There are few things I love more than watching from sidelines as judgy moms judge the sh-t out of some new celebrity parent. I loved it when judgy moms threw shade at Prince William for the way he placed the baby carrier in the back of his Range Rover. I loved it when judgy moms side-eyed Victoria Beckham for wearing stilettos throughout her pregnancy. I love it whenever judgy moms shout at judgy, holier-than-thou Gwyneth Paltrow about anything. I think my love comes from the fact that I’m a non-participant – I really don’t have much to say about babies and child-rearing. The one time I dared to suggest that Nicole Kidman shouldn’t hold her baby like a squirmy sack of potatoes, everyone yelled at me. I know nothing. So I just sit back and enjoy the sh-tstorms.
So the above photo is an Instagram from Blake Lively. She posted it for Father’s Day, to celebrate Ryan Reynolds’ first holiday as a dad. She even posted the photo with a funny message: “Happy Fathers Day!!! … @vancityreynolds Since the day our baby was born, I’ve felt so strongly in my heart that you were most likely the father.” Which IS really funny. Except that no one is really talking about Blake’s funny joke. They’re talking about how Ryan is basically suffocating his baby and JUDGY MOMS JUDGE RYAN REYNOLDS.
A sweet and innocent Instagram photo of Ryan Reynolds holding his daughter James in a baby carrier has turned into a fierce debate over parenting. Despite the photo accruing more than 330,000 likes, it is also being bombarded with comments bashing the way the 38-year-old Canadian actor placed his daughter in the carrier. Some people have expressed concerns that the six-month-old was in a perilous position.
‘Poor baby looks so uncomfortable and unsafe,’ read one comment. ‘Please have hot hubby read the instruction manual.’
Another said: ‘Please read your baby product manuals with as much detail as you read a script’ – and branded Ryan’s actions ‘dangerous’.
Parenting blog The Stir pointed out in greater detail exactly what was wrong with the way his baby had been positioned. One of its writers, Jenny Erickson, said: ‘James’ feet are dangling out of the bottom of the carrier, and they’re together. When baby’s feet are pushed together in a carrier, it increases the risk of hip dysplasia, as their little hips are basically pushed out of their sockets. Instead, doctors recommend that baby carriers support the thigh and allow the legs to spread to keep the hip in a stable position. The other thing going wrong here is that James’ head seems to be completely obscured. Babywearers always want to make sure they can see their infant’s face, and keep their airways clear.’
Others stuck up for the new parents – preferring to focus on the delightful bond between father and daughter. Adriane Stare, a certified babywearing educator told Yahoo Parenting: ‘Although baby James is not in the most ideal position for this carrier, it’s really wonderful to see a happy dad trying his best to follow his instincts and snuggle his baby close. When a baby is carried heart-to-heart on mom or dad’s chest, even when not perfectly positioned, a parent is much more able to be attuned to how baby is doing versus when their babe is away from them in a stroller.’
See, I thought the concern would be more about the fact that James might have a mouthful of her dad’s chest, which is not the ideal breathing position. But there’s also the concern about the baby’s hips in this carrier. So, is this a tempest in a teapot? Will this be “lesson learned” and now Blake can move full speed ahead with being the Queen Bee of all judgy WASP moms? Considering all of the lifestyle shilling Blake does, you’d think she would have chosen a better carrier for Ryan, right?
Photos courtesy of Instagram, WENN.
I hate judgy sideliine moms, but they are correct. I cringed when I saw Baby’s legs.
On a different note: his style and the filters make him look like some soldier with a bullet proof vest. that has babyfeet.
yes Lilo! I saw the same thing in this photo. I thought it was a bulletproof vest until I saw the wittle feet.
Babyfeet and the Bulletproof Vest- garage band name, I call it. (Lilo you can play guest tambourine in the band)
But it’s not really “judgy” to quote what doctors tell you is recommended for your baby.
And being “non-judgy” — by saying it doesn’t matter what doctors recommend — is not a very good idea.
If someone quotes a doctor and you refuse to listen, you’re a fool.
Lots of people refuse to listen to doctors — and look at the obesity problem in this country.
