Is it possible to feel sorry for Dean McDermott? I’m warming to the idea even though the dude is a documented cheater. He cheated on ex-wife Mary Jo Eustace by sleeping with Tori Spelling on the first day they met. It’s still up for debate whether Dean really cheated on Tori or if they made the whole affair up for the True Tori show.
Dean’s looking like a real sad sack lately. He says he’s tired of being treated like a monster by the public. He lost it on Twitter last week. And Dean was filmed in a vasectomy office even though (or perhaps because) Tori knew it humiliated him. Dean’s had enough of this reality show bidness. He paid a visit to Access Hollywood to say he’s done with this show:
Dean & True Tori are ovah: “I’m not going to continue with the show. We have five more shows left … I can’t do this anymore. I can’t keep opening a vein, opening my soul and sharing my feelings and thoughts and demons with the world.”
He can’t even watch the show: “I don’t watch it, I can’t. It’s really difficult … I can’t do it any more, for my soul. The show has been great. I’ve learned a lot of things about myself, my relationship. It’s not all doom and gloom. There’s a lot of good in the show.”
Tori’s hospitalization: “She works so hard … and it just caught up with her. She doesn’t take the best care of herself. She always puts others before herself. [It was] pneumonia, bronchitis and sinusitis and that triggered migrainosus.”
On “Emily Goodhand”: “The fact that I cheated on my wife, I wish never happened. I wish my alcohol and drug use hadn’t gotten out of control. I still love her to death and that’s why we’re still together.”
He was suicidal after the affair: “I’ve learned a lot from this whole process. From the affair, from doing the show … I almost lost everything, everything that means anything to me. I don’t want to ever do that again. I don’t ever want to be in that dark place again where I wanted to take my life … I was driving around in my truck with a loaded 9 mm. I was put on a 5150 at the UCLA psych ward. [My son] Liam had a performance and I didn’t want to miss that performance … I had plans that night to do it.”
Will the marriage survive? “I believe so … I hold out a lot of hope. If you don’t have hope what do you have? I love this woman, regardless of what I’ve done. I love her and want to be with her. I want to grow old with her … at this moment she feels the exact same way.”
On whether they’ve received money from Candy Spelling: “All I can be is honest and no. No. There’s no financial help.”
His future: “I see myself on a scripted show. I’m getting back to my roots, I’m getting back to acting … I went out an auditioned for a [part] on a CSI and got it … [it’s airing] December 14.”
[From Access Hollywood]
I guess we’ll be seeing Dean on a CSI episode, which is good, right? Because Tori still feels entitled to a posh lifestyle, so someone needs to make money in this marriage. Oh, and Team Candy has already responded to Dean’s statements: “Candy has provided financial help in the past and has offered repeatedly to pay for the children’s private schooling and Tori has never told her where to send the money.”
Yeah, I feel bad for Dean. Maybe he cheated on Tori, or maybe this is all for the cameras. It’s obvious that Tori has enjoyed humiliating him at every opportunity. And she’s gotta be the one who leaked all the scandalous (true or not) to the tabloids. Let’s wrap this up with a few details:
* Tori has finally left the hospital (after a quarantine visit) and was spotted walking around LA on Monday. Us Weekly has those pics.
* The latest episode of True Tori featured Tori reuniting with ex-husband Charlie Shanian for a chat. Who knows why Charlie agreed to appear on the show, but the answer is probably “money” (just like it was for Mary Jo). After the two-hour visit, Dean listened to Tori talk about what a “good man” Charlie is. Tori sobbed, “It felt like family, safe, nurtured by and then it felt like a loss. I remember how safe I felt with him. When I left I just suddenly felt really alone and I don’t know why.” Oh. Come. On.
Nothing is off-limits for Tori.
Photos courtesy of Tori Spelling on Instagram, Fame/Flynet & WENN
Ick. Just when you think these people couldn’t stoop any lower. I hope her mother has put some money into trust for those poor kids’ therapy bills-they’re going to need it.
I’ll buy what either of these two ever say when it’s said off-camera. Otherwise, it’s just more famewhoring to increase the ratings.
And it all could have been so different… Aargh. These people…
While I don’t wish anyone to be depressed or suicidal, it’s difficult for me to feel much sympathy for people who proudly air their dirty laundry for what, fifty thousand desperate dollars? They both cheated, they both got themselves in financial ruin, they both refuse to minimize their exorbitant lifestyle, and they both have animosity towards Candy for not bailing them out. Sorry Deaner and Tori, but you’ve brought this upon yourselves. I only hope the kids turn out okay.
