Jessa Duggar-Seewald and her husband Ben Seewald cover this week’s issue of People Magazine. I was like, “Ugh, I can’t believe that they’re the most interesting people this week,” but the Duggars’ TLC reality show has just started their new season. That’s why you’re seeing more Duggar stories this week: promotion for their show. Anyway, Jessa is by far the most “dangerous” Duggar because she’s a wanton harlot who French kisses her husband on Instagram. Jessa and Ben got married last fall, in early November, and Jessa still isn’t knocked up. This is a big deal for the Duggar clan, so of course Jessa mentions to People Magazine that she and Ben are thinking about adopting.
Jessa’s adjustment to married life: “One thing I’ve had to adjust to is not having my siblings around – especially my sisters because we are so close.”
Jessa wants to adopt: “We hope to adopt a lot of kids. If God blesses us with biological kids of our own, it’s not going to quench our desire to adopt.” Adds Ben, 19, “Kids are so important.”
Jessa on arguing with her husband: “If we have a hard time and we talk about it, you just love each other so much more afterwards. After a disagreement, I often feel, ‘I have never loved you more than I love you now.’ ”
It’s all well and good that Jessa feels closer to Ben after a disagreement, but wasn’t she raised to NEVER disagree with her husband about anything? There should be no disagreements at all – Ben should make up his mind about something and Jessa should follow his lead. The end. That’s how Duggar women are raised. As for adoption…People Mag says that Jessa and Ben are already doing the paperwork for an adoption and all of that. If that’s what they want, fine, God bless. But they’re both healthy and young (she’s 22, he’s 19) and it seems weird to me that two anti-birth control young people would not be pregnant this many months into their marriage.
Photos courtesy of Jessa’s Facebook, cover courtesy of People Magazine.
creeps.
My prayers have been answered! God has cursed her with a barren womb.
*runs and hides under Kiddo’s Beige Booty Muumuu™*
All I’m saying is that it’s gonna be crammed quarters if you’re trying to hide under Kiddo’s booty shorts.
And so schweddy.
Bring lots of water and canned goods.
I was wondering why she lacked the surprised/astonished look and then I got to the third photo and bingo, it’s still there. She managed not to raise her eyebrows as high as usual though.
Ugh.
At least they are considering adoption, which is a good thing.
It is.. except for the whole being adopted into a cult thing. I hope they at least stay domestic. I can imagine them trying to adopt some ‘heathen babies’ from overseas. It pisses me off a little though. We were told our income wasn’t high enough, that we didn’t have enough bedrooms to adopt. These people are still children, but because they’re famous and have money, they’ll go to the top of the list.
That stinks, sorry to hear that. Were you trying to adopt multiple kids?
I can imagine it, too.
By the way, if anyone’s interested in a good book about some of the facts about international adoption, including adoption movements within the evangelical community, I highly recommend a book called “The Child Catchers”. It’s riveting.
These two creep me out. All the Duggars do.
It’s also not really good news because Jessa clearly doesn’t like children. Like her mother, she’s going to have to pray to God for a “love of children”. Why these people can’t figure out that if you don’t love children – don’t have them – I will never know.
They’re clearly not following the cult because despite Ma and Pa Duggar’s hemming and hawwing about adoption, they believe that the sins of the father ruin children of adoption so good little Duggar ATIs don’t adopt. Also, Ben wasn’t actually raised in the lifestyle so there’s a fair chance they can have some normalcy.
Believe me, I am the last person to advocate for the Duggars, but these two are a bit different to the others and have never quite toed the line.
My thoughts exactly. I would be thrilled if they adopted 20 instead of biologically having 20.
Would you be thrilled if they adopted you though? I think there might be more normalcy in an orphanage than in this family, sadly.
Not sure I agree. I was adopted and raised by evangelical fundies. It took me many years and a lot of therapy to get over my childhood and upbringing — and I consider myself incredibly lucky that I knew that life was not for me at a young age and got out as soon as I could. No matter whether they’re biological kids or adopted, any child will be brainwashed and raised in a cult-like environment. I feel sorry for them all.
