Last month Halle Berry took her ex, Gabriel Aubry, to court over her claims that he had chemically straightened and lightened their six year-old daughter Nahla’s hair. Berry did this after petitioning, (unsuccessfully as far as we’ve heard) to have her child support to Aubry reduced from $16,000 a month to $3,800 a month. In court documents obtained by The Daily Mail, Berry claimed that the changes in her daughter’s hair could not be attributed to sun or chlorine damage. Berry also wrote that she sent a sample of Nahla’s hair to a lab for testing and that is confirmed her suspicions. If Berry submitted a copy of the lab report to the court it was not reported, however. She also claimed that Aubry repeatedly denied chemically straightening or dyeing their daughter’s hair. She wrote:
I have since reviewed the laboratory report concerning this very hair sample that I obtained, which confirms to me that Gabriel has not been truthful about what he has done and had been doing to our daughter’s hair.
I continue to worry about the potential psychological and physical damage to Nahla that can be caused by the use of chemical hair treatments and the psychological message that it conveys to Nahla, and to implore the court to put a stop to Gabriel’s attempts to alter our daughter’s appearance and most probably cause her to wonder why her natural appearance is not good enough.
As a result of Halle’s claim, the judge ruled that neither Aubry nor Berry could alter their daughter’s natural hair.
I thought this was just a case of former partners arguing over how to care for a little girl’s hair, although some readers had strong feelings about chemical hair treatments for children and their impact on racial identity. All of that may be moot, however, if Aubry wasn’t actually doing any of the things that Halle accused him of in court.
A new brief TMZ article features cute photos of Gabriel doting on Nahla and toying with her hair. They look so happy and comfortable together and you can tell that Gabriel adores his daughter. TMZ also has a few lines attributed to a source. This kind of sums it up for me:
We’ve learned Gabriel NEVER used chemicals on Nahla’s hair. It was all courtesy of a blow dryer. What’s more, we’re told Gabriel thinks Halle is being ridiculous and is just trying to keep the custody war going over nothing
That’s what many people were saying all along, and I tend to believe it.
I have to add that in the photo set on TMZ, Gabriel and Nahla are being photographed by a young brunette woman wearing an engagement ring. I was going to speculate that she could be Gabriel’s fiance but I checked out other photos of her out with Gabriel and Nahla and she looks more like a nanny type.
Photos of Gabriel out with Nahla are from August, 2014. Credit: Rocstar FameFlynet
Her hair there looks like a lot of my mixed race girlfriends hair. It also looks like a mixture between Halle and Gabriel. Does anyone think that Halle may have altered her hair on purpose to go to court? Just saying way to co-parent Halle. I feel sorry for when this girl gets older and she really understands what is going on. Hope Halle saves money for the therapists she will be giving Nahla or herself when Nahla writes her Mommy Dearest book.
I was thinking the same thing.
And thing even will be worst whe Halle will dump her crazy boyfriend.
I’ve considered Halle might have done it herself. I hope the judge asks Nahla. She’s old enough to say–if she’s not afraid to.
wouldn’t be fair to pit the kid against either one of her parents. She loves them both. All we can do, really, is pray for parental mental health and some divine intervention to help keep this poor kid sane.
I really don’t like the blaming of Halle or pointing out a possible abuse. So she’s to blame for “creating a childhood of havoc” for Nahla, while the child’s hair is being chemically straightened? Halle is just protecting her child. Nahla doesn’t have to know about adult matters, but adults can and should confront abuse. Just because Halle grew up in a ghetto doesn’t mean she’s “crazy” or “man hating”- it means she’s resilient and sheroic to have survived and become successful.
We can only hope for a tell-all memoir from this kid.
Is there such deep emotional turmoil going on in Halle, that she does not want her daughter to have a calm childhood!
Does she create constant drama in her daughter’s life, with her father, so that her daughter will be robbed of a peaceful childhood?
What if this constant drama and fighting is really not really about Gabriel, the fighting may be about Nahla…and Halle not wanting this girl to know what a peaceful, calm childhood is…
wondering….
@someonestolemyname: I have been thinking the same thing. She didn’t have a peaceful childhood with a father loving her. Maybe she doesn’t want her daughter to have it because she never did.
@Miss M
I read a Reader’s Digest biography thingy on her, and I remember she talked about how hard it was for her and her sister, living in the ‘ghetto’, how she was the only one with a white mother, and her father did nothing for her–financially or emotionally.
I hope he gets a job so Nahla will know real men work and don’t live off their their child’s child support.He can be a loving father AND a provider. He can work while she is in school, the nanny can pick her up from school.
Seriously. So tired of people dumping on Halle while Gabriel gets to be an angel, with his grifter butt.
Agreed. I am sick and tired of people giving Gabriel a pass. I’m ‘really’ sick and tired of people holding Halle to a different standard than they do other actresses going through the same thing. For me? It’s … she’s Black, so she’s ‘crazy.’ Chris Brown is Black so he’s a ‘crazy animal’ yet Charlie Sheen is just a ‘bad boy.’ I love this gossip site, but it gets old here.
And why in the world would Gabriel need a ‘Nanny’ for Nahla?
In the last post about this, someone looked this up and saw that he’s actually working quite steadily. They listed off several recent ads/campaigns he’d done.
I was walking ,well more so running through an airport in Europe, days ago and he had huge Ads for some campaign.
It’s cents to her.
I do not know his schedule, but besides whatever modeling he still does, he probably has a job already going to attorneys appointments to defend his case. He’d probably lose his job thanks to Halle anyway, having to tend to lawyers.
Halle may work, but as an actress she has lots of time off. To me, it would diminish the quality of time he spends with her.
When he was caring for Nahla when she was on set she was probably happy to having him.
Sorry, disagree with the vibe. If this were –oh say a Charlie Sheen ex–you wouldn’t have a problem with the ex-Mrs. Sheen collecting child support and caring for the child and letting career take a back seat. No difference here. They share custody practically 50/50, he’s a hands on, doting and loving dad who has chosen his parenting as the top priority in his life. The ex has an income that — due to the equality we all craved — puts her in the ‘child support’ seat.
