There is still a big question mark hanging over Charlize Theron and Sean Penn’s breakup. We know that the breakup happened post-Cannes Film Festival. We know that Sean Penn is a hyper-critical douchebag. And we know that Charlize ghosted him hard, refusing to speak to him or “explain” why she was dumping him. Now Star Magazine has some additional information, and while they don’t know the exact situation, there is some interesting info in this story.
After Charlize Theron and Sean Penn’s happy outing at the Cannes Film Festival, they traveled to Vienna for the annual Life Ball on May 20. They seemed to be having a blast, but something went down after the ball – and it’s wasn’t pretty.
“Charlize refuses to tell anyone the specifics, but they had a fight that left her completely shaken,” says an insider. “Sean later blamed alcohol and begged her not to leave him,”
But Charlize ultimately decided Sean’s temper – a trait that has long plagued his relationships – was too explosive to live with and she left him flat.
“When the split came, no one was surprised,” says one of Charlize’s pals. “Charlize is extremely sensitive toward physical or verbal abuse; she just won’t stand for it.”
At a park in LA recently, Jackson hit another child and Charlize got very upset – “She immediately removed Jackson from the park. She told him it was not OK to hit anyone, ever.”
“Charlize knew about Sean’s past yet was convinced he was over that period of his life,” reveals the source. Yet more and more she came to see the dark side of Sean. “It got to the point where she didn’t trust him around her son anymore. For his sake as well as her own, she pulled the plug on the relationship.”
When they returned from Europe, Charlize insisted that Sean vacate her Hollywood home. He begrudgingly obliged, hastily taking his Malibu pad off the market.
“Charlize is a strong, mature person and Sean is a bully who drinks too much and throws tantrums. She just couldn’t take it anymore.”
[From Star Magazine, print edition]
I think this story is probably very close to the truth. He was drunk and belligerent and he said or did something that scared her and it was so big that there was no coming back. And I believe that whatever happened, it was so big that she no longer wants him around Jackson at all. There was some debate about the maturity of “ghosting” someone when you’re dumping them, and while I think that’s generally speaking an interesting debate, in this specific case, I love Charlize for it and I hope she completely rebuffs any and all of Sean’s attempts to get back together.
Here are some photos of Charlize and Sean at the Life Ball in May. This is where it all fell apart.
Photos courtesy of Getty, WENN.
Yeah, I buy this too. He probably hid it for a while, she was probably in denial about it for a while, then the sex haze wore off and she thought ‘WTH am I doing’?!
it’s not just the sex, not at all, people have good traits and bad, sometimes it’s just very hard to convince yourself which ones you should really focus on especially if they are not really bad person just unfit.
He was tamping it down. But he got drunk and then became verbally abusive. He may have accused her of looking at other men because he felt insecure and the booze did him in by making him lose his grip and his unpleasant traits were revealed. I don’t know why she hooked up with him in the first place. Obviously, he can be charming and a great person….when he’s sober.
My guess is she “ghosted” him because she didn’t want ANY more contact, due to hints of, or actual, physical abuse.
She’d ghost him because he’s too dangerous to be around.
Although, if she herself told him to move out, that’s not ghosting. Breaking up is the most dangerous time for abused women.
She may have gone through staff to tell him to move, though, and had bodyguards with her and her child.
It’s true, always difficult to sort out the relative balance of good and bad traits that everyone has, but I also firmly believe in the dark power of the sex haze. But maybe that’s just me!
Yes, also a firm believer of the dark power of the “dong haze”, much to my detriment sometimes.
‘Round these parts we call it “dicknotized” heh.
I agree, but can someone please explain to me how this angry hobbit casts a sex haze? Clearly he does, or else how does he wind up with such beautiful women? When he was younger, yes. Remember At Close Range? Just my opinion but he was attractive, bad personality aside. Now….no. And he has documented history of violence, yet somehow he gets them to overlook all that. Penn must have some serious black magic skills.
So If I say dicknaTized in reference to this one I won’t get kicked off CB today…
I would never date a man who slammed his ex-wife in public, especially by someone with his history of anger and physical abuse. If he does it to the mother of his children, he’s going to do it to you, too.
I too can testify to the mind-silencing power of dicktimisaton…great while it lasts but you practically need rehab to get off of it (pardon the pun!!)
