This week’s Us Weekly cover story is all about Gavin Rossdale and Gwen Stefani and when their marriage really went to hell. According to Us Weekly’s sources (Gwen’s publicist?), Gavin had been having a three-year affair with one of their nannies. Us Weekly identified the nanny as Mindy Mann, and you can see her in photos that we posted back in 2012. Sources allege that Gavin had been carrying on with Mindy before, during and after Gwen’s last pregnancy and that Gwen found about it in February, when another nanny told Gwen about some suspicious emails on the family iPad. And now Us Weekly has released another piece of info: apparently, Mindy was Single White Female-ing Gwen, copying her hair, outfits, meals, etc. Yikes.
Even before Gwen Stefani allegedly confronted ex-husband Gavin Rossdale about disturbing text messages and photos she discovered between him and their nanny, Mindy Mann, back in February, there were warning signs of things to come, a source tells Us in the latest issue of Us Weekly. Stefani, 46, and Rossdale, 50, first hired Mann back in 2008 on the recommendation of friends. It didn’t take long, however, for Stefani to see that something was off about their new hire.
“If Gwen would eat something or do a workout or get a new handbag, Mindy would do the same thing,” the source tells Us. “Gwen thought it was weird.”
More than that, however, the source says Mann also “began to post pictures on social media dressed in a similar way to Gwen.” (The blonde-haired Australian shared a selfie back in 2013 that showed her platinum locks swept back in a black bandanna, just like one of Stefani’s red-carpet looks.) According to a source, Stefani became suspicious when photos of the Bush rocker and Mann emerged in November 2012, with Rossdale touching their nanny’s backside as they hiked with two of the couple’s three sons, Kingston and Zuma, in L.A.
But when she found naked photos Mann sent to Rossdale, she confronted her husband, who finally admitted to a three-year affair with the family help, sources tell Us. The couple announced that they were pulling the plug on their 13-year marriage in August. Stefani’s rep could not be reached for comment, and Rossdale’s rep declined to comment.
If the confrontation happened in February, why did they wait until August to pull the plug? Were they trying to work it out? Did Gwen still think there was something worth salvaging? As for Nanny Mindy… she sounds a bit like LeAnn Rimes. Some women are like that and by that I mean, some women are total nutjobs. Why in the world would you work as a nanny for a celebrity couple, openly Single-White-Female the celebrity woman and then bang the celebrity dude? Is it a power trip thing? Or is it just “nutjob”? Oh, the Daily Mail got some photos from Nanny Mindy’s social media and they did side-by-side comparisons. Yeah, Mindy really was aping Gwen’s style.
Oh, and sources told Access Hollywood that Gavin left Gwen in the hospital (after she had given birth to Apollo) so he could fool around with Mindy. And Gavin and Mindy would bang on his tour bus after the kids went to sleep. Meanwhile, “sources” tell Page Six that Gwen is relieved that this story is out, because I guess we’re supposed to believe that Team Gwen didn’t release it?
Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet.
I admire her for letting go without fuss, divorcing him and immediately introducing her new piece to the world as soon as the divorce papers were signed. That’s self respect. No desperately clinging on for dear life and torturous, neverending family pap shots a la Jennifer Garner. Good for her. How infuriating it must have been to realise that such a creepy psycho was looking after her children and banging her selfish twit of a husband.
A-freaking-men.
..and no crying on Oprah, and playing a victim even though this is a situation where it could be warranted. The betrayal is deep and dirty and awful if true. Rossdale’s name is mud.
That said, the nanny and the aping of Gwen’s style, i wouldn’t see as reason alone to think the nanny is a nutjob stalker. If you’ve watched The Voice, it’s apparent to most that Gwen is permanently 15, she seems pretty simplistic.
She loves makeovers, and to do hair, and she likes fashion. It wouldn’t surprise me if she gave her nanny tons of clothes from her line, and her closet – and gave her tips on hair and styling.
Gwen probably considered the nanny a member of the family. 🙁
Ugh. So awful.
@geekychick He did cheat on her during their relationship, with Courtney Love. And yes, there’s no harm in being bi; however, being open about it with his partners is only fair….she should have had the opportunity to ask whether he was ‘safe’, etc.
His secret child was from a multi-year relationship with a woman who was married at the time; he was very supportive of his ‘god-child’, attending school events, etc. Again, there’s a big level of deception there.
I absolutely agree with you that kids should know…because they likely already do, in some way. And YES, when people turn a blind eye to that kind of behavior, that’s why it continues to the next generation, and the next.
Gwens self respect flew out the window the instant she started playing this drip-drip games with the press. She has kids with the jerk for godsake, how does this help them. Give me the Affleck-Garners with their famers markets and Church Sundays any day. Grown ass men and women in their mid-forties should never be so selfish as to not see how their vindictive tattling harms their kids.
Before this came out, there were rumours beginning to start that gwen was fooling around with blake first, and this probably came from gavin because his divorce layer is laura wasser, we all know who she is and what gavin will do now with her on his side. Just after that, gwen is fighting back and i think she has every right to do so!
You cant always be the nice women when someone is trying to destroy you!
At least she does it in a subtile way and doesnt giva a long interview to vanity fair or oprah. If she does, i would be disappointed
meh, I think women are always told to keep it classy and hold your head and not say anything. Sometimes a guy takes it one step too far(perhaps him leaking about it all being her fault?), and then it’s time to shut him up permanently by laying it out on the table.
Another possibility? There’s more to the sordid story here, most believe so anyways. This story may be the least damaging for both of them, since it was already established he was creepy with the nanny.
