Rowan Blanchard is only 14 years old and she’s already pleasantly surprising people. I covered Blanchard back in December, when she gave one of the most articulate answers ever to a question about feminism, female friendship and squad goals. Blanchard seemed to be taking a swipe at Taylor Swift, but it was a well-executed and flawless swipe and I cheered for her. Now the 14-year-old – who stars in the Disney Channel’s Girl Meets World – is coming out as “queer.” That’s how she says she self-identifies.
Rowan Blanchard is proving once again that she is wise beyond her years. The 14-year-old Girl Meets World actress has never been one to shy away from mature, important conversations. As it turns out, this weekend was no different when the Disney Channel star opened up about her sexuality. In a Twitter post shared early Saturday, Rowan called herself “queer,” but also expressed the importance of not labeling others.
“In my life—only ever liked boys,” she shared online. “However I personally don’t wanna label myself as straight, gay or whateva so I am not gonna give myself labels to stick with—just existing… Yes, [I’m] open to liking any gender in future is why I identify as queer.”
The dialogue comes after the actress penned a lengthy blog post titled “Sorry, Not Sorry.”
In the article, Rowan explained how she “quit apologizing for existing.” She also shares three things that have helped the young star “trust myself enough to know that I don’t always have to say sorry for myself.”
I actually had to look this up in the LGBTQ resources guidebooks because I had a moment of “I’m not sure that’s how it works?” I mean, if I was putting a label on Rowan, she would be a cisgendered heterosexual-open-to-bisexuality woman, so that’s why I had to look it up. According to PFLAG’s resource guide:
“Think of queer as an umbrella term. It includes anyone who a) wants to identify as queer and b) who feels somehow outside of the societal norms in regards to gender or sexuality. This, therefore, could include the person who highly values queer theory concepts and would rather not identify with any particular label, the gender fluid bisexual, the gender fluid heterosexual, the questioning LGBT person, and the person who just doesn’t feel like they quite fit in to societal norms and wants to bond with a community over that.”
I get it. I understand it now. I’m glad I looked it up. I feel like this is increasingly a generational thing too – the under-25 kids are looking for the right way to define their gender, sexuality and identity, or not identify it at all. Back in my day… self-identifying as queer was not a thing at all. But that’s why we grow and learn as a society.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
*standing O to this kid* her and Amandla and Zendaya, Saorsie, Kiernan Shipka, Willow, Tavi Gevinson, are giving me much hope for the future, is like we wont have a Lohan and The Jenners wont matter
Completely agree!
True but I fear Kylie Jenner has more influence than all these girls combined.
That may be true…but it’s wonderful that there ARE girls like these out there to look up to.
Best thing is these girls are either friends or routinely reference each other in their statements as well. It’s the best kind of “squad” if you had to have one. Rowan is 14 and openly questions everything. Routinely learns and grows. It’s amazing because she’s also openly supported by Disney as well.
Times are changing. It’s slow but it is
I’m officially an old fart.
Just when I was figuring out what a cis gender person is, we are back to queer. A term that was derogatory, then non derogatory, then un-pc and now back we go.
It’s giving me whiplash!!
I’m right there with you, LAK. It took me a bit to figure out cisgendered and now I am going to tackle the (new) meaning of queer. Back in “my day” queer = homosexual / lesbian, and that was it. It wasn’t a word that people used or liked to hear, because it was mostly used in a derogatory fashion.
But hey, it’s nice to see that the world is getting more open and more accepting! I’m certainly not complaining about that. 🙂
When I read this on DM, I was thinking in terms of when I grew up and that this was a derogatory term. So it is good that it was defined for me. I’m still trying to figure it all out.
I’m 26 and I can’t keep up. I was under the impression it was a derogatory term as well.
I’m sick of all of it. Call me old fashioned as well. Quit labeling yourselves & just BE. I don’t know why everyone has to “announce” how they’re feeling in the moment on social media. Just live your life. IDGAF who you like and I don’t need to hear about it all of the time.
Bravo!! Add me to your list of DGAF about your sexuality. I can’t believe this nonsense. Coming out when you’re not in some sort of solidarity? These people need a 9-5 job. Way too much time on their hands.
