Editor’s note by JayBird: Both Kaiser and MSat contributed to this article.
Kaiser’s take on the story:
Was it the drinking, or the other women? Was it the not-so-alleged anti-Semitism, or Mel Gibson’s habit of referring to women as “sugart-ts”? In any case, after 28 years of marriage, Mel Gibson’s wife has had enough. Robyn has filed for divorce in California. The papers were filed last week, and she is seeking legal custody of their one minor son. They have six other adult children.
Sources are claiming that they do not have a pre-nuptial agreement, and that most likely their assets – more than $900 million – will be split close to 50/50. Mel’s only comments are from his representative, who says “Throughout our marriage and separation we have always strived to maintain the privacy and integrity of our family and will continue to do so.”
Mel Gibson’s wife Robyn has filed for divorce after 28 years of marriage.
In the papers — signed Apr. 9 — she cites “irreconcilable differences.”“Throughout our marriage and separation we have always strived to maintain the privacy and integrity of our family and will continue to do so,” a rep for Gibson, 53, tells Usmagazine.com in a statement.
TMZ alleges that “there is no prenuptial agreement” based on source reporting. In 2006, Gibson’s fortune was estimated at $900 million. Under California law, community property — which includes earnings — is divided 50/50.
Robyn — who famously stood by Gibson during his highly publicized 2006 DUI arrest — lists the date of separation as “to be determined,” which TMZ points out is important because “earnings generally cease to be community property when the couple separates.”
Robyn, who has seven children with Gibson, has requested spousal support and attorneys’ fees. She is also seeking joint physical and legal custody of their son, Tom, who turns 10 Tuesday. (Tom is their only child who is a minor.)
Robyn has snapped up attorney Laura Wasser, who most recently represented Britney Spears in her split from Kevin Federline.
The couple have dogged split rumors for some time.
Gibson was recently photographed with a woman who did not appear to be his wife in Costa Rica on March 4.
Asked at the time if he and Robyn had split, his rep had no comment.
“Mel is on family vacation with his entire family and their friends,” a source told Usmagazine.com. “His sons are there with their girlfriends, his pregnant daughter is there – the whole family is there.”
[From US Magazine]
What was it about this last affair that bothered Robyn so much? Mel’s always had a reputation as a womanizer, he’s just been more obvious and disrespectful about it in recent years. That, plus the alcoholism – that’s why I think Robyn had enough. Is it bad that I really hope Robyn takes him to the cleaners? She deserves a $450 million-plus settlement. Perhaps she’ll threaten to do a tell-all if Mel doesn’t pay up? She must know all of his secrets – the real dirt, that he really doesn’t want to get out.
MSat’s take on the story:
The tabloids have seen this one coming for months. Though Robyn cites “irreconcilable differences,” it’s more like “alcohol abuse/cheating/egomania.”
I say, it’s about time. I’m sure the $900 million was incentive for Robyn to stay with Mel through the years, in spite of his alcohol problems, but all bets were off when the photos of Mel’s mistress made the rounds. I suppose there was no way for Mel to deny it, or for Robyn to look the other way once those photos came out. I would agree that Robyn deserves some spousal support for sticking it out for 28 years with a man who probably was no picnic – even when his career was at its peak. And if this mistress thinks for a second she’s going to change his ways – good luck with that!
All I can say is, WOW.
I hope she makes off with the money too. Can’t stand Mel.
And here I thought her revenge was building a veryveryvery expensive church on his dime.
I think taking half is a much smarter move on her part. And gotta love CA’s 50/50 rule. 🙂
She filed on Good Friday no less
this is going to be one of the most expenisve celebrity divorces !
I actualy surprised because I thought she would be one of those religious women who dont divorce because even thou they are miserable it goes against their church teachings.
who knows maybe Mel will plead on his knees for another chance?
May I recommend the book “Inside the Minds of Angry & Controlling Men” to any woman who thinks a guy like Gibson is appealing? These bullying, entitlement-style confident, narcissistic men (and some women as well) have become too prominent in our culture, including and most dangerously, in our government. Why do we keep empowering them?
Great Photo of Mel looking like Satan
PS – We women have Gloria Steinem and her colleagues to thank for divorce laws that now protect women from being exploited in this type of situation. BUT, I still think it’s best for us to be helping all our children, whether boys or girls, both to learn to stand on their own two feet economically and to take ownership of their feelings and to interact and negotiate with others (rather than oppress, disrespect and devalue them).
