I had the chance to read People Magazine’s cover story on Jennifer Garner’s “heartbreak”. It wasn’t as over the top as some of their online coverage, probably because the glowing quotes were spread throughout the article, which did a good job of laying out the ridiculousness of the situation. The facts are pretty damning to Affleck, of course, and he’s making it much worse by the way he’s responding.
Affleck has become a middle aged cliche (thanks Kaiser), a guy whose wife doesn’t understand him and who turned to his children’s caregiver in his time of need. He’ll tell you about it too, and he’ll use the same excuses he used to cheat in the first place: his wife is too controlling and she hurt his feelings by having standards for him which he could never live up to. Somehow, Affleck is so mired in his victimhood that he thinks we should accept these tired excuses that cheaters always use. Somehow his PR team didn’t convince him to try a different tack. That must be what happens when you surround yourself with sycophants.
It’s interesting to watch, from a gossip’s perspective. The parallels to Affleck’s Nick Dunn character make me question whether we’re all being trolled by this divorce on some massive level. It’s all too perfect and too familiar. Here is a recap of the latest stories about Affleck and Garner’s divorce. (The headers are in my words, but the content is from People.) Keep in mind that all of this is from People Magazine. These aren’t just rumors, they’re confirming these stories.
Ben denies affair while insisting he was separated anyway
A source says they only had a “work relationship and a friendship. Ben’s friendly, and it’s not always meant to be flirty, and this was a very close relationship with someone who was taking care of the most important people in his life.” The Affleck source also maintains he and Garner had been separated for eight months; Garner sources contend they were not.It’s all Jen’s fault Ben cheated
A source close to the couple points to Garner’s “constant nitpicking” as a reason the marriage failed.“When you are made to feel like an inadequate husband over and over again,” the source says, “your friends are going to say maybe this isn’t working out.”
This was what truly broke their relationship
“He had admitted affairs before, but they chose to fight and work on their marriage. She loved him and their family.”The couple worked through their rough patches, but to Garner, the latest allegations are different. “While Ben hasn’t been a great husband, Jen always thought he was great with the kids. She trusted that he was doing his best to protect them. To Jen, Ben has reached a new low.”
Garner will power through this
On set, Garner has remained the consummate professional. “It’s very obvious that she is having a terrible week, but it hasn’t affected filming. She made it clear that she doesn’t want any special treatment. No one is sweeter.”The source close to Garner says she will always communicate with Affleck about the kids. “This is not anything she wanted as an outcome for her family or her marriage, but everyone’s rallying around her. She’s not a helpless deer caught in the headlights. She’s much stronger than you know.”
Ben still talks to the nanny, he is paying for her stay at the Hotel Bel-Air
“Christine is enjoying her hotel stay,” the eyewitness says. “She acts like she is on vacation. She has been spotted by the pool several times, the spa and Wolfgang Puck’s restaurant. She seems relaxed and happy. She hangs out with girlfriends, reads magazines and is on her phone a lot.”A friend of Ouzouzian claims to PEOPLE that the ex-nanny and Ben “are in touch every day, all day long. He got them phones just for each other.”
Ben is staying at his coastal estate in GA & just threw a party
A source tells PEOPLE that this past weekend, the Gone Girl star hosted a party for nearly three-dozen guests on the island, catered by The Smokin Pig BBQ Joint in nearby Richmond Hill.“They prepared barbecue and all the fixings for 35 people,” said the source.
[From three stories on People.com and print edition]
Again, how totally tone deaf does Affleck sound here? Ben is paying for the nanny to stay in an expensive hotel, where she’s staging photo ops and giving “sourced” quotes to the press. He just fled to his estate on an exclusive private island and threw a big party for his friends and neighbors. Somehow he is trying to play the wronged party when he’s the one who banged the nanny under his wife’s nose. If someone would have written this scenario as a book or screenplay I would call it too far fetched. Surely no male celebrity could be stupid and arrogant enough to try to pull these moves without a modicum of regret or apology. So far, he’s not even paying lip service to the pain and hurt he’s caused his family and is just denying, deflecting and blaming.
US Magazine also features Garner on the cover this week. As is typical of their coverage vs. People’s to date, they go a little harder and grittier. US confirms People’s report that the affair with the nanny was the last straw. They add that “she was disgusted with Ben anyway.” They state that Garner won’t talk to Affleck after learning of the affair. She’s not returning his texts, “refuses to speak to him about anything other than the kids and has shut him out.” Good for her. US also reports that “discovering the extent of Ben’s relationship with Christine completely changed things.” How could it not?
Here are some photos of Ben Affleck’s two mansions in Georgia. The photo agency, Celebrity Home Photos, describes it as such. “Ben Affleck owns this $16,000,000 Georgia Sea island compound. The ten acre property situated on a private island comprises of two main houses. One is a plantation-style home known as the ‘Big House’ and the other a 10,000 square foot brown rustic style home called the ‘Oyster House.’ Hampton Island is only an hour away from Savannah.” The Big House is a “A 10,000 square foot, three bedroom, five bathroom Greek revival plantation home.” Only three bedrooms?
Update: Here’s a link to more photos of Affleck’s estate.
photo credit: Scott Smith, CelebrityHomePhotos and Kai, PacificCoastNews
Oh here we go. First he shags the nanny and now the nagging wife sob stories – Ben you are such a cliche.
Come on we KNOW you and Miss Piggy have been getting it on – admit it.
Ha! Didn’t see your comment until I was done with mine. Apparently it’s so cliche the comments are, too!
Yo! Did Aniston get married?!?!?
Ben’s a total twat and an arrogant twat at that who is refusing any guidance on how to at least act human in the middle of this mess. you know j.lo is glad she didn’t marry this guy after he fingerbanged that stripper- she’s breathing a sigh of relief!
I do think the same. He is looking for strongish females that can run a home or his life, and instead of teaming up with them, he backs away and gives pathetic excuses. How dare them boss his oscar winning a**?!?!?
He’s becoming a cheesy pr0n movie as the days wear on.
This PR ping-pong game is making me dizzy.
Ping pong is an appropriate comparison. Anyone else notice that Garner’s side seems like they’re implying that this nanny thing was the reason for their split, even though they were already separated? What, this is the angle that finally ‘stuck’? At least no one is talking about a possible drug addiction of Affleck’s anymore…
I call bs on the ten month seperation claim but I think Jen was willing to play along with an initial conscious uncoupling script. But once nannygate broke, Jen decided it’s everyman for himself and is using that story as a way to come out smelling like a rose. Ben’s an idiot cause if he had been more discriminating, Jen would have been willing to be the gwyneth to his chris Martin.
No drug addiction claims but we can all be sure there will be sex addiction claims in the very near future. I feel so sure about this, I want to place bets.
And I’m sure you will find plenty of guys who will agree that he’s the victim here and Jennifer made him cheat. No matter how stupid an idea is, there will always be someone who defends it.
Bullshit! We can through their lies and sob stories! Those who put Ben as a victim are morally bankrupt like him.
Bingo! That is the crowd he’s playing to. Other men who want to blame the women in their lives. Its such a cliche that hookers laugh about it behind the John’s back. If your wife doesn’t understand you, TALK to her! Don’t go find the first side-piece you can. And this girl (use the term loosely) is deluded if she thinks this serial cheater will stick with her for long. History is strewn with cheaters who settle down. NOT!
If there’s one excuse I absolutely LOATHE is the “she nagged, nitpicked and didn’t love me enough so I cheated” BS. Its honestly one of the most insulting excuses for someone’s terrible choices.
I thought this story couldn’t get worse…I was wrong smh
I hate that too. I mean there are some expectation of decent behavior that most people expect.
Sometimes my husband complains that I never stop nitpicking, when all I have done is ask that he flush the toilet when he is finished. It’s absurd!
Its also a tired trope. Any valid complaint is “nitpicking” from a woman. Much along the lines of any reason for anger from a black woman makes her “aggressive” and the “angry black woman”
yeah i think it’s actually really sexist. heaven forbid the wife have any legitimate reasons for her “nagging” and “nitpicking” … l
And this excuse is why I say mistresses most always are lesser people than the woman the cheater is married to – less successful, less good-looking, less self-esteem, so they are so beguiled by the attention of the man married to the better looking wife who is successful, good-looking, and confident, that they will put up with being treated as a second-class citizen, taking the back burner to the man’s life and priorities, and having to be satisfied with whatever of him they do get. They don’t hold the man to any standards. They have no real expectations other than periodic booty calls and presents. They are satisfied simply being boned and ruining their rival’s marriage. Yes, I strongly beleive most mistresses know the wife and are in deep competition with her. As for the nagging and knickpicking, all that means to me is Ben, like most men who cheat, wants to shirk his responsibilities. That’s not Jennifer or any other wife’s fault. When you marry and become a father, it’s part of the territory. Blaming your wife for your own guilt in not fulfillng your familial responsibilities is simply not holding yourself accountable for your own faults. He is a child.
“Ben, stop gambling for high stakes with our money, drinking when you’ve been treated for a substance abuse problem, and boffing any woman in a ten mile radius when you’re supposed to be married.”
“YOU ARE SO CONTROLLING, YOU CAN’T JUST LET ME LIVE MY LIFE! YOU MAKE ME FEEL SO INADEQUATE! WHY CAN’T YOU JUST SUPPORT ME? WHY ALL THIS CRITICISM! ”
I can see how the only choice left was to sleep with his children’s caretaker. Oh, wait.
Ben, the Brits have a word for you. I have one attached to my door as a handle.
And on a completely different note, how could she even consider staying with a man who was stupid enough to buy a 10,000 square foot house with only THREE bedrooms?! :).
That’s the real scandal here.
@Sarah, how correct you are!
fwiw – while i love this site of its own merit, i have come to love the comment section completely of its own entity.
in cases like this specific story in particular, you have no idea how uplifting and comforting it is to know theres a place i can go where a large community of people can be trusted to call BULLSH!T when they see it.
in particular this story hits so close to home. i too was married (in my case, much too young) to a (much older) egomaniac whose mid life crisis was epic to behold – sports cars, plastic surgeries, and affairs with interns he could have fathered – and the whole time the ass kissing sycophants he surrounded himself with boosted him and his belief that his behavior was actually sorta ‘my fault’. how dare i expect him to be an engaged and committed adult partner?! how dare i grow up during our relationship and thus expect him to do the same?!
it was much needed at that time – and while a little late for my game – the boost i get from your comments (and unwitting support) has been well worth the wait.
Affleck is such a douche! Jen nitpicked him? Man up boy! Jeez after all the glowing remarks he made in interviews about Blake or J Lo and all he can ever say about his wife is that “she is kind”?! If I was Jen I would have kicked him in the ass until he thought up a better adjective to describe his wife! He didn’t respect her, this was apparent through his interviews, Oscar speech and the miserable look on his face.
He would have looked better in the media running back to J Lo instead of hooking up with the nanny. You don’t involve the person responsible for your children! Team Terrible Shoes!
Agreed. And jenniferjustice, you said everything I wanted to say, but better. Thank you.
AGREED. Let’s see….cheater, compulsive gambler, alcoholic. YOU ARE INADEQUATE. Man-Up, Affleck.
Poor widdle Benny.
Yes, and he was EVERY ONE of those things when she hooked up with him in the first place. It wasn’t a secret. People always accuse men of thinking with their d*cks, well sometimes women think with their genitals too. It’s not like she was blindsided by any of this… and if so, it’s only because she was willfully blind to begin with.
Garner was in a cloud of delusion when she thought Affeck was a man when they got married. When in fact Affleck was and is an overgrown boy. Sometimes love is blind
Oh yes, but it’s SO EASY. That’s why people use it all the freaking time. What better way to justify what you want to do than by saying “they were mean so it’s okay” or variations on that theme. Children do this! That’s how easy and plausible it is.
This whole thing is a tired cliche.
Narcissistic personality disorder. God it’s predictable and pathetic.
So he’s paying for the nanny but he can’t get her to keep quiet?? He’s throwing parties in the midst of all this?? And by he way who was he with in Canada? I don’t think that was the nanny-what a dog.
Exactly!!! Who was he with in Canada? I truly believe that Ben screwed the nanny. However, I do believe that this Nanny story was meant to be a distraction from the real life story. Who is Ben’s real side piece? Ben is trying to protect his main side piece. If he is serious about her, it can never be known that SHE is the reason for his divorce. He cannot risk all the backlash the main side piece will get. He knows full well that she would be cruicified and he won’t be able to parade her ass around town. Instead, he throws the nanny out there and she gets the noteriety and the blame, while the true mistress is out there biding her time and then 6 months to a year from now, he’ll be “dating” her. She’ll be the one who made him believe in love again. Not everyone is Brad and Angelina. Not everyone can come out of an affair smelling like rosies.