Translation: “Stop shoving your gayness down our throat”
L M A O
But just living and being who you are confidently doesn’t get you likes on FB or reblogged on tumblr. When you’re online people can’t help but read all these labels in your profile. In the non digital world you actually have to get people’s attention with personality, conversation or some such analog methodology and after that you have to get to know people before they praise your individuality! It takes a lot of effort to stand out in the real world (just look at our celeb landscape) whereas online you just have to use the right buzzwords. /end cynical tirade.
I’m not saying all are just simply doing it for attention, but it’s undeniable that many are.
THIS. Agreed to everything you said mandygirl. Not everything needs to be OUT THERE
Yes! Honestly this oversharing thing is getting old – like me. She says she doesn’t want to put a label on herself, and then goes a head and puts a label on herself. At 14, when you are in the discovery mode, just discover and be. No need to have the public be in on your path to self-learning.
I understand where you are coming from, and I do wish we lived in a society where someone’s sexuality was irrelevant to the way society treated them, but I don’t think we do, so I think what she is doing is important.
The problem with ‘IDGAF what you identify as’ is that we live in a society where heterosexual is the norm. So queer people have to come out to everyone they meet. I’m not straight, but everyone assumes I am. Its very frustrating. Visibilty of the LGBT community is a way to combat that assumption. When people in the public eye come out, it increases awareness.
Also, maybe you don’t really care about who other people are attracted to, but there are still a lot of people who do care. Have you heard the homophobic rhetoric that comes from politicians? Hate crimes are still committed against gay people, same sex marriage was only very recently legalized after years of fighting for that right. Imagine being an LGBT teen with all of that going on. Its very scary for a lot of people to come out. Do you know how often I hear that bisexual women are faking it for attention? Do you know how often I hear people refer to trangender women as ‘men in dresses? How many times I’ve heard that lesbians just want to be men or gay men are child predators? Maybe it doesn’t bother you how someone identifies, but a lot of members of the LGBT community STILL face discrimination, ignorance and hatred when they come out. Maybe Rowan coming out isn’t important to you, but as someone who was once a queer 14 year old, it would have been important to me.
Thank you Die Zicke. Rights are not
just handed to those of us who aren’t white, straight and male. They have to be fought for and identifying unapologetically is always a part of this process. When society marginalizes a group of people, guess what happens? They respond with matching volume in an attempt to be heard.
Aww. LAK! I don’t really think it’s incumbent on you to keep up any more than you want to keep up. I think our actual responsibility is just to respond to the people we know and meet, online or off, in the way they’d like to be responded to. I personally identify as woman and mostly straight. I don’t particularly like the term cis and don’t want to be called it. No good reason for that but I don’t need one. On the other hand, I’m quite happy to accept that anyone and everyone else is entirely entitled to identify as they please, be that cis, trans, gay, straight, queer, fluid or whatever. And however they identify, I will identify them as that.
Underneath all the talk about language is what REALLY matters. And that is that slowly, slowly, slowly, we’re getting to a place where a greater number of people are able to live open lives as their true selves. And that is a good thing, even if terminology can occasionally get a bit confusing.
@ Die zicke: Exactly. If we lived in an equal world, people probably wouldn’t need to come out as much, explain how they identify, or offer visibility for their communities. Quietly, calmly ‘just being’ is not something that every group of people gets to do. So while older people who know they’re exclusively one sexual orientation and gender might see it as pointless, other people really aren’t costing you anything by coming out or self-identifying.
It’s adorable and heartwarming to these young adults pushing the culture ahead. Gives me hope.
Seriously. I’m happy for kids who are happy, but I think they should worry a little less about identifying their sexuality at 14. Like leave it be, child. Time will work things out and in the meantime, focus on developing other aspects of your personality. Do we really need to claim labels at such a young age?