While I think Gibson is a rather solid actor and he has done memorable films in his career, I think it’s about time Robyn got her divorce from him. I remember an earlier CB story about how he would not grant her the divorce because of his faith. I’m glad to see she finally put her foot down and I’m even happier that after all this emotional suffering, she will at least get a lot of money and be able to live worry-free from here on out. Money alone might not make her happy but it will help. She has endured a lot during her marriage to Mel and it’s only fair she reaped some of the benefits. And without her unconditional support, he probably would not have been able to do all that he did.
Go Robyn, you deserve this divorce!
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That’s a good question KansasRefuge. I have often wondered why we give our power away to completely greedy and corrupt people.
We often equate ‘being and awful person’ with ‘strength’.
…and so it begins.
Glad Robyn is divorcing him. Cheaters are sick, but staying with said cheaters is even more sick.
And I’ll never understand people who won’t divorce because of their religion, but they feel perfectly okay with cheating. I don’t see any logic in that. Can anyone explain that to me?
No matter how financially well off Robyn may end up being, I wouldn’t ever want to be in her position of spending nearly 30 years turning “turning a blind eye”. That’s 20-something years she could have been with a man who valued her.
to Wow: I get the reference. Nice work.
I don’t blame her for leaving. He obviously has little respect for her to be tramping around with other women.
Good for her!
Its been about him and her family all of those 28 yrs!!
FINALLY, she is putting herself first!
Good!!
She deserves every sime and more..28 yrs! DANG!
every dime***
Is he growing a crucifix on his face?
Maybe the wife was going to stick it out till all of the kids were adults and just divorce him.
As far as I know, it isn’t divorce that is quite as problematic as getting married again without an annulment.
I hope that each of them gets what they deserve. As much as I like Mel Gibson professionally, all this bullshit about taking up with other women is just hateful. If it is true, and it definitely looks like it is, I wish upon him the raunchiest case of the crotch crickets ever.
Good for her, I have always liked Mel as an actor, and had a lot of respect for him back in the day..he always took his whole family with him when he did a movie..but the last few years he has changed and I have lost respect for him as a man and husband and father!
KansasRefuge — that book is a great one, really really helped me out of my own bad marriage.
Mel looks so very. . .CRAZY.
Meh, no-fault divorce laws can hurt women too. I don’t think we owe Gloria Steinem all that much.
Too many people comment on the religious angle without trying to find out any facts. You CAN get an annulment from the Catholic Church in certain circumstances.
Like most institutions, there is the party line and the reality. While you cannot technically get an annulment because of adultery, the truth is that often those who process these annulment requests are quite sensitive to situations like Robyn’s (we had a speaker at our Church who did this in our diocese for years) and find ways around the technicalities.
The real problem is that it can take a LONG time because there are many, many requests and too few people to go through them. (at least this was the experience of the priest who was talking to us).
I would also say that it depends a lot on the priest you have dealing with such requests. Priests are just people, and so some will be more compassionate than others.
I feel sheepish, I just emailed the article to CB a few seconds ago, lol. Long time coming for Mel, the stupid douche. Wouldn’t know a diamond if he held one in his hand.
Wow he looks so crazy in that first pic. Imagine being married to that.
The things he thinks are precious I don’t understand.
Lol, if the song fits !! Seemed proper at the time 🙂
mE-
I suspect no fault divorce hurts women who have not taken responsibility for themselves and their economic viability. It is just craziness for women to expect to be supported financially by men, UNLESS you negotiate something up-front with the man where he agrees to take responsibility for you for the rest of your life (because you did not develop a career), regardless of any divorce (it should tell you something that no guy will probably agree to this). Don’t fall into this trap – it’ll hurt you and it hurts all of us normal folks (i.e. not subsidized, indulged patriarchs) trying to make a living. I recommend the book “Getting to 50/50” for another way to plan a marriage. It also helps with the problem of older women becoming invisible (i.e. they no longer have youthful looks, they have no career, AND they’ve been rejected by the man they thought would provide for them and have to deal with that emotional baggage). And it gets men more engaged in good-quality fathering (which I think we have shockingly little of in our culture for both boys and girls).
I think that is a different perspective on marriage. Our agreement ahead of time that he will care for us for the rest our lives (“until death do us part”). Our family is far more traditional and I don’t call that irresponsible. Certainly women are free to have a career and family and not have to rely on a man. We got into this knowing what our expectations were of one another and it has served us well after all these years.
Your mileage may vary of course. This is what works for us.