My husband and I went through a rough patch a few years ago. No cheating, just him not helping with raising the kids and leaving everything on me. I worked full-time and just felt exhausted. I almost left his ass because I felt like a single mother anyway. I was so going to give up. But you know what kept me going, the fact that I would de DAMN if we divorce and he finds another wife and becomes the partner I always thought he could be. I didn’t want resentment to kill me or him. So I worked on my marriage. Because men are like that. They magically change for the next young chick, while they couldn’t put in a true effort with the wife of over 10 years. My husband is that kind of selfish asshole and so is Ben. Watch, he’s going to re-marry a 30 year-old, give her kids and will be the doting husband and father. Not taking on too many jobs, always beign there for his new wife and kids.
I actually think he will remarry and be sober and have a new family within 5 years. It was never going to work with Jen though. I never bought what they were selling. She enabled all of his crap from day one. She cleaned up all the messes and he had to make a mess too big for her (consciously or not) in order to make her let go. He needs to straighten up and fly right because he wants to not because someone is making him do it.
@Luca76
Yeah. Not to condone Ben’s bad behavior AT ALL, but it’s really his way of screaming, “Will you let me go already!?!” to Jen.It looks to me like he really wanted out and was doing anything he possibly could to force her hand.
Good theory, Iknowwhatboyslike! Makes sense if the paying-for-the-nanny’s-hotel bit is true.
@luca76
Or he will marry some much younger gold digger and become a public mess like Depp.
I think you are on to something iknowwhatboyslike. If he was really “with” the nanny, why wouldn’t he bring her to his GA island hideaway with him? Sea Island is very exclusive and private. And why does she need to be put up in an expensive hotel in the center of paparazzi-ville? It’s all very suspect. I think she is a ‘false flag’ to protect his real mistress.
@leah big difference between Depp and Affleck is that I do believe Johnny at heart is a romantic that idolizes women and is always looking for the next love of his life. Whereas the great love of Ben Affleck’s life is Ben Affleck, Therefore at the end of the day he will straighten up, save his career and marry another woman that will make him look good.
And then promptly turn into a resentful non-participant in the marriage. Hes already cheated on previous exes with lets see waitresses, strippers and nannies, whats left? Family members?
Three words……Own. Worst. Enemy.
Until the new wears off and the old shines through, then he will check out and be gone again. The new chick will “change” just like his wife did, all expecting things of him and crap. I love your theory though, it would explain why he’s just letting the nanny sit there out in the open when he really doesn’t have to if he pulls the right strings.
HOpefully your marriage is better now? I completely agree with you, though. Ben sounds like a little boy and Garner already has three children. My husband can get into the deflect/deny rut about pulling his weight around the house, too. It gets old fast.
Reading the above comments, I thought of this:
“That woman didn’t leave you, OK. You can’t see what you are, and I see everything… You are a wolf!… That woman was a trap for you. She caught you and you couldn’t get away. So you, you chewed off your own foot. That was the price you had to pay for your freedom… And now, now you’re afraid because you know the big part of you is a wolf that has the courage to bite off its own hand to save itself from the trap of the wrong love.” — Loretta Castorini
@liberty you are so awesome!
You may have all posted on this already, but who is the secret affair with?
He will not have more kids unless they are accidental. They cramp his style and he is in his 40s now anyway. I don’t think he will marry soon either. He will indulge his vices for a while and then maybe settle down a bit in his 60’s.
I believe he has lots of side-pieces. Also, he’s shameless. He should at least show a bit of regret, not throwing parties. His oldest kid is 9 she could easily read a magazine or know about it.. I guess he’s too self-assorbed to realize it.
If he is really using the nanny to deflect a “real affair” he had better be careful. When Nanny Oozey figures out she has been duped, it may all come back to bite him in the a$$.
Every day this is more cliched.
Everyday he becomes more and more pathetic. You can’t make this crap up.
Actually, you can make this crap up. It’s very easy. Notice that no source is ever named, so there is no way to confirm any of it.
I think so too. BOTH of them are cliches. He’s the middle aged idiot trying to hang onto his whatever by banging younger women, she’s the supermom whose sole interest in life is the welfare of her kids. The nanny is the smug young sidepiece hoping to get in on the rich and famous action. His excuses are tired in the extreme, Jen’s responses are Exactly Right, and the nanny parades around like the hussy she is or we’re all supposed to think she is. Middle aged male idiots everywhere going “yeah, totally, man!” Moms everywhere going “yes, leave his cheating butt, the filthy bastard!” and everyone else going, “what a shameless whore!” over the nanny.
But Wren, Jennifer didn’t totally give up her own life for her kids. She talked about her own goals as well; I’m not going to make fun or say she’s overdoing it just because she’s as devoted a mom as many other moms are. So I am team Jen on this. And I’m glad that after the divorce and some time to get centered, Jen is going to be smokin’ hot and wear revenge outfits, whereas Ben is not going to age well.
argh.. I’m pretty sure for most mom, the sole interest in life is the welfare of their kids. Good moms anyways. If you have kids and you have more important things than the welfare of your children … then you fail as being a parent.
itzblissy, there’s a middle between “sole interest” and “having more important things to do”. You can have other interests, even if your children are no. 1.
SUCK IT UP, BEN! That is married life. The words you are supposed to use are “Yes, Dear.”
Geez
Why would he pay for her hotel stay? It certainly isn’t working if he wants to keep her quiet! You know she’s just about a hair away from doing an interview.
He’s paying, hoping that she will keep under wraps, whatever juicy details haven’t come out yet! He is not only a douche, but a stupid douche! That nanny is itching to talk to someone…Barbara Walters, Diane Sawyer,….she is just weighing her options!!!! This is going to get much worse! Ben better stay on that island indefinetely!
Barbra Walters? Diane Sawyer? Surely you jest. This isn’t even worthy of an “ET exclusive”.
I thought Barbra retired?
Something tells me a lot of Ben’s plans are not well thought out. He puts out immediate fires, doesn’t think about long-term consequences. The nanny is satiated for now, that’s all he cares about
I’m surprised that even veteran gossips are assuming that Ben even KNOWS how to spell strategy. He is clearly as stupid as a brick. His PR has always been managed by his lady of the moment. Gwyneth was working on providing respectable old hollywood cred. Jlo tried to bring him street cred. Garner made him accessible.
You know what Ben Affleck does when he has to run his own PR? He orders a PBS show to remove reference of a slave owning ancestor because in dumdums head, THATS whats going to hurt his image, not calling your wife of 10 years a nag while you shack up with the nanny.
Uh, hey Babe. I gotta go now. Enjoy the room and the pool. Call a girlfriend and get some room service……..
He possibly has a full time room there since their separation.
Maybe Us Weekly or TMZ is paying for her room, in the hopes of more scoops!
I share your theory, MrsBPitt.
Imo, that money could be severance pay the nanny is trying to spin in a different light.
Do you know if it were a different guy, I would probably think this too. But Ben really could be so stupid as to be keeping her in the fold. This isnt the first we are hearing that strings have not been cut.
None of this stuff from “sources” makes any real sense. Something isn’t credible about this story. So all of a sudden he’s pouring his heart out (nitpick terrors and all) to friends who turn around and talk to tabloids?!? Is there any proof that he’s paying the twit’s bills? What’s her real money situation? Is she from a rich family? Why would he want her wandering around, talking loudly to be overheard? I could see paying for her to take a long vacation far, far away to get her out of sight – but this? Also- is there any connection between US magazine and People magazine? Are they actually independent or intertwined?
Ah yes, it’s always the fault of the woman when their husbands cheat. After all, they are little more than sharks, smelling other women and unable to help themselves–
Sorry, my sarcasm only made it that far.
True. They are victims of their own powerful hormones…powerless against the tide of their virility…
What a bunch of crap. As for her “nitpicking” I’ll tell you how that went, since I’ve been there…
Her “We need to talk about your latest infidelity. Must you have sex with a stranger in the bathroom of every party we attend?”
Him “oh, for God’s sake! You are such a nag! Why do you constantly have to point out my every little flaw? Can’t we leave these things in the past and move on?”
Her “It was yesterday.”
Him “You are such a bitch! No wonder I cheat. How am I supposed to live up to your impossible standards?”
I’m then picturing him falling out on a fainting couch like some southern belle, overcome with emotion and stress.
Where you there? Sounds like it!
hahaha, THIS, totally, GNAT!!!
I agree with everything you said. I love how they characterized her as “nitpicking”—attempting to make her the problem for pointing out his OBVIOUS problems. So, instead, he and his people just throw it all back on her. I am not saying she is perfect, but the “blame her” approach is so tired and cheap.
Well, what sane wife wouldn’t nitpick in this scenario??
Any reasonable person would be very upset with an INADEQUATE alcoholic, gambling cheater, who is shagging the nanny and likely countless other women. It would be crazy if she DIDN’T nitpick under the circumstances.
Wouldn’t be “crazy” if she didn’t nag. I would say she is the sane one in that circumstance if it exists for anyone.
I have never understood nagging or marrying someone you have to nag in the first place. If they’re a mature adult, no nagging is required. So when it comes to throwing that derogatory usage of crazy around on innocent others, I say have a look at yourself first and think a bit on your own life.
@Boo Not everyone is a mature adult, and A LOT of people put on a false front when dating. You appear to live in a world where no one EVER changes…a world where people are exactly what they are as they are all the time and it is apparent. Sounds like a GREAT place:)
It is all too common that many men and women want to “play house” initially in the honeymoon phase of a relationship before resorting to old habits. While I agree that many people accept these circumstances to their own detriment, do you not think that Jennifer was trying to keep it together for their 3 children??? You seriously can’t fault her for at least trying. Many people take their vows seriously and are prepared to work during the rough times to make it work—especially when a family is at stake.
Not sure if you are suggesting this, but your commentary reads as if you are characterizing her as an enabler who is to blame
You wouldn’t believe how many “mature adults” don’t want to clean up behind themselves.
@Christo…woah.
I take offense to the constant flippant insensitive use of the word crazy to rank women in stages of effectiveness as a wife who may or may not be able to control her man. Did you READ what people are saying prior to my comment? I wasn’t the one insulting women or wives.
There is a huge problem in the world re: stigma against mental illness. I see this word “crazy” tossed around in judgmental sense in all types of stories and it’s very offensive to me. Man or woman, using crazy in this way is upsetting and obviously insensitively derogatory.
I don’t live in the world you ascribed to me. I was simply making an observation. Judge Judy herself has said similar in the past about her own husband if I recall. Some of us women have individual opinions you know?
If my husband was cheating, gambling and drinking..I’d be a little miffed too, hehe. Seriously, if she wouldn’t have prodded him, I think he would’ve become one of those ‘what ever happened to him?’ actors. The ‘she made me do it’ chant is a page from the sicko abuser’s handbook.
As punishment he should be forced to sign over that GA property to me….
As long as we can share… Those homes are absolutely gorgeous, but he makes me feel dirty to be a Georgian.
plenty of room for all of us…Sea Island is GORGEOUS.
This all disgusts me as I thought he was a stand up guy ! I live not too far from the Hampton Island Home . Those of us who live along the coast were excited for the attention he brought our area and how much he loved Savannah and our coast. She is a sweetheart and has put up with a lot from him ! Their children will be scarred from this. I know as a child of divorce where infidelity is involved. It still haunts me and I am 65. Where are his friends what are they saying to him ?! Matt Damon where are you ? I have no respect for him now. A gambler, a drunk and a cheater !!! She needs to tell him to get the hell out of their lives and never let him see the kids again !!! She sure as hell doesn’t need his money she has her own ! What a lowlife he will lose a lot of
fans and respect !
I just added an update. I found more photos of the house. Damn.
What a property! The link is broken though. Once you get the 404 message, take the quotation mark off the end of the web address, reload the page, and it works fine.
I don’t feel sorry for him one bit. Never liked him and never trusted him. There was always something about him that I couldn’t put my finger on. As for Jenn, I hope she finds happiness with someone.
I have a feeling that she was always too good for him. I didn’t understand what she saw in him, maybe he was still a “bad boy” at the time and maybe she wanted to tame him, but it’s sad when a marriage ends.
I’ll tell you what it is, Jane. There is NOTHING in his eyes. I have never seen such empty eyes in my life except one other time, and that man was the sociopath who married my poor trusting daughter and proceeded to use her name to open credit card accounts and max them out on gambling and prostitutes. (He had a gambling addiction like Affleck apparently does–interesting coincidence). This guy forged my daughter’s name on loans, too (she has a high-paying job with a global firm, and clearly he married her because he saw a great financial resource). He ended up causing her to lose the house she had so proudly bought all in her own before she met him, he left her owing over $100K in her share of his unpaid taxes for gambling wins. When she asked him to leave, he held a loaded gun on her and sent her running from the house with her beloved dog at 3:00 AM. And after he finally left, he broke back into the house and stole all her jewelry and valuables. He drove away from that relationship with the Mercedes she’d bought him and left her driving a used Kia.