Let’s be complete morons and then be totally surprised when our life is a sh*t fest.
exactly! Oh gee, why on earth am I depressed/sick/suicidal? Oh I don’t know, could it be the lying, cheating, overextending the funds, and exhibitionism in our lives?!
@bopit
Unfortunately, Tori seems to be the only one in that marriage responsible for supporting her family. I doubt she a college degree and I think she is just trying to pay the bills. Tori has always worked really hard. She has done reality TV, opened some type of store that did not make it as well as a jewelry line on HSN which also failed. I give her a lot of credit for always trying and hope some day one of her ventures will be a big success.
Just trying to pay bill? Lol then why do they keep moving into more expensive houses, why does Tori have a storage warehouse full of stuff and she keeps buying more?
It’s not that she hasn’t been successful, it’s that she’s spent all her money on stuff she doesn’t need…..she was on a tv show–that she shouldn’t have even been on in the first place–that her father produced (so she was well paid on the show and AFTERWARDS)–the money she got from that show, along with the money she got when her dad died should’ve been enough for her to live on. Even with four kids. And all that did was give her even more opportunities–she’s had what? three different reality shows, along with roles in tv movies. She has enough money. And that’s just her. Dean, at this point, has been on Chopped in Canada. I’m sure he’s making good money for saying ‘Judges what is your decision?’ 3-4 times an episode.
She has always had plenty of money, her problem is her inability to manage her money. Her parents never taught her financial responsibility, never encouraged her to grow up and become independent. I don’t feel sorry for her though, she has had all the advantages in life and has chosen to throw it all away to be self-indulgent.
““Candy has provided financial help in the past and has offered repeatedly to pay for the children’s private schooling and Tori has never told her where to send the money.”
Yeahhhhh this doesn’t sound true at all. Tori never turns down money
I took it as she doesn’t want to give her any money which she can spend on anything. But she’s willing to pay directly for the kids education, but will only hand over the money to the institution. Maybe she suspects, like I do, the kids education does not cost as much as Tori claims & Tori is embellishing the cost so no one knows how much money she’s blowing just on herself.
Yeah, from that I’m guessing that Candy said that she would only give money directly to the school, not to Tori. And when Tori didn’t give her the name of the school, she didn’t send any money. Which is smart.
That is how I took it as well. They said Candy hasn’t helped them financially, probably because she hasn’t put cash in their hands. Instead, she probably sent the house payment directly to the bank and wants to pay the children’s tuitions directly to the schools. (Frankly, for gift tax purposes that is exactly how you are supposed to pay for a grandchild’s tuition without incurring tax issues.) But somehow they are trying to spin it as “mean Candy” and how deprived they are. Blowing through $18 million does not mean mom is the villain for not giving you access to more. The stench of entitlement is strong with these two.
I found that part hard to swallow also.
ETA: Ahh, now it makes more sense. You guys are most likely right.
Candy is not the problem, no matter how rich she is, Tori and Dean are not children and have no business looking for a handout to pay for their lifestyles. Money problems? Get a job like everybody else and stop pretending like you’re a victim. These two people are just the worst but they perfectly represent their generation of entitled, spoiled and materialistic brats. It’s going to be so wonderful in the future when all these useless parasites who refuse to grow up are in control and driving us all over the cliff. Idiots.
Sheesh. Tori really has no shame when it comes to that reality show.
Why was she quarantined? She is such a drama queen and I don’t blame Dean for leaving the show. Who wants to be humilated time and time again? And what was the purpose of having both their ex’s on the show? I have no sympathy for her or for that matter, him. They both made their bed and now need to lie in it.
It’s not as dramatic as it sounds. Any patients that are thought to have highly contagious infections are put under specific protocols to limit exposure to other patients and staff. Young children can also spread disease more easily than adults, so if somebody is in intensive care, chances are any children under twelve will be forbidden to visit.
yes, maybe they are channeling some other pain in their marriage but when I watch the clips I feel like I am definitely seeing real relationship pain.
Honestly, they both seem dysfunctional to a large degree, so everything in their lives is going to reflect that. I don’t see how anyone would want to be in a reality show either. He should never have agreed to it. I used to think Tori was a little private, but seems she’s not and wants to dramatize everything. This whole thing will blow up sooner or later and they may move on to other dysfunctional partners.
I watched him on Access Hollywood last night and from what I could see, he is telling the truth. Maybe the Emily Goodhand part is made up but he most likely did cheat, confessed to Tori and she made up the rest for a storyline. I don’t know, he seemed to be really genuine. It’s either he’s telling the truth or he’s a good actor (and he said that neither he or Tori are that good of actors to pull that off, lol!).
