On Wednesday, we learned that Sienna Miller and Tom Sturridge are pretty much over. They never married, but they did get engaged years ago, when Sienna was pregnant with Marlowe. Sienna and Tom got pregnant less than a year into their relationship and the feeling I always got – for better or for worse – was that Sienna really did stick with Tom mostly because of Marlowe. Sienna has always seemed to me like a woman with a short attention span with men and relationships, and I’m guessing this four-year thing with Tom will be her longest relationship for the next decade.
Following The Sun and The Daily Mail’s claims of Tom and Sienna’s split, most sites carried “confirmations” from sources (not reps), but even People Magazine said the split was done. People Mag is hedging their bets though, saying that a reconciliation could be in the works. Yeah right. They also say that Sienna was the one who didn’t want to get married.
Sienna Miller and longtime boyfriend Tom Sturridge have called it quits after four years together, though it may not be a definitive end, a source tells PEOPLE.
“They are over, but don’t rule out a reunion,” says the source, who knows the couple’s circle. “Tom wanted to get married and have more children. Sienna didn’t. This year everything exploded with Tom in London and Sienna leading a separate life in the U.S. and [her appearance at] Cannes,” where the actress was busy in May with the high-profile role as a Cannes Film Festival jury member.
The Sea of Trees actress has been spotted not wearing her ring recently and attended this year’s festival in France alone. The couple, who began dating in 2011, share a 3-year-old daughter, Marlowe Ottoline. They were reportedly engaged in 2012, although neither of the Brits ever confirmed.
I think the whole “Sienna didn’t want to get married or have another baby” thing is probably legitimate. Sienna fell in love with Tom, they had a baby, Sienna spent a few years remaking her image and creating a narrative of “the wild child tamed by motherhood fulfills her early promise as an actress” and by the time the narrative had taken hold, Sienna was pretty much over Tom. She’s been like a caged animal, yearning to break free of the chains of domesticity. Someone bring her six tequila shots and a greased-up married man!
Photos courtesy of WENN.
In every picture she looks pained to be with him. That never bodes well as we saw with batfleck. Sometimes a spade is just a spade.
This seems to have been her longest relationship so i can buy that she stayed for their daughter and sort of tried to make it work but with Sienna it would have also been about staying with him until the new image/narrative had taken hold in the press as Kaiser rightly pointed out.
There will be a drama around her and a co star soon – i’ll bet money on it. My money’s on Affleck – wouldn’t be surprised that’s the reason she ended it, free to make her move on the now single Ben. That’s how she nabbed Jude Law – broke up with her live in BF of a few years and made a play for him on the set of Alfie – its her MO.
Me thinks she’ll start becoming a regular on this site.
I have been digesting the speculation for a few days but I still can’t imagine Sienna & Ben hooking-up. They seem like completely different personalities. She just seems to like badder boys than Ben, à la Ryan Philippe. Of course, if it’s just for fun while on the set … why not!
” badder boys than Ben, à la Ryan Philippe”
lolwut?
lol Ryan’s “bad,” since when? He’s actually pretty low-key and stays out of the spotlight. You never really hear any scandal about him (unlike his ex-wife Reese Witherspoon with that infamous drunken disorderly incident) and a lot of his IG posts are pictures with his kids. He doesn’t even talk about his girlfriend that much, so he’s not seeking attention. Ryan seems to focus on his acting and being a good father and that’s about it. Ben on the other hand has been a “recovering” alcoholic and gambling addict, notorious for his womanizing for years. If anyone’s the “bad boy” here, it’s Ben.
This all sounds plausible. I wonder if Tom will get primary custody?
Sienna needs to stay away from those spaghetti strap gowns. They do her zero favors.
I was just going to say the same about the dresses, especially that green one. Not good.
The green one looks like her three-year-old sewed it together.
why should he get primary custody? i don’t like sienna much (or at all) but she seems a good enough mum, her daughter is very often with her everywhere she goes. even at cannes.
She has a habit of getting rid of things once they get too big.
I thought the one kind of looked like she strapped on a kite.
Why would he get primary custody?
I agree! Was going to comment as well that she certainly has a penchant for ill-fitting tops!
I am sorry but in the first picture – that green dress isn’t doing her any favour. Gorgeous colour but the design especially her breasts area is a no no.