What I always remember about the night she brought him to meet us is that after they left, I said to my husband, “There’s nothing in his eyes. Nothing! They are completely empty.”
That’s also what I’ve always said about Ben Affleck.
Could it be that Jen called the paps on the Nanny and Ben?
Nanny thought for the paps
I say the Nanny called ’em personally. She’s already done a bikini shoot for a magazine.
Clearly the nanny called the paps.
But if that is true, why is he still paying for her stay at the hotel, and why is he supposedly calling her, etc. If he thought she had called them, wouldn’t that be an automatic deal breaker?
Wow, Ben’s in my area. That BBQ place is good.
Anyway, Jen probably is a nag, she looks like she could be one, but Ben should have just left instead of cheating with the nanny.
Honestly, you would let slide the behaviors of a cheating, gambling alcoholic parent if you were married to one?? Pointing out destructive behaviors is not nagging; in some parts of the reasonable world, it is considered as being a loving, caring, supportive spouse.
“Jen probably is a nag, she looks like she could be one”
And what are the physical features of a “nag”? I’ve got my good mirror out and some pretty great lighting, so please hurry up with a bulleted list.
She’s pale, boney, and looks worried! LOL
Where did you get your good mirror? Mine all suck. Especially the accurate ones.
Kidding aside, that comment about “she looks like one” reminds me of the wise words of Mel Gibson, ” why can’t you just smile and let me f–k you?!” I guess if we’re not a lobotomized grinning fangirl, we look like nags. If these are my options, I choose nag….all day long.
And Ben looks like the kind of guy who you need to ask twenty million times before he’d do anything.
And he’d still find a way to half-ass it and f*ck it up so you don’t ever ask him again
Agreed. Reminds me of Vince Vaughn’s character in ‘The Breakup.’ Begging and begging for basic amount of help and response it “I will in 5 min babe..” an hour goes by “Yeah, said I would do it..” ummmm yeah, no thanks.
Of course she does, because she looks like a proper human being. Similar to me telling my sister to do her homework and study for her exam, but i’m just a nag.
I don’t understand the negative connotations associated with nagging. The naggers gains nothing from nagging, when someone nags you, its generally for your benefit. Like, Honey.. please drink less.
That’s gotta be one of the dumbest comments I’ve ever read on this blog. No Toot, nags don’t “look” a certain way. And if you’re unlucky enough to be married to a problem drinker, gambler, philanderer and half-present parent, you have every goddamn right to be a nag because the opposite of a nag is a doormat and that’s wayyyyy worse.
Maybe he actually was an inadequate husband and that’s why she nagged him. Or, you know, he’s just a whiny child who feels like mommy nags. Every day I wonder how much more damage they can do to his image and I’m surprised by the scale of the incompetence displayed here.
Yup! I was going to say: he IS inadequate and NEEDS to be nitpicked.
He owes his career revival to her micromanaging of his life and image. So all his affairs were fine, but her being a hardass was the breaking point? No. He finally just collapsed under the weight of his own inadequacy.
Yea, When it was said in the article about how he had admitted to affairs in the past but she fought and worked through it, but this time she didn’t. It sound to me like his camp was trying to blame her for the break up, like she was supposed to keep eating his crap and wasting her energy constantly rebuilding the trust he just kept on breaking. That’s sisyphean. After a while one is going to realize that they are fighting for a lost cause and that’s what she finally realized.
Ugh I LOATHE the word “nag” and my husband has learned this the hard way. I used to bitch at him when he called me that, then I changed my strategy….I now go stone silent with an intense look on my face (one eyebrow arched like, “oh really, bish?) and walk away. Then I don’t lift a finger for him and completely ignore him and let him fend for himself. My hubby is completely out of his element when it comes to housework/cooking etc, so this works in my favor all the time. He’s quite sorry already and then when he realizes that I’ve become a cold fish at bed time too, he apologizes profusely. He hasn’t called me a nag or anything similar in almost a year. We get along very well now, too! Silence is more effective than yelling for guys like him. I’ve explained to him that the way my silence hurts him is the same way his calling me a nag or similar hurts me and it’s really sunk in!
“He finally just collapsed under the weight of his own inadequacy.” <— Nails it for me. Well said.
@DTX – THAT is exactly what i'm talking about. Totally agree with your approach and I do the same. That's how you treat an adult. If they respond as your husband does, you have hope and it's worth staying. If they respond as Affleck and you find yourself nagging, get yourself someone better. That's always been my policy and it spares a lot of grief in the long run.
Before he got with Garner, his image was in the toilet. She really helped turn things around for him in a big way. You’d think in ten years of marriage, he’d have smartened up a bit and tried to learn a thing or two, but no. Here we are with yet another cheating scandal and him blaming the wronged wife. Some people really are their own worst enemies. Idiot.
Thank you!!!! I just hate when wives who expects more from their spouses are called nags and nitpickers. Maybe it’s not so much as she is nag, but he is just and inadequate husband, father and all around human being. I’m sure he was her 4th kid.
Plus, he even admitted that when he was working he was never fully there (mentally and emotionally) for his family. He said this during his Oscar campaign. So when you add that to the fact that he is obviously flying around to have Vegas trips with his sidepieces and buddy, is it really that hard to believe that he was in fact inadequate? Nope.
I agree with both of you, she IS his image and she is one of the reasons he won that second Oscar. Because they campaigned hard. Maybe he never appreciated that, maybe he even forgot what he owes to her “nagging” or maybe him being married with kids was always a bad idea. He just doesn’t seem like the type who could ever be happy with that kind of life. I could feel a little empathy for him if he wasn’t such a massive moron about this whole thing. This is just tacky and dumb.
THIS.
exactly this. every man i know who complains about their “nagging wife” is a entitled brat who was spoiled as a boy and expects to be spoiled as a man. if their wife didn’t “nag” them they would fuse to the couch and die embedded in the micro-suede. these are also people who, even when asked nicely to participate in normal human behavior, are so offended that they have to do something they don’t feel like doing at that very second, they feel persecuted and nagged. ben affleck is so textbook it isn’t even funny.
@Lizzie—Oi, you speak truth. I Iive with such a man…problem is he has some redeeming qualities and this confuses the hell out of me.
Oooh. Ooooooh. I am so memorizing the phrase “participate in normal behavior.” I will add to it, “learn how to have a normal conversation.” Ugh. So much truth in your post, lizzie.
Nagging is really just the result of refusing to listen to what your partner has to say. So they feel they need to say it over and over again because they’re shut out. They say something (or ask for something) they feel is important, they’re blown off, so they repeat themselves, they’re blown off again with more annoyance, the important thing still isn’t acknowledged or done, and so on.
To everyone who feels “nagged” and “henpecked”, maybe try actually listening to the other person and show them a modicum of consideration and see what happens. Oh wait, that would require effort and prioritizing someone else above yourself for even a short time.
@Lizzie, fabulous.
@Wren: bullseye.
Lizzie, I was married to a guy who, when I spent a week in hospital after a total hysterectomy and couldn’t move when I got home, had refused to clean the kitty litter for the entire week. The stench was unreal. I asked (read “nagged”) him for 3 days to clean it and he didn’t. I finally dragged myself down 2 flights of stairs and managed to scoop the worst out of the box with a coffee can into a garbage bag and refill with clean litter. When he got home that night I asked him to take the bag of icky litter out for garbage pick-up and he said…”You shouldn’t be doing strenuous stuff like that!!!”
Ben Affleck would totally do that.
THIS! Thank you.
Ok. Here’s one: after I had a bladder lift and repair my husband picked me up from the hospital after 4 day stay and stops at coffee shop and gets *himself* a coffee and a muffin. You’re welcome for the two kids.
I am confused.
WTF is he doing throwing parties? I’m starting to think he might be under the influence of SOMETHING because this doesn’t make sense, and in court, his behavior will not make him look good at all.
I really expect Ben and Jen to hammer out the divorce details privately, but boy, is he giving her all the leverage she could want! I’d like to be a fly on the wall in those negotiations.
Can you imagine, all he’s doing is whining about how she castrated him basically, “nitpicking” yea. Always the wife’s fault when men decide to “escape”. In the meantime, here we are watching him being reckless and stupid, by throwing parties, hanging outside with the Nanny for anyone to see, paying for her hotel stay, and who knows what else?
Something is off, I’m telling you…
I don’t think any kind of conspiracy is going on. I think Ben is just that self-destructive. He could have left his marriage looking pretty good, but instead he pissed it all away. Affairs with the nanny, paying for her bills, throwing parties, well-placed “sources” griping about nagging Jen, the gambling. Probably oughta throw in some drug use as well. This is a man who just doesn’t know when to say when.
First I love your screen name, Goats on the Roof. Second, you are exactly right. Ben is the king of self sabotage, I just dont doubt that he really is doing these kinds of things. It wouldnt even surprise me if he decides to parade her in Vegas while still claiming that she is just a shoulder to cry on because of his meanie wife.
You may be on t something. There have been rumors floating around about drug use… Shame, because he’s already naturally arrogant & stupid in a sober state; I think drugs would make him intolerable.
“starting to think he must be under the influence of SOMETHING”….
Me too. No one is this stupid. They can’t be, it is just not possible. It’s like a Lifetime movie script at this point. Maybe Lainey is right about the heroin. Is there such a thing as a somewhat functioning heroin addict?
Supposedly charlie sheen talked with him at that time. If Charlie is talking to you bout drug use, my guess is it wasn’t just alcohol or pot. I’m believing the heroin use.
Just noticing how gross the water surrounding their private island is.
It’s just green. That part of the Atlantic is just that color. Very marshy. Not pretty water, but beautiful place nonetheless.
Georgia has a lot of swamp (it pretty much is swamp along the boarder of the Atlantic and Florida) so that’s what is making the water that color.
So, I just have to clarify this. It’s coastal wetland–tidal, saltwater marsh. Different ecosystem entirely than a swamp. The water is rich in minerals, full of fish and oysters and shrimp and crabs. The marshgrass is a beautiful pale gold in winter and deepens to a bright green in summer. If you are from that place, you call it the Low Country because the water is always there, at the edge of things, and life is always at least partly connected to the ebb and flow of the sea. There is truly no place more beautiful in the US. If you have never been there and you’re saying such absurd things about the place, then you’re simply being ignorant. Read some Pat Conroy, maybe.
As for Ben, he is a jackhole, and I think Jen is going to win this one. The nanny seems like a bridge too far.
Haha, Bland predictable common soccer dad has bland predictable, “My wife just doesn’t understand me” narrative. Why are these people still talking to the media?
Seriously, they need to dial it down and just be quiet. Too bad the nanny’s still at the hotel, which seems crazy to me. Why does she have to be there?
Maybe the tabloids are paying for it? I have no idea.
It’s weird to me, also sort of cliche.
She might be a harpy and perfectionist, and I’m not a huge fan of either, although I don’t mind her or Ben, neither strike me as phenomenally talented, gorgeous or brilliant, but FFS don’t be a baby and say your wife picked on you, my feefees are so fragile I needed to screw the nanny. Get a separation and divorce and move on before you poach the help for a few Fs, right before your spouse’s and kid’s eyes. And the same goes for the long suffering perfect wife and mother. If you are trying hard and you are still being treated like a doormat, move on, that’s no example for the kids. I know I sound like a total stone cold bitch, and I know divorce is painful, but the two of them are getting ridiculous with these tabloid leaks. I think I might stay away from their articles. This just makes Ben look like a pathetic jerk, who can’t accept blame for his own actions.
Kiddo, call ’em like you see ’em.
I wonder if Ben paid for a month or two for the nanny when she was fired but BEFORE this hit the press. Since even though she’s so mature for a 28 year old she can’t manage to house herself.
I know it’s not cool to agree with Goop, but damn if he isn’t his own worst enemy.
Dude, if you want to spend your life banging randoms and playing blackjack that’s fine – but don’t marry a grown ass woman and have real live children and then blame her for the fact that you’re a f-ck up.
Summed up nicely; rings true…
Yep. That’s it, in a nutshell.
Anna222222222
Succinct…
This is almost making me nostalgic for GOOP’s conscious-uncoupling…
If I was Ben,I would fire my publicist and take Jennifer Garner’s one
Seriously, he looks like a caricature wrapped in cliche.
Smothered in a stereotype, enveloped in unoriginality.
He probably already screwed them, too. This manchild has burned a lot of bridges.