“But he’s different with me.” “I think you just brought out the worst in him.” “He’s changed.” We may not be the weaker sex, but we sure give “dumber” a run for its money sometimes.
Yes, how else to explain why women get involved with men who they know have been abusive in their past relationships?
It’s abuser 101 to recruit a new female to hate on the last…who was “bi-polar”….”frigid”….”had unresolved issues”….blah blah blah. When a man hates on his x…I run!!
You know, I’ll give a woman who is already married to an abusive guy, doesn’t work, has kids, and has no way to get out some understanding when she can’t or doesn’t get out of an abusive relationship for some time. But a world famous, very wealthy actress getting into a relationship with a man who is known for this?? When her own family suffered from abuse from her dad?? I always thought that Charlize maybe isn’t wrapped too tight herself to get involved with Penn under those circumstances.
And if he got abusive, she can’t say she had no idea. She wasn’t taken by surprise. Also, it bothered me that she brought him into her life with her innocent and helpless child. Shame on her. I have zero respect for this woman after this relationship.
Resources of course play a huge role in a victim’s ability to leave an abusive situation, but that has nothing to do with the psychology of getting into an abusive relationship in the first place. Besides which, saying you’ve lost all respect for Theron based on some rumours you’re taking as 100% factual is bizarre. So you think she’s a victim, but if she is, she kinda deserved it because she should have known better & should therefore be shamed & disrespected. I do understand what you’re saying about how parents should scrutinize the people they allow around their children, but for all we know he was good to Jackson & she cut & ran at the first sign of abuse to herself. But again – these are just rumours we’re dealing with, not facts.
bet he hit her and she said screw u dude sex good but i will just get a dildo and keep my teeth
It’s been my experience that many women, myself included, find themselves drawn to men like their fathers, out of a subconscious desire to re-enact the unsatisfying or dysfunctional aspects of the relationship they had with their father. In my case, there was no abuse – it was just that he never showed me any affection, ever, not once in my life. He never knew how old I was, what grade I was in, etc. So again and again I found myself being drawn to similarly cold or inattentive men without even taking note that these men were just like my dad. I guess I unconsciously wanted to reenact that unsatisfying relationship so that this time I could make it right – because like most females, I’ve blamed myself when a man doesn’t love me. I guess I was always hoping to make it better this time – as if my father’s coldness had something to do with me, rather than being his problem alone.
One day it occurred to me what I was doing, and I stopped. Like that. Because I knew I could never make my childhood right by choosing a man who couldn’t love me.
I know Charlize came from a much more dysfunctional home than I did – her father was reportedly violent with her mother and the mother shot and killed him, I think? But I wonder if Charlize was drawn to Sean because he subconsciously reminded her of her father – just in the hope that she could relive it in a less tragic way this time by somehow learning how to handle the problem Sean reputedly has. Maybe she caught herself the way I did, when Sean’s volatility became overt instead of just simmering beneath the surface.
I’m sad for her, whatever happened – because like most women I know what it is to lose someone you think is the love of your life. But I’m really in awe of her for ghosting him, honestly I am. Because that’s the only way to quit. Like a drug addict, you have to go cold turkey when the sexual pull is as strong as it apparently was for the two of them.
What a lovely, thoughtful post. I am glad you had the insight to realize what you were doing and why. It is what enabled you to stop. Most women are never able to be that honest with themselves.
So, good for you! And good for Charlize. I was genuinely concerned for poor little Jackson in all of this. I am glad that she is putting him first. My opinion of her has grown by leaps and bounds. And however she managed the break-up, who cares. The man deserves no less than to be brushed off like a nasty cockroach and left in the dust to writhe.
Round of applause to you Lady and your words, they meant a great deal to me, thankyou x
we’re all assuming that what keeps them together is the sex, what if it’s not? Actually what if was one of the (many) reasons Charlize was not satisfied with this relationship? Of corse the violence, but a 54 year old alcoholic can’t be a good lover for a 39 year old woman. What if she was tired of the Viagra peen?
No sh@t Sherlock!
I agree with your assesment – I think he crossed her line and she noped out of there. No second chances, no accepting apologies. Good for her, something something zebra changing it’s stripes.
