness stems from the fact that it appears that she chose her job over her family–when she’s made headlines from basically saying that because of her political/religious beliefs, she’d NEVER do that. And then, low and behold, it comes out, from her, that she doesn’t fly out to see her family on the weekends. And is away from them for half the year. Hypocrisy at its finest. If she’d cooled it with the rhetoric, then there’d be nothing but condolences for the end of the marriage.
She pretty much complained about the same thing herself. She said she couldn’t get decent roles because Hollywood is biased against republican actors. I wondered if it ever occurred to her that maybe Hollywood is just biased against crappy actors.
What is up with people throwing out hypothetical situations and then stating–“fact”. No that is the opposite of a fact. That is your opinion. Nothing more.
Oh…and you’re wrong.
I don’t like her personal and political views but I liked her enough on L & O and maybe because I’m having marital problems, I’m more inclined to not shade her here. Who knows why they chose NC – maybe it was for his job or for “family values” or for both. But I can see how this may have played out before they realized that the marriage is over.
She’s a not-so-young actress who got a lead in a series which may or may not last through pilot season or get picked up or renewed. You don’t want to uproot your family, you don’t particularly like LA, so you decide to wait and see. Also, she might make more than him now and they agreed on the arrangements together. Absence does not make the heart grow fonder, you slowly drift apart and get used to a new way of life. Before you know it, your marriage is over and you are married on paper only. It’s sad whenever a marriage ends, especially when kids are involved. I know that I would have divorced my husband months ago, if it wasn’t for my 3 year old son. I’m still struggling with my decision but it’s easy to procrastinate since I rarely see my husband due to his work.
ok, Being a Christian, and working in the industry, I’ve seen enough. I lived in North Hollywood and due to my in-laws in their golden years moved to Newport. Yes, there is a big difference between the 2 areas, but the people are the same here as I’ve met in Calabasas and Santa Clarita. The Christian values argument is a cover. Honestly, what else has she been in? Rizzoli and Isles is good, but not great. Jason is retired and can pursue other careers, and I’m sure he will. I hate to say this, and won’t be surprised when we see AH with an actor, director, or producer to help her through her “troubling times.” I don’t wish to sound cynical, but she’s either being hypocritical or wants a life free of her family to pursue her career. Lastly, while working in the industry the last two years, I was separated from my family as they were in OC I was in NoHo. I can tell you that I gave up working in the biz to be with my family. So what’s more important?
Harmon isn’t a conservative Christian, she is a judgmental wingnut, and has been for a long time.
I had no idea she lied in my state. UGH>
I’ll remember this next time some stupid liberal couple breaks up. I don’t know why you people have such frothing hatred for Christians.
Also, I love it when gay couples break up. Now that’s some schadenfreude I can enjoy.
And don’t you just sound like a wonderful, loving Christian. I can’t imagine why people don’t like you.
heh heh heh…
like I said above, it’s often the most outspoken “I’M A CHRISTIAN!!!!!” people who act in a most UN-Christ-like way.
actions speak louder than words. BE a Christian, don’t just SAY you’re one.
Um…no there are lots of Christians posting in here. It’s because she kept going on about family values. LA was too monstrous of a place to raise children, so she lived away from them for 7 months/year.
There’d be no hatred of Christians if they actually acted like…oh I don’t know…Christians?
You know, not being judgmental, not being overtly public with prayer “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.”
You don’t have to talk about being a Christian as if that’s the final answer, just show it by good works. I’m not saying to hide it, but stuff like, “I can’t live in LA because I’m a good Christian who wants to raise her children right”. So, the other Christian parents in LA are terrible parents?
I love it when someone is asked if they are a good person, or did they tell the truth, or something regarding their character and the response is, “Well I’m a good Christian”, or something of the sort.
Christians are not discriminated against in this country. Not being able to use my tax dollars to decorate public buildings with your religious insignia does not equal discrimination. Not allowing the Biblical version of Sharia law does not equal discrimination. “Happy Holidays” is not religious discrimination.
Is she unaware of the various conservative (by California standards) areas she could have moved to in SoCal? Said areas would have been maybe a couple of hours drive (with SoCal traffic) from her job. I believe Newport Beach is one of the most heavily Republican places in CA, and it’s about 90 minutes from LA with traffic. Or if she really didn’t want to raise her kids in SoCal, she could have moved her family to Arizona and had a much easier commute on the weekends.
“They’re good, devout Christian people,” the source tells Us. “The split wasn’t shocking to their close friends.”
Then maybe they shouldn’t divorce? Bible says so.
I don’t think the bible directly says divorcing is wrong. In fact, it states numerous scenerios where divorce is justified.
Your spouse no long shares your religious beliefs among other reasons. And it’s more of a sin to remarry than to get divorced and remain single until death.
That may be true, but many devout Christians do believe that divorcing is wrong, no matter the denomination. Many will stay in unhappy or abusive marriages because of religious beliefs. I think they stuck it out because of this, until it was too much to bear.
I’ve disliked this woman from the first moment I saw her on L&O…trying to pass off that raspy voice as acting talent. It’s pretty obvious to me that she has political aspirations ala Palin and I’d guess she wants to maintain her primary residence in North Carolina, maybe give the governorship a run after the acting gig dries up… I know, it sounds ridiculous, right? But she sounds like somebody who wouldn’t mind imposing her stilted political and religious beliefs on some of us. Her problem is, Jason probably met some nice waitress or personal trainer who doesn’t mind spending time with him during the week. So now she has to decide…tv or politics. If she moves back to NC, she’ll be doing tea party fundraisers before we know it.
SO DUMB!!! You can raise wonderful children regardless of where you’re raising them. Lots of great parents are raising great kids in LA.
Tom Hanks did it. So did George Lucan and Steven Speilberg. Michelle Pfeiffer and David Kelly have done it too with their kids. And these people have WAY more money and fame to worry about screwing up their kids.
Just act like a normal parent and raise your normal kids instead of being insufferably snotty and keeping them away from the “evil” that butters your bread.
Amen! No pun intended.
Damn all I can see is those eyebrows on that baby.
Unless you are in dire, and I do mean DIRE financial straits no one, male or female spends 7 months of the year away from their family, especially when you have young children.
It’s your responsibility to make very effort to raise them in a responsible, loving way and be there for them. Bottom line is you do what you are SUPPOSE to do.
But I think something else is going on here, I’m just going to wait for the other shoe to drop.