The Bachelorette star, Kaitlyn Bristowe, slept with a contestant long before fantasy suite time. It’s a huge scandal, apparently. [Dlisted]
Rosamund Pike wore three white dresses in one weekend. [LaineyGossip]
J.K. Rowling wrote a new backstory on the Dursleys. [Buzzfeed]
Jessica Chastain puts a fresh spin on the little black dress. [Go Fug Yourself]
Joe Guidice & daughters are filming their own reality show. [Reality Tea]
Gwendoline Christie makes everyone look like a puny mortal. [Pajiba]
Chris Hemsworth & Elsa Pataky stroll through Heathrow airport. [A Socialite Life]
Ariana Grande & Lea Michele film Scream Queens in New Orleans. [Moe Jackson]
Jon Hamm was “not involved” in the Cardinals hacking scandal. [Uproxx]
Bella Thorne wore a cute jump suit & showed off her legs. [Popoholic]
Demi Moore‘s bikini body is pretty insane. [Wonderwall]
Cindy Crawford‘s closet is as big as a living room. [Celebrity Baby Scoop]
Chris Pratt recreated his raptor scene with sick kids. [Evil Beet]
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Sigh….can we please stop calling women sluts.
Why should we…some women deserve that description of themselves. And some men deserve the equivalent name for themselves.
I’ve watched this show (which I am embarrassed to admit), but I will also admit it’s the last season for me to ever watch it. I don’t need to see all the groping, groaning, tongue wrestling, etc., in prime time and am amazed they get away with it. Her behavior has been absolutely slutty and self serving, but her male counterpart is just as bad. It’s time to put this show to pasture.
But there is no male equivalent of slut. That’s the problem.
Bachelor sleeps with contestant: OMG, she’s such a slut.
Bachelorette sleeps with contestant: OMG, she’s such a slut.
There IS no male equivalent, that’s exactly the point.
No, because you having sex as an adult is not a part of your moral description.
A: first of all, we are not the generation that discovered sex. People did sleep around in “the olden days”. And for every straight man that had sex there was a straight woman who had sex, so it was never just men anyway.
While I agree that we need to have better conversations about consent and making sure that everyone is only having the sex they want, there are plenty of women (like me for example) who actually DO want casual sex sometimes. I’m not lowering my standards by wanting sex, I’m exercising my right to gain pleasure from my body in the ways I see fit. Not everyone is into casual sex, that’s completely fine, but “slutty” implies there’s a right way and a wrong way, and that’s bulls***.
You do you, and I’ll do me (and any consenting adults who I want to do as well).
Just because the word slut isn’t used as often in regards to a man doesn’t mean there isn’t an equivalent. I’ve seen manwhore used in reference to some of the bachelors such as Juan Pablo. Everyone can tell which guys are just out for sex and they are judged for it too. The most popular “Bachelors” (ie the ones that manage to prolong their fame) are usually the ones that don’t flaunt the skanky sex in a hot tub aspect.
Preach, embertine.
I like your way of thinking, embertine. I am 52 and find it refreshing the way younger adults approach their sexuality. Being single for a while now has made me miss only one thing from a relationship – sex. I am way past wanting to settle down with someone and frankly, I prefer my own company – most of the time (plus, being older, I am set in my ways). So a casual sexual relationship appeals to me now.
There was a “Love Letters” column in the Boston Globe recently where the 26 year old female complained that the only time she ever saw the guy she was dating was late at night and well, you get the gist. I was like, dayum, girl! Send him my way!
Yeah, sure, let’s find a derogatory term for men. OR, maybe – just maybe ! – we can stop judging people for liking sex altogether? Would be much easier, no? You don’t have to like it when someone has many partners but you could just ignore it. Saves time and energy.
There’s nothing wrong with having sex but I’ve got to say there is something disappointing about people (men or women) who will do it with whoever because there’s an itch that needs scratching. I think there’s room for the word slut and that it can be used for either a man or a woman. It’s just saying they’re promiscuous.
But… really – “Hey You! Over here behind the ficus!” impulsive sex seems like it could eventually devalue the intimacy of it… or maybe it’s not private/intimate anymore. Maybe that’s my problem – that I’ve not caught up to the idea that getting naked and swapping fluids with someone, regardless of whether you just met them, don’t know their last name or even plan to speak with them again, is the thing to do and is so much awesome.
I’m not even talking about friends with benefits because even in that situation it’s a friend… someone you know and have an arrangement with. I’m talking the stranger at the bar or some random from the party. I didn’t think the Bachelorette fit the bill for slutty… she was definitely flirtatious and kissed a few guys but then slept with a guy she’d interacted with more than once (as I understand it anyway) She probably knew more about that guy than a lot of us know about the guys we’ve dated several times before hopping to it.