Oh cool, I’ll be the Gillian Anderson of the band
Lord I hope there are some X-Files fans here and get that 😀
…my problem is it looks disingenuous…I can’t abide when babies are used as props to bolster an image. I can just imagine lil Miss Loves me some Antebellum fashion Lively stuffs her baby in a newly pressed never used carrier and snaps a promo pic. Ick stupid and it makes me feel the wee one’s discomfort.
The thing barely has legs. And their bones are pretty much jelly at this point, I’m sure it’s fine.
Judge moms need new hobbies.
I was always under the impression that kids, especially babies and really young ones, require a lot of time and attention so I’m wondering where these people find the time to comment about all this.
Ha Ha! You are so right! Sometimes I want to comment (or even just browse), but then the three leeches are like “feed me!” “pay attention to me!” “Make sure I don’t stick a pencil up my brother’s nose!”
For real! Give me a break. Considering all the crap “we” didn’t have and our parents “didn’t” do, we are still alive and well, thankyouverymuch. And he can see the baby’s face. I used the same carrier 11 years ago; my son is a strapping young man.
Edited to add: To all the people wondering how the baby “didn’t fall through,” the carrier has a little crotch attachment – you put the baby’s legs on each side. Seriously, the new “ergonomic” carriers are only a few years old.
I believe it’s a Lillebaby, which works similar to the ergo that I have. It looks that way in the photos I’ve googled. The waistband that the baby’s legs are sticking out of is supposed to be pulled tight to hold the baby up.
But I’m not a certified baby wearing person or whatever so maybe I’m wrong.
IKR? I was put to bed in a crib that had slats that were too far apart and it was painted with lead paint (which probably ended up in my mouth because childhood). My mother put me to sleep on my stomach, and let me coast around in one of those dangerous walkers. She didn’t ‘wear’ me and I still managed to have a deep bond with her. My mother did it all wrong according to today’s experts, as did my aunts with my cousins and we all survived.
LMAO! Y’all are funny 🙂
Yeah, the kid is fine. Jeez. I honestly do not see a thing wrong with this carrier. I agree with the other posters though- that does look like a bullet proof vest.
I’m not a parent, so I have no horse in this race, but from the article – ‘certified babywearing educator’??? How does one become a certified babywearing educator?? I’m amazed.
Also I love that joke of Blake’s; it’s a good contrast to all the mushy public tributes celebrities like to do.
Some regulars on this blog are so good that they could become Certified Celebitchy Commentators.
MTE. And now I want a certificate in armchair psychology and photo-assumptioning.
Could be a nice side revenue stream for the blog, like with all those other outfits offering (often bogus) “certifications.”
To that, I’d like to add our specialty in body language relationship analysis.
Not a parent either but that caught my attention too. Like what? There’s a certification for that? Sounds like something you’d find on the upper east side for sure.
There is a huge industry devoted to judging moms. What cracks me up is that mothers for thousands of generations have managed just fine without the enormous industry that has developed around raising kids and making sure that moms feel as incompetent and guilty as possible. The whole thing is both ridiculous and disgusting.
This!!!!
*slinks into the corner after coming back from my babywearing meeting led by instructors certified by Babywearing International* and I am most certainly not an upper east side mom.
Honestly, some parents wear throughout the day and it’s about educating them about safety. Most of them focus on “wrapping”, which has dozens of techniques to wrap your kid on your back with a long piece of fabric. It requires a lot of patience and practice. To each there own, but those instructors exist and are great resources for moms who wear their kids.
Sorry, wasnt trying to be rude, meanr no offense. But from someone who has no kids having a class on just how to carry a baby compete with an instructor seems like a luxury. And since I have no kids, I’m definitely ignorant on the subject in general. On the surface it sounds kinda silly.
Haha no offense taken, as I was typing it I was like, i can see how that title sounds completely absurd!
I went to a class too when my baby was young. It changed so much and has allowed me to wear him much longer which helps living in the city. I laughed at how ridiculous it sounded until it they showed me better ways of using the carrier.
Yupp, it’s important to make sure your baby is safe while being worn
Just like a Child Passenger Safety Technician for car seats.