IS it a good thing that they’re considering adopting children? I’m not so sure. I cannot imagine how I would feel knowing I gave up a child and he or she ended up being brought into that cult. And should a child be adopted out to such a young couple? From all accounts he is a very sheltered man-child all of 19 years old with no discernible income; she is no better. However, I imagine they’ll find some young girl from a sheltered, like-minded family who lack the funding of a TV show who will find it an honor and a blessing to have their out-of-wedlock child adopted into this shiny happy tv cult family.
she’s managing to ‘afford’ UGG wear, so there must be money coming in from somewhere. I imagine they would be able to pull in sponsorship from Evangelical companies and banks.
My first thought upon seeing the headline was of the child migration/Forgotten Australians. I think these people would adopt some innocent children and then put them to work for that idiot Jim Bob or minding the house and the other kids.
Plus, I think there should be some rule about not being able to adopt until your frontal cortex is fully developed.
Even if they claim to be infertile, I’m going to have a hard time believing them. I’m more likely to believe that one or both of them has disordered thinking about sex and possibly found it to be gross and dirty. I know they’re supposed to be baby machines, but would anyone be surprised to find out some of them have mental issues about their sexuality? And I wouldn’t be shocked if someone said Ben wasn’t into it.
I was wondering if the fact that they’re involved in reality tv (do they still appear on the show? I don’t watch it) might actually hinder an adoption process. Does anyone know?
It’s not.
I wonder how many UGG boots had to die to make that hat.
Apparently not enough.
I was just thinking that it was strange we haven’t heard about a baby announcement from these two yet. I don’t know, something about this girl seems wild to me. I wonder how this will work out… the fame, the attention, she’s pretty. I wouldn’t be surprised if The Duggars had their first divorce with her.
Mmmm hmmm. Shouldn’t they be in their honeymoon stage still? It’s interesting that she’s talking about their many fights at this point in the marriage. How long was their “courtship”? Sounds like they didn’t really and truly know each other before getting married………. Which is unsurprising of course.
I tend to agree with you. I’m thinking the virgins aren’t performing too well in the bedroom.
I have limited knowledge of this family and of her but with just a glance and a couple youtube clips, I can tell she’s a free spirit by nature. It’s unfortunate they married her off to someone so dissimilar. They’ll end up very frustrated and yes, possibly divorced in a few years.
They are selling one way tickets to Mars now, just heard on NBC. Buy a whole bunch and never come back. Whole lot of you, Duggars and include your spouses.
Right? They’re sucking up too much of our resources. Time to go!
The Mars rovers Curiosity and Opportunity just released a joint statement.
“No thank you. We enjoy talking to rocks instead”
“Beep”
glad I had put down my coffee mug when I read that!…lmao
She’s a beautiful girl, but behind it all there is something just…not there.
Looking at her is like looking at a Kardashian in a lot of ways-she seems so empty and vacant.
In her case, I think it’s the indoctrination seeping through.
Agreed. Sadly she can’t/won’t think for herself and form her own opinions on life.
Can a 19-year-old adopt? I don’t mean legally, more practically. Doesn’t seem easy to adopt these days.
I was just about to say that. Also, how can a 19 year old support this large family they want?
I was curious what he did for a living too, anyone know if he is still just helping out Jim Bob with stuff around their farm?
I wondered the same thing. Its hard to adopt, and 19 and 22 is very, very young.
Maybe one or both of them has fertility issues. Or maybe they’re not even having sex the right way because they never received any accurate information about reproduction…?
haha. it reminds of a MAster’s of Sex episode where the couple said they ‘slept together’ every night and weren’t conceiving. when the Dr asked which positions, they were stumped. they never had sex before!
hhmmm if cave men figured a way to have sex no one has an excuse lol
+1000
Classic!