As I said, “grown ass MEN and women in their mid-forties should never be so selfish as to not see how their vindictive tattling harms their kids”. Todays focus is on Gwen because shes the one leaking now.
What kind of adult is she if she plays the “but he started it” plea? She married this dbag at a time when his dbaggery was well known and stayed married to him through the many stories. She chose in spite of all logic to bring three children into this world with him as the father. She made her own bed, let her lie in it. Every time she leaks this crap, it doesnt just harm him, it hurts each of her three children. If protecting your kids=protecting your ex, you damn well do it. Gwen is giving “selfish immature celebrity” new meaning.
If this story is true, then the implication is the kids discovered it via their iPad cause Gavin had his phone connected to it like an idiot. The kids are already exposed, so who cares if people talk about you guys for a day or two and how your marriage broke up so quickly? People have very short attention spans, it’s embarrassing, but people move onto the next scandal while you were able to clear your name. Also, she’s not dropping morsels one day at a time, these stories are all coming from the print story of US and US is doing a slow release of details to make the most of hardcopy sales. They always do that.
Also, Gavin seems really gross, but I do think those two really loved each other and he tried to make it work for a stretch as a result. People betting on love against the obvious odds are pretty common.
IDK, I don’t see it that way: how was his dbaggery well known? He was and is bi? There’s no fault in that. He had a child from previous relationship he didn’t tell her? That doesn’t automatically mean he will cheat on her. She didn’t cheat with him when they started their relationship, so I really don’t see where is her responsibility in all of this. Women all over the world get married to people who made serious mistakes in life and that does not mean they deserve to be made a fool. Going by this principle, Jennifer Garner is the first to be accused of “making her bed” considering: a) we all knew Affleck was a cheating douche, b)she cheated with him.
OTOH, the guy is obviously a s***bag: he cheated with the nanny for a long period of time and then went on and accused her of not being enough- Why should she keep quiet? How will that serve her children? In previous thread on Gwen there was a great comment on the topic of real life hiding dad’s cheating from a child with pretty serious consequences for family and romantic relationships. I’d rather my children be aware what ended the relationship
and how hurtful that is then think how their dad is oh so charming and cool, and how they should emulate him or seek someone like him. And I’ve seen that happen in real life to many times. Girls whose mom’s were cheated on for years ending up with cheaters or being part of the cheating, boy becoming like their fathers.
“Going by this principle, Jennifer Garner is the first to be accused of “making her bed” considering: a) we all knew Affleck was a cheating douche”
Thats exactly why Jen Garner scores points. She has wised up and realised that piling on in the nanny media frenzy is selfish. Your marriage is over, you are both going separate ways so what victory is there in vomiting all the crap you can think up about your future co-parent in the press? What, is Gwen twelve? She needs to pull up her big girl pants and start being a selfless parent. Get some damn gal pals and bitch over their shoulders and if you have no gal pals, get a friggin therapist. Poor kids to be stuck with these two selfish aholes for parents.
@Naya- I have to disagree with you here. The kids were already exposed to quite a bit already if the rumors are true about Gavin being one of the biggest sluts around. Two of the kids were on that hike where that photo was leaked 3 years ago, not to mention the photos discovered on the kids ipad and the kids were on tour as well when daddy would sleep with nanny when they went to bed…so it’s more than probable the kids knew something before mom did.
You are giving Jennifer Garner too much credit, she’s just as strategic, and I think she’s just been more controlling in how information has been leaked while maintaining the sweetheart image. People think she leaked the story of him banging a side piece on her bday.
Another thing about Gwen-things came out for years about Gavin, and she’s always covered for him. Her mo has always been protective of Gavin. Sometimes stars compromise by telling just one part of a tale so that the whole tale isn’t exposed for future compliance with gossip rags. Going with the nanny seems pretty cliched and almost too pedestrian for a rock star couple who have much more outrageous rumors swirling around them. I think this story allows both Gwen and Gavin to get something out of it, Gwen gets some sympathy, Gavin gets to look like a red blooded heterosexual male who is simply weak.
Tammy-so true. Kingston’s not a toddler, he’s old. My parents tried to “shield” me from infidelity in their marriage, but I knew there was another woman and it wasn’t until years later that I even admitted to my understand at the age of six. Kids man, they pick up on things when mommy and daddy aren’t getting along.
I think it makes sense that not only did another nanny find the nude photos and sexts on their children’s iPad, but she found it because the kids discovered it first.That explains why Gwen may have tolerated or forgiven other discretions, but this really crossed the line in terms of choice of mistress and exposing the kids to such things.
Why is it always the Nanny?
Doesn’t anyone schtup the maid?
LOL , Mel Brooks talking here!
Arnold Schwarzenegger did. And had a kid.
Amen Tippi!
It’s just me or that whole thing is one big pr stunt? I know Gwen is getting divorced but everything beyond that seems to be fake and exaggerated. It looks like she is desperate to be back in spotlight no matter what.
Yes! All of this could very well be true but it seems like Gwen is playing off of the Ben Affleck nanny situation. This sounds like a novel rather than real life. I’m bored of this story and it’s barely even started, I’m sure.
Seems very Pr driven to me too, and I don’t understand why she needs to do this. Does Gwen Stefani not know that she is Gwen Stefani? She has talent and a unique style, her own career, people already pay attention so what is she getting out of this. Will humiliating her kids dad in the media really make her feel better.
I think you’re right, GS doesn’t know she’s Gwen Stefani.
Yeah I always saw her as untouchable and above the rest. But her choices in men..I really hope she is more secure than she is coming across right now. Blake Shelton?! Ugh. She should be with someone utterly amazing.