I remember when it was announced that Ben would play Nick Dunne. Some people screamed, “no.” But in my head, I said perfect! There is no one more capable of pulling off, selfish, narcissistic, douche face like Ben Affleck. He is a spoiled, mama’s boy who believes he is entitled to everything he wants in the world. He has no idea of what self-control and selflessness is. It’s sad how much of a cliche he is.
This dude is turning out to be one of the biggest d-bags in Hollywood… And that’s really saying something.
And it is amazing how fast it is happening. I know others have commented that they always knew he was a douche bag but I did not see it until recently.
I always,always ALWAYS knew he was a douche.
Ben has been working back to back to back jobs! I’m sure Jen was “nitpicking” the fact that he was NEVER home! My take is that, he has had affairs before, but she kept forgiving him (to his consternation) so he finally figured, “mmm, maybe if I bang the big mouthed Nanny, Jen will HAVE to let me go!” I can’t believe that I actually defended him when everyone was saying he was a douche! I should have known, my “douche indicator” has never really worked very well!
Well there has been rumours circulating for a while that they fought over him never being at home but i wouldn’t say that was nitpicking more like ‘your children need you to be around’.
I was being sarcastic! I agree that is not nitpicking…how can a marriage and family work, when the father is never home…
my thought as well, otherwise why would he pay for her hotel stay
And now his people are trying to sell that his family is what’s most important to him. A hard sell right now, even if we didn’t remember how he used to foist the kids off on his mother the moment Jen was working elsewhere…
Is it bad that I’ve always see, her as the nagging type? Of course it’s absolutely not an excuse for her douchebag husbands disgusting (and on going!) behavior, but she has always stuck me as the annoying type…. Which is probably not true at all.
Yeah that’s the thing. She might be the biggest nagging bitch in the world. You know what you do then Ben? File for divorce! This passive aggressive cheating, never being home, and screwing your children’s nanny is just unbelievably asinine.
She probably turned into the nagging type because he gave her no choice. The dynamic of their relationship evolved into that, what he perceived as her controlling nature. The relationship wasn’t healthy as far as what it had evolved into. Both were at fault for allowing it to get there and keep that dynamic going.
He’s off for well over a year working nonstop, checked out on her. His drinking and gambling escalated because he wasn’t happy, so acting out in that way, but won’t come out and pull the plug on the marriage. wanting her to, or he feels guilty wanting to divorce because of his children, so feels trapped. She doesn’t want to see the signs, that he’s checking out of the relationship and is acting out. So she turns into his mother also, a role she never wanted. I read some comments she made a while back about him being gone so much this past year and it was her role trying to facilitate a relationship with the children and him while he was off on location with setting up skyping and enough time with his kids communicating even though by long distance to keep their bond strong between visits home or to his set.
She was the one doing all of this to ensure the closeness with his kids stayed strong even though separated more than usual.
This is what I think as well. It was a gradual thing that has now resulted in their relationship being like oil and water. She repels him, in his mind.
+1 I agree!!!
If Jen’s to blame for anything, it’s that she didn’t divorce him a lot sooner, like years ago, instead of being a martyr and staying with him.
She plays the annoying, uptight, nagging woman in the background in pretty much all her films now (even when it doesn’t seem like that’s what the role was meant to be). I think that contributes.
But she does have a certain quality to her that I personally find exceptionally grating.
I was just watching Mrs Doubtfire the other day and it made me think of this couple. In the scene in which Sally Fields character explains why she left him she basically says that he was such a clown that she was forced into the role of “responsible one” and that she hated herself when she was around him. Ben isnt so much a clown as a party boy but the same thing applies. If one partner is on the extreme, in this case a guy who has been to rehab but is determined to hang out in Vegas, the other is automatically forced into a parenting role. Its funny because although clown/frat boy resents it without that structure, they would self destruct in a heart beat. The real victim in a “nagging” relationship is the partner who can never let loose or everything would collapse and is vilified for it. I really do see it as emotional abusive.
Yeah ok all that, but the nanny? THE NANNY?????
No f-ing excuse for that no matter how unhappy he was. Go get a real mistress – someone who is not actually living inside of your damn house taking care of your children!
Reprehensible.
Agreed, especially if this is the case, it’s actually gross that he would cross that line. My aunt has a saying for those who cheat or want to, “better to make a ‘mess’ outside the home, than in it”.
While I think Ben is an idiot, and the posterguy for middle age crisis, I believe Garner “controlling attitude” was her way to keep him on track. She has married a well known douche, a man with issues, and she has tried to turn him into something he wasn’t.
I am not blaming her, but I think she was blinded by the “I will change him/my love will fix everything”.
Lesson one: an idiot is an idiot.
I don’t know if she can be faulted for thinking he might have changed/grown/evolved/matured enough to commit to their relationship and family. People DO change. Some don’t. Clearly.
People change because they want to become a better husband, wife, friend, father,or mother and because someone changed them.
I do blame her a bit, it might not be fair to. She got what she wanted so badly, and she tried way to hard to change him, now he is exactly the way he was way back when.
@Esmom yes people change but not because of someone forcing their will on them. People change because they want to. As long as Garner controlled him, picked up the pieces for him, and covered for him it was enabling him to be a douchey addict that’s 12 step 101.
Anyway you can expect at least for him to MATURE, especially since he has 3 kids, and that’s the problem here. I don’t think she was asking for the world, just him being a good dad and somewhat present husband, which he never did or liked. So it is her fault? Nope, he knew too what he was getting into. If he didn’t want that kind of life he shouldn’t have made 3 children with her.
Dammit grow up, Ben!
Yeah but if you make it easy for someone and treat them like a child they will keep screwing up. That’s the whole theory behind Al-anon.
@Serena: sadly having kids does not automatically imply maturity…
@eleonor: I know but it should be like that.
I kind of find this “she knew what she was getting” line even more naive than Garner. Theres no way Ben presented himself as “unashamed drinking, gambling, cheater” to her. He did go to rehab before they hooked up and its generally believed that he was clean and faithful initially. You know how he sneers at his past in interviews, is there any doubt that this wasnt what he sold Garner too?
Source: I once dated a guy with a sketchy past in the full belief that he had on his own volition changed. Had I married and had kids with him, who knows if my path would be different from Garners. In contrast, both my sister and close friend married former hell raisers who did actually transform into responsible adults. Theres really no rule on how people turn out.
@Gigi except she knew him for years and publicly gushed over him while she was married and he was engaged. She probably saw first hand that he was capable of cheating because she cheated with him.(I know, I know Scott Foley said she never cheated, but Jen Aniston said the same thing way back when). She was there when he was in rehab and he was open about having a gambling problem etc. I’m sure he’s a charmer but to say she had no idea he had these problems from day one is completely false.
@Luca You misread my post. I am saying that she was aware of the past but clearly believed it was the past. He went through rehab, was clean for years and there were no credible cheating rumors until a few years into the marriage. Some people really do grow up and some people dont. My sister also married a man who went through rehab and turned his life around, it worked for her. As it has for countless other hollywood celebrities, including RDJ. Marriage in the end really is a gamble. Who knows who will turn and who wont.
Maybe a more successful example is Robert Downey Jr. and Susan Downey. She keeps him on track and in return he is immensely grateful.
“The old saying is true – behind every good man there’s an incredible woman. I owe a huge amount – if not all – of my success to Susan. We make a great team, and all that luck I spoke about, that’s Susan.” – Robert Downey Jr.
Yes. Yes. Yes. But then RDJ actually hit rock bottom and developed a personal insight from the experience. Ben seems to be actively seeking out his rock bottom. I swear a few years from now he will be giving interviews about how in an addicts mind success will make you feel like a fraud and so you begin to dismantle it. I doubt he will ever have the self awareness to apologize to his wife and kids though.
Except by his account she didn’t put up with his s**t and that’s what inspired him to change. They waited years until RDJ showed he could be a dad before starting a family. That’s the exact opposite of Garner.
RDJ is the only person who’s responsible for his sobriety, and the person who wanted to change. His wife is supportive, but he is the one who choses to stay on track. You cannot force someone to be something he is not, or does not want.
And honestly I don’t like this “women must keep their husband on track” thing.
Men are not dogs.
(dogs don’t screw the nanny !)
Brother, it did not take long to go from awkward pap walks and nothing is wrong, we love and trust each other and are only remodeling our house stories, to this. They should not have done the crazy fake (now proved to be out right lies) stuff prior to this and it looks so phony now.
Ben, Ben, Ben. Now we get battling PR stories, both are a bit stilted and overripe, but Ben should just keep his mouth shut. There is no way he can justify his actions. He is NOT a victim, he is an idiot and so is his side-piece. But I don’t want to have another long episode of poor pitiful Jen (2.0) stories either. Hopefully that is not how she wants to play it.
As hard as it is to admit, the Paltrow/Martin divorce looks downright cheery next to this mess (and you can be damn sure that is what she wanted and it worked).
Amen, as ridiculous as I find Goopy, she and Chris handled their split like bosses. Any and all hanky-panky was kept on total lockdown. United in a calm, friendly front for the public and for the kids. Ben will come out of this looking like a complete and total lowlife.
Wow Ben Affleck’s PR team are stupid? Is he paying them enough? I mean you can practically see a lot of loopholes there. Do they think the public are stupid? I don’t believed the BBQ shit party stuff they just make it up he is off the radar since the nannygate scandal. They have to say something or the tabloids will going to grill him. I hope JG will going to file the divorce sooner rather than later like Gwen Stefani. She can dumped his ass and move on I do not see any reason to prolong this drama. As of for the nanny I’m out of adjectives to describe her she better have something explosive to make this scandal worthwhile.
the nanny is unprofessional she seems conniving and caught ben at a moment when he needed affection and ego soothing. the nanny service is lousy to have vetted such an immature and
heartless young women.
Good point about the nanny service. You’d think they might have seen some red flags about her motivations.
The one thing it proves to me is, is that because Ben was so needy and turning to this nanny as his confidant with what appears tons of texts and calls and growing closer and closer it’s clear that there was not a woman in the wings that he is crazy about and was waiting to bring her out after the divorce. If that were the case, he would have been turning to her for a lot of his neediness during the separation/divorcing process for emotional support and to soothe his ego, private meetings.
It was more than just wanting to bang the nanny. He also seemed to turn to her because he wanted emotional support and someone on his side during the separation. So in the process totally screwed his wife over in the worst way,instead of letting the marriage end with some dignity for her and not betraying her in her own home, and now with the fame-ho nanny spilling everything for 15 minutes of fame,and Ben humiliating his wife. He couldn’t even do that one thing for Jen, let the marriage end with no scandal.
WOW way to put all the blame on the nanny, and make Ben the victim who has no control over his d*ck.
First off Ben is a grown who choose to sleep with the nanny and Your delusional if you think she was the only one.
That’s not the nanny’s fault. Sure, she is a dumb famewh*ore but that doesn’t mean she lead him into cheating. For sure she came from a good agency and they (Jen) trusted that, who knew Ben couldn’t keep it into his pants not even for his children’s sake?
I don’t care if he’s this wounded soul who sabotages himself.. he’s really a lowlife.
Thank you. I mentioned that in yesterday’s post on this ongoing train wreck. I interviewed hundreds of nannies before placing them. On average two out of ten were good enough to be sent to clients. If you know your business, you can smell out the sketchy ones. Whoever placed this one didn’t catch on the fact that she is so I to herself she couldn’t possibly be a good child caregiver? I call bull.
Affection and ego-smoothing??? Are you kidding??? He just wanted a handy and willing v*gina. Ben is about as sensitive as sandpaper and doesn’t seem to be able to think beyond his own addictive needs.
When Ben Affleck was casted in the role of Nick Dunne, Lainey had a post about who she thought was perfect for Amy: Jennifer Garner. She stated then, as she has now throughout this divorce drama these two closely parallel Gone Girl. I can’t help but wonder if Gillian Flynn knew or worked with both Ben Affleck or Jennifer Garner at one point and based this on them. It’s pretty eerie how closely it resembles Gone Girl. I did like Nick Dunne’s character better though than Amy and I like Jennifer Garner better than Amy. But I do think both Ben Affleck & Jennifer Garner are narcissists (with some sociopathic tendencies who fell in love, had kids and then Ben self destructed. If Jennifer Garner hired the nanny on purpose, she is freaking brilliant and Ben needs to bow down and admit defeat here. Hire a better PR team and begin to jump ahead of this story. Stop denying and start groveling.
Most people have commented on here that she cheated on Scott Foley when she was married to him and then Michael Vartan with Ben Affleck. That the minute she worked with him on Daredevil she decided she had to have him. Be careful for what you wish for.