But, yes, I think if you’re jumping on whoever looks good and it happens a lot… I just can’t knock the feeling that it somehow cheapens the experience if it’s had with whoever is willing and able at that second. For one thing, for a lot of people sex/love are synonymous and it’s confusing. For another, hopping from one vagina/penis to another could also delay the maturation of a person for real, meaningful relationships with the opposite sex.
IMO… of course. 🙂
There IS a male equivalent! Me and my friends openly discuss slutty men. Girls straight up tell guys they don’t want to go out with them because they’re sluts and thats not who they want. Some guys get defensive, braggyand others got their feelings hurt by our political incorrectness or crass. I’ve heard crass said a lot as a type of way to get at people who refuse to play that stupid politcal correctness bs game.
exactly. its plain , male supremacy. let it go. women are not inferior. if only it was taken as seriously as racial supremacy.
I hope you know those things intersect. There is no separation between all forms of oppression at all.
I don’t watch that show, but why is it (her sleeping with the guy) so scandalous? And why is she the one getting criticized? They’re competing for a *marriage proposal.*
I don’t like her or the show for that matter. There are PLENTY of reasons not to like this woman or the show; therefore, I think it is swinging at low-hanging fruit to knock her for having sex (gasp) with a potential suitor on a show that shamelessly lines up a bevy of suitors for a bachelor/bachelorette.
I cannot believe there’s still an audience for these shows. Actually, I cannot believe there ever WAS an audience for these shows. These people seem so damn thirsty.
Absolutely. It’s such a gross show and it never works out (surprise!)
Yeah the show seems to treat women and men like commodities to be auctioned off. It’s very odd.
My mom, and she’s a smart woman.
That explains everything. 😜
…and to think that I was gonna give Kiddo’s Mom the final rose. SMDH.
I have a few friends who watch it religiously and one who gets very invested in all of it. Whenever she brings it up, I say “you know that’s all fake, right?” but she seems to love it.
I don’t get it watching it, but I REALLY don’t get participating in it. The whole thing is gross, and they’re all just after fame – but no one from those shows ever really transitioned into an actual celebrity in show biz or anything, right? I just don’t understand it.
That is where I am at as well. Who is watching these shows and why?
For some unknowable reason, my dad loves this show. Yes, that’s right. My dad. My mother dislikes it but tolerates it to keep the peace.
Haha, come sit next to me.
What is “fantasy suite time”? That sounds like a GoT euphemism for marital dungeon.
HODOR!
You missed the skinny jeans.
I did not. 👻
Double standards alive and well in 2015.
+1 After reading the online backlash one would think she had sex with herself. It’s: she is this… and she is that…. but there’s no mention of the guy she slept with. If she is a slut, so is he, if she should be ashamed of herself, so is he. I don’t think what THEY did was necessarily right and commendable, but It’s not about having casual sex, but rather doing it as contestants on a dumb television show, in front of their families, friends, neighbors and millions of strangers.
People still watch that shit? I don’t think I could even handle it for a laugh. It’s too ridiculous.
So let me see if I got this straight. Two consenting adults engaged in sex, on a show that all but encourages it. I am shocked I tell you. Shocked!!!!
Absolutely! I mean, of all the life choices this person has made, like being on a grossly exploitative reality TV show for example, having sex is the one that is controversial? OH PLEASE
I do appreciate when sarcasm can come across in print.
Lol. Oh please is right. Context, people!
Gross show with gross fake people that literally wh*re themselves out for a tiny bit of fame.
Liked Jessica’s look, would wear it myself.
So Homegirl Likes sex, has agency of when she doles it out and WANTS TO DO SO instead of playing coy in a PUBLIC CONTEST TO INDEED FIND A SLEEPING PARTNER FOR A FEW MONTHS???
GTFOH
I had forgotten how effective the sarcastic use of a well-placed “GTFOH” can be. Well played, sir or madam, well played.
Whats the big deal? I’m sure she bangs all of them sooner or later
I do not watch the Bachelor/ette and I always just assumed that the protagonist was banging their way through the crowd from day 1 until they find their “soulmate” among the harem. Obviously I am too cynical about modern love.
The show is gross as a whole, but really? This woman is looking to get MARRIED on television, and we’re shaming her for daring to try out the goods before she legally latches onto it? Unbelievable. What 50s delusion are people living in where women don’t have sex with their partners before marriage?
Well, we all (or almost all) have sex with our partners before marriage, but most of us have one partner at a time – not 25 of them.
That’s exactly my problem with it.
Eh, even if she did so what? The guys are participating too.
Why? Provided it was consensual and both partners were safe, what’s the problem? She wasn’t formally attached to any of them. Didn’t we have a Bachelor contender receive a blowjob offscreen a few years ago? Where the discussions about how promiscuous *he* was, especially since he wound up going with a different contender?