Sienna is stunning but I never thought she was that talented. She hasn’t proven me wrong yet.
agreed. she’s very pretty, but I’ve yet to understand why some say she’s a good actor. I think she’s passable at best.
This sounds like code for he doesn’t support her having a huge career. He wants the focus to be on the family and her career to be on the backburner. That’s pretty typical. But women always support their men so they can go on to achieve greatness while they take care of the family.
Really? I didn’t get that at all. But of course who really knows.
I think you are projecting. You seem to have a very black and white “women are good, men are bad” world view.
I was just going to say this. lol
According to Serena’s interview, Tom was actually instrumental in Serena’s professional comeback. He encouraged her to chase interesting serious roles, which she got last year. She said something along the lines that he had prepared her for trials (or whatever it is called when actors try for a role. The word escapes me.) Anyway, I don’t think there were madly in love but they were really good friends and partners…And Tom has a reputation of being a great friend. According to Redmayne, Tom was behind the pact between Redmayne, Garfield, Pattinson and Sturridge that they will help each other in Hollywood…Tom provided a shoulder for crying to Carey Mulligan after her ugly break-up with Shia. He has been best friends with Pattinson since they were 12. Anyway, he is known to be very loyal.
And I’m not sure about their engagement…I remember someone asked Serena’s aunt about Tom, and she was all like – they are together only because of kid, their relationships are not serious, etc…
Of course he was – he has talent.
Sienna uses people – always has. She tried to make out she was besties with Keira Knightly when they worked together. Some time later there were the rumours that she was getting it on with Keira’s ex Jamie Dornan – they were papped spending a lot of time together. Friends don’t do that to each other. She is very much a mean girl.
Hey do you know what happened between Keira K and Carey M? They don’t seem to be friends anymore (?)
Pretty much everything I’ve heard.
@Betti, I agree. Sienna has always been a user. No you don’t, it’s called the girl code.
This is the opposite of true. But you have a fertile imagination.
huge? lol, sure, jan.
Not necessarily. I read that more as that he was just more into the relationship than she was.
I really dislike her and find her acting completely wooden.
I don’t care for her, either. She’s done enough over the years to prove she is a shitty person with little regard for the feelings of others. Her having had a baby doesn’t change that for me.
motherhood makes you better is a such a stupid idea.
Evidently, she’s the only woman who has been with Jude Law who didn’t end up with a kid, so she probably only does want just the one in her life.
I don’t think the nanny did either (the one he cheated with when he was first with Sienna).
Pity though – that child would have been very very cute. He does make gorgeous children.
At least she was smart about that! LOL
Why does she always look greasy and hung over, even on red carpets?
Probably because she is – either pissed or hungover. She never gave up her party ways – she just learned to hide it.
I see this too. Always tired.
he doesn’t look any better, honestly.
I’m not a Sienna hater like most here. I say lets not paint the Scarlet letter on her just yet and she definitely is a good actress. Let’s remember she’s also someone’s mother ladies.
Being a mother doesn’t mean you’re absolved of your shitty behavior. Just means you’re a mom who behaves shittily. They aren’t mutually exclusive. When there’s smoke there’s fire. I’ve been reading of her married affairs and general shitty behavior for years and years. I totally believe she uses people and is a mean girl.
Yeah I agree I’m not really a fan but one would think she personal knocked on every commenters front door and kidnapped their sleeping husbands. I’m still waiting for Daniel Craig or even the father of eleventy children Jude Law get as much flack as she does.
“…one would think she personally knocked on every commenters front door and kidnapped their sleeping husbands.”
That image made me laugh.
Then, of course, I could only think of a new -super-avenging Marvel/Liam Neeson character… with the tag: ‘Hell hath no fury… ‘ off to take back all the husbands…
lol you two, stop it!
I’m cackling inside at the image of Sienna the husband-snatcher (in a catsuit, for effect) vs Liam Neeson in Jedi robes as the rescuer of husbands.
And you know they’d get it on on-screen cause she’s JUST the perfect age for him.
Leave aside the ‘someone’s mother’ part (irrelevant really), she actually did seem like she’s changed and grown up since getting together with Tom. I don’t know why people’s opinions of her are stuck in 2008 or something, but if Sienna as the husband-stealing hussy is what people want to believe in, it’s what they will believe.