She needed to respond. They may have been playing nice, but once Gavin went to TMZ to throw shade on Gwen and her controlling ways, and then to insinuate her relationship with Blake started long before, the gloves came off. Gavin should have just shut his mouth, took it like a man, and moved on. But he felt the need to throw her under the bus.
I totally support Gwen’s PR machine this week. She’s hinted that something devastating happened (we could all read between the lines), but we didn’t know it was this bad. They probably agreed to not air this in public, but when Gavin decides to insinuate SHE IS THE CHEATER, she said hell no. And she spilled all the tea, rightfully so.
It does have a bit of a smell to it. Is it really to hype her on The Voice? Probably. She has been out of sight for quite a while. The SWF, the hurtin’ country boyfriend on the same show…. not very imaginative.
@JENNI
When it comes to finding out your husband has been sleeping with the nanny for 3 years, how do you “exaggerate,” that?
She’s not going from 0 to 60, she’s already *starting AT* 60 – with a story like that.
So everything is going to be wow…wow..Wow!!
Also, @NAYA –
I’m of the belief you do your kids no service, by NOT telling them the truth, and letting them read and see it online or at a newsstand (the oldest is 10 or 11) – or worse, have some kids tell them at school. She should live her life out loud, her kids will be stronger for it, and also know how not to behave.
I doubt it. Maybe Gwen and Blake “dating” is a bit PR for her to save face after such a horrible blow. But this Nanny sitch is too horrendous for it to be anything but true. You can see the photos. And there is no way she’d put her kids through this media nightmare for PR. Nope. The Gavin/nannyho is true.
Wow! This is getting messy. I feel like Gwen likely gave the the nanny those outfits. Job Perk! She was with them for so many years. Gwen and The Nanny were likely friends. I also noticed That The Daily Mail posted pictures and it looked like Gwen wore those outfits after The Nanny did. The Denim Jumpsuit was just worn this weekend. Conspiracy!!!
The other stuff is just gross. Gwen was 44 and pregnant. It doesn’t matter how young you look, or how fit you are… that takes a lot out of a person. Late age pregnancy is no joke. She probably wasn’t as available and just feeling crappy and Gavin stepped out on her. Pretty gross. Not the first time it’s happened either.
Of course Team Gwen is leaking this info. Who else would know it? It’s extremely private and personal info. Not necessarily a bad thing but …come on!
I read an article months ago by the nanny after she had been fired. She said she never cheated with Gavin and that Gwen gave her clothes and that she loved their kids. She said Gwen got suspicious of her and she swore to and down nothing happened. She was fired and she said her life is ruined. She moved back in with her parents and no one will hire her now.
I read that article too—she moved back to the east coast. She claimed Gwen was paranoid and super insecure.
Yeah, sounds like a huge PR stunt. People with kids get divorced all the time. Just get it done and move on, no messy trashing in the press.
It’s getting messy! Wohooo! I knew it!
Getting messy? It WAS messy for three effing years thanks to Gavin. Now it’s getting cleaned up. Yeah, truth is always the best. Then it will all blow over and they’ll have to sort through the rest of their lives. Except Gavin will be Z list while Gwen will always be A list.
nah, I mean the divorce is getting messy. it looked like a “clean cut” divorce with no drama, but there you go. Let the gossip drama begin!!
Nah. Gwen knew who he was. She married him anyway, had children with him, and stayed married to him for over a decade. Gavin is hardly Z list. His band was very popular in the UK. Just because he was never a household name in America doesn’t mean he’s a nobody in the rest of the world. As for Gwen, I’m pretty sure no one outside of the US has ever even heard of her or her band.
“As for Gwen, I’m pretty sure no one outside of the US has ever even heard of her or her band.” Please be serious.
1. Click: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_Doubt_discography
2. Scroll down to ‘Tragic Kingdom.’ Although a decade ago, it was a top album all over the world.
People outside the US definitely know who Gwen Stefani is.
Yeah. Gwen Stefani is legit worldwide famous.
This is interesting—if the divorce is final then why let all this come out and effect the kids??
because Gavin started talking to the press about his suspicions. This probably would have been buried if Gavin hadn’t tried to throw Gwen under the bus.
Gavin’s rep sucks. She never spoke about past accusations about his, finding out about Daisy or his relationship with Marilyn. The narrative is that Gwen has always been desperate for his approval. Maybe she sees this as a time to take back some perceived strength?
Maybe Blake is really just there to help her navigate this situation with someone at her side, as more of a very supportive friend? Maybe they are dating, but I can’t see how either of them think it will be long term, and no one is pretending it is. I imagine at the very least he is like her bud that can be there so she doesn’t go through the publicity alone. (like Miranda’s Ashley Monroe)
I wonder if she came out with the Blake Shelton thing as a bait-and-switch on Gavin to see if he would take the bait, call her out, so then she could put him on blast and ruin him forever. She was just biding her time and with Blake’s divorce, the timing was very convenient. I don’t know if they would have hooked up before all this, but I agree they aren’t playing for the long-term.
I might be the only one, but I don’t believe it. I would not be surprised if Gwen herself dressed the nanny that way to fool the paps and is now turning around and calling it “stalking.” Hell, Gavin might have purposely dressed the nanny this way. Who knows. This is all PR and Stefani has played it well for 20 years. Nothing is accidental when it comes to releasing information to the media. GS might be doing this for public sympathy, but all she is doing in my opinion is becoming more pathetic and less likeable. She is a 46 year old woman with 3 kids. Enough with the PR already. Grow up and move on.