I never thought I would share any feelings with Dean, but when I think of these two I have the same reaction.
I don’t know if the guy cheated on Tori, but there’s a very good chance he did. I think Tori is going to make him pay for it one way or another. Personally, I couldn’t live with the constant cameras, selling my soul for little to no money. There has to come a point where you either forgive and move on, or leave a relationship. Also I’d like to acknowledge the kids in this mess. Do they even know how to live without constant cameras?
Tori herself has said that the kids are “used to the cameras” and they know the producers, camera folks, etc. “they are like family”
when the two of them interact with their kids, i think dean seems more stable.
something about tori’s interaction with her kids sometimes seems unhealthy to me. i think the kids are better off with a crew in the house than alone with her
Kate Gosselin said the same thing about her kids and the cameramen.
And she just seems to be vindictive enough to make remind him and make him pay over and over and over and over…. Even though HER track record is almost as crappy as his.
“I can’t keep opening a vein, opening my soul and sharing my feelings and thoughts and demons with the world”
followed by
“Liam had a performance and I didn’t want to miss that performance … I had plans that night to do it”
is why he gets no sympathy.
These 2 twisted fu*** can air all their crap (real or not) all they want, but the fact that they don’t care how this is going to mess their children up is just disgusting.
Jaderu- I read it as thinking of his son’s performance and not wanting to miss it is what derailed his plan for suicide that evening. So he was thinking of his kids. If people thought through all the problems for those they left behind, suicide would be quite rare. Sometimes people have fleeting suicidal thoughts, though, and that was what was probably happening with him. Especially if he’s on one of those dandy medications that have suicidal thoughts as a side effect.
Tori must be very difficult to live with, and getting more difficult every day. Being front and center with her latest plotlines must be quite painful, so I can believe he’s had enough of the camera. The kids are too old for all this – I remember Jon Gosselin saying that about his kids, that they were no longer babies and needed their privacy, he wanted to stop the show but Kate and TLC forced it and just smeared him. It’s really abusive, the kids are old enough to be embarrassed by everybody knowing their business but not old enough to really give free consent (especially with mom pushing it as their job).
Twisted.
And not in an entertaining way.
I hate to admit I watched it, but Charlie did not appear on the show, nor did we hear his voice. He met with Tori at a church for two hours off camera and they caught her crying for like, an hour after the visit. I wish we heard his side of the break up Tori, bc if she really feels like it was low- it was probably worse than she described.
What more do you want to hear she cheated on him than had her psychiatrist tell him it was over and married Dean two months later.
I just want to know that Charlie is okay, hopefully happily married and living a great life. I even find myself hoping he is living off her money, that she paid to get rid of him and he invested it wisely and is doing great.
Do we even know that she really met with him, or is this all an act as well?
How can he “quit” a show that was cancelled.
That boozy bloated face, blaahh
Wait so True Tori has been cancelled already ?
I don’t believe for a second he was suicidal.
Feeling sorry for either of them at this point is so gullible and naïve. Why would you ever feel sorry for people who are getting exactly what they wanted? Because their actions have consequences? The horror! *gasp*
I can’t help but feel slightly bad for Dean because if you watched the “background” episode they made earlier this season, he discusses how his life was really upended when his mother died in his presence (she had a brain hemorrage and died very rapidly in front of him). Such a thing usually leaves a serious impact, and he has my sympathies on that end. However, that’s about it.
In the last episode, the two of them actually fight over a potato. The oldest son wanted a baked potato and Tori was having troubl cooking it and Dean came home and tried to demonstrate how to cook it right, and she took offense and accused him of “underming” her, which led to both of them having a breakdown. I was sort of aghast watching that. First, how is it undermining if one of you is, really, maybe, a better cook than the other? And why does Dean react so strongly to everything? I don’t think either of them is especially decent as a person, but together they’re just so simpering and dysfunctional. At this point, divorce would probably actually be healthier, and that’s saying something.
Seriously? A Potato? *facepalm* Classic example of them putting their drama first, kids a distant second. Can we not just make a potato without working in the Days of Our Lives melodrama? What must the kid have felt watching these two imbeciles have a meltdown over a friggin’ spud? Everything they do is about them and their relationship and their problems, and their dysfunction–the kids be damned. I’ve heard that they get $ each time Tori pops another one out, if that’s true it would explain a lot. If they can’t handle making a potato together, they surely can’t handle running a family together.
How exactly does a woman her age with 4 kids in the internet age have trouble cooking a baked potato? I am definitely a non-cook myself, but even I know what to do with a baking potato. She could just google how to bake potato and plenty of instructions would have come up, even videos. That’s what I do when I’m not sure what to do with something. In ancient times, I would just check a basic cookbook, after blowing the dust off it.
awkward and icky all around.