How is Jennifer Garner anything like Amy? Unlike Amy, Jen actually seems to legitimately care about her kids. And while they were together, she certainly did her share in bolstering his career. It is so bizarre that people are comparing her to a psychopath. I’ve said it before, but the only reason people are making that comparison is because Ben was in that movie. Otherwise he comes across the same as any cheating loser.
Yeah, I fault Jen for marrying Ben in the first place and carrying on her charade, but she is certainly not a psychopath and nothing like the Amy character. If anything, the signs are more pointing toward Ben being the psychopath in that family.
I’ve never used the comparison but I think it comes from Lainey. She said way back when that Jen would make the perfect Amy. She’s obviously not a psychopathic killer but I do think she’s much more obsessed with appearances and much more controlled and calculating than her image.
@Merritt & frivolty, read the articles at Lainey Gossip on Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck. She has quite a few articles on them over the years and admires Jennifer Garner in how she turned Ben Affleck around from his post Jennifer Lopez days.
I believe I stated sociopathic tendencies, not psychopathic but I should have worded the sentence better. There are differences. While they fall under the anti-social personality disorder spectrum and share some traits, there are differences between the two. Psychopaths are highly educated people that hold down jobs and are extremely skilled at manipulating people.. they can brilliantly fake empathy and you would not know it… does that sound like Ben Affleck to you??? I think that sounds more like Jennifer Garner, not Ben. Sorry, I don’t buy into her perfectly crafted image that she has created over the years. If something is too good to be true, it generally is.
So let me rephrase: I see a similarity between Jennifer Garner and Amy Dunne because of how smart both are. Amy Dunne easily manipulated everyone around her in the book (I did not see the movie, by the way) and I kind of feel that is how Jennifer Garner is during this. Every story that breaks about Ben Affleck, she is either visiting kids with cancer, she is seen with her kids, she is the consummate professional on set while Ben is photographed looking grumpy, miserable and making these ridiculous statements. He was “friends” with the nanny… this is not a psychopath at work here, this is a bumbling idiot. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t feel sorry for Ben at all. He created his own mess and now he must deal with it.
@Tammy
To me, Jen knows how to present herself professionally. Jen has always taken part in child focused charities. She also was not the one who released the recent picture with the cancer patient, the kid’s family posted it. And now doing the charity visits, being with her kids, and being a decent co-worker is being treated as though it is somehow sinister. Really? It seems like you are basically saying that in order to not be a sociopath or psychopath you have to look miserable and treat your co-stars like trash. Is she perfect? No, and I don’t know that she is pretending to be. This is why I see this comparison as an an extreme stretch, and one that is only being made due to Ben having been in the movie.
@Tammy. Pretty much every image in Hollywood is crafted. Who can blame them? The kind of jobs you get, particularly if you are female, are determined very much by your public profile. Besides, no sane human being wants their actual family business on the streets. If you have to have a public profile then you must carefully select how you present yourself. I mean do you announce your marital difficulties at your office? I cant believe you would even try to insert pyschopathy into the conversation. Wow. Also, you do know that Jens ex husband has had nothing but good things to say about her and has disputed the cheating claims?
@Merritt- I don’t see the comparison as a stretch like you do and after reading the articles on Lainey’s gossip site plus comments from David Fincher at the time Gone Girl was being made kind of make me think there is a possibility that some of it holds true.
@Gigi- I agree with the first part of what you wrote, about the crafting of the image and Jennifer Garner has one of the best images out there. It’s not just the pap strolls that are occurring now but during the marriage. During the Oscar campaign, every time there was a hint of trouble, they were papped with the kids. How she reformed Ben’s image, how carefully controlled the stories are, Does it mean she’s a psychopath? No, She’s incredibly smart, that’s the comparison to be made with Amy in Gone Girl. Jennifer Garner has crafted this image of herself as the long suffering wife, a saint, a great mom, etc. I don’t doubt she’s a great mom, which is where the comparison falls short to the characters in Gone Girl.
Most people have not commented on here that she cheated on Scott Foley and on Michael Vartan. Don’t confuse “a few” with “most.”
Jen isn’t a saint, but the whole painting her with a red scarlet letter by some is a bit much.
@Jayna. I agree, there’s always two people in this marriage. It’s so redundant to keep throwing the past.
Okay, a few then.
I don’t recall the gossip at the time about her divorce with Scott Foley and her break up with Michael Vartan but I did see Daredevil and remember the gossip that was going on during the movie. The impression I had during that time was she had a major crush on Ben and I am not sure if she was still dating Michael or married? I’m not going to fault her for crushes and if she did cheat, I honestly don’t care. But it’s a bit hypocritical of some and I am not saying you, Jayna, to blast Ben for cheating and not Jen. It doesn’t matter to your partner whether you are married or not or have kids with them, the feeling is the same when you are cheated on.
“It doesn’t matter to your partner whether you are married or not or have kids with them, the feeling is the same when you are cheated on.”
True. And marriage vows are the same, whether children are involved or not.
@Tammy uhm no. I am no Jen G fan but stop. She may be a narcissist, and image obsessed but seriously that ain’t right. Sociopaths destroy lives. Ben and his wandering dong are completely to blame for this mess right here.
@ Luca76, where did I say Jennifer was to blame for anything? I was referring to the articles that Lainey has written about Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck during their marriage and now divorce. i should have worded the sentence better about sociopathic tendencies because a sociopath Jennifer is not. She’s way too smart to be a sociopath.
This whole theory of Jen setting up Ben with the nanny IS blaming her.
Oh and saying someone has sociopathic tendencies because they set up photo ops?
Reread what I wrote. I said if she did, she is brilliant…………………………………………..I am not blaming her and I am actually impressed. A sociopath would never have the intelligence nor the impulse control to pull off that. And Ben still had a choice and chose poorly.
I wonder how this will effect the Batman movie? Im wondering how his bosses at the studio are reacting to this?
Serious question.
They know it’s going to print money but I think they’re concerned at the very least. It’s release date isn’t until March 25, 2016–it might be out of people’s mind unless they have a drawn out custody battle.
And if Transformers can cast racist Marky Mark then they’ll get away with wandering dong Affleck.
Nothing is going to hurt the Batman/Superman movie…the only ones who are angry with Ben are women, and that is not the demographic that goes to the Batman movies. Guys, and teen boys could care less who Ben is screwing! That movie will make a fortune!!!!
Agree. The minivan majority is not the demographic for this film. By the time March rolls around, this will probably not be a headline and fan boys don’t read People Magazine any way.
The studio and publicists will have a “no personal questions” clause for all promotion, just like the no CO$ clause for Cruise and he won’t even have to acknowledge his past indiscretions. They will just make sure Cavill does a lot of talking along with the other co-stars. The only thing he will be forced to do is smile, even if it is not genuine. They will probably swing past a few hospitals in costume, which makes great photos. You can bet the studio is mapping out a plan as we speak.
Agreed. Many men would not blame Ben for cheating, but only for getting caught.
Please. The audio tape of Christian Bale being abusive and berating someone on a movie set was horrible.
“The four-minute meltdown contains 39 F-words as the British actor lays into a director of photography who has accidentally interrupted a scene.
He screams abuse and threats as colleagues, including director McG, attempt to calm the situation. The audio clip, obtained by http://www.TMZ.com, has become a web hit. It begins with Bale yelling: “I’m gonna kick your –ing ass. I want you off the —ing set, you —–.”
The director of photography, believed to be Shane Hurlbut, can be heard apologising and explaining that he was checking one of the lights, but Bale continues with his rant.
At one point he can be heard threatening: “Do you want me to go —-ing trash your lights? Do you want me to —ing trash them? Then why are you trashing my scene? You do it one more —-ing time and I ain’t walking on this set if you’re still hired. I’m —ing serious.”
And don’t forget his alleged assault on his mother and sister ending up with him being arrested that happened during Dark Night just coming out. It may have been bogus and he denied assaulting them and said it was a row over money, and he is still estranged from them. But it was horrible publicity at the time. He was let go and never charged.
He was Batman and was beloved as Batman. It never hurt him in the least. Ben’s issues are much milder, a messy divorce and infidelity with a nanny during the separation. He doesn’t look good doing that in their home, but it’s not unheard of, Ethan Hawke, Robin Williams, etc.
If someone wants to see Batman, they’ll see Batman. If they don’t, they won’t. Ben’s extracurricular activities should have no bearing on someone’s decision to see a movie.
Yeah, this wont affect Batman box office at all. What the studio will be watching closely is whether he spirals and how badly. He not only needs to sell the new movie but deliver a solid script and begin prepping for filming the Batman standalone film. If he starts showing up in vegas, drunk, drugged out and on the arms of his ex nanny, then studio heads will start to worry.
Drinking, gambling, cheating Ben passive-aggressively forces squeaky-clean but constantly nagging soccer-mom Jen to finally divorce him.. No one could have predicted this scenario from day one …. What a shocker here!
ETA: Does anyone else remember a blind way, way back when these two first married that said Affleck was already regretting it and was trying to find a way out? Sounded true then, sounds exactly right now.
I seem to recall that blind….and if true, then WTH did they have two more children, if it wasn’t working from day one! I don’t know which one is worse…I’m sure Jen knew Ben wasn’t happy, did she really think that having baby after baby was going to turn him into a devoted husband and father??
Exactly? they wanted to present JG as the main villain, they want her to look like the main reason why Ben behaved and acted this way “constant nitpicking” “she expected to much from him” “he is tried of Jen’s negative energy” etc. etc. Ha! too lame.
If only they’d divorced years ago or never married in the first place, we’d be spared from this unnecessary drama.
With the other divorces announced this summer and some major splits in recents years, a few with allegations as bad as if not worse than this, Ben/Jen’s still eclipses them all. Even Katie H. got away from Tom C. and Scientology’s grasp pretty swiftly, so why couldn’t the Gafflecks manage to do this?
At this point, I don’t care for Ben, Jen, the nanny or anyone involved in this mess, except for the kids – so much for “protecting” the kids!
Agree with your last paragraph. The kids have more and more piling up on the Internet, not just due to their father’s alleged behavior. BOTH camps (and their earlier ‘joint’ efforts) just keep putting out narratives and thus fueling the fire.
If the kids were truly a focus, they had an opportunity to sort this out privately without all the PR ‘sources’ constantly battling and tossing out things later contradicted. Less is more, in this situation.
Ben should fire his current PR team as they are doing a terrible job. Do his PR people not realise how dumb it is to criticise his wife considering she currently looks like a saint and a supermom in this divorce?
Ben should take a page out of Jen’s book and do a friendly photo-op with his kids complete with pictures so that the public can see that he’s trying to prove that he’s a good and present father.
But that would cut into his partying and sleeping around schedule and I don’t think he can be bothered….
So the article confirms he cheated on her multiples times before. This is actually truly sad that she felt she had to put up with that mess. A woman needs to always remember her worth. If anything maybe this will allow her to build up self-esteem because one of the past articles from yesterday even mentioned she was willing to give the marriage another try before finding out about the nanny. People treat you how you allow them to treat you -as I said its sad to me.
She is a fool, who kept on having children with this cheater….the only ones I feel sorry for are those children. I did feel bad for Jen, at first, but if he has been doing this for years, then she shouldn’t have kept having babies, hoping that would change him. That is not fair to those kids!
Maybe she believed things WERE better and THEN had another child with him, not had a child hoping it would then change him. I’m not sure why so many people jump to the conclusion of ‘bandaid baby’ or whatever people want to call it. It can be the other way around, and often is.
This is unnecessarily cruel. My mum stayed with my dad for years even though he was probably as bad as Ben. My mother was not a fool! She was just completely so psychologically beaten down as to doubt her senses, her ability to move forward and whether she deserved better. I also believe that Hollywood is very similar to the misogynistic culture my mum was raised in. She was told constantly that all men cheat and that her job was to protect the family. I think Hollywood wives accept that everybody is cheating and if you really want to raise kids in a traditional nuclear family, you have to allow the discreet stuff to carry on just as long as it doesnt become public.
True. Suddenly she has absolutely no responsibility in this mess? She was an enabler because she got something out of it, whatever it was and however pure that was, she decided to stay.
A man who can tell a worldwide audience of close to a billion people that his marriage is work when he should be celebrating his oscar win, is not a man committed to his marriage. If she didn’t see the writing on the wall then, she has major issues.
Well, marriage is sometimes work but I think that was the wrong place and time to say that. Just thank your lovely wife and mother of your children and move on.
One point for all the people who said, “WTF?!?” after that Oscar speech.
Zero points for those who thought the speech was sweet and honest and demonstrated his love.