WOMAN HOOKS UP ON SHOW ABOUT HOOKING UP: NATION OUTRAGED
Ripples of shock are spreading across the land after Kaitlyn Bristowe, star of this season’s Bachelorette show about beautiful, horrible people pretending to get married, had actual sexytimes with a contestant before the ring was on her finger!
Kaitlyn gave it up for sexy superstud Nick Viall after only a length of time arbitrarily determined by us as being too short – and viewers are not happy about it. We spoke to Amanda Bulfort, 31, a long-time fan of the show:
“I can’t believe that woman and her slutty, slutty, no-good behaviour! I mean yes, I do watch the show exactly hoping that stuff like this will happen, but that’s not going to stop me judging the heck out of her for it!”
The mother-of-two continued: “I’m a Christian woman and I can’t believe this was shown on primetime. I had to watch it again in freeze frame to make sure I could judge her properly!”
Mr Viall was not available for comment, but was available for a round of high-fives from our editors.
Sorry to be so trite, but LOL!
I loved your comment above saying that “or every straight man that had sex there was a straight woman who had sex”.
It doesn’t matter if they’re married, single, dating or complete strangers, they’re both doing the exact same thing, they should be held to the same standards.
In any case, I think this was just a scripted move to try to get people to watch that silly show.
Embertine you are my new favourite person on the internet today. 😀
embertine, I’ve missed you since your kickass comment about not having enough “cranberry juice to heal up a UTI from banging Fassy and his disgusting monster dong”.
I think today is another winner for you girl!
Ahahaha, I don’t know whether to be pleased or horrified that I am now known for that comment.
No biggie really! Whatever. However, I can tell you that if she slept with ALL the contestants I would happily call her a slut, or a ho, or some other variation of the same. If a man did the exact same thing and slept with ALL the contestants I’d call him disgusting, a douchebag, a pig so for me in that case it’s all the same. I don’t care about them sleeping with a couple to try to find the right guy because that’s what we do but I do think it’s disgusting to test ALL the goods before you buy it whether you’re a guy or a girl.
Why? I don’t want to single you out but in general I don’t get it.
People are so bizarre with their investment in who/how many people that perfect strangers sleep with.
You had me at people are so bizarre.
Someone shoud follow her around ringing a bell and saying, “Shame.”
If a man or woman doesn’t want to have casual sex, don’t have it. But don’t concern troll and work yourself up in some faux concern for societal values because someone didn’t follow exactly the same path as you in determining their sexual behavior.
Do people not have enough real problems that they have the time and energy to care about consenting adults having sex?
How is shaming men the answer? Why’s there gotta be shame?
THIS.
Yep dead on!
Yup. Two single, consenting adults had sex. Well I never!
So they’re implying there are some bachelors and bachelorettes who do NOT sleep with contestants? I thought they all did. No surprise but no gender blaming need apply. It does take two you know?
There is absolutely nothing with casual sex whether it is male or female. No male equivalent of slut of needed. We, as a society, should accept that sex is natural and a very beautiful thing. In many ways, it can be one of the best parts of being alive. Now Take Me to Church. Lol
I don’t care who she sleeps with — I just don’t get why anybody would want it broadcast on tv.
I hear you.
So there was no man involved in this? She slept with someone but somehow, all on her own?
A man was involved, yknow…
That dlisted article was hilarious and spot on. Good for her for tapping that, because it’s hot, and holy wtf his twitter speech should be implemented in place of abstinence only education everywhere. Love love love his attitude about female sexuality. Will thank him in person if the opportunity arises.
You mean what is in the link? I read and I thought it was a bit gross, even if the guy is being sarcastic.
So, how do these shows work? There is one girl and 10 (?) men vying for her “love”? And so then she picks one who is her “true love”?
I think what people have a problem with is having sex multiple partners at the same time while professing to be looking for love / committed relationship. Most people first pick someone they think they would like to get to know better and then become exclusive and try it. At least that is current society expectations.
Had to google The bachelorette to know what is it about. Given the nature of the show, I don’t understand the shock. Ok, I do understand, it’s a woman.
I’ve never watched or understood the draw of this show.
Is the bachelorette getting flack just for having sex with a contestant or because she may have “disrespected” the other contestants? Either way the show is stupid
I think part of is like a violation of the unspoken bachelor franchise. Instead of thou shall not have sex before marriage it’s thou shall not have sex before Chris Harrison gives you the key to the fantasy suite. I am not judging anyone’s sexual behavior but would you want to get engaged if your betrothed in real life said I slept with 2 of your friends this week but decided I like you the best so lets get married.Okay. To me the physical action is the least of the problems with this scenario. Also I am a woman of a certain age and then some and if my mom was still alive the idea of her seeing this makes mre nauseous.Maybe I’ve just dated myself.
Sex isn’t “just” sex, though.
There are consequences that needs to be spoken of more often.
Even kissing comes with consequences. You can catch anything from herpes to getting infected with someone’s dental and gum problems.