Just remember Charlize has a history with an abusive alcoholic father, who later was murdered by his mother one night when he was drunk, and started some sh*t with Charlize and her mom… anyway, Charlize’s mom defended herself against him and the rest is history.
And not to complicate things even more, but I was physically abused until I was 19 years old… And trust me, I saw and learnt hard lesson at a young age like Charlize, and I made a certain promise too myself about my future relationships with men, so I understand her decision and support it 100000000%.
So this story…. This story I believe. I can understand her having fear for violent men… Big time.
Given this history!!!
She was 100% right to leave him and not say ONE WORD, one thing…. Just cut him off and never leave room for him to re-enter ever again.
I didn’t really realize her history – good for her (and for you) for setting smarter standards.
It wasn’t murder it was termed self defence there is a world of difference. And it was Charlize’s own mother who killed her father this way. Which is why I can see Sean getting violent a big fat NOPE for the woman.
I am so lucky that I was raised by a woman (and all her sisters and aunts) to have zero tolerance for any type of abuse.
I didn’t realise that this was not the norm until I was an adult, and I probably gave (give) terrible advice to any friends who suffer abuse and tolerate it because my instinctual response is always zero tolerance.
It saddens me that the only women who understand zero tolerance are abuse survivors. That shouldn’t be the norm. We should ALL be parented (and pass it forward) to have zero tolerance for abuse no matter the gender. It shouldn’t take someone being damaged before the lightbulb goes off. They abuse you once, you walk. End of. Ghost them if you must, but you walk and don’t look back.
WORD. Also an abuse/rape survivor, and there are certain things/statements/comments/attitudes that I WILL NOT TOLERATE in friends or dating partners. I’ve suffered enough in my life and will not go back.
How are we giving her props for getting out of this relationship when, if she had half a brain in her head, she never would have gotten involved with him in the first place. A leopard does NOT change its spots. At least not without a lot of therapy and some hard earned sobriety, which from the pictures, doesn’t look like Sean Penn has.
I always was bothered by her dating him, especially since she has a young child. She had only herself to blame if he got abusive with her. (Note: I didn’t say she caused it, just that she she knew his story and still chose to date him and bring him into her child’s life.)
Fool.
Can’t judge her, but am giving Theron a gold star. Maybe she’s growing a bit? Sure, even accepting a date w/Penn implies a girl still has issues, but I see a decided improvement. The kid, perhaps? ‘Cause this time, she barely hesitated to end a 1.5 year romance after accidentally seeing her lover thru Sanity Glasses.
AFAIK, CT’s longest & best-known partner was Stuart Townsend, &… oh, boy. Tho’ her career & talent placed her waaay up & out of his league early on, she suffered his incessant infidelity & plain d1ckishness for a veritable lifetime (when converted to Actor Years) before finally splitting. If the Star tale is at all true as related, Charlize is doing better nowadays. She prob started working out logistics within moments after ‘honey; don’t you EVER [fly into a blood-boiling rage & slug a person like Uncle Sean just did, mkay?!?]’.
I think that ghosting is the best response when you are responding to any type of abuse. If someone verbally, physically, sexually, emotionally abuses you, they know what they did, and DO NOT EVER deserve an explanation, and engaging them in anyway will just result in them trying to manipulate the victim into getting back together. I think she did exactly the right thing, ESPECIALLY because she has a child.
THIS X1000000000000!
She Furiosa ‘ d his belligerent ass.
Packed up and got the hell out of dodge.
Good for her. I’m glad she finally came to her senses, especially for her son’s sake.
+1
Well I am glad she’s realized that he hasn’t really changed, and I am glad she puts her son well being above all.
Honestly, I kept thinking this was a PR break-up per something I was hearing from a friend in LA.
But if this is the case, for real, good for her for getting the hell out, fast, done. No one needs that abuse, and I’m glad she woke up, for her sake and her son’s sake.
Wait what’s a PR breakup? Why would they do that? And wouldn’t people realize they were still together eventually?
INAN — what I heard was that it was a faked break-up to throw the paps off the trail of their August wedding plans. “No romance here, it’s over” etc — using the fuel that is always around him (and I am NOT a fan of his and would be glad if she found someone better). Then, surprise — wedding, and statements that he has changed and is truly kind and caring. Etc.
Oh that would be a good trick, but Charlize is in London and Sean is in LA. They were usually inseparable and now haven’t been seen together since mid May. I think the break up is real.