The writing has been on the wall for at least half of their marriage. I don’t fault Garner for wanting to make her marriage work and aspiring to have the perfect family she tried to portray to the public, but what she was doing was beating a dead horse to the point where many gossip watchers felt that her entire life became a lie and a PR stunt. She tried very hard to make us believe that she was a happy mom and wife, but now all of that has unraveled.
The wife part, but I think she is still very happy to be a mom.
This appears to be a case of hanging on until the (very) bitter end.
Oh sure she did. Amazing how women are always nagging if they want their husband to do his share of raising the kids and acting like an adult. Clearly she wasn’t nagging him that much since he was always able to go out, gamble, and drink.
Seriously, methinks she was too permissive. Giving him three wonderful children and a stable family life. What was she thinking? *heavy sarcasm*
This whole thing has spiraled into such a hot mess. Is Ben just drunk or what, how stupid is he? I didn’t think he was the most honorable guy but at the same time I didn’t think he would be quite this bad at letting his mess spill all over the damn place. I am still very confused with the nanny stories leaking, because they obviously come from her, and she must have signed a confidentiality agreement. So if she starts selling her story isn’t she open to a lawsuit from Jen? Or is the nanny just betting on Jen wanting to stay as clear of this as possible?
You know who I feel sorry for? Violet. She’s nearly 10 and when she goes back to school in the fall, you know all those rich snobby kids will tease her about the nanny being her new mom.
I agree. And more than that, she’s old enough to know some of what is going on, as hard as her mom might be trying to protect her from it all. (I say mom because it seems like Ben is too clueless to give a $h!t.) Very sad for the kids, especially the oldest.
As much as I am both intrigued and confused by this mess, I do feel for all three kids.
Their parents are dueling it out via PR almost daily, which leaves a huge amount of things to see and read later on the Internet. This has been poorly handled for the past few months, not just the past couple of weeks.
I disagree. I think the initial handling, which I suppose was orchestrated by the “nag” was brilliant. They made the announcement together while on retreat. They made sure to point out that they hadnt been item for awhile but were friendly enough to go to fruit markets together. They made it clear that Ben would have a residence at the kids home so he would be a constant presence. They agreed to keep the rings on until the kids were completely at peace with the changes. Honestly, Ben screwed this up. The tiny minority that does analyse these press releases, may have believed that it was all engineered but we also acknowledged that these were good parents and in fact we thought that even though Ben may have messed the marriage, at least he was prioritising the childrens well-being …….then he went and banged the nanny. Always count on Ben to ruin a good thing.
@Gur, LOL, spot on. Ben just couldn’t have a scandal-free divorce. He had to go and turn it into a Tsunami, wreaking destruction in it s path.
What I’m talking about are — Frequent pap walks with him appearing in anger and/or misery (lovely for the kids to see just how miserable he was in the family’s company those last weeks/months), lying (apparently) about the moving van in June, then making the announcement followed by multiple photos and articles each week (including photos from the ‘family retreat’).
All of the above was BEFORE the nanny story exploded, and it doesn’t appear to be stopping. When the nanny allegations surfaced, it just added to an already heaping pile of Internet content for those children to see or hear about.
Had they made the announcement and then let the next waves of gossip flow, I do not believe this would have been quite as big. A lot of people would have been like, “Oh, yeah, they are divorcing” and not paid as much attention. I would have been one of those, because I’ve only learned what a sketchy situation this appears to be due to the items mentioned in my first paragraph. They went WAY overboard, IMO.
@ShazBot Me too, I really feel sad for Violet, I notice lately from their photo ops that she look really sad, she is old enough to feel the tension and the stress.
I saw a photo of her with the puppy.
http://www.growingyourbaby.com/2015/07/27/ben-affeck-jennifer-garner-step-out-with-their-kids/violet-affeck-at-the-park-in-atlanta-with-her-new-puppy/
thanks for the link – looking at the pictures Jen has at least 2 nannies with her so handling the kids sans Ben shouldn’t be too much of a problem.
In response to the original comment pertaining to Violet, I agree with your sentiment and find it very hard to believe that a good mother like Jen would actually call paps and deliberately expose her kids to additional stress!!
Aw, that puppy. And I just love little Violet.
The first thing my sister said when I told her about the nanny and all the rags going off on in and the nanny setting up photos and stories was how sad for the kids, because that’s who he has hurt the most with this.
Midlife crisis galore.Reminds me of the narrative in the depp/paradise split. The narrative was very much poor little man, his woman was such a bitch, when these women probably just “nagged” them because they both have addiction (and maturity) issues.
So being upset with one’s husband for having continual addiction issues and being unfaithful is considered nagging, huh?
Lord. I’m never getting married.
Yes totally lame excuse. But if you are married to Ben Afflect every appeal you do is considered nagging.
I’m with you on this.
It didn’t help the first time, why would it work on the 1,000th time?
If you marry and alcoholic you don’t fight him (or her), you don’t put them down, you don’t try to convince them or trick them into quitting, you quit and get away.
I’m not saying that Jennifer nagged or that she did anything wrong, what I’m saying is that addiction is a cycle, and shame plays a big role in that. If anybody has issues with this just seek help, but saying “You should…, Why can’t you…, If only you…” once, twice or a million times is not going to work.
I’m trying to see things from Ben’s perspective. I’m assuming this marriage was dead to him for years now. He was probably itching to leave and kept messing up (gambling, cheating, flirting with co-stars, dissing his wife in interviews and acceptance speeches) hoping that Garner would throw in the towel. She probably refused and wanted to really make a failed marriage better by having more children, going to counseling, and forcing him to join her on the occasional paparazzi walk to uphold the image of a happy family in the public eye.
I agree with posters who have stated that Garner has always been more into Affleck than he was into her, although, I believe that at one time very early in the relationship he loved her. Maybe he still loves her as the mother of his children, but sought sexual fulfillment outside of the marriage.
These aren’t the actions of a man who feels sorry for what he has done or wants in any way to salvage his marriage. He’s probably angry that Garner made him stay in the marriage for ten years and upset that after getting away with affairs throughout his marriage, he’s been exposed after finally getting what he wanted which was a divorce. He may not even believe that he did anything wrong and that it was okay for him to sleep with whomever he wanted during their trial separation. My feeling is that Affleck wanted the separation and Garner gave it to him with the hope that they’d reconcile. Now that is impossible.
I totally agree, kibbles…the more I think about it, the more I feel like Ben kept wanting out and Jen kept getting pregnant to keep him in the marriage. Not defending Ben, it takes two to tango, but, if Jen did do that, I am stripping her of the “Best Mommy In The World” badge…You don’t bring children into a situation like that….Hell, the BBQ on the island is probably a Victory Party!!!!
Yep, I think he has no qualms throwing a victory party and celebrating his freedom from the “nagging wife”. In many ways I feel sorry for Garner and any woman who is dealing with a man who refuses to grow up and be a devoted husband. But, most of us here could see the type of guy Ben was when he dated JLo and the type of women he was into. He is not the type of guy who will ever be happy with a nice and wholesome woman for the rest of his life. Garner probably knew that deep inside as well but she was like so many clueless women who believe they can change a man. A man can only change if he chooses to, no one can force him to be a better person if he doesn’t want to be.
Yep, that party in Georgia was probably an “I’m finally free!” celebration for Ben.
I’m guessing it was a pre-production party for Live By Night because I can’t otherwise imagine how Ben could gather 35 people together on a private island in GA?
I think you nailed it. It really demonstrates the immaturity on both of their parts. What a super mess for the poor kids.
I keep reading comments like ‘he wanted out for a long time, she forced him to stay’. What?? People, it may not seems so given the actual circumstances, but Ben is an adult! You want out? Instead of humiliating your whole family, grow a pair and GTFO! Instead he kept being a coward and forced her in a corner until she had enough.
No way I can excuse his behaviour. What a pathetic loser.
Thank you! It doesn’t matter how much she may have wanted him to stay. If he wanted to leave, he should have left. He should have manned up (yeah, right), left the wife he didn’t want, and tried very hard to be a good father and good ex-husband.
Why did he stay? His image and ego needed it. He needs success more than anything. Happy Family plays a lot better at the Oscars than drunken, middle-aged idiot hanging with gamblers and 20-year-old gold diggers. One day Leo DiC will figure that out.
Ben is clearly one of those people who needs the other person to end things for him. That’s been the case in every serious relationship he’s had. He behaves badly and forces the other person to leave. Based on that he’s clearly wanted out for at least a couple of years, maybe more like 4-5 now that I think about it. But certainly for about a year and a half now he’s been extra obvious about it, not even attempting to hide the drinking, the drug use, the gambling, the extended time away from home when he wasn’t working.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s super shitty behavior, but I can’t muster up much sympathy for anyone who can ignore their partner so blatantly showing them how badly they want out. Either she’s completely blind when it comes to him, she was only staying to spite him or she just didn’t care what he wanted and thought she could keep the relationship going through sheer force of will.
Heres the thing though, we are only privy to what he does outside of the home. Who knows what he was saying or doing for her privately. These types of people can be extremely manipulative. And honestly, the very fact that he, a man of great privilege (a handsome, wealthy, white, straight, male) wasnt filing for divorce communicates that he wanted to stay. Staying basically says “I want to save this”. And once again, who knows what he was saying to her when they were alone.
Uhmmm… Grown ass man could file for divorce if he wanted his freedom that badly, it’s not like Jen had him chained to the bed – look at all the stuff he did while married. WHY should it be her responsibility to walk first?
+1000 !!!
I guess my point was, why wouldn’t you walk first when your husband’s cheating, drug use, drinking, gambling and so on is increasing at a rapid rate and he looks like he wants to jump in front of a bus whenever he’s with you. What kind of person see’s that and thinks ‘I can make this work’.
Yes it’s terrible behaviour on his side, but some people are just like that. They just can’t be the one who ends it. Ben has repeatedly shown himself to be that kind of person. He’s a giant douche, obviously. But I can’t imagine Jen didn’t have some insight into his character. She had to have noticed he wanted out. She chose to stay with him knowing he didn’t want the relationship. So I can’t feel bad for her, she made her choices knowing what she was getting. The one thing Ben’s never done is manage to hide his worst self. It’s all out there. You can’t say you didn’t know what he was.
@Kate I already typed this above but I’ll repeat it here. We are not privy to what he said and did for her in private. He may have been saying that he wants to save the marriage. He may have been asking for time to deal with his addiction issues. They may both have been dismissing it as a simple rough patch. Perhaps he is accusing her of “nagging” him precisely because she made an issue of these things.
Well, again then, she isn’t that smart. Actions speak way louder than words and his actions have indicated that he’s wanted out FOR YEARS.
My husband says this to me all the time: “Im trying.” (but our fights are only about cleaning/upkeep, thank god.)
And I always say to him (paraphrasing Yoda): “Do or do not. There is no ‘try.'”
“Trying” “I need time” “this is just a rough patch”-all hedge words.
There is a video, Vulture shared an article on the internet of an interview/show called “Dinner for Five”, where the participants of certain movies have dinner and chat over the table. The link is about the Daredevil movie with Colin FArrel, the director, Jen and Ben, is this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xif09V0BG_s
Garner was married or in a relationship back then, and so was Affleck with JLo. I had not seen the interview because I cannot stand his a**, I have catalogued as an entitled douche ever since he has courting JLo and then criticizing HER for the way his career was affected by his choices. There are several moments (per Vulture) that are worthy checking, and at about 15-17 mins, between 20-22. I think he is one of those all about himself, who loves being adored without an effort, and she fell for his image, whatever. She was with someone, I do not feel she is this sweet dove either, but it happens. She probably threw away good guys for this man.
I’ve seen that video, and Jen is totally crushing on Ben…it’s so obvious!
I cringed when I saw her smiling lovingly at him in the video! no wonder, she probs dumped her guy the moment Ben laid eyes on her.
At that point she was still married.
Yes, this video from Dinner For Five has been posted and reposted ad nauseum (no offense!), and Jen’s crushing on Ben discussed ever since…
But there’s something else that I find interesting about it, just listening to Ben talk about tabloid gossip, specifically Page Six:
“They’ve reported completely fictitious items about me because what they do, basically, is they can hide behind the First Amendment, and they only need one source…
So, basically, anyone can call them up and say, ‘Yeah, I saw Ben Affleck, and, uh, he was having sex with Kevin Smith,’ and that’s just the story.”
It seems prescient now with this nanny, and I find it hard to believe that Ben doesn’t know this or has forgotten his thoughts on it?
So if Ben hasn’t completely lost his mind, maybe he’s just letting this nanny play right into his hand, then suing her instead.
I absolutely agree with you. I don’t feel bad for Gardner because she put her image before the well-being of her own kids.
His actions said he was desperate to leave, and hers that she was desperate to make a cheating drug-addict stay.
I know I’m not posting anything that hasn’t been posted 20 times over, but it really is the most succinct statement:
WHAT A CLICHE!