Totally think this is all PR as a result of the backlash she’s facing from the folks that don’t want to see their country king with a punky pop person.. This info conveniently got released after she and Blake made their debut as a couple…
I think some states have a 6 month delay on divorce? That might explain the delay.
Good point. Some (like Virginia) have a one-year waiting (or ‘cooling off’) period.
I thought I read that all the terms had been agreed to before filing, so maybe they were doing that between Feb and Aug, then filed a complete application? Instead of negotiating after filing?
I think that’s also why Gwen wants to make sure their respective relationship timelines are clear. If he thinks she was cheating on him, he can apply to change their agreed upon division of assets?
I would ask how she could have married such a slimy scumball or how she could have ignored all the signs, but I’ve been in a similar situation (assistant, not nanny) and behaved just as blindly. All she can do now is let go, move on and be happy. But that anger and breach of trust will be hard to live with for a long time. I’m sorry for her.
Trust goes a long way, and some people are better at being duplicitous. I feel sorry for her, too.
If her team leaked it, it’s because there were reports suggesting Gwen was “cheating” on him with Blake. Her team is showing who the cheater is in this case…
I don’t think Gwen was an angel, but if ANY of what was leaked is true- 3 year affair, banging on the tour bus, leaving Gwen in the hospital to hook up with the nanny- Gavin is JUST as vile. It sounds like the marriage was already hanging by a thread. Which, if they’ve both been behaving poorly, do I think it’s right to air all of your dirty laundry to the press? Especially with young children involved? Eh… can’t help but think that’ll bite ’em in the a$$.
The thing is- I barely care one BIT about Gavin R. or Bush, yet he’s probably had about 10x as much press attention turned his way after this.
Yes, timing is everything. Coincidence that this comes on the heels of Gavin’s suspicions that she had something going on with Blake earlier than she’s making it seem. Don’t know why there has to be so much mud slinging anyway. Their marriage ended, move on and do it in a dignified manner if for no other reason than their kids. Having to go through a breakup in the public eye must be a whole other level of hell and I sympathize, but it can be done without the back and forth accusations.
Yeah I think she cheated. After years of putting up with all of Gavin’s drama she decided to get a little something for herself. I also think she would have looked the other way if Gavin went outside the family household for strange but the nanny under her nose was just too much for her.
When was she going to go that? While pregnant, giving birth and nursing?
Oh please her youngest is one year old not one month and she already has publicly moved on with someone whose known for cheating himself . I honestly don’t blame her Gavin’s been dead weight for years and treating her like dirt. Situation is clearly messy though.
Gavin has some weird intangible vibe where he seems to be a sex addict.
Like bisexuals, heterosexuals just drop their pants for his sex voodoo.
It’s something different than Ben? Like you would meet him and then be entranced and dropping your pants!
You’ve got to be a moron to drop trou for this creep. I don’t see the appeal. He looks like an extra from Dawn of the Dead.
He was more successful in the US than the UK – over here he was never that well known, other than being part of the Notting Hill Swingers Set with Jude Law.
I have never ever gotten his appeal – he just creeps me out.
This banging the nanny stuff is such a cliché.
So true Loopy. Didn’t Seal have something pithy to say about how classy it is when people start shtupping the help? Applies tenfold here. It is never acceptable, and always ends badly. Having said that I read a piece that said Gwen is now pregnant with jump off’s child. What a cess pool.
I thought those hiking pictures were of his sister, or that was the story at the time.
right??? that’s how I remember it too. Odd…
me too! More Conspiracy!
I never believed the hiking “sister” alibi but was surprised that certain publications took it as gospel and never questioned it – despite the fact that she was young enough to be his daughter.
Makes you wonder what other “accepted truths” out there are fibs!
Exactly this. All the publications just turned a blind eye and accepted that it must indeed be his sister. Where was the TMZ investigation team on this one? lol
What a MESS, and i’m loving it.
Exactly!! That’s how it played out. So either those photos aren’t the nanny, or someone lied. Hmmm. (:
http://www.thesuperficial.com/gavin-rossdale-cheating-nanny-sister-soraya-gwen-stefani-11-2012
I really don’t consider that her bum regardless of all this other stuff coming out. I can see my male friends doing the same thing, but it doesn’t mean we are doing it.
yeah, it was said to be his fifty year old sister but you can tell it’s not a 50 year old.
Pardon me, I’m 53 and my derriere (freaking spell-check said terrier) is quite pert. No more age shaming….
The picture wasn’t just of a butt, it was a full body shot and the girl in the picture was not middle age.
I guess it’s crazy to expect journalism from these sites, but couldn’t this be confirmed one way or the other pretty easily?
Lame.
The man cheated on his pregnant wife with his children’s nanny for 3 years she looks to be a lot younger than Gwen. Who can blame Gwen for the storiesand her bounce to Blake. I’m sure her self esteem was at an all time low . Unless you know what it’s like to be pregnant and cheated on with a6 younger woman I don’t think you can say she just needs to move on. She looks very fragile and skinny and although she iz GWEN STEFANI she is also a woman and this must have been devastating.
If this is true, a new study came out that a lot of men cheat on their wives while they are pregnant. This is a common problem sadly.
Oh my goodness, if my husband had cheated on me while I was pregnant all holy hell would have broken loose. That is the lowest of the low, and I am not a vengeful person.
What is it with men and nannies? This is getting as ridiculous as those “sex addiction” excuses male celebrities will sprout a few years ago everytime they were caught cheating.
Forget about the affair. What I find strange ,was that Gwen was not creeped out by her nanny becoming mini me. She obviously didn’t care or found it amusing that she had a replica of herself in the house or she would have fired the nanny long ago. She was the one that probably hired her in the first place.