That’s been my guess all along. Surprised her pregnancy announcement hasn’t come around, and immediately went to fertility issues. No matter how much I disagree with their beliefs, I don’t wish infertility on anyone. We may be wrong in this conjecture though. Oooohhhh, maybe she can get the oldest sister to be her surrogate. Seems the Duggars don’t see her as anything but a servant anyway. (I think she’s the sweetest one)
Ok that was mean. I think it came after I saw that Ugg hat.
Does their religion allow artificial insemination and/or surrogates, tho? I know some branches of Christianity don’t because they consider it “unnatural”.
I think it’s a bit too early to tell if they have infertility issues. Here we’re advised to try for about a year and then go see a doctor about it. So many things can go wrong when a woman is really trying to get pregnant. Stressing about it doesn’t help.
What have the orphaned children done to deserve this??
Ha ha…Oh, you 😉
🙊
Ha! That was my first thought too!
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!
The Duggars are fast becoming the Kartrashians. So tired of hearing about all of them. And no, I didn’t read the article above. Just came here to throw my two cents worth in.
I get the feeling there is some sexual dysfunction in this situation. They didn’t kiss at the altar, their IG kissing photos are VERY awkward (at best) and no baby announcement. After watching the show, I’m wondering if he’s gay and running from his own sexuality.
That’s kinda what I’m wondering too. Something is “off” with these two.
I read that after the ceremony, they went off by themselves, away from everyone to have their first kiss in private. You can google it, US Wkly and others ran stories about it.
I read that too but certainly that was an unusual decision. I don’t doubt that they kiss – they just seem shy, inexperienced and painfully immature. Something doesn’t sit right with the whole situation.
My thoughts too. Everything about them seems off. I have a feeling the fights are due to his lack of interest. Which he probably explains with a handy Bible passage or two, and then all is well.
I really hope they don’t adopt. I think adoption is wonderful, but no child deserves to be brought up in a cult.
Even though I am not fans of this show or the Duggars extreme take on Christianity, I can’t hate on people who want to open their homes to adoption.
Yep. If they do adopt, I will officially retract all my snarky comments about them.
Although that guy kinda gives me the creeps, so I hope their intentions are pure
Well, sure, but…. They’re young & haven’t been married (i.e., having sex) all that long; sometimes it just takes awhile. it seems to me this announcement is made because, well, what else does she have in life? If she doesn’t have kids, what will she do? Go to college? Get a job? And that’s all just very sad.
Yes, but, they’re children…they may have good intentions but I don’t think they know what it entails.
Sure you can hate on some of them. Plenty of crappy/unfit people adopt, sadly. Not USUALLY, but it DOES happen. I’m not at liberty to share stories.
Sheesh, posted without finishing my comment lol. Anyway, while most people adopt and have good intentions, some fanatics adopt just to bring more heathen souls (as they see it) into the fold, or worse. I’m going to recommend The Child Catchers again, it’s very interesting.
I can’t help but click on stories about her because she has such an insane resemblance to my best friend’s sister. They could be identical twins.
No comment on this article though.
She’s so pretty. And so brainwashed.
*Jessa on arguing with her husband: After a disagreement, I often feel, ‘I have never loved you more than I love you now.’ ” *
GOOD ON YOU GIRL!! YOU DISCOVERED MAKE UP SEX! GIT IT!
Methinks they are on birth control and not talking about it.
I can’t help but wonder that too, he’s only 19. IMO, it would be smart to wait a bit.
Do these two have JOBS? How are they going to afford to feed their adopted children? Don’t you need a stable income in order to adopt? Which then makes me wonder, how much are each of the Duggar children paid for being on the TLC show and does Jim-Boob control their access to their money?
No, they don’t have real jobs. She was trained that being a stay at home wife and prolific breeder were her ONLY options in life and he does odd jobs for Jim Bob around the Duggar compound, like scrubbing toilets and mowing the lawn. Plus neither has any education, they live in a mould and mouse infested rental, owned by Grandma Duggar and he’s still a teenager. I’ve got family members who adopted and they can fill out “adoption paperwork” until they are blue in the face, no decent agency or social services would consider them at this point. It’s a very long, intense, difficult process. They’s also been married a grand total of three months and you need to have been married a few years before they will even consider you. I’ve wondered about that TLC money too. All of the kids are on the show, but Jim Bob still makes them sleep on bare mattresses and they eat garbage. If one of the older kids had access to the money, they might make a break for it and there’s no way he’s going to let that happen.