I’m sure he is doing some modeling work as others in this thread have noted. Is he off to Milan for the fashion season? Nope. He’s staying in Hollywood for his daughter’s soccer season.
Good for him, I say.
Team Gabriel. Halle is bat-$hit crazy and sleeps upside down.
@Kim1
Except he does do ad campaigns (or whatever they’re called). I posted them on one of the last threads–he’s had 2-3 different modelling jobs (like catalogues,etc) since he and Halle broke up. Plus he owns a restaurant, if I’m not mistaken. So I don’t get where this ‘he doesn’t have a job’ thing comes from.
I highly doubt your “intel” VC. No way a judge is awarding $16,000/month to someone to even out the income disparities if he is working to the extent you claim. IF there is even a restaurant (usually celebs attach their names to these projects for tiny chunk of the equity) it must be a serious loss maker if a judge went in this direction
I’m sick of it too. Happens too much on this site to WOC, to be honest. Why she is portrayed as crazy for wanting her child with her 24/7 is beyond me. She’s moved on, had another child with her current husband, so its probably not even about him anymore. But nah, lets just call her crazy and leave it at that.
TMZ wants to show one side of the story, even if they have both sides (remember how they sat on the Justin Bieber n-word video?) If they want to flip the script and say that Gabe is a lazy father mooching off Halle, I don’t doubt they have the footage. But they know that saying Halle is the bad parent sells.
@ Brandi & everyone else attacking Gabriel Aubrey on this child support issue…child support is based solely on income and parenting time. If a judge finds that you are underemployed for any reason other than health issues they will impute income and that will be your contribution to child support. Halle makes millions for each picture she makes, and probably makes at least 2 to 3 a year and he is a model that probably makes anywhere from $50,000 (low end) to tops $300,000 per year. The $16,000 per month wasn’t just pulled out of the judge’s a**…it was based on their income and parenting time.
The problem is Halle initially stopped paying what the court ordered and then keeps taking it to court and losing from an impartial judge. Also, the initial amount was upped, because she said Aubrey couldn’t support Nahla the way she was accustomed to so the judge made her pay him more. For whatever reason, and probably something personal with her past Halle really doesn’t want to have the father of her child in her life. He is working although not making Halle money. Somehow they both need to get on the same page or book at least. This really isn’t a color issue for most I think she seems a bit vindictive. Three court cases in a year all filed by her. By the way Chris Rock Rocks so I don’t know what anyone’s deal is against him personal problems or not. Charlie Sheen is a violent drug addict who can never seem to stay straight for longer than a nanosecond.
yay for antiquated gender roles! how progressive! Failing to understand how being a SAHM is considered a full time job but if a dad prefers to stay home, all of a sudden he’s lazy, useless, a gold digger, etc….really having trouble wrapping my head around that one.
@ kim1
pls read the other posts about the ads gabe is in. etc etc.
to deblorb
just b/c halle is WOC does not mean she can’t be crazy. i think some people ARE giving her a pass b/c she IS a WOC.
even if gabe did not work, take that opinion, what is wrong with a SAH dad? seems like there’s plenty of charlie sheen’s exes living off him, as mentioned. why is it different because it’s a guy?
I feel like halle and others are trying to make this into a race issue, when it’s really a crazy beyotch issue. If a guy were to try to pull the stunts halle has, people on here would be all over his ass. it’s not any different b/c he’s white and male.
Was this an aside or are you saying he shouldn’t get a pass about her hair?
Doing a shoot for Hugo Boss and one for Barneys once a year is not working unless he was paid 6 or 7 figures for each campaign which is doubtful. What shows has it done in the year.If you guys think that working a few days a year and then listing his gym membership as an expense… GMAB
Is there a double standard Yes of course I believe a Single Dad should work.Call me old school.
@Emma, he may not work, but remember that he does not have a family support system in the US. He needs someone to leave his daughter with in case he has to go somewhere where he cannot take her, or if he has to leave her alone even for a while.
It is hard to be a parent and not having family or trusted people to help you for an hour or two. Halle being so aggressive, I get that he hires someone, she could complain that who knows is relating to her daughter.
He has her for half the time, and her mom has full staff. Even if she works, she might not need many employees either.
Emma, I think most people on this site would agree that Charlie Sheen is not a bad boy at all: he is one crazy, messed up, d&^chebag, sorry excuse for a parent. It’s disgusting that anyone is paying him $$ for a show, but at least I can exercise my economic right not to watch his sorry A$% on TV.
The lazy guy needs to get off his useless butt & get a job, rather than sponging off Halle Berry. As far as anyone can tell he’s able bodied. Gold diggers are gross.
He has a job… he’s a model and a father.
yeah see the link comment 25 provided
“Does anyone think that Halle may have altered her hair on purpose to go to court?”
From what I have read, Halle did the testing and the sourcing of the hair sample all on her own before they went to court. The hair was supposedly pulled from Nahla’s hair brush, but the source wasn’t documented.
Totally agree w/ you and Mimi. You can see her hair is lighter at the ends. I believe that Gabriel did it to her hair, Halle would know better having mixed hair and knowing what heating and chemicals would do to it.
I see ads with him, so I think he is working steadly, but I suppose if Aubrey was a woman with a decent (not something like Gisele, but steady jobs and contracts) modeling career , who toned down the business schedule to be more around the daughter, things would be very different.
And I bet what you want that if he was more busy, Halle would go to court saying he is absent from their daughter life.
Gabe probably did change her hair a bit, but it’s not the end of the world. Still, if I were the mother, I would definitely ask him to not change the hair in the future, and if he continued, then she has to seek a court order. I’m really happy Gabe has a relationship with his daughter and didn’t cave to Halle’s tantrums. If the hair is a problem, then the judge just orders that neither of them change the hair, End of Story. Unfortunately, when there are bad feelings between ex partners and a child is involved, then there exists an unpleasant amount of negative energy. I’m sure the child must feel it, too. The best thing would be for them to remain cooperative and try to move on from any harsh feelings. Halle, are you reading this?
