In a new interview with In Touch, Jennifer Lopez gives details about her life at home with her husband, her 1-year-old twins, and Britney. It sounds like her manager gave her some talking points to make her sound open and honest – admitting that it took her “a little bit longer to get it right” in regards to her relationships, and that she and Marc have to work to make their partnership work. In fact, the headline of the article is “We Have to Work At Our Marriage.”
Why is Marc your perfect partner?
I think you have to marry someone you really like, as well as love. We actually prefer hanging out with each other to hanging out with anyone else.How do you handle disagreements?
If one of us has a complaint, the other one has to listen, no matter how difficult. We have to see if we care enough to change it and if we do care, then we have to change it.How is Marc as a Dad?
Amazing. Really amazing. He shares the responsibility.How so?
I can ask him to get up in the middle of the night if one of the kids wakes up. Every single time he’ll say okay. That’s a huge thing. If you have a partner who doesn’t think it’s their job – and I know people who think babies are a woman’s job – then that’s really hard.How have your feelings for Marc changed?
I’ve grown to respect him even more for the fact that he is a good dad.What have you learned about yourself?
So many things! Babies completely change your priorities and how you feel and your perception of the world.What do you hope the twins inherit from you?
I’d love them to have Marc’s sense of humor, and my will and determination.Will you have more kids?
I think so. Why not? I mean, it’s what life is really all about, honestly. Nothing feels quite like having the joy and purpose in your life that comes with raising another human being.On Britney:
“That was painful to watch,” says Jennifer of Britney Spears’ public breakdown in early 2008. And as someone who’s dealt with the dark side of fame, J. Lo sympathized with her fellow pop star: “I understood the pressure she was going through, having been through a divorce, having money, having people depend on you.” Jennifer made a conscious decision to stay out of the spotlight. “It will destroy you,” she says.
[From In Touch, March 16 2009, print ed.]
However, I’m not buying all of it. Breakup rumors swirl around almost any celebrity couple, but they tend to come from somewhere. Jennifer and Marc’s relationship has been said to be on the rocks for years now, and a new photo doesn’t help. The picture shows Jennifer, with her hand protectively on Marc’s knee, who has his hand on another woman’s leg.
Star says that the “other woman” is just a family friend, but it’s been said that Marc has a wandering eye, and I wouldn’t be surprised if moments like this one have been causing a rift in their relationship. Jennifer wouldn’t have agreed to do an interview like this unless she thought that rumors were worth addressing, and she needed to do damage control.
There have also been rumors that it is the twins who cause problems between the two. When they were first born, Jennifer wouldn’t let anyone come into the room with the babies or hold them unless they were completely clean and had sanitized themselves. In other words, she was uber-protective. Marc strikes me as a laid-back kind of guy, and I can imagine that he would approach his kids with that same loving but relaxed attitude. The fact that he already has children, and Jennifer had not, would also make a difference. Jennifer is a bit of a diva, and I can’t imagine that translates well into her home life.
Here’s Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony at an inauguration ceremony for the new governor of Puerto Rico on January 6th. Images thanks to Fame.com.
Isn´t it better to expose the babies to everyday germs so they can develop their antibodies properly? I ask as a new expentant mother…
“I can ask him to get up in the middle of the night if one of the kids wakes up. Every single time he’ll say okay…”
Why do I get the feeling that everytime one of the kids woke up in the middle of the night that it was she who pushed him out of bed to tend to them?
@Aleksa, yes within reason. To not do so can at the very least make them highly perceptible to allergies and getting sick.
I was actually impressed with how human she sounded until the “will you have more babies” part.
Fake!
From the same fake school as Jennifer Anniston and Katie Holmes.
They all are on the brink of heading up the D list.
Totally off topic, but her hair looks fried to hell.
lmao CODZILLA! Esepcially since shes is a Diva im surprised to see her hair that nappy.
Any way, the first comment I read “I think you have to marry someone you really like, as well as love.”
cough cough yea… like ben a? I see her getting divorced, then re married, then divorced again. she is so fake now. What happen to Jenny from the block lol? So fake…fake. FAKE!~ I give their marriage 5 months nothing more
“it’s been said that Marc has a wandering eye”. Well, he did leave a wife and children for Lopez so I think she KNOWS he has a wandering eye.
the only person in that house getting up in the middle of the night to check on the kids is the nanny.
I cann’t hear anymore that the marriage must be hell because she is a diva. He is a macho, and for me this is even worse. Why do we speak always more shit about women?
That’s exactly what I was thinking the original kate! Lol.
I think the picture at the top speaks for itself. Look at the expression on his face! It’s like he’s trying to stop himself from pushing her off of him!
Aleksa:
As the mother of a 4 year old I’ve always thought it best to expose children to everyday germs as a means of developing immunities. In fact, I think the overly zealous use of sanitary gels & wipes are a bad idea for the reason above & also because I’ve often heard that microbial soaps & such have an opposite effect in that they create a bigger breeding ground for germs.
Having said that it’s understandable a new parent is overly concerned. Gloves seem a bit much but having those who hold or touch your new born wash their hands beforehand is never a bad idea, especially during cold/flu season. In JL’s case, her’s may have been premature & therefore more prone to infection, all the more reason to be a bit paranoid. I too am having twins & am overly concerned about premature births & resulting problems so whether I’ll feel differently remains to be seen.
Still, the human body is an amazing machine, capable of far more than we give it credit, even as infants. Others input can be useful, but you’ll find everybody’s an expert, so in the end trust your own instincts & find a pediatrician w/ whom you feel comfortable. Good luck to you, both of you.