“Bare mattresses and eat garbage”?? I’m not a Duggar apologist and JB makes me ill, but this is a load of bull. They have beds. With secondhand sheets and blankets. And eat food prepared by the oldest girls.
It’s not bull in the slightest. Watch the show. They have beds, but many of the mattresses are completely bare. The boys have no sheets on their beds and the kids sleep in their clothes, rather than pyjamas. It’s been commented on and questioned by many. Someone posted that this is actually a very common practice in their Gothardite cult. They eat very unhealthy, processed food as well. That is what I mean by garbage. In the last couple of years, their diet has seemed to improve slightly, but they still rely heavily on processed, unhealthy foods.
I’ve got to back up Deanne here, because I’ve seen the show quite a lot over the years (I can’t explain why). In the boys’ room, in particular, we’ve seen the kids sleeping on bare mattresses, with maybe a sleeping bag over the top. I’ve often wondered if they keep the heat really high in the winters. And the little girls wear ‘modesty’ clothing even to bed–I noticed this on last night’s show, where the four youngest spent the night at Aunty Jill’s. They wore footless tights under their nighties. Three slept haphazardly on one bed–one crosswise across the foot, the other two lengthwise, with the littlest in her own bed. I thought that odd, considering the size of that house. But they all sleep together at home, so maybe it made them more comfortable.
As for food–yeah, it’s a lot of processed crap that they can buy cheap & store at home in one of their many garages. They visited some fellow who has his own gardening show & Michelle was totally uninterested in getting the kids to do this at home–although the kids clearly had a good time & growing your own food is so healthy in so many respects, but nope. Not for the Duggars.
@ Hazel Thanks for the back up. The show is on all of the time and they play constant reruns which is why I’ve seen it enough to comment, The Duggars have enough strange practices that I certainly don’t need to lie, or even exaggerate for that matter. Many of the kids do sleep on bare mattresses, often with no blanket. They have so much land and could easily grow a garden but instead choose to save money by filling their kids up on high sodium snacks like pickles, ramen noodles and canned green beans. Yuck. My small garden saves us so much money in the summer and fall. Just on fresh herbs alone. Other than procreating and preaching, the Duggar clan don’t seem to be particularly motivated people.
Don’t forget that the last four little girls didn’t have their own beds in the girls dormitory. They slept in pack in plays for years.
I think he works for Jim Bob as a handyman on their property.
Please God no….
Let them ruin their own kids. ..leave the innocent alone.
I think adoption is great, and there are many children in need of loving families.
That said, the way this family treats female children…not good. Plus these two are so young and just got married, it would be nice if at least one of the Duggars took some time to grow up and enjoy being an adult before being saddled with a herd of children.
I wonder what all the people complaining that the Duggars are pro-life and anti-birth control, but would never adopt, have to say about this. Did they actually want these people to be adopting kids?
“Did they actually want these people to be adopting kids?”
None of us “want” to dictate whether someone else procreates, adopts, uses birth control, Plan B, or has an abortion.
That’s kind of the point of being pro-choice.
Thanks Kitten, but I think you got what I meant.
I got what you meant and yes, I think it’s great when anyone adopts, but it doesn’t change the fact that there would be fewer children languishing in the foster system if birth control was more widely available.
In other words, the fact that they adopt doesn’t off-set the fact that they are anti-choice.
Ugh, that was badly worded on my part.
I should have just said that it would be more consistent with someone who adopts to understand the plight of unwanted children, thus support full access to birth control for everyone.
I agree. Guess I just don’t get why people whine that they don’t adopt, as if that would make it so much better, especially if it’s true that they’re pretty much a brainwashed cult. I get pointing out the double morals, but now we’re talking practical terms… Just a curiosity.