I rather suspect (and I hope for Nahla’s sake I’m wrong) that the real issue here might be that Nahla looks far more like her Dad than she does like Halle and she resents that. Hence the “one drop” comments and making it all about race and “trying to make her look more white”. Not a very nice message to pass along to your child. 🙁
And that given the amount of time, money and scheming she seems to have devoted to trying to erase Gabe from her daughter’s life, she’s attributing any changes in her daughter to Gabe attempting to do the same thing, only it’s based around “my daughter doesn’t look like ME, ME, ME”.
The person downthread who mentioned that Berry needs to love her daughter more than she hates Gabe is right. I’ll add that she also needs to love her daughter more than she loves her own ego., because I think there’s a very large helping of that going on too.
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I think people might be confusing child support payments and alimony. Halle pays Gabriel $16k/month in Child Support NOT alimony. Child support money goes to the kid and is meant to allow the child to enjoy the same level of life style that they did prior to the separation. So it doesn’t seem exorbitant that Nahla’s child support would be $16k/month, based on the lifestyle she must have had with both parents living together before they divorced.
Alimony goes to the ex-spouse and works the same way as child support – the parent with the higher income pays money to the ex-spouse to allow them to have the same level of lifestyle as prior to the separation. I don’t know if Halle pays alimony to Gabriel but the $16k/month is for NAHLA not him. Unless he’s stealing Nahla’s money, he’s not “freeloading”. All child support expenses would need to be accounted for and documented, and I’m sure in this case he probably keeps good records if Halle is of the habit of trying to get Nahla’s child support payment reduced.
Personally I think it’s gross that Halle, who has tons of money and is a very highly paid actress, is trying to cheap out on the money that goes to HER DAUGHTER. I’d be embarrassed to make that application to have the child support reduced to $3k/month if I were her.
And I agree with other commentators – if the situation was reversed, there would be an outcry of “how dare that monster Gabriel not support his suffering ex-wife and single mother to his child!” Can you imagine if it was HIM trying to reduce his payment from $16k to $3k??! The outcry!!! Whereas since he’s a man, all of a sudden there’s some weird 1950’s mentality of “he should be a man and make the money” and he’s “lazy” and a “gold digger”.
If he was a woman, people would be praising what a committed parent he was to put his daughter before his career and defending his right to stay at home.
I do feel sorry for Gabriel. Imagine living with stuff from Halle all the time. Where is her head? why does she hate him so much?
I think Halle is one of those people who is basically miserable and only nice to someone when she wants something.
I don’t think Halle was ever a pleasant person, I think her PR and Management just covered her antics during her younger years , but even then there were people quieting talking about how she could be a nightmare.
It seems Halle does whatever she can to try and alienate Nahla from her Dad but in every picture you can clearly see how much she adores him. Halle needs to love Nahla more than she hates Gabriel.
Absolutely! All if this will totally backfire in Halle in a few years. KARMA…. It knows your address!!
I think who Halle hates is herself.
She sounds like a unhappy person. IMO
@someonestolemyname: So true! She’s unhappy inside, and consciously, or not, re-creates the drama of her childhood for her daughter. She also doesn’t really love men, I think. She uses them, but wants to call the shots, and later disposes them. I guess she only married Martinez because she wanted to take her daughter out of Gabriel’s sight, to Paris. It didn’t work out this way, so it seems by now, she’s getting truly ‘inventive’ with her actions to discredit Nahla’s father.
This perfectly sums things up.
” Halle needs to love Nahla more than she hates Gabriel. ”
I agree. When you have child with someone, unless they are a danger or harmful to the child, you need to accept that they will play a role and have influence in your child’s life.
And a good part of her money problems (paying Gabriel support) might be eased if she quit hiring attorneys and taking him to court. All that court action is not cheap. She could save herself money and heart ache by trying to get along with Gabriel for Nahla’s sake, and quit throwing her money away on legal fees.
SMH
Did they have a “before and after” hair sample? This child clearly leads an active lifestyle, for all we know, she could be swimming and using who knows what shampoo.
I respect that she wants her child to respect her ethnicity, but truly, the child is and looks very much like her father. He has strong genes. She is a beautiful mix. Halle is pretty too, but messed up, really, why does she have white fathers for her children when she has so many issues with race?
I think she is reacting and saying all this things in fear, somehow, like if she doesn’t do this, then Nahla won’t be “black” enough, or relate to her, I don’t know.
I think Halle has issues because of the kind of parenting she had, clearly she has issues, and she all end passing those issues to her child.
I truly believe HB is gasping at straws, looking for whatever new excuse to fight her ex. She seems so high strung, and here I thought tha having another baby would relax and “distract” her from being so obnoxious.
The girl seems happy in the relationship with her dad. If I were the mom, I’d say if my child is happy, I am happy.
He’s not doing anything to her hair.
Halle is gorgeous but INSANE.
I always found her hugely overrated.
And apparently the test didn’t say that there were chemicals from straightening-just that there had been general damage from the one strand that came off the hairbrush.
There were reports that Aubrey was saying that her hair getting lighter was from the sun and the pool, and yes-a blow dryer. If he was using chemicals to straighten Nahla’s hair that’s one thing, but I tend to agree with everyone that this is just Halle being Halle again. She didn’t get what she wanted once again and just has to keep starting trouble. It’s still about winning for her-not about the best care for her daughter.
She’s an idiot for going to the trouble of a lab report because she can’t tell by looking and touching whether something Nahla has chemically altered hair.
Considering her own hair is probably chemically altered and she uses weaves occasionally, she should know what chemically altered hair looks like vs natural hair because the 2 look and feel very different.
As for the damage, from personal experience, I believe the blow dryer defence.
I don’t know about the straightening, but little girls hair looks just like any little girl who has spent the summer in the pool! Especially one with dark hair.
I’m not as enamoured by this guy as most of you so I’ll say what I first said, he needs to just cut it out with the hair tampering, i dont care whether its a blow dry or whatever. My hair has tighter coils than Nahlas and my mum almost never applied heat to it to make it straighter. If he cant manage her hair as it is he needs to get on some natural hair blogs chap chap.