I used to teach middle school and I noticed that around age 10-11, the kids start identifying strongly with music–something that differentiates them from their parents. At 12-13, they start obsessing about ethnicity or nationality or race–the things that can differentiate them from their peers (srsly, try finding a radio station for the class to listen to that doesn’t have 50% of the room screaming with the torture of having to listen to music they’ve identified as bad, or going 5 min without some kid telling you about how amazing Tijuana is because it’s his real home–NOT Chula Vista!). So I imagine now at 14-15, they are into defining their sexuality–probably as a way to differentiate themselves from other males/females. (Obviously I know plenty of gay or bisexual people are aware of their sexuality at a young age. I’m talking about terms that are more vague, like queer).
Nothing wrong with any of it. But our musical tastes change with age; our feelings about our ethnicity/race/nationality do too as we grow. It stands to reason we will feel differently about sexuality, too, in one way or another. So instead of announcing to the world that we are Mexican rap music fans, maybe just sit with yourself for a few years and give yourself space to grow. That’d be
my advice to adolescents. In a few years, you might prefer to think of yourself as a Mexican-American classical music enthusiast.
I’m never sure where I fall in this discussion. On the one hand the Tumblr teens drive me up the wall with their identity obsession and I’m sure that not every tumblr teen that comes out as a certain identity actually belongs within their chosen category. On the other hand, suffering some Tumblr teens is better than oppressing people by limiting identities or trying to police who can be what. So first there’s annoyance and then I realise that none of this actually hurts me and that I should be more happy for people being more accepted.
There still are people who refuse to use the term because it is perceived as derogatory, but also because it is now associated with radical politics.
I think of it as one of those reclaimed terms that were once derogatory, but are now embraced with great pride for all kinds of good reasons. “Queer” is a term used with great love by many for a good long time. I personally like its inclusivity.
Fwiw, I identify as queer.
She’s 14. Ninth grader?
The public discussion of a 14 year-old’s sexuality feels ooky. It should be happening within her circle of family and close friends only.
My reaction is not about how this kid describes herself. It’s that this kid is describing herself at all. For attention. For the publicity machine.
Exactly how I felt.
Aaaaaaand I refreshed the page just in case someone already said what I was about to write.
+1.
To be fair, she has queer fans her age who Im sure appreciate that. Better than kid idols from the nineties and early 00s who all claimed to be straight and virgins and monogamous and waiting for marriage etc etc
I’d be willing to wait two years until she’s 16.
Even better, four years until she’s 18. That’s not realistic, I know.
True. For decades (mostly straight) young stars like Nick Jonas, Britney Spears, Miley Cyrus, Selena Gomez, Jessica Simpson, Annette Funicello, Justin Bieber, Bindi Irwin, and countless others have been “coming out” about how they allegedly either want to “wait until marriage”, are virgins, or are into “modesty”, but most people didn’t complain about that being inappropriate for a teenager to discuss publicly or drawing the wrong kind of attention to themselves. If anything, comments like that earned them praise for being ‘good role models.’ There’s a reason for that. (and people were okay with Vanessa Hudgens having to discuss herself sexually by apologizing for private nude photos).
It’s not like she’s going into graphic details about what goes on in her bedroom. I don’t see the harm in a teenager just publicly talking about how they identify and what their beliefs about it are. I think the fact that a child star can say something like this while she still works for a kids network is better than a young male pop star being pressured to pretend to be straight for bigots’ approval or a female child star being pressured to dishonestly prove to the world how ‘Not That Kind of Girl” she is so certain people can tolerate her.
It is just as much of a publicity stunt as those teen idols that claimed to be “saving it” for marriage. Being a self-identified “queer”, nonbinary, unique, snowflake that doesn’t attach labels to oneself is just the newest version of that. Just as calculated, just as much of a publicity stunt. We’re witnessing the beginning of a trend.
Agree with you completely
Agreed. I have kids her age. The general public doesn’t need to think about kids’ sexuality. Why can’t we just let kids be kids.
Her being open about who she is doesn’t inhibit her ability to be a kid.