It probably is a real breakup. But 7 or 8 weeks’ separation isn’t that long among working actors, especially as we don’t really know they’ve been apart all that time.
(I sound like I am still supporting the idea of a fake breakup — I’m not, just saying that it is not impossible that the dodgery was true.)
After what she and her mom went through I cannot see her putting up with any threatening behavior especially around her child.
Am glad she did, esp if her son is starting to mimic behaviour and lash out at others. She seems like a good mother.
At least she got her reality check. Every time I see a picture of Penn, I cringe. He looks so dirty.
In the picture of the ball in Vienna, it looks like her eyeshadow matches him: Urban Decay’s Baked Ham Jerky.
Baked Ham Jerky! LOL!
Lol! Baked ham jerky 😂
I’m so glad she finally came to her senses and got rid of that angry little troll.
He really looks disgusting. That hair, that leather skin, the creepy pedo mustache. What a little turd. So glad she has come to her senses.
Gee, all that loon had to do was come here. We’re all wise to the real Spiccoli.
LOL!!
WHAT? He didn’t actually change? At his age? Unbelievable. But he met The One, that always changes people, no?
In all seriousness, good for her. Considering her family history, it always surprised me that she was with him in the first place.
Exactly! He always blamed his poor behavior on his former spouses. Glad Charlize came to her senses.
Yes! I was just re-reading the interview where he was boasting about what a good person he was in this relationship. And I love that it’s out there in the interwebs forever! I think its time for someone to humbly go away and get help.
You know, it wouldn’t surprise me if he tried really hard to keep his temper under wraps? Saw her as a massive star he didn’t want to lose and did his best to be charming and avoided getting drunk etc. Maybe he even believed he’d changed. Not exactly rare for abusers, and I’m sure he can be very charming.
But keeping your true ugliness hidden is a lot of hard work and at some point the strain starts to build up. You start to resent it. Then you get drunk and boom, there it is.
Good for her for dropping him that hard
This “I told you so” situations… It’s rare to find someone who’s never been on it. When a person is in denial, no warning sign can do, but I’m glad she’s left him.
There was a blind item that was most likely about these two. It had said he had shown flashes of anger during their relationship, but he would be very apologetic and she would forgive him when he said he wouldn’t do it again. Then something happened and it was big and he took out his anger on her and that was it. Considering her background, I believe that she did have a line in the sand and the minute he crossed it, that was it. She is not only thinking of herself but also of her son.
As for ghosting someone- I think in some cases, it is a little immature. If you just drop off someone’s grid and there was no obvious problem, the person on the receiving end of your ghosting does deserve to know what happened. Or even just a “Hey, it’s not working out between us. I am not happy with this and this is as far as this relationship can go. Good luck to you.” That at least will allow the other person to know it’s over.
In the cases of violence, physical, emotional or verbal abuse- I’m fine with ghosting. The person on the receiving end of the ghosting has to know what happened. And if she told him to move out of her home, chances are it was clear the relationship was over. She doesn’t have to subject herself to his tantrums, insults or lies any further.
Well people have to make their own mistakes for themselves. You can try to tell a friend her lover is a giant A-hole or you can let her come to that conclusion on her own. I’m just glad when she’s out, SHE’S OUT.
I agree. Although, I had a friend who found out too late for herself that her guy was an abusive psycho. It was one of those things where everybody told her he was bad news, and she even knew parts of his past, but she truly believed, or wanted to believe rather, that he changed for her. There were no “I told you’s” from us, just comfort and making sure she wasn’t going to take him back.
When you tell friends the truth, they rat you out to their lover and then they both hate you.
I totally agree! I’ve tried to tell a couple friends when their relationships were more harm than good and I ended up being the douchebag for even suggesting such a thing. I was criticized and kicked to the curb with both of them. To be honest, I was sick and tired of listening to the constant bitching and found myself frustrated by their lack of common sense when it came to knowing the difference between being in a secure/insecure relationship. I’m not friends with these ppl anymore which is sad – they prefer to be in a relationship with a person that treats them bad verses having a friendship with someone who actually cares about their well being and would have given tons of support in getting their lives back on track. I suppose some people find it more intimidating being alone than being in a volatile relationship.