Incidentally growing up I resented my mum for not blow drying my hair like the other girls. Not because I was worried about managing it but because I thought my curls were ugly and nothing like the blonde dolls we played with or the “beautiful” women on tv.
Many people want what they don’t have. I longed for curls, like my cousins’ when my hair was very straight.
I wanted to see with two eyes when I have amblyopia.
I said it before, there are women, mothers (different races, I saw whites) who style their daughters hair, and even use tools. The horror! The girls looked like dolls going to school, and probably came back looking the same, not a hair out of place, poor kids. I was appalled because I thought they were not enjoying their childhood having to care for those artificial hairstyles, but it was the mom’s prerogative.
Funny that now the father cannot do anything, well, at least Halle can’t either.
This is so ridiculous that I can envision her saving hairs and samples from Nahla, and Gabriel having to do the same to protect himself.
Also, Nahla’s grandmother on Halle’s side has blond straight hair, and as far as I know, loose curls on children sometimes evolve naturally to straighter hair.
Sad.
Have you considered that he didn’t think it mattered especially because he is dealing with a little girl with hair texture closer to his than to black hair?
I have a white cousin-in-law whose daughter has very similar hair texture as Nahla. It’s long and silky with a wave. Blond at the tips. Every time her hair is washed, cousin-in-law uses a blow dryer on it for the simple reason that is how she styles her own hair.
It’s never occurred to her to treat her daughter’s hair any differently since they have very similar textures of hair despite daughter being mixed race rather than full white.
We’ve had conversations about blow dryer damage to the hair, but CIL isn’t doing it to change her daughter’s appearance or make her look more white or whatever. It’s how she was raised, and she’s simply passing on the same to her own child.
On the other end of the spectrum, my mother loved threading our hair when we were young. I’m still traumatised by the horror (no matter how visually beautiful it looks) of African hair threading. the tight roots such that you had a week long headache until new hair grew in or the thread loosened. And if you were especially unlucky, it was threaded into a helmet style such that you couldn’t rest your head against anything.
LAK, I just looked it up, and my tender headed self feels for your scalp. God, I used to hate getting my hair braided. Especially since my hair is really thick, so it ALWAYS took forever, and of course there was always a point where my mom would stop and split the braids in half because she made them too big. I’m so glad I got dreadlocks.
And about him blow drying it–he probably didn’t even think that it was causing damage. Or enough damage that it needed to be analyzed by a lab. He probably put whatever hair oil/lotion that went into her hair (after washing it/getting it wet), and then blow dried it.
And Nahla could be someone who doesn’t like wet hair on her neck. I have an entire complex about that–unless the rest of me is wet, I leave my head in a towel for HOURS until its mostly dry because I can’t stand wet hair/wet clothes on me. Doesn’t mean he’s purposefully damaging her hair. And he’s at least attempting to do something with her hair–if it wasn’t for my mom, when we were kids, we all would’ve been walking around like orphans, because my dad let us go out of the house any kind of way. And even now he doesn’t make my little brother comb his little blond/brown afro (which we refer to as a tumbleweed) while my mom’s gone.
VC: don’t talk to me about braiding!!! LOL. My mother would send us to this Maasai lady who took several days to braid our hair. No matter how much you entreated her to have larger, looser braids that would take 4hrs tops, she always did her own thing whereby the braids were so tiny and tight that we joked she was braiding 3 strands of hair at a time. Another week or two of headaches until the hair loosened.
The result lasted months, but the removal was just as traumatic.
I very rarely braid my hair as an adult. Another style that i’m still makes me shudder.
LAK, its sounds like we come from the same part of the world. I remember the threading trend and how bad it was for the hair line. And if it was done really tight, you lost facial movement for a couple of days. I take exception to anyone trying to compare that to blow drying and flat ironing hair though. Threading is age old styling thats designed to emphasize rather than disguise the African in me. Blow drying is all about getting the hair straighter and as far away from its natural state as possible. Even if I buy the argument that he just doesnt want Nahlas hair air drying then he can use the blow dryer sans comb to dry it out. Using a comb with a blow dryer on hair with an African genetic line makes a very definite statement on the desirability of texture in said hair.
@LAK
You have me beat. My mom did straight cornrows (sometimes with a design, but nothing too fancy), or she would braid our hair with multiple pigtails…nothing that would take more than 3 hours. But what I hated most was when my older sister did my hair. OMFG–she braided TIGHT. I’d have a headache for about a week afterwards. And my mom never understood why I hated her doing my hair, until she had my sister braid hers once….she had a headache for like three days afterwards (and this was after she had her dreadlocks for YEARS).
I like my dreadlocks better–although I wish they’d hurry up and stop being fuzzy. I simply had my hair braided into the multiple loose braids, and then use a latch hook to tighten them–it takes me four hours, tops, a month.
I have very curly hair that is a unique texture (not found in fashion magazine hairstyle articles! I am a 3B on the curly girl scale.), and my straight haired mother had no idea what to do with it. She took me to stylist after stylist. They didn’t know what to do with it for soooo long. Some stylists would just cut it dry, some would not, but EVERYONE would scrunch it and fluff it as it dried. From birth until about 10 years old, I thought I just had fuzzy hair, as my mom would blow dry and brush my hair to prevent horrific knots. When I was in 5th grade, we let it air-dry on a weekend, and ringlets sprung up out of nowhere. People kept asking if I got a perm and I’d reply “I’d don’t know what happened?!?”
Sometimes, girls with hair texture that doesn’t fit the norm have to go through a trial and error process. Even professionals don’t know what to do with every hair type. There are so many hair types! Many times, the blow drying process on kids is an attempt to prevent knots and tangles that are painful to unwind.
Lol I’m a half breed so no one in my family knew what to do with my hair, especially bc my sister is only 11 months older and our hair is as different from each other as from our parents. My gramma tried putting the stove heated type pressing comb through my hair. Man…I’m too tender headed for that. My knuckles were bruised for a week bc I kept throwing my hands on my head and she’d clock me with the comb! Lol I’m 30 now and I still don’t let other ppl in my hair.
