Kate Hudson on her split with Matt Bellamy: ‘We had different visions’

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Kate Hudson covers Allure this month. Like Carrie Underwood, she’s promoting her fitness line but she also has a new movie out with Bill Murray called Rock The Kasbah. Allure used a bizarre close up profile photo with her hair all wild and curly. Kate reminds me so much of her mom, Goldie Hawn, in this pic. The interior photos are very revealing and somewhat NSFW and you can see them here. They put Kate in sheer net and lace black dresses and leather gloves. She looks like a high end dominatrix in one shot and like a burlesque flamenco dancer in another.

In Allure, Kate gets somewhat candid about her split with her second child’s father, Muse frontman Matt Bellamy. It’s unclear what happened with that relationship, but I’ve had the impression that Kate wanted out. She’s a free spirit and a baller with men and I don’t see her settling down. She makes it clear that things were lousy without harping on it, and said that she’s moved on and they’re successfully coparenting, basically.

She’s writing a book on happiness
“Happiness is not something that just comes to you,” she says. “It’s an active process.” Hudson has been thinking about these things a lot lately. In fact, she’s working on a book about “throwing perfection out the window. Not an advice book,” she says. “Well, sort of. But it’s about finding what works for you. And I’ll share the things that have worked for me.”

On exercise
“It’s brain chemistry,” she says, although she doesn’t really follow a routine. “People think you need two hours a day to do it, and that’s bullsh-t,” she says. “If you work out 20 minutes a day in some way, you’re going to see changes. Like, I’ve had days where I have the kids—Ryder’s on his bike, and I put Bing in a stroller—and I will run and sprint up hills.” She has been known to pop into downward dog on airplanes. “I do things that people would think look completely insane.”

On her breakup with Matt Bellamy
“Relationships ending are painful, and you can choose to carry that or you can choose to reframe it. If Matt and I had a great relationship, we would still be together, but we chose to move on because we had different visions of how we wanted to live our lives. That doesn’t mean, though, that we can’t rebuild something that would be the best thing for the kids

On coparenting with Bellamy
“We said, ‘We need to try to create something for the kids where they feel like they’re gaining something rather than losing something,'” she says. So far, it seems to have worked. “It’s been a seamless transition,” she says. “Kids just want to see their parents be cool. Everybody’s cool; everybody’s good.”

On if she’s looking for another long term relationship
“Being someone who has come from a broken family and has a stepfather,” she says, “I really benefited from having that very consistent [presence] in my life. And it’s something I am mindful of and want in my life.”

[From Allure, headers added]

I appreciate that Kate says that you don’t have to work out two hours a day, but that’s where she is now with her level of fitness. She’s admitted that she worked out all day pretty much to shed her baby weight. She doesn’t pull any punches though she’ll tell you what she does to keep that insane figure.

As far as Kate sort-of saying that she wants someone who could be a stepfather to her kids – she may say that but she seems to want to play the field at this point and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Kate Hudson is shown out in NY this week and at an event for God’s Love We Deliver with Michael Kors. (Her dress there is Kors.) That fug floral dress with the sheer layer over metallic shorts is Yanina Couture. Photo credit: WENN and FameFlynet

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God's Love We Deliver, Golden Heart Awards

Kate Hudson Out And About In New York City

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  1. meme says:

    What exactly is her “vision”? “Designing” athletic clothes? She’s a bad actress and seems like a brat.

    • Sb says:

      Yes, she envisioned herself sleeping w lots of other dudes. And Matt was like but what about me?

      • kai says:

        Oh, come on, he’s a world famous musician with groupies lining up. Maybe they had the same vision – it just didn’t include settling down + monogamy.

      • Hannah says:

        Matts dating one of the models who danced around naked in the blurred lines videos, who is like 10-15 years younger than him, so I am not sure his vision Is any better…

    • Grant says:

      I don’t think she’s a “bad actress” per se, she just has that Jennifer Aniston/Angelina Jolie syndrome where she plays the same character in. Every. Single. Role.

    • antipodean says:

      Yeah, “different visions”, is that what they’re calling it these days?