I don’t really care about her cheating……that’s in the past. Plus, most of the time, I hate the hypocrisy, more than the cheating. What made me not like her is that she was such an attention seeker. She has quieted down in the past few years, but I feel like that’s all that made her interesting. An attention seeker and a partier. I think she’s very beautiful, but that’s about it. She never really says anything interesting–not like she has to talk about foreign policy or starving children, but she isn’t interesting–and I haven’t seen anything from her that would make me think that she’s a great actress either.
@Virgilia – yeah I was no fan of the attention seeking or of her godawful boho-chic look, but post-Leveson it did seem like it had quieted down and she wasn’t courting pap attention. I agree there’s no real personality hook there and she’s no Jessica Chastain in terms of talent, but at least she’s working at the day job and not shilling crap via a lifestyle site like so many.
do zebras change their stripes? People who have little regard for other people’s marriages don’t strike me as people who change much in how the approach relationships.
I like her too Trinity. And I actually think she usually looks great on the red carpet. I appreciate her natural beauty and slightly undone quality. I find pangenty red carpet style to be really boring.
Although I’m wondering if Sienna is starting to use fillers. Her face has been looking different to me. I thought it was te shorter hair but no I think it’s looking a bit puffy. Shame. Not good.
I like Sienna and enjoy her acting. It sounds like they gave it a go and it didn’t work. It’s not a secret it’s hard for two working actors to last.
it’s hard for anyone in any job to last, just look at divorce rates. idk why people seem to think only celebs break up.
MM. I don’t know if she fell in love with him.
More like “let’s not use contraceptives because sex without a condom is just awesome and who cares about STDs and unplanned pregnancies”.
Celebrities are such idiots sometimes.
yeah, because only celebrities have unprotected sex, stds and unwanted pregnancies. never happens to anyone else. smh.
Well, sure.. sadly it happens to everyone.. I didn’t mean to say that only celebrities behave like this, but we’re not here to discuss what regular people do, are we?
Otherwise we’d call ourselves “Peasant-bitches”.. 😉
lol yeah, I understand 🙂
You’d be surprised at how many 20something/early 30s people want to go without condoms even in hookups, using the ‘it feels better!’ logic. So many of my girlfriends have bought it when a guy talks them into going bareback at the beginning of a relationship. It’s like the guys almost get insulted if you bring up pregnancy or STDs, the “don’t you trust me?” guilt is laid on thick.
I’m flummoxed that line works. Then again, i’m from the AIDS generation. You wrap it up, or no dice. End of.
She is completely overrated in looks and talent.
She only became a “thing” cause she rode the “boho chic” trend and banged waste pipe Jude law
Don’t talk about my boo Jude like that!!
So Much This
Does anyone else see a kite sewn to a skirt?
We are supposed to, that’s exactly what the dress was, as I recall. I think it was described as a kite.
my problem with her is that i don’t find her a very good actor, or very interesting as a person either. also she seems to be very attention seeking and she just rubs me the wrong way.
that said, splitting because you want different things in life is quite understandable. i didn’t read it as he wanted her to concentrate less on her career, just that she was fine with the one child and he wanted a bigger family, they’re not the first couple with this issue.
Ben,please deliver these kamikaze shots to Sienna’s table. She is very, very thirsty.
[Slow clap]
I have a friend, after she had her one and only kid, she told her husband she didn’t want anymore. Honestly, she hasn’t taken to motherhood and instead goes out with friends a lot more. So if her husband wants more kids, he will sadly be the one taking care of them. I think it is sad she didn’t realize before she had her child that motherhood wasn’t for her, but sadly she got caught up in what others expected of her (family, friends). I am childfree by choice and I use her as an example that not everyone should feel forced/compelled to have kids/more kids in our society.
You say you don’t want kids and you’re always asked WHY. When in fact, this question should be asked when someone says them want them… breeding just cause it’s what everyone does seems to be the default option for many.
I always thought I wanted 3-4 kids before I had one and told my husband that while we were planning our lives. I now have one daughter and I’m done. I don’t want anymore. I think it’s pretty harsh to just judge and say you should know whether or not you want kids before you get married/have a child. People change all the time. You never know if motherhood is for you before you have kids. i would give my life for my daughter, but I don’t want any more. I don’t think that makes someone a shitty person.
I feel exactly the same way. Before I had one, I wanted like 3. Then I had mine. And I love and adore him, he is truly a wonderful kid. But I don’t want anymore. 1 fits perfectly into our life, and the hubs and I frequently high five each other and say, ” 1 and done!”.