I don’t know about that as I know a lot of African American girls as young as Nahla whose mothers take them and spend hours getting their hair done either straightened or braided or even extensions. This seems more African American culture than Aubrey’s. Regardless if the other parent is doing something you don’t agree with, don’t you discuss it and not go take hair to a lab and then go to court. It’s going to be a long expensive 12 years if she keeps this up.
Ever seen Chris Rock’s Good Hair? My daughter who is white with straight as a board long hair always loved African American hair and wanted the curls. I let her watch Good Hair and what they did to their hair, and she was devastated. As she liked their hair naturally. We all want what we don’t have.
You are right of course @noway. It’s going to be a very expensive (for Halle) and very tiresome (for Gabriel) 12yrs if she keeps dragging him to court for every little thing.
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try reading the article, he did not do anything to her hair.
You are assuming the blow dryer is used to straighten instead of drying. Heat on hair (especially if it’s been in chlorinated water) is damaging no matter how it’s used.
Many blowdryers also have a cold air setting
Brandi: my comment about threading was a response to Jasmine who related a story about how her mother dealt with her hair and how she resented it.
In the context of Halle/gabriel, my father had no say in how our hair was done no matter how much we complained about the headaches and the tight styles. If we were in a Halle situation, one parent would be taking the other to court for child abuse and making us conform to hairstyles that weren’t our natural hairstyles.
And for the record, just because something has been done for centuries, doesn’t make it good for you so we can’t dismiss these things under the umbrella of culture when a person suffers for it.
Stephanie: I remember the stove hot comb!!! My grannie used a coal heated one. The smell of singed hair!!! LOL 🙂
Seems like Halle Berry is a spiteful person, does and say anything to make her ex look bad to save some spousal support money. Sad to say it because I always liked her! 🙁
If he actually had chemically straightened or lightened Nahla’s hair, obviously that would be wrong and I’d be Team Halle.
BUT, after dragging this man to court every 6 months, trying to move his daughter to another country, and misc. crazy along the way, I just can’t believe anything she says. I think she would do ANYTHING to cut him out of their daughter’s life.
SMH- doesn’t Halle straighten her own hair? What kind of message is that sending to their daughter? Isn’t that more of a potentially psychological damaging message than a hairdryer??
It must be so hard and tiresome to have to put up with this woman. And he has like 12 years to go! My niece has hair just like Nahla and you would be amazed at what a blow dryer in capable hands can do to her hair. This is just Halle being cra cra again. She needs to leave it alone and let her daughter enjoy her relationship with her father. End of it.
If I had to guess, the white nanny did it for a little bit of fun. Hey, let’s play with hair! It’s fun! I’m a little girl!
Cut to Halle throwing a fit that someone blow dried Nahla’s hair and made up an elaborate lie to justify her craziness.
+1 probably true.
Agreed.
It was obvious that it was BS. I don’t know how Halle has the energy, honestly.
She probably “gets off” on spreading misery, to her ex and trying to ruin any fun her daughter may have had with her dad.
Yes, I agree, Halle is someone who thrives on drama and chaos. That’s her form of “happiness”.
halle needs to take her head out of her butt and finally start doing what is in the best interest of her daughter – trying to foster a good relationship between herself and gabriel. or at least a decent one so that they can co-parent without being in court several times a year.
Her hatred of Aubrey is unconscionable and totally out of proportion with whatever the reason(s) were for their split. Halle likely suffers from narcissistic personality disorder and nobody, but nobody, tells her what to do or rejects her demands. That’s like baiting a tiger with a lump of meat. However she’s off-balance to the point where she has repeatedly used Nahla to strike back at him and that is sick. I hope this darling little girl grows up without some kind of emotional trauma to deal with, and her father seems to be doing his utmost to raise her as normally as possible.
And as far as her race issues are concerned, I concur with a poster above that it’s fine that Halle identifies with her black lineage despite having a white mother, but her “one drop makes you black” attitude is strange considering she’s had 2 children by white men. Does she consider Nahla wholly black? Does she insist that Nahla identify with her black lineage only? I think there’s a certain amount of self-hatred going on in Halle’s mind that only a deep psychiatric assessment would uncover, but for now it’s coming out in her spiteful behaviour with Aubrey and continuing attacks on his parenting. She’ll stop at nothing.
She does consider both her kids black–not mixed race, at least from her past comments. I find it odd. I could see her teaching her kids that the world at large will treat you like you’re a black person, and not a black AND white person–like I was taught, because I am mixed race–but not teaching her children that they’re only one thing. They’re not. They’re both.
VC, how old were you when your parents had the race talk with you? Did you really understand it? I was 4 and I just didn’t get what they were saying. I’m the youngest of 4 plus we had my parents and my gramma in the house so we had different complexions, hai textures/colors, and eye colors so I wasn’t able to box in and make races in my mind. Also the said black and white which I took literally (as in this text on this background) and just decided they didn’t know their colors. Lol
I was about 10/11. And at the time I really sort of didn’t understand why she told me that people would consider me black, and if we were living in the 50’s then I’d be treated the same as any other black person–and I didn’t understand because besides my hair, I look white. Like seriously. If I got a perm, everyone would just think that I was your average white girl–I am like pasty white, and don’t tan at all. AT ALL. Seriously–I once sat in 90+ degree weather all day, no shade, and I got a little red for a few days.
So when I was younger, I didn’t really consider myself to be black. At least not JUST black.
Ah… my parents never told me ppl would view me as Black. They did say minority though. That might be bc we are in NYC with a huge range of ethnicities. People have just as hard a time believing I’m Black as believing I’m White.
I’m over 40 and we never had “the race talk” . I did not even knew that was a thing. I had a white mother, a black father, my father ears, my mother temper, my grandmother nose, and my own color.
Of course I was born, raised and I live in Europe.
Yes, in other countries is different, people are not so hung up in dissecting races and labeling/using libels.
There might be colorism or other ways to differentiate, or some kind of discrimination, but to the extent of discussion as in the US, I don’t think so.