IKR? The article is laughable. She thought the nanny was weird in 2008, but it took her 7 years to fire her?
That’s the part I find curious too. Something doesn’t quite add up.
I’m also reading upthread that the nanny says she wasn’t having an affair with Gavin.
Curiouser and curiouser.
Marital fiasco aside, Gwen must have nerves of steel, because that parrot on the shoulder would scare the crap out of me.
I’m not that big a fan of birds myself. There used to be a patron of the local bar about 25 years ago, who would bring his massive parrot in with him. One night, that bird bit a drunk lady’s finger right off. The bar got fined large for that stunt. That was a bad night, partly the blood and screaming, and partly because it drove home just how dangerous (and fast) those birds are.
Please don’t blame the bird, blame the Jack Sparrow wannabe who thought it was a good idea to tote around a wild animal like it was a novelty item to be shown off.
You’re right, Kitten. That poor bird probably hated it inside that bar. The noises, the smells, cigarette smoke clouds everywhere, and an alcoholic owner. Here I thought the guy was a jerk for completely different reasons.
Was it necessary to “leak” this story to the press? Maybe not, but I suppose this was retaliation for Gavin suddenly telling people that Blake and Gwen were probably banging even before their divorce.
Celebrity divorces are usually messy. Why are people suddenly clutching their pearls about how messy this one is getting? This is how they fight–in the public arena. Hell, even people who aren’t famous get on Instagram and Twitter and talk smack and/or try to get sympathy from people outside their relationship. Add to that the fact that for these people, commercial success depends largely on their public popularity, and there you go. Celebrity bitch fight for all of us to digest and comment on.
+1 Sister!
There’s an old high school friend on my Facebook, as we speak, doing this exact thing. She’s given up so many details publicly I’m surprised I don’t know the “slut’s” name.
They also have 3 kids.
The thing that gets me is usually these kinda couples always (at least one side) mislead everyone with ‘OH SO HAPPY!!’ photos 24/7 before the proverbial shit hits the fan.
The people that throw the we are super happy look at us photos weekly on Fb are the ones who typically crumble and combust just as quickly I have found.
Wow Gavin… Real POS as it would turn out! I think as soon as the “Gavin is suspicious of the timeline between Blake and Gwen” story came out, Gwen said “f*ck it” and released this. Can you imagine some little b*tch sleeping with your husband while you’re pregnant and then dressing up like you? CRAZY!
When I was 12 (in 2000) I read an article in like, Teen Beat where they interviewed Gavin and asked him about Gwen’s fashion and style. He goes “I usually pick out Gwennie’s clothes” and I immediately knew they’d not last. 15 years later my spidey senses prove correct!
I just hope Gwen is okay.
May my popcorn stay warm the weed be stanky and the champagne flow plentiful for this is just the beginning of the mudslinging and i want my snacks to last me a while
And the church states
“AMEN!”
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I find all of this laughable. Her acting surprised by his behavior is laughable. The Courtney Love affair? Happened when Bush performed SNL back in 90’s. Not news. Even freaking SPIN magazine mentioned it in their piece about him (and Rolling Stone for that matter). Him having a relationship with some guy in the 80’s? That surfaced when Bush was gaining popularity. Not news. The secret love child? Who knows when he knew but again who was surprised? And now him and the nanny? Please. She wrote everything we needed to know about her and Gavin in her lyrics. So I find this all laughable and not sure why she feels the need to put their dirty laundry out there.
P.S. Yes, I’m basis. My 8th grade self was a Bush fan and I was and still not into No Doubt.
I was a fan of Bush before No Doubt, but, obviously only one of those groups remained relevant. Never did think sweet Catholic girl Gwen stood a chance of happiness with Gavin. The supposed big secrets he kept from her before they married were widely and openly speculated on in the press, so, how Gwen could avoid the stories, is beyond me. Both his public romance with Marilyn, the TG singer/model, and his role as Godfather to Daisy, the daughter of his former dear friend Pearl Lowe, were common knowledge. It is clear that Gavin believed he could forever deny sleeping with his pal, but, once Daisy got older, it became uncomfortably obvious that her physical resemblance to her father could not be dismissed. That Gwen remained devoted throughout such painful trials speaks to both her strong core values and reveals the source of her inexplicable insecurities. I have no doubt he was domineering, degrading and kept her insecure, in order to maintain control over the shady affair he created. Blake may not be Mr. Right, but, he is a perfect Mr. Right Now, to go from a guy who has no love, respect or appreciation for you, to a man who perceives you as way out of his league, fawns all over you with praise and knows how to make you laugh, is a step toward healing.
Maybe I’m a little older or maybe my circle was a bit more pretensions but Bush was always that band you were embarrassed to admit you liked, even worse was admitting how hot Gavin was. No Doubt had slightly more cred because their music was better but they quickly went from ska/punk to pop.
I don’t think her believing him for all those years speaks to strong core values. Just insecurity. I’m pretty sure she was in a similar relationship with her bandmate and I won’t be surprised if Blake dogs on her too.
Her problem was she always thought of herself as a chubby girl from the wrong side of the tracks and felt lucky to be the one Gavin chose. That’s why she always took him back. I think she’s also someone that’s never not been in a relationship and doesn’t really know how to function outside of one.
I had the opposite. I’m 34 and Bush has been my favorite band since 1995—but I have always liked a more British style music in general. I know one guy in high school (he has sadly since passed away) who proudly heard of No Doubt before they hit it big. They became a bit of a joke once it hit the 2000’s though(too mainstream). Bush always was respected around my hipster/alternative crowd though. Funny how different groups see things differently.