  2. Birdix says:

    It was a sweet shout out to her stepfather. Adding my appreciation for the great stepparents of the world. Not always an easy role but you can make a great difference in kids lives. My sf sure did improve my life.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      That’s really sweet. I’m glad he was there for you.

    • I’m with you Birdix, shout out to the amazing stepfathers! Im a rare bird in that I have a wonderful stepfather that I truly consider my father, as he’s raised me for 30+ years, and a biological dad that I’m close with, and all four parents are close.

    • Coco says:

      Shout out stepdads! Mine is truly awesome and has been a rock solid partner to my mom and father figure to us. He’s definitely helped to fill the huge holes left by my bio dad. Helped me learn that as long as you have wonderful positive relationships in your life, it doesn’t matter how some other “important” ones might not be so great. We don’t get to choose our family but we have a choice which relations to nurture and cherish.

    • Loulou says:

      Yay I love reading about good relationships with stepparents. I’m a stepmom and all I want is to have a good relationship with my stepson and not be annoying or overbearing.

  3. aimee says:

    20 minutes a day Kate? I thought she was a Tracy Anderson disciple… somehow 20 minutes a day and TA seem mutually exclusive.

    • tracking says:

      No way she got that body with 20 mins a day. I think she just means you can see changes with 20 mins a day (of intense interval work like sprinting up hills), and sometimes that’s all she has.

      • Beth says:

        I read that quote as “if you only have 20 minutes to work out, use those 20 minutes, because it’s better than nothing.”

      • ladysussex says:

        Actually according to a new study, 30 minutes a day isn’t even enough to keep you healthy and prevent heart disease.

  4. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I’ve always liked her. I don’t think she’s that great of an actress, but she seems nice. Maybe it’s because I like Goldy and she reminds me of her. I’m glad she seems to be putting her kids first in regards to the divorce.

    • Katz says:

      Sadly, she’s not nice. She’s actually a really mean person who is very, very spoiled. I know someone she was REALLY AWFUL TO, for no apparent reason except that she could be.

      • Clairej says:

        I heard she is nasty too. Turns on the cute for the camera, knows everyone just wants Goldie 2. But as soon as the camera is switched off the real person turns up.

  5. Loopy says:

    That is a classic Goldie Hawn pose, wow uncanny.

  6. hmph says:

    Looking at the cover and then scrolling down to the red carpet, it is very clear to me that they’ve photoshopped her face to look 10 years younger. Why do magazines do this? And what is the point of styling and make up when they might as well just paste her old face on the cover, I mean, why bother?

  7. Tiffany says:

    Her quote about happiness is interesting. I took a debate/speech class and that was topic. One of my classmates point was how people are what leads to your happiness ( I knew her outside of class and I can say, I totally bought what she was selling). I was on the opposite side of the coin. My topic was that it had to come from you and you cannot depend on it from others. Then there was my rom com tirade. Kate is right, it is a process.

    • Jayna says:

      Goldie has said before she’s a naturally joyful person and it has served her well in her life being that way. It was when she lost her parents that she said it was the first time she couldn’t see the light, so to speak, coming to terms with the pain of not having your parents anymore, no matter your age. Goldie has talked a lot about happiness and being happy with who you are, not who people think you are.

      Kate is a lot like her mother.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      I think it’s both, maybe? I think you’re born with a certain personality, but other people can affect your happiness, and you have to work at making your life fulfilling.

      Just as an aside, good for you on the speech/debate class. I am terrified of speaking in public and wish I had done that.

      • Tiffany says:

        @GNAT. I took a drama class as well. Those things really help you keep a poker face not only in speaking, but communicating in the workforce as well. I am not one of those natural born speakers or communicators so I knew what needed to be done.

        I still sign up for them at the local community college just to stay fresh. Never too young to learn. :).

  8. ashley says:

    She wants stability,but is running behind nick jonas at night clubs. She’s the real life penny lane.

    • tealily says:

      I don’t see the harm in enjoying yourself until the time is right and the right person comes along.

      • Minxx says:

        If she wanted to hook up with 23 year old boys instead of having a relationship with the father of her younger child, I guess you can say they had “different visions” of their lives. Sorry, but I have no patience for Kate Hudson.