Not just the affair with the nanny, but ALL of it. The nagging wife, the under appreciated husband rebelling with his seedy actions…Ugh! Make it stop!
He could never muster up any excitement for his own wife. The constant grump face and air of depression hung around them as a couple. His big smile & engaged demeanor with the nanny was painful for me to see in still pics. I can only imagine how it felt for JG to see first hand in the Bahamas. What a slap in the face.
Perhaps Jen was “making him feel inadequate” because…he was inadequate.
Boom! You win.
Stands up at desk. Applauds.
Oh she nit picks him and makes him feel inadequate. Woe is Ben, the uber successful Oscar winner. His poor self esteem @__@
Reminds me of the old adage about the teenager.
“Dear Abby, My parents are always on my case. They are constantly harping on me to study, clean my room, and cut the grass. They are driving me crazy. What should I do?”
Abby: Study, clean your room and cut the grass.
C’mon, Ben. You can do better than this material. If not, your Hollywood career is truly in the toilet.
“Poor Ben”. He has a wife who actually expected him to act like an adult, and a famewh0re nanny who expects him to make her a celebrity. He didnt follow the cheating husband golden rule: don’t hook up with anyone who has less to lose than you do if it comes out. Now the nanny is calling the paps and dying to be interviewed, and Jen is done with his shit. Now we can plainly see that he never was an admirable man; that Jen and the children gave him a veneer of respectability and likability that wasn’t ever true.
Ugh. This whole thing is making me sick. But one thing stands out to me- Jen was NOT done with the marriage when they went to the Bahamas. That has been stated by People. Originally, it was said they went there to announce their divorce under safe cover. Now, given the current nanny situation, the story has somehow all of a sudden changed to – they weren’t done and went there to discuss their future. Isn’t this suspicious at all? Do you all not see this story shift? I am still floored by how everyone is ignoring this. So, it’s COMPLETELY ok for Jen to have stayed with Ben before, even though he cheated many times (allegedly) and had other addictions for years and even told her point blank he hadn’t been committed for years. In light of this, everyone is STILL fine with Jen WANTING to stay in that marriage, rven in the Bahamas. Oh, of course it’s fine because Ben is the a-hole and she’s the the poor suffering wife who’s trying to make it all work – regardless of what has been right in front of her for many years. Yes, that’s ok because somehow, as women we identify with that? I don’t. It’s really ridiculous. It was only when the nanny thing happened – or went public – that Jen decided it was too much and she should leave?! Frankly, I still do not believe they’re beyond getting back together. It may sound crazy, and I know you all think it is, but I feel pretty positive (JMHO of course) that if this man groveled enough and promised to devote the rest of his days to her, she’s be back in that marriage in a heartbeat. 100%. Honestly, I just don’t care at this point what Ben did. I think he’s a talented director/writer, and I’m not going to stop watching his stuff, nor Jen’s. And I’m not going to crucify him (yes, I know- he’s crucifying himself, blah blah). This is a marriage that that BOTH BOTH BOTH of them stayed in far too long. Also, FWIW, I absolutely don’t think Ben would be dumb enough to think these comments about nitpicking, Etc. will help his case/image. So, either he has a bad PR person, or they’re just coming from sources without his knowledge. Best thing they can both do now is stop
this out, divorce quickly and get on with their lives.
I think this Radar report was the most accurate. Ben wanted the split, Jen didn’t. He was begrudgingly playing by her rules up until the Bahamas then all hell broke loose. Only after the nanny did Jen realize there was no hope.
http://www.celebitchy.com/433366/radar_ben_affleck_is_staying_in_hotels_pressuring_jennifer_to_file_for_divorce/
I think Jen was calling the shots on the whole roll-out of separation and I think he was very resentful but going along. But he was not going to hide how he felt, thus the grumpy faces on their pap walks. He resented every bit of it. He just wanted it to be over and announce it.
I agree with your take on this. I seem to remember they announced their split and said they had been apart for 10 months. Then there was a family vacation in Bahamas while split to help redefine their co-parenting roles. A lot of us said, weird. Now there is a sob story that this is the last straw. A lot of hay being made out this. And a whole lot of narrative being made up…sources close to the couple say…on his crappy mindset. It just seems like the ladies in this story are crazily running down the street like it’s hallowee’en trying to scoop as much as they can from the candy gods, and the man and possibly his Canadian hook up are on radio silence waiting for it all to die down.
They announced the divorce June 30. They went to the Bahamas after that.
I think she was calling the shots about the roll out until one more straw broke the camel’s back. Maybe during that vacation he admitted even more to her about what he’d be up to for the last few years, nanny or not. Now it is His vs. Hers PR working against each other instead of together.
I think at that point Ben was so desperate that he’s paying that girl to say they had an affair just so he can get out of the marriage.
He probably saw the cycle starting again with the paps photographing Jen crying and the cute dog, etc. He knew he wasn’t going to be able to get out, and bam! the nanny thing happens.
Imagine being nit-picked over your affairs, drinking problem and gambling addiction!!! Unbuuulievable!
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Pfff, that’s the best he can do? Better be a nitpicker than a scumbag cheater anyway.
“It’s all Jen’s fault Ben cheated”… what a poor excuse of a human being are you, Ben?
God, he’s getting on my nerves with his stupidity.
I don’t even know where to start. Of course it is the wife’s fault when the husband is cheating! I mean ask all of his sidepieces – all of them would say what a great guy he is. How could his wife and mother of his three children not see how amazing Ben is? She kept nagging and nitpicking… so he had to find comfort in the arms of another woman. And not only did the nanny already take care of the children she even found time in her busy schedule to bang the father. Jennifer Garner should be ashamed of herself for letting those poor two victims take all of the blame, when it was her who caused Amazing Ben all the pain of not feeling manly enough! *sarcasm*
Maybe Affleck started something with the Nanny because he wanted Garner to find out and finally pull the plug. So it would basically be her fault that the marriage failed. He even seems like the kind of guy who would then tell his kids “Mommy wanted a divorce, Daddy wanted to be with his family”. Always put the blame on someone else!
He isn’t even realizing that it was Garner who helped him back on his feet career wise. After the Gigli debacle his career was in the toilet and Garner helped him in a lot of ways to come back on a successful track.
I hope his career is suffering big time from all of this. That is the only thing he cares about. So please, take it away from him.
The crazy thing is, Ben really WANTS and NEEDS someone who will micromanage his life and give him structure, because he can’t do it himself and he knows it. He has the emotional maturity of 17 year-old. He is drawn to types like Jennifer, then ends up resenting them. Look at his relationship with Jennifer Lopez – there is a woman who was ready to micromanage him to the ‘nth degree but he startled and bolted. Garner got pregnant and he buckled down. For awhile. Now he’s back to frat boy mentality with waaay too much money and no one to manage him. So down he goes in flames and (naturally) it is the woman’s fault who gave him the structure he craved and resented.
I would love to know what his and Casey’s family life was like growing up.
@crumpet: I think you hit the nail squarely on the head! Well said.
As far as his upbringing, I think I remember reading that his father was/is an alcoholic and he comes from a broken home. It doesn’t excuse his behavior at all, but it may explain it a bit.
I agree—he will end up some version of Charlie Sheen. They should get together, they probably would have similar taste in women–maybe Ben can introduce Charlie to card counting. LOL
Ironically Sheen drove him to his rehab stint way back when.
What say what? LOL They SHOULD hang out again!
Did any of Ben’s women ever try to make him grow? Or did they like to keep him as a child-like dependent partner?
Garner seems the type who likes taking charge of all accounts as that gives her control. And stuff like that.
Ben is an addict. His emotional growth was arrested at the time his addiction started, which was probably some time in his late teens early twenties. It would be Herculean effort for him to grow emotionally at this point. Not saying he couldn’t, or that he won’t. But most do not, sadly.
You can’t make someone grow if they don’t want to. I think Ben thought he wanted to for awhile, but it was too hard and he petered out.
Crumpet, a close family member was an addict and the arrested emotional development part is absolutely true.
ROTFL ” No One Is Sweeter??? WHO is the source in this kind of claptrap??? Mom?? Good God!
Re: Affleck, I Told you all a while back That he is just that guy that was gonna keep f*cking Up til she couldnt save face no more
I was over Ben once he looked like a raggedy bum, but this smiling and putting up the nanny and claiming his wife nagged him to death, ugh ugh ugh! Please go away now! This has turned into a circus. I feel bad for Jennifer, this is epically humilating!
Ugh. Reminds me of my husband. He’s “stressed” and I “hound” him. When in reality, I’m asking him to please put some of his paycheck from 10 days ago in the joint account so we can pay the mortgage on time, or please stop leaving box cutters and syringes in the gated, baby-proofed living room where our toddlers can get them.
He’s not a child and you’re not his mother.
I hate playing that role with one of my relatives. He tells me of something really stupid he did (“omg! can you meet me out at the police station?, I crashed the car and had a fight with the other driver, my dad is not answering”) then I get angry, help him, we fight and I end up feeling drained and miserable.
My relative is not going to become responsible just because I tell him “this is the last time I help”, he’s actually probably never going to change, so I can choose to accept him or stop being around, but nagging (or lecturing him) has lead us nowhere.
I know it’s hard, I beat myself up every time I give in, but I keep reminding myself that I have to be mature even if he’s not.
I had an ex like that. Once I had the baby, I realized what I was doing, and that I could not mother both him and our child. So I quit mothering him, and he fell all to pieces addiction-wise. Stopped earning money, etc. I was working 3 jobs by the time my daughter was 3 years old. We got divorced, he married a ‘take charge’ woman IMMEDIATELY, and they conspired to remove my daughter from my custody. And they succeeded, because I was still single and struggling, while he was suddenly financially solvent so she could stay home and raise our child.
Yeah, it still makes me crazy.
For what it’s worth: someone there on set told me that they had to shut down filming the other day when she burst into tears and couldn’t stop. Not that she wasn’t very professional and fine to work with; just that she was overcome, and everyone felt terrible for her.
Sort of gives more credence to the notion that she may not have been expecting the last nanny scandal straw that broke the marriage’s back, imo; I know why her people would spin ‘all fine on set, consummate professional,’ etc. – but I felt for her just hearing that small moment of gossip.
Jen puts on a brave face, but I know she’s going through hell right now. It’s sad enough dealing with divorce when you still love that person, but knowing you have to, and dealing with your children and their heartbreak. But having this thrown in your face last minute and having to be on set every day while it plays out nationally, getting worse and worse and seeing your husband beaming in a photo at the fired nanny, I don’t doubt she broke down on set. She’s dealing with a lot emotionally.
Oh man, I so feel for her. My aunt met her a few months back while she was visiting Ben on set of his last film. She said she was so sweet and down to earth and they chatted for almost an hour while she watched her kids play on the beach.
Didn’t their seperation statement say they’d been apart for 10 months so is she going back on that now? If they were seperated for that long then yeah the nanny was a terrible choice but it’s not an affair or cheating. It’s also pretty normal, most people who get out of a long term relationship that was strained for some time (as it usually is because you don’t chuck out decades on a whim) go a bit crazy on the strange.
Separations happen to give people time away from each other in the hopes of saving the marriage. I think people forget that, and assume it is always a prelude to divorce. Clearly, she was hoping to work things out. 🙁
But she did say they were seperated – now (if this story is to be believed) she’s saying they weren’t. Seperations domt always happen to see if a relationship can be saved. Often it’s a way of easing the more reluctant person (and even in a completely mutal breakup one person is more keen than the other) into the eventually split. Few people who seperate for 10 months, as this couple stated when they announced their split, end up happily ever after.
Why can’t Ben just let people think what they like about him and say nothing about the mother of his children? If he thinks she’s a soul sucking harridan, fine- ask for ‘privacy’ and keep your mouth shut. For God sake man the children are watching. As a cheating, nanny banging, gambling, borderline alcoholic, inappropriate party throwing jackass, it’s the least he can do. Damn…
The more Ben and his sources talk, the more he looks like a pathetic, disgusting fool and the more Jen looks like a saint for putting up with him for 10 long years. If this is how he treats her in front of the world I can just imagine how bad it was behind closed doors. He has no class. Pure scum. Disgusting lowlife.
+1000
Well said!
I have a feeling Ben could care less what people think of him. I think he put up the happy family facade as long as he could. Left to his own devices he will probably gamble away his fortune and break a few more hearts along the way. How can a man just flagrantly prance around with some young thing when they have so much to lose? I will never understand how it is worth it to them. Not to mention the karma coming to this girl for participating proudly in hurting those children!
In short she desperately needed to go to Alanon just like he needed to go to AA.