Ok, but I figured out I was attracted to both sexes around that age and it felt like something I had to hide and I felt very lonely. I think I would have really appreciated what she’s doing. Also, no one had a problem assuming that I was heterosexual when I was 14, no one was surprised at me having crushes on guys or talking about which male celebrities were cute, but I think if I had come out and started talking about my crushes on girls, people would have been shocked with what I was doing and made statements like yours, which would have been hurtful. Its very hard at that age to have to hide things about who you are because you know people would be uncomfortable with who you are.
I agree, Die Zicke. When I was 14 I was all about my madly, truly, deeply boy love interests. Those crushes identified me! Well, at least to me.
And I’m sorry, 14 is no longer only about skipping rope and playing games. Kids are experimenting with sex now (even though I don’t agree with it). So we need to hear about it – and from ALL self-identified sexualities.
Would t it be revelatory if she “came out” and said, “you (the media) don’t need to be discussing or thinking about my sexuality. Not at this age and, in fact, never.”
Exactly. I just think it’s a weird world we live in that any of a fourteen year old’s crushes (or whatever) are public knowledge. Such an intrusive time we live in.
Although, I read and comment on a gossip blog, so there’s that. I may be a hypocrite. I guess I just prefer adult gossip to kids’.
That’s sort of what I was thinking.
+1
It’s interesting to me how the youth of today insist they don’t want to be labeled, but yet they have a label for literally everything. 🤔
Yep. Feels like there needs to be a different label for every single option under the sun. I’m probably too old to GAF about the labels at this point.
You and me both.
I hear you guys, but the world is pretty quick to define and oversexualize 14 year old girls, taking their power from them. She’s setting a good precedent defining herself before anyone else does.
I was going to say that while I understand the reservations people feel about this, she knows what she is doing and I understand why she wants to clearly define herself on her own terms. You said it well. The world is a tough place for queer youth.
But are you really doing yourself a favor at 14 by defining yourself? Even if it is as someone who is open to anything. She should be making it a personal process, as JeanGray (great name, btw) details below.
They need to label everything. There’s also the overwhelming need to tell everybody about it.
No there isn’t.
Heteronormative straight people force it.
Heterosexual people are forcing kids to spend all day on Tumblr making up new sexualities and genders?
Thank you. My daughter and her little clique of friends went through a phase when they were 13/14 where all they did was proclaim they are bi to the boys around them and anyone who would listen (they weren’t really, they just thought it was trendy to say and to get atention). I told my daughter I don’t care what she is as long as it’s genuine and authentic and not because you think saying it is cool. I also told her that at her age she doesn’t need to be telling anyone publicly anything about sex. It’s only gonna attract the wrong kind of attention. If she wants to talk about it to me or amongst close friends, fine, but not something to blurt out in social media or around adults that aren’t family is inappropriate.
But that’s what it’s all about for this generation. Attention. And self.
(Not saying everyone, obv, but as a general, everything seems to be done for attention for self, but disguised as being for altruistic reasons)
Mrs. Wellen (the comment right above this one) made my first point and you made my second.
Yes. Not only that but labels are descriptions, classifications, identifications… One can argue the meaning but even that is a form of “labeling” the concept in a different way. Idk if this is a form of rebellion the way every generation bucks elements of the ones before it, if it’s an extension of the culture war we’re fighting or if it’s a combination of both. I’m fairly confused.
+1. The number of labels that I’ve learned in 2015 from the very people who claim to not want to be labeled is amazing and oh so ironic.
LOL. So true! I’m also fascinated by the tumblr teen generation that is promoting the ‘sexuality is a choice’ thing, so in direct opposition to all the messaging of the LGBQT generations before them.
Sexual attractions and desires aren’t choices, but relationships, sexual activity, and deciding to identify yourself to others are.
In terms of human history, social adolescence is a relatively new thing. For most of human history, we’ve gone from child to adult. But ever since we have had adolescents as a recognisable social group, they’ve organised themselves into identity tribes. They’ve been centred around music, for example. Today’s trend is to organise into sexuality tribes. I think this is ok. I like the idea of adolescence and I like adolescents. They can talk nonsense at times but it’s good they have a period where they can try things out if they want to, even if it does frighten we parents half to death!
I completely agree, Sixer! You must be an awesome mom to those Sixlets!