*Sheepishly raises hand* another sling user here. It may seem a bit odd, but I having a carrier has helped me in so many ways, particularly when I was a brand-new parent. I had an emergency c-section, didn’t get to see the wee one for at least an hour after she was born, I had milk issues and I was also higher risk for developing postpartum depression. Babywearing helped me loads in bonding, plus she sleeps like a champ in the carrier and I can get on with doing other things.
@InvaderTak, don’t know about the US, but participating in babywearing meets and consultations is really affordable in the UK, so it isn’t exclusive or a luxury baby pursuit (although there is a massive variation in carrier prices, so it can become exclusive if you run in “high end” circles).
The DM comments on this are like a battlefield. Lol
And Ryan looks like Cam Gigandet in that picture. Also he looks really thin.
Well the baby should not be dangling because of the hips in the socket, her bum should be supported a little. But they are new parents,i’m sure it was just for the split second pose and he continued to support her.
This is true — babies need to be sitting frog style in this kind of carrier. This is bad for their hips. We accidentally bought a baby Bjorn before we figured out it’s not very ergonomically friendly for the little one and switched to another brand.
It’s only bad for their hips if that already have hip issues Or you’re leaving them I there all day every day. Bjornes are perfectly fine when they’re tiny. They just start to get uncomfortable. So many “babywearers” can’t wait to tell someone what they’re doing wrong when they’re not even that knowledgeable
I live in South Africa and a lot of the populAtion straps the baby to the back or front with a blanket and gets on with life. Been doing it for centuries and we are all fine
We had a bjorn. My kid loved it. We were all very sad when he got too big for it.
This just reminds me how little I know about babies. And how much the sanctimommy crew scares me.
Hopefully it’ll be lesson learned for Ryan… Because if it is potentially going to cause joint issues I guess there is some good in him being called out.
It really is a cult.
Of course there are crazy people parenting who make everyone look bad, but I really think all this sanctimommy stuff is indicative of the lack of social support for families in the US. People try to feel good about what can be really difficult and at times unrewarding choices by judging people who make different choices than they do.
As a parent I agree. Some parents are really scary.
I get that the baby isn’t really in the carrier properly and I think someone pointing it out is cool… its just the ‘pile on’ that pisses me off. For some reason berating people makes others feel better.
I don’t get it. If you want to be a good role model to your child isn’t good communication skills and empathy a really important part? It all seems to be about promoting physical development (bfing, wearing, food) and not about emotional growth and responsibility and just generally teaching your children not to be a d*ick of a person.
Sanctimommy! Love that. I’ve learned the hard way to just keep my mouth shut when it comes to babies. I made a comment about breastfeeding in public not long ago, and the feedback from mothers was vicious to say the least! And, all I said about breastfeeding was to perhaps throw a very light, cotton throw or large napkin over the exposed breast, because some people don’t want to look at someone’s boob while they’re eating. The outrage from mommies ranged from possibly suffocating the baby to asking me how I’d like to eat with a napkin over MY head. The moral of this story? Just give up when it comes to offering your opinion on babies.
Having said this, I love to read the comments from all these mommy “experts” though. Some are beyond ridiculous.
Sorry if boobs make you nauseous. You could always, ya know, not look at them though..
The “Instagram Medical Professionals” clique is insane. LIke… go watch your own kid instead of commenting 20 times on a stranger’s post.
I guess there is a need for babywearing education, because this sure isn’t it. It’s not even about being judgmental — Baby James can indeed suffocate like that. The Ergo comes with instructions which include both photo and illustrative directions too, so it’s not like you can miss a step.
This ^^^ !!!
The baby’s butt goes in the pouch and its little legs go out to either side – kinda like it’s riding a horse. He has it 1000% wrong. If they didn’t have a box they could have Googled it in two seconds.
This photo seems purely for show, so the pushback is amusing. If you’re going to pose for Father’s Day, you’d better do it right or th Mom Posse will take you down!
But everyone gets that… and it was pointed out by enough commenters. Why did people feel the need to keep going? If its about education, why isn’t one person pointing it out enough? Why does each person need to comment?
I can tell you why, because its the only way these people feel confident and that is scary because it is not normal or well adjusted. You shouldn’t need to constantly tell others how shit they are to feel good about yourself and your decisions.