“You never know if motherhood is for you before you have kids.”
Many people know they don’t want kids and it never changes.
I agree—never had the urge to have kids whatsoever—what i was saying with my friend above is that she knew she didn’t want kids but was pressured into it by family/friends/society. That to me is sad. She is not into her kid AT ALL.
I’m due to give birth in 3 days to my second child. Before meeting my husband, I was very much thinking “no kids ever”. We got a pup, then we craved a baby, so we had our son. I never knew I’d be taking to motherhood as much as I have. I love spending time with him, discovering his weird toddler logic, etc. But 2 is enough. Both pregnancies have been beset with complications, and both are c-sections.
As much as I’m no fan of her, if she’s had a bad pregnancy and/or bad birthing experience, she might be put off from having more.
Yeah, she did say it all went wrong http://www.celebitchy.com/406343/sienna_miller_endured_27_hours_of_childbirth_my_birth_went_all_wrong/
I’m no fan of hers but I don’t get why y’all are so hung up on painting her as some greasy desperate woman deserving of a scarlet letter for wrongs committed when she was younger.
The two married men she hooked up with were at the time separated from their wives/divorcing, she has since spoken of regretting the things she did/having a bad moral compass when it came to men and at least owned some responsibility for it. That’s way more than “I lit my universe on fire” Kstew who used those words to describe cheating on her bf with a very much still married man.
She seemed like an annoying famewhore in her early-mid twenties but I can actually believe she’s mellowed now. At least she’s not jumping down my throat trying to hawk a lifestyle brand and I doubt Cannes offers people positions on the jury just for being a fashion plate. And I believe the split was as simple as them having different ideas about their family size. Nothing wrong with her or any woman wanting only one.
You’re only rationalising/justifying because you stan for Sienna; yet make the exact same catty remarks about female celebs you don’t care for. Its simply a case of whose a fave and whose not.
Which female celebrity have I ever called a homewrecking slut, pray? Because that’s what Sienna gets called/implied to be in every single post about her.
If it’s my comments about Kstew you’re salty about, I stand by everything I said about her post-Mini Coopering PR game and my opinion of her character after her recent remarks about that time.
@Amide
Agreed.
And I don’t know what Sienna having or not having a lifestyle brand has to do with anything.
#Jegede – Spot On. You’ve encapsulated it. Now see next post with Stewart or Lively, Biel, and the other- ahem – ‘undeserving’ mallies (LMAO), and watch the about-face.
This completely. The demonizing of Sienna is getting really old.
Oh Kitten, I usually respect you but #doublestandards. As I wrote the same poster regularly demonizes others, why is Sienna to be saved cause she’s her fave?
@Kitten – exactly.
btw I have absolutely no idea what Amide is on about, unless they are a Kstew stan, since that’s the only other female celebrity whose, er, monogramy issues and subsequent behaviour I have ever commented on here. And I stand by those comments.
@kitten. – Lol. Just here poster already managed to make usual catty digs at Kristen Stewart, Blake Lively, in a post that has nowt to do with them, while complaining that peeps are being mean to fave Sienna. And I stand by my response as well.
Agreed. Give Sienna a break. You have her homewecking a marriage before it’s even official she has split her fiance.
@Amide – If you bothered to read my comment on the Kstew post about Lively, it was that she gets unfair flak for an alleged affair of which there was no photographic proof compared to someone who got off almost scot-free after being papped humping her married director. How is that ‘catty’ against Lively?
I’m no fan of either Lively or Miller and have criticised them for other things (famewhoring and poor acting) before, but people don’t have to be my ‘fave’ for me to note when they’re being unfairly accused of something. Your mentality is childish, to say the least.
@Kitten
I love ya always, but I gotta go with Amide here.
Inserts *not you too gurl* gif (just for you Kitt).
“I doubt Cannes offers people positions on the jury just for being a fashion plate.” Actually, I think that’s exactly what they do. The jury is usually composed of directors and actors and if you look at the history of who is selected it seems like there is usually 1 slot reserved for “pretty actress who gives good red carpet” and 1 slot for “handsome actor people recognize”. The rest are all well-known in film circles, but not exactly household names.
Even pretty actresses can have a couple of well-reviewed performances and some critical acclaim to their names, though – put it this way, they are not inviting the likes of Amber Heard to be on the Cannes jury. Natalie Portman, Diane Kruger, even Sienna herself had some decent reviews for performances before they were invited to judge.