Yeah I’m 4 years older than you and was around for the peak of grunge as pop music. I don’t think anyone really saw them as a British band (The Smiths, The Cure, and PJ Harvey were really popular then) . They were seen as grunge and not on the same caliber as Stone Temple Pilots, or Soundgarden (which were themselves second tier behind Nirvana and Pearl Jam) I think it was moreso grunge-lite. As for No Doubt they were so infectious that everyone liked them but they definitely went pure pop on their second album.
The strong core values I was referring to are her devout Catholic beliefs, which I was also raised with. I’m the same age as Gwen, married my first true love and swore I would never divorce. i divorced my ex, who is Gavin-like right down to the nanny banging, after 20 very difficult years and have never looked back. Bush was a pretty big deal here in Canada, but, No Doubt eclipsed them in the late ’90’s and today my kids don’t even realize Gavin is famous too! I’ve been practicing Buddhism for a decade now and look back on the limited mindset of a young, sheltered, Catholic girl, and feel our chosen beliefs very often create delusions so impermeable, that functioning in a constant state of denial is basically your only option. Gwen has only had two, longterm, dysfunctional relationships and still sounds like an emotionally-stunted adolescent, so, for hers and her boys sake, I hope her heartache provides the impetus she needs to grow in maturity, strength and wisdom.
I’m 34 as well and remember this era fondly. Bush was considered grunge and when they hit it big (and especially after his affair with Love) they were accused of trying to copy Nirvana. No Doubt went from Ska to pop because Ska was a fad. I think they lasted for as long as they did because of her, she does have star power I will give her that.
As for this whole mess, she went right from Tony to Gavin and now right to Blake (that can’t be a thing). She is like JLo, she doesn’t know how to be alone and take herself.
On other sites, everyone is saying “Why would you hire a young, attractive nanny in the first place?” and it immediately made me think of Arnold S. His nanny/maid was not young and slim and he still banged her – for years. It must be a weird combo of sex/convenience/anger at wife/weird thrill to get it on with the help.
But I do agree – this does seem overly public and pr driven – dovetailing perfectly with her being on tour and television plus the “fashion” line. One last push for the old retirement fund!
I’m a nanny and I have worked for celebrity families including Kourtney Kardashian. I’ve signed confidentiality agreements so I cannot dish. Lol anyway, I often do “nanny trips” which means I fly to wherever to accompany these families on vacations, business trips whatever as opposed to full time commitment. Unfortunately nannies like MIndy Mann and Aflecks nanny give us all a bad rap and are changing the industry. As a youngish attractiveish woman I am getting less jobs. Granted I have regulars who aren’t worried and families who are stable know it isn’t a valid concern of a happy marriage. Anyway, just my 2 cents! These woman stink and there is no excuse.
I am beginning to find this story a touch hard to believe and feel like it is deflecting from the true story. Am I alone in this?
Nope. I can believe that Gavin cheated yes but this nanny narrative doesn’t smell right imo.
What a fiiiiine example to set for your sons, Gavin. To me, the worst part is that Gavin probably effed up his kids. That nanny seemed to be very busy with Zuma. Kingston probably knew. Only the baby is getting out unscathed. Those boys need therapy. If I were Gwen what would leave me heartbroken is what this all is doing to the boys more than me.
This whole “take the high road and be silent” stinks when there is emotional and verbal abuse involved because silence protects the abuser.
The only way to protect oneself from a narcissist who engages in a smear campaign against you is by exposing that person and saying the TRUTH!
Everyone had the right to defend oneself. If Gwen doesn’t speak up, she finds herself being portrayed as the controlling, insecure, passive-aggressive, unfit mother.
This whole “it is unbecoming to speak up” protects the abuser & it’s nonsense.
+1
Amen. All healing begins in truth.
Hell YA!!!
yep yep
The SWF stalking/leann Rimes aspect fascinates me to no end. It is so shameless, bizarre and creepy. How do you get to that place? How do you not see, that *others* see, what you are doing? And how do you not than feel humiliated? Sometimes, particularly with Leann Rimes, it almost as if they are more in love/obsessed with the female they are stalking than with the actual man they are pursuing.
They are more infatuated with the female than they are the husband they’re banging. It’s a competition thing. I had a friend who single white femaled me and I put up with it for years. Then I found out she was bad-mouthing me behind my back while simultaneously trying to mimic every aspect of my life. She slept with other friends’ husbands and I found out about that too. My husband always got a skeevy vibe from her and didn’t like her so he wasn’t an option for her. I eliminiated her from my life, but I am forever perplexed by her need to try to be like me from clothes to jobs to home decor to even taking credit for random ideas and theories I talked to her about. It was beyond weird – it was freakin’ creepy. I wondered what’s next? Is she gonna purposely get in a car accident and have her face surgically reconstructed to look like mine?
My point is, she was no nanny and I’m not rich. She was simply insecure, evidentally couldn’t think for herself and had no identity of her own, so women like this will latch on to somebody they want to be like and run with it. I guess they think if they have what we have, dress like we do, scrump our husband, etc… that must mean they’re on the same level with us, but ironically, all of that actually means they’re nothing like us because those that get SWF’d are usually good with themselves, have self-respect, confidence, and would never do anything to even indirectly break up a family. so……that’s all I got.
“..by her need to try to be like me from clothes to jobs to home decor to even taking credit for random ideas and theories I talked to her about.” OMG. What?! I would have to get a restraining order. That is some scary level of insanity right there. I bet if you broke into her house, she would have her walls covered with pictures of you. What a psycho!! Glad you got away from all of that. Sounds like a bad Lifetime movie for sure.