His baby carrier isn’t unsafe, the baby’s legs hanging out are. I’m surprised the baby didn’t fall out of the bottom.
It really looks like there is no child, just “fake baby” legs, since that is all that is visible.
If there are also beige booty shorts, then we’ll KNOW there’s baby daddy drama…
When I first saw this pic I also cringed. I mean how is that even comfortable for baby and how did he manage to get her in it like that? You’re supposed to strap it around your hips and tighten it before you even put baby in. One look at the box/instructions for the carrier and you see that it is not supposed to be used like that, how is she not slipping out the bottom? I really thought maybe it was a joke at first.
Where’s the baby’s head?
This joke was surprisingly funny and deserves an applaud, so I’ll rather focus on that. I cringed and eye-rolled through most of the corny father’s day wishes I read and that one was like a breath of fresh air, albeit from an unexpected source. I expected Blake to be the first to post some teary, pathos induced poem about the miracles of fatherhood and now I like her a little bit more for making fun of that.
Same – I generally think shes harmless and a little boring (which is fine!) but this was funny. I wonder if the picture was actually meant to kinda go with the caption (as in not sure your the father and either way your a total fail…)
Not a parent either so I have no problem with moms judging away in this instance.
Hi I Choose Me. *waves*. You changed your avatar from the red flower?
Hi Jegede. Yep. My avi is now an actual pic of me.
She changed it eons ago, Jegede. Where you been? 😉
Blake’s Father’s Day post was hysterical.
@I Choose Me – I’ve seen your avatar many, many times and I always wondered if that’s you or some celebrity I’ve never seen before. In that case – wow, you’re very pretty.
@Norman Bates Mother – Yes she is
@Kitten – Oh she has?
Doh! *bangs head Homer style*
No kids so have no idea about the baby situation but the joke was really funny.
Moms are just concern and I think tey should be. He isn’t carrying the baby correctly even if the baby’s bones are “jellly.” Her legs should be be able to move freely or else they can twist and perhaps even get broken from the restraint. Also, it helps her breathe better when her legs are free.
The hip thing can cause major issues, I’ve seen older babies who’ve needed a full lower body cast to get their hips back into place after months of constantly being put in carriers like this. Plus, yeah, big suffocation risk there.
I’m hoping they just quickly took a photo then put the baby in the carrier properly.
Hoping they were just fooling around briefly. Probably were.
Hip dysplasia is real, tends to run in families, can cause real (sometimes lifelong) pain and disability, and we probably aren’t nearly as aware of it as we used to be ’cause improved early identification/intervention.
I had hip dysplasia as a child and my mom used the splints on me and I’m a happy, healthy adult.
Great to hear! Have seen cases where it wasn’t addressed but that was more in Olden Days.
Sorry to hear about your condition, Kitten. It must’ve been hard for your mom to watch her baby like this. Good to hear you’re okay now.
My dog has hip dyplasia real bad. It sucks. Yet there’s only so much I can do. (That’s all I got as far as “parenting” goes…)
Blake’s father’s day joke was funny..
It’s almost funny, because the baby is in there SO incorrectly. Her legs are supposed to be spraying out the sides, about six inches up, like straddling or froggy style. I’m not an expert on the long term health problems, it’s just hilarious that no one looked at the box.
I still can’t believe they named the baby James.
And it speaks to how annoying I find these two (barring that excellent joke, Mizz Lively) that here’s a picture of a happy, muscular dad holding a baby and it’s doing nothing for me.
My girlfriend grew up a Michael and she loved it. There are so many more bizarre names out there — I don’t mind James at all. But it’s not my child, and I sure would’t want a bunch of strangers weighing in on my children’s name.
Its becoming common. Coco Rocha’s new born daughter’s name is Iona James.
I know two female Michael. I love the name James for a girl.
wow, blake’s joke actually is funny, do I need to revalue her?
I’m not so much for shaming and I hate mommy blogs but I have to say-if you don’t know the baby’s legs shouldn’t hang out of the bottom of the carrier and that the baby’s head shouldn’t be completely buried in the carrier…I don’t know, man. That’s pretty bad. Kind of funny because I doubt they’ll make the mistake again but also kind of “duh” on their part. I mean, even if you don’t read the instructions, the pictures on the box should be enough to avoid those mistakes. That and common sense.