The definition of queer that she is using has been around for a while now, since the late 80s. So before Rowan was born. I don’t understand why everyone is acting like this is something teen’s just made up. I identify as queer. I used to identify as bisexual, but queer is a term I just ended up liking better
Ok, so “queer” can mean anything in regards to orientation now. Is that really self-identifying, then? I’m thinking of Rachel Dolezal, here, regarding what it means to self identify and how it is interpreted as acceptable or not acceptable.
My aunt is a lesbian and she and her friends used the word “dyke” as a point of pride rather than a pejorative. Like, “want to come to the dyke community picnic? I’m making that fruit salad you like.” While I appreciate the effort to co-opt words that have historically been used with hostility, it doesn’t always catch on and it’s easy to upset people! I could never bring myself to say “dyke” casually.
Same as the nword, unless youre a part of a particular community, thread lightly. Unless youre like a super ally and universally recognised as such so tbere is ZERO question as to whether you mean it as an insult or not thoughIm sure even then some would try to be offended.
Wise beyond her years? She doesn’t seem wise to me. Calculating is more like it. I remember that write up about feminism from her a couple months back which sounded thoroughly fake.
It seems she is trying to make a career out of the social issues. Don’t like her.
Her and that girl Amandla are doing the same thing. Trying too hard to seem enlightened and awake. But all seems memorized.
What she said actually mean nothing, you people are easily impressed by these pretentious little kids.
Not at all young people act like rowan, miley and the smith kids.
“i might have a same sex relationship but i haven’t decided whether i like girls yet”
“Wow she’s so deep!!!!!!!!!!”
So true.
Idk, it just seems to me like a bunch of this kids are ‘coming out’ just to get attention.
I hate to say this because she seems like a smart and sweet kid but this seems problematic. She’s only ever been attracted to boys but identifies as queer? This feels like something a child is doing just because she thinks it’s cool.
I usually do not question things like this and take people at their word but I am questioning this.
Yeah, exactly, and eyeroll-worthy. At 14, I find it pretentious.
*I’M A SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE*
(Sits in rocking chair)
“Back in my teenage years when coming out as gay could get you killed, only gay people came out as gay.
Youngsters these days are different – since being gay is now seen as trendy and cool, some kids are coming out for the positive attention! And they get it too – being gay is cool, and coming out is basically a social signifier saying that you are trendy and alternative.
I just don’t get it… Back in the 80s when I was a youngster only gay people came out as gay. Honestly, I see a lot of teenyboppers trend surfing on this issue.
Harrumph.” (Rocks chair back and forth, unwraps hard candy.)
@PennyLane – LMFAO!
I call it the “special snowflake symdrom”, or the “look at me, I’m special symdrom”.
It’s the Tumblr generation putting labels on everything and specially things that don’t need label.
She doesn’t need to label herself, she’s 14 years old.
Now, every young starlet declares herself bi or queer, it sadly looks more like a new trend than a real understanding of sexuality.
+1. That’s the side-effect of living in the social media bubble.
Yep.
Ha. I didn’t scroll down enough before I commented. Special snowflake indeed.
+4
She’s starting to remind me of Halsey; a musician of sorts that has been christened “tumblr come to life”. This just seems like an attention grab without really understanding what the term means.
“I don’t believe in labels, so I’m going to label myself.” …
I have a hard time with self-referential definitions like queer (“queer means anyone who identifies as queer”). I want to understand and I want to be educated, but it’s so hard when the definition mutates every 30 seconds and the previous ideology/definition is now offensive.
I doubt anyone can be educated about gender and sexuality by reading a forteen years old interview, no matter how smart the fourteen years old is.
Other 14 year olds can and probably will. And in the larger picture, knowing how something is utilized in the real world is an important part of being educated about something.
Yeah….I’d add that the idea that queer= “anyone who feels somehow outside of the societal norms in regards to gender or sexuality” is actually a controversial view.
Many people who belong to the LGBT community are not happy to see straight people calling themselves queer because they, say, practice BDSM or have some other outre sexual kink, are polyamorous, identify as “demisexual”,”sapiosexual” or some other tumblr-derived sexuality, etc.