NAhla’s father is Canadian, and even if he is aware of the issue, he probably sees it differently and deals with it differently than Halle regarding Nahla.
Halle once said she believes in the One Drop theory.
Halle once said she believes in the One Drop rule.
Yes, I watched an interview where Halle said she believed in the “one drop rule”, but I wonder if she even knows where that terms originated from? Its actually a derogatory term used to segregate people of color.
i think halle b is a disgraceful parent. it appears that she trolled for “beauty” genes and found them in gabriel. the man wants to be a father to his child yet she throws every manner of monkey wrench into the mix to make this as difficult as possible. she is half white her daughter is 3/4 white. get over it halle. pay what the jduge ordered you to pay and dont complain. if you continue to persecute her fahter nahla will hate you for it and then, no amount of your money will undue the damage. why don’t you grow up and be an example for her? focus on the current man in your life. haven’t you finished chewing him up and spitting him out yet? well get on it!
+10,000
I can see that being true actually. I remember reading an interview with Halle years ago and she was asked about becoming a mom (she just had Nahla). She said that she always knew she would hit a certain age when she wanted to have a baby, and whoever she was with at the time would be the father. So I would believe that she would have had a child with Gabriel just because of the timing and the gene pool he offered.
It’s a tad psychotic to send the child’s hair to a lab for testing to see if it’s been chemiclt treated. How paranoid can you be?
At this point she’s looking for anything to make him look like a bad parent. I’m sure this isn’t last time she’ll bring him to court for something. I just don’t know if this about getting child payments reduced or if she’s still looking to move to France with Nahla.
thank you. and people say she’s being called crazy b/c she’s WOC. NO! It’s b/c she does act crazy, imo. she totally comes across as a vengeful ex to me
Seriously. Couldn’t she just ask her kid? “Did daddy do XYZ to your hair?”
Or maybe she did ask and the answer Nahla gave was “no”, which clearly wasn’t what Halle wanted to hear…
I miss Halle’s old face. She was so cute in “Boomerang.”
agreed.
wasn’t she just beautiful then?
still…got to admit…her plastic surgery turned her into an exquisite beauty…
but all fawning over that fabricated beauty drives me nuts.
she’s gorgeous because she’s had surgery.
Yup. And with her nose was narrowed… which one could argue makes her look ‘more white’ LOL
I’m no Aubrey fan, but isn’t it obvious that he didn’t chemically straighten Nahla’s hair? Nahla’s hair is more wavy than curly, why would he even need to? Even if he wanted to straighten her hair he could just quickly blow dry it.
It’s Occam’s razor: the simplest explaination is that she spent some time in the pool and the sun and got blonder. And her hair texture doesn’t look any different. I don’t get why Halle is so appalled that her daughter has dark blonde hair (as a little girl!) when Halle’s own mother is a blonde and Nahla’s father is blonde, too.
It looks obvious to me. Her hair is partly straight and partly curly/wavey, which looks really natural. If it had been chemically straightened, it would be straight all over. A chemical treatment wouldn’t result in some parts being straight, and some being curly.
I don’t know the full story but he’s VERY handsome. Nahla is a cutie too.
he can tamper with my hair or whatever he likes on my body any day…
just saying…
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I got dibs bish! jk! about the bish! but i got dibs
LOL!
Pfft. I had a feeling it was nothing more than a straight-haired dad not knowing how to deal with his daughter’s curly hair. Halle’s a lunatic, seriously.
My 10 y/o niece had curly hair when she was little, though it straightened out later. You could always tells when my brother did her hair that morning, instead of my SIL.
To everyone telling Gabriel to get a job… he has one… he is working. http://models.com/models/Gabriel-Aubry/client
I don’t think it matters–at least for those who will persist in the narrative that Gabriel is a free for all moocher. I posted this exact same link on one of the last threads–when it was brought up that Gabriel didn’t work. And even then, someone on the upthread said that it wasn’t valid because Gabriel gets child support. Gabriel definitely does not even make 1 million a year–Halle has millions, makes millions a year. THAT’S why she’s paying child support. And even then–she ISN’T even paying it. So in this scenario, she’s no better than a guy ditching the support of their child, but then expects to have open access to that child whenever they want.
I really feel for Gabriel. Truly. Putting up with the constant stream of vitriol and lawsuits coming from Halle and knowing his daughter will continue to be in the middle of this for life. I can picture the drama Halle will throw even when Nahla is an adult – “if your dad is coming for Xmas, I won’t be there” and “if he walks you down the aisle I will be outside the church”… seriously, the woman is a lunatic. If you look at her relationship history, it is pretty clear that she transforms into a vindictive witch after things are over.
Glad to see others taking Gabriel’s side – as others have said it before, he does work and he is a fabulous parent from all we see, and he has never sold his story to the tabloids as most exes in a bitter fight have done, never trash talked Halle. What does that tell you??
And bravo VC – you are entirely correct about how support is determined and paid. Also, can we please get off the “he is a man and needs to go to work” narrative? Any parent should be able to stay home and raise a child if they can afford and want to, regardless of gender. Any parent after a split gets support from the wealthier ex-partner, regardless of gender.
I wish he’d have ended up with someone sane, maybe less rich and famous, but a decent person to have the family he had always wanted. He makes me think of another guy who has been through the wringer and is just quietly raising his daughter, Larry (I think it’s Larry) Birkhead, Danielynn’s dad. They both sound like decent, loving men who fathered a child with difficult women, but are doing a great job despite it.
As I’ve said before if Aubry was a woman the comments would be sooo different..
To me he looks like a decent person not the brightest but decent, and I think probably he is rich on his own, not Halle Berry rich, but for us mere mortals he is wealthy.
Halle is doing whatever she can to alienate him from their daughter life: she goes to court every now and then, she did try to move to another country, whatever he does she goes to court. As I’ve said before if he had a much more fulled business schedule she would go to court complaining he is neglecting his parent duties.
I am used to see absent fathers, fathers who disappear from their children lives, here we have a man who try to be in his daughter life, and that’s why I’m team Aubry on this.
thank you so much!