  9. Mark says:

    If we thought Matt Bellamy dumped kate to play the field and hook with a 23 year old, i doubt he’d get a round of applause but with she’s a hero for some reason.

    • Jayna says:

      delete. duplicate

    • Jayna says:

      Matt Bellamy is with a 25-year-old “model” who was in that naked Blurred Lines video. It’s the blonde girl in it.

      http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2015/08/12/09/2B4B0A6C00000578-3194833-image-m-23_1439369888223.jpg

    • Zavi says:

      If she wants to be a baller (or if anyone wants to be such a thing), then she shouldn’t have had kids. Kids need stability and routine — and those needs trump mommy’ s need to get it on with an exboybander. She strikes me as being very immature and unable to commit. Not a great recipe for raising stable kids.

      • ladysussex says:

        I agree with you Zavi. Too bad she didn’t realize she and Bellamy had “different visions” before she had a child with him. When parents split up, there is always loss and not gain for a child who loses the chance of a stable home life, no matter how “cool” the parents pretend to be.

    • tealily says:

      Do we think that Kate dumped him FOR Jonas? I think it’s more likely that they split first. The two things are not necessarily related.

  10. Naddie says:

    I wouldn’t spend a dime in her book, lol. But I liked what she says about the 20 minutes, it really works. Sure you won’t have a body like hers, but it’s better than nothing and the change comes.

  11. funcakes says:

    Softball interview. No questions about the fitness clothes website she shills for ripping people off. Another Jennifer Aniston trying to give the hip and forever young vibe.

  12. belle de jour says:

    “Relationships ending are painful, and you can choose to carry that or you can choose to reframe it. If Matt and I had a great relationship, we would still be together…”

    Don’t care about her exercise regimen, but I actually think this bit is quite profound – and will admit to being surprised at seeing it from her. It’s true that after a break-up or divorce, many people get stuck mourning the relationship that could have/should have been, rather than the one that was… or the one it turned into being. Appreciate her use of the word ‘reframe’ here, because it acknowledges the existence and ending of the relationship… but allows you to keep moving, as your perspective shifts and you view it in a different way, from a distance.

    • Jayna says:

      And to take it a step further, what you said expanding upon her remarks is also very insightful.

    • tealily says:

      I agree. Folks seem to be dumping on her for being a playgirl, but the truth is that some relationships just don’t work the way you want them to. I really liked this comment too.

  13. antipodean says:

    Please, please, please don’t tell me bell bottoms are back! They are the most hideous and unflattering excuse for trousers in the whole wide world. End of.

  14. captain says:

    Her eyes are empty, face is not natural. Her ex got over her and went with a very young gorgeous model, she got herself face work and a one night stand. To feel better?
    She is not like her mother (she doesn’t have to be, of course). Goldy was not just a happy joyful person, she had that vulnerability that made her endearing. I love her. Overboard is one of my most favourite movies of all time ))

  15. tealily says:

    Gosh, you guys are a bit harsh! I thought she had some thoughtful things to say and came off liking her from this interview.

  16. Magpie says:

    Well shit maybe you shoudn’t have had a kid with someone you don’t have the same “vision” with. Sorry to be harsh but she seemed to want a rock star ( rumor was she was at coachella and wanted to hook up with thom yorke but setteled for Matt). But that got old quick and she lost interest real quick after the kid. The kids are going to have a lot of “uncles” in their life. Her choice, so watev.

  17. Pash says:

    I’m glad they broke up. Don’t particularly care for her anyway (she has maybe a tenth of her mother’s talent), but that Muse album that came out during the marriage sucked.

  18. Debutante says:

    I have no problem with her dating whomever she wants, but I agree with the person who said she has dead eyes. And I have always read thinhs thru the years that she is NOT a nice person.
    I would love to hear the details of what the 15th poster above, KATZ , knows about kate hudson. Do tell !

  19. Mrs. Darcy says:

    She’s not my favourite, but he always seemed pretty douchey to me, she had her rock star blinders on in the beginning. Maybe she should slow down on the having kids with guys she thinks she knows before she does, maybe that will be her lesson here.