OK, as a mom let me say, NOT THE RIGHT TIME!!!!
This was a father’s day celebration. Let him have his day. I’m sure they have pediatricians and friends who can take them aside and point out how to use the carrier correctly.
Also, why do 10000 people feel like it’s their business to point this out? If you were there on the beach with them, then for sure lend a helping hand. Otherwise let someone close to them handle it.
Once at the park, i saw a young mom improperly strap her baby in the stroller. Her friend came up to her and helped her correct the situation, but another mom came ACROSS the park to berate her for 10 minutes and tell her everything she did wrong. AFTER everything was fixed. She was not wrong about the stroller. And yet she was very, very wrong as a person.
Happy Father’s Day, Ryan!
Great point. You can see how many people get joy out of his/their mistake. The line about reading the instructions as closely as a script was particularly telling – that’s a person who is much more interested in coming off as clever than actually helping.
Seriously. I also think it’s because a lot of parents have pent-up boredom (caring for young children is mind-numbing a lot of the times) and anger, and it has to come out someway. Hence, judgy, vitriolic moms and dads. There’s a lot of frustration, aggression, negativity and boredom that comes with being a parent, along with the good stuff — something I truly didn’t understand until I had children.
Honest Toddler (which is hilarious by the way) posted this on Facebook today: http://www.toddlersareaholes.com/2015/03/dear-perfect-mom-in-facebook-comments_23.html
The timing couldn’t be better 🙂
Well said!
Pity that some folks still come here to berate RR for the 1000000th time just the same. It’s getting old.
Lara k – exactly. There is a time and a place. Honestly, unsolicited advice from strangers makes me want to strangle someone. It’s hard enough being a new mom and trying to figure everything out. Leave the sanctimommy bullshit at home.
Someone once approached me when I was wearing my baby in a sling (at church) and said “that doesn’t look very comfortable”. Meanwhile my baby is snoring away. bitch please! I followed the instruction manual perfectly! It only took me 7 tries!!.
@Odessa – LMAO
THIS. The baby came through its ‘terrifying ordeal’ with no lasting trauma clearly so we should just leave it alone. The amount of stories I read of parents being berated in public by other judgy know it alls is astounding, raise your own kids and shut up.
They wanted to tell the world how awesome they were as parents and it backfired. They should’ve just posted the pic of the nanny who surely knows how to use that baby carrier properly.
i don’t particular like either of them, but I don’t see how they were trying to say they’re awesome parents. she just posted a pic of her husband&child on father day, with a funny caption. that’s it.
@ell – Exactly.
For some its a case of damned either way. Whenever. Wherever.
So true lola
That baby is six months??? Tiny.
My first hated any kind of carrier but my arms, and my second was twins, so to the stroller they went! Judge away, crazy judgey moms!
One day the kids are grown and all that judgey stuff starts to go away. As long as your kids are financially independent and socially successful and call you every week and join you on fabulous trips and live in beautiful houses. : )
🙂 I’m not there yet- they are all teens, though, and heading in the right direction. The eldest is excited about college and the two younger still claim to want to live with hubs & me while in college. I keep telling them their opinions will change as they progress to college age! Warms my heart, though, to think we must be doing alright by them! ;-D
Good news! Nothing wrong with going away, nothing wrong with living at home. They grow up either way. Some kids go away and blow off school; some kids stay home and focus on school; or vice versa all around. If they stay home it saves $$$. I have one at home who expects to move out for half the undergrad – saving first two years of dorm money for grad school. And you know what? Some people say that’s smart and some people think something’s wrong because APPARENTLY there is only one right way to do something (the way the judger did it OR the way they wished they did it). It’s impossible to keep up with the unwritten rules. : )
Wow – I don’t want to sound like a preachy mum, but that baby is positioned so incorrectly that I’m seriously wondering if it’s part of the joke! If not, they sure won’t make that mistake again. We used to own one of these Ergo carriers a few years ago when the kids were small. Here’s a link to a pic of how the Ergo Carrier SHOULD be worn – baby’s head should be visible at the top, and the bottom panel should be strapped firmly around the wearer’s waist to act as a support for the baby’s bottom. And of course their little legs should sit either side of the middle panel.
http://www.mamakidsjunction.com/ergobaby-bundle-of-joy-baby-carrier
Hmm. Now that I’ve seen that photo of how the baby’s legs are supposed to be coming out the sides above the hip strap, I can understand the concern. Hopefully they will learn from the incident. I’m sure the baby will survive one way or another.