And many of us find it disrespectful and inappropriate for straight people to adopt words like “queer” – reclaimed slurs with long histories of violence against same-sex attracted individuals – when they themselves have no same-sex attractions just because their heterosexuality manifests itself in a way that is just too hip and unique to be called “straight”.
This ^^^
Agree
So you’d see it as analagous to cultural appropriation? Ok. I get that.
+1000
Agreed, Dana.
She said she’s only been attracted to boys so far, but would be open to liking people of any gender in the future. That may mean that later on she might be with someone who isn’t a male or doesn’t identify as a man. Some people feel that they should only identify as heterosexual or gay if they’re sure they’ll only be with or be attracted to one sex and one gender.
Thank you Dana, this is perfect.
Totally agree with this. I’m pretty hard to offend, but I’m mildly offended by straight people calling themselves queer because they ‘might’ have a same sex relationship, even though they’ve never been sexually attracted to someone of the same sex.
No. Just no. I’ve never liked the term ‘queer’, but let LGBT people have it. God knows the community has earned the right to take it back. Don’t need hetero people co-opting it.
@Otaku Fairy
Then she needs to sit back down and wait until she DOES experience some kind of same sex attraction before she declares herself queer. Nobody asked her about her sexuality. Nobody has been calling her gay or bi and thus forcing her to define her sexuality. She just decided to announce it.
If she’s worried that she’s open to a gay relationship and doesn’t want to be called ‘straight’ she could have said she was questioning, or better yet, not made any statement about her sexuality at all. It’s easy to say ‘In my life so far I’ve only liked guys but I’m open to a same sex relationship if I ever feel attracted to girls’, and far less of an issue than ‘I only like boys but I’m queer’.
This upcoming generation is a f#%king mess!!!
They’re driving me up the wall. So self righteous and precious.
Ok, a few things:
1) For people who are rolling their eyes at young people “making up labels”: This definition of queer has been around for a while. Its just been largely ignored by the mainstream. I’m glad that Rowan and her peers are looking into race, queer and feminist theory. I would really encourage anyone who didn’t realize this was the definition of ‘queer’ to look into queer theory.
2) For people who are saying she’s too young to identify the way she does, I knew I was attracted to both sexes at 14, and who are no idea how hard it has been to keep that part of me quiet out of the fear of making people uncomfortable or being rejected or having people react with disgust. I also would like to point out that people had no problem with assuming I was straight at that age, and no problem with me having crushes on boys or even relationships with them. There are a lot of 14 year old boys and girls who now feel less alone because Rowan came out.
I don’t know about the label, so I can’t speak to that.
I will however speak on your second point. You need to scroll up and read what people said again. Nowhere in this comment section did anyone say she was too young to know her sexuality. If she knows who she is at 14 then that’s commendable. I’m sure it’s still a process for her and something she should be sharing with her family and friends. Writing Open letters to the media about your sexuality at 14 is looking for people outside of your intimate circle of family and friends to talk about your sexuality. The public should not be talking about a 14 year old child’s sexuality. Her motive could have been genuine but to me it came across as a bit attention seeking. Maybe it was her management or handlers who were seeking the wrong kind of attention for her. I don’t know.
Thank you, but I did read the comments and I read them again, and I think my point still stands. Maybe we are referring to different comments?
Sorry but I’m feeling really cynical today.
Are girls the majority of people coming out as “queer”? Are equal numbers of teenage boys coming out as queer, because I have not seen this. Apologies again if I’m being too cynical, but I’m getting some serious ” I’m a cool girl!” vibes on this one. I don’t see boys doing this in equal numbers at all, and if we really are living in such a brave new world, shouldn’t we be seeing that too?
Maybe the problem isn’t that she’s a ‘cool girl’ (something that, once again, can never be said about a guy), but that society is a little bit more rigid, aggressive, and mocking in some ways toward males who identify with anything that’s considered “feminine.” There are males and men who have identified as queer, agender, bisexual, etc., but because of ideas about masculinity, it may seem like they feel a little less comfortable identifying that way.