I’m waiting for the time he stops being rewarded for his bad behavior. When ordinary mortals screw up, they pay the consequences. Not the golden boy, though. How many 16 million dollar estates can he retreat to? I remember a quotation that the best part of being rich is not having to pay the consequences for anything you do. I’m just waiting for his success in Batman and then writing more successful Batman pictures. You can be a d-ck and succeed! Just ask Affleck.
Yep.
He sickens me. And I wish everyone would recall right before the divorce was announced… he was caught in Canada having an affair with another woman. How many nanny’s were there.
Who caught him? You act like it’s fact because a gossip site said so, an anonymous source. LOL No photos. No locals on local media talking about it . Just two comments from locals saying they saw him in their store, one at a gas station, and one at a place for boots or something. Not one mention of a woman by them.
Who knows? Maybe he had someone there, maybe not. But I don’t fall for every anonymous source story by gossip bloggers. Ben was sighted in that town. The local paper ran a story on seeing him there. All of a sudden, Lainey or whomever has a source after the fact of knowing he was there, not before.
I mean that rumor seems quite clearly to be the start of everything though right? I think the Canada woman was a full fledged affair. Probably with a co star, someone for whom it would be disastrous to be involved in this and had every reason to keep things quiet. On the other hand this nanny seems to have been a fling and not at the root of the split. I think he felt free at that point to screw whoever just because but he wasn’t cheating.
As for why people would remain anonymous there are hospitality workers etc that are privy to this kind of information but are concerned about their jobs, and wouldn’t outright give a story to a tabloid.
@Luca, if he was in a full-fledged affair and she was waiting in the wings to come out publicly, nannygate just destroyed that relationship.
Unless this mysterious, possibly fictional, other woman knows that nannygate is fake. A ruse made to get him out of his marriage and cover whatever could have happened in Canada.
I saw a photo – Lainey had it on her website. He wasn’t with a woman, but he was definitely in Canada.
“Canada”??? It’s a pretty big place – the US-Can border is nearly 9000 km- can you be more specific? Not critical information, mind you, but it seems kind of vague to simply say “Canada” when you are talking about an entire country lol.
@kris – Lainey is Canadian and lives there so it surprises me that anything she posts related to Canada is vague and non-specific. However, this is an American site so Canada is the 51st state (lol)!
I am completely baffled by what is going on here. First of all, I have to say that I agree with those that take Lainey’s blinds with a pinch of salt. It is completely possible that Ben was with a woman in Canada, but so far we have zero confirmation of that from any source whatsoever. Second, as other people have pointed out: he and Jen had already decided to end the marriage when he started getting friendly with the nanny. I am utterly confused about this purpoted “cheating”. Unless my timing is all wrong. Third, there is again, zero evidence of a physical relationship with the nanny. We do have evidence of some interaction, which could have posisbly led to a physical relationship, but the nanny may have jumped the gun on that and gone to the tabloids too soon.
What is likely to have happened is: Ben did cheat a couple of times in the course of the relationship. Jen and Ben both had an unhealthy dynamic that further led to his withdrawal and douche-baggery, and eventual checking out. They decided to mutually end the relationship. He literally had no friends to turn to (remember his PR did come out with a statement that he had no one to go to) and he turned to this nanny, who played him and outed him before the relationship became intimate. Jen then got vengeful and her PR happily supported the stories of Ben “cheating”.
I think that Ben is unravelling. Brittney style.
She still doesn’t want to lose BA. She is having the upper hand by replaying to his stories that she is a Nagger. She is clearing it by saying she nag him because he is short of a husband.
He probs confusied what he should do now. He may soon will have the wrote up he regretted what he did and they will reconcile . she build her image around him by creating an image that she is the one who domesticated him ,the good wife and mother. She doesn’t want to lose that IMO. I think she still doesn’t want the divorce. That explain why she still wear her ring and not file the divorce even after this.
He has the at most dog image now more than before and he is a mess. He blame every woman he has been with for the end of relationship .
If she was that sofocating to him why he didn’t file the divorce before things got of hand and be done with it. I don’t get the stories that he still pays for the nannys hotel stayThey both are confusing.
Sad situation all around, but the only redeeming thing is that we’re not subjected to those “happy happy divorce”, “we’re still a family”, “both wearing their wedding rings”, “he’s going to live on their estate” stories Jen’s PR flacks have been spinning incessantly since the split.
Now we have washing dirty linen in public and it is going from bad to worse.
The most important thing from this article is that they admitted Ben had a few affairs during their marriage, so it opened the door for the speculations of the name for the tabloids. Fortunately another Jenifer got married.
@notasugarhere – Yes, that’s what the original coverage, including People, said right after the 6/30 announcement – that Ben and Jen had already decided to divorce before they went to the Bahamas, and they went there purposely as a family to ride out the announcement with the kids. But NOW, with nanny-gate spinning out of control, the NEW narrative this week – even from People – Is that they hadn’t actually decided to divorce when they went to the Bahamas. This new story is that they were taking a family trip to the Bahamas anyway and were going to use it as a time to discuss the future of their relationship – that it was “make or break” time for them to make a decision and that Jen wasn’t necessarily wanting to split yet – “she still had doubts.” So, according to these new stories, they were in the Bahamas already – before they announced – and not necessarily going to move ahead with the divorce, and then Ben left for the weekend to Vegas with the nanny, and Jen learned he took her with him. So, when Ben returned to the family in the Bahamas after the weekend in Vegas, this is supposedly now when Jen decided that they should actually go through with a divorce and they made the announcement on 6/30. A very different slant on the story than was originally fed to us by both PR camps.
Also, sorry, but I don’t believe for a second that Ben is feeding or endorsing this “nitpick”
story. He may not have any impulse control, but he’s certainly more than intelligent enough to realize that this isn’t a message that’s going to resonate with Anyine or drive any empathy right now and will just backfire. Let’s not all be fooled by every story that comes out.
Lmao if you think Ben has any kind of smarts. This is a guy who thought it would be smart to go to a strip club with Tara Reid a week before his wedding to Jlo. The guy who thought it would be smart to talk trash about his life with Jlo as though he was some kind of rag doll with no free will. The guy who thought it would be smart to use his Oscar speech to declare his marriage “work”. The guy who thought it would be smart to get a publicly funded tv show to erase his slave owning ancestor. The guy who thought it would be smart to up-end a very drama free divorce roll out by sleeping with the babysitter. This man is the very opposite of smart. He is stupid beyond measure.
@gigi – I actually do think he’s very smart. Being PR-savvy is one thing – not necessarily the same. And maybe sometimes he just doesn’t give a sh*%. And sure, he has clearly lacked impulse control on many occasions, during which I’m sure he didn’t care in the moment whether what he was doing was smart. but yeah, I do think he’s very intelligent. Matt Damon and David Fincher have both made comments about how intelligent they think he is. There’s no point in this discussion on these boards though, I realize, because it is all so entirely skewed to be Ben = a#%hole and Jen = martyr/Saint Theresa. it’s just the easiest and most simplistic way to look at the situation, so it doesn’t surprise me that the majority of people here think in these terms.
I agree with your comment regarding the Bahamas. If they went there with the expectation of discussing their marriage and then JG found out about the affair and pulled the plug. That would make sense and would explain why the divorce was announced and confirmed so soon after their 10 year anniversary. I never bought the she waited for the 10 year mark for more leverage.
I am confused here. Why is Ben’s PR firm not attacking the nanny but instead they are going after JG. WTF!
If true that she brokedown on the set of her latest film, that means she was not part of this as some of you have thought of het setting her up.
Ben is a real dbag for treating the mother of his kids like this. Oh! Shawn Sachs, his PR, is from the same ilk then. How could you work for Ben? There are little kids involved.
He really is trying as hard as he can to ruin his own life.
There is a really interesting TED talk on infidelity by a psychologist named Ester Perel, one of the things she talks about is that, years ago, marriage was mainly an economic arrangement, we married for security and not for love. An affair might undermine our economic security but not our sense of self-worth, because we knew our husband/wife didn’t marry us out of love. Now, we marry for love, we expect Our partner to be monogamous and if they’re not, it can completely destroy us emotionally because we are supposed to be the love of our partner’s life. I think many people, and perhaps Affleck, still see marriage as an arrangement rather than an actual committed partnership.
Yeah. Ben clearly has issues. Think of all of the serious relationships that he has had that we know about:
Gwyneth Paltrow
Jennifer Lopez
Jennifer Garner
All very different type of women. All of whom seem to adore him and he couldn’t make it work with either of them. All the relationships seem to follow the same trajectory: meet on the set of a movie, woman adores Ben, he is all in during the beginning of the relationship. Ben checks out and starts to engage in all sorts of passive agressive behavior to get the woman to dump him. Classic tool.
Maybe because he is one giant, disgusting louse!
Why do most gorgeous people have such horrific and regrettable personalities?
Ben Affleck seems like a perpetual 14 year old boy. He never seems to mature and blames the woman he is with for all his problems. He acted the same way with Jennifer Lopez. I hope all Hollywood women have learned to avoid him.
I think he is already back in LA. Lies they told us. Expect a big announcement.
Found a tweet on Twitter when I did a search on Jennifer Garner by a girl named Janine Dennard. Go read her tweets on her account. The one that caught my eye was one where she was telling Jennifer if she thinks she is disgusted by Ben now just wait, more is coming and coming soon. When I clicked on her name and got on her account there were other texts telling Jen to take off her ring and get a restraining order against Ben and hinted there is a big scandal coming. Some of the tweets mentioned/hinted at issues he never resolved involving child abuse and sex abuse from his childhood. I don’t know what all this means but go check out her twitter account. Just kind of stumbled on this tweet, do not know who this person is at all or if any of what she is saying is true but interesting reads.
she seems to have something to say about every celebrity on the planet. nothing of substance
This weeks’ STAR magazine may have the big announcement. Seems they think she’s pregnant….like most of us didn’t see that coming…and also that they have security cameras showing him wondering the halls/riding the elevators alone at night at an Atlanta apartment complex. Even Hollywood couldn’t make some of this stuff up.
Also just saw another tweet saying that Ben will be filing divorce papers tomorrow and will issue a statement before his birthday on the 15th to confirm that he is dating the nanny. They must have a big BDay party planned and will maybe announce she is preggers?
Oh My God. Where did you read he is going to admit he “is” dating the nanny?
I used to stand up for Ben on here for the last few years. He’s really still seeing that little fame-ho? I really didn’t see that coming. She’s been papping herself out and selling stories and he’s going back for more? Although, I don’t believe she’s pregnant. But I guess nothing should surprise me.
Just grind Jen into the ground and stomp on her a few more times, why don’t you, Ben?
How can she be pregnant if she’s drinking alcholic beverages at the Bel Air Hotel? There’s a picture of the nanny and her friend drinking at the bar … well, they looking like alcholic drinks but wth knows anymore!
Regardless of what happens I am never financially supporting a Ben Affleck movie again. When I find a movie star this repulsive I just can’t.
I don’t believe she’s pregnant. But I’m beginning to think he really likes her and is still dating her and is blind to all of her selling photos and stories to the paps. She probably has him believing it’s friends selling her out or something or rag mags trailing her. She understands him, thinks he’s amazing, is footloose and fancy free and can travel with him and loves casinos, blah, blah.
I hope that is not true and he gets rid of her so at least Jen has some peace knowing she’s not around her kids.
Ben cheating made me think back to his full monty scene in Gone Girl. I had to go online to see it up close and personal, see the scene in slow motion, and it was a perfect specimen. I appreciate men doing those scenes, because it’s usually the women who do those scenes with few actors doing them. But I remembered a couple of posts on Gawker about it, and it’s so appropriate right about now and funny, except to Jen. I blanked out a couple of letters in a word.
“I’m impressed, nice size and thick. Jennifer Garner is definitely a happy woman.”
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“Except for when his d k is in other happy women.”
What Ben deserves is someone to play him out and get a taste of his own medicine. I do think Jennifer should have let him go when he wanted to leave. It’s not surprising she stayed after he admitted to her of other affairs, she was always more into him than he was in her. But I do feel for her and I hope she meets someone worth her time. Ben is all about Ben eventually that smug smile will disappear when it all hits him.
Anyone with young kids should know better than to have a sleazy affair with the nanny while the kids are still processing the magnitude of their parents breaking up. Point fingers all you want at “manipulative Jennifer” or whatever but at the end of the day, Ben has done a horrible, painful disservice to his children and that makes him an irremediable and utterly selfish d-bag.
I can just imagine the “nitpicking” Ben got from his wife.
“Can you not hit the casino and strip club this weekend? The kids are sick.”
“How about you don’t fuck the nanny?”
That bitch!
What a douche. Seriously, he’s disgusting. It’s good she finally left him.