I have a confession to make. I watched the first season of True Tori on Hulu Plus because I was bored. I recently relocated to follow my hubby’s promotion and I’m looking for work in our new city but that only takes up so many hours in a day. So basically, I blame unemployment on the fact that I watched this crap! LOL! It’s like watching a soap opera (but with even crappier writers) And after watching, I still don’t feel sorry for Tori or Dean. It’s true that you reap what you sow. I DO however feel sorry for the kids. They have no choice in this charade.
Toxic Tori.
For what it’s worth, I like Dean. I like his beady eyed douchenozzle self. They both cheated, but Tori is the one who keeps throwing it in everyone’s face. Tori is the one who grew up ultra rich & has no concept of money, Tori is the one who publicly held the estate sale with all her items proclaiming how poor she was. I have no issues with Dean getting a vasectomy, 4-5 kids ain’t cheap, but Tori could have made the choice to fix herself after 1, 2, 3, or the 4th kid with all the complications she had.
Thank you! I like Dean, despite his faults. If those kids have any chance at all, it’s because of Dean.
Neither of them look like they have an authentic bone their bodies.
Bad grifters.
Yes, but they can’t even grift well.
I do feel sorry for him. He’s possibly a sex-addict, and it sounds like he’s finally realizing how much damage he has done to himself with his choices. He needs therapy, and he probably does really, really need to get off reality television, where your job is basically to have a toxic life.
I wish him health and recovery.
He probably is thinking about the damage he’s done to himself and that pisses me off because I think that’s where the train stops. I don’t think he is considering the harm that his and his wife’s chaos is bringing to their kids. I’m actually not at all convinced that either one of them really cares about what is going on inside the tiny humans who they’ve dragged into this mess. Their both so self-centric that their children’s needs will always be a distant second to their own and that is so unfair.
1. From what I heard on Wendy Williams, Charlie didn’t appear on camera when he met with Tori. He refused to do so but talked to Tori in private instead. They met up at a church.
1a. I don’t know if Charlie got paid for his visit like Mary Jo did. But she appeared on camera, so maybe that’s why she got money. I’m thinking Charlie probably didn’t get paid because he refused to be on camera.
2. Dean has some nerve talking one bit about Candy and her money. Aaron Spelling wanted his daughter to have Dean sign a pre-nup. Instead they refused and married each other about a month before he died. If they were smart, they would have stayed in her father’s good graces if they had wanted more of an inheritance. She would have also sat on what money she did get instead of spending it on storage units full of junk and stupid investments. Also, he needs to get himself a real job to pay for his own children instead of relying on Candy to pay for his kids’ private school tuition. Can’t afford tuition? Get them to public school then.
2a. If he’s now saying PUBLICLY that Candy doesn’t help them out at all, even though she’s saying she does and has offered more financial help, then he just screwed Candy over. Good luck getting back into her good graces.
3. I thought I read that Dean walked out of the vasectomy appointment because 1) he didn’t want it filmed 2) he believes having kids connects him to Tori.
4. I read that Dean wasn’t getting paid for this current show anyways. So his ‘quitting’ a non-paying job isn’t much of a loss, is it.
No way do I feel sorry for him! He’s a total pig. You ever notice how when he is confronted about the things he has done, he turns the conversation around and makes it about his feelings, and how he wants to kill himself? It’s a load of BS. He just doesn’t want to have to take any responsibility. He thinks it’s enough for him to say he cheated and he’s sorry. He doesn’t want to hear about what his behavior did to anyone. He’s so gross.
I’m glad he isn’t on the show anymore. His manipulation of Tori and the kids is enraging.
They will be divorced by the end of the year.
Then, next thing, she’s gonna cheat on Dean with her ex-husband. How patethic and lame can she be?
I mean… whoever’s writing the script for their show really needs to be replaced. Can’t they afford a better, more creative writer? Suicidal thoughts? Bleh…
Tori’s first husband was so handsome and seems like a nice guy.
What was Tori thinking to leave him for Dean?
Right? That is what I always thought, too. And I remember their wedding was very beautiful, and Aaron Spelling walked her down the aisle.
And her dad, really liked Charlie, …Tori must be self destructive. I’ll never understand why she left that husband for Dean.
What a sad fkn mess these people’s lives are 🙁
Dean is a douche bag and she is a pathetic simp. They are getting what they deserve having each cheated on their spouses. Why this madness is still on television is a mystery. Someone must be calling in chits from the Aaron Spelling days. May they both rot in the hell of whores since that is what they both are….publicity, attention and morally.