Wow. Marc Anthony was married to former Miss America and now to J.Lo and he still has a wandering eye?
A warning to many women who think that they can get by on looks alone.
The germs ordeal is something that bothers me as well. My daughter is 7 and a half months old and has never been sick. I worry that the first time she does she will get it even worse.
I quit breastfeeding at four months (dried up) and she doesn’t go to daycare. She just gets babysat by her greatgrandmother twice a week while I am at class.
I got sick twice a couple of months ago. I just made sure to wash my hands a lot and allowed myself to accept help from her grandparents. But I’ve been thinking perhaps I should join a playgroup or something so she can be exposed to at least some germs.
LMAO she gave that interview to Marie Claire last year not to Intouch. the press/blog can’t accept the fact that she’s happy in her mariage right ? it’s not entertaining enough.
That picture looks so forced and uncomfortable…geesh
Well Marc was cheating in his first marriage w/women, I remember him being tested for paternity BUT the kid was not his , I think..his first wife STILL stayed–he has had a wandering eyes for years..
I am sure Marc hates being on a leash, he’s a free spirit.
Time will tell
Would you call a man a great dad ,when he cheats on you and divorces you and marries his lover in 4days afterwards.I don’t think so!He never gave a sh@t what his children were going through after that.Do you ever see him with them either.No!This is just more BS her publicist told her to say so to make everyone think things are perfect between them.
Kate – no doubt about it. The only one getting up in the night to look after the kids is the nanny!
@ Shelia, Totally agree. Very good points you NEVER see his other children.
I wonder if JLO has anything to do w/it..Horrible!!!
I would not want a man that did not love ALL of his kids..SMDH
You can see the marital bliss etched on their faces.
Jennifer Lopez expects everyone to believe that she can have the perfect marriage with a man that left his ex-wife and little children. Like its okay for her to play it in the cruel way that her and Marc Anthony did against his ex-wife Dayanara Torres, but everything is going to be just great for them! You don’t willfully inflict pain on others and never expect for it to come back on you.
Pleeeze! I wouldn’t want a man that abandoned his wife and little children the way Marc Anthony did. Let alone marry him 4 days after he divorces his wife when he still had a baby in diapers.
Lina, Marc was married to a former “Miss Universe 1993, Dayanara Torres and they had 2 boys. He had a quickie divorce in Dominican Republic and married JLo 4 days later. The man is a womanizer, a talented very talented singer but a womanizer. And JLo is getting what she deserves.
Poor little kids they have to look like their Dad. Maybe their next one will look like Jen. I too don’t think their marriage will last especially with his history of womanizing.
Damn, I looked at the photo of Marc with his hand on that other woman’s leg. That DOES NOT look good! Even from my jaded perspective, I’m shocked that he would be that arrogant. There IS trouble in that marriage – without a doubt.
Aleska: When my baby was first born, we were super-vigilant about hand washing (which was what our doctor, the baby books, and our instincts told us to do). We also kept hand sanitizer around for people we knew wouldn’t wash their hands well (ie: just rinse under water for a second). In fact, some people, all without kids, got offended when we asked them to wash their hands! But I am glad we did, because when she did get her first cold at 3 months, breastfeeding was almost impossible with the stuffy nose. I stopped making people wash their hands after about 5-6 months; she didn’t seem as fragile and I do believe that kids eventually need to be exposed to germs to build up their immunity.
Good luck and trust your gut! New moms are hardwired to make the best decisions for their babies.
There is no trouble in the Marc Anthony and Jennifer Lopez marriage, and there never was. Marc is obsessed with JLO and all that divorce talk was just a ploy most likely created by Benny Medina to get her publicity.
She wants to be a BIG star again and the only way for her to seem relevant is to do anything she can to keep her name out there.
ANA your sweetie will be fine. she gets enough germs from the grocery, chewing on her toys and the like. She’s still very young. There’ll be time enough for you to ‘up’ her immune system by the time she’s playing in the playland *shutter* or licking the slide at the playground or hanging off the dog’s tail. My daughter had a playfriend when she was nearly 2 who’s mom wouldn’t let him touch the sand at the playground and wiped his hands every time she schwished him down the slide. That’s where the overbearing de-germing comes from. This same mom would leave him in a poopy diaper to drive home from the park though??? We weren’t playground friends for long.
J.Lo will keep being married to wandering eye Marc as long as Ben keeps being married. And when Ben finally decides to get out of his marriage…well, that’s all she needs to say adios to the Marc and J.Lo charade!
Don’t use antibacterial soap. Not only can it create the supergerms, it also has a chemical that has been linked to things like early puberty. Research it – even grade schoolers have high levels these days. Regular soap and water – soaping for at least 20 seconds – does the job better than antibacterial soap. (One article suggested having children soap while singing “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star,” because it takes about that long to sing it. When they’re done singing, they then rinse their hands.)
Also, exposing little ones to animals is a good thing, too, when you’re building their immunities. If you don’t have pets, make sure they’re around cats and dogs at least some; there’s research on the benefits of that as well – including having more resistence to things like hay fever later in life.
Congrats on your babies. 🙂
Maybe if she wasn’t such a stuck up diva, her husband would like her.
imagine being married to jennifer lopez and still having a wandering eye. it is proof that it is not our fault ladies, no matter how beautiful or successful or admirable you are, some men are just not the committing kind…. billy bob cheated on angelina, jfk cheated on jackie, spitzer on his catch of a wife…. is heterosexuality really worth the heartache at the end of the day????? i think IT MIGHT NOT BE………