She’s a rebel, this one, lol! She got married almost four months ago and still isn’t pregnant, she argues with her husband, and she’s wearing pants! Dim Bob must be irritated that a daughter is acting wild like this!
She seems like the alpha in that relationship, and is probably in charge of their family planning. I’ve heard comments she’s made before on the show that implied she isn’t looking to start a family immediately, or have a really large one like her parents did.
Yet last night (why did I watch the premiere…), Dim Bulb was all excited about their big new house, presumably because it could fit a million kids. They even left the Children Are A Blessing stencil on the wall.
Off topic; I wish CB had an up vote button for the comments. Some of you Celebitchez slay me and deserve up votes!
Is anyone else a little creeped out over the “Sexiest Duggar” caption of their kissing photo? Maybe it’s just me…
Yep, I noticed that too.
I think it is hilarious XD
Will never understand why any Duggar is now or ever has been deserving of a PEOPLE cover or of any magazine cover. But maybe it’s because of Kate Coyne. Yep, that would explain a lot.
I don’t think its weird that they haven’t conceived yet. They’ve been married three months. That means they’ve had three shots at pregnancy. It’s not like she’s ovulating 24/7.
This is actually really interesting, because Bill Gothard absolutely does not approve of adoption. He believes in “generational sin” – the children carry the sins of their ancestors and therefore preaches that adoption isn’t worth the risk. Any person considering adoption is supposed to consult with ATI staff (i.e.: cult leaders) and will be strongly dissuaded against it.
I wouldn’t be surprised by Jessa rebelling against her father in this way, because she always seemed to be on the fence and a bit rebellious, but Ben seems to be even more fundamentalist that the whole Duggar clan.
Oh my god, that entire cover just nauseated me. Mustgolookatdogs,mustgolookatdogs.
Dontcha love the Fifty Shades reference on the same cover as a Duggar?! Are they allowed to read People Magazine. Bet not.
I never post but feel the need to clarify some thoughts on Christianity. I’m sure it will fall on deaf ears as most of you thrill in thinking the worst of Christians. My husband and I are Christians and I wear pants/shorts (gasp!). Some of us differ on modesty…it’s really just a matter of conviction. You probably wouldn’t pick me out as the Christian out of the moms at pickup except that I try really hard to be kind to others and not gossip…not that nonChristians can’t do the same, but I feel convicted to pray for forgiveness when I fail and keep trying very hard. I’m not perfect or better than anyone. I hang with anyone, even those that have different or no beliefs and don’t feel the need to force them to agree with me. If someone asks about my faith I freely share, but don’t want to argue about it. I love playing/watching sports, decorating, and shopping. I work as a substitute teacher right now, but have a degree in Accounting. My husband and I have arguments over stupid stuff and sometimes I see that he is right and sometimes he sees that I am. Most Christians married couples I know disagree a lot and work it out. Women aren’t ruled over by the man the way the world sees it. In a close to perfect Christian marriage, (because there is no perfect) the husband makes the right decision based on what is right (the one we would’ve made anyway, lol) and treats his wife as she were better than him and we reciprocate. If your husband treated you like a queen and always knew the right answer you might too. Most of our husbands though aren’t close to perfect and have us to talk or beat (not literally) sense into them. A lot of times the woman really does have more say. We may let our man “have the final” say, but a lot of times it’s after his say is based on all of the data we have fed him. There sadly are some Christian marriages where husbands make all the decisions and the wife has no voice, but this is extreme and unBiblical.
I appreciate your post.
Ok Lauren, I respect what you’re saying but you do realize that 77% of the US population is Christian, right?
Your post makes it sound like Christians are some small fringe-group of religious worshippers that nobody understands, when in fact they are the majority religion in this country.
There are plenty of Christians on this thread right now who don’t agree with the Duggars, and who view Evangelical Christianity as an extremist form of their religion. I don’t think people here are disparaging Christianity by saying that the Duggar’s special brand of Christianity is largely patriarchal at best, misogynistic at worst, and at the very least oppressive towards women. These people are not your average Christian family next door—they are homophobic, at times racist, and very sexist under the guise of religion and THAT’S what people take issue with.