Me-
I am glad you seem to be happy, but
“Our agreement ahead of time that he will care for us for the rest our lives (”until death do us part”).”
Yes, these are the vows many folks recite in church, but life is long and lots of people make marriage vows in all sincerity at the time and then don’t follow through on them. (I suspect some people are just saying what they’re told to say anyway, i.e. following the ritual, and are not finding personal meaning in the words).
Also, since I don’t see your husband on here saying that he agreed to this, you are speaking for him. I would just be careful that you are not projecting how you see the marriage onto him (he may see it differently; see, e.g. devout Catholic Mel having affairs). Please be sure he gets to speak with his own voice about it, and that you listen with very open ears and not to just what you want to hear.
If you wish to trust in this enormous way, well then I am sure you are ready to deal with consequences if your trust is misplaced and won’t expect the rest of us to bail you out?
“Can’t buy me love” but it can buy a hell of a settlement. Good luck to her, she deserves every dime she gets. He may have been gorgeous to look at when he was young but clearly he is an ugly ugly person.
Glad she finally got the nerve. Good luck to her and her youngest son. May this be as painless as possible & I hope she laughs hysterically all the way to the bank!
About time Robyn! I wwas thinking she should get 75% and he the laftover scraps and that church he seems to hide behind!
But thats just me…
Ha! GOOD.
i am not surprised. yes she spent like 30 years of her life with him. they did have some good times, and weathered a lot of bad times, but i think robyn has finally “seen the light” so to speak, and is now standing up for herself. who knows what will happen now, but for sure mel’s bank account will be a lot smaller!
sad.
I don’t think a divorce will ever happen. (She probably has his attention though!)
I suspect that she stayed because of her kids…and let me explain why that was smart on her part:
1.) If she had divorced him 5 or 10 years ago, she would’ve lost control over what happened to her minor children when they were visiting their father.
During non-custodial time when the other parent has custody or visitation, you have NO SAY over what your ex exposes your children to. He could have women in and out of the house. He could let them do things that were unsafe or inappropriate. He could have ignored them, neglected them, browbeat them, or otherwise terrorized them…and she would have NO control or power to stop it from happening.
2.) Minor children have a tendency to “blame” the parent who leaves rather than the one who is actually guilty of ruining the marriage. This creates strife and serious potential for loss of parental control with adolescents. Loss of parental control with an adolescent leads to all kinds of high-risk situations and dangers.
3.) Unless the man was cruel to them…it was better for them psychologically and statistically to have him around.
Maybe she knew all that and was selfless enough to stay…realizing that she voluntarily had 7 kids with this man.
My hat is off to her. I hope she is happy and finds someone to grow old with who will take care of her heart and be a good partner to her. She put up with ENOUGH.
..and you’re right. No “guy” would agree to support a woman and the family on his own, but a man would.
Different people have different value systems and priorities.
Not every woman who gives up career and “economic viability” to live at home and love her family while trusting that her partner will support her is lazy or stupid.
The lack of tolerance (much less acceptance) for women who make life choices that don’t gel with today’s focus on the self is very sad.
Like anyone else, if my husband died or left me, I would go back to working and support myself as I did (quite capably) before I married. But unlike a lot of people, I have more faith in the decisions I made and in the man I married than to sit in the corner waiting for a shoe to drop.
Happiness is not obtained by building a shield and then guarding its perimeter. At least…it isn’t obtained that way for me. In MY life, I have determined how I want to live. I try to have compassion and understanding for the differences in situation and personal individualism when confronted with a person who lives differently.
Oh, how I used to love Mel…back in the 80’s, he was just IT.
But something has happened to him through the years. Maybe the booze, maybe drugs, or maybe just an out of control ego.
He went from being incredibly sexy to incredibly pathetic. It’s such a shame.
You watch though…
Mel Gibson, for all of his supposed belief in Roman Catholicism (marriage is forever, eh?) will be re-married within a year or two with some vague excuses as to WHY his case is different.
He’ll seek an annulment or some such crap.
He is, has been, and will always be a hypocrit of the worst sort.
Kudos to his soon to be ex-wife for getting herself together and getting away from that ego stomping idiot.
PS I do like some of his movies, but after working in “the business” and hearing much about Gibson’s ego issues, his sexism, his anti-semitic rants (he’d been doing that for years before he got pulled over and said it to the policeman), etc…
He’s one of those fellow’s I’d prefer to stay miles and miles away from. 🙁
he’ll give her what she wants she mother to his bizillion children. and he’ll wound up making even more money after he is divorced. look at harrison ford. most men need several wives in their life time. no big deal
x to mel
Aspen-
“I try to have compassion and understanding for the differences in situation and personal individualism when confronted with a person who lives differently.”