No, you’re right. I know too many girls who identify as bi (such as myself) and who have never hooked up with another girl, or even seen them express interest in women…Yet they’ll talk about men all day. Even when they have had the chance to hook up with girls! They don’t even seem to be attracted to girls. I love my pals but this irks me. I think some girls just want to seem “cool” to their boyfriends. I don’t understand it. Actually, yes I do. It’s the cool thing to do.
It’s true that some pretend, but the problem is that that’s one of the assumptions made whenever someone (especially who isn’t a guy) publicly identifies as anythin other than straight or gay. Also, not speaking of your friends, but some people come out before having been with someone of the same sex and try to hide the new attraction for different reasons.
As a queer woman I agree. I feel like there are two kinds of bisexuals. Those who have sexual/romantic relationships with both women and men and those who would never have a relationship with a woman and might occasionally hook up with one but are 99.9% male focused. I find the ones who are male focused to be annoying because I encounter them on dating sites and its annoying to read thru a profile of someone saying they are seeking everyone when really they are only seeking men.
Good Lord. This is a tad ridiculous.
I’m all for accepting people, no matter what their sexuality is (as long as they’re not sexualizing minors & have consent)
I’m seriously tired of these confusing terms that everyone must be “SO UNIQUE” about. I don’t care I really don’t & I doubt others who have fully accepted the LGBT community really care either. Do what you please but seriously, it’s getting too pretentious and precious for me.
“Wise beyond her years? She doesn’t seem wise to me. Calculating is more like it. I remember that write up about feminism from her a couple months back which sounded thoroughly fake.
It seems she is trying to make a career out of the social issues. Don’t like her.”
THIS COMMENT, THIS COMMENT IS SPOT ON.
I’m personally sick and tired of special snowflakes like you that don’t want to acknowledge that not everyone fits into the square box of gender and sexual binary that you exist in. Do you get pissed when scientist discover new plants and species and make up new names? How about when new words start being used and are recorded in the dictionary? You sound like an ignorant bigot who can’t stand living in an ever changing society. I’m sure you get pissed when new things are invented or there is changes on FB. stop being such a whiney special snowflake that can’t stand change and evolution.
Millions of women around the world are treated as property and are used and abused and the female celebrities in America are constantly focused on their sexuality and labels? Really? Narcissism gone wild!
That word… I don’t think you know what it means. (Don’t feel had though. A lot of people don’t.)
You can care about women being abused AND care about the LBGTQ community. Is it a symptom of narcissism for Kelly Clarkson or Mary Kate Olsen to discuss eating disorders and body image just because there are people without acess to enough food in this world? Should Michelle Obama not talk about child obesity for the same reason?
Acquired situational narcissism is common in our culture today in relation to celebrities and politicians, for example. They begin to believe they are “special”, like the other posts referencing “special snowflakes”. LOL, I love that reference. It all becomes all about them. Especially child stars, they almost do not seem to have a chance to develop normal healthy psychological centers because they are always being fawned over and looked at, and finally, they stop looking back at others.
I am a 38 year old queer who has identified as queer for 18 years of my life. I identify as queer because of my live and attraction to and my relationships to queer women, nonbinary, gender non conforming people and trans folks. It really annoys me that a 14 year old who has never liked anoyone but cisgender males is identifying as queer. Thats not how being queer looks. It’s not an “i am open to liking all genders in the future” its a who am i attracted to right now. She is wise to realize she is too young to know where her sexual preferences and identity will take her but please do not call your self queer until you actually have desire for women and other folks who don’t fit the cisgender/heterosexual mainstream. She’s co-opting my community, my culture and sexuality and struggle when she calls herself queer because she might have same sex attraction in the future. I’ve known so many young people who id’d as bi in their teens and early 20s but turned out heterosexual after actually experimenting with same sex attraction. Sexuality is complex, but my experience is that not all young people who first identify as a sexual minority end up being one thru out the rest of their lives. Some of them just experiment in their yourh and then turn out hetero. But unlike this teen they actually have a history of sexual attraction!
That eyeshadow tho…