Gah Celia and Crumpet! Did you look at the infant insert for the Ergo?????? If you did you would know this is what the baby is in and baby has just fallen in the carrier a bit (you can see the head/neck support portion of the insert sticking out the top of the carrier). Babe’s legs are NOT supposed to be sticking out the sides. For heaven’s sake, this is a PERFECT example of why onlookers need to STOP judging and START supporting. Because a lot of judgments are based on erroneous presumptions. Gah!!!
@pookypie – even in the infant insert, the baby’s legs shouldn’t dangle out through the waistband. In the infant insert their legs are tucked up in a froggy position between their body and the parent’s body because they’re too small to “straddle” the parent. The Ergo infant inserts are to be used for babies under 12 lbs or under 4 months who can’t hold their heads up. I think James is probably too big and too old for an infant insert. Whether or not you’re using the infant insert, the bottom band is supposed to be tight against the adult’s body to hold the baby in. But I actually don’t think this is an Ergo carrier based on the appearance that the very top portion looks padded/stiffened. Someone above mentioned another brand that may or may not have a crotch support, in which case, all the pearl clutching may be for naught.
I believe the carrier is a Lillebaby and you don’t need the infant insert with it. The band around the bottom is supposed to be tight around your waist so the baby doesn’t fall out.
I have an ergo and used an insert and no, the feet should not be able to fall out of the bottom at all. It’s like a padded cocoon and cushioned to help keep the baby up and the waistband is supposed to be tighter around your waist. Some people skip the insert and use a folded up blanket.
Many tweets were very nice to him, not judging, but just pointing it out to him as a new father and wishing him a Happy Father’s Day. Some were mean and tactless.
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Let’s face it, without the judgy, superiority-complex moms celebrity “lifestyle” gurus like this kid’s mother would actually have to rely on their acting talent to make a living.
i mean i know nothing of those things, but if they’re doing it wrong it’s ok to POLITELY point it out. berating is absurd though.
yes, thank you. I also think he can look down and see her face well enough.
I will admit, I am one of those judgey mums and I cringed when I saw this picture. It looks like an Ergo baby carrier, we have the same one, and it looks like James is going to fall out of it. Her legs need to be in the frog position, around Ryan’s stomach. It is really important that her legs are in the right position as her bones are still so malleable. It cannot be comfortable for her at all like that.
And I’m sure if she was so uncomfortable she would have let her parents know so there’s no need for extraneous cringing.
I had a baby carrier that I got at my shower with my son. I never felt safe or comfortable in it. My son always cried when I tried it,probably because he wasn’t in right. I was able to exchange it and get diapers, due to Babies R Us’ awesome 12 month return policy on registry gifts. I just couldn’t deal with it.
To me personally, it is great to see a Dad involved. First time parents are going to do things wrong, lay off the guy!! It’s a learning experience. When my husband was a baby in the 60’s, his ‘car seat’ was a dresser drawer in the backseat. Calm down …
On a funnier note, he’d better rethink the positioning before the kid gets bigger and kicks him in the balls. LMAO
Your comment is the best yet in the thread!!
Antisocialbutterfly is right this is the best comment, haha! dresser drawer! people forget that human beings have been raising kids long before all these baby accessories.
My mom just used a box for us. 🙂
My grandma said that she actually used the bottom dresser drawer for my dad to sleep in because they didn’t have a crib. The next year when my uncle came along, they got a crib for my dad, and used the drawer for my uncle. I think that’s when they moved to a house and my grandpa built another crib so they’d have two. (Being good Irish Catholics they certainly needed two cribs, lol!)
What I love about the judgy as*hole moms is that they keep commenting saying the same damn thing thousands of others have already said, that kills me. The only reason they keep going is so they can pat themselves on the back and feel like a superior parent for pointing out a flaw.