True – point taken. Though it does feel a little like the selection committee is working from some unofficial quota/checklist. I did a quick scan back through the juries and it seems like there is usually only one “mainstream Hollywood” actress on the jury each year. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying they shouldn’t have invited her, she had a knockout career year last year – I’m just wondering if she had been middle-aged and frumpy if the Cannes folk would even have considered her. My shade is more for the committee than for her on that point.
p.s. Now that you’ve suggested it, I kind of want to see Amber on the Cannes jury. I think it would be all sorts of train-wreck fabulous.
@Dara – I agree, they definitely appear to have their set formula of who gets to be on the judging panel, but to be honest I can’t think of any frumpy middle-aged actresses because the middle-aged actress crowd are definitely no frumps – from Sophie Marceau (also on this year’s panel) to Nicole Kidman and Uma Thurman. And last year they didn’t have any Hollywood actresses, they did have Sofia Coppola – 43 and still a style icon of sorts.
and Amber on the Cannes jury would be glorious. Just imagine the potential quotes….
Good for her getting out of a relationship with a man looking for an incubator instead of a human being. And good luck to him in finding a willing uterus and set of overies to spend his life with. All’ swell that ends well.
That’s what really rubs me the wrong way .
My dad also wanted more kids after mum had me, but she said she was done with having babies. And unlike Tom here, he accepted her decision and appreciated the kid he did have. If her refusal to have more babies was a huge factor in the reason why they split, it makes me respect him a lot less than I initially did.
(women we dislike deserve reproductive freedom too. And it wasn’t an issue of them having children at all, they already had one!)
So he had to stay with her and respect her desision if he wanted more kids ?
What kind of Logic is that ? What about what he wants ? If he actually ended the relationship because of that then he did the right thing
@ Me – Agreed.
@Me – they already HAD a kid. This wasn’t a question of wanting children and her refusing to have any, I wouldn’t blame him for leaving in that case because to some people, having a parent-child family unit is important and I get that.
But he apparently wanted more than one kid and they split over that. Why should he not respect her decision to not have more children when they already had a child together? If they split over that, then yes, it really does make me think less of him. And at least they didn’t compromise and end up having a band-aid baby to try and save the relationship.
She may be a hot mess, scarlet woman, attention whore, whatever – but like I said, reproductive freedom is a right, not a privilege granted only to women who are “acceptable”.
I don’t understand how Tom was being disrespectful to Sienna’s wishes about not having more children. He did not force her to have more kids. She still only has the one. In other words, her wish was granted and her “reproductive freedom” was not compromised. If he wants more children, he should be free to find a woman who is willing to give him more children, especially since the two aren’t married.
@Boxy – he left her because she didn’t want more children. If being a father is that important to him, why couldn’t he have focused on parenting the child he already had? I very much doubt he’s taking primary custody of Marlowe here, either.
I judge him exactly the same way I would have judged my own dad if he’d decided having more kids was more important to him than the child he already had, and if he’d left my mother for that reason.
@Boxy Lady
He was not being disrespectful, people for reasons of their own want larger families. Maybe there is an emotional connection, poor experiences of a lonely childhood, or one of each e.t.c
Tom did nothing wrong, and IF this is the reason for their break up (though I don’t buy it at all) then its best for him to find and love someone where there dreams, path, and goals are similar.
Before we get in a tizzy about this “story” let’s remember which half of the couple may need some p.r. whitewashing. Tom is not the one who has had numerous recent blinds about his partying and cheating. Tom obviously is a hands on dad, if Sienna is scared he will go for custody she might start leaking stories to the press to make the split seem less to do with her partying and commitment issues….just saying.
I get nervous about this because im 36 and recently engaged and going to have a kid soon. I fear I wont be ale to have a second because of my age and that will make my husband upset
Then you need to have better conversations with your fiance about what you want out of your future together if this is even a question.
I’m with Nayru – you should have an honest conversation about this with your husband. And honestly, if he’s that upset about potentially not being able to have more babies (considering you are already going to become parents)……there is absolutely no reason why someone shouldn’t be cool with having just one (biological) child.
So she behaves like a man and of course she gets shit from other women for doing so.
She’s no worse than Clooney or DiCaprio yet they mostly get a pass.
So sick of double standards.
Riiiiight, because the commenters here are so forgiving of Clooney and DiCaprio.