Do you realize most full time models have dozens of jobs listed not ONE job for Barneys which was probably shot in one day or two.I give up this guy is lazy. Halle can be crazy AND this guy can be lazy.
Most models that have dozens of jobs don’t have 50% custody of their children & an ex that takes them back into court every chance they get. Most models don’t have an ex that would abscond with their child if they did not live close by and only choose certain jobs that are close to home. Most models are not 39 years old… how many jobs do you think he could possibly be getting every year anyway?
Child support is based on income & parenting time of both parties and if judge felt he was lazy like you’re saying (legal terms it’s called underemployed) he’d impute income. Unless you personally know what they both submitted to to the judge as their income, you’re purely speculating that he’s lazy. And what is wrong with being an involved dad?
I totally agree with you Tammy. There is a belief among some that Gabriel must be turning down all of these lucrative modeling jobs to get more child support. I think the reality is that the amount of projects he is offered decreases as he gets older. Further, Halle may have hurt his employment prospects with all the negative publicity. Gabriel has been accused of being racist, child abuse, child neglect and chemically straightening the child’s hair. If her allegations were true, which company would hire him to be the face of their brand.
Some have suggested that Aubry should transition into a new career but it takes time to build a new career. What is crazy is that Halle is actually paying below guideline support at $16,000. Aubry is actually entitled to 20-26k based on his income but he accepted less so I do not know why she is seeking a modification.
Most full-time models are in their twenties. They have a “best before” age limit. He may be able to transition to doing catalogue work and commercials for Taco Bell for a lot less money, but his days as a top model are over. He’s a devoted dad and probably won’t take a lot of international work which would keep him away from Nahla, which limits him as well. Give the guy a break…he’s not a grifter, he just had the immense bad luck to hook up with a head case who is determined to ruin him and his relationship with his cherished daughter.
@Jaded
That’s the thought I had. What happens if he takes a job out of the country, and has to be gone for longer than when Halle has their daughter? After all the stuff Halle’s dragged him to court for, I wouldn’t be surprised if she would drag him to court for neglect/abandonment. Which is why I, as a parent, would be leary of accepting job offers that I had to leave the state for. Add to the fact that he’s nearly forty, he has an ex that is continually dragging him to court (and trust me, my own sperm donor did this for two years to try and get out of paying child support–he only came when they finally told him that he’d be arrested if he didn’t show up to court), and her now husband beat him up (IN THE FACE). Yeah. I’d stay put too.
And we don’t know how much money he has. For all we know, he saved up his money when he was younger since every male model knows their shelf life is smaller than a woman’s in that industry. He has a few jobs a year. So what? It’s not like he’s working at McDonalds–normal people could live for a year off of what he makes for a few jobs in a few weeks.
Life Lesson: Never ever ever be in a relationship with Halle Berry and most of all, never ever have children with her. She will make your life a living Hell.
He’s not exactly a catch himself. I hate bums that don’t work.
The only people I’ve heard say that he doesn’t work is from Halle’s camp.
And then there were the many months he had to recover from Halle’s then boyfriend being Gabriel’s face in, which is an income-destroyer since he’s a model.
He works, he’s not a bum. But his life has been disrupted by this maniac he had a child with, his age is a detriment to finding lucrative work, and his ability to travel for work has been greatly reduced because he’s an active and devoted father. Halle is a mega-millionaire and if the shoe was on the other foot, you can bet she’d get all he’s getting plus more.
He sure is a good looking man, lawdamercy.
It’s good to know no one used chemicals on her hair as they can permanently change the texture when used on children. My hair used to be of the stick straight and so silky it wouldn’t hold in a pony variety, I hated it. When I was 10 I convinced my grandma to give me a perm and ever since my hair grows out partly wavy partly curly and is a tangly nightmare.
Someone is lying here. A blow dryer wouldn’t permanent change her curl pattern unless her hair was kept straight for at least a year. We never see her with straight hair no matter which parent she is with. So either Halle is lying about normal damage or Aubrey is doing something to her hair. I have a non permanent straightener that I use when I straighten my hair (only twice in the last decade lol) I wonder if it would make any long term changes if used regularly
One difference is her hair is longer and mostly one length. My hair has twice the curl and wave when it is shorter. Plus she is getting older and hair changes.
Exactly. Nothing I’ve seen so far supports intentional permanent changes to the child’s hair.
Also, catching a cold from wet hair is a problem, as is going to bed with wet hair.
I don’t see why blow drying is such a big deal-it may have been due to one of the above instead of attempting to make her hair less curly or ethnic.
If the cultural aspect is that big of an issue to Hallee, I’m surprised she hadn’t already addressed it with him or Nahla directly through styling her hair that way, etc.
Especially since Aubrey comes from a cold country and probably had the habit of not going out with wet hair drilled into him as a child. And at six, it’s entirely possible that Nahla is blow drying her own hair, rather than someone else doing it for her.
My hair is thin and straight as a board. When my medicine made it all fall out, it came back in corkscrew curls. I loved it. Always want what you don’t have. They only lasted 2 yrs. Braid my hair when wet to look like HB daughters hair. Going to court because of their daughters hair? Sorry Halle, she’s your kid, you pay according to the money you make. I wish I made that much
Why does he carry her around as if she’s disabled?
Probably because of the presence of the paps.
In every pic I see of Nahla and her dad, Nahla seems to ADORE him. I believe THAT is what Halle cannot stand. She is being beyond ridiculous. The child is GORGEOUS with straight hair, curly hair, and probably no hair!!! Halle hates that they have a wonderful relationship and wants to ruin it. I believe Halle is unfit as a parent and will do anything she can to ruin the relationship between them. She comes off as seriously unstable.
My daughter is about the same age and has the same hair. Her father HATES when I get it straightened but she LOVES it. She wants her hair “like mommy’s” (when I get mine blown out) and I gladly have it done for her. It’s not permanent but, her Dad hates it (he just loves her curls) and she takes a bath and the curls come back. Hallie is just being the miserable bitter b*!ch that she is.