It’s a cute picture!
Best comment ever.
My kid is eight, so I have literally no memory of what carrier I used or how he was positioned. But hey, there’s a dad taking an active role in parenting his child. Obviously the first the we must do is point out his incompetence.
They may be judgy, but they aren’t wrong about the carrier.
not to be a twat, but these comments praising a dad because he’s involved in his child’s life? no, come on. it’s 2015, men better be involved. it’s like when I see women praising men for being feminists, I’m not gonna praise them for believing in basic human decency.
and yes, I know that many fathers are still not taking any responsibility for their children, but those should be the ones being commented on. fathers BEING fathers should be as praised as mothers being mothers.
judgy moms are the best form of birth control. they remind you of what NOT to become! thank you ladies 🙂 and if they have time to comment on the photos in the first place, they probably aren’t the greatest mom either.
Consider this co-signed.
It seemed like the ONLY time my kids wanted/needed my attention was when I was on the phone or the computer. I certainly didn’t have time to spend online commenting about someone else’s kids or judging what the parents were doing, when my own were demanding my attention.
Wow, talk about judgmental.
Loved Blake’s joke! I was dying. It is good to see her sense of humor finally get across as opposed to her looking like an a$$ hole. lol I wish more people paid attention to the joke because it is pure gold!
Anyways people need to get a life. Seriously. This is all over the news and there are thousands of people saying the same thing. We get it. You parents are perfect and have never made a mistake and Blake and Ryan aren’t. They are the worst parents ever. Whatever will they do with all your criticism and telling them how to raise their baby. I’m sure they are sitting in their mansion with millions still coming in, laughing and cooing with their baby with the many fine artisanal items from Preserve. Poor Blake and Ryan.
I think its sad that MOTHERS have started this crap.
Fathers are too busy pushing their kids dangerously high on swings and encouraging them to do daring acrobatics on hard concrete and high dives off the board. Isn’t it an old saw, fathers take more risks with their kids, mothers hold their breath and try not to look. And how many fathers are looking at Blake Lively’s Instagram anyway?
I’m always amazed by people who feel they are better moms because of this kind of stuff and feel the need to tell everyone how to raise their kids… I’m sure Blake and Ryan do the best they can at parenting and as all parents they also commit mistakes.
Modern motherhood has way too much judgement and far too little support. The “village” isn’t there to help but you will quickly get flamed by the masses if you screw something up, courtesy of social media. I hate that. One more thing to increase stress and a feeling of isolation for moms.
I’m not a judgy mommy. Especially now that my kids are toddlers, I am more of a defender of moms (because we are stack alone all day with tiny crazy people). Having said that, when it comes to safety and I mean, real safety, I will of course speak out. Let me give non-moms an example. If you saw a child in a car and there seat belt was not clasped, but instead tide in a bow, would you freak out? Yes. This is the same situation. It is not safe for the baby as she can easily slip out. It is also incredibly bad for her still developing and fragile bones, not to mention her breathing. So on this one, I am team judge!
I read the headline..’unsafe, dangerous baby carrier’.. and thought oh she’s not that bad..wait, this is about a chair??
Does anyone else think that maybe the picture was meant to be funny? Like “ha ha, look at dad’s first attempt at this baby carrying thing”. I know my first try was a disaster!
The baby is 6 months old. She’s not some fragile newborn. Her hips aren’t going to vegas destroyed from being put in a carrier incorrectly for 15 minutes and she’s not going to suffocate. They probably covered her head so it wouldn’t be in the picture since they haven’t released a picture. She is obviously strapped in tight and not at risk for falling out.
People need to calm down and get over themselves.
This baby is not remotely 6 months in that picture. But even if the baby was 6 month, how long have they been carrying her that way? You say 15 min, but you can’t possibly know that. I agree that the hysteria is a bit much. Yet I do think people have a responsibility to point out what these idiots clearly missed from the directions.
Joke was funny, and if he was carrying her wrong, I’m sure he knows better now. I can’t stand the mom brigade.