I’m not sure why you would take that personally when by your very own words, the Duggar’s version of Christianity is “unBiblical”.
Very well stated.
Love your comment kiddo! “Ok Lauren, I respect what you’re saying but you do realize that 77% of the US population is Christian, right?
Your post makes it sound like Christians are some small fringe-group of religious worshippers that nobody understands, when in fact they are the majority religion in this country.”
Seriously DUUUHHH. We know what Christians are. We also know there are many, many different branches who follow completely different rules. Lauren you sound way too sheltered if you didn’t realize that there are so many different versions of Christianity out there. We don’t need you to explain it to us. Also your explanation of the man-woman decision making process made no sense. You said he uses the wife’s intel but he has final say but he wouldn’t go against her? THat makes no sense. What you described would be mutual decision making. The man having final say means he has final say whether the wife likes it or not.
Thinking that the Duggars are completely bonkers doesn’t equate to thinking all Christians are bonkers.
I’m not sure where you have gotten that idea. A lot of people who comment here, who think the Duggars are Bonkers and awful, are actually Christians. Most people think that they are brainwashed and have a lot of hateful things to say. It’s not an indictment of every Christian.
ETA: yep to the O kitt.
What Flower, said, I appreciate your post too. I’m not a christian, but I know many moderate christians who are reasonable, and I don’t think the Duggars are an accurate reflection of the majority.
Random thought: isn’t her hat on backwards?
On the contrary, I think pro-lifers should be first in line at adoption homes. You want to limit women’s choices, you better be part of the solution to the consequences.
^This!
That’s what kills me about some anti-choice folks – they’re all invested in protecting babies until the moment they’re born. And then what happens?
They’re not invested in protecting babies, they’re invested in their own feelings and it has nothing to do with helping anyone. It has everything to do with making themselves feel righteous.
you know what, if they adopt I would highly respect them for it. But, GUESS WHAT! Kids are NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. We are killing this planet. We’re overpopulated. we have too many g-damn people. I was watching a video the other day… it was called mass trawling or extreme trawling or something… it made me sick to my stomach. they were just pulling this giant sack full of fish that was the size of several jumbo jets… it literally made me sick to my stomach. This is the type of demand we are putting on this planet and it’s NOT SUSTAINABLE! We’ve grown like a cancer.. so NO kids are NOT the most important thing… I’d say they’re about as important as cancer…
That’s a hideously awful thing to say. There’s a lot of things wrong with the planet, but children are the least of those culprits. And we’re not as populated as people like to think, population growth rates in major developing countries are slowing down.
Please don’t delude yourself, our population is growing at an unsustainable rate, I don’t hold it against the children but we have to be realistic about the bleak future we are creating for them.
I agree
agreed
The world is over populated and population growth desperately needs to slow. However, the way is through birth-control, birth control, birth control and Education. Not shaming Children that are already here.
It is mainly the religious people that are the problem because they do not understand science. They think that the world can’t become over-populated because God will always swoop in and save the day. We can do whatever we want to the earth and God will rescue us. That’s why they don’t care about the environment. Plus they think that prayer does something and that they can just pray away starvation and any other ills from over-population. The religious have been praying for the starving for centuries now and guess what? People are still starving!
Children are not the problem. Religion is the problem. Remove religions, and people can be educated as to why their actions are harmful and why they should care about the environment. As long as their is religion, the earth and mankind are doomed.
I thought their church didn’t believe in adoption due to the sins of biological parents and children out of wedlock. I don’t understand that, since Christians supposedly believe Christ died so people could be saved from their sins, let alone their parents’ sins. And if that’s the case, aren’t Michelle and Jim Bob beyond salvation, since they openly used birth control?
These two may end up different. Since Ben’s dad admitted that he doesn’t believe in the stigma put on young people about dating or the silly “not giving a part of your heart away” part of the Duggar family. I would bet Jessa ends up with pants in her wardrobe.