Yep true. Experienced it a 1000 times with my friends. ALWAYS i was the bad guy. Funny enough in the end the guys respected and spoke to me and the girls didn’t speak to me after the eventual breakup. None of them who i knew were in an abusive relationship are together anymore.
Once i got very angry to e friend who, after the breakup came to me as nothing had happened and started complaining me about the bad stuff that had happened to her, forgetting the bad things and the bulling that she had done to me around all my friends.
I didn’t want to be bad but boy she heard some bad things from me. A reality check as you say. She started crying saying she loved him more then her life and if he wanted him she would go back. Is it wrong to say i hated her more for that. I can’t stand abuse of any kind. I have experienced it, never again for me and no mercy who enables it and accepts it beyond anything
ghosting is absolutely the most mature and safest thing to do when you are in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship. cut it off.
unless you have children together – i don’t really feel there is a reason to have any form of relationship after a breakup. for some people, all the closure they need is for it to be over. i am friends with an ex or two but i can assure you on the few guys i’ve ghosted – it was the only way for the unhappy relationship to completely end.
Agreed.
Well, she’s been such an idiot to think he was any different, but I have to give her props for immediately making the decision and making good on it.
Then she didn’t “ghost” him Cannes? If they traveled together after they left Cannes that means they were still talking. These stories are confusing. Anyway it was obvious something major happened.
I have so much respect for her. Not just her obvious acting ability, but I admired her when she adopted her son and seeing pics of the two of them. She’s a cool woman.
I read a blind item that there was a huge fight on the plane after Cannes and she slept in the nanny’s room after and that was the end.
The blind item in question has been released in May 12 at the beginning of Cannes fest.Their alleged fight ( in the blind) would happen during their first days at Cannes ,not after .In more Theron’s mom ,her associate and her French bodyguard were there
Star magazine …. why would any legit source go to them and not US Weekly or People?
Sounds like fanfiction.
Also, Charlize is a big girl. I’m kind of over her being seen as bullied and put upon. She knew Sean’s history, She knew he still had a temper due tot he TMZ video of him freaking out on a fan. She had her own history and she still decided after a 20 year friendship that she wanted to date him. She said he was the love of her life. How about she got bored, figured Sean was too old for her and she didn’t want to settle with a guy in his mid 50s when she is still in her prime. Maybe she’s a demon to live with and he got out of there.
Either way, enough with the ‘Poor’ Charlize. She’s no shrinking violet and she could have any man she wants pretty much – though from what i have seen of her she can be very overbearing.
Someone strong enough to shut it the hell down is not, by any means, a shrinking violet. It takes balls to thoroughly cut off someone, especially someone with violent tendencies. No, no shrinking violet but a gotdamn redwood.
Penn has always been a violent, self righteous asshole. Good riddance.
and Charlize is no picnic either
GHOST DAT ASS, SISTA!
Seriously. She did the right thing.
I have a good ghosting story, Kitten. I’m in Jackson right now, visiting relatives. And my second cousin was just telling me how she dumped her boyfriend–she’s in her early fifties. It was last year…..there was a really bad snow storm. Like you couldn’t see ANYTHING. And she was scared to drive home from work. Her boyfriend was a bus driver, and it was so bad that they told the buses to stop, and the drives to go home. He then called her and told her to have a safe drive. She was so mad at him, she didn’t know what to do. She had to call one of her (male) friends to come pick her up. And then she called her boyfriend again in the car, and cussed him out–asking him what’s the point in having a man if he won’t come get her when she’s scared, etc. He had no answers. And she just stopped talking to him after that. Wouldn’t take his calls, or anything.
Good strong women you have in your family there.
That’s what I believe happened too. Not because of tacky Star Magazine, but they reported a story anyone could put two and two together and compute. They were all lovey dovey at Cannes and the Life ball. Sean looked extremely wasted at the Life Ball. He’s a bad drunk and they probably got in a fight and he showed his old self again. He reminded her of her alcoholic father probably. Sean had done all this talking as if he is so different now than he was and she fell for it. With all his Haiti work, he did seem more mature. But eventually his old ways resurfaced, and Charlize being the strong woman she is dropped him immediately.
What is up with Sean Penn? Why is he so self-destructive and why does he have to make himself miserable? He has even said he grew up in a great family and psychiatrists can not figure out why he is so angry.