Gavin was trying to smear Gwen with that sob story about Blake and Gwen. So even if her team released this story i don’t blame her. What is she supposed to do sit back and let him cast her as the bad guy while he was shagging the nanny for 3 YEARS? Thats ridiculous!
What a horrific situation. This whole thing leaves such a bad taste in my mouth. Poor Gwen!!
I saw all of the SWF photos on DM. And the Jaws music from the attack scene was running through my mind.
This bitch has the nerve to try and smear the wife he cheated on with the nanny for three years? Fair play to Gwen for not rolling over, if this really came out via the family iPad I can see why she’d be ready to end him.
And I don’t see why SHE is obligated to take the high road and be “classy” about not revealing details, when he’s trying to paint her as the cheater (a bit rich, considering the circumstances).
For everyone saying how gross and skeevy Gavin is – while I agree he hasn’t aged that well and that greasy man bun is doing him no favours, I present this:
https://lessismorrissey.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/gavin-rossdale-bush-2396619-1119-1632.jpg
There’s much more out there on Google. He was incredibly good looking and charming in his hey day.
Gwen has said multiple times throughout the years that she felt incredibly lucky to catch someone as good looking as Gavin so I think she’s always felt not good enough for him and thus put up with a lot of crap. Just google the lyrics to any of no doubt’s songs from Return of Saturn (2000) and you’ll see there’s long been turmoil and hurt in their relationship. Gavin has basically admitted in the past that he was never that crazy about Gwen. I was so surprised they lasted so long as a couple and equally as surprised when they finally got married because he just never seemed that into her and her lyrics reflect that.
This is just a weird relationship all around but I’m glad Gwen finally decided to leave him because being as hurt as she has been for the last 20 years is no good and this is coming from someone who was straight up obsessed with both Bush and No Doubt in the 90″s.. Once of my first concerts was Bush with No Doubt opening for them.
Yess- Bush with No Doubt opening for them!!- that is how they met, and why their dynamic played as it did- they toured together in the 90s, when Bush was more popular and Gavin was a sex symbol. I think Gwen has ALWAYS felt lesser than, the lesser act and the lesser talent.
ALL of her songs since Tragic Kingdom (which were about Tony!) have been about Gavin – Return of Saturn was all about their first breakup. Lyrics have already been quoted here.
Rock Steady was more upbeat but still all about Gavin – ‘Underneath it All’ is about Gavin and justifying all the pain and hurt he’d caused up to that point. ‘Making Out’ is all about missing him, In My Head is about having doubts.
“Don’t talk about, long distance,
don’t talk about, ex girlfriends,
don’t talk about, the past.
Let’s talk about, the future
lets talk about, the wedding,
lets talk about, gwen stefani,
lets talk about, how much you like me, and all that”
Then LAMB was all about Gavin too from ‘Serious’ to ‘Crash’ to ‘Danger Zone’ which was written about finding out about Daisy Lowe.
I think she always felt lesser and I will be honest here, I have dumped every guy who constantly bemoaned and felt I was better than them. No one likes to be put on a pedestal and have their partner thinking they are never good enough for them. It creates a bad dynamic. I personally didn’t like holding all the cards and crave finding someone who is my equal, but it hasn’t happened yet. :/
He was extremely good looking(I had a high school crush on him). I wonder if he has tweaked his face or simply hasnt aged well because his body still looks quite good at 50. He looked really good in mid 2000’s, which is why I wonder about tweaking.
I agree absolutely about not wanting to be with someone who feels you are so much better than them and I think this has been Gavin and Gwen’s problem from day one. I honestly have no idea why he’d continue to date her and then eventually marry and have kids with her. It’s been pretty evident to all of us who have been their fans from the beginning that she was puppy-dog-eyed, infatuated, in love with him right from the start while he could have cared less about her. I agree with a lot of other commenters assumptions that she has known about cheating and god knows what else all along and has put up with it just to stay married to him/keep him. It’s an incredibly unhealthy dynamic and I think now that she’s older she just couldn’t put up with the relentless hurt and bullshit anymore. I used to love Gavin and thought he was god’s gift to women back in high school but over the years I have come to despise him because he really should have just broken up with Gwen back in the 90’s and not put her through all of this… I mean she’s an adult and free to make her own choices too but I think he should have just been a man and not strung her along and certainly should have not married and had kids with her if he never truly loved her.
It takes two to tango though right? He may have loved her in some way, but it was ultimately up to her to let it go if she felt things weren’t right too, but she was sooo infatuated she just couldn’t. I think she has wicked low self esteem and until she works on this, she will perpetually be “stuck”.
I think the lyrics to the No Doubt song “Bathwater” are a perfect summary of their relationship (written when they had been dating for 5 years and 2 years before they got married):
Wanted and adored by attractive women.
Bountiful selection at your discretion.
I know I’m diving into my own destruction.
So why do we choose the boys that are so naughty?
I don’t fit in so why do you want me?
I know I can’t tame you but I just keep trying.
‘Cause I love to wash in your old Bathwater.
Love to think that you couldn’t love another.
On your list with all your other women.
‘Cause I love to wash in your old Bathwater.
Your wildness scares me
So does your freedom
You say you can’t stand the restrictions
I find myself trying to change you
If you were meant to be my lover I wouldn’t have to.