I think this is the same carrier as I just got for my newborn… a lot of babies are too small to do the frog position in this carrier so it comes with an infant insert that has the legs tucked closer together inside of the carrier, as well as an added shield to support the neck. Looks like baby just dropped down a little (re: feet stuck out the bottom) which happened to my little guy too as the belt can become a little loose (not loose enough for babe to fall out). This isn’t a huge deal- you can just pop baby back up. It’s wonderful that this dad is proudly and happily spending time with his babe. Also, the fact that an onlooker can’t see the baby’s head in the carrier is a non-issue. The important thing is that the CAREGIVER can see the baby’s head inside of the carrier, which I am sure papa can. Unless something is terribly wrong (I see this all the time as I am a social worker) people need to stop judging and start supporting fellow parents.
Not a parent here, but what about those babies asleep in carriers, front or back, whose heads are lolling around? Just looking at them makes me uncomfortable…
All the judgy moms (and dads) would’ve had a field day with this one: A few months ago, I saw a couple riding bikes crossing traffic – with a tiny newborn infant strapped to the father’s chest.
Then again, I think about all the unsafe stuff we did or were subjected to when I was a kid. It’s always something.
I hate to be a judgy mom, but I am going to be one here: they need to learn how to put the baby in the carrier. It can be super-confusing. But it’s important. The fact that neither of them seemed to know how to do it is sorta concerning.
It’s supposed to be like “we baby wear and Ryan is a hands on dad” but it comes off as “we bought this as a prop, didn’t look at the instructions, and will never use it again, I’m so handsome!” Very bizarre,
I loathe the mommy wars; I happily used a Baby Bjorn as well as other carriers (slings, an Ergo).
BUT: that baby’s legs are coming out of the waist strap. It is completely bizarre. Ergos aren’t rocket science. They have a distinct place for the baby’s butt and legs. I loved my Ergo and used it more than any other carrier because it was so easy to use and can also be used as a backpack for older babies/toddlers.
I’m sure the kid will be fine, but he looks like an idiot.
i love that half the comments are like “i’m not a judgy mum/hate to be a judgy mum” BUT *onslaught of judgemental opinions on how they’re doing it wrong*. lmao.
Right? Their kid is FINE, let it go.
It’s not an opinion. The baby is placed incorrectly and it’s not safe.
I never comment, but seriously we get the point. After about the 10th comment mentioning the incorrect positioning of the baby it was understood by literally everyone that the baby was not in there correctly. Not trying to be snarky in anyway but I completely understand why certain celebrities don’t want to post pictures of their babies. I mean everybody makes mistakes when parenting or learning to parent. Imagine if a million people nitpicked at everything you did wrong.
The moms have a point, he’s wearing it wrong and the baby could fall out the bottom.
I’m actually glad to see that people are speaking up when they see unsafe baby pics. Oddly enough, the internet is helping new parents become more educated and aware of safety issues that are often overlooked by most people AND yet are listed right there in the actual manuals. Especially with regards to babywearing and carseats. Oh, and the carseat insert things balancing precariously on shopping baskets! I’d much rather see more babywearing, but it does still need to be safe.
I was horrified to learn I had been doing so many things wrong with my first baby. Turned her front-facing far too early (thinking it was a 1 yr ‘milestone’), wearing poofy winter coats in the car seat, keeping the chest strap far too low. I was always so thankful when someone pointed out the proper method. What’s the point of using this stuff if you don’t use it correctly? When you know better, you do better. There’s a huge difference between the “Mommy Wars” and “It takes a village”. It’s all in the delivery, but the more common education is, the better.
I’ve learned a lot listening to judgy moms. They’re celebrities, what else are they good for if not judging what they do?
But really, when it comes to seeing someone in the grocery store looking like this I would offer help. If you treat someone like they’re stupid or an awful parent like the Instagram comments then they’re not going to listen to you.
there’s a baby in this picture???
I don’t really think it’s judgy to point out something so obvious and frankly, kinda scary. The baby looks like she could fall out and her face must be smashed into his chest.
Judgy is more like “omg babywearing? You dirty boring hippies!”
I think people are just concerned. I wear my babies and if you do, you know that this position wouldn’t feel right for baby or parent. And knowing how carriers work, and how easy they are in reality, it’s odd no one told them this was wrong before they posted it,