Because some people cannot get over themselves. They can have a perfect childhood and come out self entitled assholes who think the world should bend and bow to them. The fact that Sean drunk rages against women says a lot about how insecure he is as a man. There is no cure for these types of personalities, to them they are forever in the right and everyone around them are wrong. Also, with this type of person, they do something ‘good’ for someone and hang it over everyone’s heads like they are a damn saint – he will never change. Never. And the sad thing…there will probably be another woman on his arm soon. It will be interesting to see who the next punching bag will be.
For once,StarMag wrote an article who sounds and seems credible
SCOTUS gets it right, Star gets it right…what a week!
^^^Yep. Happy days.
I was married to a man like this. Good idea to get and get out fast. It won’t get better, only more abusive.
^^^THIS. Never gets better.
While I was doing my teaching degree, I worked at the local school as a teacher’s aide. One year I was assigned to take care of an 8 year old boy at recess and lunch times, as he was constantly stalking, tormenting, menacing and physically hurting a very small bodied kindergarten girl. He was the spitting image of Sean Penn, and from what I know of Penn, this kid also grew up to be just like him – drinking too much, verbally and physically abusive, especially towards women, including his sister. My son has had to intervene a couple times at social events where they’ve happened to be because of mutual acquaintances. On one occasion this guy had backed a young woman into a corner and was trying to get his hands under her dress. My son was about to leave when he caught the young lady’s eye. Being the astute young man he is, he approached from behind and realised what this jerk was doing. He asked the girl if the guy was bothering her, but she was so frightened she couldn’t answer. So my son calmly grabbed the guy by the scruff of the neck and dragged him to one of the security guys, telling them what had happened and to sort him out, or he’d do it himself…. My point is that these mongrels are everywhere. Some, like this guy, are quite blatant. Others are much more covert, able to hide their behaviour until they get their victim feeling trusting, secure and comfortable.
I’ve never liked Penn – he always gave me the shudders. I’ve never really been a fan of Charlize, but I’m so glad she finally dumped this vile creature, for hers and her son’s sake. As for the ghosting – I didn’t even know that’s what it’s called, but I love it! – Penn doesn’t deserve anything better.
I’m very intolerant of people – regardless of gender – behaving like this. My much older sister was the victim of such a man throughout their 39-year marriage. We finally helped her get away, despite his constant threats to kill every member of her family from the eldest (our mother) to the youngest (my daughter). Yes, she’s much better off , and despite counselling, she’s damaged for life.
I don’t see the need to say that she’s been an idiot or what not for getting with him in the first place. Focus on the positive. She realized her error and made a change. This should apply to everyone.
Exactly this. It’s a form of victim blaming, and needs to be shut down.
At last she came out of whatever haze she was in and dumped that violent man.
But if he used violence against her then why didn’t she report him to the police? After what her mother went through – why would she let a violent man free to do it to someone else in the future?
Charlize has been friends with Sean for almost 2 decades and she must have known of his violent nature. And yet she still exposed him and a known racist like Chelsea Handler to her son. Why would she do that as a mother – exposing your son to racists and violence atmosphere???
I coudnt understand why she was with him at all knowing his past but sometimes a woman thinks she will be the one to change him – and find out the hard way that they’re not going to change no matter what. If ghosting is the best way to end the abuse its an acceptable way to get out without engaging – I’m glad for her and her son’s sake that she got out of it.
She’s not too quick, is she. I know that sounds harsh, because it is. But…C’MON!! Madonna left him after he held her against her will and beat her up, he cheated on Robin Wright for years, he’s a known bully and massive turd. I could see some naive, young girl temporarily falling for his BS, but Charlize is old enough to know better.
Are his kids like him? I’m surprised you don’t read about their behavior unless they take after their mom.
I agree with you . I said in another comment that if she had half a brain, she would never have gotten involved with him in the first place. And I stand by my assessment.
It is judgy people like you who keep some women from leaving abusive relationships, and hiding the abuse as best they can. Stop blaming the victim for getting herself into it – it’s just as bad as saying a woman is inviting rape by wearing a short dress.