ND-ExGirlfriend
For a long time I was in love
Not only in love, I was obsessed
[…]
I’m so ashamed, I’ve been so mean
I don’t know how it got to this point
I always was the one with all the love
ND-Simple Kind of Life
A girl in the world barking up the wrong tree
A creature conditioned to employ matrimony
Crumbling continuity, I pick up the pieces
ND-Marry Me
I just want to take you away from everyone
And keep you stashed under my pillow
And then I’d take you out simply for my own pleasure
And wear you when the occasions special
Then I’d put you on like a diamond
So I can sparkle and be the envy of my friends
I’d proudly hold the leash that I’d have you on
So you can’t stray and follow me around all day
ND-Too Late
DAMN GIRL! This relationship was doomed from the beginning. Poor Gwen… poor Gavin.
I know right?! Return of Saturn is all about their relationship and all of those songs always made me feel so sorry for her. I think she’s willingly put up with his shit for decades because she never felt good enough and finally had enough. I don’t even think this nanny affair was a surprise to her but probably the fact that it continued to happen while she was pregnant was the straw that broke the camels back.
Wow these lyrics! How depressing and pathetic if that’s how she really felt.
In those pics, the nanny looked like she borrowed some of gwen’s clothes. Why not? Gwen’s fashionable and she has a freakin fashion line, wouldn’t she want others to wear what she’s selling? And lots of women get caught up in a diet or something with other “friends” or whatever. They hear abut it, think its a good idea, and then does it. So what? And one of those pics, the jean one in the daily mail, I think Mindy may have worn the outfit first, because I definitely recognize those shoes Gwen was wearing as something very recent.
All in all, I don’t think she was single white femaling. She probably thought Gwen was beautiful and had good style, and tried to emulate. Being in close proximity can do that.
I think Gwen knew about this nanny thing before and the relationship with Gavin was very cold for a long time.
I am a non-violent person, but I would be hard-pressed not to Krav Maga the F*ck out of him. It’s so gross that you bang your kids nanny on a tour bus after the kids are asleep. Jesus.
Amen. Not to mention having sex while your wife is in the hospital after giving birth. Low.
Both Gavin & Gwen are big a-holey parents. Stop thinking of yourself and exacting revenge on each other. You have three sons you are influencing and not in a good way. Team Children.
unrelated: i saw her on an old “behind the music” last night.
she looked so cool and pretty. a (sort of) rocker with style.
now she looks like a beautiful robot or well designed doll.
i hope she stops messing with her face before she moves into real housewives territory.
I suggested on a another thread she join real housewives but everyone said she’s too delicate for it.
Here are a few pictures of Gavin’s sister, Soraya:
http://dailyentertainmentnews.com/music/who-is-gavin-rossdales-nanny-mistress/
This is curious because I think the bum pic may be his sister now..
I feel bad for Gwen because over the years, her music has been her diary, and you can clearly see she’s been in love with Gavin so deeply, so obsessively, so crazily — and he’s been unattainable all this time. Sounds like torture to me. And the worst part is this: she’ll probably never really get over him. It’s like Bono sang: “with or without you.”
I don’t think Gwens relationship with Tony Kanal was extremely dysfunctional. They were young, and I think he was feeling suffocated and they broke up. I think he thought they would eventually get back together but then Gwen met Gavin. I think Tony held out hope for a while and then Gwen and Gavin got married and Tony moved on but he always cared about her and they still seem like good friends to this day. I just don’t think it makes sense to say that Gwen has been in two dysfunctional relationships.
Interesting observation—I don’t think someone suffocated wants someone back though, I know I sure didn’t. Maybe he wished her well?
Mmmmm…. I don’t know…. in the song “cool” which is about Tony she says something like “we used to think it was impossible, now you call me by your new last name” Implying that Tony wouldn’t want to call Gwen, Gwen Rossdale for whatever reason…. And on their behind the music Tony even comes out and says how tough it was for him when Gwen and Gavin first started dating… I think for Tony, Gwen will always be the one that got away…. Even though he did the initial break uping! 😀
I don’t believe all of this. How could Gwen not know for 3 years. It’s all he said /she said. They were supposed to get divorced then she got pregnant.
I always thought it was funny that she looked like his friend Marilyn.
Have you read her interviews? She isn’t the sharpest tool in the shed. Quite ditsy and into herself.
If you’ve listened to any of her songs from the past 15 years, she has long known about his unfaithfulness and has always knew she was never and would never be his number 1. It was an unhealthy dynamic right from the start in 1995 as she was obsessed and infatuated with him and would have put up (and did) with anything just to be his girlfriend and then wife.
I agree that she comes across as ditzy and a perpetual teenager but I think she’s known all along this is how their relationship would end.
I can buy the nanny swf’ing Gwen. And maybe she was obsessed with Gavin too. But I have a hard time believing that the nanny would be able to hide an affair for three years and then get randomly busted by another nanny and that it would just now be coming out of the shit went down in Feb.
I’m starting to think that perhaps Gwen and Blake have been fooling around and this is just a distraction.
And I’m really not judging but I’ve never understood people who dice right into new relationships when they are just barely out of the old one. Especially more seasoned people. Are people really that afraid of being single even for a minute.
I don’t understand the speculation here. Their relationship always had problems, even way before they were engaged. They were always breaking up and getting back together. Any person with half a brain could see the relationship wasn’t right, lest of all Gwen and she went ahead to marry and have children. Sorry, but they knew what they were getting into and now they’re trying to deflect by bringing the nanny into it all.
it sounds miserable, I feel for Gwen. What I don’t understand though is why she kept Mann on if she was being swf’d and suspicious?
Gwen, this isn’t working.
Gwen is very talented and business savvy. Maybe she comes across as ditzy sometimes, but she is not a dumb blonde.
Not going to judge her at all – divorce is the death of a family and dreams.
Gavin just disgusts me.