I don’t get what the big deal is about him receiving support (and I’m a woman). On the darker end of this many women do this crap on purpose to skim off an ex, or pop out 3 kids and immediately file for divorce and get cheered on and no one bats an eye, and it severely hurts the relations between the genders, damages the institution of marriage, and not to mention makes us look like gold diggers. I see it here in small town Texas all the time. Many women here have children by more than one father and collect the support and live off it, no one shames them and the courts protect them. Fathers are just as important as mothers, but not considered so legally in this state.
I say whoever the one who has the enormous income will have to pay, male or female. I know women of larger income who like to use it as leverage when they get a male partner to control them. It’s never a purely black and white issue. (no pun intended.) When you’re using people, and not acting out of love, you’re going to have to pay one way or another.
What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. Halle has some serious control issues.
Halle needs to back off and just live her life and let Gabriel have his time with Nahla it is useless to keep dragging him to court on the most absurd things. It’s obvious she is doing it for attention I have not watched anything with Halle Berry ever since all this I refuse to support someone so vindictive and I used to be a big fan. Live your own f-ing life and raise your other little baby.
I’ve resisted believing this for a long time, but I’ve come to the generally accepted opinion that Halle is batsh**t crazy. The child’s hair has pretty much looks the same–maybe a little lighter from chlorine or sun, but nothing drastic. He seems like a good father who loves his child. As for the money, suck it up, Halle. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander
You know, once she is old enough to figure out what’s what, she is going to be very very very disappointed with Halle.
I agree with you on that one Hannah! How many times have Halle been married? I lost count. Something is off with her but it seems that every man she gets with is always the problem and not her. I’m finally seeing the truth behind it all…she’s the problem.
Geez, I don’t know how I feel about all this. On the one hand, 6 years old is too young to have chemicals put in beautiful virgin hair, even if the child insists on it. The child is just gorgeous (as are her parents). So I can understand Halle being upset about that (but perhaps not to the point of taking him to court). Taking him to court over it seems less to do with Nahla’s hair and more to do with wanting to mess with Gabriel out of spite. Like others here, I am starting to think that Halle is a little “off” and again, I can’t help but get the feeling that a lot of what she’s doing has less to do with Nahla’s welfare and more to do with anger at Gabriel. That makes the child a pawn and I am sure we ALL know of people who use their children as pawns in ugly break-up situations (which is just sad).
As the mother of 2 biracial daughters with very different textures from each other it’s about trail and error in how to deal with their hair. I’m sure Gabriel was not at home with a home kit trying to do this himself even if the lightening and chemical straightening did occur. Like most men who are clueless as to how to fix their little girls hair he probably asked a salon to do it. Where her hair may have been lighted I seriously doubt anyone chemically straightened that child’s hair or for one it’s texture would not be what it looks like now that fast after that kind of treatment. That being said if Halle equates her hair being straightened to him trying to make her more white there are many black women who do this treatment to there hair who I assure you are not trying to appear white in any way but just want to be able to fix their hair in a style that appeals to them and I would hazard to guess that Halle has been on the recipients side of a flat iron or straightener at some point herself. I really feel like all this is about getting back at him because she is pissed about child support payments. If you as biracial parents instill in children a respect for both sides of their race and cultures then they will understand their heritage it’s not about a hairstyle. My girls are growing up to be proud young girls with multi racial and cultural differences because their father and I let then know be proud of all of who you are
I read through all these comments and a lot of ladies seem to be projecting their own angry at males onto this man……Halle Berry used this man to get what she wanted and that was a pretty baby and when she got what she wanted she dumped him and tried to completely blacken his name . She has used everything she could , with any and everything she could to cut him completely out of this little girls live …Only he didn’t take the money she offered and run he stayed and fought for the rights to see his daughter …Not for the money because in the beginning it was a lot less then it is now. Her continuing taking him to court has raised the amount , not him…He works and is quite successful as a model and make a lot more money than any normal person does ..He just doesn’t make Halle Berry money…This will not be the last time she goes after him…and until that child is 18 will she stop …
She is a very controlling and vindictive person…This is her third or fourth marriage and this one is on the brink of being over..and she will have to fight her French man as well …and I seriously don’t think he will play nice as Gabriel has….
The ‘he doesn’t work’ argument is getting a little old now much like the freeloader comment. He does steady and a fair bit of work for VR São Paulo and of course did the Barneys campaign.
Halle is clutching at straws, it’s embarrassing. It’s obvious Nahla has a loving and close relationship with her dad. Instead of wasting her energy and resources for trivial stuff like this, why not focus on the marriage, her little boy and try to forge a civil relationship w/ Gabriel instead? Her little boy is the spitting image of Nahla. If she keeps this up, it will really impact her relationship w/ Nahla.
He may be a “doting dad” but he’s a lazy motherf***er living off his ex’s money. When my husband and I divorced, like many other women and men, I continued to work. Also, this dude needs a nanny? WTF, his daughter isn’t a baby. He must be too busy primping at the gym.
I think Nahla probably has one nanny, who is available to cover for either parent. That poor nanny is most likely used as the go-between for hand-offs. Aubry returns nanny and Nahla to Berry’s house, never talks with Berry, and vice versa.
I’m sorry but if the tables were turned and this was a woman model who had a child with a very rich actor no one would be calling her lazy if she wanted to continue modeling here and there and spend the rest of her time being a stay at home mom so why is it different for him we wanted equal rights well then let’s not complain when the shoe is on the other foot and it’s the man who wants to be at home raising his child . There was a time when I had my children that the job I had paid much more than my husbands and e did not want a daycare facility raising our two young girls so we made the decision for my husband to stay home. We fell upon much of the same critisism people wanting to think he was being lazy we’ll let me tell you he had a job raising our girls taking care of the home attending all the dr appts it’s an often thankless job with extensive responsibility and I aapreciate the fact that as their father he was willing to forgo his own pride to do what was best for his girls so leave this man alone he is not running off leaving the woman to take care of the child alone he’s not skipping off on his visitations and joint custody to party and do drugs and sleep with tons of inappropriate women like a lot of men in the entertainment business does his main fault is that he’s being a stay at home dad really people he could do much worse