Crumpet,
So who’s responsibility is it that she dated a known abuser? Mine? Your’s? What if this known abuser harmed her child and she couldn’t protect him? What if this known abuser tied her to a chair and beat her for 9 hours, as he did to Madonna, with her child there?? Is that still my fault?? What if this known abuser killed her child?? He’s nuts. It was a possibility. Is that still my fault? Or her’s, for getting involved with an alcoholic, woman abuser knowing what he is?
She knew what she was getting into with him. I said above, I understand women who are married, have kids, no job and no money to get out staying. Their staying has nothing to do with judgy people. It has to do with a whole host of reasons, and often, when the cops are called, the woman will turn on the cops. Ask me how I know? My husband was on the NYPD before the FDNY.
And yes, if Charlize got beaten or her child got hurt, she would have been to blame – because she entered a relationship with an abuser knowing his history. She’s not some naive 19 year old who has no idea the love of her life likes to beat women.
It’s the fault of the criminal who perpetrates the abuse. Full stop.
She must have thought he’d never get physical with her, because it’s not exactly a secret that he’s an abuser. Glad she got out when she did.
It makes me wonder: What did he say or do that made her finally see him for who and how he is?
Abusers like him may try to be “good” for awhile in the luring phase, but they always revert back to their old ways.
There no chance in Hell that someone like Sean Penn will ever change.
When it comes to domestic violence (and I’m not saying there’s proof of any in this situation) and verbal/physical abuse – “ghosting” is in fact a very good tactic. With some of these guys ANY contact – positive or negative – is all they want. Feeds the fire. Another chance for control. Good for her for having a zero tolerance policy, especially since a child is involved.
It’s sad to say, but I don’t think you can “cure” or get over being an abuser, at least that’s my experience.
GO CHARLIZE! She’s like me – I don’t go back and forth with jerks. I don’t trust people who stay more than 5 minutes after a man shows a violent or disrespectful side. No man mistreats me more than once. Done. Over.
If ones self esteem is so far in the toilet, that’s when their judgement is cloudy and they stay. Sounds like both you and Charlize have enough self worth. which is essential in life.
I’m so surprised.
Said none…. Ever….
“Sean later blamed alcohol and begged her not to leave him,”
Like the saying goes: A drunken mans words or actions is in a sober mans heart. Congrats to Charlize for being a good mom to her son AND taking her of herself.
He admitted in a recent interview that he keeps drinking. He said it with no shame or any slight hint that he wanted to quit drinking. Add to that the fact that happened when he already was dating Charlize (he had a rage episode with a fan in San Francisco) and the fact that he admitted that his temper tantrums keep showing off(he said something about breaking a table when in is Haiti quarters people won’t do as he said). Dear Charlize: what made you think that this was a “new, changed man”?
You go girl!
I don’t think he scared her. I think he piss’ed her off trying to scare her.
Didn’t her battered mother kill her father? I can’t believe she was with him at all.
I don’t like her very much, but kudos to her for being a strong enough person to dump him! Good job!
Good on her for standing her ground. He will never change.
So believing Madonna & Robin would have been too easy? She has to learn the hard way? Just, seriously??
You can believe that Charlize is so arrogant and self-confident that she thought he’d would never do to her what he did to the others.
Kudos to her for putting her child’s safety first. Sean should count himself lucky she ghosted him. I think her mom is even more of a mama bear. He needs to change his tune.
It’s hardly ghosting when you dump the person by making them move out of your home. Most adults could figure out they were being dumped. The fact is he tried to call and she was dunzo. The end.
good for her
I adore Sean Penn, because he’s the only person my age who makes MY skin look good comparatively!! (Lotsa sunbathing in my youth!). Seriously, so glad she dumped this awful guy though..
I always wonder how actresses manage to get involved with him in the first place, but maybe they don’t waste their time reading as much gossip as I do.
Lots of respect to a person who leaves and doesn’t look back when their line is crossed.
Here’s to all the ladies leaving drunk, tantrum prone bullies! Congrats!
I wonder how Penn’s ex wife managed to live with him for so long?
If the person is verbally abuse enough, yeah, ghosting is absolutely acceptable.
Is everyone forgetting that her mother killed her abusive father when she was a teenager? That was a big part of her story when she first came to Hollywood. In South Africa, her father abused her mother and she killed him. Of course she’s sensitive to the abuse of Sean Penn.
Me and Charlize HAD a problem. Difficult to stay strong, think with your head, and not THE emotions