I assure you that I do as well. I just don’t want to have to bail out some woman who has not been adult enough to go into a relationship with her eyes open.
Why do you need “compassion” in the first place? Are you a victim of some kind?
There has been much research that single breadwinner marriages are not as beneficial to children because it is very difficult for the nonbreadwinner spouse to feel secure enough to parent effectively and because the breadwinner spouse (who is the only one active in the working world) doesn’t have the time and energy to provide the kind of mentoring the children need as they enter the working world. The couple also sometimes face challenges in relating to and empathizing with each other and this in turn affects the intimacy of their relationship, which then makes the children more insecure.
You are of course free to make your own choices. I would just suggest that women (and men) consider all the alternatives before they make their decisions and also that they take responsibility for themselves (then maybe you’ll have less need of compassion because you won’t be needy or disempowered or a “victim,” you’ll be a self-sufficient adult – get it?)
How, exactly, would you EVER have to bail me out? Of anything?
You have managed to insult my lifestyle, call me a drain on society, and insinuate that I’m a bad mother damaging my child…all because I am happily married without the paid services of daycare or a nanny. So much for women championing lifestyle choices for other women, eh? If I’m not a workaholic letting other people raise my child, then I’m worthy of your contempt?
I am not poor. I am not without resources. I am not uneducated, lazy, or a burden to society. Twisting my recommendation that people have compassion and tolerance for people who live differently than we do, ourselves, had nothing to do with my wanting charity or sympathy from YOU. Compassion does not only indicate sympathy for victimhood. I am no victim. I am one of the most pampered, loved, and well cared-for people on this planet. As I clearly stated before, if my husband died or left me, I would get a job and return to my career to support myself and my child.
I am quite self-sufficient, thank you very much. Your arrogance and hostility around a person you don’t even know astounds me.
You, Dear, sound hateful and nasty and intolerant of anyone unlike yourself. “Get it?”
Your little paraphrased nonsense about having a parent at home is ridiculous. My daughter has my undivided attention in the hours that she is home, and my husband spends more hours playing with her and teaching her things than most parents in a two-income situation are able to do…because when he gets home, the house is clean, dinner is ready, and no one has to rush around getting necessities taken care of before we can have family time.
The idea that my kid is going to turn out backward and unable to relate to other people or get a job or excel in education because her parents placed her higher on the priority list than the acquisition of surplus wealth during her developmental years…is the most idiotic drivel I’ve ever heard a feminist spout.
Hateful and absolutely absurd.
Aspen-
It’s not hateful (at least on my end) (maybe you’re projecting the hate or envy you feel toward women who are pulling this off?). I don’t feel any arrogance or hostility (I suspect you’re projecting those?) It’s just a warning. The fact you took it as an insult, and not just as information to process seems to say a lot about whether you’re even open to this. Where’s your curiosity?
I am a lawyer and have seen so many women go through the pain and poverty when the husband leaves for a younger wife or even for affairs, or when he uses his status as breadwinner to demand things, and I have seen these women struggle for years, in social isolation and with emotional damage that lasts a lifetime. Also, I grew up in a home like you describe and it was not good. That’s not to say you are pulling it off, but I would warn you that these things are not always as they appear, especially for kids.
You and your daughter are also missing all the benefits I listed of being in a more egalitarian marriage and you don’t appear to have considered these but immediately to have dismissed them.
No matter, though – I don’t really care how you live your life, except to warn you, OUT OF COMPASSION, that you may regret these choices later, as may your child. And, indeed, I don’t want my tax dollars going to help you with social programs, or attorneys or other things because you need support following a divorce and do not have the means to earn them for yourself.
It’s your life, not mine.
This is the book I suggest you consider if you can open your mind: Getting to 50/50 As you’ll read in the book, it’s not about nannies, its about getting your child very good quality fathering time, very good quality mothering time, your getting economic status to last you a lifetime, and your daughter having a mother role model who works. It’s actually about less workaholicism because your husband could work less.
And its not about acquiring surplus wealth. Its about making the marriage and parenting function better.
kansasrefug,I could’nt disagree with you more, no aspen will have no regrets nor will I, but you just might
kansasrefug,I could’nt disagree with you more, no aspen will have no regrets nor will I, but you just might